What Our Husbands Always Wondered But Were Too Afraid to Ask | Sadie, Christian, Will & Abby

Summary

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Podcast Summary

Podcast: WHOA That's Good Podcast
Episode: What Our Husbands Always Wondered But Were Too Afraid to Ask
Date: November 19, 2025
Host: Sadie Robertson Huff
Guests: Christian Huff, Will, and Abby

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Episode Overview

This episode takes a fun, insightful, and candid look at questions men have always wondered about women but were too afraid to ask. Sadie and Christian Huff welcome Will and Abby (popularly known as TikTok’s favorite couple) to join the conversation. The couples take turns in the hot seat, answering everything from classic relationship communications to lighthearted couple quirks, with plenty of laughter, honesty, and heartfelt moments.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Decoding "I'm Fine"

[06:20 – 10:00]

• Main Question: What does "I'm fine" really mean when a woman says it?
• Key Insights:
  • The tone and context matter: "I'm fine" can mean sad, annoyed, genuinely fine, or even invite further questioning.
  • Both Sadie and Abby break down their personal usages, noting subtle differences.
  • Christian and Will realize that women may want different responses depending on how they say "I'm fine."
• Memorable Quotes:
  • Sadie: “Typically, yes, the sad ‘I’m fine’ means, like, I’m sad but I am fine. I don’t want to talk about it.” [08:10]
  • Abby: “It’s either ‘I’m fine.’ period, ‘I’m fine…’ I want you to ask me more, or ‘I’m fine’ like, wiping my tear away.” [07:22]
  • Christian: “If I get hit with the ‘I’m fine'... it’s like, oh [bleep].” [09:00]

2. The Full Closet Paradox

[12:42 – 17:31]

• Main Question: Why do women say they have nothing to wear with a full closet?
• Key Insights:
  • Outfits for specific occasions may not match what’s in the closet.
  • Clothes that no longer fit one’s style or body post-pregnancy, "in faith jeans," and the need to declutter.
  • Practical considerations with kids: “mom-coded” clothes versus youthful styles.
• Memorable Quotes:
  • Sadie: “The things that take up the most space are sweatshirts – but that's not what you’re gonna wear to a wedding!” [14:00]
  • Abby: “‘In faith’ jeans... In faith, I’ll fit into them again. But I don’t right now.” [15:25]

3. Annoying Habits: Keeping the Peace?

[17:38 – 22:25]

• Main Question: What’s a small thing your spouse does that bothers you, but you never mention?
• Key Insights:
  • Sadie wishes Christian would let her trim his long eyebrows.
  • Abby playfully calls out Will for trying to be “nonchalant” in public situations.
  • Hilarious discussion about mutual “potty talk,” with both couples revealing how bodily quirks can be both funny and cause for minor spats.
• Memorable Quotes:
  • Sadie: “It annoys me that when I do [pass gas], it’s a big deal, but you do it all the time!” [21:00]
  • Christian (“solution”): “Next time, I’ll just give you a head nod.” [21:56]

4. Throw Pillows Debate

[24:08 – 26:26]

• Main Question: What’s the right number of throw pillows on a bed?
• Key Insights:
  • There’s no consensus; some couples have five, others two.
  • Men joke about never being able to win this debate.
  • Making the bed daily is more aspirational than reality for most.
• Memorable Quotes:
  • Will: “If we count our head pillows, that's... nine pillows on our bed.” [25:51]
  • Sadie: “In my mind, I really want to be someone who makes a bed every day…but I still hasn’t caught.” [26:08]

5. What Are Women REALLY Doing When “Getting Ready”?

[26:19 – 28:02]

• Main Question: What happens during “getting ready” time?
• Key Insights:
  • For both Sadie and Abby, it’s more than just prepping; it includes listening to audiobooks, petting dogs, multi-tasking, or just zoning out.
  • Abby: prefers to not talk during this time; Sadie: bounces between tasks.
• Memorable Quotes:
  • Sadie: “That is my time to listen to books or sermons.” [26:39]
  • Abby: “I don't like my getting ready time, it's my getting ready time.” [26:56]

6. Most Attractive Things About Their Spouses

[31:36 – 33:19]

• Questions: What is the most attractive thing about me, and has it changed since we met?
• Key Insights:
  • Abby praises Will’s warmth and ability to draw people to him; she loves that this has stayed constant.
  • Sadie recounts her initial and continued attraction to Christian’s athleticism and their shared love of sports.
• Notable Quotes:
  • Abby: “I think...how you, like, love people and how everyone is drawn to you because you’re such a lovable, light person.” [32:10]
  • Sadie: “One of the things I think is most attractive about you...is how athletic you are. That’s how we really bonded.” [33:06]

7. Do Women Rehearse What They’re Going to Say?

[35:24 – 38:57]

• Main Question: Do women rehearse conversations before they happen?
• Key Insights:
  • Both Abby and Sadie admit to often thinking through conversations, especially tough ones, before speaking.
  • Will and Christian notice that men may speak without thinking, while women tend to overthink, sometimes to a fault.
  • Sadie links this tendency to her career in communication and public speaking.
• Memorable Quotes:
  • Abby: “I feel like I think of the whole sentence before I say it.” [36:14]
  • Sadie: “Since I programmed my brain to do that, it’s easy for me to accidentally slip into that in normal life too.” [37:57]

8. The Short Fuse with Husbands Dilemma

[39:43 – 51:31]

• Main Question: How can women hold it together for everyone else but have a short fuse with their husband?
• Key Insights:
  • Intimacy and comfort: Husbands are the safe space, so they get the rawest version.
  • Sometimes the short fuse is due to overwhelm, overstimulation, or feeling safe enough to be vulnerable.
  • Both couples share personal stories; Christian recounts being roasted at dinner and how Sadie's words "hurt more” than others’ because she is “his person.”
• Memorable Quotes:
  • Sadie: “If that person (your spouse) does it, it’s offensive. Everybody else can be laughing, but you’re on my team.” [49:40]
  • Christian: “That person is who you respect, trust, and love most—it means their words carry the most weight.” [44:03]

9. Do Women Want Advice or Just to Be Heard?

[51:47 – 54:16]

• Main Question: When venting, do women want advice or just someone to listen?
• Key Insights:
  • Abby: Historically valued Will's listening, now wants both validation and input.
  • Sadie: Prefers Christian to speak into her ideas, admires when he shares advice, and feels it connects them on a deeper level.
• Memorable Quotes:
  • Abby: "I want validation from you as my authority… I want you to have something to do with what I’m thinking and feeling.” [52:43]
  • Sadie: “When you have advice, it reminds me of why I fell in love with you.” [53:16]

10. Decision Fatigue & Picking a Place to Eat

[55:02 – 56:20]

• Main Question: Do women really want their husbands to pick where to eat?
• Key Insights:
  • Both women expressed that after a day of making decisions, they are eager for someone else to choose dinner plans.
  • There are a few exceptions—e.g., Taco Bell as a no-go.
• Memorable Quotes:
  • Sadie: “Please pick where we’re gonna go eat. I don’t care at all.” [55:14]
  • Abby: “After making all the decisions during the day, I’m just ready for you to pick.” [55:26]

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Notable Quotes & Moments

• Christian (on the I'm fine spectrum): “If I get hit with ‘I’m fine’, it’s like, oh, [bleep].” [09:00]
• Abby (on closet cleaning): “‘In faith’ jeans… like, in faith I’ll fit into them again. But I don’t right now.” [15:25]
• Sadie (on communication): “So much of what I do is communication… I imagine myself saying it and if it doesn't come out naturally, I delete it.” [37:57]
• Christian (on being the safe space): “You are my person—that’s why it hurts.” [48:15]

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Fun/Lighthearted Moments

• Banter over skincare versus “makeup” and what counts for men.
• The “potty talk” segment where couples discuss fairness in being goofy with bodily functions [20:29].
• Pillow-counting contest and jokey "6-7, which means nothing" moment [24:08 – 26:26].
• Abby’s “In Faith jeans” and changing style as a mom [15:13].
• Big TV show rundown, from Survivor to Only Murders in the Building to Reba [29:19 – 31:00].

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Timestamps for Important Segments

• Decoding “I’m Fine” --- [06:20 – 10:00]
• Full Closet Paradox --- [12:42 – 17:31]
• Annoying Habits Confessional --- [17:38 – 22:25]
• Throw Pillow Debate --- [24:08 – 26:26]
• Getting Ready Rituals --- [26:19 – 28:02]
• Most Attractive Qualities --- [31:36 – 33:19]
• Do Women Rehearse Conversations? --- [35:24 – 38:57]
• Short Fuse with Husbands --- [39:43 – 51:31]
• Advice vs. Listening --- [51:47 – 54:16]
• Picking Where to Eat --- [55:02 – 56:20]

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Tone & Overall Feel

The episode is playful, lively, loving, and transparent—marked by quick-witted banter, vulnerable relationship insights, and honest confessions. Sadie’s lighthearted hosting and the natural chemistry among the couples keep the conversation relatable for any listener navigating marriage or relationships.

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Final Thought

The hosts close with plans to swap roles in another episode—“What we’ve always wanted to know about guys”—inviting listeners to submit their questions. The episode is a candid snapshot into real-life marriage communication, quirks, and the beauty of partnership.

To be continued...

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Transcript

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[B]

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[B]

Well. Your skin really does look good.

[D]

Thanks.

[B]

So you're using.

[E]

I use itk. Yeah. I use their exfoliating face wash. Exfoliating toner.

[C]

He's always had really great skin, though.

[E]

Deep moisturizer. I don't get acne.

[C]

Yeah, one by your eye water. Agua.

[D]

Agua.

[B]

I was gonna say. I've actually never seen. You do.

[D]

See, but my skin never done a single thing of skin care.

[B]

But other than lotion and pore strips.

[D]

That's not skin care.

[C]

Yes, it is.

[B]

Poor strips of skincare.

[D]

Yeah, but it's like knockoff cleaning out your pores.

[C]

Yeah, yeah, but it's not.

[D]

But it's not like makeup.

[B]

Well, skincare.

[E]

No, skincare is not makeup.

[D]

90 of skincare is makeup.

[B]

No, it's not.

[D]

Yes, it is.

[B]

It is. Liter, not. Yes, that's crazy to say. No, skincare is not.

[C]

90% of makeup is skin care, but not the other way around.

[D]

If I did whitening strips, is that considered skin care?

[C]

No, no.

[E]

Like on your teeth.

[C]

Oral care. That's like.

[E]

That's care.

[B]

Pore strips are skin care. Skin because you're taking care of your skin.

[D]

Are there some, like, luxurious, like moisture?

[B]

Well, it doesn't matter what dream is. Doesn't mean that it's skincare or not skincare. Like skincare is a wide range. It's like makeup. I could go buy makeup from CVS or Sephora and they're both makeup. So I'm saying it doesn't matter if.

[D]

I just buy like a 50 cent pore strip at Walgreens Skincare.

[C]

Skincare. You're taking care of your skin.

[B]

Skincare isn't just for the bougie things of life.

[E]

Like, I'm not so, like, I'm not putting on makeup.

[B]

Christian thinks Will's doing makeup. No, I use ITK Lash next door.

[D]

Well, if I use, like, a specific tweezer for, like, my eyebrows, is that skincare?

[C]

No, that's hair care.

[B]

No, but skincare is like face wash moisturizer, which is good for guys and girls. Not makeup. Not Bingo by me.

[D]

Okay, this is gonna be a question I'm gonna ask. I'm gonna ask y'.

[B]

All. Okay, let's get to. Let' get to today's episode. Happy Wednesday, Everybody. It is November 19th. It is the day seven years ago Christian told me he loves me. It's a good day to be alive. A. I actually think you told me the 20th, but for some reason in our memory bank, we always say the 19th.

[D]

Let's just because we may got married in 2019.

[B]

Yeah, that's what happens.

[E]

You just kind of, like, see the.

[B]

11 and the 19, and I'm like, that's the day you told me, love me, but it's the 20th. All I have to say, I'm jumping the gun a little bit, and you're dyslexic. I am dyslexic, and that is part of the problem. But it's every time I see 11:19, I'm like, you told me love me. Or we got married. Or neither, actually. Oh, I'm 20 on the 20th in 2019. The 20th. Yeah. It's hard to remember. Everyone okay. All that to say it's a big date. All that to say today's episode is going to be super fun. Let me tell you the title of it, because I like the way that we wrote it. What our husbands wondered, but we're too afraid to ask. This could get juicy. Abby's already made the rules not to roast her. I didn't even try to make that rule because I know that rule would be broken.

[C]

I'm okay as long as I'm not the only one getting roasted. If we're in this together, I'm okay.

[B]

In the hot seat.

[E]

So as long as Christian makes the first blow, then they can start.

[B]

You don't have to wait long. I've already been already roasted. I'm scared to do this, but I'm handing over the host.

[D]

Your dyslexia is not a disability. What did I roast you for then, other than me calling you dyslexic? Well, me disagreeing about Portia being skincare is not a roast. That's just like. That's just subtle banter.

[B]

Do you think he's roasting himself? That's true.

[E]

Witty banter.

[B]

Okay. That's true.

[E]

I love banter.

[B]

Thank you for that word, though. That was very encouraging. So thank you.

[D]

If you're out there listening, and if you have. If you're dyslexic, it is not a disability.

[C]

Amen.

[D]

Thank you. Okay, question number one.

[B]

I know you're actually being serious.

[E]

Hold on.

[D]

I am being serious.

[E]

All right, never mind. Let's get it.

[B]

No.

[D]

What are you going to say?

[E]

No, no, no. I'm. Your voice matters.

[D]

What are you going to say?

[B]

You're so inspiring today.

[E]

I just want to say thank you for having us today. It's very special. And then this is the first time that Abby and I have been on together.

[B]

What? And I didn't even introduce y'.

[C]

All.

[B]

Hold on. Welco the one that's good podcast, Will and Abby. Tik Tok's favorite couple.

[C]

Thank you.

[D]

Hey.

[E]

Happy to be here. Just in the family.

[B]

I really am.

[D]

Yeah. When I looked at the calendar, it said. It said, tiktokers Will and Abby. Oh.

[C]

I was like, wait, no, wait.

[B]

What? He's joking. Last night, he said, I'm so excited for that podcast we have tomorrow interviewing those tiktokers. And I was like, who? And he just was quiet. I was like, oh, Will and Abby. But no, actually, thank you for pointing that out. I didn't even intro because I actually already did a podcast with Abby today, so we've been bantering back and forth, and now we're glad to have you in the hot seat. Not even in the hot. You're hosting this.

[E]

Y' all are in the hot seat today.

[B]

We're in the hot seat. Oh, shoot.

[D]

We have the easy job to ask the question. We have the easy job now, maybe the hard job later when we're having to, like, reconcile what's about to go down. Question number one. This is one for all the men out there wondering about women. What do you really mean when you say I'm fine?

[C]

Depends on the situation.

[B]

Am I saying it like that?

[D]

Most of the time it's used in that context. It's in a. Like a. It's in like a. Yeah, like a.

[B]

Because I think there's two ways I think I could be like. Like, that was like, I'm sad and I'm fine. But then there's another. Was like, I'm fine. That's different.

[D]

Okay.

[C]

If it's like, I'm fine, period.

[E]

It's like, what's. What's going on? Like, you good?

[D]

There's like an I'm fine period. Or, like, I'm fine.

[B]

I think they actually.

[E]

It's like, there's one that's like, oh, my gosh, you okay? You be like, I'm fine. Like, that's like the sad. But then it's like, what. What are we doing? What's going.

[D]

If you're like, ticked off and it's like, I'm fine, I'm fine.

[B]

Yeah, yeah, yeah. There's.

[C]

On how you say it.

[E]

Okay.

[B]

What about you, Abby?

[C]

I'd say there's probably three for me, too. It's either I'm fine, period, I'm fine. Dot, dot, dot. I want you to ask me a little bit more and wait. Yeah. And then I'm fine. Like, wiping my tear away.

[D]

I think I have four.

[B]

You have four?

[D]

Like, yes. But for me, the fourth would be like, I'm fine. Like, question mark. I'm fine.

[B]

Yeah, like, that's true. Like, I'm fine. Why are you asking? That actually happened to me the other day.

[C]

That's a good one. I'll add my four.

[B]

That actually happened to me the other day. A friend was, like, asking me if I was okay because I was so busy, like, getting the house ready when she got there, she's like, are you okay? You seem like you're, like, so busy, like, scattered. And I go, hey, Martha, I'm fine. And. And then I was like, hey, don't. Don't Martha me. You're doing a great job.

[C]

I'm Mary.

[B]

I'm a present. I just have three kids who are being crazy. But that was I'm fine question mark. Because I thought I was like, do I not look fine? But typically, yes, the sad and fine means, like, I'm sad, but I am fine. Like, I'm okay. Like, I don't want to talk about it. I'm fine. But, yes, obviously I'm crying, but I'm fine.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

Then there's like, that. Oh, I'm actually just fine. And normally I would be like, I'm actually just fine. That one comes with an actually. And then there's the I'm fine. Like, I'm actually not fine. I'm very annoyed, but I'm not ready to talk about it.

[C]

Yeah.

[D]

Which is when you're in.

[C]

I want to continue talking about it, but I want you to ask me.

[E]

I don't want to have your I'm fine. Is you playing hard to get? Yeah, like, I. Like, but I'm being.

[C]

I'm being. I don't want to just share everything. I want you to ask me to share what I'm feeling.

[E]

It's just like.

[C]

It's like, I'm fine.

[E]

I'm fine.

[D]

If I get hit with the I'm fine, it's like, oh, bleep. It's like, what did I do? Oh, I'm being like, oh, it's real deeper.

[B]

I was going to say when I. When I hit you with the I'm fine. And, like, it's the right tone. That's like, I am not ready to talk about it.

[D]

So, like, after this podcast, when I say, hey, are you okay? And if you say, I'm fine, I'm like, oh.

[C]

Maybe.

[D]

Maybe I went too far on the. Whoa, that's good.

[B]

Okay. But no, to everyone listening, this is good. This is why we're doing this, because we're trying to help other people work on communication, and we're working on our own communication. And it actually is good to ask your significant other, like, what does I'm fine mean to you? Because to Abby, she said she actually wants you to ask questions. I normally don't want you to ask questions. Like, I'm like, I'm not ready to talk about it.

[D]

Yours is like, get out. Like, get away from me. That's usually.

[B]

So it's good to establish. And I didn't know you were the one that said you had four, and that was good to know. I was like, that's so true.

[D]

I have.

[E]

I have two. I don't say, I'm fine. I say, I'm good.

[C]

Yeah, I'm good.

[E]

You're like, I'm good.

[D]

I'm straight.

[E]

I have two. Like, I'm good means, like, nothing is wrong at all. Like, I'm good. You're chill. Like, you don't have to ask anything. I have no bad feelings right now. The other one, it's.

[B]

It's like, it's loaded.

[E]

Yeah, I'm good. Is like, yeah, I'm frustrated or I'm sad.

[D]

There's actually a fifth one I could add to probably most of y'. All. If, like, I'm fine, then it's like a. It's not even a dot. It's like a comma or it's like a semicolon, you know? Then it's like, actually, you know what? Since you asked, it's.

[E]

It's like, fine. Pause.

[D]

Yeah, it's like a pause.

[B]

But then it's actually. No, I want to be real, actually.

[D]

Yeah.

[B]

Let me tell you, when someone says, how's your day? And you naturally say good, but then sometimes you're like, actually, it's really not good. Can I tell you what happened in my day?

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

That kind of combined.

[C]

Let me share. Yeah.

[B]

Okay.

[D]

Guys, this has been so fun. We had to. We have to move on.

[B]

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[D]

You might really want to ask the second question.

[E]

No, I would love to ask this question.

[D]

You want two?

[C]

Crap.

[E]

I want number two.

[C]

Okay.

[D]

All right. You go for it.

[C]

Oh, crap.

[E]

All right.

[D]

This one's like coming for the jugular.

[C]

I'm too giggly for you.

[D]

Come on, Bobby.

[E]

All right.

[D]

Get him, Bobby.

[E]

So why is it that I know.

[B]

Where this is going?

[E]

The wardrobe. Other known as the closet. The closet I already know that is full of clothes and yet you always have nothing to wear when going out. Why is that?

[B]

That did feel like he went for the jugular. It Was it was punches there with a Yet you answer it first. And then, please, if I need to give some more, you know, bigger picture, best way.

[C]

I feel like I can explain this is sometimes different outfits just don't go together. And when you can't figure out what part of your outfit you want to wear and try to match it with something, it's just overwhelming. And then it's like, okay, well, I just don't have anything to wear.

[B]

That's true. And what I've noticed recently, this. I know Christian's just ready. He's just ready to say something about whatever I might say. But what I've noticed is the things that take up the most space in your closet, which are like sweatshirts and like, more casual stuff that takes up so much space, but that's not what you're actually going to wear when you need to put together an outfit to go somewhere or like, go to a wedding or go. So it's like, oh, I don't have anything to wear. And you're looking at closet that's full, which is confusing. But you're like, 90% of this stuff I couldn't wear for this occasion. And the 10 I could wear for this occasion, I just wore for the last.

[C]

Exactly. That's what I was about to say.

[E]

So it's not the closet that's the issue?

[C]

No. Well, my closet's a little small right now.

[E]

Okay, that's. That's a given. Our closet sucks. It's so small.

[C]

It's like 2 square feet.

[E]

Our closet in Texas was so nice.

[B]

I just did a massive closet clean out, and it did feel really good. And I have to say, less is more, because the past few days, I've had a much easier time picking out outfits now that I went through everything because I, like, now I'm seeing what goes with what and what I actually have, and it's easier to put together outfits.

[E]

I would. I would like to go through, like, my.

[C]

You need to go through.

[E]

I need to go through it. Just. There's a lot of things that I haven't worn since, like, last year. And I'm just like, I think I'm going to wear this.

[C]

Changes. Changes are really hard for me. Like remembering how I put together outfits with a sweater versus just a shirt or like a top.

[B]

And you kind of got to find your new style based off the trends. You're like, okay, yep. How am I going to fit that trend into the wardrobe kind of thing? Well, even I was telling Mary Kate this today, and she thought this was funny. I was telling her how I got rid of so much clothes, and I said, I finally got rid of my In Faith jeans. And then she was like, what are In Faith jeans? I was like, oh, yeah, like jeans. Like, In Faith, I'm going to fit into them again. But I don't right now. I said, I just made that up. But I said it as if it was, like, a thing, because I've always called them my In Faith jeans. And then I was like, I got rid of those because I'm like, I don't need In Faith Jesus. I'm wearing jeans that fit me today, and if you're going to sit in my closet and be the wrong size, you're getting out.

[C]

Yeah, I did that not too long ago. Just like, anything that I want to wear one day, again, I just like, whatever.

[B]

I'm not doing it.

[D]

Well, y' all both do have intimidation. No, y' all both do have great style.

[B]

Thank you. That is so sweet, babe.

[D]

Thank you. Oh, but probably sometimes you have more to wear than you think.

[B]

That's probably true.

[C]

I received that whether we want to wear it or not.

[D]

That's true.

[B]

That's true, too.

[D]

My favorite is, we'll have an event, and Sadie might need to wear a dress for it. I just have nothing to wear. And I'm like, yeah, I'm looking at probably 30 options that you. You could wear just that you don't want to wear.

[B]

I have to say, though, my closet was also full of, like. Like, stuff I wore in pregnancy. I'm still, like, that kind of postpartum, like, different than whenever before I had kids. I feel like I had a lot of stuff in my closet that just didn't fit my body for right now. And that's what I mean. Like, I had to get rid of the stuff that was just sitting there. That's, like, not gonna even fit my style as a mom. Is there stuff? I don't know. I just feel like that's hard. Maybe girls out here are relating to what I'm trying to say, but I don't really know how to say.

[C]

There's, like, really youthful wardrobe pieces, and then there's pieces that are, like, more mom coded almost.

[B]

Yes. And it's not that I always have to be, like, a mom.

[C]

No.

[B]

But I'm also like, I just don't know that that fits me right now. And too practically, like, short Dr. I'm like, I can't wear any short dress, chase kids around, because I'm gonna be a bit nowhere picking them Out. That's just not appropriate. So I'm thinking through logistics. I'm thinking through logistics. Okay, Christian, move on.

[D]

I was saying I wouldn't mind it if you did it.

[B]

Thank you. Okay.

[D]

Okay, Moving on. I'll skip question three for a second.

[B]

For a second.

[D]

It's about us. I just don't feel like it's maybe timely. Yeah, this one's also about us, but in a. In a more deep, manta manner. What is something small? I do that bothers you, but you don't say anything about it?

[B]

Probably say something about it. I think if there's something I haven't told you.

[D]

All right.

[E]

This could shift. I don't want this to be the.

[D]

First place I ever hear it.

[E]

This could really shift the afternoon.

[D]

Because then I might end up saying, I'm fine if I. If you tell me something.

[C]

How do you feel about that?

[D]

What is something small?

[B]

I do something small that you do. This is really small. But it does kind of annoy me is that you have those long eyebrows that you won't let me just, like, cut or tweeze. And then I see you over there trying to pull them out with your fingers, and I'm like, why will you not just let me cut them?

[D]

Because it hurts when you tweezer them out.

[B]

I could just scissors them, scissor them, just trim.

[C]

It takes two seconds.

[D]

I could be better at that.

[B]

That's just a small.

[D]

You can scissor them tonight.

[B]

Another small thing.

[E]

I cut them with his scissors.

[C]

You can trim them tonight.

[E]

You can trim them with the scissors.

[C]

That language there.

[D]

Cut them with scissors tonight.

[C]

Trim.

[B]

You can trim them tonight. That's just a very small thing.

[D]

If that's a. If that's. I will take that. Abby, what about your.

[B]

Man?

[C]

You make me want to go smaller than where I was going.

[B]

See, what you're going to say is.

[E]

Really going to shift.

[C]

No, I was thinking about this morning. Will's like. Like trying to nonchalantly look in the window at the coffee shop, and I was like, will, you are not casual right now.

[E]

So I was, like, bothered you.

[C]

Yeah. Sometimes you think that you, like, really are, like, not looking a certain way, but you are. I'm like, babe, that is funny.

[B]

That's like a girl to guy thing. It's like you're noticing the way that.

[C]

Oh, this. You're being really, literally.

[E]

You know what I was doing? I was just watching the guy.

[C]

I know.

[E]

Caramel drizzle on the coffee. I just wanted to see it.

[B]

He just went back.

[E]

And I Was literally like.

[C]

You. You were trying to be nonchalant.

[D]

You know something funny. This is maybe something small. I do. That bothers you. But the small thing is actually, it's. It's big. Yesterday on the Understanding podcast, we were talking about the poop story stuff, and I made the joke about. Yeah, like, sometimes when I forget to flush the toilet and make Sadie mad, they're like, you forget to flush the toilet? I'm like, you've never, like, accidentally forgotten to flush? They're like, no. I don't think I've ever not flushed. And I'm like, if I get distracted, and I'm like, you know, I just forget to flush. And then you always are like, ooh, look who forgot to flush.

[B]

Yeah, I know. Okay, well, on that note, do you know what really does annoy me? And this is potty talk. This needs to be said. You literally. I'm gonna say toot all the time. Like, unashamedly. You squat.

[D]

You have been ripping them lately. What are you. You're coming at me. You've been so gassy.

[B]

No, this is what I'm saying. It doesn't annoy me that you do. It annoys me that when I do, it's like br. And I'm like, the amount of. You've done it three times. Say I do one time, bro. That's what. That's what we do.

[E]

Because, like, it's different. They're very.

[C]

All the time.

[E]

It's just like bait. Like. Like it.

[C]

But I love one. But, like, you're like.

[E]

But hers.

[B]

Exactly.

[E]

She lets one out.

[C]

That if it's revolutionary to him.

[D]

So the small thing that bothers you.

[B]

Is not that you have gas. I do. No, that's what I'm saying. I don't mind that you have gas. I don't mind that you do something funny about it. I mind that when I just casually do.

[C]

It's like, just trying to.

[B]

What?

[D]

Next time you just rip it. I'll just, like, give you a head nod.

[E]

Yeah, that's what's up.

[D]

I'll just be like, yo.

[C]

All right, maybe that.

[B]

No, you're like, baby, you can't even.

[D]

I'll dap you up.

[B]

It's the look of disgust that I.

[D]

Get the look of disgust.

[B]

It's the.

[D]

I think it's cute, but it is also like a. Bro, what you doing.

[E]

Bro, what you doing?

[C]

Next time, just be like, give me some.

[D]

I'll jap you up next time.

[B]

Now I wear mascara today.

[D]

Then I'll give you a kiss.

[B]

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[D]

This one might be out there for someone listening, but Will can ask it. I don't really have any kind of preference on this, but y' all might.

[E]

What's the. What's the correct number of throw pillows on a bed? And why is it never 06, 7?

[B]

That's the first time I've ever done it. Sorry, I had to.

[D]

You don't even own six or seven. Throw up the list.

[E]

Thanks for having us.

[C]

We forgive you.

[D]

Which, technically, that means nothing. So you're saying zero.

[B]

Oh, that was a two bubble.

[C]

That was so two.

[D]

It's true. Technically, six, seven means nothing.

[B]

I've literally never seen that in my life.

[E]

Can I say. Can I say that 6, 7 is not funny to me at all?

[B]

Like, I got that.

[C]

That was funny.

[E]

Like, you did that. And I was like.

[B]

I felt it. That was kind of like the look Christian gives me when I fart.

[D]

Nice.

[E]

No.

[D]

And if that's the look I gave you, then I need to work on that, because that is hurtful.

[B]

I'm just kidding. There are quite a number of pillows on the bed.

[D]

You are. I'm not a fart shame.

[E]

It's funny because like. Like, people will just. And I'm like, okay, back to the pillows.

[C]

I think we found an even balance of. We have.

[E]

How many do we have? We have five.

[C]

We have five.

[E]

We have five.

[C]

Two big ones, like, at all times.

[D]

Yeah, two big ones, two small.

[C]

And then one lumbar.

[D]

Lumbar.

[E]

That's what.

[D]

It's just like, the long, fancy choice of words.

[C]

It's. Yeah, it's like a long one.

[B]

I'm not very detailed in my life.

[D]

I could.

[B]

I don't even know how many pillows.

[C]

Do y' all make your bed every day?

[D]

No, we have. We have two pillows that are on our bed. They're actually actual pillows.

[C]

That's the ones you lay your hands on. If we count our head pillows, that's.

[E]

Nine pillows on our bed. We have two king size pillows. We have two king size pillows that we sleep on. And then we have. Yeah, two pillows. Two regular size lumbar. We take the five off, and then we just have two pillows on the bed at night.

[B]

In my mind, I really want to be someone who makes a bed every day, but I've, like. Like, I've, like, told myself to do it a lot of times in my life and listen to inspiring motivational things about doing it, and I still hasn't caught.

[D]

Okay, moving on. This kind of. I'm gonna jump to number 10 here. What are you really doing when you say you're getting ready? Getting ready in quotes.

[C]

Getting ready.

[D]

Like.

[B]

Like, I really am getting ready. And I'm probably listening to an audiobook.

[D]

Or a podcast, not doing scrolling ever.

[B]

I. I listen. That's like my. That is my time to listen to books or sermons.

[C]

When I. Okay, when I get up, I just start getting ready. And I don't really get on my phone or sometimes I don't even talk until I'm, like, done getting ready.

[D]

Yeah.

[C]

And that's it. She won't. I don't like my getting ready time is my getting ready time.

[E]

Like, it's like, if I'm still in bed, you're just like, hey, time to get up.

[C]

Yeah. And then, like, the only thing that I would say is, like, not part of like, actually getting ready would be me just, like, talking to Ollie or, like, petting Ollie or something, or taking her outside.

[B]

That's inspiring. I'm very, like, ADD kind of. So I can't just, like, do one task at a time. I have to, like, I'll start my makeup. I'll, like, get up. Then I'll go, like, get dressed, and I'll do my hair. Then I'll go brush my teeth.

[C]

I'm like. I'm, like, opening the window shades while I'm brushing my teeth.

[B]

I like to kind of move around, do that kind of stuff.

[C]

Yeah.

[D]

And, like, blow through the air. You're, like, moving with the leg. Yeah.

[C]

Yeah. My arm stretches over to the window.

[E]

What is that?

[D]

Well, see about you, like, moving your window change, like, with your leg while you're brushing your teeth and then blowing your hair with.

[C]

No, I'm brushing my teeth, and I'm doing the same thing at the same time. My legs just.

[B]

I should really. I can't wait. We need to do a podcast for a week, ask the questions to y'.

[C]

All.

[D]

Let's do part two. See which one.

[B]

We already do part two. Because I'm very curious what you're doing.

[E]

Let's do it.

[D]

Make it a competition.

[E]

Can we wait?

[D]

I'm fine.

[E]

I'm fine.

[C]

Fine. Was that your. I'm fine.

[D]

We can ask number eight. Let's just. Let's throw a little curveball.

[B]

I'm so curious what number three was.

[D]

I'll go back to number three.

[C]

Yeah.

[E]

Yeah, you can ask number three.

[D]

All right.

[E]

Number eight. What part of our life is really fun right now?

[C]

You. You have an answer quick. I don't have an answer quick.

[B]

Besides everything, we've had a lot of fun lately. What I'm. This is sometimes chaotic. But what is really fun to me is when bedtime, when me and you are laying down with Honey and Haven and reading books and making up stories and all that kind of stuff. That is very fun. And I like, no, it's not going to last forever. So I feel like. Like bottling it up whenever we have those fun storytelling times.

[D]

It is chaotic, though.

[B]

It is. But it's also, like, this is really fun. And this stage is, like, gonna go by way faster than I wanted to.

[D]

Yeah.

[C]

I feel like I'm in the same. Like, I just want. I know it's not forever. I want to just soak up the time just between us. But I don't feel like one certain part of our day is, like, the most.

[E]

Yeah, we don't really have much fun during the day.

[B]

How about.

[C]

Yes.

[B]

Lego night nights.

[C]

Oh, that is really fun.

[E]

It's our Monday night.

[B]

Monday. Tick Tock. Live Legos.

[C]

Yeah, those are fun.

[D]

That is fun.

[C]

But we, like, watch a lot of TV together and, like, y' all watch.

[B]

A lot of shows. Name all y' all shows y' all watch.

[C]

I just started Golden Bath.

[E]

We're watching right now. But Survivor, Amazing Race, Special Forces, Kardashians. Kardashians. What's the wait, Kardashians?

[D]

Or Keeping up with the Kardashians?

[C]

No, no, Kardashians. We did watch Keeping up, but.

[D]

But you've caught up.

[E]

Nobody. We're about to start. Nobody wants this. Dancing with the Stars.

[B]

Nobody wants this. It's a show.

[E]

Yeah, it's with Kristen Bell. It's actually very funny. Dancing with the Stars.

[B]

Big Brother.

[E]

We did watch Big Brother ended already.

[D]

What?

[C]

But that was.

[B]

These are all current.

[E]

These are current. These are current airing TV shows.

[D]

We're only watching House of David right now.

[C]

Well, only Murders in the building just finished.

[E]

Only Murders in the building just finished.

[C]

You need to watch.

[E]

I want to watch House of David.

[C]

We just watched all the Chosen.

[D]

No, season two just came out.

[C]

We watched the Chosen all the way through.

[E]

I'm watching One Punch, man.

[C]

This is. I don't know. We watch a lot of that is commitment.

[E]

Yeah, we just finished. Well, she just finished Love Is Blind. Terrible season. Absolute. It was a. It's a nightmare. Oh, no, I didn't watch all of it, but I knew enough.

[C]

And there the list goes on.

[B]

That is crazy. You know what was fun? That I always kind of trailed off.

[C]

Off.

[B]

We were watching Reba, and then Reba is now going off Netflix.

[C]

No.

[B]

That'S very sad.

[E]

Oh, by the way, Fantastic Four just got on Disney plus.

[D]

Shut the Front door.

[E]

Wait, did you finish Thunderbolt?

[C]

Everybody wants us to start a podcast. I'm like, guys, there's really no, like, there's no. Everybody has a podcast in the family. I was like, there's no room for us. And then people were like, well, people are like, what if y' all get on and just talk about, like, TV shows and movies and, like, Legos and, like, just random.

[E]

It's like a pop culture.

[C]

I was like, yeah, that may be fun.

[D]

You could do.

[B]

You could listen to that.

[D]

You could do, like, all the Easter eggs.

[B]

Don't know what's happening ever.

[E]

Like, our own version of new rock stars.

[C]

Yeah, you could.

[D]

All right, number three, we're circling back to it.

[B]

Am I ready for number three? Let me take one more sip of my chai that tastes like a candy.

[D]

Just look directly at me when I'm asking you.

[C]

Like a candle.

[D]

What is the most attractive thing about me?

[B]

Are you serious?

[E]

And is it still the same from when we first met?

[C]

That.

[B]

Oh, that's interesting.

[E]

Let's take a breather on that one.

[C]

Let's.

[E]

Let's see.

[C]

The most attractive thing about you right now. Was that the first part.

[E]

I mean, and. And is it still the same? Oh, like, there could be something else.

[C]

Okay.

[E]

If it. If it.

[C]

I think one of the best things sl. Most attractive things about you is how you, like, love people and how everybody is, like, drawn to you because you're just such, like, a lovable, light person. And that stayed the same, like, man.

[E]

I thought you're gonna say, like, my eyes.

[B]

I'm so glad you went first. All right. Because I would feel like.

[C]

I also love your physical appearance. That helps.

[B]

That was. That was actually really sweet.

[C]

Thanks.

[B]

I love that.

[D]

Just one baby.

[E]

Okay, well, is that the same as when you met me?

[C]

What? Physical attraction?

[E]

No.

[C]

What?

[E]

Like, is that the same thing being drawn to you?

[C]

Yes.

[E]

Okay.

[C]

Yeah. You've always been that way.

[B]

Hey, I'll just go with the first thing that came to head before I was swayed by her answer. That was really beautiful. One of the things that I think is the most attractive thing about you that I originally was very attracted to and still am is how athletic you are. That was very attractive to me because that is how we really, like when.

[D]

We did, we bonded.

[B]

We were dating. We bonded so much over playing tennis, playing basketball. We threw the football all the time because we both like stuff like that. So I feel like that was, like, a very bonding thing in our relationship and still is.

[D]

It's so true. Well, that was number three. That was the.

[E]

That was. That was.

[D]

That was the.

[B]

I love how you held out. Crazy.

[D]

Well, because it was after. I just felt like we needed to kind of do some other things before I went there.

[B]

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[D]

Number 12. Okay, this one's good. You got it. Bobby.

[E]

Do you ever rehearse what you're going to say before bringing something up? Because women always know what to say.

[B]

Oh, yeah.

[E]

Do you want me to ask?

[B]

I rehearse in my mind what I was saying.

[E]

Because you didn't really get it, so I was asking.

[C]

No, I got. Okay, I was just. All right, my bad.

[D]

She was just rehearsing.

[C]

I was rehearsing my head.

[D]

My phone was rehearsing.

[B]

That's actually funny. You probably were.

[C]

I was just, like, figuring out what I was going to say. But I feel like sometimes men. I'm not saying all men do this, but sometimes men start their sentence not knowing how the end is going to come out to be. And I just. I feel like. I feel like I think of the whole sentence before I say it. You know what I mean?

[B]

Yeah, I think that's true. I don't know.

[C]

In that sense, I guess I kind of rehearse it, but I. I don't.

[E]

Feel like it's a. I can agree to that.

[C]

Like, I don't look at myself in the mirror and say, I'm gonna say this, this, and this.

[B]

You know, I have done that before, though.

[C]

Okay. Different people.

[E]

I can agree. I mean, it's. This is like, I'm not trying to say that, like, you dig on me all the time about this, but, like, sometimes you're just like. Like, think. Just think before you say it.

[B]

Yeah, that's fair.

[E]

It's fair. It's very fair. In my hindsight, most of the time I'm like, wow. Yeah, I. Sometimes I just get.

[C]

Yeah, sometimes I stop you and say, just. Just rehear that sentence and then reformat it and then tell me it again and it'll sound better.

[B]

Yeah, you get mad whenever I say, like, you could have said it like this. You're always like, well, yeah, I could have, but. But I didn't think to say it like that in the moment. But I think that's because typically we do, and sometimes to a fault, overthink what we're gonna say. So there is a lot of thought that goes into what we say, even though it doesn't always come out great. And not always, obviously. Everybody says things that are like, oh, I shouldn't have said it like that, even if I did think it out, or whatever. But sometimes guys will just say something and then it's like, oh, yeah, maybe I should have thought about that. And girls do that too. But I do think we tend to overthink, which can be a problem in of itself, but for me, like, with even what I do, because so much of what I do is communication. Podcasting, book writing, speaking is all communication. And whenever I'm going to give a message on stage, like, one of the things that helps me prepare is to rehearse in my mind how I'm going to say it.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

And even when I'm typing out my message and working on it in the room, like, I. I imagine myself saying it, and if I can't imagine myself saying it and it doesn't come out naturally or right, then I delete it. I'm like, then I'm not gonna say. It has to come out naturally authentically. So I say it to say, since I already kind of programmed my brain to do that, it's easy for me to accidentally slip into that and just my normal day life, too. Like, rehearse what I'm gonna say before a conversation.

[D]

I mean, you don't ever, like, like, go look at yourself in the mirror and be like, so what I really mean.

[B]

Are you rapping?

[D]

No, I was meaning, like, do you, like, look at, like, like inflections and like, facial you know, kind of thing.

[B]

Well, the problem is because sometimes I rehearse, like, moments of a message. I'm saying, like, I have found myself rehearsing even conversations I'm gonna have that day with somebody. Like, if it's a big conversation I'm gonna have. I have. I have found myself doing that in front of a mirror. I'll be honest.

[D]

There you go. That. That was. And that is vulnerable if you say that.

[C]

I also think, like, I'll be thinking about conversations that I may have, and I feel like that is, like, me. Me asking the Lord into those conversations. Like, I don't.

[B]

Yeah, you're really. You're trying to be intentional about it and being like, okay, God, help me, me with the right words to say.

[C]

And just, like, open up the door to these conversations that I want to totally, like, had.

[B]

Yeah, I get that.

[D]

Well, if y' all think it's been hot, it's about to get hotter. Okay, we're moving into a section called deeper Questions.

[B]

Oh, my gosh.

[D]

I'm gonna jump to number seven. I'm just gonna be honest with you. This. This is the only question of all the ones I. With a preface.

[C]

Hold on.

[D]

Oh, are you pumping the brakes real quick?

[E]

Wait, hold on. Give me a second.

[D]

Are you pumping the brakes? I was just doing a California roll.

[E]

All right, go. Go for it.

[B]

I was just going California roll. I've never heard you say that.

[D]

California Stop. You know, it's like, you don't come to a complete stop.

[B]

Whoa. Is that why the sushi's called California roll.

[D]

Baby? Don't overthink this, baby.

[B]

I'm sorry. I never heard that before. Okay.

[D]

I think it's called a California Stop. I might have just made up California roll.

[E]

I was about to ask, why is a California roll called a cocktail?

[C]

Okay, let's ask number seven deeper questions.

[D]

This is on with a preface, so get ready. If you're listening, buckle up. This is bold, but if you want to go there, I think it's something that can help. That can every. Sorry.

[B]

Is this the preface?

[D]

Yes.

[C]

Okay.

[D]

This is bold, but if you want to go there, I think it's something every couple can relate to. How can a woman hold it together for everyone else but have such a short fuse with her husband?

[C]

Oh, snap.

[E]

Were we supposed to. Were you supposed to say the preface out loud?

[D]

100%.

[B]

I don't think you're.

[D]

I was definitely supposed to say the preface.

[C]

Okay.

[B]

Oh, my gosh. I'm crying because that. That is a good question.

[D]

It is a Good question.

[B]

I wish I wasn't laughing so hard right now. Now, to answer this, because that is a really question. How can a woman hold all these, hold all these things together but have a short fuse for their husband?

[D]

Yes.

[C]

Short answer. I feel like it's because you're my. My inner circle. Like.

[E]

Like I'm your person.

[C]

Yeah. And I want to be able to come to you with things. I don't think it's like a short fuse issue, but it's just like you're my direct.

[B]

Like, you feel most comfortable.

[C]

Yeah, Yeah.

[B]

I don't. I mean. And you can tell me if I'm wrong. I don't really feel like you get the short fuse with me. If, like, when I think about who gets the short fuse, it's Cabo, our dog. Because, like, I just have little. Like, if Cabo gets on the table, eat something, all this stuff, like, I'm like, God, blow. It makes me so annoyed because I'm like, man, I'm trying to hold it together for all the kids, get all their stuff and all the different things in life. And then when Cabo, like, eats the food or knocks it, it's like the thing that, like, makes me, like, mad where. Not that I'm mean to Cabo. I'm not mean to Cabo, but I'm like, definitely more, like, annoyed about it.

[C]

But with you, you don't think as much like, before you.

[B]

Yeah, I just seem like Cabo, and I've noticed I need to be careful about that because, like, honey gets so mad at Cabo and I know it's because she sees me again. I'm not, like, mean to our dog. I love our dog so much. But when I think about short fuse, I think it's like the one thing that tips it over the edge when you're, like, trying to hold things together. But I think for me and you in our relationship, sometimes I can get snappy in the midst of, like, when I'm really busy. Like, for instance, one thing for me right now, this is kind of funny. This is very niche to our situation. Like being postpartum when I'm pumping and trying to do a million things. Like, I've noticed I'm like, short fused because, like, my body's trying to do something, I'm picking up something, I'm helping the girls, and then I'll like, snap at you. And then I'm. Normally I try to. I'm like, sorry, it's not you. Like, I'm really stressed right now. Or like, sorry, I'll like tell you I'm pumping, I'm open, overwhelmed. I'm like over stimulated. Like so much is happening. So I feel like. And maybe I wasn't as good about that earlier on. Now I try to just communicate with you why I was short or why I snap or why I was like a little bit on edge. And normally it has nothing to do with you. It's like I feel overwhelmed. And when you asked me that, I just wasn't graceful.

[D]

That was a very sweet, intimate moment. I'm being serious. No, that was.

[B]

Was.

[D]

We had a connection there. That was good.

[B]

That's good for letting us know that.

[C]

Just how fast you turn to another question.

[D]

The problem is I've been rehearsing what I'm going to say.

[C]

Right, right, right.

[D]

Back to number 12 on the not deeper questions.

[C]

Gotcha.

[D]

But no, that was actually really.

[E]

That was really to add on to that or.

[C]

No, no, I think you covered it pretty well.

[D]

Yeah, well, cuz I. What I was going to say, I was going to have another vulnerable moment.

[E]

Vulnerable.

[D]

Vulnerable.

[B]

We saw this show one time and the guy said vulnerable the whole time. And that's why Christian says that it.

[D]

Was a really funny thing.

[B]

Vulnerable.

[D]

No, but what I was gonna say was I think most of the time it comes down to kind of what you said, Abby. It's like when it's your person, that's the person that you respect the most, trust the most, love the most. And it's. So my point is there's someone else can say something to you and it doesn't bother you, but if the person that you respect the most love the most.

[C]

Okay.

[B]

We had this moment recently.

[D]

Yes, we did. Do you want to share when you call me the. I can't. I cannot say that.

[B]

No. What?

[C]

Oh.

[B]

No, I'm talking about dinner with everybody.

[D]

Yeah. Yeah.

[B]

Like, yeah, I think that's good to share. This is. This is the reason why there was a preface is because, hey, this is gonna help a lot of people. If you don't want to share, it's okay.

[D]

No, I want to share.

[B]

But like, John Reed and Jacob were roasting you for a solid hour and a half.

[D]

Okay. Yes. So when we were in New York, I was just getting flame named at this restaurant.

[B]

But you were also joking back to them.

[E]

Was this the one that we weren't at? We went to go to when we.

[D]

Saw mj not to make you feel like a hot dog, not corn dog at a hot dog at a hot dog party.

[E]

And it ain't flattering, but it's not flattering.

[B]

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[D]

We're at a restaurant in New York, and John Reed and Jacob had, like, two Guinness beers. I tried a sip and I was like, blah, that's gross. And then I was, like, getting roasted for that, which is whatever. But then the guy came to order our food. And my past few steaks that I've eaten have just been, like, not good. They've been too bloody. I just.

[B]

It was like, this is all the details of this.

[D]

I'm giving the details. Okay, so. And I was like, you know what? I'm gonna kind of whisper to the waiter, like, hey, I want a medium well steak. You know, like, you know, just.

[B]

Are you ashamed of. Because everybody made so much fun of him.

[D]

So then I tell the waiter.

[B]

The waiter, like, made sure he said it right. He was like, medium well. And then Christian was like, yes.

[D]

And then John, no, no, hold on. No, hold on. That's not what happened. Because I usually get medium or medium rare, but the last few times, it's been way too rare. So I was like, medium well. Then it might end up being what I actually want besides the point. So the guy goes to order for Jacob, and Jacob says, medium rare. But the guy said. The guy said, wait, did you say medium well? And Jacob said, who in the world orders a medium well steak? And then the waiter pointed at me. And then Jacob just started slamming me, like, just roasting me for the next 30 minutes. Then John Reed jumped on, and I'm like, I always say, you know, you can roast me, and I'll be. I'll banter back. But after about an hour, I just like. After an hour, I'm like, okay, this crap's gotta stop. You know, so this is all happening. And then Sadie makes some kind of.

[B]

No. All I said was, no, no.

[D]

You made some kind of, like, sarcastic comment. And I jokingly said, said, oh, what, are you turning on me now, too? And then you said, well, you're kind of, like, walking into it. And then that Comment made me snap because I was like, wait, okay.

[B]

From Christian's perspective, that's what I sounded like. From my perspective, I said, we kind of walk into it laughing. Because I said, you drink.

[C]

You.

[B]

You tried a sip of their beer and you were joking and you said, oh, this is disgusting. You. You did it as a joke. You're like. Like you did a.

[D]

You just look like a. Like a baby sheep.

[B]

Because to be honest, to be honest, I thought the whole night you were being so funny. Like, I really was. I was laughing with you and at you, and then when you did the medium well thing, it was just funny. And then he was like, and give me some ketchup too. Like, we were all having fun.

[D]

I hear you walking into.

[B]

I was like, oh, you're walking.

[D]

I was like, raising my glass with a fork.

[C]

Like, welcome situator.

[D]

I want a medium well steak. Like, that's my idea of walking into it.

[B]

When I said, you're walking into it, Christian got upset with me. This is where I was getting to with the short fuse. And I was like, are you kidding me? I said this in front of everybody. I was like, are you kidding me? Everyone else has been roasting you for an hour. And all I said was, you're walking into it. And that was deeply hurtful to him. And then he said, because you are my person. This is sad. I'm not crying.

[D]

I'm fine. It's just that I'm fine.

[B]

I've actually been crying, laughing, and now my tears are like, close to the end. You.

[E]

No, that's so bad.

[B]

Cuz I was like, I'm sorry. I don't want. I didn't mean to upset you. I was surprised that that did upset you. In no way did I think when I said, you're walking into it, was it going to be offensive. I was actually thinking you were being funny all night and I was laughing with you and everybody and how you were. We had actually even just talked about how, like, oh, no one can take it. Like, Christian, like, you were laughing at yourself. You were laughing at everybody. Everybody. But to the point of this question, that's why people struggle with this is because there is a shorter fuse. And it's not because it's like a fuse. It's that that person really means a lot. So their words hold a lot of value. So if that person does it, it's offensive. Everybody else can be laughing, but you're on my team. Like, you're on my side. So when it feels like they're not, then it hurts.

[C]

We talk about this.

[E]

We talk about this a lot, especially with my family. With her family, it mainly is like, whenever we're hanging out, we're playing games, whatever. So, I mean, she grew up with. I mean, she had her dad and then she had a younger brother, and so they. They were always like the tag team on Abby. It's so in a setting when we're all together and they're ganging up on her, I. You jump in the game, I jump in. I mean, I think it's funny, but then that. That automatically plays into. She values what I'm saying to her.

[C]

It hurts. For me, it's one thing if they.

[B]

Say it, it's funny, but when you say it, it's hurt.

[E]

Absolutely. So, like, it's. It's better for me to not say anything at all and just, like, kind of smile at that, because if she sees that, like, she knows that I think that's funny. But I'm never going to take that dig at her because it's just. It's just gonna hurt her feelings.

[B]

And I think that that is, like, so real for so many couples. So I'm glad we got to this point. In my, like, situation with being overstimulated or doing so much for me, I feel like the thing that I get short with, I'm like, you know, all that I have on my plate, you know? So, like, can you give me that grace? Like, I don't want you to. Like, if you add one more thing, I'm like, but you know how much I have going on. But I need to have more capacity as well to be present in our relationship despite all that I have going on. So it goes like, I got to take it for my side. But that's the thing that makes me more. I'm like, you know, But I think ultimately it comes down to, you know each other the best, you love each other the most, so you're most sensitive to what that person says or does.

[D]

Yeah, that's good.

[B]

That was a good question.

[D]

That was a really good question. And I also feel like that's maybe the best way to end it. There's two other questions I think we.

[E]

Could ask the other two, but.

[D]

Okay. But that was.

[E]

I mean, it doesn't matter.

[B]

Ask him.

[E]

Okay, let's do it.

[D]

You got it, Bobby.

[B]

Last two questions.

[C]

Last two.

[D]

Rapid fire.

[B]

Make it count.

[E]

Do women actually want advice? When you've. When. When they venture. Do women actually want advice or just someone to listen?

[C]

I've actually been thinking about this lately. I am an external Processor And I like to just talk to you about everything. We were just talking about this last night.

[E]

Actually, we were talking about this last night because in times past, she. I have always been a really good listener with you. That's something that you have valued.

[C]

But I do want to.

[E]

As our marriage grows, you're you. You always love somebody to talk to. I'm always just the listener. So, like, she's now looking for someone looking at. For me to respond and validate what she's saying whenever. I've always just been a listener. So that's something that we're. That I'm learning and growing into and growing into.

[C]

But what I was going to say is I want validation from you as my authority. Like. Like.

[E]

Right.

[C]

Like I'm submitted to you. So I want. I want you to have something to do with, like, what I'm thinking and feeling. You know what I mean? Yeah.

[B]

Yeah.

[E]

I was just want to be in on it too.

[B]

I love that. I think for me, because I do so much communication. I want you to speak into it. Like, and that's the thing. When I think back to the first time I ever had a conversation with.

[C]

You on the first.

[B]

The phone when I was like, whoa, I'm really interested in you, like, as a person. And also to date you is because you talked so much in, like, the best way. Like, you had so much to share. You had so many things. Like, if I brought up a topic, you had so much to say about it. You. You were like, did you read this book? Have you watched that sermon? Do you know Ben Stewart? Like, you were like, connecting all these dots and speaking into what I was saying. And that's when I knew. I was like, you can lead me. Like, I knew you could lead me. And I knew that I wanted to learn from you in those ways and, like, connect with you in those ways. And I still feel that way. Like, whenever I come to you and say something and then you have advice, it literally reminds me of, like, why I fell in love with you, how felt. Because I think about that first phone call. So I do. Like when you speak into it. But listening, there's so much comfort in, like, being able to just sit there and know that you're listening and that you hear it and that you are hearing the part no one else is hearing, hearing. And then I love whenever you come back with some good advice.

[D]

That's really sweet.

[E]

Thank you. I think it's cool, like, how certain how. How marriages can evolve that way from just being the listener to actually adding Value to the conversation by, like, keeping it going and being like, oh, yeah. And then this, this, and this. And, you know, that's like, yeah, that's.

[C]

Also where we find, like, okay, this is what the Lord's stirring in me.

[D]

Me.

[C]

Oh, wait, he's actually stirring that in me too, just in a kind of different way. And it just brings us closer and closer to him, so I love that.

[D]

Cool. So then the next question that I circled it honestly, y' all kind of just answered it with the. With. With that last one. The question was, when you're upset, what is the best way for me to respond? But we kind of just talked about that with listening and sharing advice. So I kind of want to end with a fun one. Is that okay?

[B]

Let's do it.

[C]

Yeah.

[D]

Listening out there. Is that okay if I end with a fun one?

[B]

Yeah, you did a great job hosting balance.

[D]

Okay. This is actually really, really fun one. Do you actually want me to pick where we go out to eat, or is this a trap?

[B]

Yes, I actually want you to pick. By the end of the day, after all the decisions, I'm like, please pick where we're gonna go eat. I don't care at all.

[D]

I was, like, very decisive on where we go.

[B]

It's a joke.

[C]

I'm on the same page. I feel like I make all or a lot of the decisions during the day, and I'm just ready to, like.

[E]

Because you have. You make a plan. You make a plan for the day. Hey, we're gonna start off. We're gonna go get coffee.

[C]

Coffee.

[E]

Then we're gonna go drop off some packages. Then we're gonna go to Walmart. Yeah, we're gonna go to Target, Old Navy, whatever. And then by the end of the day, you're pooped, and you're just, hey, yeah, where are we going to eat?

[C]

I don't really care what happens next.

[B]

I feel that way. I'm always like, anywhere. I. I don't care where. And I'm not gonna argue back. Like, I'm just gonna be like, yep, let's do it. Because it helps whenever you decide that. Are you inspired?

[D]

I am inspired.

[C]

I do want to say, I will fight back if you say talk Taco Bell, dude.

[B]

No, there's a line.

[E]

There's a line.

[D]

Oh, I. I could say something tonight.

[B]

And you'd be like, no, No, I wouldn't.

[D]

100. You would.

[B]

No, I'm telling you.

[C]

It kind of also depends.

[B]

I really do love when you pick.

[E]

This is making me think about, let's.

[D]

Go, let's go to Ross tonight.

[B]

Great. And just like that friends and we're going to dinner and just like that. No. Okay. We're doing this again. Part 2. Let us know the questions in the comments. Comments because we'll do roles reversed. What have you guys no. What have we Always want to know about guys.

[E]

Episode may take a while. It may be. It may be a bit of a longer episode.

[D]

This next episode may go so viral. It's just like insanity.

[E]

We made it a part two and three. We need. We need. We'll need a part two to the.

[D]

I think y' all are going to ask so many questions. There be like a part five. Just like okay, we get it.

[E]

There's a lot of questions y' all.

[D]

Want to know about us.

[C]

Well, I need help.

[B]

To be continued. To be continued. Everybody go out and be the light of the world.