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- [00:00]
Sadie
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Sadie
What's up everybody? Happy Monday y'. All. We are so excited about this episode. And when I say we, she means me. Got My bestie back.
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Christian
You can't get enough of me on the podcast.
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Sadie
I really can't. I just. You gotta be on it with me. So I'm really excited about today. We kickstarted this on Instagram. We told everybody that we have a new Whoa. Line. See our little phone right here? And it's really cool because so many of you guys have already called in, and I really mean so many of y'. All. We were blown away by the. The intentionality behind your voicemails that you left us, and they were so good. So originally, we had talked about, what if we just start incorporating these into the episodes at the end of the episode, which we're going to do. But there were so many great ones that we decided to dedicate a whole episode to this. And so today we're going to answer Yalls questions, but we're actually going to hear your voices. And so if you called into the WO line. Thank you. If we don't get to yours today, don't worry. Like I said, this is going to be a more regular thing, and this line is always available, so we'll have it in the show. Notes. You can always call, leave us a note. Let us. I mean, you can really ask anything. A lot of times on the voicemail, we're going to have prompts for y' all based off certain episodes we're going to be talking about. Today's prompt was just like, what advice do you need in life right now? And so we can't wait to dive into some of the things that y' all sent in and hear your voice again. Thanks for being, like, such a dedicated listener to this podcast. And hopefully, as we continue to grow, what this podcast is, it's not just a place where you listen, but you get to speak into, too. And that's why I'm so excited for your voice to be on the show today. Before we dive in, though, one thing that we do literally every single time before we film an episode of Boy, that's Good is we always pray for you. And today, Christian and I were praying over y', all, and we were like, you know what? Let's pray. On the podcast today. There's a devotional that I do almost daily. It's a daily devotional, but I'm not the most consistent person in the world. But it's the worship initiative devotional, and I love that every single day, they pray over you, and they always say, if you get nothing else, at least you got prayed over. And at the end of the day, Christian and I were talking about this. We don't have all the advice in the world, right, like we're going to point you to, towards the Bible. We're pointing towards Jesus. We're going to point you towards the best advice that we have based of our life experiences, but we don't know it all. You have to lean into the Holy Spirit to let God guide you in your life and in your circumstance. So we're going to speak in, we're going to bless you, but also the most important thing that we could do for you is pray for you and trust that God's going to meet you where you're at in your life. And so we're just going to pray for you. God, I thank you so much for every single person who's listening to this podcast. God, I thank you that this is a day that you have. We will rejoice, and we are so glad to be in it. God, I thank you that you have the listener in mind, that whoever is listening to this right now, you knew they were going to hear this today. And maybe this is going to be an answer to prayers that they've been praying. Maybe they've been seeking your counsel on things or asking these big questions. And maybe today you're going to use Christian and I to speak right into that. And so, God, I just pray that you would fill us with your spirit so that we could speak to your. Your child on the other end of this podcast. And, God, I pray that we would bless them, encourage them. I pray that they would know at the end of this podcast and all in between how loved they are, how celebrated they are. God, I thank you that hopefully through this podcast, they will come to love you more, know you more, and feel more loved and known by you. And so, God, I thank you for this time, thank you that this podcast is going to come at the perfect time in the listener's life. And God, we just thank you so much for what you're doing in their life. Lord, bless them, keep them, make your face shine upon, Be gracious to them, God, and fill them up with peace. And it's in your name we pray. Amen.
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Christian
Amen.
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Sadie
All righty, let's get to the voicemails.
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Christian
Let's get to the whoa line.
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Sadie
Hit it, Josh. Josh is our producer.
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Caller
Hi, Sadie. My name is Haley and I'm so excited to be calling in. I've been following you since we were both about 16, 17 years old. So been a long time. Now, my question and need for advice is how to stay hopeful that God will provide a Christian man for me. When I'm living in a worldly city. I live in New York and I'm plugged into my church and my community, but there aren't any eligible bachelors in those environments. And everyone I meet outside of church is not a Christian. It's really hard to not give up or to settle. And I'm having a tough time. Thank you for being a sister and a friend when I needed one. I love you.
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Sadie
That's so sweet.
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Christian
Such a good and relatable question.
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Sadie
It was so relatable. Haley, right? Was it Haley, right?
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Christian
Haley.
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Sadie
Haley. Thank you so much for leaving that note. And also shout out to being each other's sister and friend from afar. So cool. You've been tracking since we were. That is a long time. So I love that so much. Such a relatable question. A question that we get asked a lot. I was just talking to some girls the other day about this and it's interesting that you were talking about living in a big city and there's not an eligible bachelor who's faith based and all that. Because I was talking to people in a small town and they were saying the same thing in a different way. There's nobody here. There's not enough people here. There's no eligible bachelor. And I was telling them, I said, you just really can't limit God to, to a city. I mean, truly. I was living in Louisiana. I mean, sorry, I was from Louisiana, I was living in Nashville. Christian was from Florida. He was living in Auburn, Alabama. And then somehow we meet.
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Christian
You're on a vacation.
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Sadie
On a vacation.
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Christian
I'm on a vacation.
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Sadie
You know what I mean? And so you really can't limit God to a city. Limit God to a singular location. The way that you're gonna meet your husband is going to be a divine time, it's gonna be a divine setup. I really believe that. I believe that God has your guy for you. And I think the most important thing that you can do as you wait and stay hopeful is pray. Sow those seeds of prayer. I mean, one of the coolest things about Christian and I's meetup. I mean, I always say this to girls. Cause how do I find my husband? And I say, I wouldn't have found a Christian if I was trying to look for him in the sense of God. Just.
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Christian
I would have tried to find you, but I would have never found you.
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Sadie
You were trying. You were doing some.
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Christian
Yeah, but I'm saying. But I never would have found you.
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Sadie
Yeah, because it's just bigger. And when I look back at prayer life and how that aligns, it's really cool because Christian actually sent me this DM in January of 2017 that I never saw until, you know, a year and a half later whenever we finally met on that vacation. But what's really cool is February in 2017. I have a note on my phone, on my app, the notes app on my phone. And I was praying for my future husband. And it was really, really cool because some of the prayers that I was praying for him really did align with what he was going through in his life, which we never knew until literally we were about to get married. I remember I found that and I was like, this is so cool. And knowing Christian's testament, I was like, when did that happen? Boy, that's so crazy because I was praying for you in that. And so even though your relationship isn't starting now, it's really cool how God already has your relationship in mind. So sow seeds of prayer, talk to God about those things because then whenever you do meet that person, it's going to be more ob. It's like, oh, of course you're the guy. Like you're the guy I've been praying for. You're the guy that God has led me to. And yeah, just don't limit God. He can do so much. Just stay. I would say keep positioning yourself in places that it would make sense to meet your spouse. Church is a great place to meet your spouse. You want to meet someone like minded. And so again, we met on vacation. You can meet anywhere. But going to church, putting yourself out there, showing up places, going on dates,
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Christian
meeting up with friends, studying at the coffee shop.
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Sadie
Yeah, come on now.
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Christian
Well, because it's even cool even being in New York City. Like, like I feel like that there's so much optimism of things that could happen in New York City. It could be next week and your husband can move to the city and show up at the church.
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Sadie
You never know.
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Christian
Or the guy that you're going to date that might become your husband, like, you just never know. Or you could be at the coffee shop and this person just moved here last week and they're trying to find a church and you invite them to church. Like that's the cool thing about the big city is that even though it's a secular environment, you know, the possibilities, I feel like, are endless of things that could happen. So, yeah, I think that obviously, you know, man plans to step. Man plans his, makes his makes his plans, but the Lord establishes his Steps. So make the plans, but at the end of the day, ask the Lord to guide your steps.
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Sadie
That's great. I love it. Thanks, Haley. Y' all have heard me talk about Loved One International before and how special it is to me and my family. But this week is extra exciting because we're celebrating Loved One's birthday. Just thinking about what God has done through this ministry over the past eight years is so incredible. Loved One has been able to reach over 110,000 children and families across Uganda with life saving care. And that only happens because people like you said yes to being a part of it. If you've ever wanted to be a part of something meaningful, study and ongoing, trust me, Love One's Love Club is it. When you join the Love Club, your gift of just $20 a month will provide 10 malnourish children a nutrient dense meal. And as a thank you, not only will you get exclusive Love Club merch, but Also the first 100 new members are going to receive a free copy of my devotional book, how to Put Love First. I'm just so excited for everything Loved One does and what they're continuing to do. It's so important. Literally changing lives. If you've ever seen a malnourished child, you'll never forget it. And to know that you can make a huge difference with just $20 is something that I would just encourage you all to say yes to. And their community really is amazing. So not only are you giving, but you're also going to be part of a community. That's great. So if that's something that's been on your heart, this is your moment to jump in and be a part of something that's saving lives. Every single be a part of a community that's providing life saving care to critically ill children in Uganda every single month. With Loved One International, join the Love Club today@loveone international.org Whoa. That's loveone international.org Whoa. Help us celebrate eight years of loved One by joining today.
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Caller
Hey Sadie, thanks so much for doing this. I was wondering if you could give some advice on rejection and how to deal with that and wrestle with that. I just have been dealing with that from the past of being in a relationship and ultimately ending in just rejection and hurt because that person just ended up having the same feelings. So I was wondering if you could speak on how to deal with that and just also just to reconcile and wrestle with that as well as just to rest in that the Lord is our portion and that he's enough. So yeah, thanks so much for doing this.
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Sadie
It's so, so, like, vulnerable of you to share that with us. And thank you for calling and saying that, because I know so many people listening to this podcast are probably, like, same. I've experienced that in some way or another. And it's such a hard feeling and such a, like, hard one to wrestle with. I think so many people have probably experienced on a lot of different levels. Sometimes that's relationships with, like, a guy that you're dating or a girl that you're d. And then sometimes it's like a friend that you feel rejected by or a family member you feel rejected by. And I've certainly felt those things in my life too. I would say one of the things that I've experienced after experiencing rejection is there's such a, like, there's that part of it that feels like, oh, like, so shattering that you got rejected by somebody or that somebody didn't love you or, you know, like, you enough to stay or whatever those things are. I think the first thing you have to do is weed out the lies that the enemy will try to, you know, root in you is that you're. You're not lovable because he did love you. Well, that's not true. He has his own stuff. There's so many things that maybe were insecurities in his life or things that he had going on or his personal thing that God had, was dealing with with him. That really has nothing to do with you, you know, and so first of all, you just gotta say, just because he didn't love me doesn't mean I'm not lovable. I am lovable. I am loved. Because God created me, loves me, gives me purpose, gives me hope. Just because he didn't like me doesn't mean I'm not likable. Just because he didn't think I was funny doesn't mean I'm not funny. You know, whatever you know. And so, like, root yourself in the truth of what you know, what you know is true based off what God says about you, not how that person acted towards you or treated you. After you weed through that and go through the heartbreak and the reestablishing what is true in your identity. I think one thing that is cool is every. And I'm really speaking to, like, relationships or friendships. If you're rejected by family members, I know that that's a whole nother ball game that I would advise counseling in if it's somebody that you have to stick it out with. But when it so, like, okay, someone I was dating or someone that I was friends with just totally rejected me, totally kicked me out, all that stuff. After the hard part, I. I feel like every closed door, it leads you to another one that you can open, you know, every. No leads you to the right. Yes. And so I think sometimes what I've seen is I'm like, oh, that stinks. Oh, that's the worst. But also on the other side of it, like, God's setting you up for a better relationship. Like someone who will treasure you, someone who will love you. Someone who will love those quirks that didn't see as, you know, the treasure that they are. Or in a friendship, it's like, oh, that stinks. Oh, that was terrible. Or in a job, oh, man, that. That really hurt my pride. Or that really hurt who I am. But now I get to step into a new job. Now I get to step into new friendships. And so it kind of creates this new beginning for you and a new relationship, a new job, a new opportunity to be accepted in a space and to actually, like, thrive in a space instead of living in a relationship or a job where you're. You're not welcomed or not wanted, if that makes sense. And so even though it's so hard, it really does get you where you're going. I always say every breakup gets you where you're going. You're only going to marry one person, so if that's not the one, you gotta. Gotta move on. It's kind of the same thing in other areas of life. It's like, okay, if that's not the job for me, thank God. Even though that was hard. Help me to not, you know, grow roots of insecurity. Help me to not plant these things that are not true. I know I'm loved. I know I'm capable. I know that somewhere I will be wanted and then move forward. Go to the place that you are wanted. Go to the place that you can thrive. Go to the place that you are accepted. And so, yeah, I think on one hand it's really shattering and really hurtful, but on the other hand, it sets you up for a great opportunity in new spaces where you really can be accepted.
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Christian
That's really good. Yeah, I think. Well, first off, I think you're. It's. It's bold to. To seek counsel on that, to. To admit that, because we all have that fear of rejection. So just to. Just to say, making the first step of calling, being vulnerable, to ask, that is a. It's a huge first step. You. You brought up counseling and I would advise really in, in, in any areas with that of seeking counsel, like, you know, like a counselor, a person to talk to in person. Because even for me, you know, I've. It's because like, like you said, it does spiral. It's. If something like that happens and then you look up and you know, you get kicked out of the group message. That happened. That's happened to me before. It's like you say something maybe dumb, and then you get kicked out of the group message and then you, you feel that rejection and it might not be something, you know, it could have just been an accident or something like that, but then you take it so personal. Or for me, at times I've confessed this to you. It's like if I don't get. If my friends don't invite me to something and I see they're all hanging out, I'll. I'll feel rejected. And it might, you know, not about anything personal, but I think sometimes something like that can happen. And then you, you, you don't address the lies.
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Sadie
You spiral.
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Christian
You spiral. And then, then you, you look at all these smaller things and then you feel that same feeling when it might not be that deep. So for me, I've, I've had simple things like that that I've, I've, I've had to address in counseling because I don't want something bigger to happen. And then it becomes this all consuming, truly rejection of my identity. So for me, I found the smaller things. When I can feel a certain way, that's when I need to go get help. Not waiting for the bigger thing to happen and then going there. It's like now these smaller things, eventually it can accumulate to where if you don't address it now, then it can become detrimental. But. So sorry that happened to you. That is so real. Yeah, I think humans, yeah, it's like just a fear of everyone feeling rejected.
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Sadie
Makes me think of Lauren Daigle. So you say. Because it's like I keep fighting voices in my head that say I'm not enough. Every single lie tells me I will never measure up. And then she's talking about like this lie of rejection that we've all felt. Like we don't feel like we're good enough. We don't feel like we're enough. And then she speaks the truth that you say I'm loved when I can't feel the thing. So it's like I'm speaking the truth over myself, even though the lie is telling me the complete opposite. Like you're saying I'm loved even whenever I don't feel that way. You're saying I'm strong, even whenever I feel I'm weak. And so when you feel rejected, rejected is you really do have to lean into God where you are fully accepted as your identity so that you don't start acting out of the insecurity of the rejection. Either man put on you or you put on yourself.
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Christian
That's good.
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Sadie
That's great. Next.
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Caller
Hi, Sadie. The thing that I really need advice on is I remember the day and the time that I asked Jesus to save me. But how do I deal with the feelings of doubt that keep coming up, that. That I've done something to lose my salvation, or I've. Something that maybe I just not quite need to cut? Thanks.
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Sadie
I wish I had my Bible. Do I have my Bible? Let me see real fast.
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Christian
Paul, do you have your phone?
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Sadie
Yeah. Break out the word for this. Okay. I feel like we should go to Romans 8.
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Christian
You got Romans 8? I got First Corinthians 15.
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Sadie
Okay, you go there, and then I'll hit Romans.
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Christian
I love this verse. I hope it's comforting to some people. It might not be, but to me it's super comforting. So this is First Corinthians 15, verses 1 through 2. So this is Paul writing to the church of Corinth. He says, now, brothers and sisters, I want to remind you of the gospel that I preached to you, which you received and on which you have taken your stand. By this gospel, you are saved if you hold firmly to the word that I preach to you. Otherwise, you have believed in vain. So for me, you know, you have Romans 10, nine, you have Romans 8. There's all these salvific verses in the New Testament. And for me, I don't know, there's something about. About that verse that Paul's writing. It's a. I just love it. He says, by this gospel, you are saved if you hold firmly to it. And it's this idea of, yes, we all doubt out. And that's what's so beautiful about the Bible. You read. Go read the Psalms and read David. You have Psalm 22. God, my God, why have you forsaken me? And Jesus quotes that on the cross, like, I don't think Jesus was died in that moment. But you have David in these Psalms, running from Saul. You have these, these. These crazy moments in, In King David's life to where he's doubting. He's doubting the promise of, of his anointing and, and. And of the kingship and something about that for me, with Paul, I don't know. It's comforting. This gospel saves you if you hold firmly to it. And that idea of through the trials, it's continuing to pray. God help me in my unbelief, help me my doubt. You have the story in the New Testament where Jesus is going to go heal. I believe it's the centurion, son, and he says, I believe, but help my unbelief. And Jesus marvels at that. And there's something beautiful about, about admitting when you're doubting, when admitting when, when you're struggling to have the faith. So like I said on the last question, just even having the, you know, the wherewithal to admit that and confess that and, and, and ask for guidance, I would say you're further along than most people who aren't thinking thoughts like that.
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Sadie
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Like, I know I was saved, but I doubt because I messed up. And I just want to encourage you. You're not saved because you did anything to earn it or deserve it. You are saved because of the sacrifice of Jesus Christ. And so. So you don't have to doubt. Like, we're not doubting ourself when it comes to salvation. Like, that really is like doubting that Jesus did what he did and that that was enough. I don't doubt Jesus like, Jesus sacrifice was enough. Jesus was perfect. And so, yeah, if it was on me, I'd really doubt myself because I mess up all the time because we all do, because we're human. But that's the beauty and the grace of God, that he did send his one and only Son so that Jesus did what we couldn't do. Jesus did it on our behalf. And so we don't have to doubt where we stand with God because we messed up whenever God sees us, like he's seeing the sacrifice of His Son. And so I want to read Romans 8, because this is like, this says it all. But it says there is therefore no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. So that feeling that you're feeling, oh, what if I mess up? But I know I was saved, but I'm not really sure because now there's no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. For the law of the Spirit of life has set you free in Christ Jesus from the law of sin and death. For God has done with the law weakened by the flesh, essentially what he's saying. So the laws in the Old Testament, whenever you know, God gave the law to Moses, the Ten Commandments, but way more than ten Commandments, like, so many laws. And it was, you got to do this if you're going to stay holy enough to enter the presence of God. Well, we couldn't uphold the law just like the Israelites couldn't, because we're weakened by the flesh because we're human and we just can't get it right. So what it's saying is God did what we couldn't do because we're so weak by sending his, his one and only Son in the likeness of sinful flesh. And for sin, he condemns sin in the flesh in order that the righteousness required of the law might be fulfilled in us who walk not according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit. For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh. But those who live in according to the Spirit set their mind on the things of the Spirit. For to set the mind on the flesh is death, but to set the mind on the Spirit is life and peace. So when you start thinking about what you did, everything you've done, how you got emotional, you're up, how you got to maintain righteousness, that just leads to death, like that's turmoil. But to set your mind on the Spirit, that Christ Jesus did for me what I couldn't do for myself, that results in life and peace. And so I just encourage you, when you start going down that spiral of doubt, just start thanking God for Jesus. Thank you, God, that Jesus did what I could not do. Thank you that he was spotless and blameless and perfect. Thank you that he upheld righteousness. Thank you that he did that on my behalf. So that when I come under that blood, that's how you're able to see me as holy and righteous and pure. You know that song, It's Only by the Blood? Sometimes we sing these songs and we're belting out and we're dancing around, and no one knows what it means, y'. All. It's Only by the Blood. It could have only been the blood of Jesus. When it says, does anybody want to be holy, righteous, purified and spotless? How could you be that other than the blood of Jesus? And so I just want to encourage you. I hear so many people doubting their salvation. So many people doubting if they're good enough for God and to earn God's love and to enter heaven. And I'm like, yeah, the same people doubting that are the people screaming this song only by the blood at the top of their lungs. That's how you don't doubt. It's only by the blood of Jesus. And so I'm so glad you asked that question. That's so real. And I know that's going to speak to so many people who are listening to this.
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Christian
That was so good. And then I was, it was not the centurion son. It was Jesus healed the young boy with the mute spirit. So just to clarify that, and then, last thing I'll say, I was reading this on the plane. Luke said seven. It's when Jesus is he's dining with the Pharisees. And the woman you know, anoints Jesus and then is a weeping over on his feet and then dries her tears with her hair. And Jesus says, verse 50, your faith has saved you. Go in peace. And then Luke 8, it's this similar thing. It's the woman with the blood discharge. And he says, daughter, your faith has healed you. Go in peace. So I wanna, I need to, I wanna talk to like someone like Lisa Harper. I'm like. Cause it's the same idea. Daughter, your faith has saved you. Go in peace. Then the next one says, daughter, your faith has healed you. Go in peace. But just that idea of like, cause the Pharisees like critiquing this woman in front of Jesus and Jesus is telling this woman who is at the time sinful because of things she had done. And Jesus says that your faith has saved you. And something about that to me was just so beautiful of, of Jesus looking at this woman who in her day was deemed sinful. The Pharisees were judging her, critiquing her, and it was the faith that she had that Jesus says, your faith has saved you, go in peace. So just wanted to say that verse, I read that yesterday, I thought it was really powerful.
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Sadie
It's cool. So I think ultimately like, yes, like your faith, faith matters so much. There's. There's room for doubt. Yes, God can handle all of that. But ultimately what you come back to is, it's not on you. It, it really is not all on you. Jesus really did do what we couldn't do. And I love even just finishing out Romans where it says, those who are in the flesh cannot please God. Like we, we can't please God. But at the same time, God loves our faith. God. God loves when we ask for faith to believe whenever we come with, you know, repentant heart. So like there on you to do, there's belief, there's faith, there's repentance, there's accepting salvation, there's all of that. But at the end of the day, you could never earn, you know, you couldn't do it. Like you, like God just loves you so much, like God did it on your behalf and so take rest in that, that you can do something. But he did everything.
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Christian
Like John Tyson says, God comes where he is wanted. And I think if you want God, he will to show up in your doubts and your questions.
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Sadie
Good.
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Caller
Hey, my name is Jordan and I kind of have a deeper question. A few years ago, my family was in a car wreck and sadly My mom and sister both passed away. Ever since, I've questioned, can prayer change the outcome? Or is your story written and prayer won't change the ending? And if so, how do you not get discouraged in praying for things in the life? Thank you.
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Sadie
Wow. First off, Jordan, I just want to say I'm so deeply sorry. I can't imagine. I can't imagine the pain of that. And I can only imagine that it would definitely make you question why even pray if. If what's going to happen is going to happen and why would that happen and all of those things. And I just want to speak to first in an empathetic way of I really can't imagine. And I'm so sorry and thank you for trusting us with that question and coming with your deep question. This moment, this voicemail is for that you can ask anything. We always say we're a sister and a friend to those who don't have one. And we mean it, sister and friend. We can laugh together, we can have fun together, we can dance, we can sing, we can do all the silly stuff by the end of the day. It's the realest relationship. You know, you ask the hard questions, you say those things. And thank you for coming with that question. The first thing that comes to mind when it comes to why pray if the outcome's already fixed is Jesus in the garden. Gethsemane. When Jesus knew what was going to happen, he knew that he was sent to die on the cross, that that was what he had to do to be the sacrifice, to be the perfect lamb, the sacrifice on behalf of all mankind. But at the same time, although he knew that was. Was what was going to happen and needed to happen, he did not want that to happen. I mean, that's a horrible situation to have to go through. The circumstances were not ideal. He was going to be taken by the Roman soldiers. He was going to be beaten, whipped, crucified. Like, did not want that to happen. And so Jesus was so worked up about it that it says that he was literally sweating blood. I mean, this was like true stress. But he was praying and he was asking the Lord, you know, if there's any other way would let this cup pass from me. If there's any other way. Would you. Would you do. Would you take this from me? Like, I don't want to have to do this. And then he would say, but not my will, but yours be done. Then he prayed again, you know, is there any other way? If there's not another way, then it's not. It's not my will, but yours be done. And I think that that's that kind of the way that you have to approach prayer is that God can hear you. There are times in the Bible where God did kind of change his mind about things. I mean, Moses would pray to God and God would change his mind. I mean, there are times where Paul, you know, was doing things, going to Jerusalem and he's the spirit of God's like, don't go there. You know, and then Paul goes there. And so there are definitely moments where I think this is like such a deep theological question. So I want to be careful with how I approach it. This is based on my reading understanding. I think that there are definitely moments for that. But at the same time, like, we don't understand the will of God. We don't understand the ultimate outcome. We don't know the why. I, I will never know why your mother and your sister had to pass away. That's just an awful thing. Like, I. I'm not going to say and try to sugarcoat it and go, and here's why. Because God gets the glory. No, it's so hard to understand. Some things are just. We're not going to understand on this side of earth. And that's the hope we have in heaven. In Hebrews 11, it said all these people, faith died without receiving the promise that they had. I mean, you think about that, you're like, what? The heroes of faith die without receiving the promise. But then it says, for God had something better in mind. And it's talking about eternity to come. And so this world, we don't have the promises we would want to happen, but like, we have the promise of eternity. So Jesus is praying in this garden. He's saying, not my will, but yours be done. And then it's so interesting because right after he's praying these things. Let me just go. It's in Matthew 28, right after he's praying that, you know, God, would you change your mind? God, would you do something different? They show up to, to take him. Sorry, not Matthew 28. It is. Okay. It's Matthew 26. Let me find it. Okay, so Matthew 26, the betrayal and arrest of Jesus. So he just prayed all this, that God would change his mind. And God doesn't change his mind. Judas comes, you know, and Jesus says, come, do what you are trying to. And that's whenever Peter whips his sword out, cuts the dude's ear off because he's fighting. He's like, no, this can't happen. Like, we're not going to let y' all take Jesus. And then Jesus has put your sword away back into his place for all who take the sword will perish by the sword. And then he says in verse 53, do you not think that I couldn't appeal to my Father and He will at once send me more than 12 legions of angels? So stop there for a second. Because wouldn't you think, well, he did just appeal, appear to his Father, appeal to his Father. He did just ask his Father to change his mind. Jesus just said to God, could you do something different? But he didn't just say that. He said, but not my will, but yours be done. And so even though God didn't change his mind and do the thing that Jesus kind of wanted him to do, which was change your mind, do something different, don't make me have to go through this. Jesus didn't doubt that God was still good. Jesus didn't doubt that God still had a plan. He didn't doubt his love for him. He didn't doubt that he was there for him. And so he goes, put your sword away. Do you not think if I really asked my Father to change his mind that 12 legions of angels would come at my behalf right now and save me? But then verse 54, it says, but how then should the Scriptures be fulfilled that this must be so? So he's saying, if I don't do this, then how is it that I will fulfill all of the scriptures of coming and actually being crucified, of doing this thing that is the will of God, even though it's not what I would want, but it's God's will and I know the promise that's to come. And so Jesus story is an examp of the promise to come because we see him die, we see him crucified, we see the worst of the worst happen to him. But then we see three days later, the tomb rolls away, the ground begins to shake, there's a resurrected king. And then, not only is there a resurrected king who's alive and well, but he speaks to eternity to come where we're all going to be. And so that's what you had to anchor your hope in. I don't know the why for the suffering right now. I. I don't know why it has to be like this. But I don't doubt that God is still good even when my circumstances aren't. I don't doubt that God doesn't love me even when I don't feel that way in the moment, because there's a promise that's yet to come. And it's anchored in Christ Jesus being raised from the dead and giving us the hope of eternal life. And so that's a very deep answer back to a deep question. But prayer is necessary. Jesus not only gives us an example to pray, and when the disciples say, how shall we pray? And he says, our Father, who art in heaven, hallowed be your name. Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Even he says it there, thy kingdom come, thy will be done on earth as in heaven. But not only does he give us an example of how to pray, he exemplifies how to pray throughout all of his life. If you go read all the gospels, Matthew, Mark, Luke and John, you'll see Jesus pray. Actually, every single tab I have here is moments Jesus prayed. Because I want to be reminded that if Jesus prayed, I need to pray. And so yeah, you don't always know the outcome. You don't always know if it's going to change God's heart or mind. But it's not even always about changing God's heart and mind. It's changing your. It's like submitting your heart and mind to the will of God, even when the will of God is not the outcome you would have wanted, expected, or hoped for or believed for. Okay friends, if you're waking up in the middle of the night either sweating or freezing, then this is for you. It turns out the temperature of your bed can make such a difference in the quality of your sleep. And that's why I made the switch to miracle made sheets and it has become a total game changer. They're made with silver infused fabric inspired by NASA that helps regulate my body temperature while I sleep. So whether you're a hot sleeper or a cold sleeper, or sometimes both the same night, it keeps you snoozing comfortably. And another thing I love is that these sheets actually stay cleaner longer. 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Christian
Man, you were not lying. This is such a deep question. So sorry that you had to go through that. That's just horrible and traumatic and I cannot imagine having to go through that. So I'm so sorry. Just to kind of clarify, like Sadie was saying, we, you know, I mean, First Corinthians 11 says, who can understand the thoughts of the Lord? And who, who can understand and his mind. And I feel like there's, there's certain things in scripture that, you know, even with a theology degree, even with, you know, there, there, there's still things that we'll just never know. You know, you mentioned Moses praying and it changing, you know, the mind of God. First Corinthians 11 also goes on to talk about how, you know, you can only stand, you can only understand those thoughts through the power of the Holy Spirit. Um, and it's such a man. I'm trying to figure out how to just kind of what to say because it, it, it is. These are things that we wrestle with, like, oh yeah, we've prayed, you know, for sicknesses and, and, and nothing's happened. We've also prayed and, and, and there's been healings. And I think that's the beautiful thing is, is you just keep praying. It's, it's a relationship you keep, you keep seeking advice because, and you also have times in the Old Testament where, where people pray and they're probably eventually glad that God did not answer their prayer. Right? You have Elijah, who's, who's praying that, that God would end his life and take him to heaven. And God doesn't answer his prayer because that's not what, that's not the plan that he had for them. You have Jonah, who, if, if, if he would have, you know, if God would have done what he wanted him to do, then he would have never gone and saved the Ninevites. One story that I want to read really quick, it's a little bit longer, so I'm going to try to Read it pretty quick. But when I think about the power of prayer and the things that this man saw in his life, this story is so powerful to me. It's David right after he has the affair with Bathsheba and she gets pregnant with his son. And this is right after Nathan confronts him. And Nathan says that this son shall surely die for his sin. And it's such a beautiful story. So really, really quick. It said, and the Lord afflicted the child that Uriah's wife bore to David, and he became sick. David therefore, sought God on behalf of the child. And David fasted and went in and laid all night on the ground. And the elders of his house stood beside him to raise him from the ground. But he would not, nor did he eat any food with them. On the seventh day, the child died. And the servants of David were afraid to tell him that the child was dead. For they said, behold, while the child was yet alive, we spoke to him and he did not listen to us. How then can we say to him that the child is. And dead. Dead. But when David saw that this. That the servants were whispering together, he understood that the child was dead. And David said to the servants, is the child dead? They said, he is dead. Then David arose from the earth and washed and anointed himself and changed his clothes, and he went into the house of the Lord and worshiped. He then went into his own house, and when he asked, they set food before him and he ate. Then his servant said to him, what is this thing that you have done? You fasted and wept for the child while he was alone alive. But when the child died, you arose and you ate food. He then said, while the child was still alive, I fasted and wept. For I said, who knows whether the Lord will be gracious to me that the child may live. But now he is dead, why should I continue to fast? Can I bring him back? No. I shall surely go to him, but he will not return to me. And that beautiful. Just thinking about all the times David sought counsel from the Lord in times where his answers, his. His prayers were answered. And that's the thing in this story you. You read that David believed that he could change the mind of God because of the old stories, because of things he's seen in his life. And. And God did not answer his prayer. And it says, after the child died, he. He. He fasted, or he. He went to the house of the Lord in the temple, and he worshiped and he ate food because he said, the child is dead. I can't bring him back. But he said, I, I, I will go to him. And for me, that's just a comforting thing of, of, of, you know, it's, it, it's, it's the question you're asking. It's, it's can I bring him back? And will, will, will God save him? And his prayer was not answered. And I think that's something that he probably wrestled with too. And so I think that's a beautiful story of, of his prayer not being answered and his response after that.
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Sadie
I love it. The two of that story. It says, and God love loved them and gave them another child. And you know, it's like when people go through miscarriages to get pregnant again, doesn't bring back the other baby. And that's what's really hard to wrestle with because you still grieve the other baby. It doesn't solve all your problems. But I do believe God is a God of redemption. And I think like, some people agree to disagree with that statement of like, if it's not good, then he's not done. Because sometimes it doesn't look good in the way that you, you think of good. You know, that doesn't mean he won't redeem. When you think about Joseph's life, there's so many stories in the Bible like this one, like Joseph, we could just ping pong all day long of like, bad things happen, but God was still good. Bad things happen, but God's still redeemed. Like Joseph said. You know, it's very famous what the enemy meant for evil, you took and turned it for the good. And so, yeah, the enemy means evil. Sometimes life is really hard. The world we live in just has bad things happen, but God is still good. And God can still take what was so hard and he can redeem things for good. And some of that we'll see on this side of heaven, and some of that we'll have to wait for eternity to see. But thank you for sharing a bit of your story and thank you for asking that great question.
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Kaden
Hey, Sadie, My name is Kaden. I'm a college student here in Dallas, Texas. And I know it's probably a little unusual for a guy to be calling your podcast, but I grew up watching you on Duck Dynasty, and I see the wonderful relationship you have with your husband. You have a beautiful family. So I'm calling to get some advice for myself and other young men out there trying to find a Christian relationship with a young woman in today's crazy world. And once you're in that Relationship. How do you keep it Jesus centered? God centered. Especially in this crazy world.
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Sadie
Okay, well, first off, great question. Should Kade go to New York and meet Haley?
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Christian
I think he should.
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Sadie
Is this a matchmaking service?
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Christian
I think this is Kate and Haley either she should go to. No, no. Yeah. No, she should not go to Dallas. You should pursue her. Fly to New York, figure out what church she goes to, and you should meet her.
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Sadie
You're in Dallas. You're in the. You got American airport.
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Christian
You got an easy flight.
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Sadie
Yeah. Easy flight. Right, Kate?
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Christian
Easy flight.
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Sadie
If they end up together. Shout out to the WO line. Okay.
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Christian
Shout out to the WO line.
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Sadie
Okay. But for real, your question was beautiful.
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Christian
We could officiate the wedding and we could end it with saying, whoa, that was good.
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Sadie
We dreaming big over here. But for real, DM us so we can kind of.
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Christian
No, that's a great question. You did not know I was going to be on here. What's up? I'm here. Great question.
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Sadie
So I think he find a relationship and make.
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Christian
How do you keep it? Yeah.
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Sadie
Well, I think I really want you to speak into this because that's why I started talking about. Talk about. Well, I know Christian and I both talk about how we did not date well before we dated each other. That's. Everybody knows that we. We could have written two separate masterclasses on not dating. Great. Before we found each other. But by the time we found each other, we both so wanted to do it God's way. That was something we said all the time. We want to do this God's way. We want to do this the way that it was intended. And I feel like you were really, like, really trying to do it the right way and maintain this relationship in a godly way. And I remember so many things you intentionally did. I want you to speak to it, but I'll pick up what you missed.
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Christian
No, that's good. Well, I think, too, the tension is. I think sometimes you can. Because I even kind of sometimes found myself doing this in our relationship was like, you focus so much on maintaining it that. That it's like you. You think you have to be perfect in it. So. And not that I. I don't think I ever did this, but I think sometimes it can become performative to where it's like, she expects me to do this. So, like, I need to act. I need to act this certain way. It's like, well, I opened her corridor the first time, so it's like, should I do that the next hundred times to maintain this thing that she loved at the beginning, you know, So I think sometimes you can get in your head of. Of like, I maintain this by always putting my. My best foot forward and, And Which. Which you should strive to do. But at the same time, you know, I think sometimes you can maybe just. It can become an act if you try to maintain this, doing things that. That you know, that your girlfriend likes to do, which can become a dangerous thing to.
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Sadie
Where it's got to be from the heart.
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Christian
It has to be from the heart. Yes. But I think, you know, obviously keeping God at. At. At the center of it for me, I don't think I would have maintained our relationship to be healthy and especially God centered if I did not have guys around me that I could talk to, that I could pray with, that I could confess things to, that I could ask for wisdom. On. I had a great relationship with my pastor, still have a great relationship with my pastor from. From college. And he would. Would. Would give me advice on. On. On. On how to pursue to, you know, questions to ask and, and things like that. So for me, I maintained it by seeking counsel around me, which is like what you're doing now, which is awesome. But asking the questions surrounding myself with guys that. That could relate in part to. To. To a situation I'm in and having an elder speak into it, having a pastor speak into it and not getting so consumed and caught up with. With. How can I, yeah, try to impress my girlfriend?
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Sadie
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Christian
it at least six months.
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Sadie
You got to give it at least six months because anybody can be anything you want them to be for three months. Okay. You got to give it some time for them to show who they really are. People like you are going to put your best foot forward. You want to be likable, but being loved and being liked are two different things. It's. It's. It's fun to be liked. It's fun to do things that are likable. But at the end of the day, when you're married to someone and you're going through life's moment and you have children and you go through just different things, you're not going to be likable. All the times. You're not going to have your best foot forward. You want to make sure there is a deep foundation of love and a deep foundation of God, of God's word, of who God is that goes so much deeper than your performance or your likability in the moment or your, oh, I open my. Your door for it. That's so sweet. I love that. I. I always love when Christian opens my door, but, oh, we are way deeper than that when it comes to why I respect and love Christian so much. And so, yeah, I would say live a godly lifestyle if you want a godly relationship. And, yes, surround yourself with community. I think that is a really big thing. Christian was talking to his guy friends all the time, getting advice, getting questions to ask me, and I knew that, like, he would be like, oh, Parker said that I should maybe ask you this. He. He wouldn't, like, try to act like he knew it all. He's like, me and Miles were talking. He was saying this, and I love that because I was like, oh, wow. He. He talks to his friends about me, and he really wants to get to know me deeper. And I just had one of my best friends was in a relationship, and they ended up not being together, but it was so good, like, the way that they did it, because they were asking each other such great questions, and it made them realize they're really not compatible, and that's okay. And so your questions matter. Just like this podcast. Y' all are asking such great questions. We're able to speak, you know, hopefully great answers that have some depth to them that are, you know, actually shaping you. You can say surface level all day long, but that doesn't get you to the relationship that you're probably seeking if you're seeking a godly one and someone you're going to marry.
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Christian
Yeah, because there is a fantastic question because. Because there is that authenticity. And I do think the longer you are with someone, you do see their true colors. And so for us, I'm just thinking about. Our first major argument was at an airport behind a magazine rack. Because I. I still really struggle with this, but more shut the time.
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Sadie
I've gotten better.
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Christian
I've gotten a lot better. But patience. I. There could reach a. I had a certain threshold of patience. And if that. Just. If that got crossed, it doesn't matter who I was with. And I was with the love of my life. And the. At the time, and I was just furious. So all that to say, like, she saw that side of me, and we were able to work through it and talk. But I'm just thinking, like, I could have suppressed it and been like, I'm fine. Everything's.
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Sadie
We would have got married. I'd be like, whoa.
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Christian
Then it would have been like, yeah. I'm like, what? What? Where the world has this been? But it's like. But I didn't show you that side of me.
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Sadie
Yeah. And so that was such a blessing. Like, that's how you get to know someone, and that's how your relationship deepens when you do see this. That's when you start to love someone. And not just like someone. When you see them on the not so great sides and you still love them. Because it's like, yeah, we all have our things. And so, Christian, like, I always think I broke up with people for, like, silly reasons, you know? Like, I mean, yeah, I did. Okay. So, like, some people, I'd be like, no, I'm glad you did that. I mean, Christian.
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Christian
Glad they didn't get it figured out.
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Sadie
Was he perfect? No, he did have better breath. But, yeah, there was a patient. But I have all my things. I had jealousy issues, and I wasn't trusting, and I was anxious. And, like, we all.
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Christian
I'm dating Sadie. We're at the airport, and me and the guy at the gate were, like, getting in this heated argument. Cause I'm on standby trying to catch this flight to fly. To fly somewhere with her. And he was just not letting me get on the plane. Finally, he got so annoyed, he said just. He.
- [57:32]
Sadie
He said, you are annoying me so bad. Just take the ticket.
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Christian
He just gave me a ticket, and he said, just please go. Get away from me. And we had a huge argument.
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Sadie
So we were dating.
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Christian
We were just dating. But it's those things that, like, I think back to something like that, to where I could have suppressed that. I could have tried to hid in that side of my patience. But that was something that you were Able to see. We were able to work through, and I've gotten a lot better at it.
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Sadie
It's a relationship.
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Christian
It is a relationship. Don't always try to be perfect.
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Sadie
You can't be perfect.
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Christian
Don't try to put up a facade and then not actually have the person you're dating see who you truly are.
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Sadie
That's great. Do we have one more? Let's do one more.
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Caller
Hey, Sadie, it's Kate. I just wanted to say first that I love your podcast. I listen to it every morning on my walk, and it's just nice to get the word of God. And you're just such an inspiring godly woman. So my quick question is, I just. I am almost 8 months postpartum with my first baby, and I had a pretty traumatic birth experience and postpartum anxiety and all that. I know you can relate to that, but I'm just wondering. My poor husband, you know, has had to deal with a wife that's not so patient as I have been in the past, and I'm just wondering how to work on that and what your advice is on just having patience and, you know, being able to work with your husband through that. I hope that made sense, but thank you so much, and I will continue to pray for your. Your podcast and your family. Thank you so much.
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Sadie
So sweet. First off, Kate, like, thank you so much. I also resonate so, so much that you say that makes sense, because eight months post, a lot of times you're like, am I making sense right now?
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Christian
We should late. Like, you know how there's like, Bridezilla. Yeah, there should be like. Like, I don't know if it's like, postpartum zilla or like.
- [59:41]
Sadie
No, there shouldn't.
- [59:42]
Christian
You don't think so? Okay, sorry. That might be bad advice.
- [59:44]
Sadie
That's really bad advice. Kate, don't listen to him. Don't listen to him. Okay, here's the thing.
- [59:50]
Christian
Sorry, I just was like. Just to give it a label.
- [59:54]
Sadie
Okay. No, we're not. We are not labeling that to all the women out there.
- [59:59]
Christian
Sorry.
- [59:59]
Sadie
I hope this just encourages you that every husband probably struggles with the same. Same thing. Because it is hard. It is hard. We're going through so much, and they have no idea. And if they walked in our shoes for one day. I'm just kidding. That's also bad advice. Here's the thing. It is hard. It is very hard. Hormones are involved. You just get overstimulated. You're so tired. I 100% get. Is vulnerable to do a podcast after having baby. Too, because you're talking so much in a microphone and, like, you're going through so much in life. And so, gosh, there's been times, times where I have just felt. I. I think some people have said to me, like, oh, how do you do it? Like, you're crushing it. And, yes, right here, right now. But there are so many moments that I have that are just. I'm exhausted or I feel weak and my body is not regulating right. And I've shared this on Instagram recently because I actually kids eight months today, but I have had, like, this crazy, crazy hormonal shift lately, and it has, like, made me feel so not myself and has been so hard to deal with. And one of the things that I've seen it affect the most really, is, like, my patience and, like, my fresh. I get, like, frustrated easily here. So I was feeding Kit the other day, and sometimes whenever I'm feeding Kit, I just get really overstimulated fast. So a lot of times I'll feed her in another room because I know myself. And, like, when Honey and Haven are pulling at me and needing me, it's like you just feel over touched and, like, over stimulated. And so I. I can't remember what Honey did, but it just, like, made me react big. And I was like, honey, I can't remember what I said. And Christian looked at me, he's like, are you okay? And I was like, no. Like, I'm. I really don't feel okay right now. Like, I feel very emotional. I feel overwhelmed. I feel sad, like, and I just told him how I felt, and he was able to be like, okay, like, why don't you go to take a bath? I got bedtime, and it was so helpful. Now that's not every night and realistic for every night. You know, we're a team. We operate like a team. There are some nights I might carry the team more. There are some nights he might carry the team more. But for the majority, we're carrying the team together. And so be a team. It's so important you share when you're not doing okay, when you do need a little extra help, and then when you are able to be more present and. And do it, like, do it, show up, be the best that you can, you know? And so I. I say that to say, like, it's. It's such a team. It's such a team thing to. To have a family and to love your family and to just be honest with your family. And to me, like, being for both of us, like, quick to apologize. I mean, I even said to honey, honey, I'm so sorry. Mommy was not patient with you earlier. I have had a really long day and I feel overwhelmed. But it's not okay to talk to you like that. And I'm sorry. So being the first to apologize, being the first to admit when you need some help, I feel like that has helped us thrive in this time that could be more chaotic because I look at this time of our life and my body has gone through so much and like, hormonally it's just hard. And then, you know, pregnancies and C sections are hard to recover from and all that. But genuinely, like, this year has been one of my favorite years of my life. Like the best space we've been in our marriage and with our family. And that's not because it's been easy and that's not because I've done it perfectly. But I think really, because we've done it on honestly and we've done it as a team. And so I would just encourage you, do it honestly, be the first to say sorry and be a team with your spouse. Let him in on it. And Christian, you've done a really great job of helping me through it.
- [63:37]
Christian
Thank you. That was really sweet.
- [63:39]
Sadie
Yeah. You have anything to say other than postpartum Zillow?
- [63:42]
Christian
No, just forget I ever said that. Kate, I'm really sorry. Um, but no, but yeah, just to the husbands, just. Yeah. You know, like you said, we don't know what, what it's like to go through that. So I think constantly just being understanding. You know, we talked about rejection earlier, to not always feeling this. This feeling of rejection. If your wife reacts a certain way to you, it's not always you. Sometimes it's just what they're going through. But it is hard. It is super difficult. I don't know what it's like to be in those hormones and emotions, but you've let me in on that. It is such a team. We're in it together. And I love you. So. Thanks.
- [64:22]
Sadie
That's has been cool too. Is like, I know Christian doesn't understand that, cuz how could he? And so, you know, you got to give them the benefit of the doubt of like, they don't know. But it's really cool. Whenever I've been like, can I tell you what this feels like? And I like, will explain to you, like what it feels like. And you're like, gosh, I can't imagine. I'm so sorry. And it like, creates a space of empathy instead of being like, you don't know how I feel. Whatever. Like, don't be accusatory. Like, they don't know how you feel. So it's like, hey, can I tell you how I feel right now? Because it's making me feel really sad or it's making me feel like I feel whatever it is, you know? And then you come to this point of understanding. It's an empathetic place. It's a place of compassion. And so that's just rule of thumb for anything in life, you know, just come at it. Not with like a. You don't do this, but it's like, here's where I'm at. And this would be amazing if you can, like, pray over me or help me with this or whatever it is. And. And so you're a team. You're crushing it, Kate. You're doing a great job. You're a better mom than you think you are. You're a better wife than you think you are. And keep receiving the grace of God. It is sufficient for you. When you are weak, then you are strong. That's what Paul says. And it's only true because of the sufficient power of the grace of God. And so I just want to say thank you all so much for sending in these questions. I love that we have created a community like this of sister and friends, that you don't have to show up even on this and add polish or perfect or say it right, like, just get it out. Just get it. It out in the light. And God can do so much when you expose those things in your heart and you get things out in the light. And I hope today blessed you. I hope that you feel encouraged. I hope that you feel like someone sees you and is in a similar situation. You're not alone. And that ultimately God sees you. He's in it. And so if anything, I hope this pushes you to prayer. Lean into the what the Lord's doing in your life and speaking in your life, and keep calling into this line. Like I said, we'll have different props prompts. Sometimes it'll be fun. Sometimes. Sometimes it'll be deep. But always feel free to call anytime and just leave us a note. And if we can work it into the show, we will. If not, like I said, we're going to have so many. So we'll speak to these things on in our Instagram captions. We'll speak to these things in sermons that I'm preaching and books that I'm writing. And so it's so helpful to just hear your voice and know what's on your heart. I hope you have a great rest of your week. And thanks again for tuning in.
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Christian
Love, you guys. Sam.