Nikki & Brie get real about becoming that girl—at any age, on your own terms on The Nikki & Brie Show.

Summary

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Episode Overview

Podcast: What’s the Reality?
Host: AD (Love is Blind’s AD)
Guests: Nikki & Brie Garcia (The Garcia Twins)
Date: September 15, 2025
Episode Title: Nikki & Brie Get Real About Becoming That Girl—At Any Age, On Your Own Terms on The Nikki & Brie Show.

Main Theme:
This episode delves into the evolving meaning of the phrase "being that girl"—highlighting personal growth, confidence, and authenticity at any age. Nikki and Brie reflect on how societal and generational definitions of “that girl” have shifted from status and external validation to self-worth, inner joy, and living life on one’s own terms.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Decoding “That Girl”: Then vs. Now

• Social Media’s Influence:
  • The phrase "that girl" is everywhere lately, often misunderstood as external perfection or popularity. Nikki and Brie clarify it's about inner confidence and authenticity, not external achievements.
  • [01:07] Nikki: “It’s about energy… You’re living as the best, most confident, most put together version of yourself. It’s about inside and out.”
• Generational Shift:
  • 20s Perspective: Previously, being “that girl” meant career success, attractiveness, the ideal relationship, material things, and adhering to a visible path.
    • [02:14] Brie: “In my 20s, being that girl, I would measure things on success—where I’m at in life… Got the good job, the good boyfriend, on track for marriage and success.”
  • Now: The focus is self-acceptance, letting go of others' opinions, genuine happiness, and prioritizing oneself.
    • [02:50] Nikki: “That girl to me is the girl that lets go of what people think… I live life for myself, for my pure joy and happiness and no one else’s.”

2. Inspiration & Grit in the Absence of Guidance

• Finding Main Character Energy:
  • The twins discuss lacking strong role models for 'main character energy’ in their youth, except for TV characters like Carrie Bradshaw.
    • [04:07] Nikki: “We didn’t really have the inspiration that everyone has now to be the main character of your own story… we did have Sex and the City… Carrie Bradshaw, she really was that if you think about her character.”
• Social Media vs. TV:
  • Current generations have daily positive “main character” inspiration via social media. Nikki and Brie appreciate today’s focus on routines, confidence, and self-driven joy.

3. Evolution of the “That Girl” Routine

• Wellness, Self-Respect, and Boundaries:
  • The “that girl” routine now centers on small, meaningful habits (morning rituals, wellness, self-care, self-respect), not luxury brands.
    • [05:01] Nikki: “Now, it’s more about what’s on the inside and things you do for yourself… when you talk about your morning routine, skincare, feeling and looking good, oozing confidence, going after your goals, having self-respect and boundaries.”

4. Defining Moments of “That Girl” Feeling

• Personal Anecdotes:
  • Both share transformative moments:
    • [06:41] Nikki: Signing her first WWE contract, moving to downtown San Diego, being able to support friends and celebrate hard work.
      • [07:09] Nikki: “I remember feeling like, I’m that girl, like I’ve made it.”
    • [07:48] Brie: Filming reality shows and realizing the power of authenticity—being loved for flaws and realness.
      • [07:52] Brie: “It was almost like, wow, we can be authentically us. And people love that… they liked the flaws. They loved hearing your opinion, even if they didn’t agree with it. It was the first time I felt like I could just be me.”

5. Grit, Grace, and Finding Your Own Way

• Lessons from Doing it Alone:
  • The sisters reflect on developing resilience (“grit and grace”) by forging their own paths and learning from mistakes due to a lack of clear role models.
    • [06:32] Nikki: “It has given us a lot of grit. And you see that in our generation we have a lot of grit and grace… we had to do it on our own.”

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

| Timestamp | Speaker | Quote | |-----------|---------|-------| | 01:07 | Nikki | “It’s about energy… You’re living as the best, most confident, most put together version of yourself. It’s about inside and out.” | | 02:14 | Brie | "In my 20s, being that girl, I would measure things on success—where I’m at in life… Got the good job, the good boyfriend, on track for marriage and success." | | 02:50 | Nikki | “That girl to me is the girl that lets go of what people think… I live life for myself, for my pure joy and happiness and no one else’s.” | | 04:07 | Nikki | "We didn’t really have the inspiration that everyone has now to be the main character of your own story… Carrie Bradshaw, she really was that." | | 05:01 | Nikki | "Now, it’s more about what’s on the inside and things you do for yourself… when you talk about your morning routine, skincare, feeling and looking good, oozing confidence, going after your goals, having self-respect and boundaries." | | 06:32 | Nikki | "It has given us a lot of grit. And you see that in our generation we have a lot of grit and grace… we had to do it on our own." | | 07:09 | Nikki | “I remember feeling like, I’m that girl, like I’ve made it.” | | 07:52 | Brie | “It was almost like, wow, we can be authentically us. And people love that… they liked the flaws. They loved hearing your opinion, even if they didn’t agree with it. It was the first time I felt like I could just be me.” |

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Timestamps for Important Segments

• [00:34] Introduction of the topic “being that girl” and its prevalence on social media
• [01:07] Defining “that girl”—inner confidence vs. social status
• [02:14] “That girl” in your 20s vs. now—contrasting perspectives
• [04:07] Role models and the influence of pop culture (Carrie Bradshaw, Sex and the City)
• [05:01] Modern “that girl” rituals and self-defined standards
• [06:32] The value of grit, learning through self-reliance
• [07:09] Nikki shares her personal “that girl” turning point
• [07:52] Brie reflects on authenticity and reality TV’s impact

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Conclusion

Nikki and Brie’s candid conversation redefines “that girl” as an evolving journey, shifting from the pursuit of status symbols to the pursuit of self-love, boundaries, and authenticity. Their stories highlight generational wisdom, grit, and the pivotal realization that being “that girl” is not about age, success, or trend—but about showing up for yourself, embracing your journey, and owning your narrative.

Transcript

[A]

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[B]

Today we want to talk about a phrase that we as women hear often. And it's been on social media a lot as of late. And I thought I knew it correctly and I've had to relearn this phrase. But it's about being or becoming that girl. And we want to make things clear that becoming that girl has no age limit whatsoever. No, it doesn't. It's all about how you show up for you. And we're about to dive in to that. Showing up for you, being that girl and everything in between.

[C]

Gosh, who knew I was part of a trend?

[B]

And I've realized it's actually has become a very big social media term as of late. And it's not like it means basically like you're living as the best, most confident, most put together version of yourself. So it's not like you're the most popular girl or it has some status to it. It's about inside and out. It's about energy. And I was like, when I started to dive more into this, this is what I do have to say I love about the social trends nowadays is the younger generation puts a lot of thought into things.

[C]

Yeah, right. Yeah. It's very insightful. There's a lot of meaning, A lot.

[B]

Insightful meaning a lot of feels. It just really digs within. It's not surface at all.

[C]

No.

[B]

And I've really enjoyed learning more about this. Like, I use Google AI, all of it, so much. I'm like, okay, so what does this really mean or these acronyms or whatever it might be? I'm like, what are they talking about? So I really have loved of what being that girl has meant. And you know, I have a question for you. What does being that girl mean to you now versus what it meant to you? Let's just say in your 20s.

[C]

I mean, I think in my 20s, being that girl kind of I would measure things on success, where I'm at in life, kind of like, am I on the Right path. It kind of felt like, you know, in our 20s we have this free pass of being wonderlust and kind of daydreamers and exploring and finding ourselves. But in your 20s, I felt like when you became that girl, it's like you got the good job, you have the good boyfriend you're on track with maybe marriage and success. But now that girl is none of those things to me. Like, that girl to me is the girl that lets go of what people think. I live life for myself, for my pure joy and happiness and no one else's. So it's interesting. I mean, it couldn't be more night and day. I don't know. What about you.

[B]

No, I so agree with you. Because what I've come to realize is definitely being that girl back in our 20s was for sure about status. Was for sure about who you're with. Are you married? Do you have kids? What kind of house do you have? It was so more about the tangible things and about the fancy things and luxurious things. The money in your bank. And what I really love, and I.

[C]

Have to say really quick on just that thought is you didn't have to have it yet, but you were on your way to it, if you know what I mean.

[B]

Right. So let's just say all of a sudden, because we had some of our friends who were those girl a sudden became real estate agents and we're selling incredible homes and we're able to have the BMW at 25. And we're able to get, you know, move from Pink Zone off Garnet Avenue and go shop in the mall. Let's just say Nordstrom's. Yeah, but you know what I mean, they became that girl. I was. It would. It was the ones who got into their careers quickly and showed success, like you said. And what I've realized is we didn't really have the inspiration that everyone has now to be the main character of your own story. As everyone says. We didn't get that energy when we were young. It wasn't about, like. No, actually, honey, let me tell you how you're going to own your own story. I mean, we did kind of have sex in the city. And when we'd all kind of talk about Carrie Bradshaw she really was that. If you think about her character, for sure.

[C]

That's why I was obsessed with her.

[B]

Right. It was like she kind of. She was living life how she wanted and didn't care what people thought. She was independent. She was in relationships. She didn't care what people thought. But if you think about it that was kind of, kind of the only thing that maybe gave us that main character energy, but it wasn't even defined in that way. And so now in days when I see about being that girl, it's more about what's on the inside and things that you do for yourself, not for others. It's actually you're that girl when you show up and you talk about your morning routine. So no, this is what I do in the morning. I wake up at this time to get this workout in. I make my own Americano or maybe I go to my favorite coffee shop because I can I do this skincare routine to make sure I get this wellness and glow. I put on this nice outfit that I put together. It doesn't have to say Louis Vuitton or Gucci. I put it together, I feel good, I look good now I'm like oozing confidence, which makes me that girl. And now I'm going to go chase my goals right now. I'm going to give that energy and on top of that have some self respect and boundaries and then I'm going to go buy myself some flowers and make sure when I come home all my flowers are blooming. That's like to me nowadays what being that girl is.

[C]

I feel like it's kind of nice that we like found it on our own without like somebody instructing us to. I mean definitely. Would there have been a couple nice tips and like advice? Yeah, I would have, you know, met made less mistakes. Like for example, like do you remember in your 20s where you're like, oh, I'm that girl. I don't need to try, I just need to show up.

[B]

Yeah, well I do actually. And you know, the one thing to add to what you just said was it has given us a lot of grit. And you see that in our generation we have a lot of grit and grace. And it's because you're right, we, we had to do it on our own. We had to figure it out. But I do it, it would be signing my WDB contract. Then when I finally eventually moved back to San Diego, I couldn't believe that I got to rent an apartment in a high rise in Little Italy, downtown San Diego. I was, had a lease on a BMW. I was saving good money. I was going out, being able to provide my friends drinks and dinner. And in that moment I remember feeling like I'm that girl, like I've made it. I feel good. I remember when I'd come here all my days in San Diego, which was majority of my life when I was cocktail waitressing till midnight or 2am and when I came back in that space, it. I felt so accomplished. And to be able to then take care of your friends and go to nice restaurants and be like, I got it. Like, no stress.

[C]

Yep.

[B]

When all that was happening, 26 felt good.

[C]

Yeah. Mine's a little different because it's more. When we started filming.

[B]

Because you were, like, doing your Carrie moments?

[C]

No, because you were in New York. Well, yeah.

[B]

Such a sick apartment in, like, a cool area.

[C]

I mean, for sure. But I think more is when we were filming the reality shows and when they hit really big, it was almost like, wow, we can be authentically us. And people love that. They loved seeing, like, you're imperfect sides. They like the flaws. They loved hearing your opinion, even if they didn't agree with it. And I think it was the first time I felt like I could let go and just be me. And I kind of feel like that's being in it. Girls.