Podcast
Weaponized Marriage
Hosted by Ryan and Kendra Hewitt · EN
Our goal with this podcast isn’t to bring to you typical “date night advice”. This podcast is for power couples who are done playing small and ready to master the chaos of family, love, business and lifestyle. We’re talking raw, unfiltered strategies to dominate in communication, sex, money, and parenting while building your kingdom in this crazy busy world. This is about becoming a dynamic force together, a partnership that doesn’t just survive but transforms into a weaponized union capable of taking on anything life throws your way.
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The Truth About TRT, Libido, and Marriage After 40
4w ago00:22:51Tap to summarizeHormone optimization, TRT, libido, marriage after 40, low testosterone, sex drive, energy, confidence, and emotional health are all connected more than most couples realize. In this episode, we talk openly about what happens when one partner starts testosterone replacement therapy or hormone optimization and begins to feel better, think clearer, want more intimacy, and show up differently in life. This conversation is for men and women in their 40s and beyond who feel tired, foggy, disconnected, low-drive, or stuck in a body and brain that no longer feels like theirs. We unpack the fears around TRT, including anger, needles, sex drive changes, stigma, long-term health concerns, and the difference between smart hormone optimization and cookie-cutter hormone clinics. We also share how testosterone affected confidence, mood, focus, business leadership, body composition, marriage dynamics, and intimacy. You’ll learn: → Why TRT is not just about getting jacked or improving libido → How low testosterone can affect mood, motivation, decision-making, and relationships → Why couples need to talk honestly before and during hormone therapy → How proper lab testing and personalized hormone management matter if you want real optimization instead of a generic plan Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kendra.hewitt/ Learn more about Dr. Ryan Hewitt by visiting the following links: Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website: https://www.drryanhewitt.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Transcribe →How Grief and Sadness Can Actually Strengthen Your Marriage
Apr 2300:44:03Tap to summarizeA couples retreat in the Dominican Republic became something much deeper than a vacation. In this episode of the Weaponized Marriage Podcast, we talk about grief in marriage, sadness in relationships, emotional vulnerability, and how real support between husband and wife can change everything. We share how a trip with other couples opened the door to hard but healing conversations about trauma, fear, dependence, emotional safety, and intimacy. If you have ever felt like you need to hold it together for your spouse, hide your pain, stay strong no matter what, or push down sadness so you can keep functioning, this conversation is for you. We unpack what happened when we stopped performing, started being honest, and let each other see the real emotions underneath the surface. From marriage struggles after injury, to childhood wounds, fear of loss, grief processing, and learning how to support your spouse without taking their emotions personally, this episode is a raw look at what it means to grow together through hard seasons. If you want a stronger marriage, deeper intimacy, better emotional connection, and a healthier way to handle grief and sadness as a couple, this episode will help you feel seen. We share: → What the Dominican Republic couples retreat taught us about rest, emotional healing, and marriage communication. → How unprocessed sadness can block joy and happiness, why grief is not always about death, how childhood trauma and family patterns show up inside marriage, and what it looks like to hold space for your spouse without becoming defensive. → The difference between being emotional and being emotionally available, how men and women often protect each other by hiding pain, and why receiving help can be just as important as giving it. Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kendra.hewitt/ Learn more about Dr. Ryan Hewitt by visiting the following links:Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website: https://www.drryanhewitt.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Transcribe →Why Your Wife Feels Disconnected in Marriage (And What Fixes It)
Apr 300:34:17Tap to summarizeWhen your marriage feels emotionally distant, the problem is not always conflict, lack of love, or even lack of effort. Sometimes the real issue is that one person is constantly giving while the other is constantly producing, and neither realizes how far apart they have drifted. In this episode of the Weaponized Marriage Podcast, we talk openly about injury recovery, caregiving, resentment, emotional intimacy, marriage patterns, and what actually helps couples reconnect. If you have ever felt unseen in your relationship, if your wife feels disconnected, or if you are trying to rebuild connection in marriage, this conversation will hit home. We unpack how a broken ankle unexpectedly revealed deeper truths about partnership, support, receiving, and why small consistent investments in your spouse can create massive change over time. This episode is for husbands who want a better marriage, wives who feel emotionally exhausted, and couples who know something feels off but cannot quite name it. If you want to improve communication, strengthen emotional connection, and understand what real prioritization looks like in marriage, this episode gives you a raw, honest look at what that process can actually sound like in real life. You’ll Learn: → Why many wives slowly become emotionally disconnected even when they still love their partner. → How prioritizing your spouse can reduce resentment and restore emotional intimacy. → Why receiving support can feel just as hard as giving it. → How relationship patterns formed over years can be healed, rewired, and rebuilt into a stronger marriage dynamic. Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kendra.hewitt/ Learn more about Dr. Ryan Hewitt by visiting the following links:Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website: https://www.drryanhewitt.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Transcribe →Why Sex Felt So Hard in Our Marriage and What Changed
Mar 1900:45:08Tap to summarizeIf sex feels hard in your marriage, this episode will help you understand why. We’re talking openly about intimacy, emotional safety, ADHD, trauma, shame, trust, and what it really takes to reconnect as a couple. For years, we thought our struggles around sex were just about attraction, desire, or communication, but the deeper truth was that unresolved pain, nervous system patterns, and missing emotional safety were shaping everything. In this conversation, we share how ADHD affected intimacy, how past trauma influenced connection, and how the stories we told ourselves almost created permanent distance in our marriage. We also talk about healing after betrayal, rebuilding trust, improving communication in marriage, and why emotional intimacy changes your sex life more than most couples realize. If you’ve ever felt rejected, disconnected, avoidant, ashamed, or confused about why physical intimacy feels harder than it should, this episode is for you. This is a real conversation about marriage, trauma, sex, healing, emotional connection, and learning how to create safety, trust, and deeper intimacy in a long-term relationship. We unpack: → How ADHD can affect presence, desire, and connection during sex, especially when one partner feels pressure and the other feels unsafe. → How unprocessed trauma and sexual shame can live in the body for years, shaping marriage, communication, and intimacy without either partner fully understanding why. → How emotional safety becomes the foundation for better sex, deeper trust, and more honest conversations. → What it means to rewrite your story around sex, how couples can heal through truth and compassion, and why the example you set in your marriage will shape what your children believe about love, trust, and relationships. Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kendra.hewitt/ Learn more about Dr. Ryan Hewitt by visiting the following links:Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website: https://www.drryanhewitt.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Transcribe →From Mile High to Rock Bottom: What Crisis Reveals About Your Marriage
Mar 500:42:40Tap to summarizeWhat happens when your marriage is at its highest… and then crisis hits the next morning? In this Weaponized Marriage Podcast episode, we share the real story of going to Las Vegas for the Alex & Leila Hormozi scaling workshop, choosing to skip alcohol, having the most connected couples weekend we’ve had in years, and even doing a wild “mile high” experience together, and then coming home to a life-changing injury. Dr. Ryan slips on ice during ruck marathon training and shatters his ankle, needing urgent surgery and a total lifestyle shift overnight. The surprising part? We didn’t spiral. We didn’t fight. We made calm decisions fast. This episode is for married couples, business owners, and high-achievers who feel stuck, stressed, or emotionally reactive, and want a stronger relationship, better communication, and a calmer nervous system. We break down how “key man risk” showed up in business, how stress affects marriage, and the exact mindset tools that helped us regulate our nervous system, trust God, and stay connected under pressure. Highlights: → How to make calm, strategic decisions during an emergency instead of panicking or fighting. → Why “key person risk” in your business can quietly destroy your time, your health, and your relationship. → The backpack/allostatic load method for reducing stress, improving nervous system regulation, and making better choices as a couple. → How fun, intimacy, faith, and surrender can strengthen your marriage so it holds up when life gets chaotic. Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links: Instagram Learn more about Dr. Ryan Hewitt by visiting the following links:Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Transcribe →Emotionally Unstable vs Emotionally Available: The Key Difference
Feb 1900:51:22Tap to summarizeIf you’ve ever heard a woman say, “I just want an emotionally available man,” you’ve probably wondered what that actually means, and how you’re supposed to deliver it without turning into someone you’re not. In this Weaponized Marriage Podcast episode, Dr. Ryan and Kendra break down the real difference between emotional availability vs emotional vulnerability, and why most couples get stuck in confusion, resentment, and disconnection. The truth is: women don’t want an emotionally unstable man who vents, explodes, or needs mothering, they want a man who can access his emotions, tell the truth, and stay grounded. This conversation goes deep into emotional safety in marriage, the “iceberg” effect of relationships, why triggers show up in parenting and intimacy, and how a man’s ability to be emotionally vulnerable can completely change the emotional connection, trust, and sex in a long-term relationship. If you’re trying to build a strong marriage, become a better husband, or understand what emotional maturity looks like for men, this episode gives you language, clarity, and a path forward. Highlights: → You’ll learn the difference between emotional vulnerability and emotional instability, and why “emotional availability” often gets misinterpreted by men. → You’ll hear how marriage acts like a mirror that exposes triggers, insecurities, and old wounds, and why blaming your partner keeps you stuck. → You’ll understand how emotional safety affects intimacy and why many men miss the connection between being seen, being respected, and being desired. → You’ll also hear why men often need a strong men’s group to grow emotionally, stop reacting in anger, and become the grounded “oak tree” presence their wife and family can relax around. Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kendra.hewitt/ Learn more about Dr. Ryan Hewitt by visiting the following links:Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website: https://www.drryanhewitt.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Transcribe →3 Questions That Expose What’s Really Breaking Your Marriage
Feb 700:43:43Tap to summarizeIf your marriage feels tense, chaotic, or emotionally unsafe, it’s not a “communication problem”… it’s a leadership problem, and that’s actually good news, because leadership can be learned. In this episode of The Weaponized Marriage Podcast, Kendra and Dr. Ryan Hewitt unpack why your relationship can’t rise above your current “lid” of leadership, your emotional regulation, decisiveness, honesty, and ability to create safety at home. If you’ve been stuck in resentment, avoiding hard conversations about money, intimacy, or parenting, or you feel like you’re walking on eggshells around your spouse, this conversation will hit home. You’ll discover why emotional safety comes before clarity, how a dysregulated nervous system can poison connection, and what it means for a man to “protect the peace” (beyond making money or being physically strong). Whether you’re trying to rebuild trust, restore intimacy, stop constant arguing, or lead your family with calm confidence, this episode gives you a real framework to create a marriage that feels safe, clear, and connected again. You’ll Learn: → How leadership in marriage starts with nervous system regulation and the energy you bring into the home, not just what you do. → Why you can’t create clarity or have productive conflict when your relationship feels unsafe, and how resentment grows when one partner feels unprotected, or when the other feels unwanted. → Kendra shares a powerful “armor” and “belt of truth” metaphor for honesty without attack, and Ryan breaks down how tone, volume, and intensity can shut down emotional connection. → Finally, you’ll get the three questions to ask that expose where you’re avoiding responsibility and choosing comfort over growth, so you can raise your “lid” and lead your marriage to the next level. Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kendra.hewitt/ Learn more about Dr. Ryan Hewitt by visiting the following links: Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website: https://www.drryanhewitt.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Transcribe →2016 vs 2026: How We Rebuilt Trust After Infidelity
Jan 2300:59:28Tap to summarizeWhat do you do when your marriage hits rock bottom, after an affair, zero emotional safety, and intimacy feels dead? In this episode of the Weaponized Marriage Podcast, Kendra and Dr. Ryan share the raw truth behind their 2016 to 2026 marriage transformation, from betrayal and shutdown to rebuilding trust, emotional connection, and a stronger relationship than ever. If you’re navigating infidelity recovery, feeling disconnected, stuck in resentment, or trapped in survival mode, this conversation will help you see what’s really happening underneath the fights, the distance, and the “I don’t feel safe” moments. They unpack the hidden drivers that nearly ended everything: ego, control, anger, unmet sexual needs, intuition ignored, and sedation behaviors like overtraining, porn secrecy, distraction, and social media comparison. You’ll also hear the pivotal “wake up” moment that shifted Ryan into real leadership, and how Kendra rebuilt trust with herself, her intuition, and her femininity. If you want a marriage that feels safe, intimate, and honest again, start here. What You’ll Learn: → Why emotional safety is the gateway to real intimacy → How ignoring intuition breaks self-trust (and relationships) → The difference between conflict and reactivity/anger spirals → “Sedation” habits that keep couples stuck (work, fitness, porn, scrolling) → The leadership shift that moved Ryan from ego → grounded direction → How to transition from work mode to husband/dad mode → A practical way to start changing your inner story (mindset tools + truth-telling) Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links: Instagram Learn more about Dr. Ryan Hewitt by visiting the following links:Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Transcribe →How to Set Goals as a Couple Without Starting a Fight
Jan 800:32:54Tap to summarizeIf you’re walking into 2026 feeling like you and your spouse are co-existing instead of co-creating, this episode gives you a simple plan to change that, without overwhelm, pressure, or fake “New Year’s resolutions.” In this Weaponized Marriage podcast episode, Kendra and Dr. Ryan share the exact couples goal-setting framework they use to build a stronger marriage, deeper intimacy, and a more connected family life, even with kids, busy schedules, and real-life stress. You’ll learn how to do a marriage reset by reflecting on last year, vision-casting what you actually want next year, and reverse-engineering it into weekly rhythms that stick. They also talk about why most couples don’t plan together, how independence and money decisions can quietly create distance, and how to create more emotional and physical connection without everything turning into a task. If you want a clear marriage planning system, better communication, stronger intimacy, and a shared vision for your relationship, this episode will help you start 2026 on the same team. What You’ll Learn: → The 3-step couple planning process: Reflection → Vision Casting → Reverse Engineering → How to set marriage goals that feel exciting (not stressful) → Why couples fail with “resolutions” and what to do instead (behaviors + rhythms) → Practical examples: vacations, family routines, parenting rhythms, intimacy goals → How to talk about money as a team (without control, secrecy, or resentment) → How to build emotional intimacy when life is busy and task-heavy → Why you should write goals down + review them quarterly (and mid-year) Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links: Instagram Learn more about Dr. Ryan Hewitt by visiting the following links: Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Year-End Marriage Reset: 3 Questions to Rebuild Intimacy
Dec 1200:20:13Tap to summarizeIs your marriage stuck in survival mode as you crawl toward the end of the year? In this episode of the Weaponized Marriage Podcast, we walk through our own year-end marriage reset and the 3 questions that helped us rebuild emotional safety and intimacy. This is for married entrepreneurs and busy parents who feel like they’re always bracing for impact and want to feel connected again. What You’ll Learn: → The simple 3-question framework: what to let go of, what to rework, and what to invest in in your marriage for 2026. → How Kendra went from walking on eggshells to feeling safer sharing how she really feels. → Why Dr. Ryan’s instinct to “do more” was actually hurting intimacy, and what changed when he focused on equanimity and emotional safety instead. → The real difference between coexisting and co-creating your marriage (and how to tell which one you’re in). → A practical end-of-year exercise you can do with your spouse to talk about what’s working, what’s not, and course corrections, without it turning into a fight. → How to redefine slowing down as “letting the miracles catch up to you,” especially for high-achieving, hustle-mode couples. → Why counting your wins in marriage first changes the energy before you talk about problems or vision-casting for 2026. Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links: Instagram Learn more about Dr. Ryan Hewitt by visiting the following links: Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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