What Actually Matters in Dating (and What Doesn’t) | Sadie Robertson Huff & Christian Huff

Summary

WHOA That’s Good Podcast

Episode: What Actually Matters in Dating (and What Doesn’t)

Host: Sadie Robertson Huff
Co-Host: Christian Huff
Release: March 30, 2026

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Episode Overview

In this engaging and lighthearted Q&A episode, Sadie Robertson Huff and her husband, Christian Huff, dive into what truly matters—and what doesn't—when it comes to dating, relationships, boundaries, accountability, authenticity, and faith. Answering questions from their listeners and Instagram DMs, they blend personal anecdotes from their marriage, practical wisdom, and spiritual encouragement to help listeners pursue healthy relationships and a deeper walk with God.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

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Playful Banter & Q&A Kickoff

[01:04–04:49]

• Opening Tone: The episode begins with playful banter about Christian’s role as a co-host and their mutual growth in optimism. They highlight the value of being able to laugh at themselves and each other.

  “There was maybe a time in my life where I would have seen it as half empty, but not anymore.” – Christian [02:08]

• Inside Jokes: They explain their main inside joke about Sadie’s common misnaming at restaurants ("Sandy" or "Sammy") and how these names are used playfully in their relationship.

• Baby Name Chat: They discuss girl names they love but didn’t use—like “Hampton” and “Pepper”—and how their daughter Honey influences those choices by naming her dolls.

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Looking Forward & Skill Mastery

[06:38–12:13]

• Upcoming Plans: Sadie is set to speak at the Alpha Global Leadership Conference in London, which is meaningful because she attended it before as an audience member and is now a speaker.

• If They Could Master a Skill: Christian would love to instantly master either tennis or, tongue-in-cheek, “David’s slingshot.” Sadie wishes she could master cooking:

  "I would want to master cooking because it’s something that you have to do so often...and I want to provide for my family." – Sadie [11:15]

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Thoughtful Quickfire Questions

[12:13–13:38]

• TED Talk Topics:

  • Sadie: “Living Original” or “Being a Sister and a Friend”
  • Christian: “Fitness through a Healthy Lens”

• Favorite Christian Books:

  • Christian: “The Jesus Discoveries” by Jeremiah Johnson.
  • Sadie: “Winning the Battlefield of the Mind” by Joyce Meyer.

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Boundaries, Accountability & Redemption in Relationships

[15:19–21:16]

• Setting Boundaries After Crossing Them:

  • Christian emphasizes accountability:

    “If you surround yourself with people that want the best for you...that you don’t feel the need to hide or to act or to feel shame...accountability is huge.” – Christian [16:25]

  • Sadie reminds listeners not to believe the lie that “if you’ve already broken a boundary, it can’t be reset”:

    “Don’t keep sinning...turn from your sin, confess, be healed…receive grace, but don’t keep doing it.” – Sadie [16:25]

• Connecting to the Gospel:

  • Christian references Jesus and the woman caught in adultery:

    “He liberates the woman…but then again He says, go and sin no more. There’s freedom and redemption, but also transformative action.” – Christian [19:00]

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Holding Friends Accountable Without Sounding Judgmental

[19:46–29:39]

• How to Approach:

  • Christian: It’s better to risk being “perceived” as harsh than to say nothing if someone is in real trouble, but always deliver truth with love—not hypocrisy or shame.
  • Sadie: Use empathy to “shock them with grace…with your humility.” Share your own experiences to relate, and be explicit about your care for the person struggling.

  “When you go to them...say, ‘I’ve been through that, too. You should know I’m here for you.’ Shock them with your grace, empathy, compassion...but also, you called out the sin and you were truthful.” – Sadie [24:50]

• Tone & Gender Dynamics:

  • Christian notes guys might be rougher in approach, while girls often need more gentleness and reassurance.
  • Both acknowledge that, no matter how gentle the approach, people may still get defensive.

• Wisdom in Confrontation:

  • Christian cautions against feeling the need to rebuke everything you see (“You don’t need 30 hills you’re willing to die on”).
  • Sadie encourages listeners to pray and trust the Holy Spirit about when, or if, to speak up.

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Dating: High Standards & What Actually Matters

[30:51–41:02]

• High Standards in Dating:

  • Christian admits to being particular (“I didn’t love the ‘ahh girls’…” [31:40]) and explains he wanted someone to run the race of faith at his pace.
  • Sadie discusses the difference between having high standards for important things—integrity, faith, and character—versus being picky about trivialities.

  “You can set your standards high—and you should—in the things that matter. But so many people set their standards high on things that just don’t matter.” – Sadie [33:12]

  • Christian’s top standard:

    "For me, it’s authenticity...If you’re not authentic upfront, eventually it’ll come back and bite you." – Christian [40:44]

• Advice for Dating Relationships:

  • If you’re dating and honesty or authenticity is lacking, and conversations or counseling don’t help: “I’d say break up.”
  • In marriage, pray for unity, seek counsel, and ask God to align your hearts and standards.

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Encouraging Each Other in Faith

[41:02–44:21]

• How They Encourage One Another:

  • Christian says he encourages Sadie when it comes to “studying aspect[s] of faith” and seeing biblical connections.
  • Sadie notes Christian helps pull her out of downward spirals and speaks truth over her, especially when she’s struggling with motherhood or ministry stress.

  “Christian will see me going down the spiral and like, stop the spiral and get me back to truth. That’s super helpful.” – Sadie [43:39]

  • Christian appreciates Sadie’s simple, steadfast faith:

    “You don’t really doubt and waver things like that. You’re always pretty strong and steadfast on the things.” – Christian [44:21]

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Making Scripture Come Alive: How to Find Reading the Bible Interesting

[45:51–48:59]

• Tools & Tips:

  • Christian: “It’s not just an ongoing story, it all connects—New Testament to Old Testament. That’s what makes it fascinating.” [45:51]

  • Recommends “Bible Project” for visual learners.

  • Sadie: Binge a section of scripture, dig into cross-references, use aids like “The Bible Recap,” and don’t get discouraged if it’s not clear at first. Leverage commentaries and mentors.

  “Just getting so into the story and then also, like right now, I’m reading through the Bible Recap…still in it, still up to date.” – Sadie [47:26]

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Sabbath & Rest

[48:59–57:05]

• Personal Growth:

  • Sadie confesses she hasn’t always honored Sabbath rest, but reading the Old Testament convicted her to see it as both rest and trust:

    “He was saying to them, take a day that you don’t work and trust that I will provide. Take a day and humble yourself to know I am your provider.” – Sadie [51:06]

  • She emphasizes that Sabbath keeps us humble and dependent on God—and isn't just about physical rest but trusting God’s sufficiency.

  • Weekly rhythms of Sabbath have become more important as she recognizes her tendency to fall into “work, work, work” mode.

  “God is saying, actually, I want you to humble yourself and trust Me—that I can do more even when you rest than you can do when you work.” – Sadie [55:05]

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Memorable Quotes & Moments

• On Resetting Boundaries:

  "Don’t keep sinning…you can repent, turn from your sin, confess, be healed, receive the grace…but don’t keep doing it." – Sadie [16:25]

• On Dating Standards:

  "If the person’s authentic and genuine, that surpasses any level of beauty or physical attraction… authenticity is gonna last." – Christian [38:19]

• On Speaking Truth in Love:

  "When you go to them…shock them with your grace, with your empathy, with your compassion." – Sadie [24:50]

• On Sabbath:

  "Rest. Get the benefit of not working by being revived… but also humble yourself to know you don’t do it all. I am your provider." – Sadie [51:06]

• Funniest Family Critique:

  “Haven goes, ‘Dad, you really can’t sing.’ And Honey goes, ‘Yeah, you really can’t. You just… you really just can’t sing.’” – Sadie [10:19]

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Timestamps for Important Segments

• [04:50] – Inside joke: “Sandy/Sammy” and misnaming at restaurants
• [06:55] – Traveling to London and big plans for the year
• [11:15] – Sadie’s dream skill: becoming a master cook
• [15:19] – Setting boundaries after crossing them in relationships
• [21:16] – How to hold friends accountable without sounding unloving
• [30:51] – Advice for “picky” daters/high standards in dating
• [38:19] – Authenticity as the #1 standard for Christian
• [41:02] – How they encourage each other’s faith in marriage
• [45:51] – How to get interested in reading the Bible
• [51:06] – Sabbath as rest, humility, and trust in God

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Takeaways

• Set your dating standards high on what really matters: faith, honesty, integrity, and authenticity.
• Accountability and vulnerability are central for healthy boundaries and relationships.
• Don’t let past mistakes keep you from returning to healthy boundaries—there’s always grace and space for redemption.
• When you call out a friend’s struggle, do it with empathy, honesty, and love, trusting the Holy Spirit for timing and approach.
• Make scripture come alive by looking for cross-references, using visual tools (Bible Project), and studying in community.
• Sabbath is not just about rest but trusting and humbling yourself before God, learning that provision comes from Him, not your own hustle.

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Transcript

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[Christian Robertson]

What is up? Whoa, that's good fam. And welcome back to the Whoa, that's Good podcast. But per usual, you've watched it. Your money is about to get it. I thought this was a Wednesday episode. You're Monday.

[Sadie Robertson]

Yeah, I thought you said your own money. I was like, you're Monday. What you out here promising?

[Christian Robertson]

No, you're Monday. This should be a Wednesday episode because I'm on, but Monday it will suffice.

[Sadie Robertson]

Did you see someone commented the other day and said, is Christian your official co host now for all the future episodes?

[Christian Robertson]

That was actually my burner, but I'm glad that that caught your attention. And actually just kidding, but whoever commented that, thank you. I see you and I appreciate you.

[Sadie Robertson]

They didn't say they wanted you to be.

[Christian Robertson]

Were they roasting crap? Were they?

[Sadie Robertson]

They were just asking. I'm just kidding, babe. I'm sure they did. I love you.

[Christian Robertson]

So that was not a good comment though.

[Sadie Robertson]

No, it was probably a good comment. I was just laughing because I. You know what I love? I love that you took it good. That means that you are at a great place in your life.

[Christian Robertson]

I keep a glass thankful for that.

[Sadie Robertson]

I love that we keep the glass overflowing over here.

[Christian Robertson]

There was maybe a time in my life where I would have seen it as half empty, but not anymore.

[Sadie Robertson]

That's actually true. Right here, right now, we are realizing a major growth in your life. That's sweet, babe.

[Christian Robertson]

Yeah, very sweet.

[Sadie Robertson]

You used to be a glass half mid guy and now you're a glass half full guy.

[Christian Robertson]

Yeah, that's Who I am. Let's dive into these awesome questions that our friends have asked us.

[Sadie Robertson]

We love going through the dms, and actually, the last time I posted Ask me anything on Instagram, I got a little distracted within the day and did not get to answer as many as I wanted to. And that's why I love podcasts like this, because we get to actually answer the questions that you guys are asking, and we always appreciate it. Also, can I shout out that your bio here? It says, answering DMS with Christian. Husband, influencer, comedian, businessman, and dad.

[Christian Robertson]

That is all. I cannot believe that's what chat GPT gave you.

[Sadie Robertson]

That's not ChatGPT. That's my teammate Claire. Shout out real.

[Christian Robertson]

Recognize real.

[Sadie Robertson]

She's Claire GPT.

[Christian Robertson]

She is.

[Sadie Robertson]

And that's our group text with her. All right, here we go into the questions. We'll start with some fun ones. What is your favorite inside joke that you have together? Our inside joke that also is not inside anymore. It's outside. Everybody knows about it, is that Christian calls me Sandy when I do stupid things. And you also call me kind of.

[Christian Robertson]

But when you do things that aren't normally like, you, you'd be like, sandy. Like, if you curb the car or. Which is a common thing that is like, you know, things like that, it's Sandy. Or what's the other one?

[Sadie Robertson]

You haven't called me the other one in a while.

[Christian Robertson]

Sammy.

[Sadie Robertson]

Sammy. Sammy's. When I, like, really do something crazy,

[Christian Robertson]

Sammy is like, yeah, Sammy is stupid.

[Sadie Robertson]

Yeah.

[Christian Robertson]

Sandy is just like, you were cute, but that was. That was stupid.

[Sadie Robertson]

Yeah. So that's our inside joke. Like, if I say something wrong, he'll be like, sandy. Or if I forget that I'm supposed to do something, it's Sandy. And that's kind of like an ongoing thing. And that's been good. That's been a thing for a long time.

[Christian Robertson]

That's because we'll go to restaurants and she'll say, her name is Sadie, and it'll be come back on the cup or the. Or the receipt as either Sammy or Sandy.

[Sadie Robertson]

I get. I've gotten Sammy at Chick Fil A. I've gotten Sandy at Starbucks. And early on before, you know, whenever I was more known from, like, Doug Dynasty and not doing, like, ministry stuff, people would, like, come up to me, and they're like, oh, my gosh, are you Sandy Roberts?

[Christian Robertson]

No, Sandy Robinson.

[Sadie Robertson]

Yeah, I did get Sandy Robinson a lot.

[Christian Robertson]

So Sandy Robinson is like, when there's something really.

[Sadie Robertson]

It's my alter ego. She's my alter ego. Yeah. But that's pretty funny.

[Christian Robertson]

Sandy Robinson is also really cute.

[Sadie Robertson]

Okay, that is cute. Okay. What. Speaking of cute, what are some girl names that you love but didn't end up using?

[Christian Robertson]

Well, the one that I loved, we were very close to using it, and

[Sadie Robertson]

we might use it again one day, though.

[Christian Robertson]

It's true. I thought Hampton was really cute.

[Sadie Robertson]

Yeah, we. We. Which. This is also gonna answer a DM we get all the time. Are y' all gonna have a fourth child? We're not planning on having a fourth child anytime soon. Ideally, we're gonna give it a lot of space in between, because I would love some time to heal my body and also just enjoy the stage we're in. But we'd love to one day have another baby. And if it was a girl, Hampton would definitely be at the top of the list. And the other kids names we've kept very secretive, but at this point, like, we've thrown out so many things. This is the fourth baby, but we love the name Hampton. But we'd pray about it, obviously. God's, like, done so much with the name stories and the thought.

[Christian Robertson]

And the thought of a vasectomy just freaks me out. I don't know if I can share that.

[Sadie Robertson]

Thank you for that. It does.

[Christian Robertson]

Anytime I think about it, I just start, like, limping around the house.

[Sadie Robertson]

He literally does. It's the most dramatic thing ever. I'm like, really? Just be okay. We have a lot of kids. That's great. But, yes, Hampton. Okay. I really like the name Pepper. I feel like we can't have a honey and a pepper because it's two things you find in your pantry. But Pepper, for anyone who wants that name. I've always loved the name Andy. But you didn't love that for a girl, But I think it's cute for a girl. And then Linen. I like the name Linen. We had a few that we. That we like, but Hampton was definitely the top runner. And Honey has now named all of her baby dolls Hampton, which actually happened, too, with Oakley, because I loved Oakley. And then Honey named all of her baby dolls Oakley and Pet Shark. Yeah. So, yeah, those are some of the names that we liked. And then we have a boy name that we're not gonna share. That has been the boy name. If we would. If any of the girls would have been a boy, that would have been the name. We don't even have a runner up for a boy name.

[Christian Robertson]

Yep, we don't.

[Sadie Robertson]

So if we had twin boys, we'd have to really think that would be crazy. Okay. Carrying on if we ever have twin boys, we're gonna, like, clip this podcast. When I said that, that would be crazy. Okay, what is something that y' all are looking forward to doing this year?

[Christian Robertson]

A lot of things. Are we sharing some of the things we're doing publicly?

[Sadie Robertson]

Like, don't share one of the things, but you can share the other day.

[Christian Robertson]

L O N D. Okay. Yeah. Well, you're speaking at the Global Leadership Summit in London.

[Sadie Robertson]

Super excited.

[Christian Robertson]

I love London, so I'm excited to go do that.

[Sadie Robertson]

So, speaking of London, this is kind of funny, and this is how real you guys are who have followed along the podcast for a while. So there is a picture that I took with Honey when I was pregnant with kids kit. And it was at the time that I hadn't announced, like, what the name was, and someone sent in, or. I don't know how I saw this, but someone was guessing that we were actually going to name our baby Hampton because they saw the word Hampton behind me in that picture with Honey. Like, there is. And you know how the other story with Honey and Haven, this was in London. Yeah. And we had the Honey thing in the Haven theme behind us. And I was like, well, good thing I didn't see that, because that might have swayed us. So that was kind of cute. But, yeah, we're going to London. I'm speaking at the Alpha Global Leadership Conference, which I'm, like, so excited about.

[Christian Robertson]

Yeah. Global Research Summit. That's not what it is. That's the Global Leadership Summit.

[Sadie Robertson]

Yeah, but it's. It's a Global leadership.

[Christian Robertson]

It is. Yeah.

[Sadie Robertson]

Called Alpha. And I'm really excited about it because actually I've done a Q and A at this before, and it was when we were engaged. Right. Right before we got engaged. Yeah. And that was just, like, a really cool time in my life because I had a dream that I was speaking at something like this. And whenever they asked me to it, it was totally a God thing because I just bought a ticket to go to it to learn from it. Because it's a leadership conference. I wanted to learn, and I was bringing some members from my team. And then they saw my name, you know, come up as they were seeing their tickets, and they were like, oh, she's coming. And then they asked me to do a Q and A, and I was like, that's so wild that, like, I'm getting to do this Q and A at this thing. And so here we are, you know, seven years later, and I can't believe that they asked me to speak at it. And I'm just super excited and really leaning into what God is going to lay on my heart to share. So feel super excited about speaking light to the next generation. And I am pumped. So that's coming up. And then Kayla fan awards coming up, which is going to be really exciting. My book comes out this year. It's a big. It's a big year as far as, like, ministry and some work things we've been doing, but also, like, so many things within our family I'm just excited about. But we'll save those for our personal life. If you could instantly master one skill, what would it be?

[Christian Robertson]

I don't. I don't. I need to think about it.

[Sadie Robertson]

Really. I feel like you know something, but you don't want to say it.

[Christian Robertson]

Well, I have an idea.

[Sadie Robertson]

I knew it.

[Christian Robertson]

But I want to, like. I don't know if that's my.

[Sadie Robertson]

It's okay. Just say. Then you can backtrack.

[Christian Robertson]

I'll say something like tennis. Like, that'd be pretty awesome.

[Sadie Robertson]

Well, that. I thought it was gonna be something embarrassing. That's great.

[Christian Robertson]

Like what?

[Sadie Robertson]

I don't know. Like, I thought it was gonna be like, something with, like, ninja throwing a slingshot.

[Christian Robertson]

I changed my answer. If I could master a slingshot, like what David would have used, that's what

[Sadie Robertson]

I thought it was going to either be like something with a sword or something with a slingshot. Because you've been so into David. I didn't mean to say ninja.

[Christian Robertson]

Maybe sword fighting. Okay.

[Sadie Robertson]

Yeah, something like that.

[Christian Robertson]

If I could master anything that King David or I could sing.

[Sadie Robertson]

Oh, speaking of, this is hilarious.

[Christian Robertson]

Are you outing me right now?

[Sadie Robertson]

What were you singing yesterday?

[Christian Robertson]

I will not be afraid.

[Sadie Robertson]

And Haven goes, dad, you really can't sing. And honey goes, yeah, you really can't. You just. You really just can't sing. It was so funny.

[Christian Robertson]

Little did I know. I'm not actually singing. I'm just. That was just like a off the

[Sadie Robertson]

cusp, like, I thought you were singing. I will not fly. I will not be afraid. What's the song?

[Christian Robertson]

Let's go fly a kite.

[Sadie Robertson]

Let's go fly a kite. I'm seeing the two of those. I would not fly.

[Christian Robertson]

That was a Sandy.

[Sadie Robertson]

Shoot. That was a sandy. Okay, let me recover.

[Christian Robertson]

I will not go flying. I will not have been a Sammy.

[Sadie Robertson]

That's such a funny mix up. Okay.

[Christian Robertson]

I love you.

[Sadie Robertson]

Cut this.

[Christian Robertson]

No, don't cut this. Keep it rolling. What is something that you would master?

[Sadie Robertson]

Okay, you know mine. Cooking.

[Christian Robertson]

Cooking.

[Sadie Robertson]

I would want to master cooking because it's Something that you have to do so often, and it's so frustrating when you spend, like, so long cooking something, and then it's not that good. That just. That just frustrates me because I'm not naturally good at cooking, but I want to be good at cooking because I want to provide for my family for that in that way. And I love Christian, loves eating, so I want to be good at cooking. It's true. And so, like, I appreciate good food. There's so many things that I'll try to cook, and then I will spend so long on it and, like, put my all into it and then eat it, and I'm like, that's just honestly not good, you know? And that's so frustrating. So if I can master cooking and know, like, I'm gonna make this dish and it is gonna be so good, that would be awesome.

[Christian Robertson]

Okay, let's get into a little deeper questions. We can maybe go back to something fun later. Okay.

[Sadie Robertson]

I love it.

[Christian Robertson]

Or do you want to stay on the fun for a second?

[Sadie Robertson]

Well, I mean, we only had three more fun ones.

[Christian Robertson]

Okay, well, let's answer them really quickly.

[Sadie Robertson]

Yeah. Okay. Okay, we'll go a little deeper. If you could give a TED talk on one topic and you have 15 minutes to prepare, what would you speak of?

[Christian Robertson]

Do you have something?

[Sadie Robertson]

Yes. I would speak on living original, or I would speak on being a sister and a friend.

[Christian Robertson]

That's great. And I would speak on fitness through a healthy lens.

[Sadie Robertson]

That's great. See, that was good. Quick and easy. What are some of your favorite Christian books that you've ever read?

[Christian Robertson]

Ooh, I was going to say there's a lot, but there's really, like, I haven't read that many. I'm not a big book reader. Well, I'm reading one right now by Jeremiah Johnson. That's really been interesting to me. It's like the Jesus discoveries and talks about the shroud and just all these different artifacts that they found throughout history pointing to the fact that Jesus was a real person that lived a real life. So that one's been really interesting to me lately.

[Sadie Robertson]

It's great. I think probably the most helpful. One of the most helpful books I've ever read was Winning the Battlefield of the Mind by Joyce Meyer. That helped me so much. I remember I had you read it, too. I don't know if you ever finished it, but it was extremely helpful for me.

[Christian Robertson]

Finish it.

[Sadie Robertson]

Very helpful.

[Christian Robertson]

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[Christian Robertson]

It's a great question. The first thought that comes to my mind is needing to surround yourself with people that can keep you accountable. I mean, obviously there's practical things of, you know, maybe setting time limits on social media or not staying at each other's house till late at night and hanging out with friends more often. Not isolating yourself, but I think for me, the thing that was biggest was accountability. With my guy friends twin, I would feel tempted to do something or if we did cross a boundary, like having people that could speak into that, that I could be vulnerable with, that they could, you know, confess things to and repent with. For me, that was the biggest. I mean, there's obviously so many practical things like kind of what I said, but I think if you surround yourself with people that want the best for you, that are going to ask you questions and that you don't feel the need to hide or to act or to feel shame when you do do something you shouldn't do. So I think I always just. I think accountability is huge.

[Sadie Robertson]

That's great. I think, too, one of the biggest lies that the enemy will try to get you with is like, oh, well, if you broke a boundary already, then there's no sense in even setting another one. Like, you're just gonna break it again, or it's already been ruined, or you're already impure, whatever. Whatever lie the enemy's telling you. But don't keep sinning. You know, don't stay in that habit of sin. Like you actually can repent. Turn from your sin, confess your sin, be healed of your sin, receive the grace for your sin, for your sin. Not grace in an abusive way of going, well, I'm gonna receive the grace. I'm gonna do it again. I'm gonna get grace again. No, like, receive grace so you don't live in shame, but don't keep doing it. You know, like, actually decide, like, okay, I don't want to do that anymore. Your boundary is set there. Not because it's like, some goal to achieve, but it's something that God set forth as, like, a good design. And so I think, put that boundary back in place. Go. I'm not gonna do this. Not because it's just something I don't want to do personally for a pride thing, but because this is calls me to, and I trust that his plan is better for me than what my flesh is telling me I want to do. And so go back to the boundary line. Go back to what God said. Repent of it. And like Christian said, confess to your friends. Set up better boundaries in the future. Okay, this led us to that. Let's not get in that situation again. I'm obviously speaking more towards, like, couples when it comes to the boundaries.

[Christian Robertson]

Netflix and all this.

[Sadie Robertson]

But there's so many more things. I mean, that's just that stage of your life. You're gonna go, like, at this stage in our life, like, there are things that you set boundaries for with. With yourself that again, like, you're gonna be tempted by. You're attempted to cross. But it's like, how do I not. How do I set myself up to win? Like, for me, I have, like, a boundary for my mind. And, like, shows that I watch. Like, I don't want to watch shows that lead me to not having peaceful thoughts. And so for me, it's like, like, okay, well, what if I do watch something that all of a sudden now I feel anxious or all Of a sudden, now I'm watch something that was like, inappropriate or whatever. Well, then I stopped watching the show. You know, it's like, oh, well, I'm only on episode two. There's all season. I don't care, like, stop watching the show. Like, don't keep doing it. Don't keep sinning. And I think so often, like, we just let ourselves kind of live in that like, victim mentality. Like, oh, well, it happened, or well, I saw it, so I'll just keep going. Like, no, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life. Like, fight on behalf of your mind. Win the b fill of the mind. Fight for your purity. Don't just like, let it happen.

[Christian Robertson]

Yeah, well, we see Jesus model that, right? You have the woman that's caught in adultery, and you know, the Pharisees are trying to stone her. And Jesus rebukes that. So he, he, he liberates the woman. He calls her out, he calls her into freedom. Then he also says, go and sin no more. So there is, so there's freedom and there's redemption. But then again there's also don't do it again transformative action that, that is required by the gospel. So I think that's the beautiful thing. It's, it's. Yes. There's not a boundary you pass that. There's. Well, we've already passed it. Let's, you know, let's keep doing it. There's, there is repentance, there is confession, and in that there's redemption and healing. And then the outcome from that is to not keep doing it, to stop doing it.

[Sadie Robertson]

On that note, I saw a question coming up, so I'll jump to it. How do I hold my friends accountable without coming across as rude or unloving?

[Christian Robertson]

That's good. I, I think, I think oftentimes I think things get labeled as rude because the person's just defensive. So I, I think sometimes we, we like, don't want to, to come across confrontational. Confrontational, not because we're being confrontational, but because the other person's going to perceive it that way. So you end up not doing anything. So for me, I would maybe rather come across as to the person, you know, harsh or unloving versus not saying anything at all. Because you're only responsible for what you choose to speak into. It's their responsibility for their response. They're gonna be defensive and, you know, label you as something and project onto you this thing. That's not true. You're not responsible for their reaction. But I think There is a delicate way to go about it in a graceful way. Not one invoking shame, not being hypocritical by you speaking out against something that you're actively living in. So I think there's a way. I think it's a delicate balance to do it, obviously, doing it in love. But at the end of the day, I think we are called to call out things in other people, and if. If they feel a certain way about you doing that, I don't think you can control that.

[Sadie Robertson]

I think that's true, but. And I also, like, because you're speaking from a guy's perspective, and guys tend to receive that a little bit better at times. Like, I feel like there's just that kind of male strength and, like, competitiveness. Like, y'. All. Y' all go at it a little rougher in sports. So maybe you can go at it a little rougher even in tone sometimes. Whereas with girls, it can be hard sometimes because you're, like, so worried this is going to be awkward or this is gonna hurt their feelings or they're gonna cry. But I think, think ultimately, like, how do you do it? And not becoming, like, not sound unloving is that if you're really doing it from a place of love, then they should feel loved, even though you're speaking some hard truth. And so a lot of it is gonna come from, like, okay, is my heart really. And why I'm saying this really from a place, because I genuinely love them so much, and I do not want to see this sin or this thing, like, hurting them. 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Find your favorite element flavor or share with a friend. That's drink element lmnt.com Whoa. It's hard sometimes when, you know, people have like a pre expectation of, like, how you're going to be like, you know, you might show up somewhere and people are like, oh, I bet they're gonna be like this. You know, it's like a judgmental mindset that people are gonna have and it's like, okay, preconceived notion, preconceived notion. That's what I'm going for. Like, people will have like a preconceived notion of you before you show up somewhere. And especially when you live your life, like, publicly. Like, everybody probably has a preconceived notion of who I might be that follows me on Instagram because you seen me from afar. You're like, oh, well, she's done this or that, so she's probably like this. But I always say like, like, because that can be crippling sometimes because you're like, oh, well, they're just gonna think this or they're just gonna think that. It's like, okay, I don't need to worry about, like, what man thinks. Like, God looks at my heart and when I show up, like, shock them with your kindness, Shock them with your grace, Shock them with your humility, whatever that is. And Jesus really did that because here, here he comes. He's. He's God in flesh. He's this messianic king that was promised to these people. But he came, like, completely in an unexpected way. They were expecting someone. Power came so Humble. Like, they were expecting someone riding on a horse, and he came on a donkey, and he just kept showing up in such a way where it was, like, not really what they were expecting, but you can't help but, like, see his heart. And I think about that even in these type of moments, it's like, someone might think, oh, that person's gonna judge me for doing xyz. So when that person speaks into my life, she's gonna be judgmental. She's gonna be whatever. But when you go to them and you say, hey, friend. And I just want to say, like, I've been seeing you wrestle with this, and it breaks my heart that you're struggling in that way, because I've been through that, too. And when I went through that, this is what it led me to in my life. And I just want to encourage you that there's so much better for you. And this is how I walked through it. I just want to let you know, like, I'm here for you in that if you ever need prayer, if you ever need a friend. And so it's like, you shock them with your grace. You shock them with your empathy, with your compassion. They're met with so much love. But also, you called out the sin, and you were truthful, and you didn't sugarcoat that that's not a healthy way to live your life. And so I think coming in in a way that, like, they can't deny your love for them because you laced it so much with love. But also, like, don't sugarcoat or hide from the truth. And then also, there is something to be said that, again, even if you do it perfectly, even if you go in with all grace and with all love and with all the kindness in the world, and people sometimes, like Christian said, are gonna be on the defense, and they're gonna be mad about it, and they're gonna be butthurt.

[Christian Robertson]

I'm saying that from experience.

[Sadie Robertson]

Oh, yeah. That's what I'm speaking to now. I'm saying people are going to, like,

[Christian Robertson]

obviously, your tone is everything. Like, you are to speak the truth in love. You are to have a tone that's mild and appropriate, and that's not harsh. But then again, it is. If the person doesn't have ears to hear it, then it doesn't matter. I mean, there's times in our marriage where. Where you might call something out of me and it might be harsh or your tone might be harsh in it, and I'm defensive. But there's always also been times where you've called something out, and it's been the most gentle, loving, compassionate way. And it still irritates me because it's me being defensive about something. But that does not mean you shouldn't do it. Like, you did it the right way. But it's also, if I don't have ears to hear it, if I'm gonna be defensive.

[Sadie Robertson]

Oh, totally.

[Christian Robertson]

It doesn't matter how you.

[Sadie Robertson]

It gets you both scenarios. Because I've had scenarios, like I had a scenari yesterday where I was worried to say something because I was worried it was going to come across like, you know, that I'm speaking into something that that person's walking through that maybe I shouldn't speak into. But also I'm seeing it, so I gotta say something. But I came at it with, like, so much love. And the person was like, wow, thank you so much. Like, and she was surprised by, like. And you. You heard it because it was a response, like, how much grace I met her with. But also, like, calling out something that other people are seeing and not saying. And so, like, I. I was using that as an example because sometimes, like, it's one thing to say, like, oh, well, you can't really care about how they receive it. And. And yes, that is true. That is true. Sometimes people are going to receive it well, even if you did it perfectly. But tone is everything. And with guys, that's what I was just saying. Sometimes you can be like, you know, JP said, do you, like, do you have people who can be honest with you? And you're like, I think so. And he's like, you smack bro. Like, you. You gotta stop smacking. Like, that's funny. But like a girl when I was eating too loud. I know, that's what I'm saying. Like, he was. He caught. But that was like a bro moment. Like, as a girl, you can't just be like, you smack. Like, you gotta be like, like, kind of lighter about it.

[Christian Robertson]

And on the flip side, too, I do see a lot on social media. I think people. People do like confrontation. And I think that sometimes people do speak into situations that they shouldn't speak into.

[Sadie Robertson]

Oh, for sure.

[Christian Robertson]

Well, I'm not saying you disagree with me.

[Sadie Robertson]

I know. I'm just saying. For sure.

[Christian Robertson]

Yeah. I'm just saying it's like, sometimes people feel the need out of this form of righteousness to speak into this, to rebuke that, to help correct this. And it's like, you don't have to speak.

[Sadie Robertson]

You're not the person that has to speak into Every.

[Christian Robertson]

You don't have to speak into every. And you don't need 30 hills that you're going to. That you're willing to die on.

[Sadie Robertson]

No, you need to speak to me. It's like if you're walking through life with someone, they're your friend, and they're going through something that everybody else is talking about or noticing, and no one's saying it, that's wrong. Like, someone needs to say it. And you don't need to talk to anybody else about it. You need to talk to that person about it. And you need to come at it not from a place of, I can't believe you're doing this, but I'm so sorry you're going through that. I. It breaks my heart to see you making those decisions, because I get it. I've been there. I've done similar things. And let me just tell you, friend, it didn't end well. You know what I mean? That's more what I'm speaking to. And also, you have to know, like, trust that the Holy Spirit speaking, too. So pray about it. Like, you don't have to be the one to say it. Let the Holy Spirit say it. There's another situation in my life right now. I'm walking through, watching, and I feel strongly I'm not the person that's supposed to speak into it. But what am I supposed to do with that? Pray about it. What am I not supposed to do about it? Talk to everybody else about it. You know?

[Christian Robertson]

This a good time to plug your new book?

[Sadie Robertson]

No, we can't announce it yet. I mean, people know I'm writing, but we can't talk about the title.

[Christian Robertson]

Oh, shoot, this. But this was a perfect time to plug it.

[Sadie Robertson]

I know. It was. It was. But we'll save it anyways, because what

[Christian Robertson]

I was going to say was.

[Sadie Robertson]

Yeah, that's so funny. Okay, what is your best dating advice for someone who has high standards? Now, I wanted to say this, and I wanted to ask you this because you over there, you were picky in dating. You literally said to me, like, you, you. I think we've said this in the podcast or whoever you didn't like. Like, sometimes it would just be girls voices that you were like, I don't like. Yeah, I said it to say, like, hey, that's real. Some people have high standards and some people are, like, particular about things. And that's not always a bad thing, but it can be a crippling thing. And you might be. Be the guy to talk to. Yes.

[Christian Robertson]

Well, I just didn't you know, you, you were a lot more mellow. I didn't, you know, which is funny.

[Sadie Robertson]

Listening to this are probably not thinking I'm a mellow person.

[Christian Robertson]

No, I just didn't love that ah, girl, that just kind of bothered me. But if you do speak like that, it's awesome. You just weren't the person for me. And that's okay because I'm happily married. Sorry, what was the question again? High standards. Yeah, well, I also just was not a good person before I met Christ. Whether it was relationally or many aspects of my life, but high standards? Yes. No, you were just somebody that I actually enjoyed talking to. Relational. And I feel like we had a lot in common, even though circumstantially our lives looked completely different. And that was intriguing to me. And I feel like, you know, I always, when I really started following Christ, it was this idea about running, running this race and not feeling like the other person's, you know, it was this analogy of if you're running a mile, um, like you're trying to keep, you're trying to run the same pace. If I'm running a six minute mile and you're, you're, you're lagging at like a 10, then we're probably not compatible from the standpoint of where we're going. So I feel like we were running the same speed even though we were doing completely different things. And you know, standard wise, I don't know.

[Sadie Robertson]

And physically I think the fastest mileage,

[Christian Robertson]

I never like made a 10.

[Sadie Robertson]

So we're not super compatible when it comes to our actual mile times. Yeah, but we're very compatible with the running, the race goddess set before us.

[Christian Robertson]

But I never like made a list of like.

[Sadie Robertson]

But I, I think, well, I just, I, I thought you could kind of speak to that because you are kind of like, you do set standards high for yourself and sometimes that can come across in other people. I'm the same way. I'm, I set high standards for myself and sometimes I'm like very hard on myself and can be like a perfectionist about certain things. And so, you know, I think I did have really high standards in dating that were a lot of times unfair to the person that I was looking for, you know. And so yes, I think first and foremost, like Christian said, like, it's different before Christ and after Christ, but like once you become, you know, a strong believer in Christ and you realize like the goal of marriage would be like to glorify God and to do what the Lord has called us to to become one flesh and to, you know, be fruitful and multip, supply and do this life together. Like, we can do this life better together than we can apart. A quarter, three strands is not easily broken. Two are better than one. Like, if we're going with like a biblical point of view on marriage, like, this is why we're doing this, then it's not so much about being picky. It's not picky in the sense of like, oh, you smack, or oh, you do this. Like, I don't have standards like that, but I do have high standards in the things that matter. Like, I wanted someone who felt like heavy convictions and things, who did want to live a life set apart from the world, who isn't. Like, comparing caring the way you live to everybody else, but, like, looking at God and being like, what? What do you have for me, Lord? And so I think you can set your standards high, and you should. And the things that matter. But so many people set their standards high on things that just don't matter. You know, it's like it doesn't really matter that much if it's blonde hair or brown hair, if they're taller, if they're shorter, if they smack or if they don't smack. Like, those just. Those things just don't matter. And those things change, you know. But the things that do matter certainly set you up well. Have you ever thought about how easy it is to move through Easter season without actually slowing down and remembering what it truly means? I get it. We're busy. There's travel, family, church plans, all the things. And sometimes we know the story of the cross so well that we don't always stop and think about it. But that's why I love Tim Tebow's new book, if the Tree Could Speak, it really stands out. It tells the story of Jesus's crucifixion from the perspective of the wooden cross, the closest witness to that day. Not a disciple, not a bystander, the tree itself. And that perspective makes the story feel incredibly personal and real. In the book, the tree hopes to become something admired, but instead it is cut down and turned into a cross, a symbol of shame. Then it is realizing it's holding the king of kings. And that shift is such a powerful reminder that God can take what feels humiliating or broken and can redeem it. And it is so beautifully illustrated, which adds so much depth. As you're reading, the book is designed to help you pause and reflect on what Jesus did for us. And it delivers. Friends. It's such a Meaningful way to prepare our hearts for Easter. Always love looking at a story you know so well from a different perspective too. And that's why I think this book is amazing. Plus being a visual learner and so getting to see it from this perspective is so, so cool. So let's step into the story this Easter in a deeper way this year. Order if the Tree Could Speak by Tim Tebow on Amazon or check out the link in the show notes today. That's if the Tree Could Speak by Tim Tebow, available now on Amazon.

[Christian Robertson]

The highest standard for me, it's, it's authenticity. If, if you are truly authentic, if you're the same person that you say you are, then you should live that way. I was, I was getting lunch with a friend a couple weeks ago and he was dating this girl that went to another school and she, I don't know what she looks like, but I'm sure she's super pretty. She's in a sorority, all these other things. But their relationship would, would come, would butt heads because she would, he, he's really following the Lord. I think she was kind of wishy washy on it. And she would, this is not like super exposing, but like, she would go to these sorority parties and, but, but as she went, her phone would be dead. So she would like leave her phone at her house and my, my buddy would never know really what she was doing. But it's, it's different than what, when they're together, it's spiritual, but then when it's apart, it's, it's a little more worldly. So I'm saying that from the authenticity of like, if you're not practicing what you're preaching, I don't care how pretty the person is, how well you get along, if, if those core things on just being authentic aren't real, then your relationship's not going to be, it's not going to be strong. And so for me with you, you had to trust me having a crazier background, this is the way I'm living now. I'm still in college. I still have friends that are fraternities. Like, we still, still go out and do things. But I'm not super rambunctious. I'm not going to the party scene anymore. I'm not doing all those things. And for you, you had to get to a point where you weren't constantly checking my location and just being in this negative headspace of was he going to resort back to what he did, be you to trust me that, hey, this is Where I'm at now, I'm not here anymore. I need you to trust me in that I'm being genuine and authentic, and I have accountability people that are going to hold me accountable. But if you don't have that, then, yeah, you are gonna. You are gonna be in that negative headspace. So for me, it's just, if the person's authentic and genuine, that surpasses any level of beauty or physical attraction, obviously those things are important. But for me, authenticity is gonna. Is gonna last.

[Sadie Robertson]

Yeah, the standards have to be high when it comes to authenticity, when it comes to honesty, integrity, godliness. Like, those are the things you want your standards to be high in, because those things really matter. And I think sometimes people can get manipulative with people who do set standards high because they're, oh, you're just being too harsh. You're being too hard on me, or you shouldn't care that much, or nobody's like this. And I think you got to be careful with people who are speaking that, because a lot of times people are speaking that out of fear, knowing that, like, they aren't. Don't want to become that person. And so it's like, then you shouldn't even expect that of me. And if you're in a dating relationship, I would encourage you. Y' all might not be at this same space yet, but, I mean, first ask yourself, am I being too hard? But if it's like, I expect you to be honest with me, that's not too hard. If it's like, I want you to not have your phone dead every time you're at a party, that's not too hard. Like, you're setting standards that are practical and that set you up for, like, a healthy marriage, that's not too harsh. But if you're like, I don't want you to, like, do, like, just basic things. But, yeah, like, that. Don't. Don't be, like, you know, too picky or too particular. But those things are worth fighting for. And if they're not willing to meet you at that, if you're dating, I'd say break up. If you're married, I would say pray, go to counseling, seek counsel. But. But mainly just pray and ask that God would align your standards to one another, that he would give you both the same conviction, that he would really align your hearts on that and open the door for conversations. Because we've had things like that in our marriage. Even where it's like, I feel strong about something that you don't or you feel strong about That I don't. And God has really, like, brought our hearts together and respecting one another and trusting one another.

[Christian Robertson]

Yeah, that's good. And I feel like the. The authenticity part, too. It goes beyond just external things that you can see, but it's internal things, too. It's like, if you have this hidden sin problem, eventually it's going to get exposed. So if you're not authentic up front, then eventually it's going to come back and bite you in the butt.

[Sadie Robertson]

This was to you, Christian? Christian, how do you encourage Sadie in the faith and how does she encourage. Encourage you?

[Christian Robertson]

Great question. How do I feel like I encourage you? I feel like I encourage you maybe on, like, the studying aspect of faith. And, like, I feel like the way my brain works might encourage you to try to learn more about a story or see how it connects to something. Here.

[Sadie Robertson]

You're referring to a specific situation. That's. Are you referring to that conversation we had?

[Christian Robertson]

I'm not referring to a specific.

[Sadie Robertson]

No, you're not. That you're talking about. That conversation we had recently about this was kind of funny. Christian thought something was really cool in scripture, and he, like, shared it with me. And I was like, okay, like, what is that? What does that do for you? Like, what is that? And he took that the wrong way, as if I was saying, like, it's

[Christian Robertson]

not cool being defensive.

[Sadie Robertson]

But I was like, no, I'm not saying that's not cool. That is cool. But I just was wondering, wondering, what does knowing that teach you about the characteristic of God? Because we have talks about the Bible all the time, and, like, something will stick out to me or something must stick out to him. And we're, like, teaching each other, like, what we're learning through that. And this particular thing that he thought was really cool, I wasn't really understanding, like, how that can, like, what was so cool about that? And I didn't mean it in, like, that's not cool. I meant, like, teach me, like, tell me. And it's really cool for us to, like, get super excited about stories and share. So I do think that you do encourage me in that. But I would say if I can share. What would you say? Encouraging more. And then even that is that I, like Christian, knows what I struggle with. Right. And so Christian will see me struggling with an aspect in my life or something. And, like, he always is so quick to, like, speak truth over it and be like, hey, I see you going down this trail. Stop. Like, God is for you. God is good. He is proud of you here, like, and he starts speaking truth, truth to the lie. He probably knows I'm already believing, which is so great. And I'm sure so many moms and women can relate to this. Like, maybe I'll feel like, like I, I didn't do a great job today with the kids or I dropped the ball here or dropped the ball there. And so all of a sudden I feel like a failure. You know, some of you might can relate to that. And Christian will see me going down the spiral and like stop the spiral and get me back to truth. Get me back to who God's called me to be. And that's like super helpful. So I feel like you encourage me a lot with that. You also me a lot in ministry. Like when it comes to messages that I'm about to preach. You walk that out really well with me because I'll get nervous about things or I'll get in my head after I preach or whatever it is. And like you're always there to be an accountability partner to me and an encourager to me. And I'm very thankful for that.

[Christian Robertson]

That's very sweet. Thanks. I feel like for you, for me, for. Feel like you encouraged me in just like simple faith aspects. Aspects of just, you know, it's like that's what the Bible says. I believe it. And not that I ever like doubt anything I believe, but I feel like the way my brain works, I can like, you know, it's like the I believe it help my unbelief feel like sometimes I can struggle with that. And you, you don't really doubt and waver things like that. You're always pretty strong and steadfast on the things.

[Sadie Robertson]

Thank you. That's really sweet. I remember whenever we started low and I had the what ifs, what if I fail? What if it isn't where I need to be? And looking back, I can see so clearly that God had his hand in the whole thing. Starting something new is exciting, but it's also very scary. And that's why I'm thankful for Shopify. Shopify is the commerce platform behind millions of businesses around the world and 10% of all e commerce in the US from massive brands to tiny startups. Team Low starts on Shopify every single day for managing inventory and staying on top of orders. It's just works. You can build a beautiful online store with templates that actually match your vibe. And their AI tools are game changers. They help write product descriptions, page headlines, even enhanced product photos. Plus, everything's in one place. So inventory, payments, analytics and they have a 24. 7 customer support. It really feels like you have a built in business partner. I think it's so amazing. For anyone starting out a business, this is the place to do it. Like I said, we do it for low duck. Commander does it. It's just honestly very simple and does everything for you. It's time to turn those what ifs into with Shopify today. Sign up for your $1 per month trial today at shopify.com Whoa. Go to shopify.com Whoa. Again that shopify.com Whoa. Okay. How do I get interested in reading the Bible?

[Christian Robertson]

Well, for me it kind of goes to what I just said. I think think the Bible becomes super interesting when you realize that it's, it's a whole story. But if there's so many cross references and there are so many things that tie into the scripture, it's unlike any book ever written. So for me, the thing that makes the Bible so interesting, it's, it's not like you're just reading an ongoing story. It's like you'll read something in the New Testament and then somehow that connects to something in the Old Testament or there's a word in this book that relates to this book or there's a prophecy 1500 years later that's revealed when Jesus comes. And I think if you don't read the Bible through that lens of how it all connects to each other, then I think it's not as fascinating. And there are a ton of resources for people that can see that. I think one thing too, I'm a visual learner. So when I first started really reading the Bible, I loved the Bible much pretty project. It's like clip art. These two guys that are geniuses and you can look it up on YouTube, they also have an app, but they just break down scripture really, really clearly, really concisely and they do it through these little kind of clip art graphics. I don't even know if clip art's the right word, but like sketches, sketches and it, and it shows you kind of like a visual of what's happening in the scripture. And I think they articulate it really well. But for me, the Bible becomes the most interesting when you can read something and you realize that it connects to this other point here, that it all, it all connects.

[Sadie Robertson]

And so I think Bible project is a great way to get interested. I think too like studying a part of the Bible and then kind of obsessing over it. In other words, you could like binge it. You know, that's very on trend it's like, if you start a show that you love, like, you binge watch it, you become obsessed with it. You know, for me, you might watch a movie. This is what I do. I watch a movie, and then after I watch the movie, I want to know, like, everything about the real story of the movie, if it's a true story or, like, what do the real people look like, what they act like, you know, how did this happen? I go and watch all the interviews, or it's like, even if it's not a true story, I'm like, what about that actress? What's she up to? I want to go watch the interviews that she did before the movie. And I just want to, like, learn everything I can about that movie and that situation and how it was made and what the actors and actresses are doing in their life. And that's how I get with the Bible, where it's like, I studied John 4, the woman at the well. Then I'm like, I want to know everything about the woman at the well. And then as I'm studying the woman at the well, I'm reading about. About, like, Jacob's will. Oh, okay, that's Jacob from the Bible, who had Joseph. And, you know, he was all. You know, it just connects to everything. And so then you learn about that. Then I get on a Genesis kick and learning about the story of Jacob and then Joseph, and then that's a kick. And it's like, just getting so into the story and the nitty gritty of it. And then also, like, right now, I'm reading through the Bible recap and which shout out to everybody who heard me say, I'm doing that for my New Year's residential resolution. Still in it, still up to date.

[Christian Robertson]

And you had some catching up to do, though.

[Sadie Robertson]

I did.

[Christian Robertson]

Hey, you're up to date now.

[Sadie Robertson]

I'm up today. Now there's grace for the journey.

[Christian Robertson]

No, I'm. I'm just. I'm just.

[Sadie Robertson]

It's been red. But it's true. I did get behind, and then I caught back up. But, like, you know, whenever we were in Leviticus and numbers, I was like, okay, this is a little hard, A little stretching, because you're literally reading, like, page after page about, like, skin infection. So I'm like, okay, let's go back to the New Testament. But actually, what's been really cool is as I was reading it, I didn't really think I was learning anything at the time. And then all of a sudden, I'd be like, wow, God, like, you are so good. Like, I see your hand in this. Like, you're such a good father. Your provision for the. The way that you were talking about calling people out and not trying to be rude and unloving, but, like, he just would call these people out because he wanted a better life for them so bad. And they just could not get out of their sin. They could not keep wanting to go back to their old ways. They could idolizing false gods. And he kept pursuing them and kept being gracious to them and kept giving them boundary lines to stay within so that they wouldn't keep going down destructive paths. And so it was just, like, really cool that as I read and became, like, disciplined and consistent with something, ultimately it was leading me to a greater revelation of God. And so I encourage you, like, you might be reading it and be like, I don't really get it. Lean in. And for me, like, doing it with Terry Lee Cobble or Bible Project or anything where you can, like, go to another resource and learn more. So many commentaries out there. We love Enduring Word. If you have a mentor, you could call. If you have a pastor, you could call and be like, hey, this doesn't really make sense to me. Like, let someone help break it down for you. Because it doesn't make sense to most people when they read it. It doesn't make sense to me. I have to, like, go listen to what Terry Cobble had to say or go look it up at the Bible Project. And so, like, keep learning. Be a student of the Word and you have access to the Holy Spirit into God. And so ask God, God, what does this mean? Why did you do that? What? Why did it. How did this connect? Like, you know, and it's so cool when the Lord starts revealing stuff to you. And on that note, someone said, how do you slow down and reset? And I wanted to bring this up because I want to talk about Sabbath, because this is something I've been learning as I've been reading the Old Testament. So to be completely honest, Sabbath has not been something that I've ever, like, gotten too, too into, like, super stoked about. Mainly because although I know Sabbath is a big. Because the Lord set it in motion. And on the seventh day, God rested. And literally, when you're reading the Old Testament, when you're going through Leviticus and all of these things, you're gonna hear how God was like, you need to take a Sabbath on that seventh day to rest. It's also one of the ten Commandments. Like, when you think of ten Commandments like these Are like, the big things. And he's like, remember the Sabbath, like, keep it holy. And so obviously, like, Sabbath is a big deal. So when I say I've never been too into Sabbath, I don't want to say, like, I'm going against the word of God. But I'll tell you, you why I was never, like, thinking too much into it is because when you get to the New Testament, the Pharisees really always so mad at Jesus because Jesus was healing on the Sabbath, and he was doing stuff on the Sabbath. And Jesus was, like, doing these miracles and doing these wonderful things. But they were so religious that they couldn't, like, accept that he was whatever he was doing because it was the fact that it was on the Sabbath. And I think sometimes, like, people. People in religious circles, like, can be a little bit religious, like, spirited when it comes to how we talk about the Sabbath and what it needs to be or what it needs to look like. And I felt like when Jesus came, you know, he. He didn't come to, like, abolish it, abolish the law, but he did come to, like, fully fulfill the law. And so it's not that he's saying that get rid of Sabbath, but he also, like, he is the law and he's fulfilling it. And basically, Jesus was saying all of those things that you read in the law, like the infection things and the this, all of it, like, all of that is good. But ultimately it comes down to this. Love the Lord your God with our heart, soul, mind and strength, and love your neighbor as yourself. And so Jesus was like, I'm fulfilling the law in this. And he said, this doesn't mean I'm, like, dumbing it down. You know, Even when we talk about adultery, he's saying, like, I'm actually calling you to a higher standard. Don't even look at a woman lustfully. So he's saying, saying, like, it's not just about the law. It's about your heart, you know? And so when it comes to Sabbath, I always felt like it's kind of about your heart. And then I look at all the disciples, you know, after Jesus died, they were just going for it, like Paul even. I mean, not like one of Jesus disciples, but when Saul became Paul, that Paul was, like, on mission for the Gospel. And you just don't see Paul, like, emphasizing rest. You know, he's not like. And then I rested, and I was so important, and you need to rest. You need to rest. You need a rest. You need a Sabbath, Sabbath, Sabbath. He was like, go Tell, get it out there. Like, to live is Christ, to die is gain. Like, it was just like, go for it. So I feel like I kind of took on that approach a little bit more. But as I've been rereading the Old Testament and looking at Sabbath, something that has really stuck out to me is, yes, Sabbath is about rest, and that is important. And again, on the seventh day, God rested. But really, what Sabbath was to the Old Testament people and what God was really teaching them was not just about rest, but it was about humility and it was about trust. He was saying to them, take a day that you don't work and trust that I will provide. Take a day that you don't work and humble yourself to know that I am your provider. And so, yes, rest. Get the benefit of what it looks like to not work by being revived and being rested, but also humble yourself to a place to know that. That you don't. You don't do it all. You know, like, you're not providing for your life. I'm providing for your life. It's not anything you can do in your own strength, but, like, trust that I can do more with your time of rest and you can do with your time of working. And that really convicted me because, one, I do need to rest and I do need to make more of a weekly habit of that, because that is something important and it's something that God modeled. But two, I do think in a culture that is so work, work, work, go, like, do, do, do. God is saying, like, actually, I want you to humble yourself and trust me that I can do so much more even when you rest than you can do when you work. And I am your provider. You are not. Like, you don't need to approve anything, like, let me provide for you. And so I felt convicted of that. And the week we went to the beach, we, like, treated it as a Sabbath. And for me, it was kind of coming at a crazy time because I was finishing a lot of work things. But also, there's always more that you can, can do. And I just felt like, okay, I need to take a week and Sabbath, and it's about rest. I need to rest with my family. I need to just be with my family, being present. But two, I don't need to produce anything. Like, I don't need to work or do anything. This is a week of humility, saying that, like, God, you work on my behalf. So I felt like, convicted not to post social media, not to let my team, like, keep doing things even on my behalf. Like, just stop and don't produce, don't put out, don't, you know, promote myself in any way, but, like, let God just work in my. And it was so fruitful and so beneficial. And for me, I don't want to just do that once in a blue moon in a week. I need to start doing that weekly in different aspects. And so that's what God's teaching me. It's been really cool because again, you're going through the Old Testament and it's not like that just like, hit me in one sentence. But that's what happens when you obsess with the Word of God and in other words, meditate on the Word of God. Psalms 1, 2, 3 says, Meditate for those who meditate on the law. For those who meditate on the Word will be like a tree planted by a stream of living water. And it talks about the fruit will not wither, the leaves will not die off, it's always going to flourish because it's planted by a stream. And so when you meditate on the Word, obsess over the Word, read the Word, your life produces fruit. And it's a beautiful thing to see. That concludes all of our questions.

[Christian Robertson]

I think we're about out of time.

[Sadie Robertson]

We're about out of time too, so thanks for sending in your questions. It's always so encouraging to see what's on your heart, but please keep sending questions and let us know what you want to hear from us. We always love to hear what's on your heart. So keep sending DMs into the Woah, that's good podcast page and we would love to answer them. Thanks.

[Christian Robertson]

And for the person that said, Sadie's co host. Yes, that is me. And as I said before, I hope your Monday is about to get a whole lot better. And I hope that it did. Sam.