Podcast Summary: We're Your Girls – Episode: "Let's Have a Kiki!"
Release Date: April 4, 2025
Host: Good Mess Media (Taryn Delaney Smith & Tiffany Singleton)
Guest: Kami Crawford

1. Welcome and Guest Introduction

The episode kicks off with hosts Taryn Delaney Smith and Tiffany Singleton reintroducing themselves to listeners, expressing their excitement about resuming their alcohol-filled conversations after a coffee-centric previous week. They introduce their special guest, Kami Crawford, a multifaceted personality known for her roles as an icon, legend, host, producer, and model based in New York.

Notable Quote:
[00:27] Tiffany Singleton: "Cause democracy's burning. It's true. We're introducing this week's guest who is an icon, a legend..."

2. Overcoming Imposter Syndrome

Kami Crawford opens up about her struggles with imposter syndrome, particularly during her luteal phases. She shares a candid moment walking to the subway, encountering fans who affirm her impact through her podcast, reinforcing her sense of purpose.

Notable Quotes:
[01:35] Kami Crawford: "Every luteal phase, I'm like, who am I? What am I doing? What's my purpose?"
[02:30] Kami Crawford: "It really isn't like, as I'm doing the work, it is when I meet the people who are paying attention. That's when I know that I'm doing a good job."

3. Navigating the Influencer Industry and Avoiding Getting Played

Tiffany Singleton recounts her early experiences in the influencer space, highlighting how she was naïve and often taken advantage of by brands. She emphasizes the importance of having management to navigate contracts and ensure fair compensation.

Notable Quotes:
[07:04] Tiffany Singleton: "I thought, I'm gonna be rich. I thought, I'm buying a house."
[10:43] Tiffany Singleton: "The first thing she did is I signed with her and she got me out of that contract."

4. Relationships: Monogamy vs. Polyamory

A significant portion of the episode delves into the complexities of modern relationships. The hosts and Kami discuss the nuances between monogamy and polyamory, sharing personal anecdotes and debating the merits and challenges of each. They explore how relationship dynamics evolve from one's 20s to 30s, emphasizing the importance of clear communication and mutual respect.

Notable Quotes:
[34:53] Tiffany Singleton: "What if you. Because I'd be at dinner and I'd counter it and be like..."
[36:17] Kami Crawford: "I am a serial monogamist. And I am."

5. The Challenge of Over-Apologizing Among Women

Kami and the hosts address the gendered tendency to over-apologize, especially in professional settings. They discuss how this habit can undermine one's confidence and assertiveness, offering strategies to reduce unnecessary apologies and foster self-assured communication.

Notable Quotes:
[17:15] Kami Crawford: "We have this tendency to feel like... we're lucky to just be there."
[16:25] Taryn Delaney Smith: "But I learned something in business, which is interesting. People have taken my sorrys as I'm inadequate in some capacity."

6. Courting and Dating in Your 30s

Kami shares her intentional approach to courting and building a meaningful relationship in her 30s. She contrasts her experience with traditional dating norms, highlighting the significance of aligning life goals and mutual support. The discussion includes humorous anecdotes about first dates, setting boundaries, and the importance of intentionality in relationships.

Notable Quotes:
[50:10] Kami Crawford: "Coffee is not a date. I could get coffee with anyone. I could get coffee with my dog."
[57:30] Taryn Delaney Smith: "We were all goofing around at the same damn time."

7. Beauty Standards and Social Media Impact

The conversation shifts to the detrimental effects of social media on self-image and beauty standards. Kami and the hosts reflect on their personal battles with body image, exacerbated by constant exposure to curated online personas. They advocate for self-acceptance and challenge societal expectations, encouraging listeners to prioritize mental and emotional well-being over unrealistic beauty ideals.

Notable Quotes:
[68:01] Tiffany Singleton: "Every night that you go to sleep, you're a step away from being as hot as you could be."
[72:10] Kami Crawford: "If we were ever to be in partnership, just be yourself without obsessing over looks."

8. Conclusion and Final Remarks

As the episode winds down, the hosts and Kami recap their discussions, reiterating the importance of authenticity, intentional relationships, and self-love. They promote upcoming segments, including a smut book club featuring "Quicksilver" by Cali Hart, and encourage listeners to engage with their content across various platforms.

Notable Quotes:
[80:15] Tiffany Singleton: "Love my body...Thanks again to our partners at Soapbox."
[81:10] Tiffany Singleton: "You can also visit Soapbox Co and use code 'We're Your Girls' at checkout for 30% off your order."

Key Takeaways:

• Imposter Syndrome: Even successful individuals like Kami Crawford experience self-doubt, but recognition from genuine supporters can reinforce their sense of achievement.
• Influencer Industry Challenges: Navigating brand deals requires vigilance and often the support of management to avoid unfair contracts.
• Modern Relationship Dynamics: Clear communication and understanding personal needs are crucial in defining relationship structures, whether monogamous or polyamorous.
• Over-Apologizing: Women are encouraged to reduce unnecessary apologies to bolster confidence and assertiveness in both personal and professional spheres.
• Social Media's Impact: The pressure to conform to beauty standards on social platforms can negatively affect self-esteem, underscoring the need for self-acceptance.

Notable Quotes with Timestamps:

• [01:35] Kami Crawford: "Every luteal phase, I'm like, who am I? What am I doing? What's my purpose?"
• [07:04] Tiffany Singleton: "I thought, I'm gonna be rich. I thought, I'm buying a house."
• [17:15] Kami Crawford: "We have this tendency to feel like... we're lucky to just be there."
• [34:53] Tiffany Singleton: "What if you. Because I'd be at dinner and I'd counter it and be like..."
• [50:10] Kami Crawford: "Coffee is not a date. I could get coffee with anyone. I could get coffee with my dog."
• [68:01] Tiffany Singleton: "Every night that you go to sleep, you're a step away from being as hot as you could be."

This episode of "We're Your Girls" offers a candid exploration of personal growth, relationship dynamics, and the societal pressures women face, all delivered with genuine humor and heartfelt conversation.