In this episode, we unpack the very real (and very common) experience of showing up already stretched… masking it with humour… and then internalising the entire thing as a personality flaw.

The jokes land.

People laugh.

It looks like you’re coping.

But underneath it — something else is happening.

🧠 What We Cover in This Episode:

What’s actually happening when you default to self-deprecating humour
Why ‘being funny about it’ can be a form of real-time regulation
How overwhelm gets rewritten as ‘this is just who I am’
The hidden role of impression management in social situations
Why you leave interactions replaying everything you said
What ‘cognitive downplaying’ looks like in everyday life
How overcommitment + pressure turns into identity, not context
Why nothing changes when you minimise what’s actually too much
The moment it shifts from ‘this doesn’t work for me’ to ‘I am the problem’
What it looks like to move the pressure off you — and back onto the situation

💭 This episode is for you if:

You make jokes when you’re actually overwhelmed
You leave social situations thinking ‘I did it again’
You overcommit, then feel trapped in it
You replay what you said and cringe later
You’ve labelled yourself as ‘too much’, ‘chaotic’, or ‘bad at follow-through’
You feel like you have to manage how others see you

🎁 Free Resource

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https://adhdmums.com.au/adhd-self-test/

If you’ve ever thought

‘is this just my personality… or something else?’

this is a helpful place to start.

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https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-47-quick-reset-no-i-cant-meditate-im-too-busy-disassociating/

Why You’re Bad at Asking for Help and What to Do Instead

https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-18-quick-reset-why-youre-bad-at-asking-for-help-and-what-to-do-inste

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