
Hosted by Melissa Parsons · EN

What if you thought about boredom not as a problem you need to fix, but fertile ground from which insight, self-knowledge, and genuine rest can grow?Think about this: When you have an unexpected opening in your day—a canceled meeting, an hour with nothing scheduled, or a to-do list that's actually manageable for once—what does it feel like? For some of you, there is an exhale of "oh, thank goodness." For a lot of you, there was something closer to a low-grade panic: a quick mental scramble to fill the space and to find something productive to do.In this episode, I talk about what boredom actually is, why so many of us are uncomfortable with it, and what we lose when we never allow ourselves to experience it. Because making friends with a little more stillness can help us reconnect with ourselves, our creativity, and the version of us that's been waiting for room to breathe.Click HERE to get the full show notes.

When was the last time you did something to take care of yourself and actually felt better after? Not just distracted or temporarily relieved, but genuinely, truly better.We have a cultural obsession with self-care. The idea is everywhere—on t-shirts, coffee mugs, and Instagram—yet so many of the things we call self-care are actually ways of numbing. Today I’m unpacking the difference between the two and explaining why real self-care often looks different from what we expect.And let me be clear: there is no shame in numbing. We’ve all been there. My goal is to help you recognize the difference so you can make intentional choices about how you care for yourself. Real self-care is one of the most loving, radical, important things you can do, and it is a foundational part of becoming your favorite you.Click HERE to get the full show notes.

My nice little life—morning walks, easy Saturdays, and time with the people I love—would not be possible if I were still seeking validation and gratification from things outside of myself.Today I’m talking about a book that helped me put that into perspective. In We Are the Luckiest, Laura McKowen writes about getting sober, but the book is not really about alcohol. It's about the ways we leave ourselves and all the things we reach for—food, wine, our phones, approval, people pleasing, pretending—when what we actually need is to come home to who we are.The reality of being an actual person with needs and limits can feel uncomfortable and uncertain. But in the ashes of the things that don’t serve you, you find the version of yourself that you’re meant to be.Mentioned episodes:Ep 3: Tell People Pleasing to Suck ItEp 32: My Relationship with AlcoholEp 43: FreedomEp 54: Accept YourselfEp 61: We Are ALL Fucked UpEp 70: You Can't Hide From YourselfEp 97: Meeting YourselfEp 123: Becoming Your Own Best FriendEp 133: Stop Rejecting Yourself for AcceptanceEp 138: Radical HonestyEp 145: Living in IntegrityEp 149: 7 Years Without Alcohol — A CelebrationClick HERE to get the full show notes.

Today, I’m doing something I’ve never done before on this podcast: I’m dropping you into the middle of one of our group coaching calls.We had about three weeks left in the current group container when this was recorded, and as we wind down, I offer coaching to anyone who’s having difficulty deciding whether they want to continue or if they feel complete for now.As I coached them through their decisions, these women shared the most beautiful things about themselves, the group, and the work we’ve done together. It was such a good conversation that I wanted to share it with all of you, and everyone on the call previewed the episode and gave me permission to do so. I am endlessly proud of the work I get to do, of these incredible women, and of their commitment to getting to know themselves better.Click HERE to get the full show notes.

When you try to rest—genuine rest, not productive rest, strategic recovery, or resting to recharge—what do you hear in your head? Maybe your mind immediately starts firing back with thoughts like: you’re wasting time, other people are working right now, or you haven’t earned this.Those voices are not the truth. They are parts of you shaped by systems that were never designed with your well-being in mind. In this episode, I’m unpacking why rest can feel so uncomfortable for high-achieving women and exploring how rest itself can become a powerful act of resistance through the lens of Tricia Hersey's Rest Is Resistance.Rest is about reconnecting people to who they were before grind culture convinced them their worth was tied to how many things they could check off a list. We’ll begin unraveling those beliefs so you can rest unapologetically, luxuriously, and often—not because you’ve earned it, but because you are a human being and human beings need rest.Click HERE to get the full show notes.

If you think back to all of your years of formal education, was the clitoris ever mentioned, let alone discussed or explained? For most of us, the answer is no. My guest today is here to talk about why that matters and what we can do to correct it.Dr. Nina Deep is an award-winning physician and a nationwide speaker who has built an entire mission around one radical idea: that women deserve to understand and know their own bodies. She's a board-certified internal medicine doctor and has run her boutique medical spa, Nina Deep MD Aesthetics, for over 20 years. Nina is also the founder of a speaking platform, It's Called the Clitoris.In this episode, Nina shares why naming our body parts correctly is important, how women can better protect themselves medically, and why embracing yourself as a sexual being can be so powerful for women.Click HERE to get the full show notes.

What do you feel when you hear the word complete? Not failed, abandoned, lost, or broken–complete.The friendships that have run their course–that were real, meaningful, and good, but are no longer active parts of your life–are complete. And that word matters, because it doesn’t mean they were failures or that you’re a bad friend. It means the friendship did what it was meant to do in the season it was meant to be in, and now it’s finished. Like a good book, a perfect meal, or a chapter of your life you wouldn’t trade, even though it’s over.In this episode, we’re talking about the guilt and grief that can come with complete friendships, and how to give yourself permission to let some friendships be exactly what they were without it meaning something terrible about you or the other person. When you have that permission, you create space for the friendships that are meant to stay and the ones you haven’t found yet.Click HERE to get the full show notes.

When was the last time you truly celebrated something you accomplished? Not a quick “yay” before moving on or a fleeting moment of relief before you started on the next goal, but a real moment where you paused to let yourself feel proud.If you can't think of an answer, you’re not alone. This is one of the most common and quietly devastating patterns in brilliant, high-achieving women. We move from finish line to finish line, already focused on what’s next before we’ve even taken a breath.Today, I’m talking about what happens when success feels like nothing—or worse, when it doesn’t even register because you’ve already moved on. And I’m giving you simple ways to pause, celebrate yourself, and reconnect with the version of you who’s living this life.Click HERE to get the full show notes.

Have you had a moment like this recently? You’re doing the work, making progress, and feeling proud of yourself, then your brain swoops in to criticize you for not doing it sooner or for how far you still have to go.This is common for everyone. But here’s what I want you to consider: if your best friend told you she’s been doing well and taking care of herself, would you respond with, “It’s too bad you didn’t do this sooner”? Of course not. You would never say that to someone you love, but we say it to ourselves all the time without even blinking.Today, I talk about that critical inner voice and what we can do about it. You don’t need a perfectly articulated internal dialogue. You just have to show up for yourself the way you would show up for someone you love.Click HERE to get the full show notes.

Is there an idea that’s been tapping you on the shoulder? Something you keep saying you’ll get to, and then you don’t? Today, I get to tell you about something I did. Not something I’m planning or thinking about, but something I actually followed through on.In this episode, I’m sharing the full journey of giving my TEDx talk, from the idea that wouldn’t leave me alone to the moment I stepped onto the stage, and what it actually felt like to finally do the thing. I also talk about what happened when it didn’t go perfectly, and how I made space for my disappointed parts to exist right alongside the parts of me that felt deeply proud.Being your favorite you means looking at the thing that keeps calling to you and deciding not to ignore it anymore. And it means letting every part of you come along in the process.Click HERE to read the full show notes.