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407 | Time is a Thief—So Stop Acting Like It’s Unlimited. Slowing Down to Live Fully & Making Space for What Matters: Joy, People, and Connection
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Yeah, I love what I do. But working is not something that truly fills my cup. The last two weeks, y'all, I've been chilling, and it has been amazing. I. I had my launch party at the top of February for Tyra's Table. Then I decided to take some time off from the daily grind, and it's been very much needed. I have been living it up, from gathering with friends and slowing down with my pottery to being more intentional about meeting people in person instead of just phone calls. And let me tell you, it has really helped my morale as a single girl living in la. Powerful. Few things are as powerful. What is going on? Beautiful people? You are listening to the Affirmations for Black Girls podcast where we focus on personal growth and cultivating a healthy relationship with ourselves. I am your host, Tyra, the creative actress, content creator, and mental health enthusiast. And y'all, I have a confession to make. Oh, let me prepare myself. All right, I. I have been stealing hugs from people. Yep, you heard that, right. Okay, so, boom. Listen, one of my daily activities is going to the gym, as most of you guys know. And when I'm there, I just be stealing hugs. I just be stealing them in passing. I'll just find myself hugging somebody without even thinking about it. Not just random people, y'all. Like, it's people that I know at the gym. They know me, I know them. And, you know, we be hugging sometimes, but I just be stealing them off RIP sometimes. But it's become a thing that I do almost impulsively, and I realize that it's not necessarily about the hug. It's about the connection. Over the past few months, I found that the one and only time, most days that I'm around people for a significant amount of time is during my gym sessions. And outside of that, I'm in my own bubble. I'm chasing goals, I'm working, I'm grinding. You know, that usual hustle culture stuff that we always talk about, that need to go. I find myself getting back into that sometimes. But what. What has been missing for me that is real in person connection, human touch, face to face interaction. Just because. And just like I mentioned, just like I mentioned in last week's episode, content creation can be lonely. This job that I have can be very lonely. And even though it's something that I love, by the time I realize that I'm lacking that human connection connection. It's been weeks since I last saw my friends and your girl is thirsty. So I be stealing hugs at the gym. There's something so different about sharing space with people and really being present with them. And I think that's why I started reaching out for those quick hugs almost without realizing it. It's not about the physical contact. It's a reminder that I'm here with other people, experiencing life alongside them. So before we dive into all of this that we're going to talk about today, let's go ahead and jump into our affirmation of the week. This week's affirmation is I make space for joy, connection and the things that fill me up. Let's go ahead and drop in, y'all. I make space for joy connection and the things that fill me up. I make space for joy connection and the things that fill me up. I make space for joy, connection and the things that fill me up. I make space for joy, connection and the things that fill me up. I make space for joy, connection and the things that fill me up. I make space for joy, connection and the things that fill me up. What are some of those things that fill you up? What does it look like to make space for joy? Let's say it one last time together. I make space for joy, connection and the things that fill me up. Yes, y'all. I think I have the joy part and the things that fill me up part on lock in this season of my life. I just need to make space for connection. Maybe that's with new friends, old friends, or even just connecting with people in a more meaningful way. Because if I'm being real, I've realized that while joy is important, it doesn't mean much without having people to share it with. So how do we stop waiting for the right time to make time for our people and our loved ones? How do we start living in the moments that truly matter right now? Let's go ahead and talk about it. You know how we always say, let's catch up soon, but when is soon? It's easy to put off spending time with the people we care about because, let's be honest, we're all busy. We all have a laundry list of things to do. We're all pressed for time and have work deadlines to meet or something going on at home. We start to tell ourselves, I'll reach out when I have more time. But here's the thing. We don't always get the luxury of waiting for the right time. The truth is, time is not unlimited. It's precious. Now, I may talk about this in a future episode more in depth, but trigger warning before I dive in, I am about to mention an experience that I've had that does talk about death. So if you can't handle that right now, just fast forward the episode about three minutes because I will keep it brief. So on this theme of time being unlimited and it. Well, time being precious and it not being unlimited, back in 2018, I had just moved to Los Angeles and I received a call that changed my life forever. Long story short, I had been living out in Los Angeles for about February to November. What is that? I can't even do math right now. Eight months. And I was sitting on my bed and I was getting some work done. Don't even remember what I was working on. And that's why time is so important. And it's so important to really use our time wisely. I don't even remember what I was working on, but I was working on something that was important to me at the moment. And I had my Facebook open, and I got a message from my cousin. His name is Tavares. And I saw the message and it said something along the lines of, hey, cuz, what's going on? And I said, okay, I'm gonna get back to him in a second. Let me finish what I'm doing. And within the next 10, 15 minutes or so, I get a call from my mama. And I'm about to. When she answers the phone, I'm about to tell her, hey, can I call you back? Because I'm finishing some work, and I hear something in her voice, and I don't say that I have to get off the phone. And she ends up saying, hey, there was a shooting at my great grandmother's house. My great grandma Willie Mae, that I have talked to you guys about. There was a shooting at her house and Tavorus got hurt. I took a breath and I said to her, is he okay? And she responded, no, before she started to break down. And this entire feeling was so surreal because it had been 10 minutes since he messaged me and I said I would get back to him, and I no longer had that opportunity to do so. And it really rocked me. And ever since that entire situation happened, I've been afraid not to pick up the phone when family called. But that got a little bit unhealthy, as you can see, being afraid to not pick up the phone and all of that worry and anxiety that goes with that. But it also made me realize that time is fleeting. It is not unlimited, no matter where I am, even with the people around me here in Los Angeles. So I've been getting real about the fact that we can't keep waiting for the perfect moment to connect. I've been making time for friends in ways that I didn't before, hosting in person gatherings, making dinner an event instead of rushing through my meals just to check them off my list. And honestly, it's been. Been so fulfilling. And y'all know me, I'm an all or nothing type of girl. So next week I have two dinners scheduled. Well, one is a late lunch and the other one is, like, after dinner, drinks with a friend that I have not seen in a while. I haven't seen him in like a few weeks, but he's a friend, y'all. He's a friend. I know y'all was like, he, girl, he your friend. Anyways, now you may say, girl, mash some things together. They. I can't mash them together because these two people do not know each other. And that's another hurdle with living here in la. I have a lot of acquaintances and friends that I want to hang out with, but they're all in different pockets. And it can get a little less casual when you're mixing them all together, which isn't a problem. But sometimes I want to be in a scenario where everybody in the room knows each other fully so we can all relax and not be on, you know what I mean? When you're around people that you don't really know, you're on a little bit. You don't really get to, like, let loose all the way or you can come off, you know, anything other than friendly. Sometimes that's. That's the other, like, hurdle I have out here because a lot of My friends don't know each other, so I will have things like my dinner parties to bring everybody together. But then I want to have more casual things where I'm just hanging with a specific group of people. We all know each other and we can let loose in the way that we are when we're in that said group. Y'all know exactly what I'm talking about. But anyways, I have been spending a lot of time in my own world lately, especially with the fires here in la at the top of the year, I took some time to regulate my nervous system and I caught up on tasks and deadlines and I did some stuff around my house. I painted some more walls and all of that. I'm pretty sure I'll talk to you guys about that at some point. But I didn't even realize how much I was missing the simple things like laughing with my friends, sitting down for a meal together, and being fully present. And that's been a huge reminder to me that slowing down to make space for the people in my life, whether it's through a meal, a hobby like pottery, or just face to face conversation instead of sending another text message, sending another email, it really fills me up. I also recently went to a Galentine's Day event this past Friday and I was chatting with a girl that I met there named Amy who brought up the idea of having a long day. Not a lazy day, but having a long day where we were talking about how days in LA seem to run together because of all of the hustle and bustle that goes on here. And having a long day might look like taking a long walk and doing whatever your heart desires after it. Maybe walking to your favorite cafe and sitting in and having lunch, drinking a coffee slowly at the park. I think for me a long day can look like essentially ditching multitasking, focusing all my energy on one task. I know most of the time when I'm eating I'm binge watching a TV show. Like right now I'm binge watching Black Lightning because I didn't watch it when it first came out. So I have been binging that show like while I eat or I'll catch up on emails. But what if I took the time to walk to my favorite Mediterranean restaurant, sit on the patio in the sun and eat slowly, savor my food. People watch. Then after that head to the gym for a good workout and maybe finish the night with a walk in the park with a friend and catch up on our day or our week. I actually did this now that I think about it, I actually did this one day last week with a friend that I met on. It's an Instagram friend, but I met him in real life. He came out, he's a chef, he came out to LA and he hosted a brunch and I went to the brunch and then I was like, we should hang out. So I invited him to my gym, then we had lunch afterwards and it was just a dope time. So the best way that I can describe that day with him, because I literally woke up, got ready to go to the gym. We did. We went to the gym together, we went out to eat and then we walked around for a second and then I went back to the gym because I had a private session. And after that I went home and I cooked dinner and I just ate and I watched Black Lightning, actually. But the best way that I can describe that day, it felt like summer break. Do y'all know what I mean by that? I didn't have anywhere important to be. I didn't have any deadline to meet. I was just existing and doing what I desired for the day. These types of days are so good for the soul. And I, when I was in the moment, I was like, oh, this feels like summer. Like, I missed this. I felt like a kid again. I felt like a kid that was in middle school and it's summer break. Like, that is the essence of what I felt on that day. And I was like, yeah, it's been very eye openening, to say the least. And I can't help but think that many of us are craving the same thing. Less time buried in our screens and more time buried being able to live life and not just hustling through it. And I know it's so many more factors that go into it, like making sure that the anxiety is not there, that the guiltiness is not there of living life, or making sure that you're going to have a handover, a home or roof over your head the next day, even though we're out here gallivanting, living life the way we want to. So overall, I want to ask you, or you can ask yourself, are you really making time for the people who matter most to you in your life? And if you're not, what can you do in a smart way, based on your personal circumstances, what can you do today to change that? When was the last time you really checked in with your body? The start of the year is the perfect time to reflect on how we're feeling. 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And then when somebody would ask me what I did today, like this would honestly happen a lot. When I would talk to my parents at the end of the day or at like midweek or whatever, they would ask me what I did. And it would take a lot of brain power for me to remember one of the tasks that I did. And I don't want to continue living like that. Here's the thing. It turns out that slowing down isn't wasting time, it's actually living it, being present in it. And we talk about this all the time. Being present in the moment. Like I Said pottery has been teaching me patience in ways that I didn't know I needed in this season in my life. Pottery teaches me that you cannot rush the process. The clay won't move faster just because you want it to. The clay going to do what it won't. And honestly, that's a good thing. Pottery has. Doing pottery has reminded me that slowness is necessary, and it's like a metaphor for life. If we keep chasing the next thing, we forget to enjoy what we have right now. Not everything needs to be done quickly to be worthwhile, and not everything needs to be done in a certain timeline that you give it so you can post it on Instagram. Hello? All right, now. Yeah, I'm talking to you. If we keep chasing the next thing, we forget to enjoy what we have. Not everything needs to be done super quickly. And sometimes the best thing, the best things take the most time, and I think we need to embrace that. I actually showed some of my pieces, my pottery, in our video episode last week. If you wanted to check that out, it is on our YouTube. But just in case you were curious about what I've been working on in pottery lately, I have been working on a bunch of mugs in my pottery studio for the last couple of weeks, and I'm so excited about it, y'all. So let me. Let me just share this. So when you are doing pottery and I do wheel throwing, so you know the potter's wheel with the clay, and it spins around and use your hands to mold it. That is what I have been working on and how it works. You go in, you will. It's called wedging. You will wedge your clay, and you will get it ready to throw on the wheel once you have all of your clay wedge. And that takes a good. Honestly, last time I was there and I was wedging clay, it took me like, 30 minutes, and it was a workout. It took me, like, 30 minutes to just wedge my clay. And I did, like, six pieces of clay. Six 1 pound pieces of clay. Then you throw it on the wheel, and you begin to shape your mug or whatever it is you're building. And I film myself a lot while I'm doing it, so I know that it takes me about 20 to 25 minutes to throw one piece on the wheel. One mug. Like, one actual, like, mug. Just the mug part, not the handle. So once you finish throwing your vessel, you take it off the wheel and you let it dry. That varies depending on the clay that you're using. So the clay that I'm using right Now, I've been noticing that it takes about two days to dry to a point where I can add the handle. So I let it dry for 48 hours. I come back to the studio, and I add the handle. And it takes me about 15 minutes to add one handle to the mug. What is that? We're at an hour. We're at an hour and five minutes. At that point, we have a 30 minute wedging, 20 to 25 minutes to throw, and then a 15 minute, 10 minutes to add a handle. We're over an hour right there across three days. Right. So what I'm saying is the best things take time. And I've been working on this, and I have about eight mugs right now that I've been working on. So just do the math on how much time it actually takes to make one piece of pottery. And I have been finding so much joy in that. But I've been working on this because I am planning to host my very own coffee shop, Pop up in my apartment. And I'm going to do it sometime in April and for my friends. And what's going to happen is there, I'm going to partner. Partner with, like, one of my friends from my gym. She has her own coffee brand. And I'm gonna make some lattes, make some pastries, invite people over like it's a little coffee shop, and it's just gonna be a good time on a Saturday morning. And I wanted to have these fun mugs that my friends could take home with them. Well, they may be for purchase. I haven't really worked out the details, y'all, but I'm gonna have these mugs I'm deciding on, on that. Some of my friends say that I should sell them. Some of my friends say do whatever you want. They probably just don't want to pay for them. But I mean, hey, my pottery membership is a lot Clay is a lot glazing it. All of the supplies cost a lot. So I'm leaning towards that. But that's neither here nor there. We just talking about the fact that pottery has been my reminder that slowness is necessary. And so many great things come from being patient and really being diligent in your craft. And you can apply that to life as well. And in a world that constantly demands us to move faster, slowing down gives us the chance to actually experience life instead of just rushing from point A to point B. So I want you to think about it. What is one thing that you're rushing through right now that could actually benefit from a little More slowness Covet has really put us in this tech first state that we have not shaken yet. But I'm here to say, y'all, I have zoom fatigue. I am drained, y'all. I cannot continue to have zoom workouts, zoom meetings, Zoom church. But I will say this in everybody's defense. It's so easy to rely on technology to stay connected these days. It creates accessibility, zoom text, Instagram, DMs, emails. We've got all the digital tools at our fingertips. But I've come to realize that no matter how convenient these things are, they will never compare to the power of face to face interaction. And I used to think that if I couldn't meet up with someone in person, a zoom call or a Text or a FaceTime would do the trick. But I've been making a more conscious choice to prioritize in person meetings wherever I can, and I'm still not doing as much as I'd like to. So one of my goals is to do a little more in the coming months because I do plan on collaborating with more people as I continue to grow as a content creator and a podcaster and an actress. And let me tell you, the in person meetings that I've done so far have been a complete game changer for me. I feel more engaged, more connected, and less drained after spending time with people in real life. I don't know, there's just something about being in the same space, feeling the same energy, having the same experience and just being present that zoom and text will never give you. Think about it. How often do we turn to our phones for connection only to end up feeling more isolated? Think about it for real. And if I'm being real with y'all, I, I think I've said this, but I'm still battling a doom scroll cycle right now. And if you don't know what a doom scroll is, it's when you, all you do is pick up your phone, you just be scrolling where it's Instagram, tick tock, Facebook, your email. Like I be scrolling through my email, y'all. I have this doom scroll going on that I haven't shaken yet. I can't put my phone down and it's getting ridiculous. And I've noticed that one time, the or the only time that I couldn't care less about my phone is when I'm at dinner with a friend, or if I'm doing pottery, or if I'm at the gym. And I need to implement more opportunities throughout the day to keep my hands and my mind Busy. So I don't feel the need to open Instagram. I don't feel the need to open Facebook. Real moments, moments where you're physically there with someone and not just staring at a screen, are the moments that you will remember down the line. So how can you start to prioritize those real connections in your life? We act like time is unlimited, but it's not. Y'all. The weeks, the months, the years, they are flying by. If I don't stop to live in them now, when will I? Time moves so fast. Sometimes I feel like I blink and another month has gone by. And it's easy to fall into the trap of thinking time is unlimited, that there will always be more time to do the things that we want to do. But the thing is, life is happening now. And if we're always rushing through it or putting things off, putting off those messages from family, if we're putting them off, we're guaranteed to miss something. Reflecting on how quickly time flies by, I realized how often I've put off important moments because I was too focused on the next task. And I haven't really done it intentionally, but it's happened because I was focused on that task, the next deadline, or the next goal. But recently I had this wake up call where I missed a friend's watch party for a project that they told me about a month in advance. And I put it on my calendar and everything. I wrote it in my physical calendar and everything, my physical planner and everything. And I still missed it because I overloaded my week with work that could have honestly waited until the next day. And I was so caught up in my to do list and I made. I was so caught up in my to do list and I missed it. And it made me feel bad because I said that I would be there and the hustle will always be there. But life, it's. Tomorrow is not guaranteed. Tomorrow is not promised. And we all know that, we all be saying that. But do you really feel that though? Do you really move with knowing that? Do you really move with an intention, knowing that tomorrow is not promised? Do you really move with the intention knowing that time is fleeting? Knowing that time is a thief? Do you, do you move that way? And in that moment when I realized that I had missed it, I also realized just. Just how much I've been treating my friendships like they can be put on the back burner. And I've been treating them as if I'll have time to catch up later. But no. Our loved ones, our people, our connections, our Relationships should not be treated like background noise in this busy life we have. We can't keep putting them off for the right time, because the right time is now, because tomorrow is not promised. We have to start treating our friendships like priorities and not optional plans that can wait. Who's going to be there for you when that job isn't? Who are you going to celebrate that win with if you don't nurture those relationships around you? I get it. It's hard. It's a lot to juggle. But I think the things that slip through the cracks were only meant to be there for a season. While the relationships and the experiences that you pour into are what truly matter. We often overload ourselves with work and tasks and then beat ourselves up when we can't get it all done, even though we set ourselves up for failure in the first. Hello. So here's the reminder that I want to leave you guys with today. Don't let time slip through your fingers while you're rushing through life. The hustle will always be there, but life is happening now, whether you are present in the moment or not. So choose not to miss it. Stop waiting for the right time to start living in the present moment. Stop waiting till you get to a certain point in your career to start spending more time with your friends and your loved ones. And start to prioritize the people who bring you joy and who bring meaning to your life. Oh, y'all, you know what time it is. It is time for our fun closing segment, and today we are doing this or that. And since it's Black History Month, we gonna do some stuff that is blackie, black, black. I'm looking at these, and I'm. I'm screaming. These are funny. So we're doing some this or that, and it's just some black stuff. Let's go ahead and jump in. Number one, this or that. Soul food or Caribbean food? Okay, this about to be hard. I can already see this about to be just hard. Okay, soul food or Caribbean food? Which one y'all got? I will say this soulful. I've been eating soul food my whole life. So at this, in this season of my life, I am all for Caribbean food. Fun fact. I had a jerk chicken Jamaican patty today, baby. It was so freaking good. There is this tent. It's called Betty's Kitchen. It's a tent that be on the side of the road, and she got some good patties. She be having, like, regular jerk chicken or, like, curry goat. All of that brown stew chicken. Does brown stew chicken Be so. Oh, my God. I had some great brown stew chicken while I was in New York when I went to go see my line sister last year, y'all. I dreamed about that for, like, two weeks after I got back home. Anyways, I think I'll have to pick Caribbean food just because of the. Right now, I'm just feeling more of a Caribbean vibe. I'm just. It just be so tasty. Okay, number two. Oh, God. I have my answer Quickly. Y'all don't come for me. Okay. Beyonce or Janet Jackson? Oh, my gosh. First of all, fun fact. I didn't listen to Janet Jackson for real, like, growing up, and I don't really listen. I know some of her music, but if I just go off the strength of who I know more music by, my answer is Beyonce. Now, I'm not gonna say I'm the biggest Beyonce fan either, but if you look at my track record, if you look at my Apple music, then it'll say, oh, yeah, she's more a fan of Beyonce than she is Janet Jackson. Moving right along. Okay, we got a game. One. Okay. This or that. Spades versus dominoes. Oh, God. I'm just. Y'all about to take my black card, because I don't care for either one. I'm not even gonna lie to you. Spades be making me mad. And I never learned how to play dominoes. I couldn't tell you how to play dominoes, but spades. When I was growing up, my grandma used to make us play spades with her. So I did used to know how to play it, but I hated it so much, and I was like, I don't want to play this. I don't know why. I hated it, because it wasn't like she was gonna whoop us if we didn't play. But I felt like I had to play because she. Y'all can play spades. And I felt like I had to listen because I was a child. But I want to say neither. But if I had to pick, the only one that I know how to play a little bit is spades. Next we got Martin Lawrence's Martin or Jamie Foxx. The Jamie Foxx show. Okay, see, I should. Here's the thing, y'all. I didn't make these up. I asked Chad GBT to make these up, and now I'm just like. Because. Fun fact, I didn't watch either one of these shows. Here's the thing. Let me start here. I was born in 1994. Both of these shows. Well, Jamie Foxx show aired around, like, 1996. But Martin Lawrence Show. Martin started playing in, like, 92. So I wasn't even born. I was a child when this. When these shows were, like, airing. But I definitely have watched more Martin than the Jamie Foxx show. I actually recently tried to get into the Jamie Foxx show and I just couldn't do it. I think it's a little hard for me to get into, like, those older multi cam shows. Anyways, I would say Martin over Jamie Foxx. Which one y'all got you picking Jamie Foxx over Martin. Help me. We got three more. Next we got hip hop versus R B. I'm an R B girl. Okay, give me Usher. Give me Chris Brown. Give. Let me go older than that. Give me. Oh, I was about to say the Backstreet Boys. Jesus. Y'all about to take my. Take my car. Who am I trying to say? Give me boys to men. Okay, give me the R and B. I do like a little bit of hip hop. But I will say I'm bumping R B way more than I'm bumping hip hop. Next we got. Ooh, fried fish and grits or shrimp and grits. I'm from Louisiana. That's an easy one. We going shrimp and grits. But I will say fried fish and grips. Grits is good. It is really good. But shrimp and grits, you can't go wrong. That gravy to be on the shrimp. It just be so good. Especially if you put a little bit of cheese in your grits. Oh, baby, it is perfect. Last one. This is still grits. Okay, we got. Are you a salt and pepper with butter person, or are you a sugar in your grits person? First of all, if you put sugar in your grits, we can't be friends. Actually, one of my best friends put sugar in her grit. She from north Louisiana, so I guess that's what they do up there. But sugar don't go in grits. I mean, technically it does. I'm a chef, so let me remain impartial in that regard. But as a southern girl from the deep south, baby, put some butter and some salt and pepper and maybe some cheese. Maybe a little bit of cayenne pepper. Put some savory stuff in your grits. We gonna save the sugar for the oatmeal because we don't need two sugary breakfast things. Okay. You got other things to put sugar in because we not. I mean, technically, you can do a savory oatmeal. Okay, we're not getting into that today. It is Salt and pepper and butter in my grits all day, every day. Because that's the thing. If you eating sugar in your grits, what are you eating Grits with? You just eating grits. That is not a full breakfast. I just can't do that. I can't do that. If you eat sugars. Sugar in your grits. Please, your case for me, please, your case in the email. Send me an email and say why I need to eat sugar in my grits. But I. I probably won't ever do it. Honestly, I have not even tried it. Every time I see people put sugar and butter in their grits, they put so much in there. I'm just like, this is out of line. This is downright disrespectful to these grits. But to each their own. I prefer salt and pepper in my grits. And that is that. I'm gonna leave it at that. Okay, you guys. That is all I have for you guys today. I really hope you enjoyed today's episode. I just really want you guys to know, slow down. Life is passing us by. And especially living in a world where our economy is like this and we are trying to make ends meet and ain't nobody got no money and everything is expensive. It can make it feel like you have to be working 24 7. And I fall victim to this sometimes. And I just want to share the things that I am reiterating to myself on a daily basis on the podcast as well. So everything that I said today, it's also something that I need to hear because like I said, I go through cycles where I got my head down and I'm just working, working, working. I look up and it's been a month and I ain't been out the house and I can't keep doing that to myself. So I am trying to implement more side quests into my life and I am trying to just do more activities with friends. Like I said, I got the two dinners set up. So take this time to really live your life, because tomorrow is not promised. We got to live each and every day like we don't know what tomorrow holds for us. We have to live each and every day like we are thanking God that we are here for another 24 hours or another day, whatever the case may be. So thank you guys so much for listening. If you are not already subscribed, make sure you subscribe to our YouTube channel. We do have video episodes over there. This today's episode is not a video episode, but I'm trying to do most of our episodes as video and make sure you rate the podcast and leave us a review on your favorite listening platform. The reviews help us out so much. I think that's why we hit the top 100 on Apple podcast. Okay, because y'all be coming through with the reviews and I'm just so grateful. Thank you so much. 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