Deleting My IG Made Me Realize I Had a Big Insecurity | Sadie Robertson Huff

Summary

WHOA That's Good Podcast: "Deleting My IG Made Me Realize I Had a Big Insecurity"

Release Date: December 18, 2024
Host: Sadie Robertson Huff

In this introspective and heartfelt episode of the "WHOA That's Good" podcast, host Sadie Robertson Huff delves deep into the theme of personal identity and the insecurities that often accompany our digital lives. Joined by her siblings—Christian Huff, John Luke Huff, and Bella Huff—the episode navigates through a nostalgic year-in-review before embarking on a profound discussion about the impact of social media on self-perception and identity.

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Year in Review: Favorites of 2024

The episode kicks off with a lighthearted recap of each family member's favorite movies, books, songs, and meals of the year. This segment not only sets a reflective tone but also showcases the diverse interests and personalities within the Huff family.

Favorite Movies

John Luke Huff shares his top pick:
"Wicked was my favorite movie of the year." ([02:39])

Despite some playful disagreements, the family highlights the unique qualities of their favorite films, with Bella Huff favoring the comedic charm of Fall Guy and Sadie Robertson expressing deep emotional connections to Possum Trot.

Favorite Books

The conversation shifts to literature, where John Luke Huff impressively lists having read 28 books this year, including the intricate Malazan Book of the Fallen series and Barbara Kingsolver's Demon Copperhead. His recommendations emphasize the profound impact these readings have had on his worldview.

Christian Huff, although admitting to reading no traditional books this year, recommends The Coddling of the American Mind, emphasizing its exploration of societal polarization. Meanwhile, Sadie Robertson discusses her engagement with religious texts and the fresh perspective offered by The Message version of the Bible.

Favorite Songs

Music preferences are diverse, with John Luke highlighting Connor Price's collaborations and Bella Huff enjoying Lorship's worship tracks like Made for More. Sadie Robertson shares her enthusiasm for Ella Worship's Walk with You, underscoring the role of music in their daily lives and spiritual journeys.

Favorite Meals

Culinary adventures take center stage as Christian Huff and Sadie Robertson recount memorable meals. A standout story involves their unforgettable lasagna experience in Italy, blending humor with family bonding over shared meals. Bella Huff also praises her sister Mary Kate's cooking prowess, celebrating family traditions and new culinary skills.

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Deep Dive: Identity and Insecurities

The heart of the episode explores the profound realization Sadie had upon deleting her Instagram account—a move that unveiled underlying insecurities tied to her online presence and identity.

Sadie's Journey

Sadie opens up about her decision to step away from social media:
"When I took it away, I realized I had left parts of my social media account that became too valuable to me and a sense of my identity tied to it." ([32:33])

She reflects on the fears and doubts that emerged, questioning her worth beyond her online following and the implications for her professional life. This introspection leads her to understand the slippery slope of allowing outward achievements and online personas to define self-worth.

John Luke's Experience with Camp Shioka

John Luke Huff shares a personal narrative about running Camp Shioka, a Christian summer camp:
"I put my whole life and identity into this thing that now I don't even know if it's going to be here next year." ([33:23])

The COVID-19 pandemic forced him to confront his identity being intertwined with the camp's success. This period of uncertainty allowed him to separate his self-worth from his professional role, enhancing his performance and personal well-being.

Bella's Academic Aspirations

Bella Huff discusses her identity challenges related to academic goals:
"My identity feels like it's wrapped up in doing what I said I was gonna do." ([43:23])

Her relentless pursuit of academic excellence and personal goals often overshadowed her sense of self, leading to stress and a fear of failure. Bella emphasizes the importance of aligning personal goals with a deeper sense of purpose beyond external achievements.

Insights and Advice

The siblings weave in wisdom from influential figures throughout the conversation:

• Jess Connolly advises against the pressure to perform perfectly in all aspects of life, encouraging a focus on authenticity over competition.
• Matt Chandler highlights the importance of orienting one's life around loving Jesus to naturally become the best version of oneself:
  "If you orient your life around loving Jesus, the best version of yourself will come to life." ([36:10])
• Priscilla Shirer emphasizes prioritizing tasks for God's glory rather than attempting to excel in everything:
  "You cannot do a thousand things to the glory of God, but you can do one or two." ([55:05])

These pieces of advice collectively underscore the episode's central theme: the necessity of grounding one's identity in intrinsic values and faith rather than external validations and accomplishments.

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Practical Takeaways

The discussion provides actionable insights for listeners grappling with similar identity issues:

• Recognize and Separate Identity from Achievements: Understand that personal worth is not solely defined by professional roles, academic success, or social media presence.
• Prioritize Inner Growth Over External Validation: Focus on personal development and spiritual alignment to cultivate a resilient sense of self.
• Embrace Vulnerability and Adaptability: Allow oneself to adapt to changing circumstances without letting external setbacks diminish self-worth.

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Closing Reflections

As the episode wraps up, Sadie expresses gratitude for the supportive community and the profound conversations that have shaped her and her listeners throughout the year. The Huffs look forward to continuing their journey of growth and meaningful dialogue in the coming year, reinforcing the podcast's mission to inspire and uplift through shared wisdom and authentic storytelling.

Quotes Highlights:

• "Take yourself out of the running. I'm not gonna make like the best of the best lunches and they're not always gonna like animals." — Jess Connolly ([51:16])
• "Only a fool thinks they can always do what they've always done." — Joyce Meyer ([36:10])
• "You cannot do a thousand things to the glory of God, but you can do one or two." — Priscilla Shirer ([55:05])

This episode stands as a testament to the transformative power of self-reflection and the importance of anchoring one's identity in unwavering values and faith.

Transcript

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[John Luke Huff]

Easy. Wicked.

[Sadie Robertson]

Really good.

[John Luke Huff]

Wicked was my favorite movie of the year.

[Christian Huff]

Me and Sandy just saw it last night.

[Sadie Robertson]

Fantastic.

[Bella Huff]

It was good. But I'm surprised that that was your favorite.

[Sadie Robertson]

It was just casually good for you, Bella.

[Bella Huff]

No, I mean it was good. I'm surprised it's John Luke's favorite.

[John Luke Huff]

Why?

[Bella Huff]

Well, I mean, we saw Gladiator 2 the same week, and I just thought.

[Christian Huff]

You were just still so sad. I'm seen that yet. I tried to go last night, but Sadie was attached to the hip with me to go see Wicked.

[John Luke Huff]

Gladiator 2. No, Wicked. Way better.

[Christian Huff]

Was way better than Gladiator, which is completely different.

[Bella Huff]

You thought that Wicked was way better than Gladiator too?

[John Luke Huff]

Yes. You didn't.

[Sadie Robertson]

What is so funny?

[John Luke Huff]

Are you crazy?

[Bella Huff]

This is the opposite.

[John Luke Huff]

Are you crazy? I like Gladiator 2. I didn't think it was a bad movie, but I thought Wicked was way better of a movie.

[Christian Huff]

And no one Wicked will win more.

[Sadie Robertson]

Awards when they all came out at the same time.

[Christian Huff]

Wicked will win more awards, though, than Gladiator 2.

[John Luke Huff]

Yeah.

[Bella Huff]

Yeah.

[Sadie Robertson]

Okay. But this is really funny. So the whole fam was going to see Moana to yesterday, all of you guys. And then we had already seen Moana too, which that was absolutely incredible, in my opinion. I really don't like all the bad reviews because I think people are just being unfair. You can't compare it to the first one because it's not the first one. It's the second one. It's not supposed to be better than the first one. It's supposed to be a follow up. There is my hard take on that criticism.

[John Luke Huff]

On my.

[Christian Huff]

No.

[Sadie Robertson]

Oh, my gosh.

[Bella Huff]

I didn't like it that much either.

[John Luke Huff]

It was okay. It was okay.

[Bella Huff]

Okay.

[John Luke Huff]

But it was not in any way astounding.

[Bella Huff]

I was so confused that you never saw the villain. And then it was in the after credits. I was like, why did we never see the villain the whole time?

[John Luke Huff]

I'm saying it now.

[Christian Huff]

Avengers with Thanos.

[John Luke Huff]

Let me just say Avengers. Moana 3 is gonna be really good. I think this entire movie was a setup for the next movie. Yeah. So I think I have hopes for the next one. But this one, my criticism, I thought.

[Christian Huff]

The Chihu, the Chu. I thought that was the best Song. The best song of the soundtrack, and it was rated the worst song.

[Sadie Robertson]

I love that song. Can I get a. Can I get a Cheehoo?

[Christian Huff]

Oh, come on, Moana.

[Bella Huff]

None of the songs stuck out to me.

[Christian Huff]

That song, that song Slap.

[Sadie Robertson]

I loved it. The whole scene of it, too. Anyways, this really just shows that everybody has a different opinion. But anyways, y'all were all going to see Moana. We'd already seen it, so I was like, oh, perfect, we'll go see Wicked, because y'all had seen that. And then Christian was like, I'm going to go see Gladiator. I was like, no. So he was going to go into Gladiator by himself, and I was going. Going to go to Wicked by myself.

[Christian Huff]

In all fairness, I thought that there's many more people in the family that were going to go with you go see Wicked.

[Sadie Robertson]

Yeah, but they had already seen it, and I was like, I just don't want to see Wicked by myself. This is just too, like. You got to talk about it with someone, you know.

[Bella Huff]

Well, our cousin went and saw it by herself last week. Caitlyn.

[Sadie Robertson]

I mean, no shame.

[Bella Huff]

She told me that she was the only person who clapped at the end of it.

[Sadie Robertson]

There's no shame for seeing a movie by yourself. I actually think it's fun to do that, too. Christian love go see movies by himself.

[Christian Huff]

Yeah. You've never done it.

[Sadie Robertson]

I don't like doing that. But you like to do.

[Christian Huff]

Yeah, I love going to movies by myself.

[Sadie Robertson]

I like to, like I have someone to talk about it with. But it was so funny because Christian's never seen a Broadway musical or Wicked, So after the first song, he looks at me. He's like, what the heck? And then he Googles how long the movie is, and he's like. Has a slight panic attack because it's like two hours, almost three hours ago.

[Bella Huff]

And I'm like, so glad because he would have ruined the experience for me because he loved it. I've never seen a Broadway musical.

[Sadie Robertson]

I did think it was great by the end. The quote, you. You said that was impressive.

[Christian Huff]

Well, I appreciate good cinematography, and I thought, like, all the scenes, like, all the dancing scenes were very impressive.

[Sadie Robertson]

It's going to win so many awards.

[Bella Huff]

It was great. But I thought Gladiator was really good, so.

[Sadie Robertson]

I agree. Wicked was amazing. Bella, what was your favorite movie you saw this year?

[Bella Huff]

Well, we talked earlier about the Fall Guy. We love the Fall Guy. It was such a good movie. I thought it was so funny. And I love the actors. I thought it Was great, and it.

[Sadie Robertson]

Made you feel good. And after, when we got in the car, we listened to that song. What was the song?

[Christian Huff]

I can't remember.

[Sadie Robertson]

Main song in Fall Guy. It's like a classic.

[Bella Huff]

Yeah, I know which one you're talking about. I can't think of it right now.

[Christian Huff]

I can hear the tune, but I can't think of the name of it.

[Sadie Robertson]

That was a funny movie date, too, because that. We were at the commons in Destin, Florida, and we. I wanted to take a little picture, so I, like, set up a selfie. We went to Smile and we got a ticket, like a warning ticket for were tiktoking in public.

[Christian Huff]

Yeah, it was real.

[Sadie Robertson]

I was not even doing. Nor did I know it was illegal to my life. It was one of the most embarrassing. I was a Christian's life.

[Christian Huff]

Me being labeled as a tiktoker was atrocious.

[John Luke Huff]

You are a tiktoker.

[Christian Huff]

I am not a tiktoker. Sadie makes me be a tiktoker sometimes. It's not my identity we're talking about.

[Sadie Robertson]

No, it's not.

[Christian Huff]

Talk about identity later.

[Sadie Robertson]

My favorite movie, though, was to see in the theaters. It was hard because, honestly, we saw so many great movies. Wicked, Fall Guy. I loved Twister. I wouldn't say it was my favorite, but it was a good movie. I thought, okay, now this one's more serious. But truly, one of my favorite movies I've ever seen in my life was Possum Trot, who we had on the podcast this year. And that movie marked me, like, no joke. I think I cried from, like 10 minutes into the end.

[Christian Huff]

So however long the movie is, you cried the whole time?

[Sadie Robertson]

I really did. I couldn't even talk to anybody after. I just had to leave. What about you?

[Christian Huff]

That movie was fantastic. This one. Y'all have all said great movies. For me, I really loved the Wild Robot movie. And it was so. We didn't. We didn't see in theaters, but we saw it at the house. And it was me, Sadie, Honey, Haven, and they all fell asleep the first, like, 45 minutes. And I finished the movie by myself. But it was just a sweet movie, had really good meaning.

[Sadie Robertson]

Then you had us watch it back.

[Christian Huff]

And then I had us. Yeah, then y'all fell asleep again. And I finished it again the second time by myself. But the third time, it was very. It hit really hard the third time.

[Sadie Robertson]

It really did.

[Christian Huff]

That's a sweet movie. If you don't have kids. I think it's still a good movie.

[John Luke Huff]

I think I haven't watched it yet, but I. I think I'm gonna love that.

[Christian Huff]

It's really good.

[John Luke Huff]

I already know I'm gonna love it and I haven't seen it yet.

[Christian Huff]

It's a tear jerker.

[Sadie Robertson]

Honestly, everyone should watch it. It is very powerful. There's a lot of life lessons in that.

[Christian Huff]

Yeah.

[Sadie Robertson]

But anywho. Okay. Favorite book you read this year? John Luke.

[John Luke Huff]

Okay. This was a really. This is a hard one for me because I read a lot of really, really, really good books this year. So I'm going to say two. What?

[Sadie Robertson]

No, I'm laughing because I know what Christian's going to say.

[Christian Huff]

This is the hardest question for you. It's the easiest question for me.

[Sadie Robertson]

It's going to be like, this is a hard one for me too, because I read no books this year. So I was just thinking about the stark contrast between you and Christian's answer to this question.

[John Luke Huff]

Yeah. Okay.

[Sadie Robertson]

I'm not laughing at you for reading that many books. I'm actually very impressed by you.

[Christian Huff]

It is very impressive.

[Bella Huff]

What's your book count?

[John Luke Huff]

Oh, like, probably 30, but 30 of.

[Sadie Robertson]

Like, books that are a thousand pages long.

[John Luke Huff]

Yeah. This year. Let me just pull up my Goodreads here. So let me check, because I. Yeah, okay. I've read 28 books.

[Christian Huff]

Oh, my gosh.

[John Luke Huff]

And I would say probably six of those were 1400ish pages. If not.

[Christian Huff]

So you've read more this year than I've read my whole life, literally.

[Sadie Robertson]

Me too.

[Christian Huff]

No, actually, for sure.

[John Luke Huff]

I wonder if it would say how many pages. No, it doesn't say that yet.

[Christian Huff]

Well, while you're looking at it, I read no books this year, so I sadly don't have an answer.

[Sadie Robertson]

It's okay, babe.

[John Luke Huff]

No books. Zero books.

[Christian Huff]

I've not read a single book this year.

[Sadie Robertson]

But did you start one? Just not finished?

[Christian Huff]

No, I didn't even start a book. I read the Bible a lot.

[Bella Huff]

Let's move on.

[Christian Huff]

I read a couple pages of that book that you got. Yeah, yeah, but that's. That's it. I've read the Bible a pretty good bit, but.

[John Luke Huff]

Oh, that's books.

[Christian Huff]

No books. Other than that, I have not read anything.

[Sadie Robertson]

Accent change to lessened attention.

[Bella Huff]

Oh, my gosh.

[Sadie Robertson]

I'm good.

[John Luke Huff]

There is no shame because you've done other stuff, though.

[Christian Huff]

That's so true.

[John Luke Huff]

You do other things.

[Christian Huff]

So true. For sure.

[John Luke Huff]

I just mostly read books. Okay, okay, okay. I've got. There are several, but I'll say two of them. Okay. The first one is a series and I'm just gonna say to Our listeners here, you're not gonna read this book. You're not gonna like this book. I'm gonna say your demographic is just. Is not this book. This is this series.

[Bella Huff]

This is not a book recommendation. This is just one I reread.

[John Luke Huff]

This is not a recommendation for a book series. This is one that I loved and has changed my life when I finished it.

[Sadie Robertson]

So if that intrigues you at all.

[John Luke Huff]

So, yes, if you're 30 years old, plus male, who is really into long, complicated books.

[Sadie Robertson]

Yeah, you lost us.

[John Luke Huff]

Yeah. It's called Malazan. Okay. It's a 10 book series. The first book is like 800 pages and it's the shortest one in the series. It took me like three years to read the whole thing, and I finished it this year and it changed my life, my whole thinking of the whole what world? And how I see things. Awesome.

[Sadie Robertson]

Is it a fantasy book?

[John Luke Huff]

Fantasy book, yeah.

[Sadie Robertson]

Fancy book.

[John Luke Huff]

And I thought it was really interesting because I. It reminded me of the Bible, which is kind of a weird thing to say, but I think if someone read that book and was not a Christian, I think they would enjoy reading the Bible. Wow. I think if you enjoy reading the Bible, I don't think you would enjoy that book necessarily. I don't think it goes the other way. But I thought it was just so intriguing and like how they set up the life of these characters and you follow these characters over 20 years and their whole. This group of people.

[Sadie Robertson]

That's cool.

[John Luke Huff]

And they live and die and all these kinds of different things.

[Sadie Robertson]

That's actually really cool.

[John Luke Huff]

Yeah, it's cool.

[Sadie Robertson]

Okay, if any of our listeners takes on the challenge to start reading this, actually let us know because that would be really cool.

[John Luke Huff]

Malazan, Book of the Fallen. That's here.

[Sadie Robertson]

What was your second favorite?

[John Luke Huff]

Second favorite. This one is a recommendation. And Demon Copperhead. So it's called Demon Copperhead by Barbara Kingsolver and she wrote the Poisonwood Bible, which I don't know if y'all have heard of that. Okay. Poisonwood Bible is one of my favorite books of all time. Anyone who even thinks they want to be a missionary or go overseas should read the Boyswood Bible. It's not pro missionary, it's actually anti. But it will open your mind to, like, what can happen and what can go wrong.

[Bella Huff]

Wow.

[John Luke Huff]

It's really fascinating as far as, like, Christianity and how it all works.

[Sadie Robertson]

Really cool.

[John Luke Huff]

Demon Copperhead, similar thing. It's about a boy who grows up in, like, goes into foster care and just kind of has a rough life. It was Just really fascinating. I listened to it on audible and it was really good. But it made me think about. It's also set in Virginia, like, an hour from where I live.

[Bella Huff]

Oh, that's cool.

[John Luke Huff]

Like, I recognize all the names, places, and everything.

[Sadie Robertson]

That's cool.

[John Luke Huff]

And it really, like, showed how terrible the foster care system is and really just like adults in general and how we in America, like, don't really take care of children very well. And. And it was sad and I laughed out loud and it was hopeful in the end.

[Christian Huff]

Has all the elements.

[John Luke Huff]

It just says everything. Yeah. I think I, like, laughed out loud reading it and also shut it here while listening.

[Sadie Robertson]

That's a good book.

[John Luke Huff]

Yeah.

[Sadie Robertson]

Do you. I don't know how Goodreads works, but can people follow you?

[John Luke Huff]

Yeah.

[Sadie Robertson]

Y'all should follow John Luke. You can tell he's a avid reader, and it's very cool to hear. Even if I don't read the books that he reads, it's really cool to hear his perspective on them and how it made him think about different things. And it's very fascinating. So if you need. If you're on Goodreads, go follow John Luke. Yeah.

[John Luke Huff]

Also, the audiobook is basically Theo Vaughan reading it. It's not the Avon, but it's like if that.

[Sadie Robertson]

That's the character.

[John Luke Huff]

That's the character that is cast, and that is the character.

[Sadie Robertson]

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[Bella Huff]

Okay. Mine is a recommendation, and it may seem like a book that you wouldn't want to read. Like, it may not sound super compelling if this isn't really your interest, but I think that it's really important for Christians to read. But it's called Saving Leonardo, a call to resist the secular assault on mind, morals, and meaning.

[Sadie Robertson]

Whoa.

[Bella Huff]

And it's all about just how secularism has taken over the world of art. So it kind of gives like a. There's one chapter that's literally called Crash Course on Art and Worldview. It's by Nancy Pearcey. She's, like, a theologian and philosopher, and she. I want to say she studied under Francis Schaer, who's an amazing author. If you haven't read his book Art in the Bible or Escape from Reason, must read. They're like, this big, too. So they're super easy reads, but they're really good about just like, Art and Worldview and how secularism is impacting our culture and impacting the art and how kind of the arts is impacting culture, and the culture is impacting the arts and how important it is that biblical art not cease to exist. So secular assault. I mean, Saving Leonardo is a must read. Saving Leonardo, inspired.

[John Luke Huff]

Okay, I'm gonna read it.

[Sadie Robertson]

You know how y'all used to say that I got 99% of the athletic ability and y'all split the one. Do you remember y'all? You say that in high school still true. Well, y'all got 99% of the, like, reading and academic skills, and I got one. It's like, y'all are so mom and I'm so Dad, so I'm sitting Here, I'm like, y'all read those books in your free time. Oh, my gosh.

[Bella Huff]

To be fair, I am writing something for school on this topic, so I was reading it for.

[Sadie Robertson]

You're passionate about that. Yeah, but thanks for the grace.

[Bella Huff]

So I would have read it. I mean, it was amazing.

[John Luke Huff]

You're glad you're. You're glad you had to read it?

[Bella Huff]

I'm so glad I did. Well, it was my topic that I chose, so, yes, I'm using it as a resource for school.

[Sadie Robertson]

But that's cool. That's a good recommendation. I actually did not finish any books this year, which is really sad because last year I finished 10, which was really big for me, but I didn't have social media, and so that really showed me. Or that was the year before, actually, man, I've been behind because I was pregnant with. Haven't. No, that was last year. I finished 10 books last year, but I was off social media a lot. So that really shows me. When I'm off social media, I read. But, like, that's what I fill my time with. So I gotta get back into that because I started a lot of great books this year. Like the one that we're reading that you mentioned reading some of it. It is so good, but it's talking about. It's called the Christian and Complete Armor. And I'm reading Volume two. It's taking me a long time to read it because it's like, every chapter, not even chapter, every paragraph is, like, so richly deep. So I keep, like, starting to read it, and then I, like, start thinking about what that one thing said for a long time. It's kind of one you have to meditate on. But I also started reading the message version of the Bible, which has been really fun because I feel like I obviously love to read the Bible, but sometimes I get stuck in the rut of, like, oh, I've read that before. But changing the translation, even though this is not like an official translation, it's more of a version, has, like, brought a fresh excitement. So that's been really fun. I've been really into the story of Jonah John. We need to talk about that later. But I've been super into the story of Jonah, and when I read it with the message version, it, like, just made me so excited about that story in a new way. So that was really cool.

[Christian Huff]

So even though I have not read any books this year, I can still give a recommendation. But the. The Coddling of the American Mind is a book that I always recommend to people and it's just about how if you look at, like, the last couple decades in our country, like, the more that you coddle something, you know, the. Like, the more likely it is to. To not really form certain resistances to certain things, which I think is why, you know, we can be so polarizing, whether it's political climates of stuff or, you know, religion and those kind of things. So it talks about how, like, the. Like the. The less that you resist something maybe that you disagree with, you know, the more, like, likely you aren't even to, like, you're. The less likely that you are to even be interested in that viewpoint. So it's a very interesting book. So go check it out.

[Sadie Robertson]

Yeah, you love that book, but I've.

[Christian Huff]

Not read anything this year, so it's okay.

[John Luke Huff]

Next year I have that book, but I haven't read it. So I'm glad you brought it. Yeah, I brought that up.

[Christian Huff]

You'll be really interested.

[Sadie Robertson]

Recommendation. Okay, so I have two more favorites, but we are spending so much time on this. We also have a whole lot of this whole year's advice to give. But favorite song that. Well, I guess it doesn't have to be one you heard this year, but what was your favorite song this year?

[John Luke Huff]

Okay, I can't really think of a favorite song. And I don't really listen to music, like, that much because I'm usually, like. I listen to audiobooks, but my favorite artist of the year was Connor Price. He's got a lot of really good, really good songs. He just did a collab with Maverick C Music.

[Sadie Robertson]

I saw that.

[Christian Huff]

The song is so good.

[John Luke Huff]

It's so good.

[Christian Huff]

I think I listened to that song, like, 10 times during my workout today.

[John Luke Huff]

Yeah, I really like him.

[Christian Huff]

I listen to it every day.

[Sadie Robertson]

That's so cool. B.

[Bella Huff]

Mine was Made for More by Lorship. Well, the Worship version.

[Sadie Robertson]

Yeah.

[Bella Huff]

Yeah. And then I actually loved the song. Thank you so much, Jesus. And that was good.

[Sadie Robertson]

Yeah.

[Bella Huff]

Aiden King and Paul Klein.

[Sadie Robertson]

That was good. Yeah, I love that. Mine was all of all of a sudden, elevation. Oh, my gosh. I listened to that every time I woke up early this morning to, like, have my study time. That was the first song I turned on because it was, like, on my YouTube recommendations. And then after it wasn't even on my top YouTube recommendation. I would, like, type it in because it was, like, got my day started off so good. I love that song. And then I thought, Ella Worship's Walk with you was so good this year, so powerful and made for more. I just thought that Whole EP was so good. And we listened to so much kid music on my phone, honestly. And I have them in the car most of the time. But they love Ella Worship, so that's really been fun because Honey and Haven actually love those songs.

[Christian Huff]

Yep.

[Sadie Robertson]

Yeah.

[Christian Huff]

I was gonna say Made for More by Josh Baldwin or the Connor Price song you're talking about I Need Help or One side of youf by Ella Worship.

[Sadie Robertson]

Good stuff.

[Christian Huff]

There's my top three faves.

[Sadie Robertson]

Good stuff.

[Christian Huff]

Unlike John Luke, I listen to a ton of music.

[John Luke Huff]

Yeah.

[Christian Huff]

I don't ever read books, so it's okay.

[Sadie Robertson]

Next year you're going to snip, snap.

[Bella Huff]

Snip, snap.

[John Luke Huff]

I like the. The Walker Hayes collab, though, with Connor Price. Smoke. That was my.

[Christian Huff]

I haven't heard that one. Is it good?

[John Luke Huff]

It's good. It's funny. It's just funny.

[Sadie Robertson]

I'll have to listen. I haven't listened to a lot of his. It was funny, though, because I was like, I think it's just this season of Life. I don't listen to a lot of music because so much of my car time is listening to kid music. And as I said last year, my. It was hilarious. My Spotify thing, it was like, me in the morning and Me in the evening. That was how they did it. And it said me in the morning. And the morning song was Shiny. And then Me in the afternoon was Scuttlebutt. Bella said, my brain would fry. That's what I listened to in the morning, afternoon. I was like, you're listening to that?

[Christian Huff]

Bella's reading, like, theological.

[Sadie Robertson]

Thank you.

[Christian Huff]

Depression of our country with secularism.

[Sadie Robertson]

Depression of our country.

[Bella Huff]

It wasn't depression.

[Christian Huff]

You get what I'm saying?

[Bella Huff]

Yeah.

[Sadie Robertson]

Yeah. Okay, last fun question and recommendation for the people listening. What was your favorite meal you either made this year or ate this year?

[Christian Huff]

I have slim pickings on what I made.

[Sadie Robertson]

That's why I included the. Or ate. That was for you.

[Christian Huff]

Well, it was my idea. You just happened to make it the deer sausage with Alfredo pasta.

[Sadie Robertson]

Yeah, that was good.

[Christian Huff]

Was my favorite meal.

[Sadie Robertson]

That was very good.

[Christian Huff]

And with all due respect, I did make it one time when you were gone, so.

[Sadie Robertson]

You did, but you used the freezer version. I made the sauce homemade. Thank you.

[Bella Huff]

Okay. I have one that I think we share, but I think you may forget about it and you can decide if you want to tell the full story or not. But the lasagna we had in Italy that we got seconds of.

[Sadie Robertson]

Oh, we have to hear that. You have to say it. That was so funny.

[Bella Huff]

Okay. So when we were in Italy this summer, me and Sadie went to this restaurant with our who. With our whole family. And me and Sadie got something else. We, like, got something.

[Sadie Robertson]

We had already ordered the lasagna somewhere else. So that night.

[Bella Huff]

So we got some other kind of pasta, and our brother Will got lasagna. Me and Sadie took a bite of his lasagna, and we were like, oh, my gosh. We were like, this is the best lasagna we've ever eaten. And so we were like. We ate all of our meal, and.

[Sadie Robertson]

Then we decided we had dessert.

[Bella Huff]

Yeah, then we had dessert, and then we decided we couldn't in there. We had to order another lasagna. So we ordered another lasagna to take home. But Sadie could not own up to the fact that she was gonna eat a second meal. So she told the waiter that we had someone at home that we were bringing this lasagna to, and it was for us. She was like, we have somebody waiting back at the room.

[Sadie Robertson]

I was thinking, we need to make orders.

[Bella Huff]

It's her future self.

[John Luke Huff]

Could you imagine if it's.

[Sadie Robertson]

So Will said, you don't got nobody waiting at the room. I said, I got my future self back in the room.

[Bella Huff]

So we got home, and we ate the lasagna the second we walked in the door.

[Sadie Robertson]

That was so funny. Which, actually, dad was home, but I wasn't bringing it to him.

[Bella Huff]

That was the best.

[Sadie Robertson]

It was the best.

[Bella Huff]

That was the best meal.

[Sadie Robertson]

I have no regrets about ordering a second meal. I do regret lying, but it was funny. We cried, laughing.

[Bella Huff]

We were laughing so hard. The guy was like, okay. And then everyone looked at us like, who are you bringing this to?

[Sadie Robertson]

That came to me quite as in my future.

[John Luke Huff]

That is so funny.

[Sadie Robertson]

And it was so good. It doesn't matter at all. I know. It doesn't matter why I do it.

[Bella Huff]

The waiter would never have cared that we were eating it again.

[Christian Huff]

You might be listening to this episode.

[John Luke Huff]

Yeah. That Italian waiter was like, she lied to me.

[Sadie Robertson]

I knew it was for her. Well, yeah, that. Okay. Yes. That was the favorite meal I ate this year for sure. It tasted better even ordering it to go because it was so funny. The whole memory. My other favorite thing I made this year was I learned to make Dad's French fries. And I was really happy about that because, one, just carrying on a tradition from dad, and two, they're really good. So I'm glad to know how to do that now. And Mary Kate started doing it, too.

[John Luke Huff]

Yeah, I. I don't have, like, a Specific favorite Just a big shout out to Mary Kate because she's cooked most of the meals this year and she started making the fries, which have been awesome. She made an Alfredo thing this year that was really good. She's been mostly cooking. It's been really good.

[Sadie Robertson]

Mary Kate's crushed the cooking game. Mary Kate's a good insta follow if you don't for cooking and stuff like that. Getting proper rest makes a huge difference in the quality of our sleep, so I'm very thankful I got my Helix mattress at home. Christian and I took the Helix Sleep Quiz and it matched us with the Helix Midnight mattress because it's not too firm, not too soft, and it's designed for side sleepers like us. And you might be nervous to buy a mattress online, but you don't have to be because the Helix Sleep Quiz takes into account all of your personal sleep preferences and it's going to make sure it matches you to a mattress perfect for you. Plus you'll get trial so you can be sure that this mattress is perfect for you. Since getting our Helix Sleep three years ago, we legit have the best sleep in it. We love our Helix so much and we even got one for honey for her bed whenever she moved to her big girl bed. Whenever we're on the road, traveling or on vacation, we definitely look forward to coming home to our own bed. Hotel mattresses just don't even come close to the comfort of a Helix mattress. We love it. Like I said, it takes into account your personal sleep preferences. Christian and I both like to sleep on our sides, not to mention we have kids in the bed and all the different things that would be prone to body aches. But I really do feel like we have the best sleep, best energy when we wake up because our mattress is so nice. So if you've been thinking about leveling up your sleep game, now is the time to do so right now. You can get 20% off plus two free pillows with any mattress purchase. So go to helix sleep.com sadie that's helixleep.com sadie to get 20% off plus two free pillows. Let's move on to some of the advice that we've gotten on this podcast this year. Which y'all we have gotten so much good advice. Like Truly always say this. I'm a better person because of this podcast because I get to listen to all these incredible conversations that people have so much of their advice, so many books people have written. It's incredible. But I'm going to throw it back to just Some of the ones that have stuck out to me at the beginning this year, I had a friend on. Her name's D. Kisser, and she's amazing. She's actually been on twice. And she came on to tell a really cool God story. But one of her best pieces of advice was not to make your identity around what you do, because at the time, she was, like, a Paralympic athlete and ended up not getting to compete that year and just realized how much her identity was really wrapped around her being an athlete. Which I wanted to bring that back up because I think that is so common for so many people to just accidentally let your identity slip into what you do. And I really kind of came to terms with that in my own life earlier this year because, like I mentioned a couple years ago, I took time off social media. And, you know, it wasn't. Didn't really affect me that much in any negative way. It was only positive because I was having a baby that year. I was focusing on a lot of things. But then I went to take time off this year, and it was interesting. Just in a new season, I realized how I had so many fears around deleting it, which was just weird because I don't feel like I did as much the first time, but I had so many fears around it. Like, I guess I just didn't realize how much I had left, that parts of my social media account become just too valuable to me and, like, even a sense of my identity thinking, like, am I worth as much to people to come speak at their conference if I don't have, like, a large following to promote it? Is it really because of, like, they believe that my message is powerful, or do they think that I can just, like, bring a crowd? And I know that's, like, silly, but those were, like, deep insecurities. I didn't realize I had or had let that become a part of my identity until I took it away. And I think that's the thing with, like, letting what you do become your identity. It's never like. I don't think it's ever, like, an intentional thing that you do. I think it's kind of like a slippery slope where if you're not, like, rooting yourself in Christ or rooting yourselves in truly who you are, then you accidentally attach outward things to who you are and the value of who you are. And it's not until those things are taken away that you realize the impact that it has. And so that's what made me realize I do need to take it away. Way to really get back to a healthy spot with it. And it's one of those things where if you were to say to me before deleting that, do you think your identity is in your social media? I'd be like, no, not at all. I don't care. But then like when it came to it, I was like, oh, I guess I do. Because I immediately went to the fear of man. What are my partnerships going to think? What is an agency going to think? What are people on social media? Am I going to be irrelevant when I come back and like all these insecurities that I would not have guessed I had had it not been taken. And so I think, you know, not everybody has the opportunity to like delete social media because that's not your thing. Maybe it's wrapped up in like a job that's a good job, but you've just gotten into an unhealthy place with or a sport that's a good sport and a good thing. But so it's not like you just get out of it. It's not like you just quit. But I do think you need to get a healthy viewpoint in it. So that was my own personal experience of that. But does anybody else have a time in Yalls life that you felt like, like your identity got attached to what you were doing?

[John Luke Huff]

Yeah, I actually do. So for me it was Camp Chioka. So I run Camp Shioka. It's a summer camp, like Christian summer camp for kids. And I started as like full time director in 20, at the end of 2018, so 2018, 2019 summers. And I was like, this is like I am like the camp guy. And like through my everything into it, everyone knew me as that. Like that was my whole thing. And then Covid happened and then it was like at the time we had to close down and it was like, are we ever going to open back up? Like, what is this going to look like? And it really like shook me to my core because it was like I've put my whole life and identity and everything into this thing that now I don't even know if it's going to be here next year, you know. And so it took a long time to like understand how my identity was wrapped up in that and to like free myself from the pressure I was putting on myself to like make this thing happen.

[Sadie Robertson]

Yeah.

[John Luke Huff]

And now looking back I realize like this past year with camp, I was such a better camp director. I thought I did better. I feel like everyone like just, you know, comments, people said I feel like I was Such a better camp director because I didn't have the pressure to perform anymore. It was just, like, I could just naturally be myself, do what I think is right for the camp and for myself and for what I'm doing with a lot more freedom. Whereas before, when it was wrapped in my identity, if there was, like, a failure, it was on you, it was on me. I would take it personally.

[Sadie Robertson]

Yeah.

[John Luke Huff]

Yeah.

[Sadie Robertson]

That is so true. That's so good. And to the point of, like, Covid stripped it away so you had no other choice but to be away from it. But then you came back strong because you worked on yourself. Right, Bella, did you have something to add to that?

[Bella Huff]

Yeah, I was gonna say I, like, have totally experienced that, too. And I think for me, it's still been a lot of, like, my identity gets wrapped up in, like, what I accomplish, you know? Like. Like, for me, I'm just such, like, a goals person. Like, I want to graduate undergrad now. I want to graduate grad school. I wanted to go to Oxford. And it's like, I have all these different things I want to do. And while I'm working towards that thing, it's all about my whole life and identity is focused on working towards the next goal, you know? And then when it gets to be too much or if I'm too stressed, it's like, it all comes back on me. Like, oh, my gosh. Like, my identity feels like it's going away if, like, I make a bad grade. And, like, that's just what, like, is important to me is, like, you know, finishing grad school on time or finishing undergrad early or whatever, and all these goals that I've set for myself that no one's setting for me or no one's making me do. But sometimes it can feel like my whole identity is wrapped up in, like, doing what I said I was gonna do. Yeah. And sometimes I could just be, like, so laser focused on what I want to do and not as much. Like, like, you know, what really is happening in my life and, like, reality of, like, what God has for me. Sometimes, like, you know, things come up that you don't expect, and, yeah, you have to pivot. You have to change. Or, like, God put something in your lap or, like, a door opens that you need to walk through. But, like, if I said I was going to do this, then sometimes I can get so sidetracked on, Like, I don't want to. I don't want to pivot. I don't want to change my plan. Like, I. My plan was to do this. And so I can totally, you know, relate to that.

[Sadie Robertson]

That makes me think of another piece of advice we got from Joyce Meyer, and she said, only a fool thinks they can always do what they've always done. And her point was sometimes, like, you think, oh, because I've always done this, I can just always do this. But, like, you can't just keep doing, always doing the same thing. Because, like, say, like, for a mom, for example, like, I'm working, working, working, and then I have a baby, and it's like, if I don't stop and I keep working at the same pace I was just working and added a baby, then, like. Like, something's gonna fall. Something's like, you have to adjust, you know? And sometimes we do that with our plants. Like, we have to do this. We have to do this. And it's like, life happens sometimes where you need to readjust. You need to sit back and be like, maybe this isn't smart in the season. Maybe I need to slow down. But because of our goals or our identity wrapped into it, we, like, bulldoze through it. And then that's when you end up, like, burnt out, or you end up just being, like, taking on more than you can bear or not finding the joy and getting to accomplish the things. Like, you know you did it, but did you have joy in it? Did you really learn from it? Did you experience it? And it makes me think of one more thing, too. Matt Chandler said this year, he said, if you would just orient your life around loving Jesus, and the best version of yourself will come to life. So instead of sharpening skills and gifts, which is still a good thing, but ultimately, if your heart is fully alive in Jesus, is when you're going to be the best version of you. The best dad, the best preacher, the best friend, the best husband. I thought that was really good. It's like, if you focus on trying to do, like, the skills and stuff, then you might, like, lose the joy in it. But if you focus on loving Jesus and being the best version of yourself in that, then the other things will come naturally and follow. It's like when you went back into camp and weren't focusing on, like, your performance and your pressure, but just, like, your love for the Lord and your love for people, then your performance actually got better and you enjoyed it more because you didn't have that pressure, which I thought was just really good advice. Christian, do you have anything?

[Christian Huff]

No. That was really good. I. I love that Matt Chandler quote. I feel like, for me, and this might not really make any sense. But I feel like for most of my life I've never really had like the self like intra perspective of like finding my identity or something in like a way. Like throughout high school I guess I played baseball, but I'd never like was like internally was like I'm finding my identity in this, you know. Then like post college I just. Because I kind of hit the same wall with whenever covet hit of like graduating and kind of figure out what I was going to do. But I feel like I never was like thinking I, I was finding my identity in college the last couple years. So I don't know. I don't really know what I'm trying to say other than like I've had moments of. Yeah, I feel like people maybe trying to label you as something and I, and I can feel like sometimes I found my identity in like working out and being in good shape. But. But I don't, I don't, I just don't think about that more than I do of like just following Jesus or.

[Sadie Robertson]

Like I feel like it's one of those things again where it's like if you take it away, like you would probably realize, oh man, like this is hard, you know, if you're not constantly like in the word or rooting yourself in Christ, like with your workout stuff, you know, like sometimes you'll take a week off and it's like a challenge for you, but you do it because like I feel like you're, you're keeping yourself in the right place with it.

[Christian Huff]

So would you equate like I like idolizing something would be the same thing as like finding your identity or something?

[Sadie Robertson]

Well, I think it's like for instance, like because. And not that you put this on yourself, but because so many people know you as the fitness guy and like talk about you being so strong and stuff like that. Like if something happened you weren't able to work out, you twisted your ankle that you probably still work out if you twist your ankle, you pulled your 2 or your ACL, you had to have surgery like and you got a little bit out of shape, would. I think that's when you realize like if your identity was attached to it or not based off like how you cope with your view of yourself without that thing being so prominent in your life, you know, I just feel like.

[Christian Huff]

I always have so many thoughts going through my head. Like finding my identity in something is usually like not one that I'm like overly thinking about.

[Sadie Robertson]

Well, I think that's the thing. Like I'm not thinking about that either. But you don't think about it until it's taken away. Typically, you know, like, I would not have thought my identity was wrapped up in social media at all. Because to be honest, comparatively to a lot of influencers on social media, I don't put it that high on the list. Like, I'm not really on my phone all the time. The only social media I even really look at is Instagram. Like, I more than half the time don't even have TikTok downloaded. More than half the time I actually don't have Twitter X or anything like that. I randomly get on my private Facebook to post like a photo dump for my friends. Like, so I would not have thought that until all of a sudden I take it away and I'm like, ooh, what is that insecurity? Like, why do I think I'm going to be less valuable to people because I don't have that to offer. And then not that like my whole identity was wrapped in it, but it just made me realize I find some sense of comfort in that, being attached to me, you know? Yeah, becoming a mom is a huge life change. But one thing that never changes about being a mom is becoming a total pro when it comes to diapers. That's why I want to tell you about EveryLife, the fastest growing diaper company in America and the only diaper company that believes every baby is a true blessing. So whether planned or unplanned, EveryLife understands that all babies are worthy of protection and love. EveryLife has an incredible mission and they back it up with premium products. EveryLife's diapers are soft, high performing and don't include any fragrances, lotions, dyes, latex or any other shady additives. Their 12 hour leak protection means both you and your baby can rest easier. Plus they're delivered right to your door, making it so easy. And EveryLife is now offering soaps and lotions made just for your little one. They are dermatologists and clinically tested and made without fragrances, parabens and thylates. EveryLife's 2 in 1 Shampoo and Baby wash as well as their face and body baby lotion will keep your baby's skin soft and clean. All their baby care products are made in the USA so mamas can feel confident in the safety and quality on your baby's skin, which my girls have very sensitive skin. And so I was nervous to, you know, switch to a different brand. But I loved every life's mission. But as soon as I switched, I was Pleasantly surprised. They had no redness, no breakout, nothing. Because they really do use high quality and very safe products. And I love that. So visit everylife.com that's everylife.com use the promo code whoa. To get 10 off your first order everylife.com using the promo code whoa. Wha. To save 10 off your first order today.

[Bella Huff]

I'll say I feel like, for me, I realize it when, if I get behind on school, work or something, it's like, my stress is not really attached to being behind because I know I'll finish. It's more attached to, like, what would someone think if I didn't have a good grade? Or what would someone think if I was late or if I graduated later than I said I would? Or what would someone think if, like, like I didn't graduate, you know, or something like that? I don't know.

[Sadie Robertson]

I agree. It's more of the fear of man. It's like, why am I thinking, why am I insecure about what someone would think with me not having that?

[John Luke Huff]

It's, I think it's, it's not just the fear of man, but your, your view on who fails if something fails. Like, if I took a test and I failed. If my identity was wrapped up in the test, I might say, like, I failed the test or my business didn't make it, like, it failed. But if my identity is wrapped onto it, I would say, I wouldn't say I failed the test. I would say, I'm a failure. Yeah, I am a failure. Yeah, like, that failing that means I am a failure. Not like, okay, I failed that. I need to work harder. I can, like, do this. Like, it doesn't crush me. I don't think I'm a failure. I might think, oh, overall, like, I know I'm going to finish. I'm like, I can still be confident myself, even in mistakes. Whereas if your identity is wrapped into it, whenever the external thing fails, you also fail. Like your, your confidence is shot because you're wrapped up in accomplishing that goal or not.

[Sadie Robertson]

That's so true.

[Christian Huff]

I feel like that's newer language though, like, because I feel like if you were to talk to like, Mama Joe, I don't know if, if she would be like, I found my identity.

[Sadie Robertson]

And, well, I think people in older generations would also admit, like, you find your identity in being a mom. You know, like, if your kids don' the right thing, then you feel like I'm a failure as a mom. And sometimes that's not true. Sometimes, like, your kids have to make Their own decisions too. So you do the best you can. But like, I. I do think that. I mean, we'll have to ask two mamas sometimes. There are generational things, I think, like New age things are. Like when we talk about burnout and stuff like that. Like, Mama Joe wouldn't have said that, you know, because you wouldn't even consider that. You can't think like that. They're in a war. You have to. You have to do what you have to do for your country, for your family, for your people. Like, they just didn't. They, I think, are a little bit more. They weren't as in touch with their feelings as much as we are, as much as we talk about them. Because it's so advocated now to talk about it. Counseling is such a big thing. Sharing your emotions, all of those different things. But I do think identity is like a lifelong thing. I mean, we talk about identity in the Bible, you know, about, like.

[Christian Huff]

No, no, I'm just meaning, like, just the term, like, finding my identity in this, like, it seems like a newer phrase kind of thing. Because I don't.

[Sadie Robertson]

I doubt with identity. But that's interesting.

[Christian Huff]

Well, because I. I feel like in a way, I try to separate, like, idolizing something versus, like, finding my identity in it. Because I think, I think, you know, like, all of us, I think we all struggle with, like, idolizing something, whether it's, you know, followers or something financial or parenting. Like, like, because all that means is just thinking of something more than God. So I feel like sometimes I think about that, you know, but then it's. It's a. It's a two way, you know, it's a flip side of the coin. And I feel like I think of the idolizing part more than, like, am I finding my identity in this? Like, I feel like sometimes I can idolize fitness, but I don't necessarily equate that to, like, finding my identity in it, if that makes sense.

[John Luke Huff]

Yeah, I don't think they're synonymous, but I think you're like. I think you might just be right. Like, you might just not struggle with it. Yeah. And I think that's good.

[Sadie Robertson]

Yeah, I think it's like an interesting thing that you might just. I mean, you might just not struggle with it, and that's amazing. But, like, it might be one of those things where, like, you haven't not been the fitness guy, you know, so it's like, if you, like, again, for you, you would never not be because you love that and you're disciplined and that's what you love. But like, if no one ever complimented you ever again on your fitness or your strength or anything like that, would it bother you? Like, those would be the questions that.

[Christian Huff]

You asked, I don't think.

[Sadie Robertson]

But then, then you must be really strong in it. You are strong in your identity. Because I remember when we got married and someone said to you, like, you know, you're, you don't want your identity to be Sadie Robertson's husband. And it really bothered you and you were like, it's not. Like that's not my identity. And I feel like it really wasn't to you, it didn't bother you. But to some people, like, like, it might, that might have been hard, but you are secure in who you are.

[Christian Huff]

Yeah. Yeah. I feel like they, they can be synonymous. I just feel like I try to like, just group them differently of like sometimes I idolize this, but it's like I just don't feel like it goes as far to being like, I find my identity in it. I don't know, it's.

[Bella Huff]

Well, I think they're. And they can't and they cannot be for some people. Like, for me, I think that I can find my identity, identity and academics because I idolize having, having that. You know, it's like, it's certain. Yeah, it's, it's a goal that I want to get to and I idolize that goal. So therein I find my identity in it because that's the goal I idolize.

[Sadie Robertson]

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[John Luke Huff]

Yeah, I think they're really close. And it can be both. I think, like, for me with camp, like I was saying before, if camp, when camp was closing, it was like. Like, I am closing. It was like, what I have no. I'm just staring into the abyss. I have no direction, no future. Like, everything is in camp. Whereas now, if Covid happened again or something happened, camp shut down tomorrow, I would be sad, but I would say.

[Sadie Robertson]

Take away from me.

[John Luke Huff]

It wouldn't take away from me. I would say, like, okay, I did every. Like, I can keep going. We'll do something else. Like, it wasn't it. It doesn't affect my confidence in myself.

[Sadie Robertson]

Yeah.

[John Luke Huff]

Because I don't find my identity in that anymore.

[Sadie Robertson]

I think that's really good. I think for me, like, it's not as big as I think when you think about identity, you think about, like, that's all encompassing as to who you are. That's not what I mean by even social media, that it hadn't taken over, it hadn't become that big. It was just a heart check of, like, that's too much value. But also I think it's like if you strip it all away and you walk into a room, no one knows who you are. No one knows any accomplishments you've ever done. No one. Are you you confident to stand there as you are in Christ and just be. I think we all should be at a place in our life or seek to be a place where, yes, like, we don't need anyone to know what we've done. You don't need anyone to know even your name other than, like, you're a human that loves them, you know? So it's like just taking away anything that, like, you've done. Becoming a part of who you are and needing anyone to know that you know.

[John Luke Huff]

And I think in yourself, like, you don't. Not if people see it or not. I mean, like with Bella, like, with your, like, academics and studies, like, people may never know anything about you, but you still want to accomplish it in your own heart. And so it doesn't just have to be external, it can also be within You.

[Sadie Robertson]

I think that's so true because to all of these things, fitness, doing social things, you know, all of the academics, camp, it's what we love. So, yes, that comes into it because it's what we genuinely love. It's what we do, it's what we spend time doing. But it's like, just so. Yes. Keep it in a healthy spot that just can't become who you are, what you depend on, and what you need people to know about you. I think this is that. That became a deep identity talk. That was good. Good identity talk. I did preach a message on passion about identity, too, a couple years ago. What was that, 2021. That might be a helpful resource for people to watch.

[Christian Huff]

I just feel like sometimes there's things you can idolize that it's not like you're putting your identity in it. So I don't know, I just feel like there's nuances.

[Sadie Robertson]

Well, this generation definitely does attach a lot of things to their identity, so that was a really good talk. Okay, y'all. We went so deep on identity that that took up most of our time. But I will say just a couple more great quotes from the year. Jess Connolly was one of my favorite podcasts, and actually so cool because probably one of the most shared podcasts of this year, besides Joyce Meyer, was a really one that was shared a lot. A couple ones in my family were shared a lot. But Jess Connolly's was, like, so good and continued to be something people shared for months after. But her advice at the beginning was really good. It was about not using, like, a different voice to pray to God, like, don't use a sweet Jesus voice. She said, just talk. But the end was so good because she talked about a piece of advice that she had just held onto, and it was basically, take yourself out of the running. And she said, like, in her mind, she always had this sense to, like, compete, but, like, not trying to. She just did. It's like you always kind of want to be, like, the best at something, you know? And she was talking about, like, when it comes to parent parenting, like, especially with social media parenting, it's like, you have to have, like, the cutest outfits for your kids, and the lunches have to be perfect. And, like, you got to do the book that everyone said and the sleep schedule and, like, all this stuff. And she said, like, she was putting so much pressure on herself to do all these things in motherhood, to do all these things in her work, to accomplish all these things for other people. And then she said, finally I just said I'm taking myself out of the running. I'm not gonna make like the best of the best lunches and they're not always gonna like animals. I'm not going to, you know, be the CrossFit person who can do a pull up. Not that I'm not gonna work hard and strive to be great with the thing that the Lord gave me, but, like, I'm taking myself out of the running to have to be the best. And I thought that was really good advice, especially for, like, women I feel like, who tend to want to compete or think that direction. That was so good and has stuck with me. Let me see if there's any others that I want to pull out real fast. Christian, how did you like having your brother Chance on the podcast this year?

[Christian Huff]

I loved having him on the podcast. I thought it was. I thought it was a lot of fun to do together. He was more vulnerable than I thought.

[Sadie Robertson]

He was going to be, so he was awesome. You were giving him such a hard time for not having a best piece of advice and he dropped a bomb at the very end.

[Christian Huff]

He did. It was so deep and it made me. I still. It confused me for a long time after. As you can tell, I'm not the deepest theological thinker.

[Sadie Robertson]

What did Chance say? Let me go find it. Something about like, the chains of habit are too weak to be felt until they are too strong to be broken. And he straight quoted that from his.

[Christian Huff]

Mind in the moment.

[Bella Huff]

His own quote?

[Sadie Robertson]

No, it was a quote from a book.

[Christian Huff]

In the moment. I have to. I'm like, I'm like, trying to decipher, like, what that means.

[Sadie Robertson]

That was good.

[Christian Huff]

It's great. But it's like, you know, it's worded in a way that's like, like clearly by someone who's super smart.

[Sadie Robertson]

Yeah, it was theologian. So we had advice like that all the way to Uncle Allen saying, don't compliment bad cooking because if you do, you'll eat it for the rest of your life. Which actually is really good advice. That's what I love about this podcast. It's just good advice. Sometimes it's like deep enough to change your life and sometimes it's just like, hey, this will make your life better.

[Christian Huff]

Sometimes it's shallow enough to change your life as well.

[Sadie Robertson]

That's true.

[Christian Huff]

Well, that's good.

[Sadie Robertson]

Another win this year was I've always wanted Priscilla Shire to come on the podcast because I've personally learned from her so much. And we finally had her on the show year and her best piece of advice was so good. She said, you cannot do a thousand things to the glory of God, but you can do one or two. And I thought that was really good because, like, so often, you know, you want to do, like a thousand things, kind of take yourself out of the running. It's like, okay, what did God call me to do? And how can I prioritize those things? I thought that was so great. And then also one of an epic podcast moment was Letitia Wright coming on the podcast the Black Panther. And she said, keep your focus on God no matter what, which was really cool. Just coming from someone who's like, literally at the height of their acting career and Marvel character back to not making something, your identity, but to keep your focus on God the whole time is really cool. And you could see that through her life and the way she lived. So, so much good advice, so many great episodes. It was seriously so fun to dive into all of this this year, and I can't wait again for next year. Also, it was so fun to meet so many of you. Everywhere we go, we hear people come up to us and say, we listen to the podcast or this episode really inspired me. This episode really inspired me. And that is, like, our favorite thing ever. I love whenever you guys come up to me, tell me that you're listening to the podcast. Even ideas that you guys have sent in this year that have led to the conversations we've had, like, this podcast is for this community, for us to learn and to grow and to grow close, closer in our relationship with the Lord and with each other through good advice. And so thank you all for listening. Thank you for making this year amazing. Let's go have another incredible woe. That's good year in 2025.