Spoons and Tambourine

Summary

We're Your Girls – Episode Summary

Podcast: We're Your Girls
Episode: Spoons and Tambourine
Date: November 14, 2025
Hosts: Taryn Delaney Smith (“A”) & Tiffany Singleton (“B”)

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Episode Overview

In this lively and heartfelt episode, best friends Taryn and Tiffany take their listeners on a hilarious and vulnerable journey through topics like fashion trauma, body image, the joys and triggers of shopping, sisterhood rituals, and current cultural conversations about women’s empowerment and relationships. Balancing deeply personal stories with their signature comedic flair, the duo mix confession, support, infectious laughter, and playful bits — all culminating in musical improv and mock church announcements. The tone is warm, intimate, and unapologetically real.

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Key Topics & Discussion Points

1. Fashion, Body Image, and Healing Old Wounds

[01:01–07:28]

• Taryn’s Healing Shopping Experience:

  • Taryn opens up about her lifelong discomfort with clothing and shopping, rooted in childhood memories of never fitting in and feeling self-conscious (“spending an hour with my worst enemy, which is this version of myself that’s so mean to me” – Taryn, [02:40]).
  • She describes her surprise and deep emotional response to working with a stylist at Aritzia, which turned shopping into a positive, even healing, experience:

    "It was very healing for a younger version of me that I guess I didn't know was this upset." — Taryn, [04:35]

• Fashion as Community:

  • Tiffany emphasizes sharing her fashion finds, describing shopping together as an act of friendship and empowerment:

    "It's community... it lives on in you." — Tiffany, [07:41]

• Highlight on Aritzia: Both praise the brand for its affirming environment and great customer service, making the case for fashion as a source of support rather than stress.

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2. Sisterhood Rituals, Boundaries, & Outlandish Support

[08:28–17:04]

• Funny, Intimate Stories:

  • The hosts spiral into affectionate absurdity, debating what it means to be truly close: from sharing deodorant to drinking out of each other’s cups, and even helping with more personal emergencies (like friends helping remove a tampon after a wild night out).
  • Tiffany shares the story of her friends supporting her after a seizure in Barcelona and during a Miami trip, reflecting on the practical and emotional intimacy women share in friendship.

    “…I've had two women pull tampons out of my body... That's so nice.” — Tiffany & Taryn, [15:18–15:26]

• Humorous Bits:

  • Recurring jokes about swallowing gum, nut allergies in unexpected places, and riffing on personal boundaries turn this section into a masterclass on best-friend banter.
  • Spontaneous musical improvisation (“Spoons and Tambourine” band, [20:49–21:55]) shows their theatrical chemistry and celebration of inside jokes.

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3. Travel Antics & Everyday Escapism

[16:05–20:50]

• Planning Trips Together:

  • The duo reminisce about their wild Paris adventures and excitedly plan future travel, celebrating their compatible, easygoing travel styles:

    “We still travel similarly... we're both lackadaisical enough travelers that we don't stress each other out.” — Tiffany, [19:44]

• Travel as Bonding:

  • They discuss how travel disrupts routines and deepens friendships, punctuated by hilarious misadventures and shared naps (“I love a canceled plan.” — Taryn, [20:04]).

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4. Modern Relationships, Feminism & Cultural Commentary

[23:09–33:05]

• British Vogue Article & ‘Embarrassed to Have a Boyfriend’ Discourse:

  • Taryn and Tiffany address viral online discussions about women not settling for the bare minimum in relationships, and the sense of empowerment in being single.
  • Both stress the value of choice:

    “…You can't... You have to acknowledge the widespread experiences of women everywhere. You have to acknowledge that women are feeling more and more empowered...” — Taryn, [26:23]

• Nuanced Perspectives:

  • Tiffany points out generational and cultural shifts, referencing Tracee Ellis Ross as a role model for women choosing singlehood by design (“Her life is not defined up into this point or defined from this point by whether or not she’s going to be a mom or a wife… And I love that for Tracy.” — Tiffany, [27:23–28:35])
  • Taryn reflects on having a happily single mother:

    “…I was able to say, yeah, sure, I love my husband and I found a great person. But at the same time, my mom's life, I knew that being married... was a choice I could make when I wanted to. It was not the sole driver of my ambition in life.” — Taryn, [28:55–29:39]

• Baby Fever & The Power of Choice:

  • Tiffany describes a sudden, surprising desire for motherhood after holding a friend’s baby and the joy of reflecting on possibilities:

    “…for the first time I got really excited about seeing myself maybe as a mom one day. And that was more thrilling than anything…” — Tiffany, [31:58]

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5. Improvised Musical Bit—“Spoons and Tambourine”

[33:09–34:29]

• The hosts break into a comical, heartfelt folk song celebrating freedom of choice for women (“I’m telling you, you're free to choose... Whether you're yellow, purple or green...”). Their laughter and playfulness lampoon Appalachian folk music tropes and leave both in stitches.

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6. Mock ‘Church Announcements’ & Outro

[35:23–37:27]

• Playing with the format of community church bulletins, the friends deliver lighthearted “announcements”—joking about Sister Shirley’s fish fry scandal, their long-unfinished book club, and playful thanks to their “TripAdvisor congregation.”
• The sincerity and chaos of their summary reveal the unfiltered, close-knit nature of their friendship.

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On Fashion and Vulnerability:

  "I'm spending an hour with my worst enemy, which is this version of myself that's so mean to me." — Taryn [02:40]

• On Friendship & Support:

  “Get you a Tiffany and go shopping with people that are going to make you feel good about yourself.” — Taryn [06:52]

• On Singlehood & Women’s Agency:

  “…you have to acknowledge the widespread experiences of women everywhere... if I find a man that adds to my life, then great. But I also will not settle on a man that takes away.” — Taryn [26:23]

• On the Power of Choice:

  “There's so much beauty... in the fact that you have a choice and you should always have a choice.” — Taryn [32:10]

• On Friendship Rituals:

  “I've had two women pull tampons out of my body... That's so nice.” — Tiffany & Taryn [15:18–15:26]

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Timestamps of Key Segments

| Timestamp | Topic / Moment | |:-------------:|--------------------------------------------------------------| | 01:01–07:28 | Fashion trauma, healing shopping, Aritzia experience | | 08:28–15:26 | Sharing, boundaries, sisterhood rituals, funny stories | | 16:05–20:50 | Travel planning, Paris memories, friendship compatibility | | 20:49–21:55 | “Spoons and Tambourine” folk song improv | | 23:09–29:39 | Vogue article, modern relationships, empowerment discourse | | 29:39–33:05 | Role models, baby fever, celebration of choices | | 33:09–34:29 | Musical riff: “You’re free to choose” | | 35:23–37:27 | Mock church announcements, outro |

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Tone & Takeaways

This episode epitomizes the spirit of “We're Your Girls”: honest, hilarious, vulnerable, and celebratory of imperfection and connection. Through fashion woes, cultural debates, and absurd asides, Taryn and Tiffany reaffirm that joy, support, and sisterhood thrive in both the laughter and the tears. Whether they’re riffing about nut allergies or deconstructing societal expectations, listeners feel included in the conversation, and ultimately are left with the message:
You’re free to choose—and you don’t have to do it alone.

Transcript

[A]

Cause we're your girl.

[B]

Hey. Cause I like. I do. Hey, girl.

[A]

Hi.

[B]

How you doing?

[A]

How are you? Looking beautiful today. For our viewers at home, she's wearing a plaid match. It's plaid. It's plaid.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

A fun little plaid matching two piece set with a knee high boot.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

You look so fun in New York. Thanks.

[B]

I'm going out after this, so I. I upped it from my usual.

[A]

Yeah, I just.

[B]

Something fun.

[A]

I always love everything that you wear.

[B]

Thanks.

[A]

And today's. Today's special.

[B]

Winston ate the heel of my boot. I said, oh, you bad boy. These are Stuart Weitzman. So I really wanted to chuck him across the room, but he's still. He's still here. Bless his heart. Y' all pray for your nephew because.

[A]

Someone to get Winston.

[B]

Somebody please get this dog. But for now, he is thriving in the diva dome.

[A]

In the diva dome.

[B]

But yes. No, you look fabulous. Very put together. I know you have so much to tell me. I want to hear everything, please.

[A]

We are in a. So Tiffany has been a long time. Aritzia girl. Long time Aritzia. By the way, the following that every. This is not an ad for Aritzia, but I'm going to talk about.

[B]

I've been given the same disclaimer for three months. I promise I'm not an ad.

[A]

I just really like them.

[B]

Their teams are fabulous. They deserve all the flowers that we're about to give.

[A]

Okay. Vibe. So. So Tiffany already has been on that. And so I finally went and they helped style me. And I actually just, like, got a fall wardrobe, which I have never done. And I hate shopping. Like, I hate shopping for clothes. And today was such a surprising. I'm, like, shaking. Like, I'm like, this is so. I, like, have a lot of trauma with clothing when I. And I know where it comes from. It's not a mystery. When I was growing up, I always wore the same outfits to school. I, like, always wore the same tracksuit. I was a weird kid. Like, I was a weird kid. I did not fit in, and I wasn't meant to fit in, and that's okay. But clothing was always a huge thing that made me feel very uncomfortable in my skin. I never felt like I dressed right. And even as an adult and, like, being in the entertainment industry, I. I don't know what it is about, like, clothing specifically for me. I have. It's like such a trigger. I never feel. Often when I'm at, like, red carpets, I feel like I look funny. And I know I'm a comedian. And we're funny on here. So I'm so used to making a joke about myself and that's 100% in many cases a defense mechanism. But like, I being in New York City, in the entertainment industry so often, even just walking down the street, I'm just. I feel like, I think I'm really critical of myself and I often just feel like I'm like, I don't look the part and then I'll go to a nice event or something and I'm like, I don't look like I belong here. I look stupid. And this is this voice in my head that I've had since I was a kid. So shopping is not fun for me because I'm spending an hour with my worst enemy, which is this version of myself that's so mean to me. And. And so I often just order stuff online and then I don't like most of it because I ordered it online and I didn't see it on. So if you're listening to this and you are also somebody who hates shopping finds it to be this experience that is just not fun because it makes you not feel good about yourself. I know exactly how you feel. I know how it feels to be uncomfortable in your own skin. And so today was really fun. I. I'm really happy. I worked with a professional stylist today who made me feel really good about myself.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

And it was. I've never had fun shopping ever. Like, never. Even when I was competing for Miss America. And I remember you're supposed to go, like, picking out your Miss America gown is supposed to be such a fun experience. And it was fun. But I remember you. I'm going in with so much baggage, like so much emotional. Yeah. It's like the stress to look beautiful is like, boo, tomato. Fuck it. But also like, you deserve to look beautiful and feel beautiful. So I don't know. This is a lot of word vomit.

[B]

But no, girl, I had a really.

[A]

Positive shopping day and it was very. I'm like so emotional about it.

[B]

I was too.

[A]

Very healing for. Oh, my God, bro, we gotta get outta here. The light, the light.

[B]

Oh, no. Keep going.

[A]

It was like very healing for like a younger version of me that I guess I didn't know was this upset.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

You know, sometimes it takes you being confronted with it to be like, whoa, I'm obviously like really emotional about this. Like, there's like a 10 year old in me all the time that's afraid people are going to laugh at her so she makes a joke first. Or like or she puts on a pair of pants or a shirt and you think, I look in the mirror and I'm like, whatever, it's fine. Like, I'm a comedian. I don't have to look good, so who cares? But there's a 10 year old in you that's like, oh, I wanna look pretty too.

[B]

Of course.

[A]

I wanna feel good about myself.

[B]

Yes.

[A]

So anyways, I just feel very lucky. And also I recognize that I'm very privileged that I'm able to afford to go shopping and buy nice clothes. Like, there's other versions of myself too, that I wanna give grace to. Cause I, like, literally didn't have the money to do that. So I think in terms of the.

[B]

Hierarchy of needs, fashion falls so low.

[A]

It does. Yeah. And so I guess this was a great therapy session. Thanks. I think I just. It's full circle. I'm like, I'm going to give grace to that version of myself. And then also I'm excited to not be so verklempt about clothing. I want to like, and I want. I really want to go out of my way to. To make it fun for myself.

[B]

It is fun. It's. It's so fun.

[A]

You have made it really fun for me. I. When we went shopping and you made me get that pair of heels, you were like, girl, get. I'm going to say they were Lou batons.

[B]

They work.

[A]

They were L Baton.

[B]

They work.

[A]

I picked them up, I look, turned them over, I put them back and.

[B]

I said, pick those back up.

[A]

I said, oh, they got the red. Let me just.

[B]

Such a shopping girl's dream too, because they were in her size in the sales section at Bergdorf. You can't make this up. You don't find that everywhere. You can't. I got tongue tied just saying it because it's so fucking exciting. I said, if you don't get them damn shoes, I will kill you.

[A]

Yeah. And that's. And I remember we're standing in Bergdorf and I was like, well, I guess I just got. I put them on and I walked in a circle and I went, oh, wow.

[B]

And it was Cinderella. They were perfect.

[A]

And I know Tiffany was like, you've got to do it. And so I went, and I have worn those a million times.

[B]

A solid investment.

[A]

You were completely solid investment. So get you a Tiffany and go shopping with people that are going to make you feel good about yourself. That's what I have to say. Hey, thanks, Arizia, for giving me such a nice shopping experience.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Customer service was 10 out of 10.

[B]

And that's their mission, is to uplift and support women. And they do that, like, without even thinking. It seems like I had the same experience and was just like, y' all are really just out here. You don't even know what you're doing. For people, probably. Like, I'm sure they're aware of what this means to people. But to leave a shopping experience emotional.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Is unheard of. And they do it time and time and time again. It really is incredible. Like, I love them ladies down.

[A]

And you're. I mean, you're also so gifted in fashion. And, like, I go shopping out of Tiffany. You see me at a nice event, and you think, wow, that's an interesting choice on her. Like, it looks so good. It's because Tiffany picked it and owns it. And, like, that's what clothing is.

[B]

It's community. Like, it's not. It's not fun for me to have it just sit on the rack because I only got one body, so it helps.

[A]

I don't know why. The way you said it.

[B]

It lives on in you. Like, I'm like, yes, please wear it.

[A]

It lives in you.

[B]

Passing away my spirit.

[A]

It lives on in this pair of shoes.

[B]

In my will, I am writing that you will get the closet in the will.

[A]

Careful.

[B]

Give it to.

[A]

But it's on tape. So when your daughter comes for me and she's like, you're too old to even wear that.

[B]

It doesn't matter.

[A]

I'll be 85 in a tube top. I'm like, shut up, bitch.

[B]

In a sequence. Your mom loved me more. I am writing it in the will. It's all yours.

[A]

I'm in a chewed up Stuart Weissman boot.

[B]

Winston's boot. I don't think she.

[A]

Pooch.

[B]

It's done. They're all yours. I'm so happy this happened for you today.

[A]

I didn't expect to cry about that, but it's emotional. I guess we're just here.

[B]

You're here. This is what we're here for. This is our show. We get to cry on the show if you want. You have good times. I hope the mic caught that. I don't want to have to swallow my gum, but it's in here.

[A]

I don't mind.

[B]

No, trace. I'm not putting it in your hand.

[A]

I knew you were gonna do that.

[B]

I'm gonna swallow it.

[A]

Here we go.

[B]

No, no, no, no.

[A]

It'll be in your system.

[B]

It's gone. I did it. I did it. I did it.

[A]

You just swallowed your gum. I did. Tiffany, that Was not necessary.

[B]

It's going down slow. It hurts a little bit in your.

[A]

Tract for the next 26 years. I have this original.

[B]

I'll take some coffee.

[A]

It's a latte.

[B]

It's got real milk in it.

[A]

Real milk in it.

[B]

Titty milk. It's okay.

[A]

Titty milk.

[B]

Do you mind if I get my lip gloss on?

[A]

I don't mind.

[B]

Ooh, it smells good. Is it vanilla?

[A]

Yes.

[B]

No. This is perfect, Trace. That's all I needed. A little bit of nudge. No, I don't want to. Open it and then give it to me. Then put it in your hand. Yes. I can't be putting my gum in people's hands.

[A]

I can't do it.

[B]

Something feels wrong about it. I don't know why.

[A]

I don't know why. It's a good old vanilla cashew peanut latte.

[B]

Ow. I laughed I proud of you the other day. Where was I?

[A]

Wait. Because Tiffany's allergic to nuts and it's not funny.

[B]

And I'm bad cause I forget to say it. So if we're at lunch, dinner, restaurant, Taryn says it before I do. Cause I'm always.

[A]

I always go, we have a nut allergy at the table. I don't.

[B]

And I'm like, oh. Oh, yes, it's me. Sorry. Where was I? I was getting a drink with someone the other night at a cute little bar, not thinking that they would have nuts. So I didn't say it. I opened the menu. Top of the menu is like, nut bar. And they have an assortment of nuts as the only food in the restaurant. I'm like, you can't make this up.

[A]

You were Superman sitting in a vat of kryptonite.

[B]

Of kryptonite.

[A]

You were a V. That's Stephen Salvatore. And he opens the menu. Vervain game.

[B]

The vervain game. I said, what the hell? I have a nut allergy. Sorry, y'.

[A]

All.

[B]

I could not.

[A]

What did you do? Did you.

[B]

Oh, I was fine, but. Because I was only drinking. But had I ordered any item on the menu? Every single thing had nuts in it.

[A]

That's crazy.

[B]

Crazy.

[A]

Why would they even invent that?

[B]

I don't even know people like me.

[A]

No one is that nut crazy.

[B]

No one's that nut crazy.

[A]

You know? You know, you're sitting there going, who? Why would we have this? And then around the corner, the owner, a squirrel dressed in a vest and a sideways fedora, is listening. And he's like, that. This was my life's work. I mean.

[B]

And they listed every nut Too. Cashew, almond, hazelnut, walnut, pistachio. I was like, good Jesus, that gum is hurting.

[A]

I don't know why you did that.

[B]

I don't know why either. I mean, I know why, but now I have some regrets. I'll be burping mints the rest of the afternoon. Spearmint Trident.

[A]

I don't know the last time I swallowed a piece of gum on the street.

[B]

Really? You're not a gum swallower?

[A]

I mean, if I really, really have to. But usually, I mean, I was on a red carpet at the opening of the Met.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

And talking to InStyle. I was like, one second, and I spit my gum into my husband's hand.

[B]

See, a husband's different.

[A]

And they thought that was so cute. They were like, ah. And Alec was like, no. And then he was like. He, like, pretended to, like, put it in his mouth. And I was like, people are gonna. That's weird.

[B]

Now we've taken it too far.

[A]

We've gotta keep our secret married behavior to our mind closed.

[B]

Him eating your gum, that's such a Nana. Mom thing to do, though, too.

[A]

Oh, yeah. Yeah. You know, so there's just certain things you do with.

[B]

With a partner.

[A]

It makes sense. Okay. I have questions for you. Okay. So are you. Because there's levels to this. Like, are you someone who would share your deodorant?

[B]

Yes, but that's a new thing. But now I'm at the point where I would do it. Because you can, like, wipe the top off if you need.

[A]

Sure.

[B]

Yeah. I share deodorant. I will share cup.

[A]

I would share a cup, too. Were you always like that or. That's new. You wouldn't.

[B]

I was okay with cups, but I had friends growing up.

[A]

Or.

[B]

Yeah, friends growing up that were like, my mom said, I can't, and so they wouldn't. And to this day, they do not drink after other people. Well, what's really funny, not even a partner.

[A]

I want to say that if I were to say, oh, try my cocktail, like, we're at a cocktail. And you go, oh, no, it's fine. I. I want to say that I'm mature enough to go, oh, that's your choice. But there is a part of me that would be like, why? You think I'm a fucking disgusting, stinky, old, nasty old dog. Why do you want to share a cup with me?

[B]

So then, even if you don't want to share it with the person you feel like you have to. So you're not an asshole. Yeah, I've been in that position too.

[A]

For me, it's almost a icebreaker social thing. Like, if I meet someone, we've known each other maybe an hour or two.

[B]

And I go, oh, try my dream. Would you like to try my coffee?

[A]

To me, it's the ultimate, like, I want you to know I'm fucking cool. I'm cool. I am the most boundaryless chill in the room.

[B]

The way that is you, though out of this, you do perpetuate that. But it works because love you.

[A]

Oh, the might.

[B]

They really do.

[A]

I just like people to feel really comfortable. I mean, that's like. I want people to feel really comfortable around me. Yeah. My problem is when I know someone doesn't.

[B]

Huh.

[A]

It haunts me. And I pester that bitch. And usually it makes it worse. Like, they already weren't comfortable. Whatever. I rubbed them the wrong way. And I find out. Let me catch wind that I made you uncomfortable. I'm gonna make you extra uncomfortable. Trying to make you feel comfortable again. I'll be like, oh, do you want me to just look at your vagina? I don't know.

[B]

I don't be like, I gotta go to the bathroom.

[A]

I'll come, I'll wipe for you. I just want you to know you.

[B]

That I'm really cool and nice.

[A]

That is you. I'm anything, whatever. Anything, anything, anything. I'm down for anything for the girls.

[B]

I won't say I'm the opposite, but I don't lead with it. That's the thing. But I love meeting women who are like that because I'm like, come to the bathroom with me, girl. But I won't offer it, But I'll be like, yes, you can absolutely come. I'd love that. And then we're best friends. Yeah.

[A]

I mean, yeah. It's funny though, because you've joked with me before when I'm like, oh, sorry. I don't want to be weird or gross. You're like, that's fine. But you've said before, though, that you're not necessarily, like, naturally that way.

[B]

I'm not. But when I stop thinking about it, I am like, Tati and I, our mutual friend Tati. Tati and I lived together for two years, and I was consistently butt naked in our house constantly. Like, never had on clothes. I love that. Tampon strings swinging, walking around like, that's actually crazy of me to say out loud, but it was true.

[A]

Who cares?

[B]

Never bothered Tati one bit. So when she comes to my house now, now I live in the diva dome by myself, and I'm like, oh, sorry, I'll put on a robe and I'll, like, put on my clothes. When she's here, she's like, I've literally seen every state of undress you have imaginable. Like, she's pulled tampons out of me. Now that we're saying it, like, wait, what situation required? It was this post seizure maybe.

[A]

Oh, after we came back from.

[B]

I had a seizure in Barcelona. I went to go see Beyonce the next day. I nearly died.

[A]

It was a really.

[B]

Tatu was there. It was crazy. But afterwards, what a friend that she.

[A]

Also was like, wait, we don't want toxic shock syndrome on top of this. Pull it out.

[B]

That happened recently, actually.

[A]

Love you, Tati.

[B]

I got really drunk one night out on the girls trip to Miami this summer, and they did that too. I've had two women pull tampons out of my body.

[A]

That's so nice.

[B]

I know.

[A]

I didn't hear about this really drunk night in Miami.

[B]

I needed it. That was. I was like. I had.

[A]

Why didn't you tell me that? I bet there was a story and I missed it.

[B]

There was no story. I think it was just the first night out. I never get to have the first.

[A]

Chef because I'm married at my house.

[B]

And now it's okay. I really want to do their.

[A]

Everybody else is having fun. Tampons getting pulled out. I'm just at my stupid house staring at a man.

[B]

Well, that's okay. Cause we're planning a trip. My girl is still right here.

[A]

You mean I was like, to Miami? I don't think I'm gonna.

[B]

We won't come back as friends. It's the land of the lost friendship.

[A]

No, but you and me, we wanna go on a trip.

[B]

We're going on a trip. You're right.

[A]

We are gonna go on a little trip.

[B]

And this works because we're partnering with TripAdvisor again.

[A]

Something small.

[B]

Something light.

[A]

Something light.

[B]

Nothing crazy.

[A]

Nothing big. Where will we go? Paris. Where we always go.

[B]

Where we go.

[A]

It's giving Paris in springtime. Actually, our friends at TripAdvisor just launched a whole new rewards program, so we can do a little international frolic if we want to.

[B]

Be great, period. It's giving Paris in fall time. And it says here that we can earn trip cash for sharing, planning, and booking through the TripAdvisor app.

[A]

Oh, my gosh.

[B]

Crazy.

[A]

And we can book that same hotel we booked last time by the Eiffel Tower.

[B]

You're right. I have got to get my outfits together.

[A]

And apparently, so do I.

[B]

You're Ready?

[A]

I'm ready.

[B]

Look at this. So cute. Paris vintage private city tour on a sidecar motorcycle. I couldn't even say it.

[A]

I'm so excited.

[B]

Could you imagine what did that remind me of? Lies in my. Tracy Morgan, you a superstar. You so small on a song called I could see us doing this. We need matching goggles and neck scarves.

[A]

Why would that be the funniest thing in the world?

[B]

It would be hysterical.

[A]

Do you remember the last time we were in Paris and we were on that guy's bike thing? We were riding on the back of his bike and I got somehow swindled at a 90 year old.

[B]

90 year.

[A]

And he took us to block and at the end he was like, okay, I sold it for you. And I was like, oh.

[B]

And we almost died. I do remember there was like a collision. It was great.

[A]

So next time we're gonna plan through the TripAdvisor app. Instead of having Calamity on our own volition, we're actually going to trust the TripAdvisor app and have us give us some. Some professional experience.

[B]

Yeah. Let me see, what else?

[A]

Instead of that one guy on the back of his bike who did not have a license, you know, he was riding dirty. He was risking all of our lives.

[B]

Everybody was at risk.

[A]

He did not care.

[B]

Ooh, girl. They got wine tastings, tapas and tours and.

[A]

Ooh, wine tasting sounds really fun.

[B]

We haven't done that. We should do a little wine tasting.

[A]

No, wine tasting sounds really fun.

[B]

No, we actually have to do that.

[A]

There's so many experiences. Okay. It's going to be great. And one day, eventually, we will go somewhere other than bring together. We have got to find a new place.

[B]

I really love Frank, so. I know you do too, obviously. Yeah. Well, maybe we don't. I don't think we need to. Hell, we like what we like. We like what we like.

[A]

And it's only. It's a quick flight.

[B]

It's a quick flight. Something small, something light. The gag is we're the same way here. We live in New York City, for God's sakes, and frequent the same six places over the past five.

[A]

And that's where TripAdvisor comes in. Because it's gonna give us ideas to do different experiences than usual.

[B]

We'll try new things. We'll have a good time.

[A]

Well, that's perfect. Let's book that one in the app. I'm so excited to plan this trip, period.

[B]

It's gonna happen, period. We have to get a little date. And for you guys at home. You can get in on this fun, too, that we're having here.

[A]

Did you know that you get $30 just for signing up? Sign up at the TripAdvisor app. Get your $30 towards an experience, and let us know in the comments where you're going.

[B]

Start earning trip cash today. Save up for your trips, baby. You got places to go, so it.

[A]

Makes a ton of sense.

[B]

Look at God.

[A]

Head to the TripAdvisor app. Do that.

[B]

Do that.

[A]

All right, I'm back to the episode. We just wanted to let you guys.

[B]

Know about that because we can't be sitting on these deals and y' all at home not sitting on them too.

[A]

Can't wait. I love traveling with you. I feel like we travel similarly.

[B]

We do. We still travel similarly, but we do. I think we're both lackadaisical enough travelers that we don't stress each other out ever.

[A]

Because.

[B]

And if.

[A]

And if you're like, oh, girl, we're gonna be. We're not gonna make it to the next thing. It's not like, no, no, the coin collection museum. You just.

[B]

We just go, okay, well, we ain't gonna make it. I love a canceled plan.

[A]

I hate to. Me too. Remember when we were in Paris and we ended up, like, sleeping? We ended up having a six hour nap opposite. That's crazy.

[B]

Yeah, and I wasn't budging.

[A]

We wake up, it's dusk, and all you hear is me, me, me, me, me, me. I'm gonna cold sweat. Oh, Mimi. Mimi. That's what's going on outside the hotel. If you guys.

[B]

Is that the ambulance?

[A]

That's what they sound like. There's a lone accordion somewhere.

[B]

We should learn. That's what we should do. Like an accordion playing class or something like that. That would be so fun.

[A]

I gotta order a set of spoons. I keep meaning to buy some spoons in a tambourine to put in my purse when we go to the club. Oh, my God.

[B]

We've got to get ourselves together. Start the band and start the band, our band. Spoons and tambourines and we'll find an.

[A]

Accord Tambourines all of our songs are extraordinarily quiet and simple.

[B]

Two notes.

[A]

That's it. I'm going down, right. Why are we from Appalachia? I'm coming around the mountain I'm coming from and everybody knows that it's me and Tiffany we got our spoon and our dur they will pay to hear a thing on the scene hey, coins in my hat and I've got spurs on my Feet. What's become very sad. My father died in the mines before he could tell me he loves me. And it's tired and it's fine and it's. The sun is high.

[B]

I can't keep.

[A]

Where are the spoons? In the dam. I love him. Whoever he is, I love him.

[B]

Have you ever seen the movie Hoodwinked?

[A]

Yes.

[B]

He sounds like the billy goat that had the glasses and the banjo.

[A]

Fair spoons in the tambourine. I know the listeners at home. You're headed to work. You're trying to have. And you're like, what am I listening to?

[B]

What's wrong with them? We don't know.

[A]

Hell, let's have some conversation of some substance.

[B]

Something. What's going on? What's new?

[A]

How's your stocks doing?

[B]

I don't know. But I do have. I hope. Well, me neither. But I need to get me to watch.

[A]

But I need to buy.

[B]

I know that much. Yeah.

[A]

I don't know.

[B]

I've recently got into the stocks, but I don't know.

[A]

Recently got into the stocks. I'm happy for you. I'm very proud of you.

[B]

I'm with Northwestern Mutual. Was just telling Shoshana earlier. Got a financial planner now. It's really exciting.

[A]

That's so great.

[B]

Money's in the market. Whatever that means.

[A]

Market. Like a year or two ago.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Never check back. Don't even know if it's still there.

[B]

Nope. Where's the market?

[A]

Where is it? Who's in charge of it?

[B]

We need to go look at the market. Maybe they got tea and things.

[A]

We gotta go and take a peek, see where the money's at.

[B]

See where the money's at.

[A]

That clip. We released a clip last week and when this comes out, even longer. Maybe two weeks ago, we released a clip talking about the yearning thing. And it's. I put on. The comments are so funny. People reacting to hysterical. And it was. We didn't mean to do this because when we shot it, this article hadn't come out yet. Yeah, but it's coming off. It came out on the heels of British Vogue doing an article on how it's embarrassing to have a boyfriend now.

[B]

Yes.

[A]

And I honestly. It made me chuckle that it's all kind of converging at once, all at once. And I think the. The ongoing narrative I'm seeing online is just like that. Men can't do the bare minimum anymore. Women. This is what it comes down to. Women. No. You no longer need a man to open a bank account for you. Women are the most educated People in America at the moment.

[B]

And to be more specific, black women.

[A]

It's great. And I think it's a. I actually think it's a really interesting conversation. And it's funny because as a married person, I have seen some people in the comments that are like, but I love my husband. I love my boyfriend.

[B]

Ain't nobody talking to you.

[A]

And. And as a married person, what I can say is, nobody's talking to you. No one's talking to me in this specific scenario, like, you guys. It's time to normalize. When there's a conversation. When there's a conversation happening that does not pertain to you, and people are really. It's resonating with them for whatever reason. Maybe you don't need to jump in.

[B]

Tiffany's crashing out, as Taryn says this, because I could not agree more.

[A]

Like, maybe we don't need to jump in. I still think that this is a really great conversation. I think it's really important.

[B]

It is.

[A]

I want. And I'm thinking of, yes, I. I chose to be married, and I have a great partner who's a feminist, by the way.

[B]

Right on, right on.

[A]

But, like, if I have a daughter, I would totally want my daughter to be able to live in a world and be like, you know, I don't want to accept the bare minimum, and I would rather be single than unhappy.

[B]

Yeah. Amen to that.

[A]

Great.

[B]

We love that for the divas.

[A]

Awesome period.

[B]

There's so much discourse about this article in all of my friend groups is bananas because most of them resoundingly were all single girls. I think I have maybe two. No, I think I have one married friend and an engaged friend. So otherwise, all of my girlfriends are single. But it's funny, within the discourse, there are the girls who are like, no, I just think that's such a take to, you know, say that it's embarrassing to be in a relationship. And then, of course, there are the women like me who are like, fuck a man with grace, obviously, but it is. I still don't know why. Why this conversation in particular is so inflammatory for women, whether or not you really agree with it or whether you really don't really don't. The woman who wrote the article, she's a black woman. And this article was syndicated across nearly every Vogue syndicate there is. So US Vogue, British, Tyler, Japan, Russia, like any Vogue there is has pretty much picked this one up. So it's been interesting to see her POV because she's getting heralded while also being attacked on the Internet. Also Women across the world are having this conversation and resoundingly though, what's interesting, women are saying, yeah, I kind of do vibe with not having a man right now. Yeah. And I don't know, there's just something about it that I.

[A]

But it's not to say that if you want to be married or in partnership or you are happily married or in partnership, that's how I feel. I can acknowledge across the board that it's like if you are happily in a relationship or you're very much. That hasn't been your experience with men for whatever reason and you're like, I really disagree with this take, oh my God, well then that is so great. Continue on that path. Yeah, but you can't. You have to acknowledge the widespread experiences of women everywhere. You have to acknowledge that women are feeling more and more empowered to come out, come forward and say, you know, I really love my life and I love who I am and I, if I find a man that adds to my life, then great. But I also will not settle on a man that takes away, you know.

[B]

Who'S famous for saying, this is Tracee Ellis Ross. We love that lady.

[A]

Damn, we do.

[B]

She's like the queen of this notion because she's in her 50s and she grew up in a big family with a very hands on and supportive mom and a great hands on supportive father, tons of siblings who all in some degree have children and spouses. And she's consistently been the fun single aunt and she's now in her 50s and, and out of, well, not out of the blue. We know why societally, a woman in her 50s is an easy target for people to ask these questions of. But now resoundingly, she gets the questions of why are you still single and do you want a man and do you want kids and all that? And she's like, yes. But the bigger question that we should be asking is not that like, that is inconsequential in comparison to one, everything that I've done in my life and two, I'm 50. If I wanted, I could still get it. Like, her life is not defined up into this point or defined from this point by whether or not she's going to be a mom or a wife. Sure, she's consistently quoted saying she will do it when or if the time is right. But there's no, like, her life is not she. Her large life upset will not be. I was never a wife if the circumstances aren't right for her to become a wife. Yes, that was so healing for me to Hear I said, oh, Jesus, she's right. And I love that for Tracy.

[A]

And yeah, I think that I'm coming from a place of. My mom has never. Throughout my lifetime, I've never seen my mom married my whole life. Yeah. My mom is one of the most successful, happy, content, cool down, rock and roll divas that I know.

[B]

Okay. Rock and roll divas.

[A]

She's a full life. It's interesting, filled with interesting people and she does what she wants and she has a great time. And I've never ever seen my mom lament. She's never cried or shed a tear. Oh. About a man. For me, that was very empowering. And for no reason did I ever feel like I shouldn't or get married to my husband who I adore and who my mom adores. Both things were able to be true at once. I was able to say, yeah, sure, I love my husband and I found a great person. But at the same time, my watching my mom's life, I knew that being married and all that stuff was a choice I could make when I wanted to. It was not the sole driver of my ambition in life.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

And I'm really, for me, I'm really glad about that. I'd like to instill that in my daughter.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

I want my daughter to know if ever I have one. This is not my soft launch of a pregnancy.

[B]

People trying I'm having.

[A]

I'm gonna have a glass of wine tonight. What do you want me to say?

[B]

Drink.

[A]

If I have a daughter, I just hope that. I hope she knows that. Of course, if you meet somebody, man, woman, anybody who iRobot.

[B]

Whoever you meet.

[A]

Whoever Exron, four or five thousand, whoever you meet, if they're a great partner and they add to your life. Oh my gosh. Then building with somebody can be really, really fun.

[B]

The key word if they add to your life.

[A]

If they add to your life. But also just know that, you know, you're interesting and fascinating and smart and capable and strong and there's nothing you can't do.

[B]

Yeah. Yeah. You and I were having this discussion earlier because I told you a friend of mine who is an uncle.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

His nephew, baby nephew, came into town and he's this four month old sweet, sweet, sweet little black boy that I'm just obsessed with.

[A]

Ooh, yeah.

[B]

And he was so darling. And when his family came, my friend's family came into town with his nephew. I was like, I have to go meet the baby. Done and done. So I go meet baby's mom and dad and nephew or meet Baby. And I'm having a great time holding this sweet little baby on my hip. And for the first time the baby fever hit me in a way that I literally could not explain comprehend. I'm still to this day, this was four days ago, I'm still shook. Like what just happened to me?

[A]

And knowing you as long as I've known you, that is so crazy because.

[B]

You know, Taryn knows I have been 10 toes down. Like I am, I fear chronically like a Samantha Jones. Like I am just like eh, I'm just so disinterested in, I'm interested in men up to a certain point. And then I'm like, well I could live happily without one or I could live really happily with one. Like I'm not, I'm not convinced either way though that it has to be one way or the other, you know. So this was the first time though that I was like, you know, I could get used to this way like being a mom, being a wife, having sweet little baby and it rocked my world. And it's interesting coming on the heels of this whole article and all of this discourse and all of this stuff happening in the world in the trad wife conversations and in chronic single girl conversations and just all of it, it's. It's a crazy time to be a 27 year old woman. But I think at the same time is it a very exciting time to be a 27 year old woman?

[A]

I think so too.

[B]

I'm like, I really more than ever have no idea what it is that I want. But for the first time I got really excited about seeing myself maybe as a mom one day. And that was more thrilling than anything. But maybe what's possibilities?

[A]

Well, yeah, I think that's what makes it most beautiful. If you're standing there and you're like, when you said I fear that I'm a Samantha, I might be a Samantha Jones, but also holding a baby made me think I could do this one day. Correct, Correct. There's so much beauty in that, in both, in the fact that you have a choice and you always have a choice and you should always have a choice.

[B]

And what a privilege that we get to sit here and have these conversations because scores of women obviously historically, but right now don't have that choice.

[A]

And so how beautiful that you get to be in this era, in space one day looking back, you will make the choice and it will be exactly.

[B]

What it needs to be. Right.

[A]

Like, and you are going to spend so much time, Tiffany, getting to know yourself and building your Business and building your life and. And so when you make that choice, you'll know it was the right one. Cuz you know yourself so well.

[B]

Cuz I'm taking my time.

[A]

Taking my time. It's a marathon, not a sprint.

[B]

Amen. Not a sprint. Not a sprint.

[A]

You said it.

[B]

Not a sprint.

[A]

And spoon, it's a marathon, not a sprint. She can do what what she went. She can buy or she can rent. She can do what she wants. It is the tambo and the spoons come into you. And I'm telling you, you're free to choose.

[B]

Good.

[A]

I'm telling you, you're free to choose. Whether you're yellow, purple or green. I am singing to you that you're free to choose. You are free. You and me. Every. Oh, I lost it. God damn it.

[B]

The end of the song is every. Yeah, it sounds like I. Why does it sound like you walk.

[A]

A cliff or something.

[B]

In Appalachia?

[A]

You just hear my banjo explode. That's the end of the whole demo. It haunts the world. I'm crying. I like that. In this scenario, I was singing and.

[B]

I walked off behind you hanging.

[A]

Gon gonk gonk.

[B]

Ow. I'm still at the cliff with the spoons and tambourine. Spoons are down.

[A]

Tambourine. Help.

[B]

Oh, Jesus.

[A]

Oh, my God. That's so funny.

[B]

Woo. I need a second. Woo cha. Well, that.

[A]

Occupational hazard. It's not the first time it's happened. We end up at the Appalachian fucking folk wards. And I got. I'm in full body.

[B]

I'm wheeling you out on the.

[A]

We would have. We wanted to perform. You're free to choose today, but we weren't able to for due to unprecedented circumstance.

[B]

The main one being. I can't reach my knees to play the spin.

[A]

Oh, my God, Tiffany. That bit went off the rails.

[B]

I like that.

[A]

We were having such a beautiful conversation too.

[B]

It just went crazy.

[A]

All right, are you guys ready for church announcements today? Let's do it. All right. A little bit of a different rendition. Ding, ding, ding, ding, ding, ding, ding, ding, ding, ding, ding, ding, ding, ding, ding.

[B]

Sister Shirley will not be outside this week for fish fry. It has come to our attention that she has been involved in an unfortunate scandal if. If you will, involving Sister Loretta's man. So y' all on your own for fish Fridays week? We encourage you to get together, fry some fish together, and you have a good week. It has come to our attention that the book club book is still unopened. Not by any fault of yours. God, this is our fault. It has been about nine weeks. We'll check back in. We're gonna try to have this.

[A]

We are the worst book club in America.

[B]

Horrible. We will be back next week, hopefully with the book read, so we know y' all are waiting on us. And we apologize. We will have it done as soon as we can. And lastly, we wanted to thank the brothers and sisters at the trip Advisor Church of God congregation in South Decatur, Georgia, for all their help with getting these ads off the ground. It really does mean a lot to us. We do have a church building fund going. So all this goes to making sure that everybody can meet together and have a good time every week. So thank you to the TripAdvisor Church of God congregation at Decatur, Georgia, and we'll see y' all next week. Bye. Bye.

[A]

Well, we love you. Thanks for your patience. This. We really went on a journey today. Mike cried at one point.

[B]

He did. You opened with tears. It was beautiful.

[A]

Talked about feminism.

[B]

Feminism fell off a mountain.

[A]

Wow. If you stayed with all this, oh, my God.

[B]

I forgot all about that. Yeah, well, we'll tell y' all that story another day.

[A]

We really need to love you. And remember we're your girls.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Cause we're your girls. Hey.

[B]

Cause I like how you do.

[A]

Warrior Girls is hosted and executive produced by Taryn Delaney Smith and Tiffany Singleton management by social media. Produced by good mess media. Follow us on all platforms at warriorgirlspod.