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Atsuko Okatsuka
lemonada.
Kulap Vlasak
Also with that fire boy,
Atsuko Okatsuka
You forgot to bling bling. Wait.
Sujin Park
Hello, everyone, and welcome to another brand new episode of add to cart. Now this is a show about all of the things we buy, the things that we buy into, and what it says about who we are. I am Sujin Park.
Kulap Vlasak
And I am Kulap the Lysock. And we have some great guests and a sidebar with Suchin coming up.
Sujin Park
Yeah, yeah.
Kulap Vlasak
But before we get into the show, I do want to talk about why I think listeners can hear. My voice is so hoarse.
Sujin Park
I was gonna ask. I was like, are you sick?
Atsuko Okatsuka
I'm.
Kulap Vlasak
I'm heartsick because I wish I was still at my dear friend and former guest of the show, Matt McConkey's Wedding.
Sujin Park
Yeah.
Kulap Vlasak
Formerly Matt McConkey, now Matt Grassi.
Sujin Park
Oh, he's, he's. He changed his name.
Kulap Vlasak
That's right.
Sujin Park
This is for real.
Kulap Vlasak
This is Lurb. This is Lurb. Sue, I've been to many a wedding. Yeah, the best I've ever been to.
Sujin Park
Wow.
I'm not surprised.
Kulap Vlasak
I've met some of Michael's family, some of his friends. The way that we talk about Michael for Matt, and just the type of amazing person that Michael Grassi is, his friends were like, that's how we think about Matt. Aw. And that, like, to me, is so beautiful. Sue, did we ever talk about the dress codes at all for this wedding?
Sujin Park
No, I haven't heard anything about the wedding.
Kulap Vlasak
Okay, so the dress codes. So there were two events. The night before was Michael's birthday and also the welcome party. And the dress code was. Call me by your name.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Casual.
Kulap Vlasak
What does that mean, Sue? Well, it means that you should dress like you're attending a relaxed luncheon at a sun drenched Italian villa. Think open collared shirts and flowy silhouettes in earth tones and lush pastels. Easy.
Guest or Producer
Are you actually reading from.
Kulap Vlasak
Yes, I am.
Guest or Producer
From an invitation.
Kulap Vlasak
I'm reading from their website.
Atsuko Okatsuka
They gave you?
Kulap Vlasak
Yes. So it's easy breezy, laid back, and gay. And so this, these dress codes, sue, like since that dropped when we were told what to do, I think everybody has been so engaged. Like, what are you wearing? Let me see what you. I don't know if you should wear that Wear this. Like, it just.
Guest or Producer
Yeah.
Kulap Vlasak
And it's brought.
Sujin Park
It's brought the group together. How genius is that?
Kulap Vlasak
And what is so funny is that, like, Casey in particular was just, like, trying different ideas for, like, both events. Am I gonna wear this? Am I gonna wear that? Finally, like, the week of, she got this great outfit that was this pink blush suit. And I'm like, this is Call Me by youy Name. You have to wear it. You have to wear it. Yeah. You look so good. Then Matt and Michael show up at the welcome party, and Matt is essentially wearing the same thing.
Sujin Park
A pink suit.
Kulap Vlasak
It's not a bad thing. The equivalent of wearing white to a wedding.
Sujin Park
But listen, Casey really understood the assignment.
Kulap Vlasak
Yeah, there you go.
Sujin Park
Some would say she got the A.
Kulap Vlasak
You know, of course, I thought it was really fun and funny. I think it's great that they were in matching outfits. The outfit for the wedding, the. The. The dress code was fashion forward. And so it still makes me laugh because when they go, hey, what does it mean? What does fashion forward mean? I'm scared. They're like, don't be. You don't have to look like you're fresh off the Runway. We just want you to feel like it. So go bold, make some statements, and live your truth.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Okay.
Guest or Producer
Okay.
Kulap Vlasak
And then just an addendum about shoes. The higher the heel, the closer to God.
Guest or Producer
Wow, this is quite an invitation.
Sujin Park
All right.
Kulap Vlasak
Okay, so I'm gonna do this. And then there was so much talk, like, is that fashion forward enough? Is that. So I posted a picture over the weekend of just Maddie and Michael, and Maddie's, like, best friends, AKA his sisters, basically. And you guys can see my dress, and a lot of people were wondering about my dress.
Sujin Park
I mean, I'm not gonna play favorites.
Kulap Vlasak
Okay.
Sujin Park
Cause it's unfair. Also, you're my pod wise.
Kulap Vlasak
Yeah, that's right.
Sujin Park
But let's be real.
Guest or Producer
Yours was the best.
Sujin Park
It's not a contest.
Kulap Vlasak
But it is in our friend group. It is at that wedding. It is.
Sujin Park
And you chose the color of money. You chose the color of richness. You chose that Gucci green. It hugged your body in the right places.
The slit in the leg.
Kulap Vlasak
Oh, wait, Sue. Cause you're seeing one leg. I need to let you know that it was a double slit. Double slit slits for both legs. Hit that link. The maker of this beautiful dress that I.
Sujin Park
This dress on this website at Bergdorf Goodman by Bronx and Banco doesn't even do it justice. Like, this doesn't even look sexy on the model.
Kulap Vlasak
You're not seeing the doll.
Sujin Park
They should replace this, this weird person with the photo from the wedding. Wow. That will sell this dress.
Kulap Vlasak
Thank you, Sue. It was comfortable too.
Sujin Park
Do I have to add this to cart?
But the double slits, that scares me. But I could maybe put some leggings. I'm kidding.
This was so gorgeous.
Okay, go on.
Kulap Vlasak
This dress was 550. That's not cheap. I went a little cheaper for the shoes. And you know, you look at these shoes, sue, they're from a brand. I was not familiar about them at Nordstrom. Using Rakuten for all of this.
Sujin Park
You guys activate one cash back right now. I can't even search without an activate these days.
Kulap Vlasak
Seriously, Azalea Wang. These are some shoes.
Sujin Park
Wait, were they comfortable?
Kulap Vlasak
They were comfortable.
Sujin Park
They're $109, you guys. They look like they're $5,000.
Kulap Vlasak
But like I was riding the line of tacky. Like that's where I was going to try to kind of do that was my fashion forward like idea.
Sujin Park
Okay.
Kulap Vlasak
And so that's where. Where I wanted to go. I guess the word opulence is what. Yes, I was thinking. But it's a gold platform shoe with a centrally bejeweled.
Sujin Park
Bejeweled gold platform shoe. Yes.
Kulap Vlasak
And then, you know, I wore, you know, my go to small Gucci red clutch. I wore a pair of earrings which I didn't take any photos of. But they're these like gold tone snake earrings that I got from Article 22 and they are a company that takes bombs that the US dropped onto Laos and makes jewelry out of them. Oh, those are gorgeous snake earrings. So it was very, you know, I was also kind of wanting to give. You know, I love that Gucci vape.
Sujin Park
Yeah. No, you gave it.
Atsuko Okatsuka
You.
Sujin Park
You gave it. I mean, I didn't know what the dress code was. I know your friend group loves a dress code, but man, you guys all looked straight out of Vogue. And you, you were the cake topper.
Kulap Vlasak
I. I appreciate that. I also want to tell you because I haven't told you this is that Matt put together a Sex and the City scene.
Sujin Park
What do you mean?
Kulap Vlasak
He. To open the wedding.
Sujin Park
Yeah.
Kulap Vlasak
Not the reception. The wedding.
Sujin Park
Yeah, the ceremony.
Kulap Vlasak
The ceremony. He had myself, June Casey Lara Kindred take on the roles of the women from Sex and the City and do.
Guest or Producer
To do what?
Kulap Vlasak
A scene.
Guest or Producer
Wait, before the ceremony, you did a
Sujin Park
Sex and the City scene?
Kulap Vlasak
No, no, I'm sorry. To start the ceremony. To start the ceremony, the string trio starts the Sex in the City theme song. We take our places behind the mic and then a scene begins that was four to five pages long.
Sujin Park
So basically, no gay wedding can ever happen after this wedding.
Kulap Vlasak
Like.
Sujin Park
Like they somehow broke the sound barrier of gay weddings.
Kulap Vlasak
I played the role of Samantha Jones.
Guest or Producer
Of course, I'm not. Of course there's a few Samantha's in your group, but June.
Kulap Vlasak
June and Casey. Yeah. Well, I mean, there was some talks and people were not happy with who they were assigned. Casey did not like taking Charlotte on. But what I want to say, and I keep saying to her is that, like, me and Laura, who Laura played Miranda, June played Carrie. Casey and June, the actresses in our group, the, you know, true thespians, they're gonna get the challenging roles. They're gonna get more of a word count. They have more stuff to do to convey me. I just say things like, I put dinner rolls in my poochie. That's what me's doing. I am limited. And. Oh, Sue. I was not calm and collected about it. I was so worried about, like, fucking up, like.
Sujin Park
And that's so unlike you too. But that's a lot of pressure.
Kulap Vlasak
I felt the pressure. I really did. And. Cause Matt is. He. Matthew is.
Sujin Park
Yeah.
Kulap Vlasak
It was perfect. It was so perfect. Every moment was so fun. I love. I. It was such a celebration of their love. I love their love. You know, Matt and I, we really. We do. We connect on so many things, but, you know, like, Matt's adopted. I've. I'm adopted by my stepdad. Like, there's some, like, you know. Yeah, there's. There's these feelings that we understand about each other. Yeah. I was around when Matt met his birth mom and, you know, it's. I think he's just to have her there and she's such good friends with Matt's mom, Evelyn. Have Colleen, his birth mother there. And to have them both speak.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Ah, man.
Kulap Vlasak
Man, oh, man. That's really powerful. Yeah.
Sujin Park
Wow.
Kulap Vlasak
To see. To see everybody speak. To see. And it really was just so much about, like, blended families because we had stepdads and birth mothers and husbands of birth moms and half brothers and step moms and.
Atsuko Okatsuka
You know what I mean?
Kulap Vlasak
Like, there was just like so many type of variations of family, of blending of family. And then both Matt and Michael have such deep and rich found families. Like, such deep and like, we, all of us would truly do anything and everything for them.
Atsuko Okatsuka
I mean, start crying.
Sujin Park
Yeah.
Atsuko Okatsuka
I love them so much. And it was so perfect.
Kulap Vlasak
And all the music was perfect and the food was delicious. I don't know. I. I'm That's. And this is why my throat is just gone. Like, I just was screaming and laughing and I couldn't stop crying. I just. I lost so much water weight. Just so beyond touched.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Anyways.
Sujin Park
Well, that's amazing. I'm so glad. I couldn't wait to hear about it because I knew that, you know, you were out of pocket for the weekend. Before we get to our guests, though, can I give a quick add to cart?
Kulap Vlasak
Yes, please.
Sujin Park
I just wanted to give a quick shout out to my husband, Mike Bender, past guest on this podcast. So I don't know if you remember, during the pandemic, there was this book called the Boy, the Mole, the Fox and the horse by Charlie McKeesy, or McKessy, I'm not sure how to pronounce it. Oh, it was like an international bestseller. You couldn't buy this book, really. Like, at some point, it was the biggest book on Amazon.
Kulap Vlasak
Oh, it was huge.
Sujin Park
And there was something about this book where it's a beautifully illustrated book, it's a kid's book, but not really that People in that time, they found hope and love and some sort of joy. And it was very touching and heartfelt, and I think people really needed to hear that and read that. And so my husband got that book as a gift, and he decided to do a version of that book.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Oh.
Guest or Producer
And it's quite different.
Sujin Park
It's a cynical version of that book. And if you know Mike, that's not surprising. And, you know, he was like, this is a beautiful book. I love this book. But there's also a part of me that's like, we are in shit times. Things are shit, and I feel like shit all the time. Let's lean into that. And so he has written a book. It's called the Kid, the Troll, the Wolf, and the Hearse.
Kulap Vlasak
Yes.
Sujin Park
There is a talking hearse with a coffin inside. And, you know, while the original. It's an homage, you know, while the original book, you know, talks about hope and love. You know, there are quotes in this book. You know, some of my favorite drawings and words are, you know, the greatest illusion is that happiness makes you happy. You know, you know, stuff like that,
Guest or Producer
where if you know Mike, you know
Sujin Park
what this is, but he just kind of wanted to give catharsis to just cynical people like him that are lovable as well. And you can get it on the Kickstarter. It ends next week, May 26th. So it's a very short Kickstarter. And then the book will be delivered by Christmas. So really, it's just the perfect gift for, you know, any cynical bastard in your life. If you know myself and Mike, that is our love language. Yeah. It's cynicism.
Guest or Producer
Yeah.
Sujin Park
And awkwardness. And that's.
Atsuko Okatsuka
That's it.
Kulap Vlasak
I want to shout out to my friend Mike Bender. This man, he's so just like industrious in the midst of. He is dealing with, as you guys have read his article in Men's Health, just at times debilitating health issues. You know, I. Yeah, you all want to be cynical, but like I see this man triumph, you know, Like I see it too, you know. So yeah. I mean, I'm so impressed.
Sujin Park
He is truly. He is truly a creator. Like we talk about creative people. Yeah. The only thing that makes him happy is to create.
Kulap Vlasak
We'll definitely post on our social media
Sujin Park
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Kulap Vlasak
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Sujin Park
All right, so without further ado, let's
get to our lovely guest.
Kulap Vlasak
Oh, my Stars and stripes forever. People of America, people of the universe, wake up.
Sujin Park
Wake up, wake up, wake up.
Kulap Vlasak
Take off your socks before they get shot. Off your feet. Because our guest today is a comedian, an actor, a writer, a sensual dancer, a starter of all things. She's been seen on the Late Late show with James Corden, Arsenio live from the Roosevelt. I mean, she was all over this recent Netflix is a joke festival. Every day, working, getting her money, getting her bag, supporting her family. And she still is autonomous and her own woman. She is well known for starting the drop challenge accidentally with her grandma. Please welcome Atsuko Okatsuka.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Thank you so much. I feel so seen. I feel so seen. Oh, my God.
Guest or Producer
That's all we do here is just
Sujin Park
watch what you're doing all the time.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Yeah.
Kulap Vlasak
This is a big part of my life.
Guest or Producer
Yeah.
Kulap Vlasak
I've known you and known of you for a long time. And it's so exciting to see what was inevitable and that being your star rising.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Oh, that's so sweet. Oh, my God. What is this? Just a family get together.
Kulap Vlasak
That's right.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Gone right. Oh, my God.
Guest or Producer
Who's family?
Kulap Vlasak
Not my family.
Guest or Producer
This is.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Oh, yeah, yeah. The gone right part is, you know, what is this? Chosen family? This is friendsgiving.
Guest or Producer
There you go.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Yes.
Guest or Producer
Hi, y'.
Atsuko Okatsuka
All. I've been. You know, obviously I feel the same way about you two, you know, so no big deal.
Sujin Park
Not too long ago, we all, you know, did some twerking together online, and,
Guest or Producer
boy, did I learn about some muscle groups that were pretty much, you know,
Sujin Park
non existent before we did our little. Little dance therapy. It was so fun.
Kulap Vlasak
Sue, have you ever popped that ass before?
Guest or Producer
I can't say I even popped it at that dance butt popping session. I was trying to look for my ass and. And you were very clear about what
Sujin Park
to do and what muscle groups to use.
Guest or Producer
Even if you don't have a butt
Sujin Park
like me that you could still pop it. And I tried.
Atsuko Okatsuka
It was a.
Kulap Vlasak
A Speaking of a. That's the group that we all organize with. It's Asian American Women in Entertainment. During the pandemic, Atsuko graciously volunteered her spirit and her ass to teach us how to twerk.
Atsuko Okatsuka
That was the segue I was trying to give you by saying A plus. So that was good. I'm glad you got to plug that. Oh, we're in a place because it is a beautiful space. It's a beautiful space that y', all, you know, provide. And, you know, I was like, oh, yes. You know, it's like therapy and safe space and all this. And then you're like, can you just come just, like, shake that. Shake that butt? And I was like, sure. Yeah.
Guest or Producer
We hold multitudes as cool says, you
Sujin Park
know, we can fight for visibility and for representation, and we can shake that.
That ass.
Kulap Vlasak
You shake that ass.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Yeah.
Guest or Producer
Yeah.
Atsuko Okatsuka
It's truly, like, for me, it was, like, survival. And that's how I learned it, because, you know, my body, this body of an engineer that I. I got from my father shouldn't be able to do that, you know, but it was. I would just want people to know. It's not, like, a thing. It's not like I was born and I was like. They were like, oh, that juicy behind. She's gonna be able to do that one day.
Kulap Vlasak
I'm so glad that the doctors didn't say that about your baby body. I'm glad.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Yeah, no, that's true. That would be weird. Especially because it was my uncle that pulled me out of my mom. Wow. My uncle's an obgyn. Okay. And my family loves a discount, so they were like. My mom was like, yeah, just have my brother do it. Oh, my God. Which is, like, such an intimate. I don't know if you all have a relationship like that, you know?
Kulap Vlasak
I am certain that I do not. This is beautiful.
Guest or Producer
My husband was bare. He was leaning out, let's say leaning out so hard that at one point, the nurse was like, my My. My knee kept flopping over because, you know, when you're that medicated down there,
Sujin Park
somebody has to prop up all.
Guest or Producer
And he just. He was leaning out so hard.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Yeah. Because he didn't want to get splashed. He's. He was in the splash zone.
Guest or Producer
He's like, oh, God, no, it's splash zone. Don't have my raincoat on. I was like, hello. Yeah, I need my legs.
Atsuko Okatsuka
There are certain things that, like, with friends or our loves, like, we don't want them doing the scientific things, you know, like, you don't want to get a pap smear from, you know, your husband. Right. Ever. You shouldn't.
Kulap Vlasak
Yeah.
Atsuko Okatsuka
That. That. That. That would just change your sex life, I think. And luckily, you know, my. They were brother and sister, you know, my. My mom and uncle. So that wasn't going to tarnish that. Maybe in some cultures, some places, you know.
Kulap Vlasak
Do you think there was a deepening, like.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Oh, I mean, it didn't. It didn't tarnish their sex life. Yes. With each other, because there was none in the first place. But, yeah, it probably, like, deepened their. Their bond, you know, their sibling bond.
Kulap Vlasak
Yes, yes, yes.
Atsuko Okatsuka
That's what I was going to get. I'm still shy around him. I'm still. I'm like, oh, my God. You saw that. You saw me on my first hour. Oh, my God, I'm so shy around this uncle. But anyway, yeah, so it was like high school. During high school, you know, I had a hard time making friends, and so, you know, I was trying to fit into different groups, and it was the cheerleaders that took me in, and that's how I learned what I can do with my body. And, you know, they sort of, like, really pushed me. You know, I can express myself through my body because I had a hard time with words at that time.
Kulap Vlasak
Yeah.
Atsuko Okatsuka
So, like, dance and what you can do with your hips and your butt. That goes back to finding my first community kind of. Yeah.
Guest or Producer
Cheerleaders. I did not see that coming.
Kulap Vlasak
They were the pack of wolves that took young Atsuko in, showed her the ways of the hip.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Well, I don't know what your cheerleaders were like at your schools, but mine weren't like, bring it on, cheerleaders. What were they like? They were like, oh, if it went for a cheer, we would have joined a gang. That kind of, like, a lot of them had, like. Yeah, some. Some had been shanked before. Oh, it was very different. Okay. Very different. I see. It's not like cheer like you see in Netflix you know?
Kulap Vlasak
Yeah. My school, like, the cheerleaders weren't that popular. Girls. The popular girls were a dance line.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Interesting.
Kulap Vlasak
And then. Exactly my year, I think my sophomore year, they started a step team that would maybe last two seasons. And I was a part of that.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Of course. Yeah. Step team. Also pivotal to a lot of kids.
Kulap Vlasak
Yes.
Guest or Producer
Lives.
Atsuko Okatsuka
You know, growing up.
Kulap Vlasak
You know what I'm gonna show you guys? When I see you guys in person, I'll do the two or three moves that I remember. I can't wait.
Atsuko Okatsuka
I mean.
Guest or Producer
I mean, why wait? You know what I mean? Anytime during this recording, if you want to just get up and step it out, please.
Kulap Vlasak
Kind of tough. I think Ivan wouldn't like that.
Guest or Producer
This is a new fact. I'm learning something new about. Well, the both of you.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Yeah. No introduction needed. Next time you see us, just go straight into it.
Kulap Vlasak
That's how. That's how. That's how I will greet you both.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Because you know what I haven't seen in a while in the streets. Maybe. Because I live in Silver Lake.
Kulap Vlasak
What's that?
Atsuko Okatsuka
You know, everyone's stiff here.
Kulap Vlasak
They're so stiff.
Atsuko Okatsuka
I haven't seen a dance battle in so. Long live.
Kulap Vlasak
Yeah. It should just like. It should. That's how we should just be breaking. You know, in this post pandemic where I know we're still in a pandemic, but as we ease out to something different, maybe that's what we do have. Michael Jackson style dance battles. Bad style. You know what I mean?
Atsuko Okatsuka
Hash it out. Yes. Instead of arguments. Yeah. You know, fights in a grocery store. If it's the last hummus and you're trying to get it, you gotta dance it out.
Kulap Vlasak
That's right.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Whoever has the most spirit.
Kulap Vlasak
Yeah.
Atsuko Okatsuka
You got served. That you got served.
Kulap Vlasak
And like, body roll it. Body roll it and see what happens. Just see.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Yeah, let's try that. Maybe you'll get repped.
Guest or Producer
Who?
Atsuko Okatsuka
You never know who's watching. Right. And so. So you win that battle. Boom. You've got mail. You have an agent now.
Kulap Vlasak
Whoa. This is exciting.
Atsuko Okatsuka
I'm just naming movies that I grew up. What's happening? You got served and you've got mail. Two pivotal movies in my life.
Guest or Producer
Career advice. You know, conflict resolution, weight watching. Conflict resolution, body movement.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Yeah. We covered it all and we have
Guest or Producer
yet to get into your list.
Atsuko Okatsuka
You know, I'm very realizing maybe Suchin was a popular girl. Is that why you haven't said what group you were in?
Guest or Producer
I wish that were the case with
Sujin Park
my Connie Chung Bob haircut. I, too, have an engineer's body, but not as. Not as voluptuous as your engineer body.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Okay, got it.
Kulap Vlasak
Okay. And then what years did you teach? Sunday school.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Oh, you taught Sunday school? Yeah. Sounds like you were pretty popular. God was on me.
Kulap Vlasak
Yes.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Jesus.
Sujin Park
The boys.
Guest or Producer
The boys wanted some of this, honey, you know what I mean? Buzzing around all the time, just really hard to keep it. Keep it.
Atsuko Okatsuka
They had under wraps because they were like, jesus, she's teaching the word of God.
Kulap Vlasak
She's holy.
Sujin Park
Yeah. I mean, Jesus was my man, you know.
Kulap Vlasak
Mere years later, she becomes queen of mtv.
Sujin Park
Still with Jesus on my side.
Atsuko Okatsuka
That's what I was saying, like, with trl, you. Because you said you never, like, found your butt or shook it. Like, not even TRL days.
Guest or Producer
Oh, my God, not even TRL days.
Sujin Park
Not even post TRL day.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Is it because during that time I was like Limp Bizkit and like, that's hard to dance to.
Kulap Vlasak
No, I mean, she talks about how she was, like, in studio with Usher, completely unmoved, listening to music, eyes glazed
Atsuko Okatsuka
over,
Guest or Producer
windows to the wall. Is that Usher?
Atsuko Okatsuka
It's this Little John.
Guest or Producer
Okay, what's an Usher song?
Atsuko Okatsuka
I don't even.
Sujin Park
What is an Usher song?
Kulap Vlasak
You know what?
Guest or Producer
I don't even know. I don't even know what that is.
Atsuko Okatsuka
During that time. It's probably like, you got it bad, maybe.
Guest or Producer
Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Atsuko Okatsuka
You got.
Guest or Producer
You got a bad.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Yeah. Confessions. These are my confessions. Yes. He had cheated on someone.
Sujin Park
That's right. Yeah, that's right.
Kulap Vlasak
Yeah, it was.
Sujin Park
It was. There were deep times, you know, soul searching times when I was there. And, you know, I have to say, my Sunday school background probably really did help me get into it, you know, with Usher and. And his confessions. You know, I was comfortable in that.
Guest or Producer
Right?
Atsuko Okatsuka
You were like. Yeah, a priest, right?
Kulap Vlasak
At that point. She's a priest.
Atsuko Okatsuka
A priest, yes. Where you could be like, he's a sinner, I'm a sinner. I can relate. Yeah, totally. Yeah.
Sujin Park
Yeah.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Little John and I talk now, by the way, like, just the side note. What do you mean?
Kulap Vlasak
Like, how do you.
Atsuko Okatsuka
No, I want this flex and I
Kulap Vlasak
love you to go deeper.
Guest or Producer
Wait, talk as in.
Sujin Park
Because in middle school, talk means, you know, something more than. Yeah, so. So get into it right now.
Atsuko Okatsuka
I want to bring back talk, as in, like, you're just literally talking to each other. None of this code word stuff. Everyone's so horny. Just grow up, okay? I'm talking to him just like I'm talking to you. Both of you. Yeah, we're not dating. You know what?
Kulap Vlasak
You're right.
Atsuko Okatsuka
I'm not trying to fuck.
Kulap Vlasak
You're not trying to fuck. But I mean, everyone is so horny.
Atsuko Okatsuka
No, that's true. Everyone's horny, but they're just so horny, y'. All. Maybe you have this problem because, you know, you. You are both very, like, flirty, you know, And I'm flirty, too, but I have this essence that sort of shuts down that possibility of hooking up. I feel like when people talk to me, they just assume we're not hooking up. Do you have that power? I mean, do they vocalize that? No. You could just tell, like, I'm.
Guest or Producer
Oh, yeah.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Immediately. Friend zoned. And, you know. Sure.
Sujin Park
Immediately.
Atsuko Okatsuka
We all have our people, our, you know.
Kulap Vlasak
Yeah.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Be our partners. So maybe that helps. But, you know, people still try to.
Sujin Park
Right.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Knowing you're married.
Sujin Park
Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Guest or Producer
Little John, I need to hear the story.
Kulap Vlasak
Here we go.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Yeah. We're circling back to Little John. Yeah. I wanted to give you all a compliment first, though, that, you know, people probably still try to, like, wink eyes at you. Like, nobody does that with me. They always. They always. Oh, my God. Let's go. Oh, a little bit. Like, they feel bad. Oh. Oh, no.
Guest or Producer
It's because they haven't seen you dance.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Oh, no. That bokeh is actually her hair. Yeah. Oh, no. She really rocks that every day. We'll come back to this, but Little John and I are just talking like friends. Like. Like, he's my uncle. I'm his niece.
Guest or Producer
Well, we know what uncles do in
Sujin Park
your family, so let's say.
Guest or Producer
Let's pick a different. He's like your. He's like your second cousin.
Atsuko Okatsuka
He's like my second cousin. Yes. Yeah. Yeah. Where he. He just really enjoyed. Because Lil Jon songs were very pivotal during my cheerleading days, we would use his songs a lot for our routines. And so I sort of grew up listening to just, like, hype that. Hype energy that, you know, I'm not, like, a deep person when I listen to music. I don't need the lyrics to be, like, you know, mind blowing or anything. No, just a simple. Yeah, just a simple. To the wall, like. Yeah, Freaking. We're just excited to be here, you know, And. And so in some of the dances that I do with my grandma that I post online, we use his songs, and he found them, and so that's how we started talking. And so, like, next time we're in the same city, you know, we're gonna try to hang out and collab And I don't know what he's gonna do at a stand up show, but you know, he can just be there.
Kulap Vlasak
You just sit down.
Guest or Producer
Hype. Yeah, he's gonna be your hype man.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Yeah, right? Yeah. I think it might be fun if like a stand up is doing their set and then he just has like a word or two in the background. Yeah, yeah, totally. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Or repeat the punchline, you know, like charcuterie, panini, you know, whatever these are all of. He can be the, you know, you know when you get a light, when you have like two minutes left. Yeah, he can be the light.
Kulap Vlasak
I mean that two minutes, the potential,
Sujin Park
I mean it's endless.
Kulap Vlasak
We need to get into your list, but really quickly, I want to know like what type of shopper are you? How would you describe your style? Right.
Atsuko Okatsuka
I'm very last minute. Oh no, I didn't plan. I'll get whatever version of it is left really fast. I need this tomorrow kind of person.
Kulap Vlasak
You went to art school, number one. Let's talk about, I mean, let's be clear to everyone who's listening.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Right.
Kulap Vlasak
Your, your fashion is very artistic and quirky and bright. But even with that, you're like, what's left? What are the dregs?
Guest or Producer
Yeah, she's an artist.
Sujin Park
She can, she can piece anything together. You are one of those types of people I feel like, right. That you're like, okay, I can work with pretty much anything. I can make it, make it cute, make it cool.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Yes. Yeah. Sort of an unprepped. But I see beauty in things, you know, whatever is left over. Like when I'm stuck in a small town or something. A game I like to play in my head is like I look around, you know, within like the two mile radius that I'm around, you know, at a tiny hotel next to only highways and think, if I had to live here, where would I shop? You know, okay, so I would shop at Walmart. Let's see what Walmart has, you know, that would, I would make styles happen out of the things at Walmart, you know, and I would make friends at this diner because, you know, they seem to have a little more of a diverse group than this other diner. You know, like I'm very. Survival mentality. Yeah. I mean it's a lot of sheer will, not a lot of prep. You know, when I buy things, it's the same, you know, it all comes from our upbringing, doesn't it? Right, the way we shop.
Kulap Vlasak
Absolutely, absolutely. And you're, you're an Immigrant.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Mm.
Kulap Vlasak
How old were you when you came to America?
Atsuko Okatsuka
I came here when I was 10. 10. And I just had, like a carry on and I thought I was gonna be here for two months.
Kulap Vlasak
And your grandma surprised you?
Atsuko Okatsuka
Yeah, yeah. She lied to me. She kidnapped my mom and me pretty much, yeah.
Kulap Vlasak
She's like, we're gonna go on vacation.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Right.
Kulap Vlasak
But then, surprise, we're staying here.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Right. And I think with that mentality, I think that's where the survival mentality comes from.
Kulap Vlasak
That's a straight line right there. That's very clear.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Work with what you have.
Kulap Vlasak
Yeah. And you had.
Atsuko Okatsuka
So I just had to work with what I had.
Kulap Vlasak
Yeah. The equivalent of a large tote, probably. Yeah, it's probably what you had on wheels. And look at you now. Look at you now. Let's get into her list. Let's see what Atsuko has added to cart, or let's say add to small child suitcase. The first item is a tattoo practice fake hand.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Yeah. What? What are you doing, Atsuko? It feels very real. It's very. Tell everyone.
Sujin Park
What is this?
Atsuko Okatsuka
So I guess tattoo artists practice on these, like, prosthetic hands that they buy on. I'm not a tattoo artist. I'm not trying to do that at all. But they. So. So they can practice on what feels like flesh, you know, at home. And I wanted to do this bit. It was for a stand up bit. That, that. And I just, you know, I was like, I want to try it out, but I have to actually get the prop to see if it works. So I don't know how much it was. $40 or something.
Kulap Vlasak
40 bucks for just essentially a fake, fake hand.
Sujin Park
This is a fun gift.
Atsuko Okatsuka
I spent $40. Yeah. And I had it, like, shipped as fast as I could because again, I needed it the next day for a show that I was like, this would be a good show to try this at. And the bit was. Okay. So I haven't done it since. Yeah, it's in our Christmas tree, which still. We still have. Up, up, still up. I love that.
Kulap Vlasak
Huh?
Atsuko Okatsuka
Huh? Yes.
Kulap Vlasak
Christmas year round. Do you think you'll take it down before the next Christmas?
Atsuko Okatsuka
I don't see a need to.
Kulap Vlasak
Okay.
Sujin Park
This hand looks real.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Yeah, it's very. It's a very realistic hand.
Guest or Producer
And it does.
Sujin Park
And it. When you touch it, does it feel like a real hand?
Atsuko Okatsuka
Yes. I know this is an audio, it's a podcast, but I can. It's two seconds away. If I can just show it to you, we can. I would love to capture you Seeing it, you know, audio. You know, I'm a producer too, and I mean.
Kulap Vlasak
Yeah. And we know that.
Atsuko Okatsuka
So just picture me talking, and I'm just like, this is my microphone right here, you know, and so just like, oh. Oh, my God. You know, doesn't it look kind of real? Right? So I'm just. This is me surprised. Oh, my God. You know. Oh, oops. And it bends to the fingers, you know, so I can, you know, plot for an. You know, I have an evil plot, you know, I just. I'm just doing. If you can. Since you can't see what I'm doing. I'm just playing with the hand. But it's very realistic. Yes. And it moves. You know, you can do peace signs. You know, you can flip someone off. You know, have you tried.
Kulap Vlasak
Because I know you smoke. Have you tried smoking with that hand?
Atsuko Okatsuka
You know, it only really fits like a vape pen.
Kulap Vlasak
Got it.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Yeah. Because it's. It's. It doesn't have bones in it, you know, so you can't really. Sorry, sorry, sorry. I got carried away. I really carried away. In his imagination. I forgot about the bone part. And, you know. Versus this prosthetic hand tattoo artists use just for skin purposes. But, yeah, no, I mean, if you. If you look. It does. I can. I'm about to vape through it.
Kulap Vlasak
Let's see. Yeah, go for it. Yeah. See, that's pretty cool.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Yeah, so that's why I bought it. And the bit doesn't work. It doesn't work.
Kulap Vlasak
It doesn't work because before you said it went okay, but now you're saying
Atsuko Okatsuka
it didn't work at all.
Kulap Vlasak
You won't do it again?
Atsuko Okatsuka
I think it's okay. Yeah, I wanted it to be this thing where I'm, like, holding the mic with it, but it's so hard to maneuver that and.
Kulap Vlasak
Right. It's hard.
Atsuko Okatsuka
And I talk about squirrels and how wild animals sometimes do wild things, like eat your hand. And then my hand falls off. But it was just really hard to make that happen. It fell off like, the first second I went on stage. I couldn't even say the words. And then I had to admit, like, well, you know, what's sad is I got this rush delivered on Amazon to just do that, you know, so. So those are my buys. Because now this hand is like, I spent $40 on this thing. And it's like. It's partly why I keep the Christmas tree up, because I'm like, well, like, what? What else? Where else I'm gonna put this freaking hand? It's like, may I know. But shoot.
Kulap Vlasak
What I would do. I know your lovely husband. While he was sleeping, I would.
Atsuko Okatsuka
I would put the hand on parts of his body. Oh, yeah. Okay.
Kulap Vlasak
That's what I would do to Scott.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Yeah. Do you think that's worth the $40? Like, no.
Kulap Vlasak
Well, if you think about, like, 20 bucks is on the Christmas tree, 10 bucks is talking about this on the podcast.
Guest or Producer
Five bucks was immigrant math.
Kulap Vlasak
This.
Guest or Producer
Immigrant math.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Yeah.
Guest or Producer
She just high fived her silicone hat.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Yeah, that's true. That's. No, that's true. It's about how you spread the $40. Yeah. It's not about displaying it in one location like a Christmas tree and being like, this is it. This is $40. No, it's. How many uses can you get out of it?
Kulap Vlasak
Exactly. And, like, if it was me and I had purchased it, that thing would be on Scott's junk almost 24 7.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Oh, my God. What's your address? You can have this hand. Like, I don't need it. I feel like you will get a better use out of this. And you know what you tell him? You know what you tell him when he's like, cool up.
Kulap Vlasak
Enough.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Enough of this. Okay, stop. I don't like it. Just be like, hey, one hand in the bush is. What is it? What's the saying? One hand is better than birds of a fe. Yeah, that's it. That's it. You tell him that. Yeah.
Kulap Vlasak
Two birds in a bush, one hand on the crotch.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Yeah, yeah, that. Those are some four playing words if I ever heard any. Y' all are horny.
Kulap Vlasak
Asuko. Thank you so much for coming on the show, everybody. Please follow her at. At Atsuko Comedy Everywhere. Right, Definitely.
Atsuko Okatsuka
On Instagram, Instagram, Twitter, but on TikTok, I don't. I couldn't get that one. Okay, so I'm. Let's go Otsuko on there.
Kulap Vlasak
Well, I adore you. Thank you so much for taking.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Thank you so much for having me, y'. All. Lots of love is.
Kulap Vlasak
Oh, wait, do you have anything to promote?
Atsuko Okatsuka
Oh, sure. Yeah. I'm just@otskolive.com for my tour that I'm on right now.
Kulap Vlasak
All right, thank you so much.
Atsuko Okatsuka
Thank you. Thank you. Yay.
Kulap Vlasak
And that's it for this week's episode. Make sure to check out everything we talked about on dtocart Pod and in the show notes. That's right.
Sujin Park
And give us a call at 833-453-66662 and tell us, you know, what you're adding to your cards, be it silicone hands or, you know, hot green dresses. You know what I mean? Let us know what you're adding to your cart.
Kulap Vlasak
Add to Cart is a production of Lemonada Media. Our producer is Claire Jones. Our mix is by Ivan Kurev and Veronica Rodriguez.
Sujin Park
The music is by Wasabi and produced by LA Made it and oh so Familiar with additional music by APM Music. Executive producers are Kulap Vlasak Sujinpak, Jessica Cordova Kramer and Stephanie Whittles. Wax.
Kulap Vlasak
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Hosts: Kulap Vilaysack & SuChin Pak
Guest: Atsuko Okatsuka
Date: April 10, 2026
This lively episode of Add to Cart features comedian, actor, and accidental TikTok drop challenge originator Atsuko Okatsuka. Kulap and SuChin dive into wedding recaps, fashion talk, and Atsuko’s vibrant approach to life and shopping. The trio gets candid and hilarious about family, dance battles, chosen communities, and, most memorably, a tattoo artist's silicone practice hand Atsuko has in her home. If you love witty banter, found family feels, and creative shopping insights, this episode is a perfect cart addition.
Introduction:
Community & Dance Roots (23:27–29:33):
Dance as Conflict Resolution (29:26–30:25):
Chosen Family & Popularity Myths (30:41–33:12):
Pop Culture Connections (33:12–36:22):
Shopping and Survival Mentality (37:08–39:12):
Atsuko’s Add to Cart: Tattoo Practice Fake Hand (39:42–45:33):
Warm, inviting, and irreverently hilarious, this episode embodies the “Aunties to all” spirit. Both hosts and guest share vulnerable, offbeat stories with sincerity and plenty of spicy banter, always circling back to what their carts—and lives—reveal about them.