
Tyler Henry and Amanda Kloots: The Power of Intuition and Love Advice from the Other Side AD sits down with world-renowned medium Tyler Henry and TV personality Amanda Kloots for an impactful conversation about life, loss, and the connections that transcend it all. Fresh off their Netflix series Live from the Other Side, Tyler and Amanda open up about their experiences on TV, emotional readings and messages from loved ones that left a lasting impact, and the powerful lessons they’ve learned about love and healing. Get ready for a thought-provoking and heartwarming discussion that just might change the way you see the other side.
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Amanda Kloots
What's the reality? What's the reality? Hello.
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Hello, y'all. It's your girl Ad. And welcome to another episode of what's the Reality? You guys, I am joined by some very, very special guests today. We have world renowned medium Tyler Henry, and television personality, actress, dancer, fitness entrepreneur, Amanda. Hey, guys, and welcome to the podcast. Thank you.
Amanda Kloots
How we doing?
Tyler Henry
Amazing. It's rare that we get to. To buddy up outside of Netflix Live, so we're excited to be here.
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Is it that rare? Because you guys are twinning? It looks like you do this.
Amanda Kloots
Yes, I know. We look like brother and sister. And we're wearing the same outfit.
Tyler Henry
We go with you almost down to the same shade. It's kind of creepy.
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No, it looks good, though. I wish I would have got a text, but I got close. I got kind of close.
Amanda Kloots
Yes. You're in the same family.
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Yeah, we're in the same family.
Tyler Henry
Warm tones.
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Yeah. I'm so happy you guys are here. Thank you.
Amanda Kloots
Congratulations on the pod.
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Thank you. And congratulations on your show. Live from the Other side, currently on Netflix. And Amanda, you're the moderator.
Amanda Kloots
Yes.
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Okay. How's this experience been for you guys? I can imagine there's a lot of nerves and pressure that come along with doing something like this. Tell me about it.
Tyler Henry
Well, you know, doing the show had never been done before in a live format, so a medium doing readings unedited, with no real ability to cut things out that are perhaps incorrect. So it was a lot of pressure and allowed me, I think, to demonstrate the process. And I wasn't afraid of that challenge. I wanted, in fact, meet that and demonstrate the process. Because it's one thing to see readings, like, edited together in a highlight reel, but to really demonstrate how it comes to me and then how. How that relates to how other people might relate to their own loved ones. It's really special. And now we've done it for over about 20 episodes.
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Yeah, 20 episodes.
Tyler Henry
Yes.
Amanda Kloots
It was originally trying to get like, y'all. I know.
Tyler Henry
Yes.
Amanda Kloots
Well, and it's been really great to see Tyler grow. Like, I mean, I feel like from episode one to episode, like our last episode we did last Wednesday, like, you walk out of there, you're so confident now. Oh, geez. You know? Well, doing a live reading in this setting was a first for you. And a. You know, I hadn't monitored a show like this before, so it was just. I feel like you've really, like, found your groove, and, like, it's now. It's like old hat. We go in there and we're like, let's do some readings.
Tyler Henry
We got it down. And when the show started, I heard Amanda Kloots might be one of the moderators was like, I have to have her. She's perfect. The show was at such a timely, you know, premiere in the sense that they came out, I believe, on Nick's birthday.
Amanda Kloots
Yeah. Yes.
Tyler Henry
And then it's finishing up on Amanda Kurt's birthday. So there was something kind of uncanny kismet about that that I thought really spoke to how she was meant to be a part of it.
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That's amazing. So how's it been working together?
Tyler Henry
Oh, incredible.
Amanda Kloots
Great. Yeah.
Tyler Henry
We're only together for about 42 minutes and it's a lot of me just kind of rambling like Oda Mae Brown and people responding. But Amanda asks such good, thought provoking questions and gives clarity. Often that's necessary in these readings because I often know what I'm seeing and the client often knows what I'm referring to, but the audience often doesn't. And so Amanda does a great job at filling in those blanks.
Amanda Kloots
Well, it's, you know, I've been. I feel very lucky to witness like what Tyler does on a weekly basis because I truly believe in the healing power of what he does and the messages he brings. And so it's really cool to like sit there each week and see people, you know, just have these, you know.
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I don't know, my heart's like racing just right now. It's really precious.
Amanda Kloots
It's like you see weight being lifted off their shoulders, you know, or they laugh for the first time time about something and it's really beautiful.
Tyler Henry
Yeah. You know, there are so few outlets in society for people to openly discuss grief. And I'm so proud of this platform because it's allowed people to honor their feelings. Some people that are public figures that we recognize on tv and others, you know, everyday folks. And it just speaks to the fact that it's a universal experience and the way that we all kind of honor that process. It's sharing an experience that honors not just loss, but love. And that's really what it's all about.
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So you've been able to kind of connect with spirits at a very young age. Tell me what that was like. Did it scare you?
Tyler Henry
Well, you know, I had my first premonition when I was 10 years old. I saw that my grandmother.
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That's insane.
Tyler Henry
Was going to pass. Yeah. At 10 years old, you're still trying to figure out like addition, subtraction, multiplication.
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Right from my left yeah. And you're like, I got some news.
Tyler Henry
And. Yeah. And, you know, it was a big kind of a burden as a child. I didn't recognize it as an ability. It was just something that happened randomly. And then, you know, these moments of knowingness continued as I would go about my day to day life. But it was something that didn't come with a manual. You can't go to college to become what this is. And so it was a lot of trial and error and just learning.
Amanda Kloots
And your mom and your dad also being so supportive of you, which is.
Tyler Henry
You know, my mom was the first person I told about that initial premonition of the death of my dad's mom. And then we kept it a secret from my dad for six years.
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Six years.
Tyler Henry
And so when I was finally 16, I had to kind of come out of the broom closet and be like, you know, talk to people who passed.
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How did he take that?
Tyler Henry
Yeah, he didn't really even know what a medium was. To him. It was like a shirt size. And I was still trying to figure out, like, what's going on. Like, is it people who passed? Is it just intuition? But it ended up being. Yeah, a journey.
Amanda Kloots
Tyler, you're so funny. He's like, so funny. Secretly funny.
Tyler Henry
Funny looking. Thank you. It's these dead ends. They're.
Amanda Kloots
They're picking up on them.
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Crying, crying. So how did your journey from small town life to Hollywood medium go? Like, how was that?
Tyler Henry
Yeah, well, long story short, I graduated high school at the age of 16 with the goal of trying to become a hospice nurse. Because I thought, you know, as a medium, your options are kind of limited. You can do readings publicly. You can do, like, life insurance salesman.
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Might have been a good one.
Tyler Henry
Hospice nurse was high up there, but that was my goal. And then as I was in school, one of the youngest in my class, I was doing readings through word of mouth, and people started literally coming to my front door and leaving notes. And I ended up reading the dean of the college, which was insane. And, yeah, it all kind of went.
Amanda Kloots
Didn't he tell you? Like, yeah, he was like, don't go to school.
Tyler Henry
He literally was like, you need to consider what you did for me, doing that for other people, because it really helped me, and he got a genuine experience out of it.
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And what is the small town you're from?
Tyler Henry
Hanford, California.
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Oh, okay.
Tyler Henry
Yeah. Central California, outside of Fresno. It's kind of near Armona.
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Okay.
Tyler Henry
Middle of nowhere.
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And that's not like a common thing. I'm assuming, like, mediums are not just popping up in your little town.
Tyler Henry
It would have been easier to explain what it is more than just that intermediary range between two things. But yeah, not a lot of representation as far as mediums or even alternative spiritualities, which I embrace all forms of belief and despite growing up in a very conservative Christian upbringing, just evolved in trust and faith and if anything, have a more reinforced sense of spirituality. So inclusive.
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Which then led to you getting your own show on E. Hollywood.
Tyler Henry
That's right. Tell me about that journey Hollywood medium. That was four seasons. Over 200 celebrity one on one readings.
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200?
Amanda Kloots
Yes.
Tyler Henry
It was like 19. So I was. I didn't know who half the people were because.
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Did you get any autographs?
Tyler Henry
I, you know, you should have had.
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A T shirt like sign my baby.
Tyler Henry
I should have got like a Magic 8 ball and had them sign the Magic 8 ball. It probably would be worth it. Yeah. But I often stay. Just saved their scribbles after the reading.
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Yeah.
Tyler Henry
So I have them as like a little memento.
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That's good.
Amanda Kloots
Gosh, Tyler, I didn't realize. Over 200.
Tyler Henry
That's crazy. A lot of people. Well, and being on the talk, I mean, how many interviews were there?
Amanda Kloots
Well, almost a thousand. Well, now it's over five seasons though, so.
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Yeah.
Amanda Kloots
That's insane.
Tyler Henry
That's amazing.
Amanda Kloots
I know. Sometimes you don't realize, you know what I mean, that you don't realize what you're doing and. Yeah. So then you just realize it afterwards.
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Time has fly. Time flies by. It's amazing. So, Tyler, do you ever do readings that involve love advice from the other side?
Tyler Henry
You know, I think people often ask about love when it comes to readings. And naturally when I talk about people who've passed, very often we touch on their lives and the lives of the people they leave behind. And by default, oftentimes, you know, the exciting things, the engagements, the marriages, they often, often come through with acknowledgments of the divorces and the harder things. And it just speaks to life experience and the fact that they come through and still prioritize our well being. So very many instances, I'll refer not only to the fact that a grandmother who isn't able to be here physically is, you know, attending the wedding. And then I'll refer to a specific detail of something that was done for grandma at the wedding that one couldn't guess or know through other means. And that just reinforces that there's some connection even if they're not physically here.
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Does like grandma ever come through a T like, oh, T is spilling over. Yeah, don't do that. He's not the one. Yeah.
Tyler Henry
We're given the choice between two people. You know, you know this one more than that one.
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You ever say something?
Amanda Kloots
There are times he does.
Tyler Henry
The thing is, is I think that, you know, my goal is to always leave people better than I find them. But I find that when people ask for love advice, often they often already know.
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You already know.
Tyler Henry
You already know. You're just looking for validation.
Amanda Kloots
He often times on the show gets messages from, like, the grandma about the, you know, the husband or the wife or the older ex boyfriend, often. It's honestly one of my favorite moments.
Tyler Henry
It's fun. And when you come up with a detail that couldn't be guessed, couldn't be googled, and it's something they just did or just discussed in the car there, they're like, wait a minute.
Amanda Kloots
I think it was last episode where you were like, yeah, they didn't like your last. The first person, but they really approve of this one.
Tyler Henry
I was like, oh, geez. I think I had that hunch. But now he knows.
Amanda Kloots
She did. She was married and got divorced. This was Megan Mulally. Mulally, sorry. And now Nick Offerman is her husband. And Nick was approved.
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Oh, good.
Amanda Kloots
The ex was not approved.
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Oh, my.
Tyler Henry
Got the approval stamp from upper management.
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Those are my favorite moments on the show.
Amanda Kloots
I love that.
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Wait, that would be insane.
Tyler Henry
It was very, very cute.
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And that's happened more than once?
Tyler Henry
Oh, yeah, for sure.
Amanda Kloots
Oh, yeah.
Tyler Henry
It goes to show they see the peaks and the valleys of our lives. I think one of the most compelling things about what comes through is often the emphasis on levity and humor and in some ways, not taking things so seriously. And though they seem to not be very clear on the grand scheme, like purpose or theology or the bigger questions, they seem to kind of give hints that perhaps the reason we're here is to love and to focus on the levity, the moments that give us relief from the darkness of existence.
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I love, love, love, love so much here on what's the Reality? We talk a lot about self love, and I'm wondering, how would you give advice for people using their intuition when it comes to love and finding love?
Tyler Henry
Sure. Well, intuition is something of an inner tuition. I think it's kind of an inner knowledge, a compass that never truly leads us astray. And when it comes to love life, I mean, so much about that is about compatibility, finding someone that is going to grow with you and that you're going to Grow together with. And I think intuition does allow very often to kind of get a sense of, you know, if somebody is in alignment with the long term goals or not. And being able to refine, that's a very valuable tool. I knew the second I met my current partner that he and I were going to be together, that I was destined to marry him. And we've been together now for almost a decade, and I've never had a single doubt. Every day is further reappeared. And I can really only credit intuition to that fact. When you know, you know. But you have to know yourself in order to know what's going to enhance your life.
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Wait, so how did you two meet?
Tyler Henry
Online. It was very. Not a very romantic story. We were in Verona, Italy, and I was throwing pebbles at his window on Twitter.
Amanda Kloots
It's a romantic.
Tyler Henry
Yeah.
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Well, let's romanticize it.
Tyler Henry
Yes. I was like 19 and his mom had watched my show and she had reached out. And then he tweeted me, and he was just from the middle of nowhere in Georgia, just a good old southern boy. And I reached out back to him and we just had an immediate connection. And then he moved to California. We. Yeah, moved like within 24 to 48 business hours.
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Like, it was pretty bam.
Tyler Henry
I mean, we were at the light speed of a lesbian. Like, we were. We knew our relationship. I was like, you're moving in, we're getting married. We're having a German shepherd farm. Like, it was like, bam, bam, bam.
Amanda Kloots
I think that's so romantic when you.
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Told me that story.
Amanda Kloots
I think that's so. Like, you found each other online. Then the second he came to visit you, like, you were talking, he came to visit you and you were like, you're not leaving. And he was like, I'm not leaving.
Tyler Henry
Tried to get out the lock. The doors were locked.
Amanda Kloots
And the doors were locked, the shades were down.
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And you were like, you're fine, you're not leaving.
Tyler Henry
Exactly.
Amanda Kloots
I see it.
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I kind of have a similar story.
Amanda Kloots
Just kidding.
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My man is in the basement somewhere.
Tyler Henry
That's right.
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Locked away.
Amanda Kloots
But you got the ring, girl. You got the ring.
Tyler Henry
And you know what he's doing.
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I know where he's at. I know what's happening. Wait, so what's it like dating with, like, your ability?
Tyler Henry
Dating? I mean, for me, it was an easy case of being able to kind of determine, like, what I resonated with what I didn't. And there were a lot of people who I'd met before that I just didn't vibe with. Yeah, I Think really. Just everybody has intuition. The more you know yourself, the more you can identify what's right for you. So self awareness is important. What's your advice for that? Do you feel intuition?
Amanda Kloots
I love intuition. I've always been like somebody that I feel like I feel intuition strongly. I'm a Pisces. I just feel like it comes with my side.
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Yeah.
Amanda Kloots
I don't know. Sometimes I really love my intuition with love because I think it really draws. Like, I can have a very clear, direct, kind of like, no, this is what it is. And then sometimes I feel like. Gets me stuck because I'm like, no, I feel this. And like, why aren't you reacting the same way? Cause like, my intuition is like, we aren't supposed to be together. And I'm like, how are you not seeing what I see?
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I know when you feel it so strong.
Amanda Kloots
And that is very hard when they are not responding the way your intuition.
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Is telling you to.
Tyler Henry
And like, inner narrative versus intuition and being able to navigate both of those is tricky because the more we know our inner narratives, the more we can discern it between what we want versus what we need.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Amanda Kloots
And then when to let that intuition go, like, that's something that's, I think, really, really hard because you're like, I'm just gonna. I'm gonna let this go. Yeah, I gave it a shot. I'm gonna let it go. So it's tough. But I think you're right. I think you have to know yourself as much as we know ourselves and can turn inward and really, like, find that self love within ourselves, you know, that's our best. That's our best weapon.
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Yeah. I trust my inner voice. I didn't always. And I always, like, she's so loud too.
Amanda Kloots
Like, she's really aggressive.
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She's like, girl, you already know. And I used to be like, but do I?
Amanda Kloots
Yeah.
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And it would be those moments where I doubted myself and my intuition where I was wrong. And like, I fell off the plank when I knew better, you know? But now, as soon as I hear it, I'm like, you're right, you're right. Something's not. Something's either off or something's really, really right. And so I've learned to trust that. I think that's such a powerful tool that a lot of us just don't tap into. That's really cool.
Tyler Henry
Certainly can be. There's a book by Gavin De Becker. He's a security analyst. He wrote a book called the Gift of Fear, and it was all about how intuition can save our life.
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Yeah.
Tyler Henry
How sometimes, you know, a first time meeting, in a sense, an introduction, sense of unease or uncanniness. Sometimes we are behooved to listen to those things even if they don't make logical sense in the moment. And there's a way to still be intuitive, but be kind. There's a way to set up boundaries with people in a nice way. And, you know, going with their intuition doesn't mean we have to be like, no, I don't like you the second I meet you.
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But you know, there's an alarm that you kind of have to.
Amanda Kloots
Yeah, yeah. Like, do you think that, like what's meant to be will never pass you? Like if it's meant to be, you know, that like those things between, like.
Tyler Henry
Predetermination, meaning that everything's like set up in advance versus free will. And I go back and forth. There's a philosophical argument called compatibilism, which actually integrates both that some things could be free will and some things might be pre established.
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So what do we think about soulmates then?
Tyler Henry
That's a tricky one because, like, I don't know about that one fully. I think there's a lot of people we could be compatible with on some level. I think the soulmate thing kind of goes back to the twin flame thing, which is kind of like controversial. And are we really made for one person? I don't know. I think there's a lot of people we could be compatible with.
Amanda Kloots
Yeah, yeah.
Tyler Henry
But it's like alchemy. When two people meet and they're changed forever, it's like a reaction and both leave. Unlike how they first were when they met.
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Right.
Amanda Kloots
I think I believe in soulmates, but I think we don't just have one. I think there's many, you know, maybe like 10. Yeah.
Tyler Henry
They're out there across the country and world.
Amanda Kloots
No, that really like immediately.
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Yeah.
Amanda Kloots
Yes. And there's like always a connection and whether or not, like you just said, whether or not it ends up being somebody forever. Yeah.
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And it's not always romantic. Right. It can be platonic. It could be soul sisters.
Tyler Henry
A good indicator of like a soul mate, like person. I found people will often say, oh, they felt so familiar. I felt like I'd met them before. You meet some people, you just immediately settle into their bones. You're just like, oh, I like you. This is easy. This feels natural.
Amanda Kloots
You immediately feel comfortable.
Tyler Henry
That's the best and safe. And I think that's one of the biggest things. Relationships should provide safety.
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Agreed.
Tyler Henry
A sense of inner safety, stability, a soft place to fall. And you can get a sense if someone makes you feel safe or not if you're honest with yourself.
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Yeah, agreed. So you give yourself emotionally, spiritually, and energetically, like almost all day, every day. How do you balance all of this?
Tyler Henry
A lot of sleep. I take a lot of naps, which is very boring of an answer, but truly, like, the only interesting thing.
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I'm actually jealous.
Amanda Kloots
I could do some nap right now.
Tyler Henry
You can take some zquil and we're gonna retro, buddy.
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Naps are great. I love a nap. Absolutely.
Amanda Kloots
Yeah.
Tyler Henry
You know, it's for anyone, whether we're doing interviews, whether we're doing readings, there's an exchange. And you just have to kind of honor your inner boundaries and get rest as needed if you can.
Amanda Kloots
Yeah, it's true. Do you know that I was told by somebody once that if you. An energy therapist, he was like. Cause I say this all the time. I can put an alarm for five minutes and pass out. Wake up in five minutes, and I'm completely, like, recharged. I'm a napper. I love napping. 20 minutes, five minutes, whatever I can get. And he said that that just shows that you're very enjoy tune with your internal clock. That if you. If you're good with napping.
Tyler Henry
Oh, God. What happens when you wake up 45 minutes in with, like, slobber? Yeah.
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And you need another 45.
Tyler Henry
One eye is like hardened, crusty clothes. I'm like, I don't want to go to work. I wake up all grumpy and sad. You ever do that after a nap?
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You wake up, you're like, what time is it? What day is it?
Tyler Henry
Yeah, what year? Disassociation.
Amanda Kloots
Oh, really? I wake up from a nap and I'm like, oh, rejuvenated.
Tyler Henry
I've never woken up like mine. The inner demons generationally start coming in after a nap.
Amanda Kloots
Yeah.
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I wake up from a nap and I'm like, you know, I'm gonna go put on my pajamas and I'm getting in the bed now it's time for sleep. Yeah. Truly. I feel like my day's over after a nap.
Amanda Kloots
Oh, I love that.
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I got nothing to give. Yeah. Nothing. So, Amanda, you've been incredibly open about love and grief and healing. For the listeners who don't know your story, can you talk a little bit about your late husband Nick?
Amanda Kloots
Sure. So I met Nick doing a Broadway show, and we were just friends at first and then became lovers and then got married. We were Living. We moved to Los Angeles, and we had a new little baby Elvis. And unfortunately, my husband got Covid and then spent 95 days in the ICU here at Cedars Sinai and ended up passing away from complications from COVID and pneumonia and what it did to his lungs and his body. And so, yeah, that's that story.
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Grief is something that, like many people, struggle with. What's one thing that you wish people could understand about navigating loss?
Amanda Kloots
Yeah, you know, I think even I fell into this trick in the beginning. I really felt like one day I'd be on the other side of it, that one day. And for some reason, I think the year is like a big marker for a lot of people. You know, you'll be so much better in a year after the year first, you know, the first Christmas, the first Thanksgiving, the first, you know, birthdays. And so you even mentally, subconsciously tell yourself that. And, you know, I'll be. This will be five years in July, July 5th. And I think the thing that it's important to know is that it does never end. And the healing journey is a journey because life keeps going once you lose your person. And so that pain grows as well, because you're still living your life. And so grief follows you. And so I think, as much as you can, know that and know that the healing journey continues on, and you grow with it, I think is an important message, because it's nothing that you get a certificate from. You know, like, you did it. You survived grief. It will follow you your entire life.
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Is that something that you've kind of noticed with people that you speak with in their grieving journey?
Tyler Henry
When I first started, a lot of the emphasis was on closure, people coming to try to get closure. And as time went on, I learned that is no closure to grief. To close grief would be to close the love that it is an ongoing process, something that we carry with us.
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The love.
Tyler Henry
And, you know, moving forward isn't letting go. And it's a lifelong process, more akin to a comma in a sentence than a period. Right. It's not something to be ended or finalized. It's something we carry with us and gives opportunities for us to love more deeply.
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And, Amanda, you've shared how important signs from Nick have been to you. What was the most powerful or unexpected sign that you've received?
Amanda Kloots
Oh, gosh, it's a short story, but I'll give you one. He comes to the radio a lot. To me, Nick was a music man, and if you drive around town with me, if you were in my car, you would think I'm a crazy lady. Because I talk to him a lot in the car. One day I got in the car with Elvis and it was his Christmas concert at his preschool. Which is a hard day for a single mom because your child is singing these Christmas songs and every family is there. And so to be there alone is tough. So I get in the car and Prince is playing on the radio. And Prince was Nick's all time favorite artist. And Prince is on the radio a lot. It is not an uncommon artist that you would hear. But whenever I hear Prince, I always say hi to Nick. I'm like, oh, hi Nick. I'm like, oh, good, you're here with us today. I said, cause today's a big day. I said, all right, well, if you're really with us. I said, I want you before the day ends to play Going to California by Led Zeppelin. I say it out loud. I drive Elvis to school, I go to work, I pick Elvis up, we go to his concert. I survived the concert. We leave a little early. Cause I just was like ready to. Ready to get out of here. And I get in the car, I turn the car on. And on the radio is a Led Zeppelin song. Not Going to California though. And I'm driving along and I was like, you know what? Okay. I was like, that's good enough. I was like, that's close enough. We keep driving. The song ends and the DJ gets on and goes, you know what? Let's just play another one from Led Zeppelin. Here's Going to California. And I literally. Tears start coming down my eyes. I couldn't see the road. Cause I was crying so hard. I pull over and I am like smiling, crying and disbelief at the same time. Because first of all, this song is the oddest Led Zeppelin song in the entire world. It is a weird monologue song. It is never played on the radio. Trust me, I've heard it once since Nick's past. And the fact that I asked for it and that as we left the concert, a DJ doubled up on Led Zeppelin. Which, let me tell you again, DJs don't ever double up on an artist. And that happened. I was like, all right, you're with me, you're with us.
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That's incredible.
Tyler Henry
And I always find it so interesting what people feel inclined to do. Like our inclinations, why we do this versus that. Because it's often intuition. I wonder if that radio DJ who was like playing the things, if something didn't just kind of pop in his head and Go.
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Yeah, I felt something.
Tyler Henry
Play that song.
Amanda Kloots
I got it.
Tyler Henry
Because we wouldn't even know. It'd be random. Why do we feel inclined to do the random things that we do? We never know the impact it could have.
Amanda Kloots
Yeah, it's powerful. I never thought of it that way, Tyler, but, yeah, must have, right?
Tyler Henry
He was like, hey, she's listening.
Amanda Kloots
Play it. Wow.
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No. That's incredible. So how would you say your perspective on love has evolved through everything that you've been through?
Amanda Kloots
Oh, my gosh. So much. I always say death teaches us how to live, and it certainly has taught me how to live, and it's taught me how to love many things. Like, I can't wait to love again. Because I really hope that I can instill all the things that I've learned about love and relationships in this next chapter in my life. I can't. I can't wait.
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What has your dating been like?
Amanda Kloots
It's been.
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What?
Amanda Kloots
It's been.
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It's been. Yeah.
Amanda Kloots
No, it has not been fun. I mean, it's been up and down, you know, Listen, we live in Los Angeles. It's tough.
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It's tough.
Amanda Kloots
I tried the apps. They weren't for me. I've met a lot of wonderful people. I've met some not so wonderful people. I've had some wonderful times. I've had some not wonderful times. I think if I'm being 100% honest, I'm just at a point in my life where I'm looking for something really special, and I unfortunately have a lot of walls built up. And, you know, it's kind of a game now of, like, feeling that safety with somebody and trusting somebody. It's hard, you know? And so it's tough. It's tough. I'm out there.
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She's trying, she's shooting. And that's step number one is to try.
Amanda Kloots
Yes.
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Yeah.
Amanda Kloots
And every relationship I've had and every even date I've gone on has taught me something about more about myself and this chapter I'm in. So that always I take as the positive.
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You have accomplished so much in your career and in your life. Broadway performer.
Amanda Kloots
Yes. Thank you.
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Fitness entrepreneur, TV host. Rockette.
Amanda Kloots
Get into it.
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Author and mom.
Amanda Kloots
Thank you.
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If you were to do a reality show, what would the title be?
Amanda Kloots
Oof. Wonder Woman. Ooh, there you go. But it would be about all women.
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Yeah.
Amanda Kloots
I feel like right now we could use some empowerment. Yeah, I do. You know, I think, listen, I love doing all these different things that I love to do. I love moderating a television Show. I love hosting a red carpet. I love teaching a fitness class to 60 women and dancing our little butts out. I love going to take a dance class myself. I love being a mom. I love being an entrepreneur. I love acting and producing and being in television shows and in movies. I love it all. And yet I feel like as a woman, especially right now, I feel like a little bit we can be pigeonholed. You know, a lot of men will ask me, well, what do you want to do? And I'm like, I want to do it all. Why can't I do it all? Because I love it all. I'm very passionate about everything that I do.
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Love that.
Amanda Kloots
And I don't feel like it's fair to pigeonhole a woman as to like, well, no, you're a TV host, right? Yeah, I can host a TV show.
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And, And, And.
Amanda Kloots
And I think we all can. So the reality show would be Wonder Woman.
Tyler Henry
I love that. I think frutes with klo, we'll take shoe wear.
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You've been thinking about endorsement.
Tyler Henry
Absolutely. We'll do a crossover. It'll give you wings like elevation. Yeah. We're still working on the branding.
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I feel like you couldn't wait to answer that question.
Amanda Kloots
Thank you.
Tyler Henry
Yes.
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I was like, you've had that in the back of your head for a long time with Klutes.
Tyler Henry
I was, like, trying to go through all the variations.
Amanda Kloots
Well, when I teach my fitness as well, like glutes with kloots. Glutes with kloots.
Tyler Henry
Okay, that settles that. We're selling this.
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Yeah.
Amanda Kloots
There we go.
Tyler Henry
You and me.
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That's so funny. Amanda, you and I actually have something in common.
Amanda Kloots
I. What?
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I'm a dancer as well.
Amanda Kloots
I love it.
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Grew up dancing my whole life. Dance and cheer. So I cheer professionally for the NFL and the NBA.
Tyler Henry
Good for you.
Amanda Kloots
Oh, my God.
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Thank you very much. Probably couldn't do a high kick right now if I was being paid, too. But what was it like being on Dancing with the Stars, and what was your biggest takeaway from that experience?
Amanda Kloots
Oh, Dancing with the Stars was a dream come true. I sat in my living room and watched that with my family season after season, never, never thinking I would get that chance, never thinking. So when that call came in, I was just like, I thought I won the lottery, and I really did. That show, that family there. It's so wonderful. It's so beautiful. My biggest takeaway, ironically, is not the dancing part. It was how much I connected with my partner, Alan Burstein, and how much he taught me how to love and be around another man again. It was wild. And not romantically. Alan and I were just friends and always have been. But I had lost Nick. We were two years into losing that. I had started trying to date, but with other widowers. And you can imagine how that date goes. You just end up about talking about your dead person and crying. So there's really no romance. Good connection, but no romance. And I was really at a point where even on dates, I was like, if he would try to talk, if he would try to kiss me right now, I don't know why, I'd freak out.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Amanda Kloots
So, you know, I was sitting kind of like this on dates and protecting myself. Well, then in walks Alan and in walks dance again into my life and dance. You know, I was never afraid of connecting with somebody through dance. You know, being touched by a man and dance.
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Right. Is normal.
Amanda Kloots
Yeah.
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Is normal.
Amanda Kloots
So day one, when he was like, I'm gonna hold your hand. I'm gonna hold you here. I'm gonna grab you here. I'm gonna dip. It felt completely comfortable. And then you're working towards a goal with somebody, and you're texting with somebody every day. For all intents and purposes, he. I had a man again in my life. And when the season ended, I remember looking at him and being like, thank you so much.
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Touching you.
Amanda Kloots
But, like, I'm like. I'm just like, thank you so much. I think you've, like, taught me that I can be around a man again. And I really, honestly feel, like, ready to try again, because I feel so comfortable being around a man again and laughing with a man again and being excited to, you know, see a guy again. And. And he really gave me that gift. And it was such a special gift beyond dancing. And I never, ever thought that show would do that for me. I just thought it would be, like, how great to dance again in my life.
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That's incredible. Tyler, would you ever do Dancing with the Star?
Tyler Henry
I can't put a foot in front.
Amanda Kloots
Of the other foot.
Tyler Henry
If they asked me to do a sobriety test, I would fail. I was watching Cops the other day. They're like, now do the Alphabet backwards. I was like, Z, D, Y, W.
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Yeah, I'm going to jail.
Tyler Henry
Yeah, I'm going to jail. I'm sober, I promise. Get it ready. Get it.
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Throw it. I can barely do it the right way.
Tyler Henry
Throw out a rug.
Amanda Kloots
Oh, my God.
Tyler Henry
Give me a little puppy pad. I'm ready to put me in the pin.
Amanda Kloots
That's gonna be my Goal now to get you on that show.
Tyler Henry
No.
Amanda Kloots
Do I know the cutest answer to say the Alphabet backwards. My son did this. I asked him this question and he goes, A, B, C. Oh, my God.
Tyler Henry
That's.
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That's genius.
Amanda Kloots
I was like, like, you're a genius.
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Yeah.
Amanda Kloots
You're four years old and you're a genius.
Tyler Henry
You should play chess. Play chess. Get.
Amanda Kloots
Yeah, that's okay.
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Well, if you don't use your powers to get him on, have your people call my people.
Amanda Kloots
Okay. There you go.
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I can do a little salsa. That'd be much more entertaining to watch something done.
Amanda Kloots
Absolutely done.
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Have them call my people.
Amanda Kloots
You guys could both be on the next season.
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That would be lit.
Tyler Henry
I'll just have a epileptic seizure. Truly, like, there's a lot coming through.
Amanda Kloots
Love it.
Tyler Henry
It'd be a mess. Can you imagine all the audience? I start reading people just like, grandma's proud of you.
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Grandma's party.
Tyler Henry
Grandma's proud of you.
Amanda Kloots
Grandma's proud of you. Grandma's proud of you.
Tyler Henry
Just like, like. No, it'd be awful and distracting and weird. Performance art. Yeah.
Amanda Kloots
Can we cut? Can we cut?
Tyler Henry
Yeah. Want one?
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That's actually hilarious.
Amanda Kloots
All right, all right. You can be on the show. We'll get you on the show.
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Thank you. So, Amanda, what's next for you? Can you choose anything?
Amanda Kloots
Well, I launched. I started a new company in January and I launched that. It's a supplement powder company. It's called Proper.
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Okay.
Amanda Kloots
So that's my newest baby. And what I'm kind of like, like cultivating at the moment, putting out into the world. Yeah, it's just you talked about self love, self care. I love creating products that are easy, affordable, and accessible to everyone so that they can feel good about themselves. We get one body, that's it. 1. I know we think that there's more, but there's not. You gotta treat it right. So I created this line to help people feel better about what they're putting into their bodies every day.
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Is that available now?
Amanda Kloots
It is available now properly for health.com and lots of fun, exciting things coming in the future. So stay tuned.
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I can't wait.
Tyler Henry
My arteries are just fried with French fried grease. So as we take Proper, it's slowly, gradually, like heparin.
Amanda Kloots
I said to this busting it out. You have no excuses. You should be having your greens every day.
Tyler Henry
Absolutely every day. The Vanda Kloots.
Amanda Kloots
You get it, Drink it.
Tyler Henry
It's easy. You don't even know. They're about stress.
Amanda Kloots
And then you can do glutes with klutes, glutes with glutes.
Tyler Henry
We've got branding deals ahead of us. I see that in your future.
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You're working. You're working, working. I love it. So let's talk like skepticism and reality TV a little bit. So as we know, being on reality TV or being just a public figure can come with a lot of backlash or negativity from the public, which we've all probably experienced. What's your response to people who doubt your abilities or criticize you, and how do you handle both all the negativity and stuff?
Tyler Henry
You know, I've embraced skepticism. I think it's important to be a reasonable human being, to not lose our critical thinking skills. I think that what I do in many ways is very polarizing in the sense that people have an idea of what a medium is. And what I do is very different from a lot of what people even think it is that I do. I just sit with people. I share moments where I have things pop in my head and I relay it and people cry and they acknowledge that whatever popped in my head made sense to their life and they were left better. It's hard to be skeptical around that, fundamentally, if you're just having a conversation, you say things that happen to be meaningful and then they're tricky. But, yeah, by and large, I embrace all different forms of belief. I think there's a beauty in that diversity. And yeah, for me, I'm just there to kind of give an experience to a person with the goal of helping them.
Amanda Kloots
My biggest thing is. And in fact, Gabby Bernstein, I don't know if you know, that is. She's a New York Times bestselling author. She says this too. Forgive and delete. I forgive them. I sometimes write to them and say, God bless you. I hope you have a wonderful day. These people are hurting. They're sad. And if they have the time and energy to get on social media and write negative things towards you, there's something wrong in their lives. And that's. So I forgive and then I delete them.
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Yeah. Yeah, I like that. Yeah.
Tyler Henry
You get to a point in your self awareness where you kind of quit caring if you know yourself. And anything anyone says about, you know, when you put your head on the pillow, whether it's true or not, and if you know that you're in the right, then, oh, well, what can you do?
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Right? Right, right.
Tyler Henry
It's all good.
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So, Tyler, I have to ask, what's one reality show that you'd secretly love to be on? Because if we're being real, a psychic on Love is Blind would have been so clutch.
Amanda Kloots
Oh, wouldn't it?
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So clutch.
Tyler Henry
Oh, my gosh. The Traitors would be a really interesting show to go on. They're getting some leverage now, I think, in their second season. Kind of based off of, like, you know, who's doing what, who's up to what. I feel like everyone would expect a medium to just say who the winner's gonna be. Yeah, that's very boring.
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So, yeah.
Amanda Kloots
What about, like, Big Brother?
Tyler Henry
Big Brother would be interesting. You got an offer there once.
Amanda Kloots
Oh, did you?
Tyler Henry
Yeah, that'd be weird. Celebrity Big Brother pulled the curtain back too much to see how the sausage is made. They see, like, my chest hair, my, like, seven chins. They're like, this guy's not mystical.
Amanda Kloots
Yeah, no, he's.
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No, he's a large size medium. Amanda, same question for you. What reality show you would probably be on?
Amanda Kloots
Well, I got to be on mine. That was Dancing with the Stars.
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That's her dream one.
Amanda Kloots
Yeah, that would sometimes. Not all the times, but sometimes. I think it'd be fun to do Amazing Race with my sister.
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Yeah.
Amanda Kloots
Just because I do love to travel and I do love to see, you know, really cool, beautiful parts of this world. And I think that's such a special gift when you get to do something like that and it's paid for and everything. I just wouldn't want to eat, you know, pig's testicles or something like that.
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Yeah, that's where it gets weird.
Amanda Kloots
That's where cows eyes are eating French fries.
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Let's be real here. Me, I would.
Amanda Kloots
Or bugs. Like, I wouldn't want to do that.
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I want to do the cute stuff.
Amanda Kloots
And the travel stuff.
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Yeah. I don't want to do anything too hard.
Amanda Kloots
No, exactly.
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Oh, my gosh. I think Love is Blind was my dream show as well.
Amanda Kloots
Wow.
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Because I just wanted to get married. I want to find my person. I didn't find him on there, God knows. But yeah, I think. I think that was such a true for me.
Tyler Henry
What a beautiful memory.
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I know. Well, you guys, this has been amazing.
Amanda Kloots
Oh, thank you.
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But I did want to end with this. Tyler, if you could give one universal message from the other side about love, life, or happiness, what would it be?
Tyler Henry
I could give one message from the other side. I would say that they encourage us to live our lives in such a way, regardless of what we believe or disbelieve, so as to prevent future regret. If we can say it now to the people we love. If we can validate and hype up the people who are still here and give them their flowers.
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I love that.
Tyler Henry
Then we can truly prevent future regret. Death by default. We always have regrets. I think in almost all cases, it's normal for the grief process to be like, I should have called more. I should have done more. But if you can kind of do what you can now, it just saves a lot of pain in the future.
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I love that. Yeah. Say it now. Say it now. Okay. And Amanda, if you could give one piece of life advice, whether it's about love, resilience, or just embracing the moment, what would it be?
Amanda Kloots
Ironically, our mottos are so the same.
Tyler Henry
Twins.
Amanda Kloots
I know.
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Just through and through and through.
Amanda Kloots
I mean, mine is my late husband's song, Live youe Life. It changed, you know, losing him and, you know, raising my son on my own. I truly embody that. Like, I try to at least. I fail sometimes, you know, and people remind me, aren't you supposed to live your life? And I'm like, that's right. All right, never mind. I'm going on a vacation or whatever. But it has. Live your life in all of those ways. Do the things do, you know, take the trips. Say what you need to say. Be courageous. Go for your dreams. You don't know. You know what I mean? Like, you don't know what tomorrow will bring. You don't know what the next 10 minutes will bring. And all of the good and all of the bad, whatever it could be, live your life.
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That is so powerful. You guys are so powerful. That's such good advice, because you know these things. But you need the reminder, you know? You know, that you should say the things you need to say and live the life you wanna live. But you forget when you have to go to, like, Trader Joe's or something. It's your day to day.
Amanda Kloots
True. I said it to myself yesterday, so, I mean, I'm preaching it. But literally yesterday, I was sitting somewhere and I was like, amanda, what do you always say? You say, live your life. Get up out of this chair and go. It was taking the courage to do something. And I was like, just do it. And I was like.
Tyler Henry
And I just did it.
Amanda Kloots
Cause it's like, live your life and.
Tyler Henry
Have the courage to show up. That's so true. In love, in connections with our loved ones who've passed, it's easy to just hermetically seal ourselves in a room. And whether it's the grief process or pursuing love, it can be overwhelming and make us not want to leave. But if we can put ourselves out there. If we can have the courage to do different things, we get sometimes new results, and it can lead to an extraordinary life we would have never seen possible.
Amanda Kloots
Yeah. So true.
Tyler Henry
Yeah.
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That's incredible.
Tyler Henry
Amazing.
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You guys are amazing.
Amanda Kloots
Thank you. This is so cool.
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Thank you guys for joining me. This has been wonderful. I feel. I really do. Like, I really do. I feel like, you know, I am gonna go live my life.
Tyler Henry
There you go.
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That's right.
Tyler Henry
Yes.
Amanda Kloots
Grab the defibrillator. We're gonna get you all Dancing with the Stars.
Tyler Henry
That's right.
Amanda Kloots
She means business.
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Say that part a little bit louder. Yeah, exactly. Yes. But thank you guys once again for coming on to what's the Reality? Of course. Thank you guys for tuning in to another beautiful, lovely episode. And I'll see you next Wednesday. What's the Reality?
Podcast Summary: "Tyler Henry and Amanda Kloots: The Power of Intuition and Love Advice from the Other Side"
Podcast Information:
The episode kicks off with AD warmly welcoming Tyler Henry and Amanda Kloots. The camaraderie between the guests is evident as they joke about their similar appearances and outfits, setting a friendly and relaxed tone for the discussion.
Amanda Kloots [00:35]: “Yes, I know. We look like brother and sister. And we're wearing the same outfit.”
Tyler delves into his unique path as a medium, highlighting the challenges and breakthroughs he encountered. Hosting a live, unedited show like "Live from the Other Side" presented unprecedented pressure, but Tyler embraced it to authentically demonstrate his reading process.
Tyler Henry [01:12]: “I wasn't afraid of that challenge. I wanted, in fact, to meet that and demonstrate the process.”
He reflects on the growth over 20 episodes, noting increased confidence and mastery in conducting live readings.
Amanda Kloots [01:43]: “I feel like…you walk out of there, you're so confident now.”
The conversation shifts to the profound emotional impact Tyler's show has on his clients. Both Amanda and Tyler express how the platform offers a safe space for individuals to confront and honor their grief, blending love and remembrance seamlessly.
Amanda Kloots [03:23]: “It's like you see weight being lifted off their shoulders… it’s really beautiful.”
Tyler Henry [03:36]: “There are so few outlets in society for people to openly discuss grief… it honors not just loss, but love.”
AD steers the conversation towards love and intuition. Tyler explains how his intuitive abilities serve as an inner compass, guiding individuals in their romantic endeavors. He emphasizes the importance of self-awareness in recognizing compatibility and making informed decisions in relationships.
Tyler Henry [10:17]: “Intuition is something of an inner tuition… you have to know yourself in order to know what's going to enhance your life.”
Amanda shares her experiences with intuition, highlighting both its empowering and challenging aspects, especially when others do not respond as expected.
Amanda Kloots [12:44]: “Sometimes I really love my intuition with love because I think it really draws… but sometimes it gets me stuck.”
Amanda opens up about the profound loss of her late husband, Nick, and her journey through grief. She articulates the enduring nature of grief and the misconception that healing has a definitive endpoint.
Amanda Kloots [19:30]: “I think that the healing journey continues on, and you grow with it… it will follow you your entire life.”
Tyler complements this by discussing the concept of closure, asserting that grief is an ongoing process rather than something that can be neatly concluded.
Tyler Henry [20:48]: “I learned that there is no closure to grief… it's an ongoing process.”
Amanda discusses the complexities of dating after loss, sharing her struggles and the slow rebuilding of trust and openness in relationships. Her participation in "Dancing with the Stars" played a pivotal role in reconnecting with the possibility of love.
Amanda Kloots [29:29]: “Alan and I were just friends and always have been… he gave me the gift of being ready to try again.”
Tyler humorously shares his experience, pondering the idea of participating in a reality show like "Dancing with the Stars."
Tyler Henry [30:43]: “I can't put a foot in front… if they asked me to do a sobriety test, I would fail.”
The discussion transitions to the guests' personal endeavors and handling public skepticism. Tyler asserts his openness to diverse beliefs and focuses on providing meaningful experiences to his clients despite polarized opinions.
Tyler Henry [34:33]: “I embrace all different forms of belief… my goal is to help them.”
Amanda shares her strategy for dealing with negativity on social media, emphasizing forgiveness and moving forward without dwelling on criticism.
Amanda Kloots [35:02]: “I forgive and then I delete them.”
The guests engage in a lighthearted exchange about reality show preferences. Amanda envisions a show titled "Wonder Woman" centered on empowering women, while Tyler humorously contemplates the challenges he would face on shows like "Big Brother."
Amanda Kloots [26:21]: “The reality show would be Wonder Woman.”
Tyler Henry [35:58]: “Big Brother would be interesting.”
As the episode nears its conclusion, Tyler and Amanda share powerful life lessons. Tyler emphasizes living without regret and cherishing moments with loved ones, while Amanda advocates for living life fully and courageously.
Tyler Henry [37:23]: “They encourage us to live our lives… so as to prevent future regret.”
Amanda Kloots [38:12]: “Live your life… Do the things, take the trips, say what you need to say. Be courageous.”
AD echoes these sentiments, reinforcing the importance of mindfulness in everyday actions.
AD [39:02]: “You need the reminder… when you have to go to, like, Trader Joe's or something.”
The episode wraps up with mutual expressions of gratitude and encouragement among the hosts and guests. Tyler humorously reflects on potential chaos if he were to utilize his mediumship on a dance show, while Amanda and AD share laughs over their shared love for dance and aspirations.
Amanda Kloots [40:21]: “Grab the defibrillator. We're gonna get you all Dancing with the Stars.”
AD leaves listeners with a motivational nudge to live their lives authentically and embrace love in all its forms.
AD [40:15]: “That's right. Yes.”
This episode of "What's the Reality?" masterfully intertwines discussions on intuition, love, grief, and personal growth. Through heartfelt conversations and shared experiences, Tyler Henry and Amanda Kloots offer listeners profound insights into navigating the complexities of relationships and embracing the continuous journey of life and love.