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You cannot use what you do not have. So if you're shy, be shy. If you're outgoing, be outgoing.

- I'm not outgoing.

- That's okay

She may not want the whole truth, but she does want the real you. She may not want to see it all at once, but she does want to see it.

So tonight, when you're wondering what to say, how you look, or if she likes you... just remember, she is already out with you. That means she said yes when she could have said no. That means she made a plan when she could have just blown you off. So that means it is no longer your job to try to make her like you. It is your job not to mess it up.

The shoes are hot. You went to the place I told you? Yeah, but I don't think they're really me. "You" is a very fluid concept right now. You bought the shoes. You look great in the shoes. That's the you I'm talking about.

The key tonight is hang back. Give her plenty of space. If she lingers at a photograph, move on. But maintain the visual. It's supposed to be 64 and clear tonight. So when you leave the club, walk a little. Ask her what she thought about the show... what was her favorite photograph, why that one. And when she answers, don't be looking at her mouth. Don't be wondering what she looks like naked. Listen to what she is saying and respond. Listen and respond.