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We're Having Gay Sex
Hosted by Ashley Gavin & Studio71 · EN
After 10 years of serial monogamy, comedian Ashley Gavin, trades in her u-haul for a life of sleeping around and documents every gritty detail of her queer experiments in this podcast. Always in fear of being cancelled, Ashley is aided by her queerest friends, Kate Sisk, known as the "Cancel Coach", and the "Youth in the Soundbooth" Gara Lonning, equipped with a gen-z themed soundboard, to call Ashley out on her BS. Together they interview people from all over the gender and sexuality spectrums (from straight to gay and cis to trans) about their sex lives. And yes straight people, you will find out what lesbian sex is.
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I Made a Listener Trans (and Other Stories) | WHGS Ep. 324
1w ago00:57:39Tap to summarizeGet the full versions of all these highlights, PLUS uncut episodes, live streams, live show tickets, and MORE at https://www.patreon.com/WHGS. Ashley has just wrapped up her 2026 tour in Europe (thanks to everyone who came out to a show), so to give her a week to recover, we have decided to release a bunch of highlights from our exclusive PATREON ONLY bonus series — You’re Having Gay Sex. We react to CRAZY sex stories submitted by YOU, our listeners, and in-between, we banter about a variety of topics too strange to put on the main episodes. Enjoy this free sample of the WHGS PATREON!!! FOLLOW ASHLEY GAVIN @ashgavs TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ashgavscomedy Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashgavs/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ashgavs Twitter: https://twitter.com/ashgavs Tour Dates & Newsletter: https://www.ashleygavin.com/#dates FOLLOW LIZZY CASSIDY @lizzycassidy TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lizzycassidycomedy Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lizzycassidy/ Tour Dates & Podcasts: https://linktr.ee/lizzycassidy FOLLOW KYLIE VINCENT @kylievincentthefirst TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kylievincenthasrisen Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kylievincenthasrisen/ FOLLOW JOSH JOHNSON Tour Dates & Newsletter: https://www.joshjohnsoncomedy.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/joshjohnsoncomedy/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JoshJohnsonComedy FOLLOW JEN DAVIS @jenparkerdavis Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jenparkerdavis/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@jenparkerdavis FOLLOW ALEX VRAHAS @alvrahas Mailing List: https://forms.gle/t48AUUEYzrNagU1B9 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alvrahas/ SUPPORT OUR PODCAST: Merch: https://shop.merchcentral.com/collections/ashley-gavin Watch on this YouTube: https://youtu.be/O0sGXBdOsLU ______________________________________________ SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS: HELIX: Get 27% OFF sitewide at https://helixsleep.com/gaysex Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Transcribe →What is “Topping/Bottoming” for Lesbians? (w/ Award-Winning Writer Carmen Machado) | WHGS Ep. 323
2w ago01:12:18Tap to summarizeThis episode is all about theory, listener! Carmen Maria Machado is an author, essayist, and finalist for the National Book Award with her impressive body of work around queer identity, but today she’s in the apartment to put her genius towards solving age-old queer conundrums! We discuss topping vs. bottoming as a lesbian, what that actually entails, how it manifests in practice, and the Renaissance Faire. Ashley and Jen accidentally ask a man for a threeway. Lizzy experiences cinematic heartbreak. FOLLOW CARMEN MARIA MACHADO: Check out her books: https://linktr.ee/carmenmariamachado?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carmenmmachado/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@carmenmariamachado Website: https://carmenmariamachado.com/image FOLLOW ASHLEY GAVIN @ashgavs TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ashgavscomedy Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashgavs/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ashgavs Twitter: https://twitter.com/ashgavs Tour Dates & Newsletter: https://www.ashleygavin.com/#dates FOLLOW LIZZY CASSIDY @lizzycassidy TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lizzycassidycomedy Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lizzycassidy/ Twitter: https://x.com/lizzaster Tour Dates & Podcasts: https://linktr.ee/lizzycassidy FOLLOW JEN DAVIS @jenparkerdavis Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jenparkerdavis/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@jenparkerdavis FOLLOW ALEX VRAHAS @alvrahas Mailing List: https://forms.gle/t48AUUEYzrNagU1B9 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alvrahas/ SUPPORT OUR PODCAST: Watch this UNCUT: https://www.patreon.com/WHGS Merch: https://shop.merchcentral.com/collections/ashley-gavin Watch on this YouTube: https://youtu.be/12QVX_B1-4c ______________________________________________ SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS: HERS: Get affordable and personalized treatment at https://www.forhers.com/gay Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Transcribe →Interviewing My Girlfriend’s Little Gay Brother (Brad Davis) | WHGS Ep. 322
3w ago01:10:36Tap to summarizeThis episode is lore heavy, listener! Brad Davis is a queer musician, tech artist, and my dear girlfriend’s little brother, but today he’s in the apartment to be my little BOTTOM! In addition, for the FIRST TIME… WHGS producer and man-behind-the-camera Alex Vrahas fills in as co-host. It’s a BOYS EP as we discuss romantic flings while abroad, anticipation in sex, coming out, being a very straight-passing gay, and what it’s like to be in the shadow of your super hot sister. Ashley recounts her first time meeting the Davis family. Alex got groped at Pride. FOLLOW BRAD DAVIS: Listen to his music NOW: https://open.spotify.com/artist/2eLHhv4aVBI0ZVwiSGH6Q6 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bcd_rom/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@bcd_rom Live shows: https://www.instagram.com/nfgxcollective/ FOLLOW ASHLEY GAVIN @ashgavs TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ashgavscomedy Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashgavs/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ashgavs Twitter: https://twitter.com/ashgavs Tour Dates & Newsletter: https://www.ashleygavin.com/#dates FOLLOW ALEX VRAHAS @alvrahas Mailing List: https://forms.gle/t48AUUEYzrNagU1B9 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alvrahas/ SUPPORT OUR PODCAST: Watch this UNCUT: https://www.patreon.com/WHGS Merch: https://shop.merchcentral.com/collections/ashley-gavin Watch on this YouTube: https://youtu.be/ae8_eTpcgB4 ______________________________________________ SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS: FACTOR: Head to https://Factormeals.com/gay50off and use code gay50off to get 50 percent off and free daily greens per box, with new subscription only, while supplies last until 09/27/202 HELIX: Go to https://helixsleep.com/gaysex for 27% OFF sitewide! Exclusive for listeners of the show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Transcribe →NOAHFINNCE Had a Fivesome With Each Letter of LGBTQ | WHGS Ep. 321
4w ago01:02:46Tap to summarizeThis episode is the most inclusive, listener! NOAHFINNCE is a transgender pop-punk musician and YouTuber that’s been rocking the internet since 2015 with his incredible songs, but today he’s in the apartment to rock your BED! We discuss having a fivesome with every single person represented in “LGBTQ,” sexual dynamics when you have autism, horny fans, disabilities, and starting your career as a “My Chemical Romance” fan account. Ashley loves being the rebound. Artificial intelligence decides Lizzy is non-binary. FOLLOW NOAHFINNCE: Listen to his music NOW: https://ffm.to/guotideluxe Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/noahfinnce TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thenoahfinnce Twitter: https://x.com/noahfinnadams FOLLOW ASHLEY GAVIN @ashgavs TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ashgavscomedy Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashgavs/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ashgavs Twitter: https://twitter.com/ashgavs Tour Dates & Newsletter: https://www.ashleygavin.com/#dates FOLLOW LIZZY CASSIDY @lizzycassidy TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lizzycassidycomedy Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lizzycassidy/ Twitter: https://x.com/lizzaster Tour Dates & Podcasts: https://linktr.ee/lizzycassidy PRODUCED BY ALEX VRAHAS: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alvrahas/ SUPPORT OUR PODCAST: Watch this UNCUT: https://www.patreon.com/WHGS Merch: https://shop.merchcentral.com/collections/ashley-gavin Watch on this YouTube: https://youtu.be/f-qjP8i_HvI Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Transcribe →What is the Female Gaze? (w/ Halie Torris) | WHGS Ep. 320
Apr 2001:07:51Tap to summarizeThis episode is depicting women correctly, listener! Halie Torris is an oil painter and visual artist whose incredibly detailed work you’ve seen go viral on TikTok/IG, but today she’s in the apartment to paint YOU like one of her French girls! We discuss the female gaze, how to define it, capturing it in your work, the artistic process in the modern attention economy, and having your gay little heart get broken over the vast and infinite sea — It doesn’t get more gay than that. Ashley is combating the manosphere. Lizzy’s sex gets a little bit too wet. FOLLOW HALIE TORRIS: Buy her prints, art, and merch: https://bio.site/halietorris Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/halietorris/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@halietorris Twitter: https://x.com/halietorris FOLLOW ASHLEY GAVIN @ashgavs TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ashgavscomedy Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashgavs/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ashgavs Twitter: https://twitter.com/ashgavs Tour Dates & Newsletter: https://www.ashleygavin.com/#dates FOLLOW LIZZY CASSIDY @lizzycassidy TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lizzycassidycomedy Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lizzycassidy/ Twitter: https://x.com/lizzaster Tour Dates & Podcasts: https://linktr.ee/lizzycassidy PRODUCED BY ALEX VRAHAS: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alvrahas/ SUPPORT OUR PODCAST: Watch this UNCUT: https://www.patreon.com/WHGS Merch: https://shop.merchcentral.com/collections/ashley-gavin Watch on this YouTube: https://youtu.be/e6Ct-Vx9yO0 ______________________________________________ SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS: HELIX: Get 20% OFF sitewide at https://helixsleep.com/gaysex HERS: Get affordable, personalized treatment at https://www.forhers.com/gay Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Transcribe →When Can You Claim You’re “Gay?” (w/ Chelsea Cutler) | WHGS Ep. 319
Apr 1301:08:20Tap to summarizeThis episode is philosophizing, listener! Chelsea Cutler is a singer, songwriter, producer, and one of your favorite queer musicians with over 3 billion global streams and worldwide tours, but today she’s in the apartment to take a tour through your BODY. In addition, we have the incredible comedian Emily Wilson filling in as co-host! We discuss queer identity, when one can claim that they’re gay, the power of music, and how queerness is, like, totally a dope space. Ashley found romance through Chelsea Cutler. Emily has a crush on Ashley. FOLLOW CHELSEA CUTLER: Listen to “Sorry I’m Obsessed With You” RIGHT NOW: https://chelseacutler.lnk.to/SORRY Videos and More: https://linktr.ee/chelseacutler Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chelseacutler/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@chelseacutler Twitter: https://x.com/chelseacutler FOLLOW ASHLEY GAVIN @ashgavs TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ashgavscomedy Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashgavs/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ashgavs Twitter: https://twitter.com/ashgavs Tour Dates & Newsletter: https://www.ashleygavin.com/#dates FOLLOW EMILY WILSON @therealemilywilson See her live in Austin, TX: https://www.therealemilywilson.com/ Watch her special, “FIXED,” now: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L9LL4lM3fbk TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therealemilywilson Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therealemilywilson/ PRODUCED BY ALEX VRAHAS: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alvrahas/ SUPPORT OUR PODCAST: Watch this UNCUT: https://www.patreon.com/WHGS Merch: https://shop.merchcentral.com/collections/ashley-gavin Watch on this YouTube: https://youtu.be/MoEMTkLqzKE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Transcribe →Trying Lesbian Sex Parties at Burning Man w/ Andrea Allan | WHGS Ep. 318
Apr 601:07:35Tap to summarizeThis episode is going all in, listener! Andrea Allan is an unfathomably funny podcaster, comedian, and co-host of “Respectfully” alongside Lizzy Cassidy, but today she’s in the apartment to “respectfully” pipe you down! We discuss exploring your bisexuality in the Burning Man orgy tent, the dynamics of using a strap on, embracing the chaos of coming out, and getting diseases from butt-munching. Ashley needs sex therapy. Lizzy gets strapped down (poorly). FOLLOW ANDREA ALLAN: Listen to “Respectfully” RIGHT NOW: https://www.youtube.com/@respectfullypodcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andreacomedy69/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@andreacomedy69 Weekly Stand-Up Show: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/bitches-brew-free-comedy-stand-up-and-variety-show-tickets-172309360937 FOLLOW ASHLEY GAVIN @ashgavs TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ashgavscomedy Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashgavs/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ashgavs Twitter: https://twitter.com/ashgavs Tour Dates & Newsletter: https://www.ashleygavin.com/#dates FOLLOW LIZZY CASSIDY @lizzycassidy TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lizzycassidycomedy Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lizzycassidy/ Twitter: https://x.com/lizzaster Tour Dates & Podcasts: https://linktr.ee/lizzycassidy PRODUCED BY ALEX VRAHAS: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alvrahas/ SUPPORT OUR PODCAST: Watch this UNCUT: https://www.patreon.com/WHGS Merch: https://shop.merchcentral.com/collections/ashley-gavin Watch on this YouTube: https://youtu.be/fhaGOHz09J4 ______________________________________________ SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS: HELIX: Get 20% OFF sitewide at https://helixsleep.com/gaysex FACTOR: Use code “gay50off” for 50% OFF and FREE daily greens at https://www.factormeals.com/gay50off Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Transcribe →Franchesca Ramsey Has Achieved Pure Bisexuality | WHGS Ep. 317
Mar 3001:12:01Tap to summarizeThis episode is BI, listener! Franchesca Ramsey is an actor, comedian, writer, and producer known for her hyper-viral content and award-winning series “MTV Decoded”, but today she’s in the apartment to taste the sexual rainbow! We discuss bisexuality, polyamory, dating a man and a woman at the SAME time, coming out late in life, and encountering genital piercings so crazy that it stops sex. Ashley combats gay shame. Lizzy only dates long distance. FOLLOW FRANCHESCA RAMSEY: Listen to “Lemme Fix It!” NOW, on all platforms: https://www.youtube.com/@FixItpod Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chescaleigh/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@franchesca_leigh Threads: https://www.threads.com/@chescaleigh FOLLOW ASHLEY GAVIN @ashgavs TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ashgavscomedy Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashgavs/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ashgavs Twitter: https://twitter.com/ashgavs Tour Dates & Newsletter: https://www.ashleygavin.com/#dates FOLLOW LIZZY CASSIDY @lizzycassidy TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lizzycassidycomedy Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lizzycassidy/ Twitter: https://x.com/lizzaster Tour Dates & Podcasts: https://linktr.ee/lizzycassidy PRODUCED BY ALEX VRAHAS: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alvrahas/ SUPPORT OUR PODCAST: Watch this UNCUT: https://www.patreon.com/WHGS Merch: https://shop.merchcentral.com/collections/ashley-gavin Watch on this YouTube: https://youtu.be/_Apr0VftjVw ______________________________________________ SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS: FEELD: Try Reflections by downloading the Feeld app or visiting https://feeld.co/reflections Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Transcribe →Interviewing Eileen Myles — Legendary Lesbian Poet & “F-Boy” | WHGS Ep. 316
Mar 2301:09:08Tap to summarizeThis episode is POETIC, listener! Eileen Myles (they/them) is a celebrated poet, novelist, and journalist best known for “Chelsea Girls” and poems that queers everywhere tattoo onto their arms, but today they’re in the apartment to SEDUCE! We break format this episode to interview Eileen and learn about their career, history, and legendary love life. In-between, we discuss art, coming out, New York in the 70s, and how camp is the best place to have queer sex. Oh - and Ashley might even read one of her original poems… and BOY is it embarrassing. FOLLOW EILEEN MYLES Pre-order their upcoming book, “Bird Watching and Their First Three Books of Poetry”: https://fonografeditions.com/catalog/fono42-bird-watching-and-their-first-three-books-of-poetry-by-eileen-myles/ Read their other works: https://www.eileenmyles.com/books/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/eileen.myles/ Twitter/X: https://x.com/EileenMyles FOLLOW ASHLEY GAVIN @ashgavs TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ashgavscomedy Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashgavs/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ashgavs Twitter: https://twitter.com/ashgavs Tour Dates & Newsletter: https://www.ashleygavin.com/#dates PRODUCED BY ALEX VRAHAS: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alvrahas/ SUPPORT OUR PODCAST: Watch this UNCUT: https://www.patreon.com/WHGS Merch: https://shop.merchcentral.com/collections/ashley-gavin Watch on this YouTube: https://youtu.be/uaMwOiMNrto ______________________________________________ SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS: HELIX: Get 27% OFF sitewide at https://helixsleep.com/gaysex HERS: Get personalized, affordable plans at https://www.forhers.com/gay Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Transcribe →Sofie Hagen is Stuck in a 10-Year Dry Spell | WHGS Ep. 315
Mar 1601:08:31Tap to summarizeThis episode is DRY, listener! Sofie Hagen (Netflix, Fringe) is an award-winning Danish stand-up comedian, author, and podcaster that tours all around the world, but today they’re in the apartment for some SEX tourism because things have been dry! We discuss not having sex in 10+ years despite liking it, why that can be affected by the intersections of trauma, gender, and body image, and how you can absolutely positively FUMBLE the one opportunity to break said dry spell. Ashley gets called ugly. Lizzy prefers gay men. FOLLOW SOFIE HAGEN: See them live on her WORLD TOUR now! Get tickets at https://www.sofiehagen.com/ Listen to “Sofieland” NOW on all platforms: https://www.sofiehagen.com/sofieland Check out her books: https://www.sofiehagen.com/books Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sofiehagendk/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sofie.hagen FOLLOW ASHLEY GAVIN @ashgavs TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ashgavscomedy Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashgavs/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ashgavs Twitter: https://twitter.com/ashgavs Tour Dates & Newsletter: https://www.ashleygavin.com/#dates FOLLOW LIZZY CASSIDY @lizzycassidy TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lizzycassidycomedy Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lizzycassidy/ Twitter: https://x.com/lizzaster Tour Dates & Podcasts: https://linktr.ee/lizzycassidy PRODUCED BY ALEX VRAHAS: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alvrahas/ SUPPORT OUR PODCAST: Watch this UNCUT: https://www.patreon.com/WHGS Merch: https://shop.merchcentral.com/collections/ashley-gavin Watch on this YouTube: https://youtu.be/WbjU37TrBOo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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