What We're Learning in Marriage: An Honest Q&A | Sadie Robertson Huff & Christian Huff

Summary

WHOA That’s Good Podcast Episode Summary

Episode: What We're Learning in Marriage: An Honest Q&A

Hosts: Sadie Robertson Huff & Christian Huff
Date: November 5, 2025

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Overview

In this candid and lighthearted episode, Sadie and Christian Huff sit down together for a long-awaited Q&A—tackling questions from listeners about marriage, parenting, faith, dating, and communication. With their trademark humor and authenticity, the Huffs share stories from their home, lessons they’re learning in real-time, and honest advice for navigating both the joys and challenges of life together. This episode offers a window into the daily realities behind their marriage and parenting journey, as well as sincere wisdom for couples at every stage.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Fun Q&A & Family Stories (Starts ~[01:26])

• Favorite Things About Each Other:

  • Christian admires Sadie’s fun and companionship:

    "You are always my go to…who would I hang out with? You're always the first one." ([02:20] Christian)

  • Sadie appreciates Christian’s openness to advice:

    “You are so open to people speaking into your life…you do that very well.” ([02:41] Sadie)

• Funny Recent Story – Bedtime Routine & Language Development:
  Sadie shares a new nighttime routine where she tells their daughters about her day, inspired by research that connects such conversations with advanced vocabulary skills. The immediate impact? Her daughters began praying about their mother's day:

  “She actually said, ‘Thank you, God, that mommy got to go to work today.’…which is so cool at 2 and 4.” ([05:07] Sadie)

  • Honey, their daughter, amusingly prayed for “Kay Mama being in Salatoria” instead of Scotland ([06:53]).

• Sports Talk & Marriage Humor:
  Christian declares loyalty to Auburn football:

  “Being an Auburn football fan is literally one of the hardest things to do and still be faithful to it.” ([07:34] Christian)
  Sadie jokes about her limited knowledge of professional athletes.

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2. Real-Time Lessons in Parenting (Starts ~[12:30])

• Parenting Challenges and Growth:
  Christian reflects on the difficulties of disciplining their strong-willed daughter, Honey:

  "The discipline with Honey is hard because she's very strong and very stubborn…she gets that from one of us or maybe two of us." ([13:03] Christian)

  • Discussion about being patient and firm, rather than reacting with anger:

    "With toddlers, they can't control their emotions; we have to learn to control ours." ([18:57] Sadie)

  • Recurring theme: balancing firmness and calm, not giving in to every request but showing patience.

• Seeking Wisdom from Scripture:
  Sadie describes turning to the book of Proverbs during a season of personal struggle, emphasizing humility and the value of taking instruction:

  “Have humility and learn in the mess, in the hard things. And then eventually, one day, maybe you will be at that place of honor…” ([21:01] Sadie)

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3. Faith & Family Practices (Starts ~[25:29])

• Teaching Scripture to Young Children:
  Sadie and Christian recount introducing Psalms 23 at breakfast and how it sparked growth not only for their kids but for themselves:

  “I need to be content with what I have. Which led to a great conversation for us with Hun (‘Honey’)…” ([27:01] Sadie)

  • Importance of starting young:

    "You're never, they're never too young to connect them to their creator." ([29:00] Sadie)

• Explaining Santa Claus in a Faithful Home:
  The Huffs address balancing childhood fun and honesty about Santa:

  “Santa’s the magic of Christmas…It’s not really real, but it’s so fun.” ([31:23] Sadie)

  • Emphasis on every family discerning what works for them and not judging other choices.

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4. Dating & Relationship Advice (Starts ~[36:28])

• Making Long-Distance Work:
  Christian notes the importance of community and church involvement for stability and accountability:

  “If they don't have many friends, don't have a great community, and they don't have a church that they're plugged into…that's not a healthy key in a relationship.” ([37:01] Christian)

• Green Flags in Dating:

  • A partner with good community ties, openness about struggles, genuine faith, and no relationship secrets.
  • Openness and confession, not isolating in secrecy.
  • Sadie:

    "Nothing should be done in secret...If you don't have those kind of relationships...I think that is a dangerous place to be." ([41:32] Sadie)

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5. Navigating Marriage Conflicts & Community (Starts ~[42:35])

• The Power of Confession & Community:
  Both stress the value of confessing struggles and normalizing arguments in marriage.

  “For just people around you to know what you're walking through and believe with you and pray with you…community is so important in marriage, in my opinion.” ([43:23] Sadie)

• Communication is Key:
  Christian jokes about their high level of communication:

  “We just tell each other everything and just always talk about stuff.” ([45:34] Christian)

• Handling Arguments:

  • Stick with disagreements until you learn and grow from them.
  • Not all arguments are instantly resolved, but making plans to work on issues is vital.
  • Sadie ties back to Proverbs:

    "We're sowing seeds right now and plowing ground...that is hard and sometimes feels like...the dirty work. But one day, it's gonna be so beautiful." ([50:20] Sadie)

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6. Vulnerability, Pressure, and Parenting in Public (Starts ~[51:12])

• Traveling as a Family – Mess and Memories:
  • Real talk about stress, visible frustration, and lack of sleep with three kids:

    “Going to New York with a 4 year old, 2 year old and 2 month old is not for the faint of heart…” ([51:23] Sadie)

  • Embracing help from family and being humble enough to accept correction and support:

    “Thank you for loving me enough to help me…And I’m gonna receive that.” ([55:46] Sadie)

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On Learning from Each Other:

  "You are always my go to…you're fun to hang out with."
  – Christian Huff ([02:20])

• On Patience in Parenting:

  "With toddlers, they can't control their emotions; we have to learn to control ours."
  – Sadie Robertson ([18:57])

• Wisdom from Proverbs:

  "Humility comes before honor."
  – Sadie Robertson ([21:01])

• On Community in Marriage:

  “For people around you to know what you're walking through and believe with you and pray with you…community is so important in marriage.”
  – Sadie Robertson ([43:23])

• Comic Relief:
  Christian uses a Batman analogy for authentic emotion:

  "It's like the Batman mask in the Dark Knight Rises…that was the face I used to make in the mirror."
  – Christian Huff ([53:21])

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Timestamps for Key Segments

• [01:26] — Start of listener Q&A
• [02:20] — Favorite things about each other
• [04:03] — Bedtime routine and language development story
• [07:22] — Christian’s Auburn football loyalty
• [12:30] — Real-time lessons in parenting and faith
• [25:29] — Teaching scripture to children
• [31:23] — Navigating Santa Claus and faith
• [36:28] — Long-distance and dating advice
• [42:35] — Community and honesty in marriage
• [47:18] — Handling arguments and communication
• [51:12] — Parenting, pressure, and humility in family life

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Tone & Takeaways

The episode is equal parts humor, honesty, and heartfelt encouragement. Sadie and Christian invite listeners to embrace imperfection, lean into community, and pursue consistent honesty and growth—whether as spouses, parents, or believers. The rapport between the couple brings levity to even the most honest admissions and their faith-centered perspective offers practical hope for families and couples navigating everyday challenges.

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End Note

The Huffs close with appreciation for their listeners, encouraging everyone to "be the light of the world"—a phrase they speak over their own children. Christian sneaks in one last movie reference as they wrap, leaving listeners with a smile and plenty to reflect on for their own relationships and family life.

Transcript

[A]

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[B]

This has been a long time coming. You asked. She finally listened.

[A]

I feel like Christian is in a really silly mood today and so am I. So look, bear with us. It's going to be a great conversation. Actually, we opened this one up to the DMS and we're like, hey guys, what questions do you have for me and Christian? And honestly, y' all said it was like you're making it sound sarcastic. I'm not.

[B]

I'm being serious.

[A]

I love y'.

[B]

All. Flooded the comments. I know I'm being serious.

[A]

And so our team helped us kind of put together these categories of like, fun questions, dating questions, marriage questions, faith questions, kid questions. So we're going to cover a little bit of it all, but we're going to start with some fun questions. I'm going to start with one that I want to hear. What is yalls favorite thing about each other? Well, you go first.

[B]

Well, you said we're going to start super funny and then you.

[A]

No, I said fun. Like this is fun. You tell me how much you love me.

[B]

But you also said funny.

[A]

Well, it could be funny that I'm hilarious.

[B]

You have had some some things lately. Yes, I.

[A]

Would you say that?

[B]

No. No one could hear that. Favorite thing about you is you're upstairs. No, no, no. My favorite thing about you is you're fun to hang out with.

[A]

Aw.

[B]

You are always my go to if I like, who would I hang out with? You're always the first one.

[A]

Wait. That is actually really sweet.

[B]

You were fun. We've been watching the World Series together. We've been. We've been vibing.

[A]

We have. We have been vibing. That's true. My favorite thing about you is besides.

[B]

Humor looks, I mean, I don't know. Hello. Hello.

[A]

Let me scan my list real fast and decide which one I'm gonna say. Oh, my gosh. Okay. Mine's a little bit more serious. But you are so open to people speaking into your life. And that is, like, one of my favorite about you.

[B]

That is very kind.

[A]

It's true. And I've been reading through proverbs. I actually finished it on the way here. I've been listening to proverbs. I should say so. I've been listening to proverbs. And one thing that's been a consistent thing is talking about, like, being willing to take instruction and how, like, the fool won't listen to instruction, but the wise, you know, continue to learn. And you do that very well.

[B]

I listen to people that I trust.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

So if you're in the comments right now roasting me for something I just said, I'm probably not going to listen to you. So let's just clarify who I'm going to listen to.

[A]

Yeah, well, we just.

[B]

Not my haters.

[A]

Well, also.

[B]

But those that love me.

[A]

On that note, we just listened to. I guess our actual church service on Sunday was about the voices we listened to and, like, having the right coaches in your life, having a good coach. Having a good coach. So it does matter. You know, you don't listen to everybody, but you do take instructions from the ones you trust. And I learn a lot from that from you.

[B]

That is really sweet.

[A]

Yes. Okay, next question. Favorite. No, sorry. Funny story from this past week.

[B]

Yeah. It's got to be Honey's bedtime. Well, you started a sweet little nighttime routine that you saw on social media.

[A]

I did. So my mom actually shared this on social media. Like, she reshared it. And I read the whole article, and it was so cool. It was talking about how whenever kids, like, instead of just doing a bedtime story at night, like reading a book, if you tell them about your day, it's actually shown to improve their language, like, dramatically. It actually said they. I think they interviewed like, 700 or they did a study with, like, 700 families and the ones who told their kids what they did during that day and in detail. It's like, you know, I went to work today and there was a moment where I got stressed, but I overcame it and Then I ended up having a great day. Like, you actually go through how you felt in the day, how you overcame emotions during the day. They said that their language was a whole year in advance. And the other kids who had not, you know, heard about their parents day, I thought that was really interesting. And I had just had somebody tell me that Honey's vocabulary is like, really amazing. And they said, they were like, I can tell that y' all talk a lot because she talks a lot like you. And I was like, well, yeah, she never. We do talk a lot.

[B]

Honey never stops talking.

[A]

And they said, but specifically, I can tell you don't talk to her like a baby because she talks like an adult. And I was like, that's really cool. So anyways, I was like, I'm going to start incorporating that more and see if I see, you know, changes in their vocabulary. So this is fresh. We've literally started this two nights, nights ago. But it was so cool how automatically we saw something shift. So I was telling them about my day and I told them I went to work and, you know, I just started going back to work. So sometimes that can be kind of hard. But I did my podcast that was really fun. So I'm telling them about my day and then this is so cool. Haven, who's two years old, she goes to pray. And you know, sometimes two year olds prayers are just like, repetitive. They sound the same every night. They're a little bit funny. But she actually said, thank you, God, that mommy got to go to work today. And she started praying for my day and for my work. And then Honey did too, and she prayed for my work. And I just started noticing that they were like, incorporating my day in their prayer life, which is like so cool at 2 and 4. Like, what? That's amazing. And so we've definitely seen something shift in that. But the funny thing was that last night or that same night, we were talking about where mom and dad are because they're on a trip. And so we talked about that earlier in the day. And so when it came time to pray, Honey's praying for K Mama and doves. And she stopped and she said, what city is K Mama in? And. And I said, oh, she's in Scotland. And so she said, okay, God, thank you for Scotland, and thank you that K Mama's in Scotland. So then last night she's praying again for K Mama, and I can't remember what the word was, and she was like, and God, thank you for Kay Momma being in.

[B]

It was Salatoria, Salatoria I should have looked up if Salatoria was actually a place.

[A]

We went from Scotland to Salatoria. But, hey, it was.

[B]

But it was like, there was no hesitation.

[A]

I know. Thank you for coming on. Being in Salatoria, Confidence.

[B]

Which was. Which was the funny part.

[A]

It was so funny. But it is really cool to see that even in two nights. Like, I definitely have seen their thoughtfulness. You know, like, they're, like, thinking about what they did in their day and what I did in mine, you did in yours. So that's pretty sweet. Another funny story, because I saw that someone asked, what's Christian's favorite college football team? So first, I'll let you have your moment. Who's your favorite college football team?

[B]

Auburn. That's where I went.

[A]

But War Eagle.

[B]

Yeah. Warrior goal. Yeah. Being an Auburn football fan is like. It pretty much equates to, like, the spiritual warfare that I go through. It's.

[A]

Whatever.

[B]

It's like, it is not being an Auburn football fan is literally one of the hardest things to do and to still be faithful to it.

[A]

Well, the problem that you go through and I see this week after week is, like, you get your hopes up so high and. And it's like, no, this. Like, these players in this stat and blah, blah, blah, and, like, we're gonna have the best season ever. And every. Every year. I've known you for the six years, I guess, since we've been married, I won't count the first year because I didn't know enough about football. So don't really. But I would be like, okay, why don't we just not get our hopes, like, all the way up? And then it can be, like, such a great surprise. That's the problem.

[B]

When you've reached the mountaintop like we have before 2010, 2013 was another one. It's tough to face the valleys. And we've been in the. We've been in the. The. Our valley has been along. Just plateau.

[A]

Hey, you are so faithful, though. I am very faithful. I love being an Auburn fan, though.

[B]

To be miserable, but it can also be exciting.

[A]

One thing we also realized this week as we've been watching the World Series. And Christian loves football, so we talk about that a lot because it's fall is. I started thinking, how many athletes, like, professional athletes can I name? And this is really funny because Christian recognizes everybody. Like, we'll be somewhere. He'll be like, oh, that's so. And so I'm like, how do you know that? How do you recognize these people? And he, like, Always knows.

[B]

We were watching the Dodgers game and they were like panning it on this person that had this like crazy blonde hair. And they were like, I don't know if they were making fun of the guy, but they were like trying to show this guy's hair. And the person next to him was Dave Franco. And I was like that. What are the odds that they're trying to showcase this?

[A]

Yeah. So he's like, look, Dave Franco. I think it was James Franco.

[B]

Yeah, it was James.

[A]

And then we were like, oh, they never recognize that. And then next thing you know, he's like, oh, there's Magic Johnson. And I was like, I would have never noticed that. And then I just wouldn't have noticed. So then I'm like, you know, to be honest, I don't know how many professional athletes I can even name. So we go through every sport and I could only name off the top of my mind, a total of 10 athletes. And that was including football. Wait, that was NFL, NBA, MLB, tennis, WNBA. WNBA. Oh, no, I didn't count in WNBA. I'm at 12 if we count that.

[B]

Okay, sorry.

[A]

Caitlin Clark.

[B]

Are you not counting wnba? Is this.

[A]

And then. No, no, no. I just didn't count that in the list of things I was doing. I only knew like the super famous ones like Steph Curry. Le. Yeah, I think that was the only NBA players I knew.

[B]

You know, more retired.

[A]

My NFL player game was strong though.

[B]

Because I watched quarterbacks and receiver.

[A]

That's.

[B]

That's the only reason.

[A]

Yeah, so.

[B]

And Travis, Kelsey and Patrick Mahomes. Does not count.

[A]

They do count.

[B]

That does not count.

[A]

They do count.

[B]

Does not count.

[A]

If they don't count, I'm back to 10.

[B]

You're back to 10.

[A]

Okay, whatever.

[B]

We'll stick with 10.

[A]

Well, it's been a fun week, babe. We've had some good laughs.

[B]

They have.

[A]

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[B]

Real talk, real time. Yeah. Parenting Honey is the greatest joy and also one of the greatest challenges.

[A]

Well, and Haven and Kit specifically.

[B]

Specifically. Well, specifically with Honey, just because she's articulate. Well, Haven is too, but Honey's like, it's actually funny. Understands discipline and those kind of things.

[A]

I didn't mean to interrupt, but it's funny because you do have a harder time with Honey's age and I have a harder time with Haven's age. Like, Honey is a little bit easier for me. Haven's harder for me, but.

[B]

Well, if Honey treated you the way she treats me, it would be harder for you too. So don't, don't be, don't, don't be acting like it ain't that difficult. But for Honey, she's like, so. What I'm trying to say is the discipline with Honey is hard because she's very strong and very stubborn. And she gets that from one of us or maybe two of us. Just kidding.

[A]

She definitely gets that from you. I don't know why we're leaving that up for question.

[B]

She gets the stubbornness from you. She gets the strong will from me. But you're both of those two. But I'm saying that to say I.

[A]

Actually thought you were talking about yourself.

[B]

We're both that way.

[A]

Yeah. I just thought you were done by yourself, so that's really funny.

[B]

Okay, well, what I was saying was I'm trying to get back on track here.

[A]

Okay, pause.

[B]

No, don't pause. Why are we pausing?

[A]

Cause I totally thought you were talking about yourself. And that made me laugh because then I quickly realized I was like, oh, you actually are talking about me.

[B]

I was talking about both of us. Don't pause this. Just keep it rolling. But what I was saying with Honey is that she's very strong in the sense of like. Like, she's. She's very opinionated. So if I. If I give in to what she's wanting, the request, then it. Then there's really no conflict. There's no. There's no issue or whatever. But the problem is she's very strong in what she wants, whether it's laying in bed at night. And the other night she had a. I gave her a water with ice because that's what she wanted. And I put the top on it, and she did not want the top on it. And it was a whole meltdown and it ended up getting me frustrated. Her frustrated. It was embarrassing because I got way too mad, which we had to talk about that. So I'm saying that to say in the instant, I could have just taken the top off and there would have been no conflict resolution solved. But to discipline her of like, hey, you can't get everything you want, and if I give in to giving everything you want, then there's no. Then there's going to be a bigger problem when you're older. And I think that's the thing for me that I'm having to realize is the temptation to just give in to what she wants in the moment because she's upset or frustrated at something. And in turn, I have to be more patient and have more self control, which is very hard for me. Those are two fruits of the spirit that I kind of can lack at times. I cannot be very patient when she is having a fit, so to speak. And yeah, so I've had to fight that temptation of just giving her what she wants in the moment, but not doing that because I know, you know, in the future she'll be stronger because of it. So that's the thing that I've been learning.

[A]

Hey, that's really good. And one thing we've been talking about is like, how do you stay patient yet also firm and not let your emotions switch to anger or like, frustration? Because I think that's the thing we've realized, both of us. It's like you feel bad whenever you discipline out of anger or like, emotion, because it really isn't as. Like, to me, that's not like effective discipline as you really want it to be, because then they're more upset, you're more upset. It's like an emotional thing where instead it's like, you know, I'm gonna be level headed. She can't control her emotions. I can control mine. So I'm gonna be level headed and I'm gonna be stern and I'm gonna be firm on my decision, But I'm not firm out of anger. I'm not firm out of, like, over emotional. I'm just making that decision.

[B]

Yeah. And that's the thing I've been trying to learn.

[A]

That's the thing that you're learning is like, being stern and not angry and how, like, there is a difference in the two. Like, you can be like, firm in a decision, but you can do that with, like, a level head. And we're actually using the example of, like, whenever there's an emergency situation, like, everybody actually listens to the person who's most calm in the room, who, like, stands up on the stage and is like, hey, everybody, you're gonna go out this side door. Everyone, single file line. Like, the person who, like, takes control of the situation, not the person that's like, everybody runs.

[B]

Well, do you know what the problem with that is, though? I feel like I'm that guy for the first, like, five times that I'm trying to. But then eventually, if no one swears, patience comes in. Eventually, if no one listens, that dude, he's just gonna lose it. And that's where you see what I'm saying.

[A]

I see what you're saying.

[B]

Okay, everyone calm down. Then everyone. If everyone's.

[A]

But it's not. That's the thing.

[B]

Eventually the guy's like, hey, listen here.

[A]

But that's what we're learning. That's what we're learning. But what I'm saying is, like, with the top situation, this is real time parenting that we're discussing. And one thing I will say before that Was the music for advice that we're learning right now is like, and this is actually advice our parents gave us. My, my mom was telling us this and I thought this was really good. She's like, y' all are gonna have to wrestle it out, like behind the scenes, you know, like, parent, do the thing. And then after, like come back and talk about it, like, how could you have done that better? And I think that's been really helpful for us because we have these moments where it's like, okay, the top situation, the lid situation. And okay, we got a little too mad. We. She got very upset, we conversation, we went to sleep, the whole thing was fine. But we come back and we're like, okay, that didn't go great. Like, how could that have been better? And one thing we were talking about is just saying, hey, honey, the top's going to go on the cup because that's the way it's going to be because we're not going to spill the drink in the bed. If you don't want it that way, then I'll go put it back in the kitchen. And you're not going to have water tonight. So that's like the period. I made a decision. I'm firming it. I'm not angry about it. If she continues to cry, then you say, I'm so sorry that you're upset. I wish, I wish that you, you know, weren't. But I love you, I'm gonna lay with you, we're gonna go to sleep. So it's just like, not.

[B]

That sounds great.

[A]

No, but that, but that.

[B]

No, I know. I'm saying, I'm saying that sounds great in the sense of like, yeah, I wish I could do that.

[A]

But we're learning that. That's what I'm saying. Like it's good to rehearse what we could have maybe done differently now and also factor in a four year old screaming at you. So that's why it's hard. And that's why I'm saying, like, I know you want to burst out in anger. I know eventually it makes you want to snap. But I think because toddlers can't control their emotions, we have to learn to control ours. And you can be totally firm and be the disciplinary and not be over like that. Not be overridden by anger or like.

[B]

Yeah, that's the thing. How to be stern but not angry and too aggressive.

[A]

Yeah. So that's good. That's good.

[B]

Are you learning anything?

[A]

I'm learning a lot right now.

[B]

You're learning how to deal with me.

[A]

When I get like, no, I'm learning so much right now. And you know that you are learning Proverbs. I'm learning Proverbs. And, hey, if you gotta listen to proverbs, for me, I, like, have been listening. I actually finished it in, like, four days, just listening. That's because I needed to listen to Proverbs. I was like, I really need some wisdom in my life right now because I felt like I was struggling in some areas. I'm learning how to wrestle my problems out with the Lord and not with just people. I feel like I wrestle them out with you, but I feel like I would have a tendency to, like, go to people and talk about a situation. Talk about a situation. Like, whereas now I'm like, okay, Lord, can you just help me to forgive this person? Can you help me to learn how to control my tongue? Can you help me to learn how to sit in this feeling of being misunderstood? Because those are things I'm wrestling with right now. Like, I feel like you've watched me kind of wrestle with this feeling of being misunderstood in a certain situation. And it's a. That's a hard thing to wrestle out. And the thing you want to do is go to the person, talk it out, but sometimes that's not beneficial. And so for me, I'm like, I'm learning how to wrestle out with the Lord. And that has been so sweet. You know, whenever I put Kit down at night, there's that big giant mirror in her room that is like, our Jesus mirror. It's actually one that we did at conference where somebody actually painted the, like, interpretation of Jesus on the mirror. And some nights I'm in there and I'm on my phone, but recently I have just been, like, looking at that mirror and looking at Jesus eyes, and it's like, okay, anything I need to get off my chest today, anything I need to repent of, anything I just need to ask you, Lord. And I've just been asking God for advice, and it's been so helpful. And through asking God for advice, that's what led me to reading Proverbs. And that has been very beneficial to me. I think the theme that I learned throughout the first time of listening through, I want to continue to listen through and see what sticks out to me next time. But this time it was the idea of taking instruction and listening to other people's advice and having humility. I loved how it said, humility comes before honor. I think so many times in our life, like, we want to be honored so we try to act like we have it all together, but it's like, no, actually have humility and learn in the mess, in the hard things. And then eventually, one day, maybe you will be at that place of honor where you can speak in. But, you know, don't just try to have it all together. Like, actually just learn. Let people speak in. And the second thing I'm learning through, the first I'm listening through, is just the power of holding your tongue. Like, there is so much wisdom in being able to hold your tongue and not speak when it's not time to speak or not babble or not just go on. And there are so many warnings and proverbs about, like, where words are many, sin is not absent. And I think that's really true. And especially as women, I feel like it's just so easy to talk, and I just feel like that's not always beneficial, you know? And so those two things stuck out to me. Another thing that stuck out to me was strength. Like, just what a blessing it is to be, like, a strong person. I was talking about, like, blessed man who doesn't faint in adversity in the days of adversity, but has strength today. Proverbs 31, talking about, like, a woman who is strong, you know? And so I don't know, I felt like even in four days just listening to proverbs, I've learned so much. And that's because, again, I needed to learn a lot. I was struggling, y'. All. I have never appreciated sleep like I do now that we have a newborn and two toddlers running wild. When the house finally gets quiet, I love sinking into my Helix Sleep midnight mattress. Christian and I actually took the Helix quiz, like, years ago, before we even had kids. And it literally only took a couple minutes. We still have our same mattress we love so much. It matches with our perfect mattress. Based on how we sleep. It's not too. So it's just, like, the perfect amount of firm, the perfect amount of softness, and after years of having it, it still feels brand new. Our bed is amazing. We love it so much. Actually, I have to say, mom, when we slept through the night the other night, like, no kid got in her bed. Kit even slept in her crib in the other room, and we were like, wow, that was incredible. We feel like new people. So sleep is amazing, especially when you have a good mattress and your kids actually sleep. Even when we travel, we can tell a difference right away when we get home. Nothing compares to the comfort of our home and our Helix mattress. And all of you get it up so much better whenever you have a good night's sleep for whatever the day holds. So that's why good rest isn't a luxury. It's a part of taking care of the body. God has given us. Sleep is, like, truly medicine. And so I want you guys to have it, too. Y' all gotta check out Helix Mattress. Like I said, it is a total game changer. It really is so easy. And your kids can actually get a Helix mattress, too. They have all kinds of models. So go to helixsleep.comSadie for 27% off site wide. That's helixsleep.comSadie For 27% off off site wide helixsleep.comSadie, have you started teaching scripture to your kids? Where do you start when you want to teach your kids to memorize scripture? This is funny because we have not done a lot of this, but we did actually do this this week, and it was really sweet, kind of what happened from it. We were all sitting at breakfast, and my Bible was on the table, and I was like, hey, let's read Scripture. And pulled out Psalms 23. And I thought that would be an easy one to go to because it's. The Lord is my shepherd, and their cousin's name is John Shepherd. So I knew they'd get excited about that. So I was like, okay, do y' all know what shepherd means? And they're like, sheppy. And I'm like, well, shepherd actually is, you know, someone who tends to sheep and then haven's like, bah. Like, it was so cute. Like, that was a good one to start with, is, you're gonna start somewhere.

[B]

That was a really good one.

[A]

And then so I start reading it. The Lord is my shepherd. I shall not us stop. And I'm like, okay, let's. Let's talk about what that means. And Christian, you want to share kind of what happened? Because it's been pretty cool.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Well, you.

[B]

Yes. You said, the Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want. And then you kind of went into explaining it. The idea of God's all we need. We, you know, we don't need to want anything because we lack nothing. And for some reason. And obviously, the, you know, the psalm goes on to talk about lying down in green pastures, and beside, he leads me. Leads me beside still waters. But for some reason, I never made that correlation to, like, the Lord, my shepherd shall not want. And then these things follow. I've always. Because there's a comma between the Lord is my shepherd comma. I shall not want. And I think most of the time when I've read it, I've thought about it from the context of the Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want. And David has so many honest psalms about things he struggles with and, you know, know, cursing his enemies and asking God to wipe them out, but then also his wrestle with Israel and with God. So I always read that psalm as the Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want. This, this, this inkling of. Like us as humans, sometimes we don't like to be guided. Sometimes we don't like to be led. We want to go do things our own way. But it was a. It was like a humble prayer of the Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want. And then these things follow when I do surrender to, to allow him to lead me. So I, I don't know. And, and that's not the right context of which it's, it's. It's written in.

[A]

Yeah, I learned that Christian was like, oh, never thought about it from that perspective. And I was like, I've never thought about it from your perspective. And then we were like, well, let's look into it. So then we opened up the commentary, and I was able to read the commentary. And meanwhile, like, you know, Haven's just kind of sitting there running around doing little things, and Honey's listening, and we're talking about the context of Scripture and then we're like, okay, so it does mean, like, I need to be content with what I have. Which led to a great conversation for us with Hun, because we've been talking about contentment and, you know, toys she has and overabundance and how, you know, we need to be generous with our things and you don't need all of this stuff to be content. So we've been trying to work with her on bringing toys, you know, to different places to give to kids who might not have. Have toys. And so it was just cool how, like, what we were reading actually really did speak right into the lessons we've been trying to work with her in. And not only that, but it actually helped us. We grew in that moment. We learned something new about God and the Word. And so all that to say we'll definitely be doing more of that. And I don't think that your kids are necessarily ever too young to start speaking scripture over their life. I mean, we're already. Pray over Kit, you know, all the time, worship over her, say scripture over her. Um, of course she doesn't understand, but it's amazing. As soon as I start worshiping over her. That girl lights up, she gets so happy. And so, you know, I always think about, I'm like, when they were in the womb, it says God knit me together in my mother's womb. I feel like the womb is such a holy place that like, I feel like we don't know, you know, how God meets them in those spaces and what God is doing in there while he's like, you know, crafting their little fingerprints. And so, I mean, they were like made to worship. We all are. They were made in his image. And so you're never, they're never too young to connect them to their creator. They, they should be from the minute they come out of the womb. So I love that you asked that question. Okay, let's see. This is a little bit of an off topic one, but I'll let you handle this. But we do get asked this a lot and I'm just going to say this is a Christmas missed question about Santa Claus and we love Santa Claus. I'm going to go into this a little bit more, but I'm giving the, the heads up to all the moms out there. So someone asked, how do you explain Santa and other made up characters while still staying true to your faith? And you know, this is a controversial topic obviously because some moms choose to, some moms choose not to, and people feel very strongly about it. I'll tell you what's worked for us. I'll tell you also what I thought we were gonna do because you always think you're gonna do something and then you become a parent and you're like, okay, maybe I'm not gonna do it like that. Before we had kids, we were like, oh, we are 100. Doing Santa Claus like that is just like the fun of childhood. Like, you know, let's not be over dramatic about it. That was just like our personal commentary on the whole situation. Like, yeah, we're doing Santa Claus. And then I actually saw somewhere somebody said, well, you could tell them, you know, there's a secret about Santa Claus. I'll tell you one day when you want to know. So. Oh, that's kind of cute. Maybe we'll do that. So I, I say to say like, we saw things that we thought were good ideas. We even had our own kind of idea about it. But then when we started to do it, I feel like, I feel like we kind of got some checks and the way we ended up doing it I feel has really been sweet and still fun and kept it light hearted, but nothing too like detrimental. As far as, like, we're lying to our kids. Think you are lying to your kid. I will say, personally, I am the person who has very deep thoughts. I was the kid who had very deep thoughts. I always asked my parents very intense questions. And when my mom and dad told me the news about Santa, I was really shocked about it. And it led me to have a lot of questions even, okay, is God real? Because why did you tell me this is real? And I really believed it. And there's so many movies about it and there's so many books about it and it's not even real. And I was like, well, okay, but everybody goes to church on Sunday. Surely we wouldn't do that if God wasn't real. And I actually remember wrestling out those questions. And so from the kid who actually does overthink things, dives really deeply into things, I also was holding that tension in how we tell our kids. And so what we've done is we have said Santa is the magic of Christmas. Santa is the magic of Christmas. Obviously we tell them the, the true magic Christmas, true meaning of Christmas. So here's the meaning of Christmas. It's Jesus, but some magic in Christmas is Santa Claus. And we say Santa's, Santa's a made believe character. Just how you asked the question and said, how do you, you know, talk about these made up characters? We tell them we kind of compare it to princesses that they love. Havens like, you know, always talks about Ursula and Honey, they would talk about like Hap and Hook. They're scared of them and, and they love, you know, the princesses. And I'd say, well, Ursula's not real, but it's fun to think about her, you know, or Anna and Elsa. They're not really real, but they're so fun to imagine, to watch some movies. And so just like Elsa and Anna is like the magic of frozen. Santa's kind of the magic of Christmas. It's not really real, but it's so fun. And so we kind of like do it like that. So it's very light hearted, very loose. We do do Santa Claus because it's fun and it's magic and it makes Christmas morning super, just like giddy and silly and fun, but not holding it with so much weight that you believe in something, if that makes sense.

[B]

Well, me and my brother believed Santa like to a fault, to the point where like my brother was in middle school and he was still asking my parents to put reindeer food on the roof. And he's one of the most Normal dudes that I know. And he's awesome and loves God, so he made it out.

[A]

So did. So did Maya, his wife. She believed until high school. So that's what I'm saying.

[B]

That's a little.

[A]

There is. I don't.

[B]

She's incredible.

[A]

I think, you know, ultimately. And I want to have another podcast about this whole conversation. I think think every parent has to go where the Lord leads them. You know, if you have a check in your spirit, then hold up. You know, do something different. That doesn't mean everybody has to have that. That doesn't mean it's wrong for someone else to do something different. I think that is something that is a problem with social media is everyone comes on with their stance, and it's like, has to be that way. And if you don't, then it's detrimental to your child. I don't really think that. I think you can do Santa Claus. And they believe in it wholeheartedly and it's fun. And then you tell them one day, and it's like, oh, shoot, it's not real. Well, that's crazy. I thought it was. And most kids are fine with that. And for me, look, I love God with all my heart. It didn't hurt me. I thought it was really fun. I glad my parents did Santa for me. That's why I want to have some element to that. But I do know the thoughts I had, and I remember thinking those thoughts. And so I just want to make sure with my kids, because I see a lot of the same tendencies in my kids. They ask really deep questions. They are very. I don't want to say an overthinker in a bad way, but they do think a lot. I mean, when we read books, you can't get past one sentence without them asking a question on what that sentence meant. Why is her face in that picture a little bit sad? Did that person make her sad? Like, they're so thoughtful. And so, you know, I'm carrying their little hearts and minds as I'm trying to make something fun of Christmas and Santa and that kind of thing.

[B]

There's a lot of things to quarrel about in controversies. And I don't think Santa Claus.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

You know who's not asking to be controversial?

[A]

Him.

[B]

Saint Nick.

[A]

That's right.

[B]

He's not like, yo.

[A]

He'd be like, y', all, for real. I was just trying to have fun and bless people.

[B]

Just. Yeah, it's whatever.

[A]

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[B]

Okay, I love these two courses.

[A]

Thoughts on long distance relationships Tips to make it work for those who don't know Christian and I wear long distance our entire dating and engagement. So babe, give the advice.

[B]

I kind of think these two go together.

[A]

Okay, the next question is green Godly green flags in dating to look out for.

[B]

So if you are potentially going to be in a long distance relationship, tips to make it work and what are some green flags in dating? So for me the first thing I think about is the person has to have good friends around them and be surrounded by a good community and I think be involved in the local church. And what I mean is I think it is key that because if you're not always going to be with this person, right? If you're long distance dating, if this person's a couple hours away, I Think it's reassurance to you and even just assurance that. That they're not doing things that they shouldn't be doing. If this person that you're interested in and you want to start dating, if they don't have many friends, don't have a great community, and they don't have a church that they're plugged into. And I just would say if they're isolated, then I don't think that's a healthy key in a relationship. But for us, I had an incredible community of guys around me at Auburn. That one. You trusted me, but you also trusted them that. That I'm not gonna go do something stupid or go make some wrong decision that would be detrimental to our relationship. Because you know who I've surrounded myself with. I had an awesome relationship with my pastor, which. Same thing. If I was ever out of line and doing something that I shouldn't be doing, it would have never gotten to you to. To where like, hey, this is a red flag. Because it would have been addressed.

[A]

We would already talk about.

[B]

It would have been addressed from. From some other situation. So. And I think for me, me, if I was isolated with no community, then our relationship wouldn't have worked one, because there were things that I was struggling with when we started dating of, you know, how am I, you know, a junior in college and no one knows who I am to dating somebody who's very, very popular and well known, and to a lot of people, that can be intimidating.

[A]

Someone actually asked that question, was Christian intimidated by you at first because you were a TV personality? Wow. I think I was intimidated by you, actually, because I thought you were really cool. And I have been notoriously known for being kind of goofy and not super, like, cool. I remember high school, someone was like, you were the least intimidating person. And I was like, okay, that seems a little bad. Candid. Because I think what you're saying is I'm not cool.

[B]

No, you were. You were intimidating.

[A]

But that's funny, because I do think to some degree you maybe that that was intimidating. But. And I want you to speak to that. But I actually do remember being intimidated by you too. So it goes both ways.

[B]

It is good. No, I think intimidated just from the aspect of, like, what I would be stepping into is a bigger deal, right. Comparatively to. To something else. Just, you know, recognition or just eyeballs and those kind of things. But I think the biggest green flag is whoever, boy or girl has to be surrounded by a good community. Same for you. When you lived in Franklin, you had amazing Roommates, incredible girls around you to where I was able to trust you, but also not only trust you, I trusted your friends to know, hey, they believe in our relationship. They're not going to let you go out and do something dumb.

[A]

Totally. I agree with Christian 100%. I think community, not being in isolation, being involved with a local church, obviously, if they love the Lord, but not just like someone who goes to church, but someone who actually has a relationship with God. Those are obviously two different things. And what you don't think about when you're dating as much as I think you should is that when you're marrying someone, when you're going to marry someone, it's not just like, oh, I'm getting married. Like, yay, I'm going to be a wife. It's like, no, that person's going to be your husband, and he's going to be the father to your children. And y' all are going to walk through some really hard stuff together. And to say that a foundation, like Yalls foundation being on God is important is an understatement. Like, it is necessary. I cannot imagine the past six years of our life not being rooted in Jesus Christ, not having a foundation of faith that we both were able to come back to when we were both struggling, when we both were going through something that was crazy or wild or whatnot. And even the good times and the fun times, I mean, that is so essential. And so that's just something not to take lightly. It's something not to look over. It's not just a green flag. It's like, everything. So I just say that very strongly, I think, too. Another thing to look for. And we kind of are saying this with just saying community. It's just nothing should be done in secret, you know, There shouldn't be anything in Yalls relationship that is, if your friend found out, you would feel, you know, ashamed of, like, yeah, you're going to mess up, but you should be willing to even tell your friends that, hey, we slipped up, like, we messed up and we want to do better. And can you hold me accountable? If y' all don't have those kind of relationships where your relationship is, like, gotten so in secret and you're sure you have all these secrets. I think that is a dangerous place to be because it might bond you to someone that's actually not supposed to be your forever person. And you might feel like he has to be because he knows all this stuff or because we are in this together. And any secrecy should not be the reason that you're staying in a relationship. And so I definitely think you want to be open. You don't want to have secrets. That's just really important.

[B]

So, like I said to wrap that up. I just think a great green flag in dating, whether it's you're in the same town or if it's long distance, I think community is just a big deal. And knowing that you can trust this person, friends, that they have your best interest, too, and that he is. Is, you know, confessing things to his friends. He's involved in the church. So I think those are the. It's the biggest green flag for me.

[A]

It's great, babe. I love it. What is something people never talk about in marriage that you wish was talked about more? I. We were kind of talking about this this morning because we read through some of these questions, and I was saying, like, I think we in our community do this very well, and naturally, I just don't think it's. That's very normal for the outside world is just to confess sin, like, to be honest, to admit struggles. I think, you know, it's so helpful whenever you're around other married couples and you're just honest. And even, like, you're gonna have an argument, and it's not the end of the world. Like, people can trust and know that you love each other and it's okay that one little thing might have made you mad and you move on, you know, and for just people around you to be. For your relationship, for people around you to know what you're walking through and believe with you and pray with you and speak a life into you. Like, community is so important in marriage, in my opinion. And I think when you get married and you start having kids, it's very hard to keep community because it's so crazy. Like, when our friend group gets together right now, there's so many kids that it's just like, you can hardly talk. But I think it's still worth it, you know, I mean, I don't think I know it's still worth it. Like, it's still worth the intentionality. It's so worth getting together. We're all getting together this weekend, and it's gonna be wild. Cause there's gonna be so way more kids than adults. But, like, we need that, you know, we need to see each other. We need to help each other through it. And so I wish it was just talked about more. Like the power of community and admitting when you're going through something, not being ashamed of it. I actually heard someone tell me recently that my parents relationship has helped them so much in their marriage. Because when you look at my parents relationship, but it's easy to think like, oh, wow, like, what a perfect couple. You know, they've been married for so long, they have this amazing family. But my mom and dad will be the first to admit, like, they have struggles. They've had struggles. Of course they have. They've been married for so many years. And it was one of her friends telling me this, and she said, their marriage has impacted me so much to see that you can go through hard things and you can have these little struggles and you can still have a great marriage. And so I think because of social media sometimes, sometimes you think like, oh, for a great marriage to be great, it has to be perfect. Has to look this way. Your husband has to do all these things for you. You have to be this perfect wife. And that's just not realistic. You can actually have a great marriage and also have some bumps in the road.

[B]

Yeah. I think even, like, you know, you talked about community. I think communication is huge. I mean, the amount of times. And this is not to like throw shade or anything, but it's kind of funny just because we. I feel like we just like overly share and like overly communicate because the amount of times I'll be talking to my. To a guy friend or just a guy that I know or something, and I'll know that their spouse knows something and I'll say something, they'll be like, oh, I didn't know that. And I'm like, do you and your wife, you know, like, do y' all not talk about stuff? You know, like, it'd be things like that. So. And then for us, it's like we just tell each other everything and just always talk about stuff. So I think that's something for me of just. Just communication, talking things out.

[A]

I love that. And that's actually funny. You can keep segueing so nicely to my next question. Someone said, how do you handle when your friend asks you to keep a secret from your husband and you just.

[B]

Kind of talked about no secrecy.

[A]

Yes. And I will say, though, because I have had this situation happen to me several times where a friend will be like, don't tell anybody. Like, please don't tell Christian or whatever. And that's because they're walking through the certain pregnancy. There are certain things. Let me phrase this. There are certain things where it's like, like, okay, I get that Christian doesn't need to know you're pregnant or you're whatever. You know, but then there are other things where I'll just say to them, hey, I'm actually going to need to tell Christian that. Or are you okay if I actually tell Christian that? Because that's going to be really hard for me to keep from him or whatever. And so I think you have to be honest with your friend, too. When you know it's something that you would like to share with your husband. He is your husband, after all. Like, if you can be honest and they can give you that permission, I think that's great. Just talk it out in that moment. Or you can even say before they say it, like, hey, I love you. If this is something that my husband doesn't need to know and it has to do with, you know, anything that he needs to know, then our relationship is very open. I'd love to talk to him about it. Or if it's like, okay, if it's just a girl chat, he doesn't need to know. It's irrelevant. Absolutely. I will keep that secret for you. That goes in the vault. And so I do think there are times where you should just be honest with your friend and just be like, hey, actually, the way our marriage is, is. Is, like, we're very open, and I'd like to talk to him about this. Or I totally get it. Vault. He doesn't need to know that.

[B]

But if it's ever like, hey, can I tell you a secret? Like, Christian's just the worst. But don't tell him I said that.

[A]

I'm probably gonna tell him.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Because we need to work through that.

[B]

But moving on.

[A]

Okay, moving on. How do y' all work through an argument and disagreement with each other?

[B]

We haven't had an argument in a while, so I'll have to think about this one.

[A]

That's a joke. That's a joke.

[B]

We keep coming back to communication.

[A]

We've had lots of arguments lately.

[B]

We've had a ton of arguments. But it comes back to communication. And a lot of this not to segue. How has life been adjusting to a family of three been segue into that? Some arguments have come from just the hecticness of. Is hecticness of word. Just from the hectic.

[A]

It might not be, but from life being hectic.

[B]

Some of our arguments have sprouted up because of that.

[A]

I mean, yeah, but it comes out of communication. It's very refining time of our. Of our life. I keep saying that. It's. It's one of those things where it's like. Because it's so hectic and Wild. It's just easy for the water to boil over, you know, and for things to just come up. I mean, when you have three kids. Kids and the ages our kids are, it requires so much of you individually and together. And I think it's just left a lot of, you know, room for us to have disagreements and argue and have to wrestle it out. But I was going to say the same thing. Communication and sticking with the argument until it is either resolved or you've grown from it or you've learned from it. Obviously not all arguments are going to be able to be resolved in some moments because it's like, okay, this is like a bigger conversation. We might have to come back to. To this. But like, I'm growing in it, or I acknowledge it's a problem or I'm working on. I'm going to talk to a friend about that. I'm going to talk to my mentor, I'm going to talk to our counselor. I'm going to go read some proverbs. I'm going to read a book on that. Like, we're willing to grow, we're willing to learn, and we're willing to have those conversations. And I think that's why, like, I am super proud of us in our marriage right now, because although there have been a lot of arguments, arguments and things that have come up, it has only made us better. And I truly mean that. And I think both of us even know that in the moment. It's like we're arguing this out for a reason and for a purpose. And because ultimately we want to be better. Like, one thing we keep at the forefront of our mind is like, I. This is the kind of mom I want to be. This is the kind of dad I want to be. This kind of marriage we want to have, and to do that, I gotta uproot this in my life. You know, to do that, I gotta become more patient. I gotta, you know, work on my, like, like whatever it is, what you. You fill in the blank for whatever it is for your life. And so, yeah, I think sticking with an argument, sticking with that communication until, you know you're growing from it, until you have, like, a plan on how I can be better. One thing, too, I heard in Proverbs a lot today was, like, how good it is to, like, prepare for something. Even, like, Proverbs 31:1. When you think about all the things this woman did and was it all came from that she was prepared for it. Like, the reason that the snowstorm didn't, like, hurt her family. Is because they had clothing for the snow. The reason, like she was able to have a field or whatever is because she like sowed the seeds in the ground and everything that she eventually became, it started with her doing something to get there. And I think about that in our marriage, like we're sowing seeds right now and plowing ground right now. That is hard and sometimes feels like, you know, the dirty work. But one day, like, man, it's gonna be so beautiful. And we know we're working towards something beautiful and we know we're working towards a home that is gonna be filled with all the things that we desire for it to be. And so I think, you know, there's so much good in our season right now. There's. We've laughed so much and even talked about how fun of a week we've had in the midst of also arguing it out.

[B]

Yeah. Traveling to New York with, with a four year old, two year old and two month old will. It'll push some buttons.

[A]

It'll bring some stuff up.

[B]

It'll be challenging, but it was a great trip. It was a ton of fun. We had a blast.

[A]

I kept saying it was also challenging. We're gonna look back at this and this is gonna be the best memories. But in the moment, it is hectic. It is crazy. I actually kind of put that on my post. I was like, this is a really perfect picture. But going to New York with a 4 year old, 2 year old and 2 month old is not for the faint of heart. And we even had all the grandparents.

[B]

I'm saying our blessing, our blessing and our curses. It's most people that might do that if they have arguments, it's just they're arguing. But for us, it's happening with 30.

[A]

Of your family and your family, both of our families. So it's in tight quarters.

[B]

It's not as fun of a dynamic when you're both visibly frustrated and you have 30 people with you, you, that is really hard. And that's the most refining thing.

[A]

That's where it comes to that humility before honor that I keep bringing up in proverbs and being willing to listen and learn is because we're at a stage in our life where we cannot hide that we're struggling with things. Like we can't hide it. It's, it's here. Like we're in front of our family and I'm frustrated. We're in front of family and you're stressed. Like it just, it just. Here we are with all of our.

[B]

Chaos here's our flaws, our cracks.

[A]

And it's like, like at a time, I would have been able to hide it. I would have been able to mast it. I would have been able to like, oh, I'm stressed. Yes. But I can just. Oh, no, we did. We used to. I mean, you can, you can go to the room. You can't. You can't hide your emotions. I can. I can be like, there is not.

[B]

An ounce of me that can be.

[A]

Like, everything is cool when you're part of a team.

[B]

God did not grace me with the, with that. If I'm mad. You will never be. Be like, I never would have known that.

[A]

Yeah, you. That is true.

[B]

And it's a struggle of mine. I'm trying to get better at it, but it's never like. I would have never known that you were stressed or frustrated.

[A]

Yeah. But I actually, unfortunately can hide.

[B]

You are good at that.

[A]

And I can be like totally fine, even though I'm really struggling. But now I notice it though. Yeah, but now I can't do that.

[B]

It's like the Batman mask in the Dark Knight Rises when Joseph Gordon Levitt realized that Bruce Wayne was Batman man. And he said, because that was the face I used to make in the mirror. That's kind of like that moment somebody.

[A]

Out there, that was deep.

[B]

Thank you.

[A]

That's really powerful.

[B]

Somebody will understand. What I was trying to say, I.

[A]

Don'T quite understand because I haven't seen that. But the way you described it, I'm.

[B]

Like, you've never seen the Dark Knight Rises?

[A]

Maybe. Okay, we need to watch it because I actually want to see the depth of that moment. And it's probably true. All that to say I can't hide it anymore because it's in front of everybody. It is what it is. It's stressful. It's crazy. I mean, think about it. I'm doing this press for the show and I'm feeding kit in the midst of the whole thing. And I'm waking up in the middle of the night. So we didn't get the girls to bed till like 11 something each night because, hello, it's so hard to keep anyone on a schedule when you travel. And then I had to set my alarm for two to make sure I have milk to start for the next day to pump. And then I had a wake up call at 6 to start with hair, makeup to get ready, then the interviews all throughout the day. But in between each one, I'm feeding kit. Then I get back to the crazies. And that's all fun and hectic and wild, but, like, you're sleep deprived, you know, and everything is a little bit hard, and you're in front of everybody. And so, like, pressure, you know, Pressure.

[B]

What is surface pressure?

[A]

Yeah, it is hard. And no matter, like, what season you're in as a mom or, you know, it can be at any season, but I do feel, as a mom, like, it does feel overwhelming a lot of times. You don't have to be doing a New York trip for just it to be extremely overwhelming when you are in a lack of sleep, when you're trying to keep everybody together, when you're trying to, you know, discipline this kid and love on that kid and everybody feel equal and loved and, you know, seen and then you're working, and it just is hard, you know, and so all that to say, um, it's okay to, like, let that be seen and let that be shown. I think just also have the humility to let people speak into it and know, like, you're not a failure. You're not a bad mom. You're not, like, you're. You're just tired. You know, you're just doing the best that you can with what you have. And the people who are speaking into your life are not shaming you or judging you. They're actually just trying to help you. That's what I'm learning is, like, I can't be embarrassed by it. I just have to lean into it and say, like, thank you for loving me enough to help me, you know, And I'm gonna receive that. And so that's what's helping me right now.

[B]

That's great.

[A]

Well, this was fun.

[B]

This was fun.

[A]

Thank you all.

[B]

And deep.

[A]

And it was all the things.

[B]

It was thrilling.

[A]

Do you have another movie analogy for us?

[B]

Do I have another movie analogy?

[A]

The Dark Knight one was pretty epic.

[B]

Thank you.

[A]

We could just end on that. That.

[B]

Yeah, we can just sit on that one.

[A]

We'll end on that one. Well, thanks for sending in such great questions as always. Like I said, thanks for trusting us with deep questions. Thanks for even asking us the silly ones, too, and following along our lives. We never take it for granted how incredible you guys are. And we love to meet y'. All. It's been fun, even just different travels. We've had people coming up and listening to the podcast. It's such a blessing. And so I hope this encouraged you. I hope you have a great week moving forward. Be the light of the world. That's what we tell our kids. I'm going to start telling y', all, too.

[B]

I do have one more movie reference.

[A]

Oh, hit us.

[B]

I'm a survivor.

[A]

A single mom. Should I do my Reba impersonation? Not now. I'll leave that for next time.