God Had a Better Plan — Ben & Erin Napiers’ Unexpected Journey | Sadie Robertson Huff

Summary

WHOA That’s Good Podcast: God Had a Better Plan — Ben & Erin Napiers’ Unexpected Journey

Host: Sadie Robertson Huff
Guests: Ben & Erin Napier (of HGTV's “Home Town”)
Date: October 15, 2025

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Episode Overview

In this heartfelt and candid episode, Sadie Robertson Huff welcomes back Erin Napier and, for the first time, her husband Ben Napier. The couple shares their unexpected journey from college days and career uncertainty to national fame on HGTV, unpacking life-changing advice, stories of faith, heartbreak, and the reality of building a family and public life together. They dive into topics like the value of honest communication, trusting God’s better plan, handling career pivots, helping kids form healthy relationships, and prioritizing family over success.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Best Advice Ever Received

[03:31] Ben's Advice:
“Do the best you can. Don’t worry about it.”

• Ben’s go-to advice, learned from a family friend who overcame numerous challenges, stresses the importance of effort over anxiety.
• “Everything’s going to be all right.” – Ben Napier [04:51]

[05:18] Erin's Advice:
The “Five People” conversation.

• Erin shares how a family friend regularly asked her children to talk about the five people influencing them the most, encouraging discernment and thoughtful relationships.
• “It helps kids weed out friendships that are not good... helps them figure out discernment for themselves.” – Erin Napier [06:08]

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2. Ben & Erin’s Awkward, Honest Love Story

[07:17 – 17:55]

• Erin and Ben recount their college “meet-cute,” filled with awkward conversations and misunderstandings:
  • Erin: “You were Diet Ben – or not Diet Ben, just different...” [10:40]
  • Ben’s infamous compliment: “Short hair, like that, that looks really great. A lot of girls can’t pull that off, but it looks great on you.” [11:03]
  • Series of “slammed doors” finally lead to connection and honesty.
• Six days of being inseparable after finally connecting:
  • Ben: “I love you and I think I want to marry you one day.” [17:35]
  • Erin: “Me too.” [17:41]
• Takeaway: Be honest and clear in relationships—even if the answer isn’t what you hope, it brings necessary clarity.
  • “You’ll either get your happy ending, or you’ll get clarity.” – Erin Napier [19:57]

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3. The Gift and Necessity of Heartache

[20:04 – 24:01]

• Heartbreak isn’t just about relationships, but about disappointments in life and career.
  • Ben: “Some of the greatest country songs of all time are about heartache. Greatest stories we’ve ever read are about heartache.” [20:04]
  • Sadie: “We fear (heartbreak) when sometimes it’s necessary.” [21:11]
• Ben relates his perspective on loss from seeing his parents repeatedly “lose everything” and rebuild.
  • “At the end of the day, everything’s gonna be okay. It’s hard, it’ll be very hard, you’ll have very hard days.” – Ben Napier [22:05]

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4. Trusting God’s Unexpected Plan

[24:01 – 38:14]

• Ben and Erin’s careers didn’t follow any of their original plans (law school, politics, corporate design).
  • Erin: “Every plan we ever had did not happen. God had a thousand times better idea.” [36:27]
• Erin’s practice of writing a daily gratitude journal led to their break when a producer discovered their home renovation journey.
  • “If someone I love had died that day, I had to sit down... and think of something that was wonderful, that was a blessing.” – Erin Napier [30:56]
• Ben’s major step of faith: leaving youth ministry when he felt God calling him elsewhere, despite having no idea what would come next.
  • The very night Ben drafted his resignation letter, HGTV reached out.
  • “You're gonna be okay. Something is out here.” – Ben Napier [35:20]
• Erin recommends "Streams in the Desert" for recognizing God’s "quiet little checks" or inner guidance.
  • Erin: “Mind the checks God sends—quiet little whispers. If you're not paying attention to them, you'll miss them. If you follow them, even if it feels crazy and scary, that's really the direction he's trying to guide you.” [37:41]

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5. Life on TV: Adjusting Dreams and Priorities

[44:27 – 49:31]

• The surprise, hesitancy, and reality behind their HGTV show.
  • Pilot filmed July 2015, premiered January 2016—highest-rated pilot due to a snowstorm.
• Parenting and family priorities now shape their schedules more than TV commitments:
  • Erin: “None of that matters. I’m gonna be at field day. I can’t work. I’m sorry. That’s my priorities into perspective more.” [47:11]
  • “We like being home with the girls... we've got a beautiful garden.” – Ben Napier [49:04]

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6. Intentional Parenting through Awkward Years

[49:31 – 57:25]

• Erin discusses plans to homeschool her daughters through middle school—age when she struggled most.
  • “I want to be there for it in a way my parents couldn’t be...” [48:24]
• Steps to protect and nurture confidence:
  • No smartphones for their young children; using landlines and watches that call/text only. [51:31]
  • Distinct roles of their daughters: introvert (Helen) and extrovert (Mae) – learning to help each other in social situations.
    • Ben: “Mae goes up and says, ‘Hi, my name’s Mae, this is my sister Helen.’ And then they’re in.” [57:10]
• The need for honest parent-kid talks and empathy:
  • “Some of the most powerful moments with your kids are whenever you’re honest about... you can empathize with their pain.” – Sadie Robertson [54:30]

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7. Encouragement for Young Adults and Career Seekers

[58:40 – 60:40]

• Ben and Erin advocate for considering trade schools and avoiding social stigma around nontraditional careers.
  • Ben: “Every plumber, every electrician, every carpenter, everybody on all of our crews are like, ‘We can’t find anybody to work.’” [58:40]
  • Erin: “It's cool. (Our plumber) went against the grain, took up his grandfather's plumbing business—and he's cool. You can change the stereotype completely.” [60:08]
• “The world is big enough for all the giftings God gave every single person.” – Sadie Robertson [60:40]

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• Ben [03:31]: “Do the best you can. Don’t worry about it.”
• Erin [06:08]: “Who are the five people influencing you the most?”
• Erin [19:57]: “You’ll either get your happy ending, or you’ll get clarity. Yes, clarity may come with heartbreak.”
• Ben [22:05]: “At the end of the day, everything’s gonna be okay. Yeah, it's hard. It will be very hard. You will have very hard days.”
• Erin [36:27]: “Every plan we ever had did not happen. God had a thousand times better idea.”
• Erin [37:41]: “Mind the checks God sends—quiet little whispers...if you're not asking for them and you're not paying attention, you'll miss them.”
• Ben [58:40]: “Go to trade school... If you can’t figure it out, there is a way that you can do something until you figure it out.”

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Important Timestamps

• [03:31] — Ben’s best advice: “Do the best you can. Don’t worry about it.”
• [05:18] — Erin’s best advice: the five friends exercise for kids.
• [07:17 – 17:55] — Ben & Erin’s humorous, honest love story and tips for breaking the ice.
• [19:57] — “Happy ending or clarity” on confessing feelings honestly.
• [22:05] — Surviving and learning from heartache.
• [30:56] — Erin’s gratitude journal practice.
• [35:05] — The timing of HGTV’s invitation after a major leap of faith.
• [37:41] — “Mind the checks” and listening for God’s guidance.
• [47:11] — Choosing family priorities over work/fame.
• [51:31] — Strategies for keeping kids healthy in the digital age.
• [57:10] — Sibling teamwork in overcoming social fears.
• [58:40] — Careers & encouragement to challenge social expectations.

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Conclusion

This engaging episode is packed with wisdom, honesty, and warmth. Ben and Erin’s story illustrates how following God’s whispers and embracing the unexpected can lead to something better than any dream board. Their practical advice—for relationships, parenting, career, and dealing with anxiety—delivers hope, laughter, and authentic encouragement for listeners in any life stage.

Transcript

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[A]

What's up? Woah. That's good fam. I hope you're having a great week but per usual it is about to get so so much better because we have two very special guests on the podcast. One is back for the second time, the other one, it is a first time appearance on Whoa. That's good. And I am thrilled to get to interview Ben and Aaron Napier. Welcome back to the podcast Aaron. And welcome for the first time Ben.

[B]

What's up.

[C]

Thank you so much for having us, Sadie. We're supposed to be there in real life today, but the weather there is absolutely horrible.

[A]

I know the weather is nuts, and I'm glad you even said that because for those who listen, you might hear thunder roaring in the back. And yeah, it is even hailing here today. So it's good for y'. All. You aren't here, but stinks for. For all of us that we couldn't hang out.

[B]

The next time it's gonna happen, but next time we're gonna be there.

[C]

Yeah.

[A]

No. I'm so excited. Like I mentioned, Aaron, you were on the podcast when my mom was doing interviews when I was postpartum cardam. And I went back and listened to that episode, and it was so encouraging. And I remember that being one of the favorites of the year truly just reached a lot of people, and people were very encouraged and loved it. And so it's a joy to have you back with your hubby this time. You know, I know you got asked the question, but, Ben, you haven't been asked this question yet. And this is the question I ask everybody in the let's Go podcast. If you don't see this coming, I'm sorry it's going to come so from left field, but it's okay. Just whatever comes to your mind. What is the best piece of advice you have ever been given? Boom.

[B]

Do the best you can. Don't worry about it.

[C]

You were ready.

[B]

Well, ready to give that. It is my go to. Because it's this. There was this. My dad is a preacher, and they were at this country church for a while. And there was this guy there who. He was born with a speech impediment. He was an older man. He was born with a speech impediment. And because of the time and the place that he was born and grew up, his family was like, oh, well, he's handicapped. He's not going to school. He's going to, like, work on the farm or whatever.

[C]

He never learned to read. And he also had very poor vision.

[B]

Yeah, he was blind, basically, but. But he couldn't. They couldn't get his glasses figured out because he couldn't read or write. So, you know this.

[C]

They didn't do the picture charts like they do with toddlers.

[B]

They may do that now. But back then. Back then. And also, like, you know, he thought he could see. Like, before you got glasses, you thought you could see. You thought that that was what things look like. And so he. But also, like, he had this speech Impediment. But he was very sharp. I mean, he knew he was perfect, perfectly fine learning. He had all the abilities to learn. They just had never been taught.

[C]

He had a lot of challenges.

[B]

Had a lot of challenges and. But he had a great outlook on life and it was do the best you can. Don't worry about it.

[A]

That's great.

[B]

Everything's going to be, everything's going to be all right.

[C]

It's so great in some form or fashion.

[A]

Those are the best kind of pieces of advice because they stick with you. Because that is something that I will now say to the best.

[B]

I think about it daily.

[A]

It's so easy to think about that and it's so true. It's a small piece of advice. It goes a really long way. Aaron, I know you've shared before on the well, that's good podcast, but do you have any fresh, best pieces of advice for us?

[C]

Yes. My friend Lisa has really exceptional kids who are her youngest is now in high school and her oldest are all in college or graduated and they're all remarkable.

[B]

She's a worker, she and her husband both working career people, but they were.

[C]

Super involved in their kids lives and always as a family, they would sit around the dinner table and talk about their five people, the five friends in your life who are influencing you, are making you who you are. So what are those qualities of those five friends? And let's talk about it. And it would, she learned by talking about it regularly, helped her kids weed out friendships that were not good with people who were not shaping them into the person they wanted to be. And so that's, I think, great advice. You can even talk about that with a first grader.

[A]

Yeah, it's so good too because instead of like you as the parent having to come in and say like, you shouldn't hang out with this person or that person, it lets them, the kids figure out discernment and who they should hang out with or not. I love that. That is so good. When my kids are old enough, I'm gonna bring that one into our rotation.

[B]

Like growing up, our parents, there were always people that our parents, both of us have talked about that our parents didn't want us to be around. And at the time we were very like, you don't know what you're talking, you don't know them. And then as time went on, we figured it out like, oh, you were so right. They were right.

[A]

Yeah, it's so true.

[B]

So it's a way of them figuring it out on their own on their.

[A]

Own saves you a lot of that. That just being stupid with the wrong.

[C]

Yes.

[B]

Oh, my gosh.

[A]

Good. Okay, so last time you were on this podcast, Aaron, you were talking about when you first met Ben, and you mentioned from your perspective that you felt like you were just bombing it. Every time y' all talk, you just didn't say the right thing. So I gotta hear now that we have been on the podcast to clear this. Did she bomb it? What was Yalls first meeting like? Aaron, do you still feel like she's.

[B]

She says that she bombed it, and she's. I've heard her say that, but I. It.

[C]

I didn't know what I was supposed to say to a boy I had a crush on for a year when he walks up to me and finally says, hello. Like, I couldn't say, I love you so much. I want to marry and have your babies.

[B]

But I was very.

[C]

Tell me what you wish I had said.

[A]

Well, what did you say?

[B]

So it's very. It came across very differently from my part. Now I'm very. I was very confident back then, and I was so smooth before I had kids and before, like, I became just a dad.

[A]

But.

[B]

So it's the last day of where everyone's moving out of the dorms. Last day of freshman year. Um, I'm going home for the summer. Don't know if I'm coming back to school. Don't know what. Like, you know, at the time, I was not focused on anything, and I knew who Aaron was and had also had had a crush on her. And since the first week of school, it was the first time I saw her. And, like, Aaron had noticed me because I was very active on campus, in.

[C]

Every group, president of every club, having a good time. Every page of the yearbook, he's there.

[B]

But I had just noticed Erin. She was walking across the student union, and they caught my attention, and I was like, wow, that girl's really striking. And I was very interested in her. And I knew her roommate. I didn't know that it was her roommate, but she was sitting with this girl, and I knew the girl she was sitting with. I walk into McDonald's. This is my opportunity to walk over and speak to this girl that I've been admiring from a distance. So I walk across the room, and I'd never, like. I would just see Aaron, like, in the student union. She wasn't involved in, like, she wasn't at any of the events that I was running, except for, like, she might show up to, like, a midnight breakfast in the cafeteria or Something and. But we wouldn't interact. She would just be there. And so this is my chance. She's sitting there with this person I know. I can walk up and speak. I walk over, I talk to her friend, and her friend's like, I don't know if you know my roommate, Aaron. Oh, hey, I'm Ben Napier. And Aaron says, I know who you are.

[C]

I work with a guy who looks a lot like you.

[B]

And me being the ever so smooth, ever so confident, you know, six foot six, very handsome, very, you know, I'm like, oh, he must be a very good looking guy. And I said, yeah, I guess.

[C]

I guess.

[A]

Oh, my gosh.

[B]

And I was like. Because I couldn't say.

[C]

I couldn't say the real.

[A]

That was a hard position to be put in, though. Those tough positions.

[B]

It was very like, I'm sorry I put her in this position. But what she should have gone with and we could have. I would have just not gone home for the. For the summer was.

[C]

I'm.

[B]

Yes, he does look. He is good looking and you are too, and I'm in love with you, and we should get married and have kids and then we could have gotten this.

[C]

You totally would have been completely accepting.

[B]

Absolutely. If you had said that in that moment, I would have been like, hindsight's.

[A]

Always 20 20, right? Hindsight. But is it true, Aaron, that you actually dated the guy at your work? Because he looked like Ben. And that was kind of the reason. He.

[C]

He was a very, very nice guy, but he was diet Ben, you know.

[B]

Or not diet B. Just different.

[C]

Different.

[B]

Like Dr. Pepper and Mr. Pip.

[C]

He was very quiet, coconut. Y' all were very, very different. We couldn't have a conversation. But the first time Ben and I, like, he looked like Ben Napier. So I went on a few days, that is.

[B]

But then there were two more door slams. One was, I totally bombed a conversation with Aaron. I was trying to, like, use something to pay her a compliment. I told her at the time she had a pixie cut, and I was like, short hair, like that. That's. That looks really great. A lot of. A lot of girls can't pull that off, but it looks great on you. And Joy, her friend who was sitting at the table with her, had.

[C]

We had literally come from the hair salon where she had cut her hair that was to the middle of her back up to here.

[A]

Oh, my God.

[B]

Just said that most girls can't pull off.

[A]

Oh, my God.

[C]

And so I have to. I have to step out for her and be like, well, it's Funny that you say that. Joy just cut her hair.

[B]

So. Yeah, it looks great on you.

[C]

You didn't even notice that.

[B]

Yeah Joy, it looks. Your hair looks great too.

[C]

Hey. Bye.

[B]

See you later. So that was the second one. Then the third one was I was driving across.

[C]

I think I covered all this year a year ago.

[A]

No no no. This is fresh crowd, fresh audience. New Year's foreign.

[D]

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[B]

Third one I'm driving across campus and I see her walking out of this building and I'm like it's going to time out perfect. We're going to meet. And I slow down, and a buddy of mine was in the car with me, and he let the window down on his side. She's walking, and as she's stepping up, I'm noticing that Erin was crying. She's like, red eyes crying. And I went, oh, shoot. This girl. She's crying. And I said, hey, is everything okay? And she said. And I had been in that building earlier that day, and she said, ben, someone stole my purse out of the yearbook room. And some people said that you were in the building earlier. So my mind immediately, being this poor, you know, kid from South Mississippi, I was like, oh, shoot, she thinks that I stole her purse.

[C]

Of course I didn't.

[B]

And I. And I said. I said, I didn't steal your purse. And she said, no, no, that's not what I mean. I was. I promise you, I didn't steal your purse.

[C]

I wondered if he had seen anyone running with a bag across campus.

[A]

Oh, my God.

[B]

So I, like, drive away, like, all right, well, that's it. I'm never. She's never going to speak to me again, and I need to look in other places. And.

[C]

And then I finally got it together when he was running for.

[B]

I ran for student body. Mr. J.C. Mr. Jones College, and, you know, for the yearbook. And it was as a joke. Me and my buddies did it as a joke.

[C]

And he was in a tuxedo, shaking hands.

[D]

Yeah.

[B]

I was going around campaigning, shaking hands. And she was walking out of the building with a group of friends, and I knew everyone in the group, and I was like, hey, I said, you're gonna vote for me, right? And Erin, very flirtatiously with her eyes.

[C]

Well, I had to.

[B]

At some point, she looked at me and said, you know, I voted for you. And it was like this moment where I was like, okay, the door is now cracked open. It's been slammed three times in a row. This time, it was cracked open. And then the. I didn't win that. But the yearbook ended up doing a story on me, and I was the.

[C]

Editor, the design editor.

[A]

Ayo.

[B]

And we've been inseparable since, as fate.

[A]

Would have it, the design editor in the yearbook. That is so cute. I love that so much. That is the sweetest story ever. And I think it's really cute. Like, the awkward tension and the cuteness of y' all both liked each other from afar and didn't know how to, like, tell each other that. And you were playing.

[C]

You should have just said it. We should all be more honest, is the moral of the story.

[A]

See that, that is what I was going to ask you though, because people are out there right now in the same pickle. They liked a guy forever, that the gu. Like the girl forever. They don't know how to break the ice coming from two people. How do you break the ice?

[C]

Listen, I had a long conversa. We're in our office, so there's people walking around.

[A]

I love it.

[C]

They're normal, they're good. They're supposed to be here. So we, we had. I had lunch with a friend of mine who's in her 20s this week and she's like, Aaron, you just don't understand how awful and hard the dating situation is. If you're in your 20s, nobody will just say what they mean. And everybody is so like just trying to be like lukewarm and, and too cool to say, I like you. And I would like to get married sooner than later and then I would like to have a family. And they're not saying these things, so they just have what they're calling the situationship, which I learned about. I feel young and hip knowing what a situationship is.

[B]

I still don't understand it.

[C]

Well, it's not something that we did. We met and six days later we're like, let's get married.

[A]

So wait, all that, all those moments with y' all happen within six days?

[B]

No, no, no.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

Yeah. Over the course of a year.

[C]

And then, and then when the yearbook story happened, we were together that day to work on yearbook and we were together non stop for six days after. And then he was like, I love you and I think I want to marry you one day. And I was like, well, me too. And so.

[A]

Oh my gosh. And see, this is.

[C]

But for me, it was big that my parents met him in those six days because he's just my friend that came by the house with me. Not because he was my boyfriend.

[B]

Yeah. We weren't dating.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

We were in a situation.

[C]

And my parents were just like, he's wonderful. And they had never said anything like that before.

[B]

Still the best son in law they've ever had.

[A]

Of course, I only have a brother that's so awesome. And hey, you're preaching to people out there. Because seriously, like, be honest, you know, because it, you know, one time, I'll be honest. I have a tough story on an honest moment. So my friend had a friend that she had liked for. She kind of liked him for a while and she would always say, you know, well, if I don't get married, like, I'll marry This guy, you know, like, that was kind of always their thing. Like, if I don't get married, I made this guy. And I was like, I think you need to tell him that you like him, because I don't. Like, what if he doesn't feel the same way? Or what if he does? Because if he doesn't feel the same way, at least we can. Like, you can move on and not have that in the back of your mind that one day you're gonna marry him. But if he does feel the same way, then let's speed this process up. What are we waiting on? You know? Why are we gonna wait years when it could be now? And so I was like, okay, like, you should do it. You should do it. Well, then she did it, and it was, like, so tough because he was like, oh, I. I didn't see it like that. Like, I totally thought we were just friends. Well, then I, like, felt so bad because I was like, oh, I'm the worst. Like, why did I tell you to do that? It was so crushing.

[C]

It needed to happen.

[A]

But at the same time, she was like, no, actually, that was a good thing, because it stunk in the moment. It was terrible. But then it was like, actually, no, that needed to happen. She was like, because in the back of my mind, I always did think he might be the one. And now I'm just glad to know, you know? So I think it's always good, no matter how it turns out, because you at least have clarity, and it. It helps you move on. Like, it helps you either move on to the right person or he would have been the right person.

[C]

You'll either get your happy ending or you'll get clarity. Yes, clarity may come with heartbreak, but.

[A]

It is clarity and as a good thing.

[B]

So I feel like we're kind of like we've all gotten a little too afraid of heartache. I mean, some of the greatest country songs of all time are about heartache. Greatest. Greatest stories we've ever read are about heartache. And you. You read in the Bible, and there's so much heartache. And it's not necessarily bad. I mean, it. Yes, it is tough in the moment, but you always. There's always good that comes after it.

[C]

And you never had your heart broken.

[B]

I don't know. I didn't get in. I didn't. I didn't get accepted to Duke University and get recruited to play basketball there. That was pretty heartbreaking.

[C]

It was okay.

[A]

Heartbreak can look different ways. Sometimes it's from a breakup, sometimes it's from a disappointment in life. And that's true. Actually, I'm really reading through psalms right now, and it's. I haven't read through psalms in a long time. Like, just.

[C]

It's my favorite.

[A]

It's been so good for me. Like, it has re. Taught me how to pray things.

[C]

It's for the anxious people.

[A]

Praise the Lord. And, yeah, I feel like it tells you where you're at in life when you're like, I'm reading through Psalms. You're like, oh, yeah, how's your heart?

[B]

You're going through?

[A]

How's your heart? You know? But it's true. It's like, to your point, we don't know how to deal with a broken heart. We. We fear it when sometimes it's necessary. And watching DAV go through so many. I mean, David's one of the ones that talks about going through heartbreak the most. And it doesn't look like a relationship. It looks more like running from his enemies or feeling like God isn't answering him and, like, all these things. But it's so cool because in those Psalms, it's like the truth of how hard heartbreak is matched with the truth of how faithful God still is in the midst of it. It's always like, but I will still praise you, but you are still here. You are still. And it's so cool. I've been kind of underlining those. But this and this, like, this can still be true in the midst of that. And so to your point, like, yeah, we fear that, but if it's worth gaining clarity, it's worth it.

[B]

And that's my. I talk about this a lot with Aaron, and we talk about a lot, and we talk and talk about it with other people, but. So growing up in my house, when I was a little kid, my parents lost everything financially. Like, we. They literally. They had a. This old Datsun car because the bank said that that car has no value. And so they let my dad keep it. And we were going down the road. This is one of my earliest memories, was riding down the road in this car, and the hood flew up and busted the windshield. And my dad's solution was he. He jerked the hood off the car and threw it in the ditch and kept going. And so this is the kind of car we're talking about. And so. But up to that point, up until them losing everything. Like, my dad, he was a big farmer, and he had. It was this weird bank loan situation that is actually an illegal loan. They can't do it anymore. And anyway, he lost everything and he rebuilt it all and then he lost it all again. And so my perspective on heartache and loss was from watching my parents lose and rebuild and start over and then have a surprise baby. Late, like, late in life when they. They really, like, as far as the world was concerned, they did not need that child. And he was. He was a, you know, a miracle situation. And so I'm always looking and that's the whole, you know, do the best you can and don't worry about it because, like, at the end of the day, everything's gonna be okay. Yeah, it's. It's hard. It will be very hard. You will have very hard days. And. And Aaron, like, that is probably her greatest fear, is not being prepared and.

[C]

Not like, planning, not seeing it coming, whatever it is.

[A]

Yep. It's most people. I feel like most people find themselves in that, like, because fear is the unknown. Right. It's like the what if? It's always like the what is what could happen, what might happen, all the different things. And it's so true. It's like we don't know what's going to happen. And so you. That's why, like, reading through the Psalms is so important, because it's like reminding you, where does my help come from when it happens? Who is my strength and my shield? Who is my counsel? Who is my rock? Who is my guide? Who is my peace? And it's like it's kind of building up your faith for when those things happen, which is so cool. So I gotta get back to this. Six days and then you said, I love you. This is so great. How long did it take from I love you to when did you actually propose? And what did that look like? Look, fam, just because the weather's cooling down does not mean that we can slack on our hydration game. I know. Element sounds like a summer thing. Sweaty workout sound, blazing hot days. But honestly, we need it more whenever the temps start to drop. Because here's the deal. Hydration isn't just about chugging water. Your body needs the right mix of electrolytes to function well. And when you're busy, you're a little worn down, or you're just trying to make it through a chaotic fall week. Element legit helps you feel like a human again. It is a zero sugar electrolyte drink mix or sparkling water can made without sugar or artificial junk. Just clean, powerful hydration people. It is so good. I love keeping a stick pack in my bag for whenever I'm feeling a little foggy or sluggish. It's a game changer. I actually have my purse right here and there are about four element packs in there. So whether you're bundled up for a football game, chasing kids through the pumpkin paths, or just trying to make it to bedtime without crashing. Element has your back. Element has been my go to for a long time now. It is my afternoon pick me up. It is so good. I crave one every single day. I personally love the lemonade this summer. I love the raspberry salt. The watermelon salt has been one of my favorites for years. It's just good stuff. So get your free Element sample pack with any [e-mail]. whoa. Try element totally risk free. If you don't like it, they'll refund your order, no questions asked. That's Drink Element. D R I n k l m n-t.com.

[B]

So Aaron's dad had a rule that we both had to have a degree before we could get married. Finish our four year, finish our four year degree. And I was very like, up until I met Aaron, I was here for a good time. I was here for a good time and I didn't care if it lasted a long time. Like, I was not, I had no, I mean, like, I was not.

[C]

You didn't think about the future?

[B]

I was not thinking about the future. And I still probably don't think about the future because as long as I my thing, as long as I've got Aaron and the girls, then we're gonna be great. But for me, college, like, it was my first chance of freedom. And I still, like, I've never drank alcohol. I didn't drink in college. I didn't do drugs or anything. But I was the, like my friends who like, hey, you know, y' all are going to be drinking tonight. I'm driving. We're not going. We're going to go to New Orleans and we're going to sing karaoke at the Cat's Meow. And it's going to be great. And we're going to drive home at sunset and we're going to miss class tomorrow. So my college career was not going that great.

[C]

You could have used a little focus.

[B]

I needed some focus and that came through.

[C]

And you don't need a college degree to do the job that you do. Which is the best part.

[B]

That's Aaron's dad, like, you know, you got to have a degree.

[C]

And so I think he finished college with like a three point.

[B]

It was barely over.

[C]

Unbelievable.

[B]

You had to have a 2.0 to graduate, and I mean, to transfer to a university in Mississippi. And it was like a 2.01.

[C]

So he got into Ole Miss, and he graduated from Ole miss with a 3.2.

[B]

I made nearly all A's and B's at once. I was at Ole Miss, and I was very. And it's funny, because Ole Miss is a party school, and there was no party. I was buckled down, gonna graduate and.

[C]

And you. We met Christmas 2004. And you proposed September of 2007.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Okay. So, yeah. So, yeah, it was a fast. Like, I know I love you, but then it took a minute to. To kind of slow it down and get ready.

[C]

We would have gotten married, like, right then.

[B]

Yeah. I told her on sixth day that I wanted to marry her, or I felt like I wanted to marry her, so. But didn't have the degree.

[C]

And my parents were like, that's fine. That's great. We love Ben, but let's finish college first.

[A]

See this first. Hey, there's some. There's some wisdom in that. That's some good advice. I love that. So, obviously, like, people know y' all now from hometown HGV and all the different things that y' all do together, but at the time, were y' all both pursuing that, or what were you guys pursuing back in the day?

[C]

No, I. I got an art degree. My major's graphic design. My minor's printmaking, and I worked in corporate graphic design for my first job after college. Like, in a glass corporate building in a cubicle. And it was soul crushing. And then I had started a side hustle doing letterpress wedding invitations. And at the time, websites like Minted did not exist. And where you can just like, order letterpress, anything, anywhere, anytime. There was no Etsy to do it from. And so my business really blew up, and I left my day job, and we bought our dream house in downtown Laurel, and we renovated it together. But I had written an online journal. Blog, I guess. But a journal that was only about the best thing that happened every day. Because I struggle deeply with anxiety and worry, and which is why Psalms, my favorite, either I walk through the valley of shadow of death. I'll fear no evil, for thou art with me. Riding that staff. They comfort me. And I learned that when I was like. Like 8 years old. And I've never forgotten it when I get real anxious.

[B]

Because you were anxious. You were an anxious.

[C]

Yeah. And so the blog. The journal blog was a practice in daily counting my blessings. Counting my blessings. And it really changed my life.

[A]

Wow.

[C]

Totally. Because if I had had a horrible, rotten day. I had to sit down at the computer. If someone I love had died that day, I had to sit down at the computer and write because 10 people were going to read it. My mama, my friends. I mean, no one cared. I just. It was like a personal challenge. But I had to sit down and think of something that was wonderful. Well, something that was a blessing in that. That day.

[B]

And that was where this all, like the show, the. Everything eventually stemmed.

[C]

A producer just saw that, the Journal and reached out and asked. They saw that we were renovating our own house. And we did it really thriftily because he learned how to build things. I knew what I wanted. Expensive antiques that I couldn't afford. Then I would ask him if he could build it. He would build it. And then I got the look for cheap. And that was really, I think, what Drew hgtv.

[B]

Well, and it's. So we were talking about heartache earlier. And my goal was I was going to get. I was going to be.

[C]

You're gonna go to law school.

[B]

I was gonna go to law school. I was going to be a politician. I was going to get involved in politics. Politics. Because I wanted to make a difference in the world. And I was, you know, going to. And then at one point, I was like, ah, I think I want to do something different. And I was going to be. I was going to get a degree and be a college professor and. Or teach at Jones College, the college that we met at before we transferred. And. And then. And all of those things I was failing at and struggling with. And. Which is hard when you're a newlywed and, you know, in a traditional situation where you're like, you know, I'm supposed to be the breadwinner here. I'm the one that's supposed to know. Providing. And. And I was struggling through that. And then through Aaron's blog.

[C]

He was a youth minister.

[B]

Yeah, I was a youth minister for 10 years. And I reached a point in that where I knew that it was like God was sort of saying, like, all right, it's time for this to end. This is coming to an end, and don't worry about what's next. And that was the scariest thing. I kind of had a break. We were in St. Augustine, Florida, and Aaron was painting a bit. She was doing a painting of a building.

[C]

The journal. That day was tricky because it was a. It was honestly not a very fun trip. Ben was, like, having an existential crisis.

[B]

And trying not to worry my wife, who is prone to worry Right.

[C]

He didn't want to talk about it.

[B]

And she was like, what's wrong? What's going on? You're. Why are you. What's wrong? And I was like, I don't know what I'm gonna do.

[C]

He felt like he didn't know how to connect with young people anymore who were living more and more of their lives digitally. They had a whole world happening in social media that was outside the world in real life where he was trying to minister to them. And it felt.

[B]

And I didn't know how to cross that bridge. And it felt very. There were some other things.

[C]

The other thing is your brother. Your brother was graduating from high school, and he was your, like, link to the people that age.

[B]

Yeah. He was 10 years younger than me, and he was going to be graduating from high school. And. And that was my connection, my connective tissue up to that point. And then also there were some other things that had happened with some people in our church that was making it feel like. This feels very obvious that God is saying, you need to stop and let go of this. And a friend of mine who's now my business partner, Josh Nywl, was like, I don't understand what the fear is, because it seems pretty obvious what God's telling you to do. Aaron needs help running her business. You already know how to do it all. And you, like building furniture, do that on the side. And it was this moment of like, oh, okay, that's great. And so I. I'd gone through all this heartache, and then in the end, everything was okay. And we were fighting, trying to hold on to this thing that I had been doing for so long, and that felt like the right. Like, to walk away from professional ministry. That feels like you are walking away.

[C]

The night he wrote the letter to our pastor, his resignation letter, he typed it and he put it in an envelope, and he called our pastor and said, I want to have.

[B]

I want to have coffee.

[C]

I want to have breakfast with you in the morning. He's like, oh, no, I know what this is. And then we went to bed, and Ben was asleep. And I was scrolling social media, and in my DMS was a message from the producer at hgtv, who was just reaching out to ask if we'd ever thought about doing tv.

[A]

Whoa. That night, the night that you.

[C]

Last night, which didn't feel like. It didn't feel like anything that would actually happen. It only felt like you're gonna be God saying, something is out and everything's.

[B]

Gonna be all right.

[C]

Something is out here.

[A]

Whoa. That is actually crazy that. That's so real, though. I'm so glad you shared, like, the. The grittiness of walking through that, because the reality is, like, so many people right now who listen to this podcast because Primarily from age 20 to 35 are our listeners. So there's people trying to figure out what they're gonna do in life, what's next, what's the next step? And so to hear you say, like, no, there was a time I was thinking about law school and politician and this and that, and then I'm in youth ministry. And then that felt really, like the. The clear direction. And then 10 years go by, and it's like when you're confident in something for 10 years and all of a sudden you feel a shift. It is really hard to wrestle with that. Especially, like, you mentioned in ministry, because then you have the question of, like, it's like you're not walking away from the Lord, but you're walking away from ministry. And so that can sometimes.

[B]

Is this my. Like, am I turning my back on my faith in this moment? Is this. You know, this is. And my. My dad's a preacher. And so it was like, this is a.

[A]

This is what you thought you'd do.

[B]

Yeah. This is huge and terrifying.

[A]

Yeah.

[C]

But the greatest advice that I can even offer is that every plan we ever made, every plan we ever had, did not happen. Yeah, none of it happened. I was going to be a magazine design editor was my dream. I thought I would live in Birmingham and I would design magazines for Southern Living, Southern Living, or Coastal Living, Coastal.

[B]

Living, Cottage Living, any of the living.

[C]

We were going to be living magazines about beautiful houses. I could just instead design the beautiful house. I didn't think of that. And then, you know, like, we. I was scared to ever have kids. And then we had Helen, and it was the greatest thing that ever happened. And it's like every single thing that we were thought was the right thing and what we wanted to do, God had us thousand times better idea.

[A]

It's great.

[C]

And plan.

[A]

That is.

[C]

So there's. Okay. There's a book, Streams in the Desert. Do you know this book?

[A]

I've heard of this. I have not read it.

[C]

The greatest collection of devotionals in history. I'll fight anybody. I will fight somebody.

[A]

He's the greatest. I love it.

[C]

It's an old one. Very, very old. But it's daily devotionals. And the one that really relates to what we're talking about here is it said, mind the checks. God sends. Quiet little. Yeah, you just little whispers, little zaps throughout your life. And if you're not asking for them and you're not paying attention to them, you'll miss them.

[A]

That's so true.

[C]

But if you follow them, even if it feels crazy and scary, that's really the direction he's trying to guide you.

[A]

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[C]

You weren't ready?

[A]

No. Everything I had spent time preparing my heart for. For what I thought this season was gonna look like, just felt like it went out the window because I was like, now I'm pregnant. So in nine months, we are having this baby, and then I will be on maternity leave, and then this and that, and then I'm gonna be pregnant the whole time we're filming. And it was just like, everything I thought got kind of shaken. And I would be honest, like, the first week. And I felt so bad for this because it wasn't about the baby. I was so happy about the baby. I was just so.

[C]

It's about how your life.

[A]

Nervous about my life changing, you know? Yes. I was so. Just nervous. And every time I thought about the future, I just get nervous. And it's so cool, because now, about to step into my third trimester, I have been so thankful for the timing of this baby. Like, and I truly mean that. It could make me cry because I'm like, God, you knew so much better than I did. It has kept me so grounded almost in this season of life feeling so crazy, and the show and the speaking and the. And everything. And I'm like, but I have a baby in me. Like, I. I'm life forming in me.

[B]

And sort of like, the. Like, all this stuff doesn't matter.

[A]

Matter. Yes. It's like, this is just.

[C]

He's telling you, you gotta slow down. Yes.

[A]

And it's. It slowed me down. It's kept me so true to where I'm at, and it's the most real thing about my life. Like, it's just so beautiful, the timing. I'm so excited for August now. I'm so excited for all the things that are going to change and happen. And so to the point of like, yes, like, the Lord, everything you have planned, it doesn't ever happen the way that you planned it, the way that you thought it. And I think what I've learned now, because I'm like you, Aaron. I was always an anxious kid. I love to be prepared. My worst nightmare would be walk. I literally have nightmares. This is a reoccurring nightmare of mine that I get on stage and I forgot to prepare something to say. Like, I actually have that reoccurring nightmare. So I hate not feeling prepared. But what I've learned is, like. Like, okay, what does it look like to not be prepared for a moment, but my heart to be prepared for it. And, like, keeping my heart ready, keeping my heart in a good posture. And that looks like a daily surrender to the Lord. So that your soul, your flesh is secure. It doesn't matter what tomorrow looks like, because my flesh is secure and trusting in what the Lord's gonna do. And so I love that y' all shared that and the grittiness of that. And it's just so cool that that night the Lord gave that. And it's. It's normally right after you take the leap of faith. Like, it doesn't happen before. It's after you write the letter, and then you're, like, fully ready that the Lord goes, okay, now I'll show you what's next. But I love how you said you didn't think anything of it necessarily. When was it from the time you got the DM to. You were like, whoa, we're doing a TV show. And what did that look like for y'? All?

[C]

It was six months later, when we filmed the pilot and they told us it probably, you know, it may air and it may not air because we.

[B]

I mean, I don't know how much you remember from the beginning of Duck Dynasty, but we didn't know, like, anything about tv. And then. So in our mind, like, we filmed this pilot, and we knew that it. Like, they invested so much money in making that one episode that. So we're thinking, like, this is going to end up.

[C]

Sorry, a train's coming. Right.

[A]

Hello, train.

[B]

So, you know, in our minds, like, it would be silly to invest that kind of money and not put it on tv.

[C]

And they're like, oh, no. They film pilots and then throw it in the trash all the time.

[B]

Yeah. So.

[C]

So we had no expectations. We did it for fun. And then another year, whether it airs or not, we all just, like, send us a copy of it so, you know, we have it.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

The year after we filmed it that it was actually on tv.

[C]

It was six months. It was January.

[B]

Yeah. But we wrapped filming, and we just.

[C]

Filmed in July 2015. It premiered January 2016, and it was the most watched pilot in HGTV history because there was a snowstorm on the east coast, and everybody sat at home and watched TV that day.

[A]

That is so cool. Oh, my gosh. That's crazy.

[C]

It was.

[B]

So then they ordered season one, and.

[C]

We still are, like, nothing is guaranteed.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

And it's the number one Joe on the network, but we're still like, I. I fully expect to not be renewed every single time.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Which is. Which is a tribute to our. Our production company is good at managing expectations. Good at managing expectations. They were like, from the beginning, they're like, this could be over tomorrow, so have fun with it. And we're like, okay, sounds good. And. And, you know, now where. And it's different once you have kids. It changes.

[C]

None of that matters.

[B]

And it's so like you. It's like, you know, hey, we're gonna be. We're not gonna do that because it's made. Yeah. Or, yeah, it's field day. We. We can't.

[C]

This was something I was talking. Okay. At field Day, every single parent was on the field, like, watching the kids. When I was growing up, I don't think parents came to field day. And we were having this conversation. Like, I think this is a millennial thing. Like, our parents were working when we had stuff like this, they'd be like, have fun at field Day. See you at home tonight. But we're, like, there for it. And I don't care. I don't care if it. I just don't care. Yeah, I'm gonna be at field day. I can't work. I'm sorry.

[A]

I love that.

[C]

That's my priorities into perspective more.

[A]

Yeah, for sure.

[C]

They're gonna be little for such a short time.

[A]

Yeah.

[C]

You know how fast it's going.

[B]

But also it's like, it's for all. Like, we are, you know, in a very blessed financially career right now. But you know, my. My brothers and all, like, they're. They're the same way. It's like, I'm no, I'm not working. This is happening that day for my daughter. So I'm gonna be there. And so it's cool. It's across the board for us.

[A]

Yeah, it was awesome. So now y' all are doing a spin off show as well. So how many years have y' all.

[C]

Been in this Hometown takeover? We've done three seasons. We filmed that last year. It just finished airing. Hometown. We've been filming since 2016. Wow. 2015. That's when we filmed the palette.

[B]

Yeah. The pilot was in 2015.

[C]

So 10 years.

[A]

15. Incredible. So that was. None of that was a part of Yalls vision board when y' all got married. Y' all didn't think y' all were gonna be there. What kind of things do you guys as a couple, like, dream about now? What it. What do you, like, dream about for the future? What do you love doing? What? What, like, makes you feel like, man, this is what. This is what we thrive in.

[C]

This is we have dreams. But of course, it probably won't happen the way we want. But I have a dream of homeschooling the girls grades five through nine. When they're going through the worst, most awkward part of being a teenager, I want to be with them more. I had a hard time around that age, and I just want to be there for it in a way that my parents couldn't be. And they. It was just weird then. Homeschool was a weird thing, but now it feels like a really amazing way to get more time as a family.

[B]

I mean, we just like being. We like being at home with the girls. We have a beautiful garden that we've.

[C]

Built, and we're several years away from the fifth grade homeschool dream.

[A]

But yeah, if you start now, though, you do kind of have to start thinking about those things now because again, even if those things. Because some of those things are like checks, it's like an idea is like a check. Like, huh. Maybe that is what My life could look like. And if I wanted to like that at fifth grade, then I need to start doing stuff now to, like, prepare for me to be able to step. Step out of this and into that.

[C]

You know, we gotta think about those things.

[A]

You do. I. I think it's really cool you shared on the podcast last time, but again, this is a new audience, more people, different ears to hear. Can you share a little bit about just those middle school days and, and what you are wanting to be intentional about with your girls and why? Because I think it's so important. A lot of people, a lot of moms and daughters listen to this podcast together. And I just feel like that would really encourage them out there. So good, so good, so good. Just then. Thousands of winter arrivals at your Nordstrom rack store. Save up to 70% on coats, slippers, and cashmere from Kate Spade New York, Vince Ugg, Levi's and more.

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My mom was my very best friend. I got bullied in elementary school. I was a weird kid. I love dinosaurs. Most of the girls did not love dinosaurs.

[B]

You're obsessed with the mascot.

[C]

I was obsessed with my high school's mascot when I, like where my brother went to high school when I was little. In elementary school, I was, like, obsessed with the mascot. They're like, that's kind of weird. So I see so much. Helen, our oldest, is just like a carbon copy of me. I know every struggle she's dealing with right now. I know exactly how she feels. And I know exactly how gross and difficult middle school was then. But now with the, like, phone social media culture. Culture, I can't imagine how much harder. Right? And that's why we started Osprey with other friends of ours who just. If we all work together, collective action works. So none of our kids in our big friend group, none of our kids have phones. And the oldest are now turning 12, and they just got watches that can call and text. And that's it.

[B]

That's cool because that's on that note. We're like, when we were growing up, we had landlines and you could call your best friend. And at school, there was a. There was a phone. You could go and you could call.

[C]

So we got a landline at our house. Our Girls are welcome to use.

[A]

That's cool.

[C]

It is cool to, like, hear the phone ring.

[B]

And it's. It's when they. When we got our WI fi set up, our tech guy was like, technically, you have a landline phone, but I'm not gonna hook it up. And I was like, no, no, go ahead and hook it up. I'm. I'm. I'm interested in that.

[C]

Yeah.

[A]

That's awesome.

[C]

Yeah. And also when I got to middle school is when I picked up a guitar and I started taking lessons. And that learning to play an instrument when none of my peers did gave me otherworldly confidence. And that's something I really want for my girls to find the thing that's theirs, that they can own their skill, that they really, really love, and that makes them have confidence.

[A]

Yeah, I think that'll.

[C]

That'll help so much getting through those awkward years, but I love that.

[A]

Well, just having your mom.

[C]

She's only seven. We have so much time. She's not gonna be.

[B]

How old were you when Doug Dynasty started?

[A]

I was 14 when we filmed our pilot episode, so a little bit older. Bella was 9, so she was around that. But, yeah, 14. It was a weird time. So my. Our filming our first show was from whenever I was in eighth grade until I was a senior in high school. So it was my whole high school. Yeah, girl, tell me about it. I was like, that was you.

[C]

I mean, obviously feel so self conscious.

[A]

Oh, gosh. I was, like, so insecure in so many ways. And it's actually something I'm really excited about with filming a new show. I'm like, I'm so excited to film a new show and being where I'm at in life now, like, just being confident in the Lord, my relationships, knowing who I am. And, yeah, now, like, my daughters are so young, but this is their reality too. Like, how do I, you know, raise them in that? And I think sometimes at first I was, like, afraid of that, and then I was like, man. But I was the kid that my mom trusted God enough to step into tv knowing that it was going to affect her children in certain ways. But, like, the blessing so far outweighs the hard things of that, you know, and the opportunity that comes with all of it. And. And I also have perspective now that I can help teach and help walk them through that I didn't have the first time around. That's what I love what you said about your daughter. You're like, I know everything she's going through right now. Like, I've felt It. And I think as a mom, we have this tendency to want to try to be perfect and everything is, I want to have it all figured out. It's like no, man. Some of the most powerful moments with your kids are whenever you're honest about how you didn't, you know, like that you can empathize with their payment, you can empathize with how they're feeling. And right now we're having that on a three year old level. One day we'll have that on a 13 year old level. I mean, I told Honey recently, we had a big conversation and I made her have the conversation. She does not want to have serious talk, but we were having a serious talk and I held her little body down until she let me have the serious talk. And then later we're laying in bed and I said, honey, I just want to say thank you so much for having that hard talk because I know when, when you don't want to have a hard conversation, it can be hard to sit there and listen, but I'm really proud of you that you did. And she said, yeah, mom, sometimes, whenever I have hogs, I just want to run to my room and slam the door and cry. I said, well, guess what?

[B]

Doesn't change.

[A]

We all feel that way. I know, I'm like, we all feel that way, honey. I, I want to do that too sometimes, but. But we don't because it's so much better now that we had that conversation, you know? And so anyways, empathizing with that and going, yep, true. Feel that, been there, done that, all the things like that's what helps guide them through those things.

[C]

Helen's. Helen's going through a hard time at school right now because there will be kids on the playground playing a game and she'll want to join in, but she doesn't know how to just put.

[B]

And what if they say no? You can.

[C]

And what if they say no, we don't want you to play with us. And the thought of the possible rejection is too much to even ask. And so if no one invites her, she believes they just don't like me. And I'm thinking, everybody's just, just little Helen. And they're not thinking about that.

[A]

So true. But it's so hard as a mom.

[C]

And then when you're a grown up, the best thing, you can still feel those same feelings.

[B]

Her little sister is me.

[C]

Yeah, she's the extrovert. Helen's the introvert. May is the extrovert.

[B]

And I never struggled with just inserting myself into whatever or everyone else or whatever was happening that I wanted, hey, what's going on over here? I want to be a part of this. And May is. She is that. And I have taught Helen, like, we were going to a thing recently, and she was terrified. She was like, what if there's going to be so many kids and they're older than me and they're all friends.

[C]

And they're going to leave me out.

[B]

And then I don't know them? What if there's someone I don't know? And I was like, well, you just walk up to them and say, hey, what's your name? And she was like, I can't. I can't do that. And I said, well, you have an ace up your sleeve because your little sister is going to do it anyway. So you just say, may, go over there and introduce yourself to them and then introduce me to them. And they do that. And when they're together, like, that's how it is.

[C]

May's the icebreaker.

[B]

Helen walks up to May, and she goes. And then May turns and looks at who she's talking about and walks up and says, hi, my name's May. This is my sister Helen. And then they're in. But she doesn't have her at school, and it's hard.

[A]

That's so cute, though. I mean, that two are better than one, right? And I think to the point of seeing how Yalls relationship has been. I mean, I know Aaron, you were never talked to Ben. Ben was there a side to. Aaron is so cute, though. But then y' all are the perfect couple together. Yalls differences complement each other so well, and that's why it's like such a dynamic duo that America has fallen in love with it. I don't believe it was just because of the snow day that it's hit the top. Watch of all hv. Htv. Hgtv. Why is it so hard for me to say HGTV shows? It's because of who y' all are. And people are so attracted to the people that you are, the joy that you share, the not only the gifting that you have, but the way you use and steward it. It's beautiful. And so to see your girls in that same light is such a. Such a cool thing. And I'm super grateful for the influence that you all have in the world right now and will continue to have. And. And if that looks like stepping away and be with your girls for a time, I'm excited for you in that because what a gift that will be. But thank you all so much for sharing, so much advice on the podcast and sharing your story. I know people are going to be so encouraged, and you guys are truly a joy to know. So thank you all so much.

[C]

Yeah, thank you, Sadie. You're really.

[B]

But before we go on, the, like, people in their 20s and 30s who don't know what to do with their life, go to trade school or go to, like, if you are trying to figure it out, every plumber, every electrician, every carpenter, everybody on all of our crews are like, we can't find anybody to work. And like, one of our carpenters was a chef at a restaurant and the restaurant closed and he didn't know what he was going to do, and he came and he had never done any sort of construction work whatsoever. And he got a job and it pays really well. And he's doing really, like, he's figuring it out. And if he wants to go back to a restaurant, he can. He can still do that. And that's. I don't know, it's an interesting time in world history or in American history right now where even if you can't figure it out, there is a way that you can do something until you figure it out.

[A]

You know, that's very true. I sat with two moms last week who have. Have college age or going into college kids, and they both talked about how hard it is because both of their sons want to kind of just go to trade school, but they feel that intimidation of their friends around them because they're going to colleges. And the moms are like, why do we.

[C]

Social pressure.

[A]

Yeah, the social pressure.

[C]

And it's like, you gotta change that.

[A]

Yes. Because the mom was like, I don't. I don't want to feel that. Like, I don't want him to feel that. It matter. Like, it's. Because it doesn't matter. But that's such a real thing. Thing.

[C]

I'll tell you a quick anecdote that's not very useful maybe, but our. One of the plumbers that we work with, he's a very cool guy. His parents are like the business professional.

[B]

Types, but his brother's a banker.

[C]

Yeah. And he's. He went against the grain and took up the family. His grandfather's plumbing business. And he's cool, man. He's cool. He's got a golden retriever. His wife's a member of the country club. His wife's a beautiful college graduate. Professional woman. Like, you can change. You can change the stereotype completely.

[A]

And so true. And we need to because the world is big enough for all of the giftings God gave every single person. And it's so cool when we go against the grade and actually follow what God's put in our heart. The plan he actually has so much bigger than the box that we put him in sometimes and the way that we just do society. And so I love that. That's great advice. Y' all are awesome. This is so.