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Episode includes detailed discussion of domestic violence. It can be hard to hear, but we think it's important not to gloss over the reality of what happened to Libby Caswell and what happens to countless other victims every day. Please take care while listening.
Libby Caswell
I stayed for so many reasons, you know. I wanted that image of what I saw for us when we got married. I wanted my girls to have their dad around. I wanted, you know, our family to be okay. I just wanted us to be okay.
Lauren Hanson
Domestic violence relationships have one thing in common, an imbalance of power and control. But the behaviors used to maintain that power can take many forms. Abuse that is physical, verbal, sexual abuse can start subtly and get worse over time. There can be periods of calm or a constant state of threat. It can be difficult to recognize from the outside, but also when you're in it, whatever form it takes. Domestic violence is ubiquitous in their lifetimes. More than 1 in 3 women in the US will experience rape, physical violence, or stalking by an intimate partner in their lifetimes. About one in four women will be subjected to severe physical violence by their partner. Hit with a fist or something, hard, beaten, slammed against something. And not all of them will survive it.
Libby Caswell
Strangulation became his go to method at the end of our relationship. When I finally did get out, the only reason I left really was because I wouldn't be here today if I had stayed. He would have killed me. I'm sure of it.
Lauren Hanson
Libby Caswell endured years of domestic abuse, but we are unable to share her experience in her own words. And because we think it's important to let survivors speak for themselves, we wanted to give them a voice. In this bonus episode, our team spoke with five women who've all asked to remain anonymous. Many of the stories may sound similar to Libby's. Teenage love, drug use, strangulation. But these stories are all very different from Libby's in one key way. These women are alive to share them. So I'm going to step aside and let you hear their stories, the details they remember and the ones they wish they could forget.
Melissa Jeltson
He was controlling, but at that time, I was really young, and I kind of romanticized the control and the extreme jealousy. And in addition to that, friends and family will encourage me to believe, oh, my gosh, he loves you so much, and this is why he's doing this. You're so lucky.
Anonymous Survivor 1
He was always angry. He would punch walls or punch trees or slam doors and punch the bed to create an environment of physical intimidation, threat.
Libby Caswell
I thought, like, he. He's got a temper. He can be really mean. But it wasn't physical or was, you know, I guess emotional more so. But I didn't see it as abuse at that time.
Melissa Jeltson
All the red flags were there. I was just didn't have the capacity to understand.
Anonymous Survivor 1
When I started dating my abusive boyfriend, a lot of it started as emotional abuse, psychological abuse, verbal abuse. And I told myself, if it were to ever get physical, then I would leave. Because in my mind at the time, I thought physical violence is the worst thing that can happen to me.
Libby Caswell
The first time that he ever put his hands on me was actually right after we had our first child. And it was my first night out as a new mom.
Anonymous Survivor 1
A year and a half into our relationship, it got physical. And in that first instance where he was physically violent with me, I ran home to my parents and I cried and I confessed everything.
Libby Caswell
We would have gone to a concert. And we came out of the concert, and then all of a sudden, he grabbed me and threw me, like, on the ground in front of all of these people and all of our friends.
Anonymous Survivor 1
And at the time, my parents didn't know a lot about the legal system in America. They are immigrants. Their first language isn't English. So they asked me if I wanted to report it to the police, and I decided not to, because what's so tricky about domestic violence is that even though my boyfriend had just been physically violent with me, I still loved him, and I still wanted to protect him.
Libby Caswell
And it happened so fast. And all of our friends, like, kind of swooped in and grabbed him and took him away. And I remember thinking, like, what the hell was that?
Anonymous Survivor 1
I did recognize that something was off about my relationship when he became physically violent with me. But there was always something in my head saying, well, you're just not a good enough partner. You just need to change yourself. You just need to make yourself a better partner. Then the violence will stop.
Libby Caswell
I was pissed. If I'm gonna be honest, I was really, really angry. And I was one of those, like, fiercely independent women. Like, no man's ever gonna put his hands on me. And then that situation came to me directly. And so it was a. Okay, what are you gonna do now?
Anonymous Survivor 3
Whenever I got upset was always to go up to my face and grab it by the neck.
Libby Caswell
The first time I experienced strangulation in my relationship was on my 30th birthday.
Melissa Jeltson
It was around our second year of.
Anonymous Survivor 1
Dating was actually during sex.
Melissa Jeltson
I remember clearly because at the time, I was the youngest, living with my parents, and both of them were at work, and I was alone at home. He just knocked at the door, and I remember feeling really scared because his eyes look lost. He was under the influence of crystal meth.
Libby Caswell
My ex had planned this whole elaborate birthday party for me, and he had gotten belligerent. And I had two children at the time, and our baby was sick, and so I was like, you know what? This is silly. We're going home. And as we were driving home, it was only about five minutes, but he punched me in the face on the way home. And when we pulled into the driveway, I got out, and he came around the car, and he grabbed me by my throat and slammed me against the garage.
Anonymous Survivor 1
It was definitely shocking to me because we were being intimate, and. And all of a sudden, he laid his hands on my neck. And I think he had gotten the notion that I would enjoy this, perhaps as a sexual act, but since there really was no consent involved in that, it made me incredibly terrified.
Melissa Jeltson
On his way out, I just was like standing, holding the door open for him to leave. And he looked at me directly and put his hand around my neck. And he is a pretty tall guy, around six, six one. And he's big hand. So it only took him one hand to just go around my whole neck.
Libby Caswell
He was holding me up by my throat against the garage. And I was like, he's gonna kill me. And then he slammed me on the ground and cracked my head open. And then he went inside the house. And I remember thinking, oh, thank God, I'm okay. And I grabbed the kids out of the car really quickly. And he had locked me out of the house. So I broke into our bedroom through the window holding the kids. And I barricaded us in the bedroom.
Melissa Jeltson
And I just remember just thinking about who he was in the past, what was happening in that moment. I just was in shock and couldn't believe it. I just was like so terrified that he felt pretty comfortable doing that to me.
Anonymous Survivor 3
He would do it to the point before killing me. It was more of proving a point. I'm the boss, you listen to me, you obey to me and then release you.
Libby Caswell
I remember sitting in the bathroom, like smoking a cigarette, thinking, I can't believe this just freaking happened to me. So that was the first time, not the last.
Anonymous Survivor 1
I actually thought that strangulation was pretty normal or it happened so often that it became so normalized it didn't especially stand out to me as a red flag. It was just another kind of manipulation tactic, another method for him to gain power and control over me.
Melissa Jeltson
Once he realized that he had the power to do that, then what was going to stop him to do more things in the future?
Anonymous Survivor 3
For so many years it went from actual hitting, pushing and leaving bruises on my arms and realizing, oh, there's bruises too. Strictly using the weight of his body and usually was like on the bed, like weight of his body on me and choking. And then I remember I had to learn how to do self defense, how to hurt him a certain area so he would release. Because my fear was always, I'll get killed.
Melissa Jeltson
When I got pregnant and I started living with him, that's when the physical abuse was more intense and frequent in the relationship. So he felt he had a lot more power to do anything that he wanted. However, he was a very intelligent person and he would physically abuse me, but not to the point of leaving any marks on my body. He was pretty aware of the consequences of Having some sort of physical bruise or mark on my body.
Anonymous Survivor 1
Sam.
Libby Caswell
I had marks that time, and I was like, oh, my gosh, people are going to see this. And I'm a social worker. And that is. Was something I struggled with for the. The entire time because I thought I help people that are in the same situation that I'm in, and I'm, you know, like, pretty much preaching what I'm not practicing. And so that was really also embarrassing for me, I think, which contributed to me not saying anything.
Anonymous Survivor 1
I was a pretty popular student during high school, and I definitely put on a facade of how great my life was. And to everyone else, it seemed like I had the perfect boyfriend. And to admit to my friends that, hey, actually, I'm being abused by him on an everyday basis was terrifying for me.
Libby Caswell
I never talked about anything that happened to me with anybody until I actually left for the final time. He was very charismatic and, like, he was fun and funny, and I tried to protect that, I think, and not show him in a different light to our friends and family, and especially my family, I think, because they already weren't sure about him from the get go. And so I really didn't want to make him look bad in any way.
Anonymous Survivor 1
I was with my abuser when we were teenagers, and I think that made it incredibly more difficult for me to seek out resources, seek out support. I was terrified of sharing with my parents and my sister because I thought that they wouldn't believe me and that they would instead chastise me for being with someone at such a young age, for engaging in sex at such an early age. So I felt so incredibly alone.
Melissa Jeltson
I never told anyone. I never told anyone what had happened. I didn't want to believe what had happened, and it was scary to even think about it. And of course, I wouldn't imagine myself sharing it with anyone. And it was shameful, too, right? Just like, oh, my gosh, I have this wonderful, charming, handsome boyfriend. What is people gonna say?
Anonymous Survivor 3
Why did I say virus? That's what I was supposed to do. Because till death do your part is your vows, and you have to honor it for your family's name's sake, for your religious sake, for your culture's sake. You want to be the one who did everything right? And damn it, there's a one thing I didn't do right. I didn't pick the right person. How do I make this better?
Anonymous Survivor 1
When you're in love with an abuser, your logic changes. They're so good at changing your logic to a point where abuse is all that you know, it's all that you think about, it's all that you justify. I would have done anything to make my abuser happy. His happiness was the most important thing to me on the planet. I thought that this was just my reality, this was the rest of my life, that I would of course get married to him, of course I would have children with him, and this is just something I would endure for the rest of my life.
Lauren Hanson
We'll be right back after the break with more from these women, including how they got out of their abusive relationships and how they feel about it now.
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It can take Many attempts to leave an abusive relationship Libby left Devin multiple times and came back just as many. This can be hard to understand from the outside. These women's stories illustrate the risks and costs of leaving, but ultimately they did leave for good.
Anonymous Survivor 1
That weekend where I visited him in college was one of the worst weekends I've ever experienced in my life because we had been going to different colleges. The emotional and verbal abuse he was putting me through was heightened because he couldn't physically touch me, he couldn't sexually abuse me. But when I saw him in person, now in the flesh, I had all four kinds of abuse that I was experiencing. So the emotional and verbal abuse continued, but now the physical violence and the sexual violence were occurring because we are now physically together. So after that trip, I returned home and I decided to break up with him. But often when survivors try to leave, it takes them on average anywhere from 7 to 11 times to actually leave the relationship. And at that point it probably was my third or fourth time trying to leave the relationship.
Libby Caswell
Then I got to the point that he was strangling me and I was welcoming it. I was like, please just effing kill me. You know, just fucking kill me. And that really, really was what kind of kicked my ass into gear. That scared me that I was welcoming it. And I had gotten so desperate and wanted out of that situation so badly that I just wanted him to kill me. And then I thought, what's going to happen to my girls? It scared the crap out of me. And one night he came home and told me to get the Fuck out of his house and take my fucking children with me. And I listened, and I didn't ever turn around. I called my brother. He flew out that day, brought a duffel bag, and said, just pack what you can carry. And so for me and my three girls, threw whatever we could carry into one duffel bag, and he got us out of there while my husband at the time, was just watching us from his car. He just sat there and watched and, like, kind of taunted us.
Anonymous Survivor 3
Eventually, I got the courage to say, I'm done, and he attacked me. It was really bad. And I ended up in the hospital and, you know, in a hold. I was there for three days, but it felt like I was in a safe place because there were individuals like me. And that's when I realized, being away from him, like, I have a way out. I have a lot to live. I had a great therapist in there that. That reminded me that I still have plenty of years to live. And I was able to get out of that scenario because of that. Realizing the way I still see God and religion is not the way of to set you apart. No matter what they do. It's only when they honor you. It's a mutual honor. And realizing that gave me so much.
Melissa Jeltson
Freedom, my son started to imitate his behavior. My son was around 6 at that time, and that was impactful to me. I cannot allow this to happen. Seeing my son, I knew if I had stayed, he would have totally adopted that behavior. And my daughters were going to learn what I was doing, right? So that really helped me have the courage to leave that abusive relationship. At that time, we were leaving his mother's home, and he would not allow me to leave with my kids. I was undocumented, and he was documented. So he used my legal status to threaten me to take me to Tijuana and kill me, or to take the kids to Mexico. And I would never find out where he was with my kids. And it got to the point where I was 100% isolated from my family and friends. But my parents got really worried that they were not able to talk to me. And one time they just came to visit, and my father was like, what's going on? And I was like, oh, everything's okay. I'm just like, you know, out all the time, busy with the kids. We know what's happening. And my father was like, you're not my daughter anymore, and I want my daughter back home. It really helped me to lift the shame and fear off my shoulders. And knowing that I was not alone. So after that, I just came up with the plan to leave. But that was just the beginning of a long journey of leaving safely and staying safe with my kids.
Anonymous Survivor 1
Leaving an abusive relationship. You're afraid to love again. You're afraid to trust others because you might feel that people are inherently bad or people are out to get you. When I look back at my younger self, sometimes I wish I could shake her shoulders and be like, there are 8 billion people in the world. I have yet to meet so many amazing people that I don't need to endure this. There are many, many people I'll continue to meet who would love me for who I am, will never ever lay their hands on me, never ever say disgusting insults and comments to me, and I wouldn't have to spend the majority of my days crying and screaming and feeling so incredibly low.
Libby Caswell
The aftermath has been quite a roller coaster we're going on. Let's see, nine years that I got out, and I still have hard days. I still, you know, because I still have scars from him. I still have marks, but definitely the emotional abuse was brutal. Like, I was a shell of a person when I came back, and that has taken a lot of time and work. And I kind of just dove into, like, things that I loved because he had taken all of those away from me. That has been my path to kind of healing. I know that I have a longer way to go, and I think that's hard for me. I. I feel frustrated sometimes because I think, God, I should be better by now, and I can't rush it. You know, there's no rushing it. And so I have to kind of take a step back and say, you know, you'll be okay when you're supposed to be okay, which isn't always easy.
Anonymous Survivor 3
And I actually do have a scar from my then spouse. He did cut me pretty bad in one of my arms. And I actually do have a scar in my body that always reminds me, I did live this. But you carry these scars, but people don't see the scars because they're in your heart, they're in your soul, they're in your mind, they're in your triggers. They're in the defense mechanism that you built around yourself.
Libby Caswell
You have to be okay with the uncertainty of what lies ahead. And it's okay if you make mistakes. It's okay if you don't do things right the first time, second time, third. Third time, you know, just be patient with yourself. I think that would be the best advice I can give.
Lauren Hanson
If you or anyone you know, is experiencing domestic abuse. You can call the National Domestic Abuse Hotline for help. That number is 1-800-799-7233. Thank you also to the National Network to End Domestic Violence for their help with this episode. For more information, you can visit their website to find a coalition near you@nnedv.org what happened to Libby Caswell is written, reported and hosted by me, Melissa Jeltson. This episode was written by Lauren Hanson and edited and mixed by Jeremy Thal. Our Executive Producer is ryan Murdoch. For iHeart podcasts. Executive producers are Jason English and Katrina Norvell with our supervising producer Carl Cadle. Our theme song is written by Erin Kaufman and performed by Aaron Kaufman and Elizabeth Wolf. Original music by Erin Kaufman with additional music by Jeremy Thal. To find out more about my investigation or to send a tip, please email me at what happened to LibbyMail.com thanks so much for listening.
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Libby Caswell
In pieces in the dark don't you go follow you until I.
Anonymous Survivor 1
Until I fell apart what a way.
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In pieces in the dark.
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Summary of "The Survivors — Libby Caswell BONUS" Episode from What Happened to Talina Zar
Release Date: February 28, 2024
Host: iHeartPodcasts
Episode Title: The Survivors — Libby Caswell BONUS
In this compelling bonus episode of What Happened to Talina Zar, hosted by iHeartPodcasts, the focus shifts from the mysterious disappearance of Talina Zar to a deeply personal exploration of domestic violence through the voices of survivors. This episode emphasizes the importance of understanding and addressing domestic abuse, highlighting both the harrowing experiences of those affected and their journeys toward healing.
Lauren Hanson sets the tone by addressing the sensitive topic of domestic violence, cautioning listeners about the intense discussions that follow:
"Domestic violence relationships have one thing in common, an imbalance of power and control... Domestic violence is ubiquitous in their lifetimes. More than 1 in 3 women in the US will experience rape, physical violence, or stalking by an intimate partner in their lifetimes."
(02:39)
She underscores the severity of the issue, noting that approximately one in four women will endure severe physical violence from a partner, with tragic outcomes for some.
Libby Caswell opens up about her personal ordeal with domestic abuse, providing a poignant narrative that sets the stage for the survivors' testimonies:
"I stayed for so many reasons, you know. I wanted that image of what I saw for us when we got married... I just wanted us to be okay."
(02:23)
Her account details the progression of abuse, from emotional manipulation to physical violence, highlighting the complexities and emotional turmoil faced by victims.
The episode features testimonies from five anonymous survivors, each offering unique perspectives on their struggles and resilience:
Survivor 1 discusses the normalization of abuse and the psychological barriers to recognizing and escaping an abusive relationship:
"I actually thought that strangulation was pretty normal... It was just another kind of manipulation tactic."
(13:11)
Survivor 3 recounts the physical aggression used to assert control and the fear instilled by consistent abuse:
"Whenever I got upset was always to go up to my face and grab it by the neck."
(09:17)
Melissa Jeltson describes the gradual escalation of violence and the internal conflict of leaving an abusive partner:
"I stayed for so many reasons... I just wanted us to be okay."
(02:23)
Each survivor's story is interwoven with Libby's narrative, creating a tapestry of shared pain and strength.
The discussions delve into the multifaceted challenges victims face when attempting to leave abusive relationships:
Emotional Attachment and Manipulation:
"When you're in love with an abuser, your logic changes... I thought that this was just my reality, this was the rest of my life."
(18:39) – Survivor 1
Fear of Isolation and Judgment:
"I was so incredibly alone."
(16:39) – Survivor 1
Economic and Legal Barriers:
"He used my legal status to threaten me to take me to Tijuana and kill me."
(26:07) – Melissa Jeltson
These narratives highlight the psychological traps, societal pressures, and logistical hurdles that often trap victims in cycles of abuse.
Post-escape, survivors discuss their paths to healing and the enduring impacts of abuse:
Libby Caswell reflects on her ongoing struggle with scars, both physical and emotional, emphasizing the slow process of recovery:
"Nine years that I got out, and I still have hard days... You have to be okay with the uncertainty of what lies ahead."
(29:32)
Anonymous Survivor 3 talks about finding strength through therapy and redefining personal beliefs:
"I was in a safe place because there were individuals like me... Realizing that gave me so much."
(25:27)
Survivor 1 shares fears about trusting others and loving again, while also expressing hope for the future:
"There are many, many people I'll continue to meet who would love me for who I am."
(28:32)
These reflections underscore the resilience of survivors and the nuanced journey toward reclaiming their lives.
Towards the end of the episode, listeners are provided with resources to seek help:
National Domestic Abuse Hotline:
"You can call the National Domestic Abuse Hotline for help. That number is 1-800-799-7233."
(31:20)
National Network to End Domestic Violence:
"For more information, you can visit their website to find a coalition near you @nnedv.org."
(31:20)
These endorsements encourage victims to reach out and access the support systems available to them.
The episode concludes with a powerful recap of the survivors' stories, emphasizing the courage it takes to leave abusive relationships and the importance of support in the healing process. Lauren Hanson reinforces the message of hope and resilience:
"These women's stories illustrate the risks and costs of leaving, but ultimately they did leave for good."
(22:42)
Libby Caswell:
"Strangulation became his go-to method at the end of our relationship... I'm sure of it."
(03:39)
Survivor 1:
"When you're in love with an abuser, your logic changes... abuse is all that you know."
(18:39)
Melissa Jeltson:
"I just was like so terrified that he felt pretty comfortable doing that to me."
(12:20)
Anonymous Survivor 3:
"You carry these scars... they're in your heart, they're in your soul."
(30:35)
This bonus episode of What Happened to Talina Zar serves as a poignant reminder of the pervasive issue of domestic violence. By providing a platform for survivors to share their stories, the podcast fosters understanding, empathy, and hope for those affected. It underscores the importance of recognizing the signs of abuse, the complexities involved in leaving an abuser, and the long road to healing that many must navigate.
For anyone experiencing domestic violence or knowing someone who is, reaching out to the provided resources can be the first step toward safety and recovery.