Episode 815: Why 87% of Agents Quit (And How to Fix It in 60 Seconds) - Your Daily Real Estate Podcast with Tristan Ahumada

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Podcast: Your Daily Real Estate Podcast with Tristan Ahumada
Episode: 815 – “Why 87% of Agents Quit (And How to Fix It in 60 Seconds)”
Date: February 22, 2026
Host: Tristan Ahumada

In this brief yet impactful episode, Tristan Ahumada delves into one of the core reasons why such a high percentage of real estate agents burn out and leave the industry: lack of self-awareness and unchecked autopilot. Rather than offering another tactic or tool, Tristan suggests a powerful one-minute daily check-in to reset intention and presence—a simple act he believes can fundamentally shift an agent’s trajectory towards success and fulfillment.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The Real Problem: Constant Reactivity and Burnout

Checking everything—except yourself: Tristan observes that agents religiously check their phones, emails, and social platforms (00:40), but rarely check in with themselves.
- "You check your CRM, you check your email, you check your Instagram... But when was the last time you actually checked in with yourself?" (00:40)
Running on autopilot: Most agents are constantly reacting to market pressures, clients, and notifications—leading to burnout and feeling stuck in a loop of unproductive busyness (01:13).
- "You're running on autopilot... and you wonder why you feel burnt out or off track." (01:20)
Energy transfer: Unchecked stress and lack of awareness seeps into client interactions—clients notice even if they can't articulate what’s off (02:00).

2. Tristan’s 60-Second Daily Self-Check-In

A simple 3-question ritual: Tristan introduces a daily exercise of asking oneself three questions in just one minute, to foster intention and self-alignment (02:35).
1. How do I feel right now?
  - Be specific—don’t settle for generic answers. Name your actual state (anxious, energized, frustrated, etc.) (02:46).
    - "You can't fix what you can't name. So name it." (02:58)
2. What’s driving my actions today?
  - Are you acting with intention or just reacting to fires? (03:16)
  - "There's a big difference between being busy and being productive. Most agents are confusing the two." (03:33)
3. Is what I'm doing right now aligned with who I want to become?
  - Are your actions leading to the life and reputation you actually want, or simply hitting arbitrary sales targets? (04:00)
  - "You can hit every sales goal and still feel completely lost if that direction is wrong." (04:10)
Build it into an existing routine: Attach the practice to a habit you already have—like while having morning coffee (04:30).
- "Tie it to something you already do... Coffee. Great. Three questions. Here we go." (04:37)

3. Anchoring with Purpose & Reflection

Morning and evening routines: Tristan mentions his personal “Marvel morning routine” and “prepare evening routine” as bookends for intention and reflection (04:48).
The power of writing it down: Even jotting a single line forces honesty and clarity (05:15).
- Referencing Benjamin Franklin’s habit of tracking 13 virtues as a historical analog to self-accountability (05:20).

4. The Consequences (and Benefits) of Self-Check-Ins

Patterns and consistency: Agents who skip self-checks tend to have chaotic weeks; those who pause and recalibrate show up sharper and more present (06:05).
Self-relationship as the foundation: Real relationships with clients begin with a healthy relationship with oneself (06:38).
- "Real relationships start with the one you have with yourself. If that one's off, everything else is off." (06:40)

5. Final Encouragement

You don’t need elaborate systems: Journaling and coaching are great but not always necessary for this step. What matters is 60 seconds of honesty daily (07:00).
Put down your devices: Don’t check your phone or socials—“Check in with yourself more throughout the day. That’s where growth is. That’s where it happens.” (07:35)
- "Make sure you're not checking your phone, checking social. Check in with yourself." (07:45)

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

"You can't lead others if you don't know where you stand yourself." — Tristan Ahumada (01:45)
"You can't fix what you can't name. So name it." — Tristan (02:58)
"There's a big difference between being busy and being productive. Most agents are confusing the two." — Tristan (03:33)
"You can hit every sales goal and still feel completely lost if that direction is wrong." — Tristan (04:10)
"Real relationships start with the one you have with yourself. If that one's off, everything else is off." — Tristan (06:40)
"What you need is 60 seconds of honesty with yourself every single day." — Tristan (07:00)
"Check in with yourself more throughout the day. That's where growth is. That's where it happens." — Tristan (07:45)

Timestamps for Key Segments

00:40 – The habit of checking devices vs. checking in with yourself
01:13 – Description of agent burnout and autopilot
02:35 – Introduction to the 3-question, 60-second check-in method
04:48 – Routines and habit-stacking for self-checks
05:15 – Importance of putting thoughts in writing
06:05 – Evidence from coaching: missing self-checks leads to chaos
06:38 – The foundational self-relationship
07:00–07:45 – Final encouragement and call to action

Summary Flow

Tristan Ahumada’s episode is a direct, no-nonsense call-to-action for real estate professionals to step out of autopilot and recenter themselves through daily self-awareness. With practical examples, humor, and lived experience, he distills the problem (constant reactivity and burnout) and its solution (a one-minute self-check-in) into actionable advice. This short but potent routine is easily anchored to daily habits and, according to Tristan, is the foundation for better relationships, business, and personal fulfillment.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, scattered, or just busy without progress, his message is simple: the first person you need to check in with each day is yourself.

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Foreign. Welcome back to your daily Real Estate. I'm Tristan, CEO and co founder of Y Realty Lab Coat Agents and author of the book Real Estate Prospecting. Just in case you didn't know. And I've been in this business for about 22 years. This podcast is all about helping you build a better career and helping you to show up much better for you, whether it's tactics or mindset habits. Listen, we do it all here and it's free. So here's what I want you to think about today. You check your phone, what, a hundred times, maybe 150 times a day? I know I do. You check your CRM, you check your email, you check your Instagram. Definitely even check Zillow sometimes. And maybe even chatgpt. You're checking everything. But when was the last time you actually checked in with yourself? I'm not talking about meditation retreats or some two hour journaling session. And look, there's nothing wrong with those. I do those sometimes. I'm talking about 60 seconds, one minute. Because here's the truth that most agents don't want to hear. You're running on autopilot. You're reacting to the market, reacting to clients, reacting to notifications. And then you wonder why you feel burnt out or off track, or like you're working harder than ever but getting nowhere. Today, hopefully we're going to fix that for you. Look, you can't lead others if you don't know where you stand yourself. As agents, we're constantly pouring into clients, into deals, into our teams. But if you're running on empty, if you're operating from stress and you haven't even acknowledged it, that energy transfers and people feel it. Your conversations are different. When you're a little bit off, your follow up slips, your patient shrinks, the clients on the other end of that phone call can feel that something's not quite right. Even if they can't name it, remember, they can feel it. The best version of yourself in this business shows up when you've actually paused long enough to ask one simple question. How am I doing right now? So here's what I want you to do. Every single day, ask yourself three questions. Not that one, just three. That's it. 60 seconds. Number one. Here you go. How do I feel right now? And I don't mean fine. Don't give me fine, Tristan. I'm actually okay. Name it. Are you anxious? Energized? Scattered? Grateful? Frustrated? You can't fix what you can't name. So name it. Number two. What's Driving my actions today. Intention, reaction. Are you moving towards something on purpose? Right. Purposeful. Or are you just putting out fires all day? There's a big difference between being busy and being productive. And most agents are confusing the two. I see it all the time. I'm busy, Tristan. I'm busy. I don't. So I don't see where the money is. I don't see where the relationships are. And I don't know why I'm making that voice. But you get it, right? Number three is what I'm doing right now aligned with who I want to become. This is the big one. Not just am I hitting my numbers, but am I building the life, the business, the reputation that I actually want. Because you can hit every sales goal and still feel completely lost if that direction is wrong. Now, here's the key. Don't make this another thing on your to do list. Tie it to something you already do it. Your morning coffee before you start the car, right before you go to bed. I would prefer if you drink coffee or tea or something in the morning. That's what you tie it to. Coffee. Great. Three questions. Here we go. You become more purposeful. You have a lot more intent. This is exactly why I built the Marvel morning routine and the prepare evening routine. They create bookends for me. And look, I don't follow them every single day, but I have something that brings me back when I start drifting. And if you're anything like me, you're gonna drift. You're starting with intention and ending with reflection. And if you can write it down, even one line. Benjamin Franklin tracked 13 virtues every single day. Well, he focused on one, but tracked all 13 throughout the week, throughout the month. Right. You don't need to go that deep. But putting pen to paper, it forces honesty and awareness. It forces you to confront what's really going on instead of just brushing it aside or even not figuring out why you're feeling so reactive or lost. I've coached a lot of agents over the years. In fact, I coached two today. I coach a lot. And, you know, I show up for the brokerage too, and talk to all of these different teams and brokers and owners and companies, and every single one has struggled. It's a normal process, but thriving. While you have to go through these processes, it takes a different script in your head, and that's where I want you to be. They change their self awareness. They started noticing patterns. When they skip the check in, they. The weeks fall apart, it's true. But when they pause and recalibrate they show up sharper, they show up better, more present, more connected with their clients, more connected with yourself. Now, you've heard me say it quite a few times, but real relationships start with the one you have with yourself. If that one's off, everything else is off. So here's what I'll leave you with. Today, you don't need a two hour journaling session. You don't need a life coach or a therapist. At least not for this. Those are great too, but they have their places. What you need is 60 seconds of honesty with yourself every single day. When you ask yourself those questions, go through them and say, I'm going to be truthful here because I need to understand where I'm at so I know where I want to go. And while you're doing it, make sure you're not checking your phone, checking social. Check in with yourself. Check in with yourself more throughout the day. That's where growth is. That's where it happens. Now, if you found this useful, please share this with somebody else. I'm Tristan. This is your daily real estate. Have an awesome day.