Podcast Summary: What's the Reality?

Episode: Love Is Blind's Monica Davis: Staying Strong Through IVF and Love Is Blind S9 Deep Dive
Host: Amber Desiree (AD)
Guest: Monica Davis (Love Is Blind S7)
Date: October 22, 2025

Overview

This episode of What’s the Reality? brings together host Amber Desiree (AD) and special guest Monica Davis from Love Is Blind Season 7 for a candid, unfiltered conversation. Monica opens up about her post-show life, her ongoing IVF journey, and her relationship with her boyfriend Zach. The pair also serve up a no-holds-barred deep dive into the latest drama and relationships from Love Is Blind Season 9, sharing hot takes, behind-the-scenes insight, and reality TV tea.

Monica’s Life Update & Love Story

[01:35–04:23]

• Monica has been in a relationship with Zach, whom she reconnected with post-show. They first dated briefly years before via Hinge, but only deepened their commitment after the show.
• The couple bought their dream new-construction house together (“He is not the type of guy that’s like, whatever you want, baby. He’s like, no, I’m picking the grout too.” – Monica, [03:17]). They're eagerly anticipating moving out of Monica’s parents’ house.

Notable Moment

"Life has really lifed." – Monica, [01:50]
“We’re living with my parents right now… week eight. My dad left little sticky notes for us with instructions. I was like, yeah, he is ready.” – Monica, [03:13–04:10]

Monica’s IVF Journey: Openness, Struggles, Community

[04:24–12:27]

• Monica details her very open IVF journey, now on the third cycle, and the emotional and physical toll it has taken.
• Explains her decision to share the process publicly: after the initial wave of followers faded, her remaining social community has provided immense support.
• Highlights the tough reality of failed IVF cycles: “No one prepares you to… put your body through all of this... and you can't. Even by day seven, your embryos are gone.” ([06:49])
• Remarkable outpouring from followers experiencing similar struggles.

Quotes & Insights

“When I started to share it, when I tell you, I got hundreds and hundreds of messages from women who were like, that same thing happened to me…” – Monica, [07:51]

“I know I’m ready to be a mom, and I’m gonna be a great mom. And all of this is to, like, fight for our future child. So it makes me really proud of myself.” – Monica, [09:06–09:30]

Advice to Others

“Be loud and proud about what you’re going through... It’s my body. It’s fine. For me, being loud and proud about it has allowed me to feel... so much better.” – Monica, [11:01–12:00]

Notable Moment

“For so long, women have gone through things like this, and... it was, like, taboo almost. Isn’t that something that’s really sad?” – AD, [12:15]

Reflection on Love Is Blind S7: Behind the Scenes & Lessons Learned

[12:45–21:38]

• Monica recalls signing up for the show hoping it would work, despite being the oldest cast member.
• She maintains close friendships with many female castmates, especially Ashley, but is distant from male cast members like Steven.
• Discusses Steven’s lawsuit against Love Is Blind, expressing skepticism and sharing personal anecdotes about his motivations and character.

Quotes

“Rejection is God’s protection. Like, I wish in the past I would have been... leaning into that more.” – Monica, [18:34]

“Never again will I allow someone to bamboozle me.” – Monica, [18:42]

Notable Scene

• Monica admits she can’t rewatch her own season (“I watched every single scene of that show one time. And that’s it.” – Monica, [19:21]). Watching herself in retrospect, especially in tough moments, is "torturous".

Love Is Blind Season 9 Deep Dive: Reactions, Theories, and Superlatives

General Tone: Lively, snarky, and supportive. Both hosts dissect S9 with both empathy and humor.

Theatrics & Changes in the Show

[21:47–23:49]

• Both hosts remark Season 9 feels theatrical, “like an SNL skit.”
• AD: “Everyone just feels, like, goofy... It feels like a stage play.” ([21:59])

Favorite (and Least Favorite) Couples

[22:34–25:28]

• Monica roots for Megan and Jordan for their maturity and co-parenting dynamic, and finds Edmund and KB’s relationship fascinating but “wild.”
• They discuss numerous eyebrow-raising Edmund moments (making out with the floor, eating boogers, public displays of affection).

Memorable Moment

“It wasn’t just kissing the floor. He was flat… Making out with the floor.” – AD & Monica, [23:57–24:01]

Difficult Conversations: Red Flags and Relationship Trouble

[26:50–28:28]

• Edmund’s emotionally volatile reaction to KB wanting to wait before sex was alarming: “That was like, not even funny… He got so upset… crying and yelling.” – AD, [27:00–27:20]
• The women note patterns of performative vs. authentic behavior on (and off) camera.

Patrick and Casey’s Storyline

[28:50–32:43]

• Questioning Casey’s intentions, doubting her presence on the show was for the “right reasons” considering a possible situation with an ex-boyfriend.
• Noting how attraction (or lack thereof) became a key reveal, Monica points out “she sold it.”

Messier Relationships & Red Flags in Mexico

[33:31–36:12]

• Alarming drunken behavior (Joe), tumultuous relationships (Nick & Annie), and emotional fights – “There’s a lot of mess happening in Mexico.” – Monica, [35:46]
• Drinking issues and lifestyle mismatches emerge as dealbreakers, particularly for Anton and Ally.

Incompatibility, Social Issues & Authenticity

[41:00–43:00]

• Nick & Annie’s breakup: Monica is unsurprised considering red flags in Nick’s past behavior and beliefs (discussions around LGBTQ acceptance).
• Joe & Madison’s dynamic characterized as insecurity caused by his lack of interest, Monica relates to Hannah & Nick’s dynamic from her own season.
• AD: “If attraction’s not there, let that reveal be the moment where you’re like, ‘You know what? Love ain’t blind for me.’ And that’s okay… don’t torture someone.” ([44:25])

Who’s Real, Who’s Performative?

[46:39–50:55]

• Ongoing discussion of KB and Edmund’s public vs. private behavior—KB called out repeated discord, and both hosts side with KB in public arguments.
• Monica on the importance of conflict resolution versus avoidance: “They have these moments where she’s hurt or upset and he’s like, ‘I love you. I need you.’ And she’s like, ‘I want to hear none of that… Let’s talk about it.’” ([48:31–48:52])

Fan Favorites, Predictions, and Superlatives

[55:31–61:22]

• Playful rapid-fire “superlatives” for S9 cast, e.g.:
  • Most awkward reveal: Ally & Anton ([56:12])
  • Smoothest talker: Debatable, but Casey, Mike, and Nick get mentions ([57:23–58:09])
  • Most likely to start drama: Edmund or Joe ([58:27–58:36])
  • Fan favorite: Jordan and Megan (“really taking it seriously and they really want to make it work” – Monica, [58:59]); AD also rooting for KB.
  • Best dressed: Megan for her “sparkle mag” rodeo outfit.
  • Most likely to marry: Both say Megan & Jordan, but with caveats.

Deeper Themes: Gender, Finances, and Real Life Struggles

[52:27–54:31]

• AD and Monica discuss the show’s recurring double standard: when a woman is more financially secure, it becomes a sticking point for the man (“You never see the guy step up and be like, that’s fine, I’ll just make more money… they like shrivel up.” – AD, [53:29]).
• They praise Jordan for his progressive attitude, but wonder about long-term compatibility due to lifestyle gaps.

Closing Thoughts & Looking Forward

[61:33–63:59]

• Monica is looking forward to moving into her new house and remains hopeful about her IVF journey: “Third time’s a charm. Third time’s a charm.” ([62:22])
• AD affirms her support and interest in all of Monica’s life updates.
• The episode closes with mutual appreciation, hopeful wishes for everyone’s happiness in love and life, and a playful nudge for listeners to support Monica and AD as they move forward into the next chapters in their lives.

Notable Quotes

• “No one prepares you to… put your body through all of this... and you can't. Even by day seven, your embryos are gone.” – Monica [06:49]
• “Never again will I allow someone to bamboozle me.” – Monica [18:42]
• “Rejection is God’s protection.” – Monica [18:34]
• “Everyone just feels, like, goofy... It feels like a stage play.” – AD [21:59]
• “If attraction’s not there, let that reveal be the moment where you’re like, ‘You know what? Love ain’t blind for me.’ And that’s okay… don’t torture someone.” – AD [44:25]
• “Third time’s a charm.” – Monica [62:22]

Timestamps for Key Segments

• Monica’s life update & homebuying: [01:45–04:23]
• IVF journey & support: [04:28–12:27]
• Reflections on Love Is Blind S7: [12:45–21:38]
• S9 overview & theatrics: [21:47–23:49]
• Favorite/least favorite couples: [22:34–25:28]
• Discussion of red flags (Edmund, Mexico, etc.): [26:50–36:12]
• Breakups and social issues (Nick/Annie, Joe/Madison): [41:00–45:18]
• KB/Edmund dynamic & conflict: [46:39–50:57]
• Superlatives & predictions: [55:31–61:22]
• Closing and Monica’s hopes: [61:33–63:59]

Tone & Style

The conversation is authentic, supportive, and dotted with both warm encouragement and sassy, reality-TV-style banter. Monica is earnest and vulnerable, especially about her IVF journey, while both women engage with reality TV drama in a way that’s critical but never mean-spirited.

For fans of reality TV or anyone navigating big life transitions, this episode delivers a blend of behind-the-scenes candor, emotional honesty, and juicy commentary—keeping it, as always, real, fun, and unfiltered.