Before You Say ‘I Do’ — Real Talk From the Robertson Girls | Sadie, Mary Kate & Abby

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WHOA That’s Good Podcast Summary

Episode: “Before You Say ‘I Do’ — Real Talk From the Robertson Girls”
Host: Sadie Robertson Huff
Guests: Mary Kate Robertson & Abby Robertson
Date: November 12, 2025

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Episode Overview

In this heartfelt, fun, and laughter-filled episode, Sadie Robertson Huff invites her sister-in-laws and fellow “Robertson girls,” Abby and Mary Kate, for a candid conversation about all things love, dating, engagement, and marriage. From hilarious origin stories and awkward first moves, to thoughtful engagement proposals and real talk on young marriage, the trio shares wisdom, personal experiences, and wedding day confessions. The episode is both a celebration of relationship journeys and a practical resource, packed with genuine advice for listeners navigating love and commitment.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The Robertson Girls Take the Mic

• This is a unique trio episode featuring Sadie, Abby, and Mary Kate together for the first time ([00:28]).
• Early banter highlights Abby’s TikTok dance skills and the sisters’ playful dynamic.
  • Sadie: “You have been taking TikTok by storm … you’re my favorite TikTok follow and pretty much the only one I actually follow.” ([01:04])

2. Love Stories—Meeting, Dating, and First Moves

Abby & Will’s Origin Story

• Met in youth group as teenagers—friends for a long time before realizing romantic feelings.
• First date during COVID: takeout on a parking garage roof ([05:33]).
• Kept relationship low-key at first; Will “just didn’t tell anyone for months” ([06:43]).
• Abby made the first move:
  • Abby: “I think it was me. I kind of was like, do you not, like, see what’s going on here?” ([07:03])
• Dated through high school and into college, with periods of long distance ([08:01]).

Mary Kate & John Luke’s Story

• Met at 15 at church camp, became close friends, then transitioned to dating at 17/18 ([12:24]).
• The “first move” was John Luke reaching for Mary Kate’s hand in the car:
  • Mary Kate: “[He] reaches his hand over and grabs my hand, and I just, like, pulled it right away.” ([13:40])
• Initially, Mary Kate was adamant about not dating—“We are not dating. We are not ever going to be anything more than friends.” ([15:03])
• Eventually, Mary Kate admitted her feelings, circled back, and they began dating ([15:12]).
• Short courtship: “Dated for, like, maybe six months. Got engaged, got married when we were 19.” ([13:14])

3. Engagement Surprises

• Both couples experienced truly unexpected proposals and emphasized the importance of being surprised ([17:37], [20:34]).
  • Abby: "All I want is to actually be surprised...He got me good." ([17:37])
  • Both proposals occurred on the girls’ birthdays—unexpected for both.

4. Wedding Dresses & Planning Confessions

• The process was stressful, but ultimately joyful. Each had a distinct experience:
  • Abby: Knew her dress was “the one” after lots of trying, found it quickly due to a short engagement ([28:12], [30:01]).
  • Mary Kate: Designed hers with Sherri Hill, didn’t try it on until weeks before—risky but loved the result ([30:16]).
  • Sadie: Admits to picking/buying her dress before even getting engaged—relatable for modern brides ([31:21]).

5. Wedding Styles & Themes

• Each wedding was uniquely themed and deeply personal:
  • Abby: Modern, timeless, all black attire for guests—“I want classic, modern, timeless…no color, really, other than green” ([40:08]).
  • Mary Kate: Outdoor Louisiana wedding with lots of colorful flowers, music and dancing ([41:10]).
  • Sadie: Night garden, floral tennis court transformation ([41:54]).
  • Family traditions: jazz procession, flower crowns, surprises on the dance floor ([40:28], [45:55]).

6. Advice for Big vs. Small Weddings

• Big weddings: fun and energetic but can leave the couple feeling pulled in many directions ([44:02]).
  • Sadie: “We didn't even have time to eat...let’s go hide. And we ran to the wine bar and like crouched down and hid behind it...that's one of my favorite memories ever.” ([44:02])
• Small weddings: more intimate, but both perspectives agree—be intentional about private moments and time with guests ([44:53]).

7. Navigating Young Marriage and Growing Together

• Getting married young brings unique joys and challenges—immaturity can lead to “growing pains,” but shared growth is special ([26:54]).
  • Mary Kate: “Getting married young…I don’t regret doing it, but one of the pluses of waiting is saving some heartache…still had so much growth to do as people…we hurt each other, you know, in immaturity.” ([27:24])
  • Emphasis on trusting God’s timing and letting Him lead the process ([26:28]).

8. Working Together—Wedding Planning & Beyond

• Communicating expectations is essential.
  • Sadie: “Expectation without communication results in frustration.” ([48:00])
  • Make to-do lists, delegate tasks, and talk through the process ([51:07]).
• Accept that roles may differ (especially in parenting/marriage); validate, encourage, and openly acknowledge one another’s work ([49:49]).

9. Moving Away After Marriage

• Both Abby and Mary Kate moved away after marrying—bittersweet but crucial for establishing their own family dynamic ([51:47]).
  • Abby: “As hard as it was to be away from my family...it was such a perfect time for us to grow together…and establish our own relationship dynamic.” ([52:55])
  • Mary Kate: “Just because it’s hard doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be doing it.” ([52:55])
  • Sadie: “Everyone’s going to tell you it’s going to be hard…But enjoy those freedoms, enjoy that fun, enjoy being each other’s company.” ([54:37])

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On Proposals:

  • “He pulled it off. He figured out—well, one, everybody was lying to me, which I just was shocked by after. But I asked for it, so it was just funny.” — Abby ([17:37])
  • “Never apparently know what’s going on. Same with that conversation with John Luke saying, we’re never going to be anything more than friends…He literally had the ring in his pocket…He was like, ‘I am about to rock her world.’ And he did.” — Mary Kate ([21:44])

• On Roles and Expectations:

  • “Expectation without communication results in frustration.” — Sadie ([48:00])
  • "We realized our responsibilities look different and that’s okay...I don’t need Christian to do it all, but encouragement goes a long way." — Sadie ([49:49])

• On Getting Married Young:

  • “Getting married young... so much fun in that. But then the hard part…can be the growing pains.” — Mary Kate ([27:24])

• On Wedding Wisdom:

  • “Be more intentional with making sure Christian and I had our private moments so that we didn't feel so crazy pulled.” — Sadie ([44:02])
  • “That was like so beautiful. I loved every bit of it. But I wish we did take a minute to like, look out into the audience and say, ‘Look at all our people.’” — Abby ([44:53])

• On Moving for Marriage:

  • "As hard as it was to be away from my family...I was with him, so it just made it worth it." — Abby ([52:55])
  • "Just because it’s hard doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be doing it." — Mary Kate ([52:55])

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Timestamps for Key Segments

• Intro & TikTok discussion: [00:08]-[04:39]
• Abby & Will's origin story/dating: [05:33]-[08:22]
• Mary Kate & John Luke's love story: [12:24]-[15:49]
• Engagement stories: [17:37]-[23:22]
• Advice on getting married young: [25:43]-[27:47]
• Wedding dress shopping: [28:12]-[32:05]
• Wedding theme/styles: [40:08]-[41:54]
• Big vs. small weddings & memories: [44:02]-[45:55]
• Roles, expectations, and planning: [47:52]-[51:07]
• Moving after marriage: [51:47]-[55:05]

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Tone & Takeaways

Maintaining the lighthearted, honest, and faith-driven tone, the Robertson women deliver real talk—never shying away from awkward, messy, or deeply authentic moments. The episode is full of laughter (and even a few happy tears), but also offers practical advice for those preparing for marriage:

• Be intentional—both with your relationship and your memories.
• Expect growing pains, but see the joy in shared growth.
• Communicate openly about expectations and responsibilities.
• Cherish time together, especially in the early days of marriage.
• Don’t be afraid to blaze your own trail—whether that’s your proposal, your wedding, or your next chapter together.

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For anyone navigating engagement, marriage, or considering saying “I do,” this episode is a relatable, faith-filled, and wisdom-packed listen.

Transcript

[A]

What's up?

[B]

Everybody happy? Well, that's good Wednesday. I hope you're having a great week, but this is about to get so much more fun because I have my sister in laws on the podcast today, and we're going to be talking all about love, dating, engagement, marriage, all the fun things. So welcome Abby and Mary Kate to the podcast.

[A]

Thanks for having us.

[B]

This is the first time with this duo.

[A]

I know, I know.

[C]

This is fun.

[A]

It is fun about it.

[B]

Abby, what other times have you been on the podcast?

[A]

Oh, gosh, I don't know. We Will and I did something together at one point, and then I feel like that may have been it.

[B]

I was about to say, I was like, girl time.

[A]

I feel like I've watched several and Will's been in several that I've just been here to watch, but I haven't. I haven't been in actually a lot, but it feels like I have.

[B]

It feels like you have. Oh, the. Didn't we do a girls one with the, like, mom? Were you in that at one point? Maybe not.

[A]

I don't know.

[B]

Oh, my gosh. Well, welcome to your big debut. You have been taking TikTok by storm. I've been seeing a lot of people say you're their favorite Robertson. No offense to me and you, but for good reason. It's been fun. I always tell you this, but you're my favorite TikTok follow and pretty much the only one I actually follow. I follow people, but I always forget about TikTok. And then I'm like, oh, I need to go see what Will and Abby have posted. And then I get inspired and you probably are annoyed by this. And then I do all the ones that y' all did.

[A]

No, I'm not annoyed by it at all. I think it's funny.

[B]

I know. This is the only place I find my trends are Will and Abby's page.

[C]

Y' all are the trendsetters.

[B]

Y' all really are. So just follow the trends. Hey, that's okay.

[A]

We, like, put our spin on trends, but I think that's what. What everybody does.

[B]

Oh, yeah. It really is true. And y' all are good dancers, too.

[C]

Thanks.

[B]

I know. I didn't know Will had it in him.

[A]

Will does. He just needs a little bit of coaching. You just bring it out. Yeah, yeah, maybe I bring it out of it.

[B]

You have a good. You're a good coach, though, because you did dance since, like, you were, baby. Huh?

[A]

I did dance for 10 years and I did it for four or five years competitively, so.

[B]

Wow.

[A]

Yeah, so actually I just pick up.

[C]

I know you did it for a long time.

[A]

Yeah, I pick up choreography really quickly, I feel like. And I just like, know how to like, explain it because it's been explained to me for so long.

[B]

So that's helpful. Cuz that's why I ask you about the TikTok trends. Because I don't know why. Like when I'm watching it, I guess cuz it's mirrored. I have a hard time figuring out like where my body's supposed to be. And you always pick it up and you're like, no, it's just like this. I'm like, oh, okay. Mary Kate, we had our day before TikTok when we would post our dance videos to YouTube. We did.

[A]

That's bold.

[B]

It was bold. That's bold. We only did it once.

[C]

Well, Will was who made that beat for us, remember?

[A]

Oh, yeah.

[B]

I still do remember. Yeah.

[C]

Have you ever seen.

[A]

No, I know.

[B]

Is this still on YouTube? Okay, I hope.

[C]

I think it was on your Instagram.

[B]

We had to speed this thing up. But I just have to see if this is on the Internet still because I want to see better than it should.

[C]

No, it was like. It actually did. It was weird, but it was really fun.

[B]

It was really fun.

[C]

I think it was on your. You. I think you posted it. I don't even know if you can.

[B]

Oh, yeah.

[C]

Did you find it?

[B]

Oh yeah. Nine years ago. 372,000 views on YouTube.

[A]

This one. Oh, that's Will in the back.

[B]

Before there was TikTok, me and Mary Kay were vibing.

[C]

Hey, come on.

[B]

We made this scruby up.

[C]

I never laughed this hard at it though.

[B]

I always thought it was so cool. And we had our plaid skirts around our waist. Oh, no. Oh, no, no, no.

[C]

There's more. That's not me though, is it?

[B]

That's just you. That's someone I don't even. I haven't talked to her in so long. I didn't know I attached that to the backside of that video. I'm officially crying.

[C]

I keep. It seems like every time I've been on here, I end up laughing, crying.

[A]

I know.

[C]

Last time it was Rebecca, though.

[B]

Yeah. Rebecca will make you laugh till you cry. That is a shame. Because I work my butt off on this podcast and put out great content and that gets 375,000 views. Come on, give it to us. Can this podcast exceed that? That view? That is so funny. Okay, now I gotta get my mascara. I totally don't even know how I thought about that in this moment. Okay. Anyways, back to Abby actually being a really impressive choreographer on Tick Tock and the fact that we're actually gonna talk about relationships. Will and Abby. Will and Abby have become TikTok. Like, y' all are a couple people follow and love. But not everybody probably knows your origin story, how you started dating, how y' all met. So tell us a little bit about you and Will's love story.

[A]

Yeah, I feel like everybody asks us all the time, and we just, like, give the short version, but we met our junior. No, sophomore and junior year of high school as a sophomore, Will as a junior. And we are just friends for a super long time. We met in youth group, and. And we just had a blast just being friends together. We were in lots of different small groups together, and we soon realized that we were a little bit more than friends. We were crushing on each other a good bit and got together our junior and senior year, right before COVID happened. And Covid happened. And we, like, our first date, we went up to the top of a parking garage because everything was closed. We couldn't go out to eat anywhere. So we picked up food and went to the top of the parking garage and had our first date, and everything just kind of happened after that. We did long distance, which.

[C]

This is coming back to me now, because y' all dated in secret for a little bit.

[B]

Yeah, I do remember. It wasn't really secret.

[A]

Will just, like, didn't tell anybody, tell.

[C]

Anyone for, like, months.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Which.

[C]

Which it was Covid.

[B]

So it was a weird time because we see each other so often. It was like. Yeah, hold on.

[C]

I remember that. That was fun and exciting.

[B]

That was exciting.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

So when y' all were crushing on each other, who made the first, like, move to let the other one know? Like, hey, I kind of like you.

[A]

I think it was me. I honestly don't even remember really, like, the details of it, but, yeah, I think it was me. I kind of was like, do you not, like, see what's going on here? Like, what are we. What are we doing?

[B]

Sometimes I think the girl has to just, like, call it the way they're seeing it. You know, sometimes the bo. You know, I think the boy should pursue, but I think the girl can give them confidence to do the pursuing. Like, hey, I like you. I'd like to be pursued by you.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

It's funny because Will's back in the distance in this podcast studio, and I keep glancing at him, ignore. And I'm like, who made the first move? You're like, I Don't know. Will's like her. Hey, no shame in that. No shame in that at all. I love that. That's so sweet. So then, y'.

[A]

All.

[B]

How long did y' all date for before you got engaged?

[A]

We dated for, see, two and a half years. Maybe three. Yeah, I think close to three years before we got engaged.

[B]

Y' all were just, I guess, still in high school.

[A]

We were in high school, and then we did long distance for his first year of college while I finished high school. And then I moved to Lynchburg and did college at Liberty for a year. So that's already like a year and ten months. Yeah. So.

[B]

Okay, I have a funny question. I'm gonna ask you all these same questions to Mary Kay, but, like, when you look back at Yalls dating season versus how y' all are now, like, did y' all date differently? Like, were y' all more romantic? Were y' all more. Whatever? Because when I think about Bella and Jacob, it cracks me up. Just, like, think about Bell and Jacob now. Okay. Bella and Jacob went stargazing on, like, their first date. That is hilarious to me because that is, like, so not something I can see Bell and Jacob doing now, necessarily.

[C]

I don't think any would be more extreme.

[B]

I know the difference than. They were so, like, young, romantic, like, falling in love. And they're so, like, so in love, but they're. They're so funny together. And, like, kind of, like, make just, like, funny jokes about each other, towards each other, but they're, like, best friends. But I can't see them doing that, you know, and it being, like, as serious and cute as it was then. Do y' all have. Do you feel like you dated the same, or.

[A]

I feel like we're a little bit of the same, but we were way more, like, romantic and just, like, falling in love more, like, back then. Not to say things aren't romantic now, but we just, like, were more intentional with it.

[C]

Yeah.

[A]

Which is something we need to get back to.

[B]

But, yeah, it's your dating time. I feel like we were a lot more. I don't know, maybe, like, goofy in a sense together. Because when you have kids, like, there's so much you're doing that you don't create spaces to, like, just be your silly, goofy self. But, like, when we were dating, Christian and I, we went on so many car rides because we were long distance. So whenever we would drive from, like, Nashville to Auburn or Auburn, Nashville, that was, like, four hours in the car together. And we would just like, jam out, like, dance Laugh, like, just be crazy. And we haven't done that in so long. Well, recently we went to Reston. It was like right before I had Kit and. And we listened to the craziest, like, funniest throwback 2000s the whole way there and the whole way back. So like an hour and we just dance. We were laughing our heads off and we were like, gosh, we need to do this more. Like, it's so good for the soul. Sometimes you, like, forget what you did when you were dating. And it's good to remember because, hey, maybe Bella and Jacob will hear this and be like, we should go stargazing. And if you do, you're welcome. Mary Kate, tell us about how you and John Luke met. Because a lot of people know, but a lot of people don't know foreign. You know that feeling when a new year rolls around and you're like, okay, this is my year. That is exactly what Liberty University is all about. Helping you step into your purpose with confidence and faith. Liberty has been training champions for Christ for over 50 years. They offer more than 700 degree programs both on campus and online with tons of flexibility for busy people, even moms juggling all the things. And they work hard to keep tuition low and offer great scholarship opportunities. So if you've been thinking about colle got to go to college for a weekend and check it out. It's your chance to visit Liberty's campus, tour the dorms, sit in the classes and experience the Liberty life for yourself. Spring 2026 dates are February 19th through the 21st and April 9th through 11th. And being a. Well, that's good podcast listener comes with some serious perks. Liberty will waive your application fee. The college for a weekend. Registration is actually free and starting now, you could also win one of multiple scholarships in the $50,000,000 Sadie Scholarship giveaway. Hello. We actually announced this scholarship on stage during lo sister conference a couple weeks ago and we are so pumped about it, y'. All. This is just awesome. If you are looking to go to college and you have been touring other places, Liberty is incredible. I. I have just had the best experience. My siblings have had the best experience. I even got to do some online stuff with them. It was a wonderful way that they go about it, but also their in person campus is so stunning. So if you're thinking about this, now is the time to get involved. Go to Liberty Edu Sadie to enter for the $50,000 Sadie Scholarship giveaway. Plan your trip to campus and step into your future with confidence. Don't Wait, Head over to Liberty Edu. Sadie today.

[C]

Yeah, we met. I guess we were both 15, maybe at the time. 14 or 15. We were 15 at church camp, but a different camp. So you know, John Link runs Camp Tiuka now, and that's where he grew up. But this was the one summer he came to the camp I grew up at. And so we met at camp and then. But we lived in, like, two different towns and then just became friends. We were good friends that week at camp. And then a year, I went to my same school that year. And the next year I ended up at the school where y' all were. And not for him or anything, but I always, always, like, preface that. Like, we weren't. We didn't really keep in contact or anything at all. Like, I just ended up at school over there. And so we picked back up there. We started dating, I think, right before I turned 18. Yeah. So we were 17 and 18. Dated for, like, maybe six months. Got engaged, got married when we were 19.

[B]

What was yalls dating season like?

[C]

Yeah, it was interesting because I was thinking back when you were asking her who made the first move. And I was just laughing because I know you've heard this before, but John, Luke, when we were. We were very good friends for a while before we started dating. Like, a good year. We were very good friends.

[A]

And.

[C]

And I wasn't interested in being anything more than friends. And we were in the car together. We had driven to church together for, like, Wednesday night. Like, youth group. And usually my sister was in the back seat of the car, but for some reason, she wasn't there. And he, like, reaches his hand. This is just, like, out of nowhere, he just, like, reaches his hand over and grabs my hand, and I just, like, pulled it right away.

[B]

What did he say?

[C]

So I don't know. That's all I remember. I mean, it was 12 years ago, something like that. No, but literally, he reaches over, and I just slipped it out.

[B]

We just sat there. How did y' all circle back?

[C]

So then after that, I was adamant. I was like, well, if you're coming, if you're. If we're ever. If we're gonna be friends and you're going to youth group or anything with me, like, my sister, you're gonna be in the back car. So I always made sure. I was like, kelly, you have to come ride. You've got to be with us. We've got to make sure this doesn't.

[B]

Like, where was I? I was always there, too.

[C]

Back in the day, that was going to church. In Delhi, though.

[B]

Oh, okay.

[C]

So that was the only time I feel like you weren't there. So he would drive over there with us sometimes. He was trying to help with our youth group. We were trying to build up our youth group.

[B]

Okay, okay. Okay.

[C]

At the time. So that was the reasoning. Yeah. So then we ended up having. At some point, we ended up having a, you know, heart to heart. And I'm. And I told him, said, john, Luke, look, we are not dating. We are not ever going to be anything more than friends. You just need to understand that.

[B]

And he finally.

[C]

It took that for him to, like, take the hint. Well, then it was like, probably a month or two or three shortly afterwards, where I was like, well, then I was missing him when he was gone, and I was. And I remember then we talked about it, and I was like, you know, I think I do like him. I think I tried to tell myself I didn't, but I do. So then I had to humble myself. And because he had backed off at that point, so I had to circle back and be like, okay, I actually do like you. Then we had another heart to heart about that. And then we started dating. Yeah. March, Got engaged in October, got married the next June, guys.

[B]

So I remember that all, like, so clearly. I remember. Well, first, you might have not wanted to date him, because I was like, no, y' all cannot date. Because we were all, like, best friends. And I was like, john, Link, you're gonna ruin this. You're gonna ruin this. Which is so funny because Bella was the same way with me with Christian. When Bella and Christian were friends, and I went date Christian. And Bella's like, you're gonna ruin it. You're gonna ruin our friendship. Which is great because it worked out for both of us. But the fear is obviously, like, they're your friend. What if you break up? And then it's awkward?

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

But I remember, like, we would. I would spend the night at Yalls house all the time, and your mom would buy us, like, ice creams for each of us. It was the praline or whatever, and we all had, like, our names and our ice cream, and John would be coming over and ice cream for you. Like, why are you here? You know? And I could tell he was, like, crushing on you. And. But I love your point of you had to humble yourself and come back and tell him. Because I thought. I feel like girls find themselves in that situation a lot. I actually know a friend who is in that situation where the guy liked her and she didn't like him. And he had asked her out. She said no.

[C]

He.

[B]

And now she actually thinks she might like him. And she's, like, waiting on him to come around again. And I'm like, well, he feels. He. You already said no, so you're going to have to be the one this time to come back. Yeah, you got to communicate that. Because all he knows is that you don't like him. And that hasn't changed. So there does have to come a point where it's like, you admit, okay, I have feelings for you now. And it's very inspiring to anyone who's ever been in the friend zone or put someone in the friend zone that you can't get out of it. But you had to have some conversations to get out of it. That's good. Okay, let's get to the engagement. Abby, how did Will take us? Like, give us the details. This is a podcast. You can give us the details of the day.

[A]

It actually. Okay. So going into our engagement, I knew we were going to get engaged soon. I didn't know when. And I was like, will, all I want is to actually be surprised. Because I was like, I figure everything out. Nobody can ever surprise me because I'm just nosy naturally. And I was like, I just want to be surprised. And he pulled it off. He figured out, well, one, everybody was lying to me, which I just was shocked by after. But I asked for it, so it was just funny and weird. Will took me up to the top of the parking garage where we had our first date and had everything set up. Two of my best friends were in town and set everything up. And then. Yeah, that's where he popped the question. And he. I was so surprised. Yes, he. Well, he had told me that the ring wasn't ready, and he didn't know when it was going to be ready. And he did it on my birthday. And I was not expecting that on my birthday because I just was like, he probably isn't going to. He's probably not going to do anything on my birthday. But he told me we were going to dinner. And my. Which looking back, hindsight, you know, everything. My mom was like, are you sure you want to wear that? And I was like, like, mom, what is wrong with my outfit? Like, do you not like it? She was like, it's fine. Like, it was just making sure. And then my best friend hadn't talked to me all day, and I was like, it's my birthday. She's not talking to me. Like, what in the world? He had surprised me, her coming in too so, yeah, it was all a surprise. He got me good. And isn't it funny?

[B]

Like, hindsight, you're like, man, it was so obvious. But in the moment, I don't know how I. Everybody was telling me, like, how did you not know? Literally everyone came into town, and I was like, I just thought they really came for my birthday because me and Christian were having that big party. And I was like, I mean, it was a fun party. I just thought everybody was coming for the party. And I thought the same thing. I just didn't think he would do it on our birthday. When I say our birthday. Christian's birthday is June 9th. Mine's June 11th. We had our party together, and Christian had said beforehand that he did, which now I know he did this to throw me off, but he had said, like, he just wanted it to be us when he proposes. Like, he just wanted to be very private and. Which isn't normally my style. I'm more like, I want everybody to be around. But I was like, that would be really sweet. I totally get that. So we kind of agreed on that. And so I just did not think he would do it, like, when all of our friends, all of our family were here. Cause I'd just been thinking it was gonna be, like, a private moment. But he did make it private. We, like, went to the farm away from the party. And by the time we were leaving, I knew what was happening at that point, but I did not think it was happening that day.

[A]

I didn't know until he took my blindfold off that it was, like, the real deal. I thought he was surprising me with my best friend, which was a good alternative.

[B]

Oh, that's awesome.

[C]

Yeah, that was really sweet.

[A]

It was fun.

[B]

That is so sweet. Okay, Mary Kate is quite a few years ago.

[C]

I gotta think back, but I just don't think. I don't even know if y' all realize how shocking it was for me.

[B]

I remember how shocking.

[C]

Like, I don't think anyone could have been a surprise that I was and still had said yes. Like, that's how shocking like, it was. Because we had talked. I'm telling you, I just never. I never apparently know what's going on. Same with that conversation with John Luke saying, we're never going to be anything more than friends. We had talked the weekend before he proposed in the car. And I said, yeah, I feel like, you know, maybe we should. Like, I was in, Like, I wanted to marry him, but I was in, like. Did not think we were close to that.

[B]

But your parents got married Older.

[A]

Yes.

[B]

So you weren't used to, like, our family had all gotten married so young.

[C]

And I was literally 18.

[B]

Very different.

[A]

18.

[C]

And he was like my first boyfriend.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

So it was just like I told him, I said, yeah, I mean, I guess we could probably, you know, we could start talking about when we want to get married. Maybe sometime next year. And he literally had the ring in his pocket. In his pocket that day. And he said, he was like, man, I am about to rock her world. And he did.

[B]

I remember I was like, joey, did you not think, like, maybe it's not the right time? Like, when she said that? He's like, nope, no. I just thought, this is about to rock her world.

[C]

I was just absolutely, like, shocked. Even the night. I mean, even when I said yes. Well, setting the scene. It was his birthday, so same, like. And I didn't think anything about it. Cause, like, a lot of our family. Both of our families were gonna be there, and I didn't think anything about it. And I went. So all of y' all were out at the farm already.

[B]

I just. That was during day. So it started. So me and. Cause it was switch up week. Derek Huff, he was there.

[C]

So random.

[B]

Flew in because of the engagement, but it seemed like for his party.

[C]

Yeah, yeah. So we went. But we met at your parents house. And I was gonna. Everyone was already out at the farm and we were gonna ride together. And he was like, oh, I actually have something for you. And he made me, like, a family photo book of all of our pictures, which. All of our pictures being from, like, the six months we'd been that long.

[B]

Except there were a few camera. Did he put up? It was like.

[C]

Like a GoPro.

[B]

It was like a GoPro in the corner.

[C]

Yeah, I forgot we do have that. And so I was like, flipping through it, y'.

[A]

All.

[C]

I mean, I'm not thinking anything. Flipping through it. And the last picture is a ring. And then he gets down and he proposes. And I just remember thinking that moment. I'm like, I'm saying yes right now because I do want to marry you, but I'm not putting any time frame.

[B]

Well, I remember the first thing you said. You said, now. That was.

[C]

Yeah. He said, will you marry me? I was like, now?

[B]

And then you said.

[C]

I said yes. And then I said yes.

[B]

That was crazy.

[C]

It was crazy.

[B]

It was a shocker because it was like, like, Bella got married at 18. Mom and dad got married at 18. Two Mama Chibo got married at 18. Mama. Okay. And Bella, Phil were like 15 and 16. Like, we come from a line of, like, everybody getting marri at that age. So 18 didn't seem crazy, but 18 is so young. That is wild. That is crazy. And so no wonder. And y' all had just had that conversation. So okay, if it's okay for me to ask, because maybe some people feel that way. It's like a rushed process. Or maybe they feel like, whoa, I'm so young, or I know I want to marry. Is it the time yet? What did. What? Looking back, like, what would you say to someone in that scenario? By now you probably know the Robertsons are all about good food and big family meals. So between sweet potato pie and Christmas cookies, it's easy to feel like I'm living on sugar this time of the year. That's where AG1 totally saves me. It's a daily nutritional drink with a whole spectrum of micronutrients that fill those gaps. A holiday diet definitely can leave behind just one scoop and it supports steady energy with superfoods and B vitamins and gut balance with prebiotics, probiotics and enzymes. I don't have to juggle a dozen supplements or Complicated prep routine. It is all in one and seriously so simple. There's so much more time to spend making memories with loved ones and worrying about, you know, all the things that you're eating to get the right nutrition. This is just an easy thing to fit into your routine. They also have great travel packs that make it easy for holiday travel. You can put them in your purse, put in your bag. Easy to put in a water bottle, drink that and you got it for the day. If you've been listening to this podcast for a while, then you know AG1 has been a constant in our house for years now. It's such a game changer. I am not about adding complicated things into my day. Life is already complicated. You have so many things going on. So I'm like easy as possible, but also I want to feel good. I want to feel my best head to drink ag1.com whoa to get a free welcome kit with an AG1 flavor sampler and a bottle of vitamin D3 plus K2 when you first subscribe. If you've been listening to this podcast for a while too, I just wanted to say there's some updated flavors that maybe you haven't tried yet. And like I said, updated travel packs is a new gen AG1, so definitely try it again if you haven't tried in a while. There's a lot of new things that you should check out so that's drink ag1.com.

[A]

Whoa.

[C]

Yeah. I just remember thinking, like, when I said yes, I was like, I know this is the right person, and, like, we'll figure out the timing. And I just was kind of like, I feel like. I just felt like God was in it. He was in our relationship. And so I was just. My mindset was. And we. We probably picked it eight within the next 24 hours, and we picked it for the following June. And I remember thinking, okay, I feel good about John Luke. I feel good about marrying him. I feel like, God, you're gonna just pave the way, you know, for this process. And then if we're, you know, if we're not feeling ready, like, then you just push it back or you move it, like.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

I don't know. Just trusting that in the process, God was gonna.

[A]

Yep.

[C]

Bring us both to be ready for it.

[B]

It's so cool to see you now, Like, I guess. How many years later?

[C]

10.

[B]

10 years later. Like, look at the family y' all have created. Sitting here pregnant with twins like that. Y' all really did go in the journey together. You leaned into the Lord and, like, y' all have such an amazing, beautiful family that you've created from that, you know? So, yeah, it started a little bit like, whoa.

[C]

It did.

[B]

It did.

[C]

And we were talking recently about just. Just getting married young, and it's just crazy. We've been married for 10 years, and. And I. I feel like we. Getting married young, I don't have any regret of doing it, but I do think one of the pluses you could have of waiting is just saving some heartache between the two of you because there's still much. We still had so much growth to do as people, and I feel like we hurt each other, you know, in immaturity. Like, that's.

[B]

That's. Yeah, that's.

[C]

Can be the price that you pay with getting married so young. Not that I regret it at all. Wouldn't change it, but I do think in the growing that you get to do together, there's so much fun in that. But then the hard part of it can be like the growing pains.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

You feel each other's too. You know, you feel your own, but you also feel each other.

[B]

That's so real.

[C]

So, yeah, that's my only thing thinking back about getting married young.

[B]

It's really good. That's really good advice. I love that. Okay, so after the engagement, one fun thing that we have talked about for girls is picking a wedding dress. Someone actually asked, sent us the dm whenever we open up the questions for this podcast and was like, do you regret your wedding dress? Do you love your wedding dress? Still all those questions. But, Abby, how did you pick out your wedding dress? What did that day look like? And did you just know it was the one?

[A]

I did know it was the one. After trying a lot on, I am. Well, my mom had her dress, like, special made. My grandmother, like, put all the pieces together because she wanted, like, a top from one dress and a bottom from one dress and a train of one dress. And, like, she was, like, very particular on what she wanted. And I was like, oh, boy, this is just not going to be a fun experience. Like, I've done, like, homecoming dresses and prom dresses and stuff, and those were never easy for me. So I was like, like, crap, I'm just not gonna have a good time with this. And actually, your dress was one that I always, like, wanted. Like, that was my, like, ideal dress. Yes. And then you wore it.

[B]

And I was like, I've had somebody else say that to me, too. A friend of mine was like, when you walked down the aisle was like, dang. Because they had that similar dress picked out, but she ended up doing a similar one.

[A]

I was like, which I loved my dress that I picked anyways. But one of my prom dresses that I wore was, like, that cut of the top. And I was like, I want my wedding dress to be like this. And then I was like, okay, it's okay. We'll move on. We'll do it. Yeah, it was. I really loved my dress, but I. It was actually the first one I tried on at the second store, and I went and tried on all the other ones that I had picked out, and then I just reaffirmed that the first one was it. And it all worked out perfectly. We only were engaged for four. Four months, and I went dress shopping, like, day two after getting engaged. So Because I was like, you don't get a wedding dress in that fast. Like, if you have to order it, it takes months and months. So it just, like, happened to be that that dress came in right on time, and alterations were all gonna line up perfectly. And I was like, okay, good.

[B]

Wow, that's so good. Did you cry?

[A]

I teared up a good bit. I don't think. I, like, cried and was like, I love it, but that's just not my personality.

[B]

That's so sweet. Mary Kay, what about you? Yours was actually on tv.

[C]

Yeah, well, that's what I was just thinking about was we actually did it on tv, but we didn't show all of it on tv because I had. I went to Austin and I actually, like, kind of did the. Some of the design process there with Sherry Hill.

[B]

Yes.

[C]

Which was fun. It was really fun. But it was kind of crazy because I don't think I got the dress in, like, she made it. Like, we kind of combined two dresses and she made it. And I don't think I actually tried it on until like two or three weeks before the wedding.

[B]

Really?

[C]

That was the first time I tried the dress on.

[B]

Oh, my gosh.

[C]

I know. So when I look back, and at the time I was like, this feels kind of Chancey.

[B]

A little risky.

[A]

Yeah, a little bit.

[C]

And so it got altered, like the week. I probably got it back with alterations, like the week of.

[A]

Wow.

[C]

But I loved it. I'm still happy with it. Look back on it and so love it. Ten years later, I feel like.

[B]

I hope this is true. I feel like we'll always love our wedding dress because it was our wedding dress. Even when times change and styles change, it's like, it's your wedding dress. Like, when I look at mom's wedding dress, it's obviously different than the times now, but, like, it's so beautiful.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Ours was a fun story because I got in one dress shop right after Christian had, like, talked to my dad. And I knew I talked to my dad. This is before we got engaged. And I actually bought my dress before we got engaged. That was. That was Chancey. That was. That was in fake. Funny enough, though, I have had so many people say the same thing, that they got there dress before they got engaged. But I think nowadays, and maybe, like, I don't know, a lot of my friends did this, but because you have to book venues so far in advance because the dress takes so long because of that, like, you do kind of start planning the wedding a little bit even sooner than you get engaged. And I feel like so many people are embarrassed to say that, but I think a lot of people. I think more people are doing it than probably will admit.

[A]

I booked my dress appointment before we got engaged because I was like, I gotta get this ball rolling if I.

[B]

Wanna get married in the screen. You kind of talking about it and whatnot. And I knew we were hoping to get married in November because of our schedule. He was like, in school, and then his brother's baseball schedule was so crazy, so we kind of had to start talking about it earlier. And he lived in Auburn, I lived in Nashville. My parents live in Louisiana. His parents live in Florida. So to get us all together to talk about it. We all met in Nashville for, like, him to talk to my dad, our families to meet each other. And after we had that day, we were like, okay, we're pretty locked in. Like, we know where we're heading towards marriage. And I was actually about to go to New York the next week. And while we were all talking about this, his mom was like, oh, you should go to Kleinfeld's while you're there. And I was like, oh, I should do that.

[C]

Oh, my gosh. Like, we're not even engaged yet. This is kind of weird.

[B]

And she's like, oh, just go. It'd be so fun. It's like, okay. Well, then when we left the meeting, like, our meeting, it sounds weird to say a meeting, but, like, everybody meeting and hang out. Mom was like, do you want to go find a wedding dress shop here? So in Nashville, we went and, like, found a shop. It was super fun. And didn't pick any of those, but it was just fun. And then we booked an appointment at Kleinfeld's room. We were going, and I was looking at their website, and I screenshotted one dress, and it was, like, the only dress I saw that kind of. I was like, I just want to try this on. But I had no idea what I wanted. Had, like, you know, some girls are like, I know I want lace, or, I know I want this. I really wasn't sure. So I get there, I try on, like, every different type of dress, and I'm just. I never really thought I was gonna find my dress there. So I was just, like, having fun. And then before we left, I was like, do y' all have this dress? And I showed them the dress, and they said, we do, but we only have it in pink. And I was like, well, I'll just try it on and see if I like the style. And I told him I wanted to wear gloves. So they had, like, found some old, like, vintage gloves in a drawer that they had just so I could get the vision. And I had the pink dress on. They brought me flowers and a veil, and I started crying.

[C]

I was like, I forgot you wore the gloves. They were so pretty.

[B]

And so that was really cool. But what was a little bit fun about the, like, process, too, was I wasn't going to be able to get the dress till September and. Or when it was in November. So I was like. Had to just in faith, just say, like, okay, I want the white version. But there's a lot of different variations of white. So I wasn't sure what that was going to be. And then I ordered my gloves from somewhere else and I didn't know what color white the dress is going to be. And so when I ordered those gloves and we got to New York in September and I tried them on with it and they matched perfectly. It was like so fun. It's like all came together. It was so fun. That's like magical moments in life. Magical moments. So fun.

[C]

I missed that trip.

[B]

Yeah, I was just.

[C]

I miss all the trips because I always pregnant.

[B]

I was scanning. That is so funny. Cuz all my bridesmaids were there and I was like thinking about the fact that I don't remember you being there. Yeah. That's crazy because you were with Sheppy.

[C]

Yeah.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

A few weeks later. Yeah. And I was like, now I know that that was really rough to plan a wedding a month after you had a baby, because Bella did it to me and I was nine months pregnant. We met at your wedding.

[C]

Yeah, we were both pregnant at your wedding.

[B]

That was.

[C]

You were like nine months pregnant though.

[B]

I've decided, though I'd rather be nine months pregnant at a wedding than a month postpartum at a wedding. Because the nine months pregnant really wasn't bad. It was the three weeks after having honey at Bella's wedding. And let me just tell you, this is really embarrassing and funny. When we went dress shopping for Bella's.

[C]

Wedding, I remember that day.

[B]

Do you remember this day?

[C]

I do.

[B]

And we're trying on all the bridesmaid dresses and all the bridesmaids and nothing was fitting me. And it was so discouraging because I was only like four months pregnant. And I was like, oh, no. Like, this is not good. So I like secretly like start crying in the dressing room because my mom told me. She was like, hey, like, this is what you're gonna look like postpart. And it like, I just hadn't thought about that because, you know, you've never been there before. And I felt like my belly was pretty big. So like, this is what I'm gonna look like three weeks after. She's like, yeah, so you, you definitely need to find one that fits you now. And I was like, okay, so. And I just didn't. Sometimes you don't feel pretty. I just felt sad. So anyways. But I'm trying not to like, take away from the moment for Bella. Well, anyways, I order stress. And then I didn't know my mom ordered me another one that she thought was gonna work better, I think.

[A]

Yeah, we talked about it.

[B]

In the one. Okay.

[C]

Yeah, I was pregnant. Because I was pregnant, too.

[A]

We were only like.

[C]

That was with Ellen, honey. So we were only, like, three weeks apart.

[B]

Yes.

[C]

And I remembered what worked for me and your wedding postpartum.

[B]

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[C]

I do remember that now.

[B]

And I say, don't let go of me. Don't let go of me. So Christian has to, like, hug me and walk inside. I get inside, the dress just falls off me. I'm like, thank the Lord that happened after the wedding. And then mom's like, like, I actually ordered you another dress. So then I get to wear my backup dress.

[C]

It worked out.

[B]

I know. And then all the bridesmaids, like, went out for Bella's thing, and we danced to. Get in there.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

What's that song? Wobble Wobble, but yes to wobble. And I had honey strapped to me with my new bridesmaid dress. And after that, I went inside, and I literally fell asleep on the floor. Lany held honey, and I fell asleep on the fl. Floor. That was so crazy.

[A]

On the couch.

[B]

That was. We were both so postpartum. It was so fun, though. Like, we've all done it for all the weddings, and it's been really fun. Oh, gosh. Okay. So wedding. What was your wedding theme? Abby? What was Yalls kind of, like, theme? Yalls was so fun.

[A]

We did all black, or all of our guests wore black, and we just had simple as. Like, I want classic, modern, timeless. Like, just. Yeah, I didn't want any color, really, other than green, but, yeah, that's good.

[B]

The. After the wedding, the jazz thing, that was fun, and that was fun.

[A]

Yeah. Your mom actually came up with that. She was like, what if we do a second line like they do in, like, New Orleans and stuff after weddings? And I was like, weird. I was like, I don't know about that, but maybe. And then we started thinking about it more and more, and I was like, like, well, we have to get people from point A to point B. And instead of just walking over there in silence, like, let's just do it. And my brother was in band at high school, in high school, so he got some of his buddies, and that was. That was our little band.

[C]

I didn't realize that they did it. I thought, sweet.

[B]

I love that.

[C]

That was fun. That was cute.

[B]

That was really fun. Yalls theme was so your wedding was so fun.

[C]

It was fun.

[B]

What would you say the theme of it was?

[C]

I don't know.

[A]

Outside.

[C]

We were just outside Louisiana in June.

[B]

Fireworks.

[A]

Yeah.

[C]

It was just fun. It was fun. We had a lot of flowers, just a lot of band and music.

[B]

Mark Ballas performed D.C. that was fun.

[C]

And being director. Yeah.

[B]

Yeah. That was so fun.

[C]

Reed did something. It was just fun.

[B]

It was really fun. And then we had our favorite. So different and so fun in both of the farm. It was, like, modern, timeless, all black dj, like, all that. And then you also was, like, band, outdoorsy, like, very colorful. Your flowers are super colorful. You were, like, only green. That's so funny.

[C]

It was so different, all the variations that have happened at the farm.

[B]

And ours was, like, nighttime. I was thinking, like, night garden. That's what I wanted it to look like in the tennis court. And it was so fun. I l like that tennis court transformation when mom same mom had that idea and I was like, no, weird. Get married on tennis court. And then it was, like, so cool. Shout out to Mom. She had the vision.

[A]

She does.

[B]

She had the vision. All right, let's see if there's any questions that some people sent in that we want to make sure that we answer. If you could do it over again, what would you change about your wedding day? I was thinking about this. I don't think I would change this. I just would have prepared for this a little bit better. We had so many people at our wedding. It was like, a huge wedding. And I think, like, there's so much beauty to small weddings now that I had a really big wedding that I went, oh, that's fine, because it's so intimate. It's just your people. But the big wedding was so fun, and there were so many people, and there was energy, and it was fun for that reason. But I felt like Christian and I were getting pulled in every direction talking to so many people, and there were so many people from his family I hadn't met because they live in a different state. There were so many people. My family, he had met. We had met so many of our friends. So I felt like we were meeting people, like, most of the reception, which was sweet, because when else would we have really spent that time with all of our people in one place? But I feel like we we didn't even have time to eat. Like, we didn't have time to, like, sit and be like, whoa. Except for one moment, which is my One of my favorite moments of our whole wedding is we looked at each other during the whole reception, and it was so crazy. We were like, let's go hide. And we ran to the wine bar and like crouched down and hid behind it. And we were like, we just got married. And that is like one of my favorite memories ever. So I don't know that I was. Would change going from a big wedding to a small wedding, cuz there's beauty to it. But I would have been a little bit more intentional with making sure Christian and I had our private moments so that we didn't feel so crazy pulled. Like I've seen a lot of brides and grooms, like they go eat somewhere else and then come. That's a good idea. Like that's a good idea. Cuz that was a little crazy.

[A]

I feel like we were kind of the opposite. We like. I feel like we didn't really like talk to anybody really our whole wedding night. Like we kind of. Of unintentionally had like a photo line when we. After we cut our cake, we kind of got trapped in there and we talked to like a few of those people. But other than that, like, we really were locked in with one another. And even though all of our people were there, we just like were tunnel vision on each other. And I think that was like so beautiful. And I loved every bit of it. But I wish we did take a minute to like, look out into the audience and say, like, look at all of our people. Because that's really the only time that everyone that you know and love are gonna be together in one place. And I just wish we were a little more. I wish I had thought of that and was a little more intentional at like honoring the people that we love. And that's cool.

[B]

Like a different perspective because. Yeah. Cause I think there is so much beauty to all of them being the same place. But it's like that balance of having eyes for each other but also acknowledging the room.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

One thing Christian and I did in that moment was we held hands like the whole time. Even if I was talking to these people and he was talking to those people, I felt like we were together, but we were just like so many, so much going on. So. Yeah, I think those are things you don't really think about before the day. But it'd be cool for those of you who are engaged. Like think about how you and your spouse are gonna kind of like navigate that. Because there's beauty to both. Do you have anything you'd change?

[C]

Some of my flowers got messed up.

[B]

I wasn't gonna say it. I remember that.

[C]

I didn't know if you remember Nothing else. A very minor I've heard. Honestly don't care about it now, but I did.

[B]

Well, you were right after sad about it and so that was what was upsetting because you didn't match the flower crown.

[C]

Oh yeah, that was it. That was fun. It was great fun.

[A]

Such a cute flower crown though.

[C]

I really liked it.

[B]

Still like it still happened. So happy about it and it was.

[C]

Kind of a trendy thing then, but I liked it and I still like it.

[B]

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[A]

Work?

[B]

Oh Snap.

[C]

That is just a whole lifelong thing, though. That's not just a. Yeah, yeah.

[B]

In every stage. But I think this is what came to mind whenever I read that is the. The quote, expectation without communication results in frustration. If you have an expectation that your fiance or your husband or whoever is supposed to be doing something they're not doing, but you haven't communicated to them that you hope that they would help you with this or they need to be helping with this, then you can't get frustrated because they might not know that you're expecting them to do that. I think communication goes such a long way because most of the time, if you ask them to help, they'll probably be willing to help you instead of just being frustrated that they're not thinking about it. And you also have to acknowledge, I think for us in this age right now, like, parenting looks different for, like, the mom and the dad sometimes, you know, and there are just things that the mother is naturally going to do and the mother naturally has to do, like feed the baby. Like, for me, I have to be the one to wake up in the night because I'm feeding her with my own body, you know? And then I feel like I naturally comfort them more because I'm a nurturer and the mom, like, that kind of thing. There's things that Christian does that. That I'm not as good at. Like, he's the. On the ground, playing rough, getting them going, like, that kind of thing. And we also just have to be okay knowing that, like, my responsibilities look different than his and not comparing what his is to mine and just being okay that he's being the best dad, I'm being the best mom, and that's gonna look different, and the workload is gonna look a little different.

[C]

Yeah, yeah, yeah. That's what I was thinking whenever I said that about, like, that's just a lifelong. You have different. There's different roles. Different roles, different responsibilities, you know, and you can talk about it, and if you don't feel like something's fair in it. But, yeah, you know, it is. It just looks different.

[B]

A lot of it is just, to me, like, acknowledging it and seeing the other person. Like, I don't really need Christian to do it, but if he encourages me, it goes a long way. If he says, like, hey, you're doing a great job. Thanks for handling all that, or vice versa. Like, for me lately, like, mornings are so crazy, and when he helps me out with that, I'm like, hey, you.

[A]

Thank.

[B]

Thank you so much. That made it so much easier to get them ready when you did that, you know, like, seeing what each other's doing.

[C]

Yeah.

[A]

Yeah.

[C]

And I think they always. They actually want to help. Yeah. You know, you just have to communicate like, how you want them to.

[B]

What would be helpful, Abby, you got anything on that?

[A]

I was thinking back to, like, what. What we did, like, in real life. And Will, like, certain things. Kind of like a to do list of like, all the things that I wanted him to accomplish or, like, think about or. Or, you know, whatever it may be. And then all the things, like he. He kind of was like, I don't care what it looks like or anything, but I want to, like, be involved in doing so. Anything that was like, colors, flowers, tablecloths, like, signage, like, all of that stuff, I just, like, we talked about it together, and I feel like that kind of relieved, not my frustration, but just like the. Be the weight of every. Of all the wedding planning things.

[B]

So just be in on it together.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

So helpful.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Okay, let's see. I think one more that would be a good question for y' all to answer is moving across the country when we get married, but I'm sad to leave family slash home. Any advice for moving after getting married? For Christian and I, we were opposite. We had lived, you know, all over the place. And then when we got married, we lived together in Auburn. So we were away for a little bit, but then Covid hit and we were like, smack dab in the middle of family and like, quarantined together. But you guys both moved away. So what was that like right after getting married, moving away? Advice to people kind of in that.

[C]

Stage, you can go first if you have something.

[A]

I. We did long distance, basically our whole relationship. So when it was time to like, like, settle down and be together, I feel like it. That was just what it was like. We just. It didn't matter where we were or what we were doing, if we were together, it was. It was just perfect. Like, I don't know, it just is, like, what we wanted to do. So. And as hard as it was to be away from my family, because I'm. I'm a. I'm a big family girl. Like, I. I don't leave my family often. We talk every day. I was with him, so it just made it worth it. So, yeah, as hard as it was and as much as I miss my family, it was just like, such a perfect time for us to grow together away from our family and establish our own, like, relationship dynamic. Cuz we really, like, we did we never had that, like, everyday time together because we were long distance. So. So, yeah, it was. It was fun and hard, but it was so good.

[B]

It's so good.

[C]

I felt the same way. It was fun and it was hard. Like, just because it's hard doesn't mean you shouldn't be doing it. Yeah. And it's bad. You know, I think it was remembering that too. Just because it is just gonna be hard, but it doesn't mean it's bad. Yeah, it was really. It was good for us. And it was. There was a lot of fun in it too.

[B]

And I think too, like, everybody. A lot of people say, oh, the first year is the hardest or whatever. That's not true for everybody. Some scenarios, it is the hardest for us. The first year was. Was kind of the easiest. And then things have gotten harder in different ways. And like year three, that was pretty hard. Like, now we're on year six. Like, there's different years. So I think sometimes people will say, oh, that's gonna be really hard when you do that. But that might have been unique to that person's situation. And because for us, when we moved to Auburn, it was just so fun. Like, we, like you kind of said, it's like we just got married. We're so excited. We had been long distance. Like, we're together in those three months. Like, we look back at those three months, we're like, we didn't realize how fun. That even, like, it was fun. And we knew it was fun. We didn't know, like, how fun. And that that time was never going to really be given back in a sense of like, we watched movies all the time. We just did fun nights, all this stuff. Whereas now it's like, when's the last time we just sat and, like, watched a movie without, you know, getting interrupt? We can't even watch a movie right now. We have three kids. Like, it's so crazy. You would have to go to a movie. We'd sit in our bed and, like, laugh, watch movie. We had Cabo. We just got her. We were like. I was going every day while Christian went to class. I was walking outside trying to teach Cabo how to walk on a leash, which I didn't do a very good job at because that dog cannot walk in a straight line. But, like, just fun memories, you know, being together and just doing whatever we wanted because we had the time to do it.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And so when you do get married, for those listening, if you're in that. At that stage of, like, stepping into early marriage. Like, enjoy it. Everyone's gonna tell you it's gonna be hard. Yes, it's gonna be hard. Marriage hard. Life's hard. But like, enjoy those freedoms, enjoy that fun. Enjoy being each other's company, being undistracted. Really developing that relationship between the two of you outside of your family. You're now a family. Y' all have the same last name.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Let that dynamics go. Even the conversation. Conversations about the future. Like, I think about so many things. We talked about year one that now we're living in. We're walking in, dreaming about kids. Now we know their names, now we know who they are. Like, it's go time, you know, so it's so special. But this has been so fun. I loved hearing Yalls stories and recapping and thinking back. It's. It's fun because, like, we see each other's life, but then you don't know all the little details in the ins and outs. So thanks for sharing. Giving such good advice, girls.

[C]

It was so much fun.