Fan Favorite: Si, Willie, & Al Robertson Answer if He Is the One

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Episode Title: Fan Favorite: Si, Willie, & Al Robertson Answer if He Is the One
Host: Sadie Robertson Huff
Guests: Willie Robertson (dad), Al Robertson (uncle), Si Robertson (uncle)
Release Date: July 20, 2026
Theme: Real Relationship Wisdom – “How Do You Know if He’s the One?”

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Episode Overview

In this lively, heartfelt, and often hilarious episode, Sadie reunites with her dad Willie, uncle Al, and uncle Si Robertson – three bearded, seasoned husbands – to tackle questions of marriage, relationships, and the elusive quest to find “the one.” Drawing from decades of personal experience (with more than 120 cumulative years of marriage among them), the Robertson men offer raw advice, stories of hardship and growth, and signature Robertson humor. The episode highlights that lasting love isn’t magic; it’s faith, intentionality, laughter, and grit.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

Longevity in Marriage (03:12 – 05:14)

• The Robertson Men’s Marital Tenure:
  • Willie: 32 years
  • Al: 40 years (celebrating 40 next week!)
  • Si: 54 years
• Memorable Moment: Si reminisces about getting out of the military contract before marrying Christine, culminating in a hilarious story about convincing a judge to waive the three-day waiting period. (03:32)

Core Relationship Advice: Faith, Teamwork, and Humor

• Si’s Top Two Tips (05:32 – 06:09):
  1. “Learn to say yes, ma’am at a very early stage in the marriage.” – Si Robertson (05:32)
  2. The real foundation is “do you have a relationship with the Creator? That would be Jesus Christ, the Messiah.” – Si (05:56)
• Gratitude as a Practice: Both in appreciating your partner and the blessings around you. (06:32 – 09:03)
  • “We’re very unappreciative… All of it is a gift. You can’t pay it back.” – Si (06:32)
  • Sadie ties this to teaching gratitude to her daughter Honey. (08:33)

Marriage & Military Life Stress (09:03 – 11:19)

• Al on Christine and Si’s Relationship: “For a military family, I think it’s even more amazing [54 years]… It’s a strain. Christine did all that on her own.” – Al (09:49)
• Si’s Reflections: “If you haven’t been affiliated with the military, they have no idea what sacrifice the wife goes through…” (11:01)
• Support and Picking Each Other Up: Marriage as a partnership where both pick each other up during low moments (10:46, 11:19).

Spiritual Foundation (13:45 – 16:29)

• Al: His marriage has had “two really different marriages” – first without Jesus “hiding in plain sight,” second after faith became central. (13:45)
• “When you both finally get in the same lane… when you’re both going for the same goals, it changes everything.” – Al (14:21)
• Teamwork Analogy: Singles tennis vs. doubles after Christ-centered lives. (15:29)
• Si: “If you’re going to want good vegetables in your garden… you’ve got to nurture your garden. Well, your marriage, you gotta nurture it.” (16:11)
• The Battle Rages: Facing adversity together – “Fight for your marriage.” (16:02)

Giving More Than You Take (17:10 – 20:43)

• Willie’s Checkbook Analogy: “Try to give more than you take… just like a checking account, you can overdraft that sucker, and then you’ll have problems down the road if that happens.” (17:10)
• Al recommends the “Love Bank” concept (20:08) – building up positive deposits for hard times.
• Si: “It’s better to give than receive. The giver always gets more than the receiver.” (20:34)

Humor and Not Taking Each Other Too Seriously (19:41 – 22:02)

• Sadie: “The ability to laugh and not take yourself too seriously…is a Robertson strength.” (19:44, 21:44)
• Si: “Laughter is a good medicine. If you clear your head and look, step back and look at what you’re arguing about…it ain’t worth it.” (21:39)
• Funny stories about checkbooks, beards, and pizza guy moments (17:28–18:15).

The “Beard Theory” & Playful Sidebars (23:24 – 32:08)

• Sadie blames Christian’s beard for their marital tension, prompting hilarious reflections from all on beards and how looks—or the “beard persona”—can affect relationships.
• Willie: Shares reactions from his own beard-shaving experiment (“I thought in my mind, I thought Corey was going to be like, ‘Oh, look at this face…’ Not the reaction.” (25:26))
• On telling your spouse what to change: “There are certain things…the guy should not say to the girl, but the girl kind of can say to the guy where it comes to hair.” – Sadie (31:35)
• “You have to know your spouse and what they need.” – Sadie (32:50)

The Big Question: How Do You Know If They’re the One? (33:41 – 44:47)

• Sadie: Many listeners ask, “How do you know if he’s the one?” Anxiety and commitment questions are common.
• Al: “I don’t think there is the one. I think there’s the one you decide to spend your life with and commit to this person.” (35:07)
  • Lisa always believed in “the one”; Al was “committed” and “all in”.
• Sadie: Cautions against treating the “one” as a unicorn or mystical ideal and emphasizes alignment in life goals and faith. (36:25)
• Willie: “We’re trying to do that with human beings and people…You definitely need to look at warning signs…But when you say, ‘is this the one?’ then I start thinking well, what does that mean…you can’t factor in all those scenarios.” (39:19–40:43)
• Si: The question is deeper than just “the one”—“You’ve got baggage…be realistic…What are you willing to put into this relationship?” (41:12–42:16)
• Al: “If you look at it as ‘the one’, you leave no room for growth in a relationship.” (42:37)

Facing Hardship and Building Legacy (54:08 – 58:07)

• Si: “All the hardships…made you who you are…made her a better and a stronger woman.” (55:01–55:38)
• Willie: Many people are “just lonely, waiting for what they think is the one.” (54:08)
• Sadie: The first ten years of marriage, or even 15, can be hard, but “you have just built such a beautiful legacy…Had you said, ‘that didn’t work,’ you would have never seen…that.” (56:13)
• Gratitude for generational wisdom. “You need to surround yourself with people who actually, the fruit of their life does the talking.” (65:55)

Faith, Trust, and Decision-Making (49:45–65:01)

• Al: “Destinies are determined by decision. It’s usually a decision to find, fight, and to do what’s right.” (58:24)
• Willie: “Sometimes you just got to go, ‘You know what, wherever I’m at, God’s there.’” (59:54–60:22)
• Si: “Don’t try to figure it out. Just trust and try. Trust God and try. That’s all you got to do.” (61:08)
• Sadie: “If you are in a relationship right now who is showing you all the signs that he is not the person…you have to make a decision to break up and get out… you have to decide because it is determined by your decision.” (63:04)

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Notable Quotes & Timestamps

• “Learn to say yes, ma’am at a very early stage in the marriage.”
  – Si Robertson (05:32)
• “The first [advice] is, do you have a relationship with the Creator? That would be Jesus Christ, the Messiah.”
  – Si Robertson (05:56)
• “For a military family, I think it’s even more amazing…It’s a strain. Christine did all that on her own.”
  – Al Robertson (09:49)
• “If you’re going to want good vegetables in your garden…you’re gonna have to nurture your garden. Well, your marriage, you gotta nurture it.”
  – Si Robertson (16:11)
• “Try to give more than you take.”
  – Willie Robertson (17:10)
• “It’s better to give than receive. The giver always gets more than the receiver.”
  – Si Robertson (20:34)
• “Laughter is a good medicine…Most of the time, if you clear your head and look at what you’re arguing about…it ain’t worth it.”
  – Si Robertson (21:39)
• “I don’t think there is the one. I think there’s the one you decide to spend the rest of your life with…”
  – Al Robertson (35:07)
• “Don’t try to figure it out. Just trust and try. Trust God and try. That’s all you got to do.”
  – Si Robertson (61:08)
• “Destinies are determined by decision.”
  – Al Robertson (58:24)
• “If nobody’s ever harmed you or done you wrong, you have no idea of what forgiveness is until you have to make the choice.”
  – Si Robertson (65:31)

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Noteworthy Timestamps

• 03:12 – Years of marriage for each guest
• 05:32 – Si’s simple advice: “Learn to say yes, ma’am.”
• 06:09 – Si: Faith as marriage foundation
• 09:03 – Al on military marriage sacrifice
• 13:45 – Al on spiritual growth transforming marriage
• 16:11 – Si’s garden analogy for relationships
• 17:10 – Willie’s “give more than you take” philosophy
• 21:39 – Laughter and not taking arguments too seriously
• 33:41 – Beginning of the “How do you know they’re the one?” discussion
• 35:07 – Al on commitment vs. chasing “the one”
• 41:12 – Si: “You’ve got to be realistic. What do you want out of this relationship?”
• 54:08 – Looking backward: clarity on “the one” comes after years, not before
• 55:01 – Si: “All the hardships…made you who you are.”
• 58:24 – Al: “Destinies are determined by decision.”
• 61:08 – Si: “Don’t try to figure it out. Just trust and try.”

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Episode Tone and Takeaways

The episode stays true to the warm, unfiltered, and faith-rooted tone of the Robertson family. The conversation blends substantial spiritual advice and emotional honesty with generation-spanning humor and family anecdotes. The takeaway is clear: There’s no magic “one,” but with faith, commitment, flexibility, selflessness, and a willingness to grow through hardships, you can build a lasting, joy-filled marriage.

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Final Wisdom

• Focus less on “finding the one” and more on being the right partner.
• Invest in your faith and nurture gratitude within your relationship.
• Prepare for the inevitable storms and use hardship to grow closer.
• Seek advice from those with real-life longevity—not just “influencers.”
• Sometimes, the best marriage advice is: laugh hard, be generous, and trust God.

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For listeners seeking timeless relationship counsel and a good laugh, this episode is a rich, authentic blend of practical wisdom and Robertson wit.

Transcript

[Sadie Robertson]

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[Sadie Robertson]

What's up? Well that's good fam. Happy Wednesday everybody. I hope you're having a great week, but it is about to get, I would say so much better, but it might get pretty crazy for the next hour because I have invited three very unhinged guests on this podcast. However, this is why I asked the three incredible men in my family on the podcast. 1. They have been the biggest podcast that we have had on well, that's good because you guys have loved the conversations we've had with them. But two, because so many of you guys ask for relationship advice, we have so many relationship advice questions sent into us literally week after week. And I feel like these days people are so picky about who the one's gonna be, and you're searching for this like perfect Prince Charming, and maybe you're just not looking in the right place. But these three men on the podcast, these beard men, a little while a little crazy, have years of marriage experience under their belt. And so I am so excited. Now I'm gonna get to ask my dad Willie, my uncle Allen, and my Uncle Sigh their best relationship advice and ask them the questions that you guys actually sent in. So I'm super excited about this, by the way. They didn't know this was the topic. But who better to have for relationship advice than people who have been married for so many years? So I'm gonna start with the question that I'm wondering if you guys will be able to answer. How many years have each of you been mar. Dad, we'll start with you.

[Willie Robertson]

32.

[Sadie Robertson]

32.

[Al Robertson]

40 for me this year. Wow. Next week be 40 years.

[Sadie Robertson]

That's incredible. Uncle sigh.

[Si Robertson]

Well, 71. So it's 50 something. 50 something. 53 or 54.

[Sadie Robertson]

I thought you were saying 71 years of marriage. I was like, I think you're off.

[Si Robertson]

What, April 70, 71. When I actually got out from under contract with the United States of America. Okay. And then when I went before the judge, I had to get him to throw out all the three day waiting periods and all this junk. He said, wait a minute, son. You just got out of a four year contract with the military and you fixed to sign one for a lifetime. I said, yeah, if you'll do the paperwork and okay. At the, you know, waive the days, you know. So he did. He said, okay. All right.

[Willie Robertson]

Could you not do them both? Could you not be in the military and get married?

[Si Robertson]

Well, no, no.

[Willie Robertson]

I was just under contract, okay.

[Si Robertson]

I got out from one to one and then time.

[Willie Robertson]

I just didn't know if it was like you had to wait till you

[Si Robertson]

got out of that.

[Al Robertson]

What about this advice? You know, I had to wait until I got out of the old contract.

[Willie Robertson]

Z, you weren't married to all these new contracts.

[Al Robertson]

You do know you weren't married to the U.S. military?

[Si Robertson]

Well, they thought I was. Okay? That was on their part, you know, bad thinking. You know, I didn't live in, you know, dream this mess, you know, I didn't, you know, I got drafted. You know, I'm like Ron White when he said, hey, I didn't get drunk in public. I got drunk in the bar and they threw me in public. That's the way I was with the military.

[Willie Robertson]

That's his marriage advice.

[Sadie Robertson]

That's your marriage advice. I tell you what, Sandy, wait, so how many years do we decide? You've been married before you got married?

[Willie Robertson]

He's unsure.

[Si Robertson]

71. Do the math, boy.

[Willie Robertson]

It's just a question mark.

[Al Robertson]

It would be.

[Willie Robertson]

Do the math. He's 71.

[Si Robertson]

I mean, I'm 76.

[Sadie Robertson]

53 years. That's incredible. So we have 53 years.

[Si Robertson]

What are you talking about?

[Al Robertson]

That red head of mine, he got married in 70.

[Willie Robertson]

Oh, the year was 70. Okay. I thought you were saying

[Sadie Robertson]

okay, 54 years, though, is incredible. 40 years, 32 years. So you guys can see now, while I have you all on the podcast. This is like a lot of advice that you guys have to give. I mean, it really is incredible. And something that I'm so inspired by to look up to so many people in our family with the whole key

[Si Robertson]

to it is learn to say yes, ma' am at a very early stage in the marriage.

[Sadie Robertson]

Learn to say yes, ma'. Am.

[Si Robertson]

Yeah, that's right.

[Sadie Robertson]

Was that attorney save you a lot

[Si Robertson]

of heart and a lot of, you know, a lot of presents, a lot of flowers, you know, just learn to say, yes, ma'. Am. You're right. Go ahead.

[Sadie Robertson]

Well, hey, that's good advice, because people ask what your best piece of marriage advice would be. And so would you say, that's one of your best pieces?

[Si Robertson]

That's one of the best ones.

[Sadie Robertson]

I love that.

[Si Robertson]

And the next one. Okay, now let me rephrase you. That's the second one. The first one is, okay, do you have a relationship with the Creator? That would be Jesus Christ, the Messiah.

[Sadie Robertson]

Okay, tell me that's the first. That's good. Tell me how you feel like, because there's a lot of listeners to your podcast who are believers and a lot who maybe aren't believers and haven't seen marriage last, you know, 53 years in their life. They haven't seen anyone in their family's marriage last that long. How do you feel like your relationship with the Creator, with the Messiah has actually impacted your long lasting marriage?

[Si Robertson]

Hey, it's. Everything okay? Because, you know, I was sitting, watching TV today, listening to Christian pop music. Okay. And I was thinking about the whole world. We're very unappreciative. Okay. Number one, God Created all this wonderful creation for us, okay? All the food that's there for us, you know, the fish, the mammals, the fruit, the vegetables, okay? And most people don't even think about that. You know, all of that was here for you to begin with, okay? It was there. You didn't have to go look for it. It was given to you. You know, and all of it is a gift. You can't pay it back. You can't earn it. You know, all of it's a gift. Yeah. So, yeah.

[Willie Robertson]

Also thankful for TVs to watch Christian pop music on something else.

[Si Robertson]

No, no, I'm serious. There is not enough appreciation because we've got. The United States of America is the greatest country on Earth, okay? Anytime you drive by somebody's house and there's three annual automobiles sitting in the. And then they're going, woe is me. 90% of the country is obese. Okay? Okay, look. Yo.

[Willie Robertson]

And they're always laughing at obesity. I'm laughing at obese

[Si Robertson]

65. That's the real.

[Al Robertson]

Well, you've got obese, and then you've got obese. But.

[Si Robertson]

No, no, but I'm just saying I'm

[Willie Robertson]

not part of that either. You're not part of that.

[Si Robertson]

You really don't.

[Willie Robertson]

Only in this country can a man have a trip wide trailer with a dagum American flag on the top of it that can be seen from space. Look at. Look at it from the.

[Sadie Robertson]

I love what you're saying. The one thing we have been really trying to teach Honey is gratitude. I think we probably say to honey at least 10 times a day, are you grateful? Are you grateful to do that? And then she'll be like, yes, I'm grateful. Or even before she'll be like, hey, Mommy, can I have a Popsicle? Because I'm grateful. But we're just trying to teach her. Like, you should be grateful for the things you have and the opportunities that we get to be a part of because it is a gift. And it's so easy to just, you know, think that's normal or think that's life. But, no, you got to be grateful. This is something that's not promised to us every day.

[Al Robertson]

And I want to say something about Cy and Christine's relationship because obviously I was around early to watch them and Cy been in the military for 24 and a half years.

[Si Robertson]

Four and a half.

[Al Robertson]

And had, what, four tours at least overseas? You were in Germany.

[Si Robertson]

I spent 12 and a half years in Europe.

[Al Robertson]

All right, so half of that time in Vietnam, half of that time in Europe. And so, and I'll say this for all military families, me just watching side Christine, it is not an easy life to have somebody gone for months or even a year at a time to come home, to take care of kids, to move your whole family without your husband being there.

[Si Robertson]

Look, Christine did all that on her own.

[Al Robertson]

I know it. And so that's why I'm saying I

[Si Robertson]

would just leave, okay? And she would take care of all that.

[Al Robertson]

And that's. I've always appreciated. I mean, and, you know, 54 years of marriage would be amazing for anybody, but for a military family, I think it's even more amazing.

[Si Robertson]

Yeah, it is, because it's a strain.

[Al Robertson]

Because.

[Si Robertson]

Okay. Like, I missed a lot of my kids stuff. Okay. And I always said I thought I was a horrible father until Christine, when I would say that when I was down on myself and having a pity party, she'd break out the photo album. So. Well, hey, what about this right here? What about this? You know, they got me and I don't know if everybody's ever seen, you know, I was Easter bunny, a six foot three pink Easter bunny in full costume, okay. Delivering eggs to all the kids. Okay. So stuff like that. She would break out the photo album and say, well, I know you don't. When you was home, you was home all the way. Yeah, okay. It was, you know, I'm all in.

[Sadie Robertson]

In other words, it makes me think of that verse, like, two are better than. And it talks about, like, pity a man who falls and has no one to pick him up. And like, it's those moments in marriage where you really see that verse come to life. Because when you're down on yourself, people,

[Si Robertson]

if you haven't been affiliated with the military, they have no idea what sacrifice the wife goes through when her man goes off to war, goes and has to go places. Okay. Because she's got to be both mom and dad then.

[Sadie Robertson]

Yeah.

[Si Robertson]

Yeah. So it's. Yeah, it's a tough goal. And a lot of marriages are caused because of that. Okay. Because of the stress that's put on them for being alone, you know, because, hey, two can fight better than one. You can turn back to back, you know, and see them coming from every direction, skin. Okay. By yourself. Okay. They can slip up on you.

[Sadie Robertson]

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[Al Robertson]

Well, and as you know, because we shared it on your podcast, our marriage was just sort of had. It's not two halves, but it's 15 and 25. I mean, there were. There were two really different marriages because the first one was a lot of struggle. Jesus wasn't a part of our heart. Even though we were right there in the church, kind of hiding in plain sight. And then when Lisa finally made a full all in move to God Obviously, everything changed for us as we talked about, but so my advice comes more off. The last 25 years is when you both finally get in the same lane and you're both finally going for the same goals is really just to be there and help each other in that journey. I mean, Lisa's amazing. She does so much to encourage me just by the way she is. And a lot of things I'm not good at. She is. And so we do that together. I mentioned on your podcast that the first advice I got was never compliment bad cooking because you'd eat it the rest of your life. And it's funny, because your dad's here now, and I don't know if dad told him that as well, but since your mom can't cook, I guess in his case, it was be prepared to cook for your marriage. Right. Cause that's what happened. I mean, you know, didn't have to worry about compliment back cooking. It just never really took off.

[Sadie Robertson]

Never took off.

[Si Robertson]

That's the greatness of marriage. Dawn. I used a wagon with horses. Two horses.

[Al Robertson]

Yeah.

[Si Robertson]

Okay. Your first few years was rocky, okay? Because y' all was harnessed. You was married, but you was pulling different directions. You wasn't working as a team. And when things got right, when God moved in and the marriage got right, then it wasn't pulling two directions.

[Al Robertson]

Well, the way we describe it, size, we say the first 15 years of our marriage, we were playing tennis, but we were on. We were playing singles tennis.

[Willie Robertson]

Wow.

[Sadie Robertson]

Yeah.

[Al Robertson]

And then the last 25 years, we decided to pay doubles, and our enemies were on the other side, but we were now engaged together as part of the church.

[Si Robertson]

You were talking about smackdown.

[Al Robertson]

Smack.

[Si Robertson]

Take that. Smack. Take that.

[Al Robertson]

Well, I wasn't actually talking about the rackets.

[Willie Robertson]

Oh, no.

[Si Robertson]

And it was together.

[Al Robertson]

Yeah.

[Si Robertson]

Take that, you evil one. Get out of my house. Look. That's why I looked.

[Al Robertson]

Basically combined tennis and MMA fighting.

[Sadie Robertson]

Just in case you're a visual learner listening to this podcast, you'd ask me,

[Si Robertson]

okay, if she was here right now, okay, you got to fight for your marriage.

[Sadie Robertson]

That's true.

[Al Robertson]

That's our line.

[Sadie Robertson]

That is true.

[Si Robertson]

Look, it's just like a garden, okay? If you're going to want good vegetables in your garden, then you're going to have to prune, pull the bad weeds and throw them away and all, you know? And then you gonna have to nurture your garden. Well, your relationship. Marriage relationship. You gotta nurture it.

[Sadie Robertson]

That's great. You're good with analogies. I think that's like the Tenth analogy he's given on this. Seriously.

[Si Robertson]

I think the battle rages. Okay. That's why I was saying, hey, smack him, yo. Cause it does. The battle's raging here, guys. The evil one. Hey, and guess what? He attacked. He attacked the family unit.

[Sadie Robertson]

It's very true. All right, Dad, 32 years into marriage, what's some of the best relationship advice you have?

[Willie Robertson]

God, they give all the good ones, so they're hard to beat. Way behind in this race.

[Al Robertson]

Gotta dip into the psy analogy bag.

[Sadie Robertson]

Well, he's got more analogies.

[Willie Robertson]

I mean, I've always said, try to give more than you take. And so just from my mentality, it's kind of like back when we used to have things called checkbooks. And you, me and Si still help. You still got a checkbook?

[Si Robertson]

Yeah, that's one I'm still struggling with.

[Sadie Robertson]

Do you know the other night we ordered pizza and the guy shows up at the door and I'm like, mom, do you have cash? And she's like, like, do you take a check? And he's like, no. That was this week.

[Al Robertson]

A check.

[Willie Robertson]

1996. Do you take a check?

[Sadie Robertson]

She was about to write him a check for the pizza man.

[Si Robertson]

Good thing he.

[Willie Robertson]

Yeah. What was she going to do next? Barter?

[Sadie Robertson]

She ended. I said, I'll just call and give him my car.

[Willie Robertson]

We'll trade you some eggs and cheese. Whale blubber.

[Si Robertson]

I was like, hey, look around, look around. Do you see anything?

[Sadie Robertson]

If you like, it was funny, cuz she was kind of like far away and I was at the door and she's like, ask him if he takes a check. And I'm thinking like, he doesn't take a check.

[Willie Robertson]

And I'm.

[Sadie Robertson]

Do you take a check by any chance? He's like, no. And I'm like, all right, I'm just gonna have to call. And then mom was like, I found cash and came running in.

[Willie Robertson]

I don't know what this says about our marriage. I didn't know she had a check. I didn't know we still had one. I thought that was a maybe.

[Al Robertson]

This seems to be a counseling.

[Willie Robertson]

She has. She has a checkbook, but, you know, she never has cash.

[Sadie Robertson]

That is true. I was surprised she pulled out.

[Willie Robertson]

I wasn't there, obviously, because I am the bank.

[Sadie Robertson]

It is true you weren't there on the atm because we ordered pizza. His mom wasn't, which means I'm not there. Okay. But back to the checkbook.

[Willie Robertson]

Yeah. So I never did balance it just because I never could figure that out. But I would always Just know I've got. Yeah, I've got to put more in than I spend. And so you just kind of had this knowing. And so I feel like that's marriage as well as where you're. You're giving and not just taking. Because there'll be times where you. You'll tend to take way too much and just like a checking account, you can overdraft that sucker, you know, and then you'll have problems. And down the road, if that happens. I also like the teamwork. I mean, I think when you figure out how to work as a team, I love that. I actually love that tennis.

[Sadie Robertson]

It's actually really good. Yeah.

[Willie Robertson]

Definitely been there before where you tend to fight against instead of fighting together. And also, I think, you know, for us is especially is just trying to take yourselves too seriously. And. Yeah, I can have fun. You gotta, you know, you gotta have to laugh. Yeah.

[Si Robertson]

You're gonna do stupid stuff sometimes because

[Willie Robertson]

everything's so serious, you know, in life. And so I think sometimes we can get too serious.

[Si Robertson]

And so sometimes life is too short to be miserable.

[Willie Robertson]

Yeah.

[Si Robertson]

Yeah. I like what you said at the beginning. Keep it positive.

[Sadie Robertson]

So true.

[Si Robertson]

Okay. Keep your relationship as far as it is up to you. Keep it positive. Laugh a lot and smile a lot. Okay.

[Al Robertson]

The material.

[Si Robertson]

Worst thing you can do is go through life miserable.

[Al Robertson]

We use the material still to this day, Will, it's been around a few years that Bill Harley did, and it's called the love bank model. And it's just what you were describing. I mean, it's a bank analogy about when you're putting more love into the relationship instead of pulling out all the time, you're going to build up a bank that's going to be there for the difficult times. You go through the rough seasons. And so just like your bank account, it's got to work.

[Si Robertson]

God's thing, because. Hey, what did he say? He said it's better to give than receive. The giver always gets more than the receiver.

[Al Robertson]

Always.

[Si Robertson]

He always does.

[Sadie Robertson]

I love that y' all are talking about laughing at yourself. And I feel like all of you guys are really good at laughing at yourself. I think that's like a Robertson strength. And something that's really valuable in our family is the ability to laugh and not take yourself too seriously, not take life too seriously. And I remember Christian and I got some marriage advice before we stepped into marriage, and they said there will be a moment in an argument where you're both mad and everything's heated and someone does something kind of Funny. You know, it's like you say something that, like, what didn't actually make sense or something happens externally that's funny. And it's like your pride tells you, do not laugh. Do not laugh. Like, hold it serious because you're mad, and the person was like, just laugh. Like, just. Just let the argument break. And there has been times in our marriage where it's like, everything's heated and it really does happen, where somebody would do something just kind of stupid. And, like, it is hard to laugh in those moments, but allowing yourself to kind of laugh does help a lot.

[Si Robertson]

Laughter is a good medicine. Okay. Because if you're having a bad serious argument, screaming at each other, and you. Most of the times, if you clear your head and look, step back and look at what you're arguing about or screaming about. It ain't worth it. Ain't worth the effort you put into it.

[Sadie Robertson]

Yeah.

[Si Robertson]

It was sheer stupidity to begin with.

[Sadie Robertson]

That's the kind of arguments I'm talking about. Obviously, there are bigger moments. So there are some stupid arguments. You start, and then you're like, we are literally fighting over. There's tomato sauce on the carpet. Like, it can be the dumbest stuff. But this is kind of funny this week. Christian might make me take this out of the podcast, but this is just hilarious timing. So we have been just, like, just not seeing eye to eye this week. We were just frustrated each other so often. Well, I don't know if y' all noticed it to notice this, but Christian has been growing, like, a really good beard, and his beard was looking good. But in my mind, I'm like, I think the beard's the problem. I think. I think the beard is, like, making you, like, too serious or something. Like, I don't know if it's, like, booster testosterone or, like, so proud of it. Yes. What has happened? So I'm just, like, thinking in my head, like, I think he needs to shave. Like, I think. I think we need, like, a fresh start. And so we're on a walk, and I'm like, I think you should shave your beard. Which honey said something first that kind of gave me, like, the opening. Honey is like, daddy, you should shave your beard. And I'm like, yeah, you should shave your beard. And then he's like, you. You think I shouldn't be that You've been saying it looks good. I'm like, yeah, but I think. I think we just need, like, a fresh start. Like, I think that the beard is just, like, making you take yourself too seriously or something. And he goes, do you know that's why I shaved my beard three years ago? And I was like, what? He's like, you said the same thing to me three years ago when I had a beard. And I was like, like, it is the beard that proves my point. And said this.

[Al Robertson]

That's what's wrong with all of us.

[Sadie Robertson]

No, he shaved his beard.

[Si Robertson]

I promise you, one of my to you moments.

[Sadie Robertson]

There was a difference in his personality yesterday. He was so much lighter. I was like, I think you just needed the baby face back because that beard was taking life too seriously. So I don't know if that has obviously been fine for y', all, but sometimes you just need to shave your beard. You just need a fresh start. And the past.

[Willie Robertson]

I've never heard that. Two days.

[Sadie Robertson]

Well, we actually looked it up. If beards make your, like, testosterone levels higher or something. And it said, no, it doesn't. But I personally think that there's something to that.

[Willie Robertson]

Really?

[Sadie Robertson]

No, seriously. And I wasn't saying it to be funny.

[Al Robertson]

I was like, were you pulling his beard, like, at night when he slept and stuff? I mean, maybe you were secretly sabotaging himself.

[Sadie Robertson]

I was just like. It just. He took on a new Persona when he had the beard. It was like more like. Just serious. Like his personality.

[Si Robertson]

Yeah.

[Al Robertson]

And I was like, now, what is this beer? Was this beer like a Captain America looking beer? Or was. Or was it Michael Cera?

[Sadie Robertson]

Yeah, it looks good. Okay. It looked good.

[Willie Robertson]

It wasn't like a, you know.

[Sadie Robertson]

No, it wasn't crazy.

[Willie Robertson]

No, not at all.

[Si Robertson]

Matching your face.

[Sadie Robertson]

It wasn't even me. It was. It wasn't. I was like, no, he.

[Willie Robertson]

She. It's the attitude.

[Al Robertson]

The attitude came with the beer.

[Willie Robertson]

It was producing.

[Sadie Robertson]

Was it the feel of it?

[Willie Robertson]

It was masculinity. That's what she's trying.

[Sadie Robertson]

It was the feel. There was something deeper beyond the surface. But anyways, that's just my small theory.

[Willie Robertson]

Well, before my beard, I had a super feminine accent. Remember? I was like. I often got mistaken for a woman on the phone. And then when I grew the beard,

[Al Robertson]

people started calling him Willa.

[Willie Robertson]

My voice deepened. I learned something there. And that's when I actually. You know what's interesting about the shaving of the beard? The last time I shaved my beard, do you remember when this was? Shave, shave. Not.

[Sadie Robertson]

I do remember when it was. But like, I remember you walking in the house without your beer, but I don't remember.

[Willie Robertson]

Young, like two, maybe. I mean, that's how long ago it was. So I thought in. In My mind, I thought Corey was going to be like, oh, look at this face. Look at what I've been missing out on. Yeah, I done built this up. Why would you cover this up? Not the reaction. Complete opposite reaction.

[Al Robertson]

Please put it back.

[Willie Robertson]

She went, oh, wow, it looks so different. And I'm like, that's not a good reaction. I haven't shaved since.

[Sadie Robertson]

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[Al Robertson]

Now that we're older, though, inside just found this out too, because Jace did this a few years ago. When you shave your beard off at IRAs now, ooh. It's a huge mistake because a lot has happened under there.

[Willie Robertson]

That was rough, man. That was.

[Al Robertson]

I mean, a lot has happened and it hadn't been good. None of it has been good.

[Si Robertson]

None of it is good.

[Willie Robertson]

That turf needed covering up, man. That needed some hay back on it.

[Al Robertson]

Mia just busted out balling. I mean, that tells you all you need to know.

[Willie Robertson]

We all did. I wasn't sure if he was healthy. My favorite was Phil was making. Phil was like, do you see that face?

[Si Robertson]

Yeah.

[Willie Robertson]

That's what I'm talking about. That's what you'll look like if you do that.

[Al Robertson]

I never shave my beard.

[Sadie Robertson]

Well, that's good. I'm gonna tell Christian, don't shave your beard. Like, you can shave your beard now and then later in life when you're older if you want to have. You know that.

[Willie Robertson]

Remember when Phil shaved his beard last? How do you. I remember 1988.

[Al Robertson]

It was a bet at church, remember?

[Willie Robertson]

I remember 88 was the last time.

[Al Robertson]

It was a bed at church with him and the preacher. And so the preacher dad had to shave his beard and wear a suit, I think, to church. And I forgot what the preacher. And so the dad lost the bat.

[Si Robertson]

Pull that off.

[Al Robertson]

He did it. But it was such.

[Willie Robertson]

Tried to leave the ministry. That was. That was what he.

[Si Robertson]

Okay.

[Willie Robertson]

He's been lost.

[Al Robertson]

He's very bitter.

[Sadie Robertson]

That is true.

[Willie Robertson]

But Phil's face, look, it looked like somebody took a samurai sword and cut off half. I mean, he looked like he had no chin. I just remember looking at going, he is the strangest looking man because his. His like, my face is this size. And so, like, he was like, hey. And I'm like, man, that's this too weird.

[Sadie Robertson]

Yalls is. Yeah. It's so long and so thick that it would totally shape. That would be so crazy to see you. I think we were like, living at 2 mama's house, moving into our new house when you shaved your beard. Because I remember you walked in two Mama's house, and I remember you like, I was looking at you like. And you're like, do you notice anything different? I was like, I couldn't figure out what I was looking at. I was like, what is that? What is happening? Which is the same when you cut your hair. And I was Like, I thought that was Zach Dasher. Yeah.

[Willie Robertson]

None of y' all recognized that, including dad.

[Al Robertson]

Willie comes in and sits down, and dad looks over and gives him the nod. Which just means somebody just wandered into dad's house and never says a word to you.

[Willie Robertson]

Well, we talked. No, we started talking for, like, 15 minutes and then finally said, well, is that. Well, he just said, who are you? I was like, I'm your son.

[Si Robertson]

Yeah.

[Willie Robertson]

I didn't know who you. He's at. I thought you was one of Gary's friends. I didn't know who you were coming in. He came in like he owned the joint.

[Al Robertson]

You knew when he gave you the nod, he didn't know who you were.

[Sadie Robertson]

That was so crazy. Okay, getting back to relationship advice, though.

[Al Robertson]

This is where you knew this was gonna go.

[Sadie Robertson]

I knew. Well, I threw it out there when I knew talking about Christians scenario was gonna take us on a whole rant.

[Willie Robertson]

But especially when that's negative. I was curious, you know, that was a negative trait.

[Sadie Robertson]

It was. That's what I was saying.

[Al Robertson]

It's off brand for us.

[Sadie Robertson]

It worked for y' all because y' all have had beards in 52 years of marriage. And, you know, we're five years in, and I'm thinking, the beard's not working for our marriage. I think we should just go clean shave it earlier.

[Si Robertson]

That's true.

[Sadie Robertson]

Hey, to each their own, okay?

[Al Robertson]

Not like, he's ugly.

[Sadie Robertson]

No. That's why I'm like, don't cover that face.

[Willie Robertson]

What if I said that, like, to Corey, like, your hair, she's bald, you know, Like.

[Sadie Robertson]

Well, I was approaching. Well, I solve that problem. I was approaching it gently. I was like, perhaps the attitude problems

[Willie Robertson]

have been your hairstyle.

[Si Robertson]

Hey, I can see it. She comes in with.

[Willie Robertson]

She comes in with a flat top. I'm like, oh, okay.

[Si Robertson]

You would said my hair.

[Al Robertson]

Whatever it takes for the relationship.

[Sadie Robertson]

There are certain things that I don't know if this is true. Maybe this is bad advice, but I feel like there are certain things like the guy should not say to the girl, but the girl kind of can say to the guy where it comes to, like, hair. You can be like, hey, I think beard or no beard.

[Si Robertson]

We're all aware of that.

[Sadie Robertson]

Yeah, but, like, if you were like,

[Willie Robertson]

we would not be married this long if we didn't learn that one. That's a number one. Like, you don't mention.

[Sadie Robertson]

That is true. Because if I said, hey, I think maybe no beard is better. You look so cute. Whatever, it's fine. But then if Christian's like, ma', am, blonde, over brunette or whatever. That'd be like, dude, for real.

[Willie Robertson]

Mom had a golf ball sized thing on her throat. And I didn't say. I mean, I obviously I recognize it. And I'm like, I ain't gonna be that guy. She goes, it's like, I've got a thyroid problem. Like, did you notice this? I'm like, kinda.

[Si Robertson]

No.

[Sadie Robertson]

You said yes. I thought you were growing an Adam's apple. That's what you said.

[Willie Robertson]

You think I'm gonna say it? I'm like, nope. But this is. Somebody teed up a golf ball. I'm like, I ain't saying a word about it.

[Al Robertson]

It's like, it's like the classic question, does this make my butt look big? And the answer is, I love your butt.

[Willie Robertson]

Yeah, there's no, we don't get into any sort.

[Al Robertson]

I love your butt.

[Willie Robertson]

That's.

[Sadie Robertson]

You have to know your spouse and what they need. And you know, some people, like, like Bella, Bella, like, loves honesty and she can take. Well, I don't know if she can take it. You know, it's one of those, you can dish it. I don't know if you can take it. But you know, you know, the spouse and I know Christian can take that, you know, comment from me, but he also knows that I don't want to take that comment from him. So don't tell me why I should do.

[Al Robertson]

I love the honesty podcast. This is it right here.

[Willie Robertson]

Yesterday, Mom's talking to me and I'm looking at her feet and it looks like she's been like running through a burn pot. Like, like her feet look dirty. And I was just like, wow, your feet, your toes kind of look dirty. Yeah. I was like, what is that? And she was like, I don't know. Yeah, I think it's my. Twenty minutes later, she was like, okay, I'm going to get my toenails done. She literally went straight there to get them done.

[Sadie Robertson]

That is so true. True. That's hilarious. Okay, so one of the biggest questions, I'm not kidding. We get this question asked so many times. Anytime we say, what do you want to stop? On the podcast, people always ask the question, how do you know if the person is the one? And it's actually kind of sad because there's so much anxiety around this question. It's like, how do you know if he's the one? I don't want to make the wrong decision. And a lot of people asking this question. There's a lot of people who are single asking this question more generically, but a lot of people, like, I'm in a relationship, I'm scared to make the wrong decision kind of thing. And I don't know if that's because they. No, like there are red flags, I need to get out, or if it's just like this big anxiety of how do you choose the one to commit to a lifetime? Like you said, you're going into this contract for a lifetime. It's obviously a huge decision. Thinking back on that time of your life, how did you feel? Confident enough to know this is the person who I'm going to marry. Did you feel 100% confident? Maybe even is a good question, but we'll circle back to that. Dad, you want to go first?

[Si Robertson]

Yeah.

[Willie Robertson]

I mean, I may have to carve that question up and really think about as to why that's the case. I don't know. I could ask. Since you guys are older than me, it seems like that may be a more nuanced question, 20, 24 type question. I'm not sure if that was the same 50 years ago. If that was the biggest burning question was, and maybe I'm wrong.

[Al Robertson]

No, I agree. In fact, I was going to say in my Lisa's relationship, and we would disagree if she were here, she would say even her mindset 40 years ago that I was the one. I mean, she had been in love with me since she was young. She mentioned that on the podcast, but I didn't believe that then. I still don't believe that to this day. I don't think there is the one. I think there's the one you decide I want to spend the rest of my life with and commit to this person. That's the way I viewed Lisa. This wasn't like I was like, oh, man, she's my soulmate forever. She was the woman that I knew I'd just come out of the world and I knew she loved me. I knew that she thought I was the one. And so. But I didn't view her the same way. I thought, I'm making a commitment. I was like, si. I was like, I'm all in. I'm a brand new Christian and I want to live my life with this person. And I knew it wasn't going to be easy. And so what's happened to our marriage over the course of the years? I made a commitment all in. So we went through a bunch of difficulty, but I was still committed through the process no matter what. So I never viewed it as sort of this mythical thing about the one I just think it was the mindset of, this is the one. I want to spend the rest. And once you make the call, all we're in. I mean, there's. We're committed. We're going to get through this. We're going to get through whatever were shortcomings. So in my case, Will, I definitely didn't do it that way, you know, 40 years ago. But if Lisa were here, she would say she did.

[Sadie Robertson]

Well, I think that's better, though. I think it's good to not look at it like that, because I think if you view it as, like, there is one person out there for you, you have to find the one. Then I think if you get married and then you go through hardship, it leaves more room open to be like, did I choose the wrong one? That's right. I made the wrong one. No, it's not like you committed to this, and you didn't make the wrong decision. You didn't. That's not like, oh, there's someone else out there who would have been more perfect for you. I think that. I think that the thing is, like, someone said it like this. Like, could you marry this person? Yes. Is this God's best for you? And that's kind of. Whenever I was dating, I was kind of looking at, like, that, like, I could marry this person. I don't think that this is God's best for me and where I'm going in life. And that kind of helped me make that decision. Whereas, like, when Christian and I came together, I thought he was absolutely incredible. He is the one for me. I knew he was the one. I feel like he was God's best for me. Our lives were aligning. The dreams that we had, passions we had, our morals, everything was, like, aligning. Was it perfect? No. Is it like some kind of, you know, I found the unicorn in the world? I think that's the thing. Because I think when you put that pressure on yourself to find it, it's like you're doing it. Like, you have to find the one. And if you don't, what if you miss it and then you set yourself up for failure? I don't think it's like that, that you find the person you feel like is God's best for you. You make a commitment, and then you go through life together committed to the covenant you made for the Lord, and you have God, you know, helping you stay together. So I. I love that you said that, because I actually think it's that mystery. It's that it's the one. What if there's another person, what if I do this and I make a mistake that like, puts people in that anxious state? It's not necessary. I feel like there's seasons in life where you're just figuring out who you are, what you actually want your life to look like. Maybe you're even thinking about build a business from something that you already love. And that's exactly where Shopify comes in. Shopify gives you everything you need to go from having an idea to actually selling online all in one place. Shopify has the tools to help build a beautiful online store and start selling fast. And when someone is ready to buy, Shopify checkout makes it easier for them to finish the purchase. When they come back, their details are already saved. So it's literally one tap and they're done. Shopify handles so much of the setup and checkout side, giving you more time to focus on actually growing your business, connecting with customers, customers and bringing that big idea to life. Shopify powers millions of businesses worldwide, from huge names to very small businesses that are just getting started. So if you've been wondering where your idea could become something real, Shopify makes starting up feel way less overwhelming. I'm a big Shopify fan. First of all, Ello uses Shopify, and that's been a huge help to our small business whenever we first got started with Shopify. Nothing stands between your idea and a real business. So go make it one. Start your free [e-mail] Woah. Start your free [e-mail] Whoa. Again, that's shopify.com Whoa.

[Willie Robertson]

And I think that's how people they, you know, especially now we, we try to make sure do all your. We're like, it's like you're on a vacation. You're like, you want to make sure everything's perfect. And a lot of times you're let down because you're like, oh, this is not what the. It's not what the picture looked like. And this is not. And so we're trying to do that with human beings and people. And so I think you definitely need to look at warning signs. You definitely need to look at, oh, this person is not, you know, we're not lined up on this or they don't seem as fun or they, man, they got angry really fast. You know, there's things that you can look at. I think parents play a role in that, where they came from. Obviously religion falls in that or how they view that. We're all going to change. I mean, I would think I'm a lot different than I was at 18 years old. Just where I'm at now versus where I was then. But I knew Corey had a lot

[Al Robertson]

of

[Willie Robertson]

the same things that I liked. We liked being together. And then we had went through with marriage counseling, we went through just even telling your stories and where that's at. So you definitely look at that. But I think when you say, is this the one? Then I start thinking, well, okay, what does that mean? Is it the one in my 20s, is one of my 30s? What will happen when there's children? What happens if something happens while there's. I mean, it's hard to go through all those scenarios deeper than what you always.

[Si Robertson]

Just the one, okay. And it's more profound than that. Okay. Because you're hitting on the stuff that you need to look at. Look at the parents. How are they? You know, what are their. What are their beliefs? You know, what is their mode of operation? Or they. How do they, you know, it's deeper. Okay.

[Willie Robertson]

How does the mom treat the dad? Treat the mom? How do they view their dad? How do they view their mom? All those things are so looking at two different.

[Si Robertson]

Two things, okay? Two individuals, okay? Male, female, okay? And just. You've got baggage. You've got excess baggage, both of you. So you gotta be realistic about what's going on here. What do you want out of this relationship? What are you willing to put into this relationship? It's deeper than most people go, oh, is he the one or is she the one? That's childish. Okay? You come in the real world, two different individuals come in the real world. You're two individuals. You was raised different than he was raised, they believe different than you. So it's profound. Okay? So you need to be looking at it realistically.

[Sadie Robertson]

Yes.

[Si Robertson]

You're talking about, what do you got in common?

[Sadie Robertson]

Yep.

[Si Robertson]

What have you got in common? What are your beliefs or do you think alike?

[Sadie Robertson]

Yeah.

[Si Robertson]

Because you're going to have differences. Okay.

[Willie Robertson]

Or are you okay with thinking differently? It's not. When I hear the one, it sounds like some kind of idealistic euphoria of like, it's always going to be good.

[Sadie Robertson]

Yeah.

[Willie Robertson]

Because that was the one. I always felt like it leans that way.

[Si Robertson]

It's just miraculous.

[Al Robertson]

But you know what happens, Will, when you think when you look at it that way, and that's where you go into it said, he's right. Then you can also bring into what if they're not the one? But then the other thing is you leave no room for growth in a relationship. It has to have room to grow into something better. And I think Lisa mentioned this when we were on here, but she's recently been dealing with breast cancer and doing amazing. But she said, because we looked at it, she was more the mystical look me more of the practical. We're just going to go through this life. That she said. And I was a little surprised when she said it. She said, now I know how much you love me. And at first it kind of took me back and I thought, well, babe, did you not think I loved you for it? She said, no, I knew you did. She said, but I didn't know the level you did until you took care of me through this cancer stuff. And so I realized that was a growth on my part that God had brought into that. So I was in for all in through whatever happened. And so that has grown the relationship and the marriage in a good way.

[Si Robertson]

It's the thing about. Okay, are you willing to put in the time? Time?

[Al Robertson]

Yeah.

[Si Robertson]

Okay.

[Al Robertson]

That's right.

[Si Robertson]

Like, you've got a nurture this relationship. Okay. It's not miraculous. Okay. Two people coming together that male and female numbers. You're going to have to put a lot of work involved in this. Okay. There's a lot of things that you're going to have to overlook and just accept, you know, it's a. Yeah. Like you. I guess the best way to say it, like, you talking about you got to grow together.

[Sadie Robertson]

Yeah. That's good. I think, too. Like, I love how we're kind of talking about. It's not this miraculous, this mysterious thing. Are you the one? Am I? Where's the sign from heaven? Where? It's like, it's more profound than that. It's more practical than that. It's like, do you align in the things that are important in life? Are you, you know, is your faith at the center? How does their family do things? How does their family do things? Do you see yourself going in the same direction whenever.

[Si Robertson]

That's why I said more practical and profound with the Creator, with the Messiah is super important.

[Sadie Robertson]

Yeah. Yeah.

[Si Robertson]

Okay. Because when you two come together, okay. Male, female, then children start happening. Okay. Then it's a new ball game, totally new season.

[Sadie Robertson]

Well, this is funny. So thinking about the fact that you said this is kind of a 2024 question. I do think when you think about why people think that way, I mean, think. Think about all the movies, you know, it is. It's like serendipity. It's very miraculous. It's kind of cheesy almost because of how Everything aligned. And it is full of signs and the butterfly feelings and all the different things. And there's a part of that in relationship. Absolutely. Whenever you're first dating and it's all fun and stuff like that, well, then

[Si Robertson]

you throw in, okay. And this is just. And there's a lot of it out there. Okay. He grew out without a father. Father. You had mom and dad that you were nurtured by your whole coexistence. Well, he didn't have a dad to show him how to be a man. So you got some serious, serious issues are going to be happening. That's why it's a normal thing. Okay. Because, like, just to tell about me. Me. Okay. When I thought, you know, me and Christine, you know, I actually called my mother and had a discussion with her and was asking the same question. They asked, how did you know dad was the one? You know, and Mama told me, said, hey, look.

[Willie Robertson]

You know, you said, he said, hey, he was my cousin. So there's a little truth in that.

[Al Robertson]

Yeah, there's some truth.

[Si Robertson]

No, no, but I'm just saying. Okay, you gotta look. Okay. Okay.

[Willie Robertson]

Next podcast.

[Si Robertson]

This is more especially when you say, okay, you know, she didn't have a dad growing up. Okay. He didn't. What? You know, there's so many human issues that come into play here. That's why I said, hey, number one, you got to be realistic.

[Sadie Robertson]

Yeah.

[Si Robertson]

Okay, this. This is not miraculous. And I don't. Don't trust me. You got to get a job. We're not going to be able to live off love. We're gonna have to have a house. Living in.

[Willie Robertson]

No, I mean, knowing Granny and Pa, I don't know that they sat around often and wondered. I wonder if I chose the right one. It was more of a roll up your sleeves mentality of survival. And you know what I'm saying?

[Si Robertson]

Love.

[Willie Robertson]

And we're committed. And I'm not saying it has to be like that.

[Si Robertson]

That's why I said, hey, you gotta be realistic about this.

[Sadie Robertson]

Yeah.

[Willie Robertson]

But I think Sadie's right when she says, you see that especially in movies, and you see it now on social media, you're looking at somebody who's putting all this stuff up where it makes it look positive, like. And you're like, oh, I want that. And so I think a lot of people are waiting because they're going, oh, I got to have the perfect one. And so you're. You're the reason we've all been married a long time and we look as young as we do. Is Because a lot of that time where a lot of people are spending waiting to find that out, we're already married. And so we're already, you know, sleeves rolled up and doing that. I think Aunt Lisa were right. You don't know, like. You don't know, like, you don't know if you're going to be courageous or you don't know if you're going to sacrifice until the situation comes up. It's kind of like, if you think about presidents, like you go through the greatest presidents, oftentimes it was because there was some world challenge or some national challenge that they stepped up and they pulled that off. And other ones just didn't have the opportunity because they didn't have the same challenge. And that is marriage. I mean, you don't know, like, when Corey and I were, you know, dating, we didn't go through, okay, let's go through when we adopt a child and this happened. You know how. I mean, those are. You don't see that until it comes. You can see some traits and you can. Can hope. And let's face it, we can also just be like, oh, you're totally not what. You know, you can change or sin can come in, or other things can happen.

[Al Robertson]

Which is why, though, or you don't.

[Willie Robertson]

You're not courageous, you're not sacrificial, or you wander off, you know, and say, that's it. I'm done with this.

[Al Robertson]

Which is why the faith component is so important, that we have something bigger than each of us even to help pull to. Because sometimes that's going to happen. Our marriage verse, our life verse is Philippians Church 21 5. Because in there, when Paul's talking to the church, he's talking about trying to have better relationships. When he gets to the end of it and talks about looking out for each other's interests better than the other, and he gets to the end. He said, your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus. So he gives you that ultimate example to then go to, because he knows it's going to be difficult. And who had a more difficult time on earth than Jesus did? And he wasn't even married. And so. But he shows us what it takes to do that for one another. So that's why it is important. I mean, Lisa and I never began the path we needed to until we got on the same page spiritually. And so to your audience, which is obviously younger, I would say work toward those goals now, because when you go through those things later, you're gonna need that. I Mean, you're gonna need each other, but you're gonna need something with the Almighty.

[Si Robertson]

I always say it this way. Let me go check with a higher power.

[Sadie Robertson]

See, I think the thing that's.

[Si Robertson]

I'm not quite sure how to handle this. Let me check with a higher power.

[Sadie Robertson]

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[Si Robertson]

You better be real holistic, okay? Because, you know, life is tough, okay? You know, and like you said, okay, when the storm hits, okay, if you don't have something to anchor you down, what are you going to do? You know, because it's like the deal about, hey, if you won't stand for something, if you won't stand up for something, well, then you'll fall for anything.

[Willie Robertson]

And I think another thing is not even the social media or that we will look at people like, let's say you look at mom and I and say, well, look at that. There's 32 years of marriage. Look at the kids. That's another thing. Like, did your kids turn out good? But you forget Al mentioned his marriage verse. Ours was for the first ten years was Jesus wept because Corey cried every other day that we were married. And so I had this unique way of making Cory way every day, Cory.

[Si Robertson]

But you don't.

[Willie Robertson]

You don't know that. You don't see that today, do you? Like, you don't factor that in. You don't, you know, and so once you factor that in, you know, I mean, the first year, Corey, about 10 years into marriage, maybe 15, and Cory's like, yeah, we got married that first year. And I remember, like, oh, you know, and after a year, I was. I was like, what was I thinking? And I was like, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. I didn't know.

[Si Robertson]

Were we.

[Willie Robertson]

Was that open information? Like, I didn't know. What were we thinking? She was like, well, you know, it was hard. I was like, what were we thinking getting married? I was like, I literally never thought we said, why did we get married? But apparently you were one year into this. And so you don't see the struggles which you come through. You will tend to look at and notice what the good things are, which is great, but it's that you have to.

[Sadie Robertson]

This is so good, though.

[Willie Robertson]

It's. That. Is it the one? And so I can look back. And I always say this about. You can look back, back and go, like, no doubt this was the one. You know, I dated other people. Cory dated other people. Looking back in our lives is like, oh, for sure. This is the one. It's impossible to look forward and try to wager that and guess. Like, I'm going to guess exactly what that is, or I'm not going to get in a relationship until I know for sure. Sadly, a lot of people are just lonely, waiting for what they think is the one.

[Si Robertson]

What made you the man you are? Both of you?

[Willie Robertson]

What Biology. I don't know. Like.

[Si Robertson]

Well, no, no. What made you the man that you are?

[Willie Robertson]

I don't. Come on Dr. Side. I don't want to play this game. I don't. Why don't you just tell me what the answer.

[Al Robertson]

Just tell me what maybe you the man you are.

[Si Robertson]

I'll tell you what, mate. Your hardships.

[Willie Robertson]

Yeah.

[Si Robertson]

All the hardships.

[Willie Robertson]

You agree?

[Si Robertson]

Okay. It's made you who you are, and it also made Corey who she is.

[Sadie Robertson]

Yep, yep. So true.

[Si Robertson]

Here's what happened. The storm arrived. Okay. If you do it correctly, you come together and fight the storm. If you do it wrong, you try to separately do it separately, you go, it's failure.

[Sadie Robertson]

Yeah, it's so true.

[Si Robertson]

Everything you went through that was hard. Okay. Made you a better and a stronger man, and it made you. Made her a better and a stronger woman.

[Sadie Robertson]

Yep.

[Al Robertson]

You're right, Sam.

[Sadie Robertson]

It's so true. And actually, it. It's so cool to hear y' all say this. This is why this is, like, such incredible advice, especially for the young audience, because, you know, it's so much better. We talk about relationship advice all the time, but I've only been married for five years. But get someone here who's been married for 52 years, 40 years, 32 years. Like, now we're talking, like, real wisdom where you can look back and say these things. And I just think that a lot of people. People just like that honey analogy. You go into marriage and you think, what, it didn't work because you're not feeling the magic.

[Si Robertson]

She didn't feel the magic.

[Sadie Robertson]

You're not feeling the magic. Things aren't working out. And then you think, oh, I picked the wrong one. And then, you know, people end their marriage so soon. But I love how you, like, you're looking at, you're like, man, the first 10 years, you know, this happened. And then for you, like, 15 years. Not that y' all didn't have great moments in between great things happen. You had kids during that time, all this stuff, but it was really, really hard. But yet you stayed the course. And now Here you are 32 years in, and you have just built such a beautiful legacy. You know, you have kids and grandkids, and we're working together in this beautiful thing. Had you have gone in and said, well, that didn't work, you know, you would have never seen. I mean, Memo Campbell, Phil are such a good example of that, because had Mellow K just said that didn't work, you know, that was definitely not what I was expecting. But they stayed together and altered everything.

[Willie Robertson]

Everything would have been altered.

[Sadie Robertson]

We would not be here right now. I wouldn't even be alive. Yeah, that's right.

[Willie Robertson]

It's not. It's not fixable. It just would have altered from what you see now. And I think that's a great. I think it's a super great point because you, I think sometimes, Sadie, and perhaps some of your listeners may think, well, I'm not interested in what they're talking about. Like, I'm not interested in this. However you're living your life, I want to live exciting. And this is like you guys are. They're not thinking about being in that moment. And you're all our ages, but I promise you will be. You will be. When you get to this point in your life, you will hope that you had that, you know, that you can leave and you have the security and you have the love and you have the trust and you have all this, you know, hardships that you've been through. Because I'm telling you, when you, you know, there will be a time in your life when it's not all just in your 20s and just, you know, everything's so exciting. And we're just going to travel and we're going to do this. I'm you telling, telling you you'll want this, this peace in your relationship.

[Si Robertson]

I'll use the Robertson family and use Phil Robertson as the center point. Okay? If Bill Smith had not went to Phil Robertson and preached the gospel to him, none of us would be where we're at right now. None of us.

[Sadie Robertson]

Nope.

[Al Robertson]

Destinies are determined by decision.

[Si Robertson]

Oh, no.

[Al Robertson]

It's usually a decision to find, fight, and to do what's right.

[Si Robertson]

That's why I was saying, okay. Everything that challenged you, okay, has made you a Better person. Because, hey, like you were talking about, you went through it.

[Sadie Robertson]

Yeah.

[Si Robertson]

Oh, you're not interested in what we're telling you. Well, you're not interested in life, okay? Because trust me when I tell you the storms coming, okay, whenever it hits, you're going to have to deal with it, okay? And that's why I said, hey, if you don't have a relationship with a creator, you're doing it alone. And tough gold, tough go my man or lady?

[Willie Robertson]

Tough gold.

[Al Robertson]

My lady. And I come, come my lady.

[Si Robertson]

But I'm serious. I'm serious, okay? You know, hey, life is tough, okay?

[Sadie Robertson]

You're not wrong.

[Willie Robertson]

Well, and it's not even. I think it's probably the storms will come about like they do in life. You know what I'm saying? We don't live through. It's not storming every day. You know, they're going to crop up, they're going to blow through and a

[Sadie Robertson]

lot of days have our waves. Because you gotta. This is what I love, this quote. You gotta learn to ride the waves of life that slam you into the rock of ages because it will feel like waves sometimes. Sometimes you're going to be riding the wave, surfing it. Sometimes you're going to be under it.

[Si Robertson]

Yeah, you're going to be under it.

[Sadie Robertson]

Yeah. And you got to learn to ride the wave because seasons come and seasons go.

[Willie Robertson]

But you just can't factor in all the possibilities. I hear people, you know, I can just hear them talking about it's not always just, you know, marriage or the right relationship. I hear it about jobs and I heard about, should I live here, should I ever. Overthinking everything. Factor in, you can't. Sometimes you just gotta go, you know what? Or does God want me here? Wherever I'm at, God's there. You know, he's here, he's there. He can be here, he can be there.

[Si Robertson]

He can't go where he ain't.

[Willie Robertson]

And I think sometimes we try going to try to map this out. And the Bible never says Jesus, when he left, didn't say, here's what I want you to do. Try to figure it out. I want you to try to figure out what's going to happen. That would have been a great game because he said, I know you don't. But he never said, try to figure it all out. But, man, I listen to people going, it's all about, I'm just looking for the sign. And we talked about the signs. And Christianity can be the same way. It's like, well, if I see A sign. Well, man, we're all the way back to, you know, we're all the way back to the New Testament on people looking. If I see it, if I know it, if I knew for sure. And now we're losing the faith part. Like Al said, you're losing the faith and the adventure and the courage and we're, you know.

[Sadie Robertson]

And when you read.

[Si Robertson]

Here's the answer to this.

[Willie Robertson]

I figured it out.

[Si Robertson]

No, no, here's the answer to this. Don't try to figure it out. Just trust. Just trust and try.

[Sadie Robertson]

God will redirect you.

[Si Robertson]

Trust God and try. Try. That's all you got to do.

[Willie Robertson]

That's it.

[Si Robertson]

Trust him and look. Then, hey, when it happens and you go, well, that was so easy.

[Sadie Robertson]

Well, to that point, though, dad, like the New Testament, it really kind of breaks down the argument because, like, you remember whenever Jesus, they were going to a place, and it said the spirit of God would not let them in. So then they went to the next place. And I think about Paul, and it's like God actually was like, do not go. What was it like? Don't go to Jerusalem. He's like, I'm going to Jerusalem. And it's like, that's such an interesting theme because he actually was not led to go to Jerusalem, but he went to Jerusalem. Jerusalem. And he endured hardship, but he also preached the gospel there. And so it's like, I. I feel like God, you're with him. He's with you. You know, he's with you everywhere you go. If you're not supposed to go, he will redirect you if you get there. He will sustain you if you endure the hardship. He is there with you. And I think so many people. Yes. You try to figure out, like, what is God thinking and looking for the signs? And stop looking for the signs. Like, just walk with him. The Holy Spirit is guiding you. He is leading.

[Si Robertson]

Signs will not save you.

[Sadie Robertson]

Yes.

[Si Robertson]

Okay. Yeah. That's why I, you know, I was going to add this. Joe, you need to read about Job. Okay? God turned Job over to Satan to do what he was. He could do anything except not kill him, you know? So, hey, you need to learn at an early age, patience. Okay?

[Al Robertson]

So.

[Willie Robertson]

One more and be patient.

[Sadie Robertson]

What did you say? So destiny is determined by decisions. Is that what you said? That was such a boy. That's good moment. That's so true. And I think when it comes down to it, the anxiety comes around making decisions, you know, especially.

[Si Robertson]

That's the. That's the bummer.

[Sadie Robertson]

Deciding who you're gonna marry, deciding where you're gonna live, deciding what job you're gonna have. And in your 20s, you're filled with so many decisions that you get so much anxiety about making them. But you have to decide because it is determined by your decision. If you do not make that decision, you're stalling your, you know, and I think to your point of like, you're going to want to look up one day and be like, man, this is where I'm. I'm grateful for where I'm at. It's kind of like, you know, we, we were talking about wanting to have kids young. Okay, well, if we want to have kids young, got to get married young, you know, and then we were like, we want to have our kids close together. And then after we had honey, and then I was like a year and a half out, I was like, okay, well, if I want them to be close together, then I don't need to have, you know. And so to, you know, so much of it is up to the Lord's timing on those things. Yes. Especially getting pregnant. But there is a cost in your sins. But it's like, ok, if this is where I want my life to go, I have to make a decision or else it's not gonna go there. And so if you are in a relationship with someone right now who is showing you all the signs that he is not the person you're gonna marry, you have to make a decision to break up and get out of the relationship so that you can be prepared and ready to say yes when the right person comes. If you're in a relationship right now where you're like, we are 100% gonna get married, but you're stalling for whatever reason. You gotta make a decision. If it's a job, you just have to make a decision because that's what's leading you where gonna. You're going to go and trust that the Holy Spirit is in you and guiding you into those places. You're not going to mess it up if you are staying. If you're just staying in a conversation with God, you're not going to mess it up. And even whenever you go through those hard times, he is with you. You just got to learn to ride those waves alongside of the Creator. And so honestly, I'm. I've learned so much from this conversation. I'm like, this was amazing. I honestly thought this podcast could go a lot of different ways. I thought it might just be so crazy with the three of y', all, cuz y' all are so funny, and we can go all these different places, but there has been so much depth, so much wisdom, so much advice that I've personally taken.

[Si Robertson]

That was one of the things that surprised me with the bunch. I went in my park. Yeah, okay. Because people asked advice, okay. And there's four of us in there, and we each give our take on it. And I was shocked I even told him. I said, I figured all three of y', all, all four of us, a bunch of dummies. I said, but I was just shocked at the good advice we do give people.

[Sadie Robertson]

It's great. I mean, the fruit of your life does the talking.

[Si Robertson]

No, no. Because I told Al once when him and Lisa were having trouble, I said, well, now you know how Jesus feels. And he said, what are you talking about? I said, well, if nobody's ever harmed you or done you wrong, you have no idea of what forgiveness is until you have to make the choice, oh, he hurt me. Do I forgive him, or do I hold it against him the rest of his life?

[Willie Robertson]

Editor's note, too. When size says, no, no, that's a positive, not a negative. That's not. No, I disagree. He says, yeah, no, no, no, it's. Yes, I agree. Because that can be very confusing to a list.

[Al Robertson]

We'll put that in the show notes.

[Si Robertson]

Here's the thing, okay? In my travels, yo, here's what I see in the world. A lot of misery.

[Al Robertson]

Yeah.

[Si Robertson]

Number one, I do not see enough smiles. Number two, I don't see enough laughter. Number three, I don't see nobody joyful. Okay? And the reason they're not. They're not realistic, okay? That's why I said, okay. The first and most important thing. Thing is you got to have a relationship with the creator.

[Willie Robertson]

Don't even get on obesity.

[Sadie Robertson]

Obesity.

[Si Robertson]

Hey, hey, What? You solve that by kicking away from the table.

[Sadie Robertson]

Oh, that's hilarious. We're having so much good advice. No, but honestly, so much good advice. And. And just I have to say, in wrapping this up to young people, like to have people like y' all in my life. I'm just so grateful for uncles and a dad and grandparents who have set such a beautiful example of marriage and faithfulness to the Lord. Like, I am so grateful for that, and I know not everyone has in their life, and I'm so thankful that you guys came on my podcast to share that, because I do think a lot of the advice we're taking is from, you know, influencers that we see and different things, and that's not necessarily a bad thing. Influencers are great. Social media is a great tool tool. But you also need to look at, you know, you might not have thought Uncle Sai was going to have a bunch of great marriage advice, but why not? He's been married for 52 years. You know, you need to surround yourself with people who actually the fruit of their life does the talking. You know, they have longevity to the the advice and the wisdom that they're giving. They're able to look back and take from things, not just giving it to you, where you're at. And I'm including myself in that. Here I am doing this podcast week after week and I'm learning alongside of you from so many different age ranges, so many different people, and I'm so grateful for that. You need the generations, you need to learn from those who are older than you, who have actually walked the walk. And so I'm so thankful for y' all coming on the podcast. This was incredible. Thank you guys for sending in these questions. We really do value all the questions that you ask and really do think about who can we bring on to really speak into this. And I think you guys nailed it. So thank y' all so much. Capture your favorite summer feeling with Pandora Jewelry. Discover a collection inspired by the sunshine, freedom and moments that make the season unforgettable. From sun kissed metals to personalized pieces ready to be engraved with your summer mantra. Each design moves with you from beach days to gold, golden nights and every memory in between. Shop Pandora Jewelry's new summer collection in store or [e-mail] and let your summer unfold.