Tips For Being a Good Dad

Summary

You Betcha Radio: Tips For Being a Good Dad Release Date: July 7, 2025

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Introduction

In the July 7, 2025 episode of "You Betcha Radio," host You Betcha and his co-hosts Ryan, Tyler, and Finn delve into the multifaceted journey of fatherhood. From the whirlwind experience of hospital births to practical parenting tips, the trio offers a blend of humor and insightful advice aimed at new and expecting dads. This detailed summary encapsulates their key discussions, notable quotes, and valuable takeaways for listeners.

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1. The Rapid Pace of Hospital Births

The episode kicks off with Ryan sharing his recent experience as a first-time father, highlighting the swift nature of hospital deliveries.

• Ryan [00:03]: "Just found out I'm a confirmed first time sex haver."
• Ryan [00:05]: "It was a blast. But gonna need some dad tips."

The conversation quickly shifts to the logistics of hospital births versus home births.

• Ryan [00:15]: "When you go to the hospital... you get tagged and leave with the baby. That's how quick you guys are at having kids."
• Tyler [00:49]: "We just set a record, this last one to 30 hours in and out."
• Ryan [00:52]: "Coffee's still warm."

This segment underscores the efficiency of hospital settings, contrasting it with the, often more personalized, experience of home births.

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2. Embracing the "Last Moment of Bliss"

A significant portion of the discussion revolves around the crucial moments leading up to labor.

• Ryan [01:29]: "There's going to be a time after the epidural and before labor starts, that is gonna be your last moment of bliss before you have someone that you're responsible for, for life."
• Finn [01:51]: "Quite literally the calm before the storm."
• Ryan [02:02]: "Just remember this is your last moment of bliss because the wife's all numbed up... you get to chill."

The hosts emphasize the importance of savoring this peaceful window before the intense responsibilities of parenthood fully set in.

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3. Practical Tips on Baby Clothing: Zipper vs. Button Jammies

Transitioning to post-birth care, the trio discusses the challenges of dressing newborns.

• Finn [02:53]: "I've told every expecting dad... buy the zipper jammies instead of the snap jammies."
• Tyler [03:25]: "You've never seen intense focus until you see a dad trying."
• Finn [03:59]: "Another good move. They make magnet ones now."

The conversation highlights the practicality of zipper and magnetic jammies over traditional button-up ones, especially when dealing with fidgety infants or special medical needs, as Finn mentions his son’s club foot requiring specific attire.

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4. Preparing for the Hospital: Packing Essentials Ahead of Time

Tyler shares invaluable advice on organizing for the hospital stay.

• Tyler [04:26]: "Pack your hospital bag a week or two before you actually think you need to pack it."
• Ryan [04:29]: "Put those in your sock drawer and then buy another... you have that extra stash."

The hosts recommend preparing in advance to avoid last-minute stress, ensuring all necessary items are readily accessible.

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5. Avoiding Fainting: The Importance of Eating Before Labor

Addressing the physical demands of childbirth, Tyler advises expectant dads to maintain their energy levels.

• Tyler [05:14]: "Make sure you get something in your tummy before you start going..."
• Ryan [05:21]: "No turning back. Yeah."

The emphasis is on having a nutritious meal before labor begins to prevent dizziness or fainting during the process.

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6. Limiting Phone Use: Being Present for Your Kids

Concluding with a discussion on modern parenting challenges, the hosts stress the significance of minimizing distractions.

• Ryan [05:45]: "When you're parenting, just try and be on your phone as least amount as possible."
• Finn [06:17]: "Kids are always looking back to see if I'm watching them play."
• Finn [07:14]: "I bought a thing called a brick that locks me out of my phone..."

They advocate for reducing screen time to foster meaningful interactions and create lasting memories with children. By setting boundaries with phone usage, dads can demonstrate the value of presence over digital distractions.

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Conclusion

Throughout this episode of "You Betcha Radio," the hosts blend humor with practical advice, offering a comprehensive guide for new and expecting fathers. From navigating the fast-paced environment of hospital births to implementing effective parenting strategies, Ryan, Tyler, and Finn provide listeners with actionable tips to embrace fatherhood confidently. Whether it's preparing for the unexpected, choosing the right baby gear, or prioritizing family time over screens, this episode serves as a valuable resource for dads striving to be their best.

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Notable Quotes:

• Ryan [01:49]: "It's like you, now you just... there's this veil of responsibility over everything you do after that moment."
• Finn [07:25]: "Kids look back to see if I'm watching them play, and I'm looking at my phone instead."
• Tyler [07:25]: "If you have no reason to not be on your phone, you're signaling to your kid that the phone is more important than that."

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Transcript

[Ryan]

Just found out I'm a confirmed first time sex haver.

[Finn]

Oh, yeah, Finn, congrats.

[Ryan]

It was a blast. But gonna need some dad tips.

[Tyler]

The sex was a blast.

[Finn]

Sure was.

[Ryan]

This kind of weird one when you're. Like when you go to the hospital, if you're doing. If you're doing a home birth, this probably doesn't apply. Probably.

[Finn]

Yeah. So just fast forward if.

[Ryan]

Yeah. If anyone is doing a home birth, fast forward this next piece of adv. You go to the hospital, it's going to be a shock at first. Right. And it also depends on the situation. You know, I think Ryan, he just shows up to the hospital, they tag his arm and they leave with the baby. Is about how it goes for you guys. That's how quick you guys are at having kids.

[Tyler]

Yeah, we just set a record, this last one to 30 hours in and out.

[Ryan]

Coffee's still warm.

[Tyler]

Coffee's still warm.

[Finn]

Yeah.

[Ryan]

Yeah. You put that in a tumbler, your coffee's not even getting.

[Tyler]

No, I didn't even have time to eat in the little kitchen.

[Ryan]

So you guys are in and out. So again, if you're like Ryan and you're just planning on pumping them in.

[Finn]

And out, that's how he got this mess in the first place.

[Ryan]

You can fast forward to this as well. Now, for the rest of you normal people like me and maybe Tyler, I don't know, there's going to be a moment after you check in, there's going to be some contracting going on. And then if you're also, if you're a natural person, you don't want to do an epidural, fast forward to this. This won't apply.

[Tyler]

Yep.

[Ryan]

All right, so now. Now that I have the correct audience here, all four of you, there's gonna be. There's gonna be a time after the epidural and before labor starts, that is gonna be your last moment of bliss before you have someone that you're responsible for, for life.

[Finn]

Quite literally the calm before the storm.

[Ryan]

It's quite literally when you're in that moment, just recognize it and just enjoy it. And I'm not saying that it gets bad after that. It's just different after that.

[Tyler]

Big time. Yeah.

[Ryan]

It's like you, now you just. You. You're like. There's this veil of responsibility over everything you do after that moment, but up until then, just remember this is your last moment of bliss because the wife's all numbed up, so you're just. She's not in any pain, so she's chilling. Therefore you get to chill and it's the like. Would you agree with me, Tom?

[Finn]

Yeah, it's like from when the epidural kicks in to right before they start pushes, that's the mo that that's your window. Regardless of how long that ends up being. That's the window.

[Ryan]

You got the window.

[Finn]

Yep.

[Ryan]

So that's one piece of advice for an expecting dad. What else do you guys got?

[Finn]

Yeah, Are we giving like, does he want post birth of baby or like delivery stuff? Not doesn't say anything you want.

[Ryan]

Okay. This is called a, this is a town hall meeting about it.

[Tyler]

It's open form.

[Finn]

I just saw somebody meme this piece of advice because apparently it's been given a thousand times. But. And I'm guilty of doing it. I've told every expecting dad of my, like friends of mine to buy the zipper jammies instead of the snap jammies. Because when they're, when they're mobile and they're kicking and they're squirming and they're. They're flopping, one zip up is a hell of a lot easier than 15 buttons. And then when you get one button wrong, they're all wrong.

[Tyler]

Yeah.

[Finn]

And you gotta rip it open and start over.

[Ryan]

We have one pair of button jammies and they start from the ankle. So there's like eight buttons that go all the way up and around.

[Tyler]

You've never seen intense focus until you see a dad trying.

[Ryan]

You never seen the tongue like this, like.

[Tyler]

Yeah, the MJ tongue. Until you see a dad trying to get button jammies all the way to the top perfectly. With a kid who's on the verge of probably squirming off.

[Finn]

Right.

[Ryan]

Another good move. They make magnet ones now.

[Tyler]

Oh, we have a couple of those.

[Ryan]

Pretty nice.

[Finn]

Yep.

[Ryan]

That's even better than the zipper go. And they stick together.

[Tyler]

Yeah.

[Finn]

That is sweet.

[Tyler]

Yeah.

[Finn]

So our last kid, he had a club foot when he was born. So he's got these weird ass snowboard type brace things he's got to wear. So we had to do button jammies because we had to have it. So his feet were sticking out and her feet can't stick out in the zip up ones. And I forgot how. How much harder those are. Yeah, they're just a nightmare zone, dude.

[Ryan]

That's a good piece of advice.

[Tyler]

I got a couple pieces of advice. I would say the first one is pack your hospital bag a week or two before you actually think you need to pack it because you don't want to be like me and baby number one and just pack it Trying to get out the door, going to the hospital. Get your, get your vices. Get the vices ahead of time. Put those in your sock drawer and then buy another. You know, get your other. Get the vices again so you have that extra stash.

[Ryan]

And then don't splurge into the vices before.

[Tyler]

No, you can't splurge in the vices. If you run out of your original stock, you have to go get new ones. You have to leave the sock drawer ones for hospital bed.

[Finn]

As far as you're concerned, those tins do not exist until you are leaving for the hospital.

[Ryan]

It's like a good SMP mentality. Yeah.

[Finn]

You just.

[Ryan]

Once that money's in the S P500, it is gone. You won't touch it for 30 years. You won't see it.

[Tyler]

And then the other one is, make sure you get something in your tummy. If it's early morning, get something in your tummy before you start going like, can't be.

[Ryan]

The guy faints in the delivery room.

[Tyler]

God, no.

[Ryan]

Yeah.

[Tyler]

The second that you, you feel one beat of sweat on your forehead, it's all over.

[Ryan]

Yeah. So you're done as soon as it. Sit down, clammy. You're, you're, you're. You've gone too far.

[Tyler]

Yes.

[Ryan]

No turning back. Yeah. I think, I think my real piece of advice is when you're parenting, just try and be on your phone as least amount as possible.

[Finn]

Even if, like, kids are out playing. One thing I've noticed, like, if my kids are playing and I'm not involved with the activity they're doing, they're always looking back to see if I'm watching them play.

[Tyler]

Yeah.

[Finn]

And I, I've caught myself them looking back and I'm looking at my fucking.

[Ryan]

Phone scrolling and like, it's very popular right now in parenting to be like, your kids don't need screen time. I would step. Take it a step further and be like, they. It matters just as much how much your screen time is too.

[Tyler]

Yeah, I would agree. Because if you think about it like, Tyler, you, like, you might have a future memory and, you know, 15, 20 years of watching your kids play outside.

[Finn]

Yep.

[Tyler]

But if you're on your phone, you're not going to have a memory of being on your phone on that day.

[Ryan]

No. You could record.

[Tyler]

Well, yeah.

[Ryan]

Yeah.

[Tyler]

That's a different story. Like taking photos and videos your kids.

[Ryan]

That's obviously, I just think, like. And obviously you don't have to not be on your phone ever. But when it's like when you have no reason to not be on your phone, you're signaling to your kid that the phone is more important than that.

[Finn]

At least more interesting. So, like, I literally bought a thing called a brick that locks me out of my phone, and I tap that thing. Yeah. I get one of those, and then I unlock it when I put the kids to bed.

[Tyler]

Yep.

[Ryan]

Yeah. Yeah, that's. That's a real piece of parenting advice. So. Not that our other stuff wasn't.

[Finn]

Yeah, yeah.

[Ryan]

And also, if you're skipping forward, now is the time that you can return to listening.

[Tyler]

Yep.

[Ryan]

Sorry, I forgot to say that earlier. I'm also curious if any patrons listen this, like, on 1.5 speed or not. Me too, because I'm starting to do that with other podcasts. I'm starting to listen, like, on 1.5. Oh, yeah, yeah. Toss it in the chat. What. What. What time x you're listening to the pod at?

[Finn]

And if we get a majority that are going to 1.5 speed, I'm gonna purposely start talking faster on the podcast. Really?

[Ryan]

Really talk really, really faster. What's the next question?

[Tyler]

I can't imagine what I sound like on 1.5 speed.

[Finn]

You sound pretty good.

[Ryan]

It's pretty easy to find out.

[Finn]

So now they're gonna have to play us on. On 0.5 speed, I guess.

[Tyler]

I've never even listened to a podcast on 0.5 1.5 speed before.

[Finn]

I've tried it. I really don't like it. I can't get into the podcast. I've had to do that.

[Ryan]

And if there's anyone listening at 2x speed, there's just no way you're retaining anything.

[Finn]

Not a chance.

[Ryan]

Deflect.

[Finn]

Remember back in the day, we used to mess around and relisten to our podcast on 0.5 speed, and it just sounded like we were all hammered.

[Ryan]

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