There is a kind of grief that mums are not supposed to name. It could be called ungrateful.. but a lot of us feel it. So it stays private, carried quietly while life keeps moving and decisions keep getting made.

This episode sits with the grief of the unlived motherhood — the version of parenting that was imagined, planned for, and socially rewarded, and then slowly dismantled by reality. Not because the mum did anything wrong, but because parenting did not arrive as promised, and the cost of adjusting was absorbed almost entirely by her.

In This Episode, We Cover

– Realising the life you planned no longer fits

– Changing schools, routines, and priorities without calling it loss

– Supporting children while privately missing your old life

– Being told to be grateful while something keeps breaking

– Noticing the grief surface long after the decision is made

– Carrying expectations that don’t match daily reality

This Episode Is For You If

– Mornings don’t look how you thought they would

– Your days are built around needs you didn’t anticipate

– You’ve adjusted plans more times than you can count

– You support your family while missing parts of yourself

78. Grieving the Child You Imagined — While Loving the One in Front of You with Dr Vanessa LaPointe