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Hello and welcome to Zoe Recap, where each week we find the best bits from one of our podcast episodes to help you improve your health. Today we're talking about menopause. For Davina McColl, menopause wasn't just a transition. It was a quiet crisis. She felt like a stranger in her own body, overwhelmed by symptoms she wasn't prepared for and didn't fully understand. But Davina didn't stay silent. Her book, Menopausing, has helped millions of women feel supported and seen during this transformative stage of life. In this episode, Davina joins us to share her personal journey and we shared Zoe research that shows how diet can be a powerful tool for reducing menopause symptoms.
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Well, I think the first symptom that I had that really hit me was a night sweat. And I would have been about 43 years old. I was on a job in Prague and I stayed the night in a hotel and I woke up in the middle of the night and I was drenched, my hair was wet. It wasn't like just, you're a little bit hot in bed and you think, well, I must throw the blankets off. It was bottom sheet soaked right through, had to go and get a towel. Duvet soaked right through, had to turn duvet over. And I thought, my God, I'm ill. I'm really ill. And I woke up the next morning, I looked at myself and I thought, God, you really are ill. I felt pale, I felt like my skin was kind of dry. And I thought, God, I'm so dehydrated after sweating that much all night. And I thought, well, hopefully it'll pass in a couple of days. It happened again the next night and then it didn't happen for a while and I thought, I'm better. So what I've now realized is actually I had little non physical symptoms, so psychological symptoms a little bit before that. So things like I'm a very gung ho person. Anybody that knows me as a television host in the UK would know I've chucked myself out of a helicopter on a bungee rope on a TV show. I see myself as a brave and kind of gregarious, outgoing, robust woman. And my life felt a bit overwhelming. And I thought, how come I can't get my kids ready in the morning? How come I'm crying quite a lot? Not just through pmt, which was kind of normal, you know, for a couple of days, but this felt. I didn't know when it was coming or why it was coming. How come I didn't feel any joy anymore. How come? I was kind of flatlining through life. I'd look at my daughters who would be having hysterics, crying with laughter about something, and I'd think, I can't remember the last time I did that. I'd lost the joy. And now I hear women saying, I just lost myself, I didn't know myself anymore. And that was such a brilliant way of describing it. I thought that was exactly how I felt. But also this low level anxiety of I didn't want to drive to the supermarket if it meant that when I came out of the supermarket, it was dusk. I didn't want to drive in the dusk. I went to the optician's. Is there something wrong with my eyes? Should I get lung sight? No, your eyesight's fine. It was such a weird fear for me. Mrs. Chuck yourself out of a helicopter. I also started forgetting things which we lots and lots of women can relate to at this age. And I went to my doctor. My dad had been recently diagnosed with Alzheimer's. And for me, I thought my dad was actually quite young. He was 68 when he was diagnosed. And I thought, my God, have I got early onset Alzheimer's? And I became very paranoid about that. And I went to the doctor. She asked me a bit about my life. I had three young children, I had a very, very busy career. But I was also a very hands on mother. Cause I felt guilty all the time. I was trying to be a wife to my husband, you know, running a home, put food on the table, you know. She said, you've got what we would call cognitive overload. And I thought, oh, well, that's it. So then I went back and I told her about feeling like I've had a couple of bouts of illness. Does that mean I've got Alzheimer's? Is that another sign of it? No, no, no, no. It's just this cognitive overload. Your body's struggling to cope. So I just thought, I've got to start trying to relax. But the problem was all these symptoms and all of these things that were starting to happen. My joints started aching, I was tired, I didn't want to exercise so much. I was exercise lady. Why didn't I want to exercise? Why was I tired all the time? Then I thought, oh, is this just getting old? Is this just something I had no one to talk to? So my mother, my real mother had had a full hysterectomy at 28 because she had ovarian cancer. So she was plunged straight into menopause. I had a very difficult relationship with my mother. She was an alcoholic and addict. And I have had such enormous sympathy towards her. She's dead, unfortunately. But I've worked with my mother in heaven on trying to forgive myself and her for our relationship. Because if I'd have known, oh, if I'd have known all of this when she was alive, I would have been a lot more understanding. When she was 28. And Sarah, you know what that's like for a young woman to be plunged into menopause. Anyway, I didn't have her to talk to. My stepmother also had a full hysterectomy, but she'd been put on hrt, but nobody talked about. Was embarrassing. And I thought, I'm too young. I don't really want to talk about it because I feel like it's gonna age me. And aging in. Wasn't good. Aging in terms of feeling like a sexy lady wasn't good. Just aging in general, you know, I don't want to get older.
