← Affirmations for Black Girls
Affirmations for Black Girls
415 | FOMO Is Holding You Back. Overcoming the Fear of Missing Out & Embracing Your Own Journey w/ Shanika From Scratch Everything
00:57:20
Loading summary
Transcript199 lines
- [00:01]
Tyler
Okay.
- [00:02]
Shanika
So as I continue to get older.
- [00:04]
Tyler
I am constantly looking for better ways to take care of my skin. But you guys know how every few months there is this new must have skincare product. Do you ever feel like no matter how fancy the product is, you try your skin still gets irritated, dry or just really overwhelmed?
- [00:23]
Shanika
Girl, Same. Okay.
- [00:24]
Tyler
My skin has always been on a more sensitive side and I had to slow it all the way down and get back to basics with LA Pure Natural Naturals Beef Tallow Face Cream. Yes, y' all, you heard that right. I really like how it's made with simple nutrient rich ingredients like aloe vera and raw honey. Nothing complicated or harsh. And it's designed for sensitive skin. But honestly, anyone who's tired of the hoopla from a 17 step skincare routine can benefit from this product. This face cream is super rich, but melts into your skin without feeling heavy or greasy. And because it mimics the natural oils your skin already produces, it helps moisturize, heal and protect all without clogging your pores or throwing your skin off. It's truly a back to basics approach to skincare that feels refreshing in a world full of over complicated routines. And let's talk about that glow, honey. Okay, so if your skin has been asking for something real, something gentle, something that just makes sense, this is your sign. Ditch the overwhelm and nourish naturally with LA Pure Naturals Beef Tallow face Cream. Unlock your natural glow. Discover the power of nature's original skincare. Get yours@www.lapurenaturals.com that's LA L A Pure P U R E naturals.com and use code affirmations for 40 off.
- [01:49]
Shanika
Okay y' all, I have a confession to make.
- [01:52]
Tyler
I am a hot sleeper. My body be running so hot y' all. And sometimes it has me tossing and turning all night. First I'm too hot cause I'm under the covers. Then I get too cold because I didn't took them off of me. I'm flipping my pillow every 10 minutes to find the cool and eventually I just end up with one foot in and one foot out to regulate my body.
- [02:13]
Shanika
But I recently realized that it's not.
- [02:14]
Tyler
Just me, it's also my bedding. Heat trapping sheets and duvets are a recipe for a restless night. And no matter how tired you are, I cannot get jiggy. Witty. Now, I already upgraded my bed. I told y' all. I got the avocado green mattress. And with the warmer weather approaching us, it has given me the push to give their bedding a try. So Avocado's bedding collection is warm weather ready and the your bed deserves. From soft organic cotton sheets to light as air silk duvets, their bedding is designed to naturally regulate temperature and keep you cool, comfy and sleeping soundly all night long. Amen. Everything is sustainably made, non toxic and super lux without the heavy hot feeling that usually comes with high end bedding. And y' all know y' all know what I'm talking about. And I can feel confident knowing that my pieces are high quality and will last longer because we try to make that dollar stretch honey. I really recommend checking out all of Avocado's options and finding the right items to ensure a cooler and more comfy night sleep. So y' all head to avocadomatress.com today to save 10% on all bedding and.
- [03:21]
Shanika
50% on clearance bedding.
- [03:24]
Tyler
Avocado Dream of Better FOMO the Fear.
- [03:28]
Shanika
Of Missing out these days FOMO isn't just some easy to ignore buzzing sound in your ear these days. It's loud. It creeps in when you're scrolling on Instagram or Facebook through endless highlights of someone else' question. If you are falling behind or truly missing out, we're pushing that noise to the side and getting grounded in what really matters.
- [03:52]
Tyler
Your personal journey.
- [03:54]
Shanika
And today, you guys, I am sitting down with Shanika, a super dope woman of God and the host of the Scratch Everything podcast to talk about how the power of embracing your own timeline is so important. Now, this is a video episode, so.
- [04:10]
Tyler
Continue listening here or head over to.
- [04:12]
Shanika
The AFBG YouTube channel to watch us in HD. Now let's get into the episode. What is going on? Beautiful people? You are listening to the Affirmations for Black Girls podcast where we focus on personal growth and cultivating a healthy relationship with ourselves. I'm your host, Tyler creative actress, content creator and mental health enthusiast. And today, you guys, we have a very special guest. I'm super excited to chat with her. Today we have Shanika from the Scratch Everything podcast. Shanika, how are you doing today?
- [04:58]
Hey girl. Hey. Hey everybody.
- [05:01]
I'm so glad that you're here. We haven't talked in a long time, so I hope we can actually get through this episode without going on tangent after tangent after tangent.
- [05:09]
Right?
- [05:11]
Okay, okay.
- [05:12]
Let's see, let's see.
- [05:13]
We're gonna see. So today we're talking about FOMO and the fear of missing out and I cannot wait to dive into some questions with you. But before we do that, y' all, we're going to jump into our affirmation of the week. You guys know we have one every single week, and today I'm going to let Shanika lead. So, Shanika, take it away.
- [05:32]
Yes. So, guys, this week's affirmation is. I release the need to compare and embrace my unique path. I release the need to compare and embrace my unique path. I release the need to compare and embrace my unique path. I release the need to compare and embrace my unique path. I release the need to compare and embrace my unique path. I release the need to compare and embrace my unique app. Is that good? I should do another one.
- [06:45]
I was just waiting for you to finish. That was great. That was great.
- [06:47]
Okay.
- [06:50]
I love this affirmation so much because I have been needing it so much lately. I think imposter syndrome has been setting in a lot. I have been allowing a lot of stuff to steal my joy lately based on, you know, we're both content creators. Oh, wait, I didn't even give you time to really introduce yourself. Oh, my gosh. We already jumping in. I know.
- [07:17]
We already jumping in, right?
- [07:19]
See, this is why I don't be doing guest episodes because when I do it with people that I already know and love, I it just. Right, okay, let me finish my thought real quick and then. Okay. I've been letting a lot of situations steal my joy lately, especially being in the content creator space. On top of that, I'm an actress and I'm living in la. I'm away from home. I'm constantly looking for the physical representation of my success because I'm not home. I'm taking a gamble on myself. I'm doing all of these things and I think this affirmation for releasing the need to compare myself and embracing my unique path, that is something that I have to keep on my shoulder, on my back, on my chest, my armor, in the career path that, that I have chosen. But before we we going, we're going to talk about that a little bit more. But go ahead and introduce yourself. Tell the people who you are.
- [08:19]
Okay. Hey. Hey, everyone. For those who don't know, I'm Shenika and I am the host of Scratch Everything podcast. But many people might know me more so for being the content creator behind Orchids and Sweetie and that is my food website. And a lot of people have probably found me on IG through my real videos. That is what I've been doing for like the past, I want to say, eight, nine years. It's been a while. And I just literally just Recreate, like, family favorites, and I make them healthier, and I give people options to different dietary restrictions. But my newest venture, which I feel like the Lord led me into, is my Scratch Everything podcast, where this is where I kind of get to be really intimate, vulnerable about my faith, about my life, and just lessons that I've learned and tie them to biblical principles.
- [09:13]
I absolutely love that. I just love everything about what you do. It's all.
- [09:20]
Thank you.
- [09:22]
Together. Like, everything I feel feeds off of each other. And I love that the title of the podcast is Scratch Everything. I know you. You've talked about it before, but you literally had to, like, lay everything down and say, okay, we gotta start from scratch. But also, that's a play on food. What, Like, I live for. Like, I live for it. I really, really do. So I just. I just love that. Everything from an outsider looking in, from someone who is a viewer of your content, it just seems so seamless, and I love it.
- [09:59]
Thank you. And it took a journey to get there, because I can't tell you, girl, how many times I had to scratch everything.
- [10:05]
Yeah.
- [10:05]
Like, it has been a series, a journey of doing that constantly. And I think that's the thing that we don't give ourselves grace with as content creators, because, you know, social media and just our audience, everybody kind of wants everything put together, and we're just afraid to, like, be like, oh, man, like, I changed my mind about this, or, oh, man, like, I don't want to do this, or, oh, man, this isn't working. So let me just kind of, like, you know, revamp that or let me just, you know, change it up here. I think we pressure ourselves because we're like, if I do that, does it seem like I just don't know what I'm doing? Does it seem like, you know, I don't have, like, my vision together? And it's like, there's just so many points and journeys where I just think we're growing constantly. So what might have worked a year ago, you might not be on that same wavelength mentally. You might not be on that same wavelength spiritually. So it's okay to, you know, again, scratch everything and just do it again. And so I think that's, like, why I chose that, because I just feel like I've just been doing that. If you've followed me since the inception of Organ and Sweet Tea, like, I've changed my branding. I've changed, like, so many different things, like, constantly. And I think, you know, a lot of people have appreciated that because I think you get to see the growth, too. Like, I think when we try to always be perfect, we don't allow people to see that, like, you can grow and you can actually evolve. And I think that's kind of one of the things we rob when we try to be this perfect thing that comes out, like, right then and there.
- [11:31]
Yeah, I totally agree with you. Like, when I started content creation back in 2017, there was space for that. There was space. Try. And if you're starting out now, it's just so many great. Yeah, the bar is in outer space. The bar is not girls out here.
- [11:55]
Starting with, like, it's production level cameras.
- [11:58]
Exactly.
- [11:59]
Yes. Yeah, it's different.
- [12:00]
Exactly. It's very different. And that's why it's so important to stop comparing yourself and release all of that and to embrace your unique journey. And that's so much harder than how we've said it right now so far on the podcast. It is so hard to embrace your journey. Because I'm 31. I mean, I'm not 31. I'm about to be 31, and I'm like, God, I need to be having kids. High risky runs in my family. Am I going to be able to have kids? I expected my. I expected to have at least one action adventure under my belt as an actor by now. You know, all of these things that we put on ourselves. And I see all of these people that are my peers, who. I have a few peers, they have skyrocketed. Okay. And I'm like, God, I thought you said you was in the neighborhood. You know what I mean?
- [12:51]
Yeah.
- [12:51]
But I constantly find myself battling with. Especially in a digital first world and we're so hyper connected to each other. I find myself battling with that idea of embracing my own path. Even though me and Becky down the street doing the same thing, I still got my own path. We. There's a lot of routes to the grocery store. Okay. You know, and it's. Sometimes it's hard. Sometimes it is. It is very hard. And that's why I think this, the entire conversation that we're having today and the affirmation that you chose is so timely because, yeah, truly, truly, truly need to embrace our own path. And it's so hard.
- [13:30]
It is, it is. And again, I think, you know, I think the thing that. The interesting thing is that a lot of people say, don't compare, don't compare. But it's hard to not compare. And I think it's almost inevitable in some points. I think it's just the matter of how focused are you on comparing than the thing that you're doing? Right? Because I think we're gonna always, it's just natural to compare. Like when we go into a grocery store, we're comparing what water looks better or what brand is better or like which thing, which item is actually, you know, a lot less on the shelf. That means that more people gravitate towards that. So I might, might as well get that versus the thing that's like jam packed. Like we, it's comparison is like a part of judgments that we to choose something. So I feel like that's inevitable. But I think the problem lies when more focus is on comparing than the thing that you're doing. And I think that's where I really found myself for a long time. But I think especially like you said in these recent years, like probably two or so years where everything, the bar has been set so high because of social media and it's, you know, like I was, I was actually telling my husband like a couple weeks ago, like, I low key want to go back to like normal life where like, you know, like we were growing up. Like growing up like just looking normal, being normal, living normal. Like you had a good paying job or you had a job that you worked hard at and you had certain milestones that you might reach, even if that means you were living in apartments and it was a big enough apartment. Like, I just feel like it's so high now because of social media and this highlight reel. And I think as a whole we kind of get caught up because the small number of people who are getting to that and it's like the thing that I've realized is the danger with comparison is because you just never know how people get their stuff right. I've had to remind myself that like, everyone isn't getting it from willful gain. Good game. Everyone isn't getting it the same way that you're getting it. Like, you might be putting in a ton of hours effort and somebody else could have a whole situation, they might have way more support, they might have gotten it a whole other way. Like there's so many reasons why, like, it's dangerous to compare because you just don't know everyone's full story. And so sometimes like what you were saying, like at this point you're like, where's my husband? Am I going to have a child? I'm gonna tell you right now, I'm married, I have a child, I have dogs. And I still am. Like, I still need to attain a house. I still need to Attain a certain level of savings. I still need to attain a certain level of business. So every stage you're in, like, you might think that a husband and a child and all those things, not saying those aren't milestones will be the thing that will set the precedence. But it's like, when you get to that level, there's another level of, like, something else. You're going to be like, okay, what? I need this. I need this. You know what I mean? And I feel like we don't allow ourselves to kind of, like, enjoy the journey of life because we're always trying to get to every destination. And it's like, I think we have to learn to embrace. Because, of course, everything I tie into my faith. But what I've learned with God is that a lot of the times the delays are because he's building character.
- [16:36]
Yes.
- [16:36]
And it's the worst because it's like when you're impatient and you're like, lord, okay, I think I learned this lesson. And then he shows you in another area, like, oh, no, you still have growth here. You realize, like, yeah, the delay is because he's really trying to build character and heart. And so when he does give you the thing you're looking for, we can steward it. Well, like, the worst thing you see, like, we see even in the world, like, people get the things that they have or the things that they've always wanted, and then it's, like, destructive because they didn't build their character, because they didn't build their mindset or they didn't build their heart. And so I realized God's route is always inner first, outer after. And sometimes it's frustrating and it's struggling, like you said, because there's imposter syndrome. There's looking at the next person and what they have and what you don't have. And then it's like, oh, man, Lord, I've been, you know, grinding for 10 years, and I feel like nothing is happening. And it's like, yeah, yeah, I get it. Trust me, I've been there cycles and cycles of it. But I'm learning more and more, day by day to, like, really put my trust in him and his way and his plan and his timing. And again, that's a constant reminder. That's a constant reminder. And anyone that tells you, they just sit back and they're like, walking by faith and it's. Oh, it's seamless. And I just give it all to the Lord. Like, they're not being truthful. Every day is a wrestle. Every Day. Because every day today you might be like, oh, I'm good. I'm at peace. And then tomorrow something pops up. Or you just think about, like, how far you've come and how far you haven't gotten yet. And then that just triggers you. Like, there's just is a constant wrestle. So I think for anybody listening, just understanding that delays are good for us, because we might not think so because we want it, but think about a child. Like, my son is 10, and I can't tell you how many things he asks for, and he thinks I should get it now. And it's like, I know that you can't handle it now, though.
- [18:28]
Yeah.
- [18:28]
So that's how God is looking at us. Like, you want something now, but I know you can't handle that now.
- [18:33]
Yeah.
- [18:34]
And I think that's just kind of like the truth. We have to sit with and trust that he knows.
- [18:40]
Yes.
- [18:40]
I know I said a whole lot, but I. I'm like, I've been in the season and I'm coming out of this season. So it's like, I totally. That's why I chose this one, because I was just like. Yeah. I think a lot of people need to hear it. Like, no matter how much levels, the higher you go, everyone is dealing with this.
- [18:56]
Yeah.
- [18:56]
You know, like, no one is not dealing with this. Even if they don't say it. Like people. Everybody's dealing with this.
- [19:03]
Yeah, I totally agree with that. And a lot of the points that you touched on. We've had episodes on the podcast where talk about it, and one of the. One of the episodes that I get a lot of, like, emails about and stuff is about disappointments. The gift of disappointments. So I go to one church out here in la and yeah, Pastor T was. He preached on the gift of disappointments. And that episode has just done numbers. And basically, in a nutshell, what we. What we were talking about in there is sometimes you have to be disappointed because you're in that waiting season. You may be in that wilderness season. God is still molding you into you, into who you have to be for whatever it is you are trying to be ready to accept. And, yeah, if I feel like if we lived in a world where we got everything that we wanted as soon as we wanted it, first of all, I don't know what the world would look like.
- [20:04]
It would look worse than it does now. Girl.
- [20:06]
Jesse, it 100 would. But it's like, you don't. You cannot grow without any type of obstacles or any type of hardship. We need that, and I constantly try to remind myself that I need to learn patience because that's the virtue that came out the womb. Okay. Like, it's so hard to be patient. But, yeah, disappointments can be a gift. And I just. I've been disappointed a lot lately, but I'm also starting to see, okay, God, I see why I had to be disappointed in that season. I see what fruit has come from that season of disappointment. And it's just been. It's all been beautiful. And life is hard. We gonna all have ups and downs. We gotta have the highs and the lows to live a full life.
- [21:02]
Life.
- [21:02]
We have to. So.
- [21:03]
Yeah.
- [21:04]
Okay. I have a question for you.
- [21:06]
Okay. That was good, though. The gift of disappointment.
- [21:10]
I'm like, oh, yeah, yeah.
- [21:12]
Still learning that gift.
- [21:13]
Okay, you gotta go listen to the episode, because I do. Yeah, it is a good one.
- [21:20]
Okay.
- [21:22]
So we just talked about disappointments and not getting things that we think we should have when we want to have them. What is something that has been bringing you joy lately? Lately.
- [21:35]
Something that has been bringing me joy. Honestly, what has been bringing me joy lately has been pulling away and being present. I had to learn that last year, actually, when I felt like the Lord really told me to, like, pull away at orchids and sweetie for like, almost the entire year. Like, literally the year I was just literally doing repost videos on my social media. And I. At first it was like, what? Like pulling away from social media for a week feels like death. Like you're practically about to start over.
- [22:11]
Yeah.
- [22:13]
So when I actually made it through the year, I found that I actually had way more peace and I felt way better just being able to spend time with family or just, you know, be more in my word or just do hobbies that I like, just rest and not be so into the rat race of creating content and doing all of these things. So I think being. Learning to be. Learning to be present has been the greatest joy because that's super hard for me. I'm always constantly working, and if I'm not, my brain is always working. And I feel like, yeah, it's been the hardest thing to, like, try to really be present. So as I'm learning to do that, I find that that's been giving me a lot more joy. So now when I make content, I'm making it from a joyful place and not I have to have an obligation or I have to do or I have to try to strive for whatever.
- [23:02]
Yeah, I think we're the same person because that. That is what has Been bringing me joy lately, in a nutshell. And I love that we're both content creators because I don't really talk in depth about, like, my content creator struggles.
- [23:19]
Right.
- [23:19]
On the podcast.
- [23:21]
Right?
- [23:21]
Because it is content. So I have been feeling the same way. Shanika. I. I just had a meeting with my manager, and I've been saying this for a very long time. Probably over the last year, I've been saying, I am so freaking lonely. I'm sick of it. Because when I started content creation, I was a YouTuber first. I was doing vlogs and skits and, you know, pranks. That 2017 YouTube.
- [23:54]
Right?
- [23:54]
Type stuff. Slowly. I was in a relationship at the time, but since then, I have graduated culinary school, I moved across country, I started to build a life out here. I'm single. And I started to turn to food because I am a pastry chef. I was like, I really want to do food. That was one of the goals from the. From the beginning. But what it did was isolate me in my kitchen seven days a week. And I have never. I, like, I started to feel like I was suffering from extreme loneliness. Like, I found myself. And I just talked about this on podcast, too. I found myself stealing hugs from people. Like, literally, I would walk up to.
- [24:41]
Not the stealing hugs.
- [24:43]
Listen. So the only time I would have human interaction on a daily basis that I would not, like, like, stop. I made sure that I went to the gym Monday through Friday, right? Or Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday. I skipped Wednesday one Saturday. That would be, like, the only time during the work week that I would see another human. And when I would get there, I would just run around and hug everybody. And I was like, why am I hugging all these people? I didn't even realize what was going on. But you need, like, eight hugs a day to stay sane, you know, like, that's actually scientifically proven, right? And I came across that. That article, and I was like, oh, my gosh. I think that' probably why I'm hugging all of these people. And I also live away from home. I don't have family here. So I would get very, very sad when, like, if my grandma would call and all my aunties and cousins over at the house, and I would just be so sad and have extreme fomo. And even though I know that I can't, like, go there today or whatever the case may be, I think it was mainly because I was too deep into content creation in a sense of. I was just doing food content. I was doing it for money to keep. Keep it going. Like, I felt Like, I had to meet a certain bar. Like you were up there on that bar too. I was like, I need to be like, Shanika, I need to be like orchids and sweet tea. Like, you was putting out content.
- [26:13]
I know, yeah.
- [26:15]
And it's very stressful. And what happened was I stopped doing all of the other content that I enjoy doing because not just a Patreon chef. First of all, I'm an actress first. I have tons of hobbies. I didn't have time for those. And I just had the meeting with my manager and I was like, I am not about to just be doing food. It's not happening. Because when people, when I would meet new people, they'll be like, oh, my gosh, you're an actress too. I'm an actress first. And that's what I would say. But my content doesn't like that. And so I kind of, in talking to my actor friends, they're like, girl, did you give up on acting? And that, that make me so mad. And I'm like, yeah, okay, let me reevaluate where all of my time is going. So all of that stuff and me being super lonely, I'm just like, how can I make this work better? Because I do live alone. I don't have a job job. I. I have to actively add these things to my life. So I said, we're not just doing food. And when I do food, I want it to be more community based based. So that's why I had a picnic a couple of weeks ago. It was for a brand deal, but. And I didn't have to do that. But if I want to have a full life while I'm out here in la, a very expensive place to live, chasing my dreams, making sure that bills are still getting paid, I have to creatively add in those moments where I'm not just working just to work. So I've been very lonely. And now I've been making more time for my hobbies. I have been buying more time to get together with friends and all of that stuff. And I do feel a lot better, but I'm still at the very beginning parts of that. So that's what's been bringing me joy.
- [28:00]
Nice. I love that. I love that. And I told. And I totally understand it because I had those feelings of being lonely too. And I think what we have to talk about, though, there's a difference between feeling lonely and being alone. Exactly.
- [28:17]
All the podcast episodes, we just talked about that too.
- [28:21]
Yeah. And so when you look at, when you feel that you're lonely. Just understand that that's a different, more inner heart thing than being alone. Because you could be alone and not be lonely. Right. I had to learn that. I don't know if you've heard any of my episodes where I spoke about, like, having to, like, literally leave my family and, like, like, not talk to my family, like, literally excommunicate myself for my entire family. A couple years ago I heard. And so when I first did that, like, I literally felt that loneliness. Because you feel like your identity is robbed. Like, all that, you know, the people that know you best are robbed. And so, like, there's that, like you said, there's a form of loneliness where you're like, will anyone else understand you fully as, like, your family? You grew up with your family. Like, like, you know, like, your family has more values and things that are kind of relatable to you. And it really took me really getting, like, deeper into my faith where I realized that, like, that loneliness came from a place of being super attached to things outside of myself. Like, I was literally using people or other things to, like, fulfill that sort of comfort or security, and I wasn't using God to do that. And so when I actually started refocusing and really, like, getting into my word, really praying and doing all of those things and spending more time, I realized that, like, that loneliness left because I didn't feel it anymore. Because now. And it's not to say that, like, you don't need people. So I'm not saying, like, you don't need people or you don't need community. Absolutely. But I think a lot of the times we. Like, a lot of the things that I've realized in my journey, like, through one of the relationships, that one of the disappointments that God has been like, like, literally getting me to learn the lesson on is relationships. And so, like, a lot of friendships and relationships I've lost because I'm really trying to find that comfort and security out of insecurity. Yeah, not insecurity. Comfort and security out of insecurity. And so a lot of the times he disappoints me with relationships not working, because it's like he's trying to get me to realize, find your own value first. Find your worth first, within. And then when you build community or you have friends or you have relationships, it's coming from an overflow place and not a I need you to fill me place, if that makes sense. Right?
- [30:46]
Yes.
- [30:46]
And so when you feel that loneliness, you have to ask yourself, are you filling yourself up or Are you hoping for things and people to do that? Because regardless, like, you can, I've been around a lot of people and you can still be lonely. Lonely, exactly right. There's no amount of community or people or things that's going to make you take away that loneliness. The loneliness is really something that's saying, hey, there's something here, a void or an emptiness that's not being filled. And so you have to realize, like, what am I using to fill myself? Because if I am using people, that's fleeting. Honestly, people, community, things, they're fleeting. Like people can be with you today and not be with you tomorrow. Not to sound pessimistic, but it's like the reality, right? We've seen it like, we've seen betrayals, we've seen different things, things. And so like, we have to make sure that we're filling ourselves up. And so that's my thing to you. Like, I think for you especially, how it sounds is like, like you're saying, like you don't want to necessarily dive into food fully. You, acting is your thing that seems like that's something that you were built for, that you were created for. And so I think when you lean more into that, your loneliness might fade way more than you think it would. But you have to take that risk. And I understand because even doing scratch everything like organism sweet tea is the main hub. That's the thing that brings the brand deals. That's the thing that brings, pays the bills. That's the thing that has the platform. So you're looking and saying, okay, I'm starting literally from scratch here. Do I put the same amount of energy here or do I keep it here and then put a little bit here? And it's like you gotta take the leap of faith and put it where it doesn't seem lucrative because sometimes things don't seem lucrative right now. But that's the thing that will actually change your entire life. Life. It's not always a thing that's already ready made or the thing that already has the platform. A lot of the times God is like, if you put your faith here and if you do what you do, you're going to be rewarded. But now this is where diligence comes in, faithfulness comes in. Are you going to be faithful when there's not really much coming out of it, right? So with your acting, it's like, are you going to be faithful trying to find the next spot or the next role or the next whatever? Like, yes, you want to be smart and wise, right? So you're going to balance that with, like, content that's going to bring in money to keep the bills paid. But we have a grab. We have a, like, a tendency, human nature wise, to like, go to the thing that works.
- [33:04]
Yeah.
- [33:04]
And then kind of put aside the thing that's not really working that well. And it's like, no, do the thing that works. Have a schedule however you want to do it. Put a certain amount of content out for the month so that, you know, okay, this is going to always keep my revenue in. But focus where your heart lies. Focus where you're built and called to. To do, like, that's your purpose. And I feel like purpose erases that loneliness. But a lot of the time, times we put our purpose on the backside so that we can always just be in the rat race. And that's the thing that I think if you take that leap of faith, that loneliness will go whether you have community or not. Because I understand, I'm saying it from a place of granted. I have a husband and a child. But you can still be. I was still lonely having them when I left family. Right. Because it's again, where are you putting your focus and where are you putting your value? Right. And so. So that's just my thing. That's my little thing to you. Like, I think when you really delve into your acting, like, you're. You're gonna. You're gonna feel way more fulfilled. But I get the whole thing of balancing because you do have to be wise and balance for paying your bills. I know I said a whole mouthful, but, like, I've been there, so I understand.
- [34:14]
Well, thank you for that. Thank you. I just. With acting, it has been very discouraging because have. It's not necessarily like, I can just say, okay, I'm about to dive 100% is this. And, like, actually be in something unless I make it myself, which then pushes me back into the content creation seat anyway. Right. Because you're ultimately waiting for a casting director to approach you and that. We had to talk about that. That another time. That. That's a whole thing. That's right. I haven't been booked on a show since Family Reunion, and Family Reunion was. Long story short, Family Reunion was cut short because of COVID That's why I Believe got cancelled. Because literally the week that the world went on lockdown, I was speaking with the showrunner, creator of the show, Meg DeLoach, and we were just chatting and she was like, keep your schedule open because you're going to be working for season three. Then Covid happened.
- [35:26]
Right.
- [35:27]
I had one episode where I was the lead, and I'm just like, okay. God, okay. And from Family Reunion, I was able to get a manager who also managed some main cast on the show. Nothing came of that. But Covid. You know what I mean? Like, I. Yeah, it's hard to really differentiate between what was just because of COVID and what was anything outside of that. So it's been discouraging a little bit, but one thing tired of do is give up. And I know deep down in my spirit that this is what I'm called to do. It just gets a little discouraging on that front, especially right as an actor.
- [36:09]
Yeah, yeah, I get that. Well, you know what I say? Insert it into your content.
- [36:14]
Yeah.
- [36:15]
Inserted into. I mean, social media is the new wave, as you can see shows and movies and stuff. People are casting from, like, literally watching your social media. Yeah. So I'm like, insert it into your food. Like, you don't got to make food. The main thing, like, I love when I see, like, the Tara's table and all the things that you've been doing, like, put that in. Like, make that your thing. Like, make. Make them come and cast you from your social media. Like, this is where we got to get really creative and really, you know, unique with it. Like, don't worry about the fact that, like, everybody does food videos, a certain. Like, do it your way and make it where you can collide both worlds into one. That's my advice. Because, honestly, I feel like you. Like I said, like, you. Your personality is made for acting, and so I feel like you should show that more. Okay. You should show that more. So if that's the. If that's going to be the safest way for you to, like, really insert it and do both, then do that.
- [37:10]
Yeah, you're right. You're right, you're right. And that's the. Literally when, like, that meeting that I'm talking about with my manager, what was that last meeting week? This is what we were talking about. So we're at the very. The inception of exactly what you're talking about right now. So it's scary still, but of course. Of course I'm figuring it out.
- [37:26]
You got it, girl. You got it.
- [37:28]
Thank you, thank you, thank you. Okay, we can't even go.
- [37:32]
Shanika, I'm sorry, girl. I'm sorry.
- [37:37]
No, I just got to bring you back. That's all.
- [37:38]
That.
- [37:39]
That means we ain't gonna be able to go through all of these. I'm gonna pick. We're gonna pick one question because we've been talking. Talking. No, we've been talking about FOMO the whole time, though.
- [37:46]
Well, yeah.
- [37:49]
Yeah, we're good. Let me see. Okay, y' all, so I have a confession to make. As the treasurer for the Itty Bitty Titty Committee, I want to let y' all know that I gave up on regular bras a long time ago because.
- [38:02]
Tyler
They were always so uncomfortable. Either the straps would dig in or the cups would have that weird gap that really got on my nerves.
- [38:10]
Shanika
Now, I. Now while I said I do have a smaller chest and bad bralettes aren't exempt from this criticism either, I just always wanted something that felt good on my body, something that worked for me instead of against me. Amen. Now I'm pretty sure I wanted to.
- [38:26]
Tyler
Last people to try scams. But baby, why didn't y' all tell.
- [38:30]
Shanika
Me that the scoop roulette from the.
- [38:32]
Tyler
Fits Everybody collection was so freaking good.
- [38:35]
Shanika
I don't think I ever, ever experienced fabric like this.
- [38:39]
Tyler
It's buttery, soft and it's smoothing.
- [38:41]
Shanika
It's like melt into your skin soft, but it still provides that support and that secure feeling without digging or pinching or weird gapping. Okay. And there are also no weirdly placed seams.
- [38:52]
Tyler
And y' all know what I'm talking about.
- [38:54]
Shanika
You know that over the nipple seam that pokes through your shirt, especially if you got a small chest.
- [38:58]
Tyler
I absolutely hate that.
- [39:01]
Shanika
But y' all, I love this bralette. It's lightweight and it moves with me, which means I can go all day.
- [39:06]
Tyler
Without even thinking about it.
- [39:07]
Shanika
And I got it in two colors and I wear them under everything. Now listen, this part is important.
- [39:13]
Tyler
Shop Skims Fits Everybody Collection and more@skims.com and SKIMS LA flagship on Sunset Boulevard. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you select podcast in the survey and be sure to select our show affirmations for black girls in the drop down menu that follows.
- [39:32]
Shanika
Okay, y' all remember when summer meant vacation Bible school?
- [39:36]
Tyler
Growing up up there really was something about learning scripture, singing songs, fellowshipping with other kids your age, and feeling spiritually.
- [39:45]
Shanika
Full in that kid way.
- [39:47]
Tyler
These days, life is busier and it's.
- [39:50]
Shanika
Louder and leaving our time with God on the back burner.
- [39:54]
Tyler
That's why I love tools that make.
- [39:56]
Shanika
It easier for me to stay connected.
- [39:57]
Tyler
And pour into myself again. May is mental health awareness month, and for me, that means taking better care.
- [40:03]
Shanika
Of my spiritual peace too.
- [40:05]
Tyler
So the Glorify app feels like a.
- [40:07]
Shanika
Grown up version version of everything we loved about vacation Bible school, right?
- [40:11]
Tyler
But on your schedule and in your own space. And that could be in a park, at a beach, on a restaurant's patio for lunch. Anywhere with a little sunrise can replicate the feeling you get. Daily devotionals, scripture readings, reflection prompts to process real life through a spiritual lens and this cool immersive experience called Daily Walk with God. Whether you're already deep in your faith, you're just exploring, or you're reconnecting with God. Glorify Glorify makes it all accessible, supportive and grounded in Peace. So visit glorify-app.com affirmations right now to download the Glorifi app for free. That's glorify-app.com affirmations with an S to download the Glorify app for free glorify-app.com affirmations be honest. Have y' all ever tried taking a.
- [41:07]
Shanika
Shot of straight apple cider vinegar first thing in the morning? Morning Back when it was trendy, I did it once and y' all, I said never again.
- [41:14]
Tyler
But I still wanted those same digestive benefits without burning my throat and hurting my stomach. The truth is, some wellness trends are harder to stick to than others. And taking shots of apple cider vinegar or swallowing giant multivitamins? No thank you. Ever since I first tried Goalie's Apple Cider Vinegar Gummies, I look forward to taking my vitamins. Not only do they basically taste like candy, but they're packed with the things.
- [41:38]
Shanika
I need to feel my best.
- [41:39]
Tyler
No mixing, no measuring, and absolutely no chalky peels.
- [41:43]
Shanika
Y' all, when I tell you they.
- [41:44]
Tyler
Just taste like a little gummy candy, they taste good. Just grab them, chew them and I.
- [41:49]
Shanika
Go about my day.
- [41:50]
Tyler
And it's not just the ACV gummies. Goalie has stuff for different needs, including Ashwagandha for stress relief and super fruits for beauty and glow. And don't worry, they're vegan, gluten free and made without any of that artificial stuff. So taking vitamins can fit right into.
- [42:06]
Shanika
Any routine without a second third thought.
- [42:08]
Tyler
So head to goalie.com right now and get America's number one Ashwagandha and apple cider vinegar gummies at an exclusive 42% off. Give them a try risk free, backed by our money guarantee because wellness should be simple, effective and delicious. Don't wait. Visit goalie.com today.
- [42:38]
Shanika
Okay, so let's talk about the season of waiting or any seasons of waiting in life. What has been your experience with feeling Stuck. And how do you navigate that without falling into self doubt?
- [42:52]
Okay, so this is so timely because I actually literally just made an IG post probably like 2 days ago about this. I've actually been feeling this, this since the year started. Just because in food content creation, so much has changed with like, like you were saying like how it used to be versus now. I feel like there's like a so much pressure to do food content creation a certain way or to not really make it fun or authentic. I feel like there's this like template thing that works and so they're expecting everyone to kind of do that and that's what's really allowing growth and virality. So I think when I've been just trying to be super authentic and do it my way, I felt like after coming back from like last year of not really being on, it felt like I was like left behind. It felt like I was like more on like an ancient road to creating food content. And so I just been feeling super stuck and just doubting myself and going back and forth with like, okay, should I lean into this? Should I lean into this trend? Should I lean into doing it this way? Should I lean into, into like changing it up and just completely like revamping it and doing it the way that works or that seems to work. That has really been like what I've been wrestling with since the, the whole new year. And so I literally made a post 2 days ago just saying like the Lord has just been dealing with me on it. Like I said, do it this way. This is where you gotta again have patience, you gotta have trust and you just gotta be faithful. And that's just been the hardest thing because you look and say, man, I've been doing this for like, like eight plus years faithfully. But the question is like, am I confident in again? Like I went back to like his timing. And so I think for me, yeah, it's just been like not being focused on comparing. I think that has been my biggest, biggest, biggest challenge, not comparing. Because you're just like something must not be working if people are like growing at this rate or people that were under me are now surpassing me by astronomical numbers. Like, like something must not be working. People probably just don't care. I'm just doing it the old school way. And I just realized like, yeah, stop comparing. You're not stuck. Stop doubting, stop being double minded. Just focus and just do what you feel like you're called to do, how you feel you're called to do it because really, truly the greatest people back in the day, like a lot of people had to persevere through a lot, lot. And they had to believe in themselves. When even they got a lot of no's, they got a lot of rejections. And so I think, like, because we live in social media and we live in this thing of like, super fear of like, maybe I just don't know enough, maybe I'm just not doing enough, I think that has really robbed us of that. Like, like they would say in Jamaica, mental blinkers, where you're not focused on anything on any side. Just the front thing, the front goal, the front view. Yeah. Tunnel vision. And so I think that has been my thing. Like, I've always just been. My eyes just wander sometimes because you're just like, maybe I just need to see someone else and see how they're doing it and then maybe I can adopt that. And so I hope that answered the question. But for me, like, yeah, that has really caused me to be stuck. I feel like sometimes we just, we buffer. It's like buffering, right? Like you're, you're, you're, you're, you're grasping all the information. You're, you're doing a lot of research, you're looking at everybody else and you're doing all of this not realizing you have not moved because you're focused so much on gathering, gathering, gathering, and no work is being done. And so I think, like, that has been my thing. Like, I've just been gathering, gathering, gathering, and I just haven't moved. And the move, not moving is out of fear because I'm, I'm afraid of failing. I'm afraid of like, not being successful or not getting to the goal that I'm trying to get to. And yeah, so really most of it has been fear. Most of it has been comparison. Most of it has been impatience with the Lord in his time and how he chooses to do it. And so all of that has been my season of waiting and feeling stuck and going through cycles of self doubt and imposter syndrome and all the things. Yeah, yeah.
- [47:13]
I 100 feel you on that. I feel like I have been in a season of waiting for one reason or another other in my creative journey since I graduated from college with my degree in theater. Right. Yeah. But a couple of things that came up for me while you were, while you were talking, like, especially about like, your peers passing you and like all of that sort of thing and being like, dang, okay, what's going on? I liked it. I always, in the food world Especially, I always like to take a look at Sally. You know Sally's baking addiction.
- [47:50]
Oh, yes. Yes.
- [47:51]
Do you know she just hit 1 million?
- [47:54]
Well, that is what I was gonna say, but these are goats in the game, right? She was a food blogger way before I was. She's probably.
- [48:02]
I was doing her recipes. I was about to say I was doing her recipes when I was in middle school. That's when I started baking. Like, she is the epitome of, like, the standard for me when it comes to baking. If I want to test a new recipe, I'm going to Sally's baking addiction diet.
- [48:18]
Absolutely. And granted, she has not changed her authenticity.
- [48:22]
Exactly.
- [48:23]
And that's why you have to remind yourself of, again, every great person has to persevere for a long period of time. And so the sooner we realize that and the less we compare and just stay focused. Like, she's one that. Like, that's a perfect example that you brought up, because she was stuck at literally 250k for the longest by. Before I even got to 100k, she was at 250. So it just shows you. Like, it's. Sometimes it's just the perseverance and faithfulness that we have to endure, but there's always a perfect time where you're gonna break out and get to that. And the fact that she just got to a million is a major milestone. But when you look at someone like her, you say, girl, you should have been at a million compared to, like, influencers and stuff that comes in the game. And so, yeah, like, I.
- [49:08]
So now I just say, okay, Tyra, look at status, especially when it comes to trends and all of this virality and, you know, doing the new next best thing. Do I want virality or do I want longevity? I want longevity. I want a long career, even in my. On the acting side, because I always just like to pull from the things that I do. Denzel Washington has had a long career. Morgan Freeman has had a long career. That is where I want to be. And they have been who they are since they were. Yeah.
- [49:50]
And it's been slow. Right. Some will say that if you round up all the movies they've probably been in, it's less than somebody who's just been in everything and just been all over the place. But when, like, you said, like, those are the ones we remember. Those are the names we pull up. Those are the ones we look and say, man, like, look how long they've been doing this. Yeah.
- [50:11]
And. And that is way more important to me. And I Think, Yeah. Key to longevity, like we just said, is staying true to yourself and not changing it up. Like, like I said, the ancient row for like content creation, to a certain extent, I don't want to change it up to meet exactly what is happening today because that's not gonna be in the world, that is not going to be here tomorrow. So finding no matter what you do, we're obviously talking about content creation because we're in that space. But no matter what you do, if you want longevity in whatever it is you're going for, staying true to who you are. Seriously staying true to who you are at the root of it all.
- [50:52]
Yeah.
- [50:52]
Staying steadfast in that is what's going to prevail. At the end of the day. I wholeheartedly believe that.
- [51:01]
For sure, girl. For sure.
- [51:03]
Yeah. And on the other, See, we can talk all day. On the other side of that, when you're talking about like season of. The season of waiting and how like you deal with it and things. One thing that has worked for me, and I don't even know if this is like, right or whatever, but this is something that fills my cup or feels my soul is having, having like minded people around you. And also in addition to that, they can be two separate people, but also having people who are in the same space or season of life because it provides perspective. Because even if you're in that season of waiting, your season of waiting is not my season of waiting. We're not going through the same things. We have different experiences, we know different things and we can help each other to grow. Just like when, like Issa Rae was talking about networking across cross. Networking don't have to look like networking, baby. We need to network these season of waiting. These seasons of waiting. Okay. We have to. Because you can, yeah. You can just learn so much from people who are going through it right there with you. You can also learn from people who have, like you said, like, you've already been through certain things. I can learn so much from you, but we don't always have to go there with it.
- [52:17]
Yeah.
- [52:18]
You know, own your neighbor, you know, and work through it. So that's what's been helping me a lot. Because if I'm only like, say I'm looking for advice or whatever, if I'm only going to people who have come out of it, that's also a comparison game right there. Which if you're not in space to digest that properly, it can put you in a, in a bad mental space, you know, so having that community that like Minded community, having faithful friends as well as having people who are in a season of waiting or a similar stage of life has helped me a lot.
- [52:56]
Absolutely. And I, I definitely agree with that. I think that's one of the things I'm trying to build this year and forward because I find especially like when you're in just the same space, it always ends up being this competitiveness. Right. And I feel like, like you were saying, where it's like like minded people, but at the core everyone's secure in what they're doing and they're real creative at what they're doing and they love what they do. Right. I think that's going to be the core of finding those like minded people because I realized you can be in the same space as people and you think that you like each other, but then the person secretly like comparing themselves or jealous or competing or all the things. And I haven't found that space in the food space, unfortunately. Like I've, I've like, you know, rubbed elbows with a lot of people. But like to say that I have someone that I'll just like literally call up and be like, oh, like I need this advice or I need whatever. Like I don't have that obviously, besides you. And we're just on two different time zones.
- [53:59]
Yeah.
- [53:59]
Sometimes that makes it hard too.
- [54:01]
Yeah.
- [54:01]
Right. But it's just like, yeah, like I think that's one of my goals this year too is to like really find like minded people. Because like you said, it is helpful to be able to, you know, know, share wisdom, share experiences, share failures, share lessons, whatever it is. Because we do need that. Like we're, we don't know everything. Even if we experience a lot, we still, there's a lot more that we just don't know.
- [54:24]
Yeah.
- [54:24]
And so I definitely agree with that. I love that.
- [54:27]
I feel you. I feel. Thank you. Thank you. I feel you on the like finding community in the food space.
- [54:33]
Yeah.
- [54:33]
I feel like it's hard because there's so many people entering the food space now and it for newer people especially like I know a couple of actors who have blown up in the food space and I see them at the events that I'm at. I want to connect. Like I'm not a, I am the type of person, let's connect. Especially if you're black. I want to connect because that space is small out here in la. It's tiny and I just haven't received good vibes.
- [55:04]
Let's just say that from girl, you ain't like dang that's unfortunately, I think it's like, super political. Right?
- [55:11]
Yeah.
- [55:11]
Like, I feel like everybody's, like you said, they're networking, but not the way that you're saying they're networking to go up or it's clout chasing or it's whatever. Right. So I think that's what we see a lot, which is why it's so hard for you to find real connections. And. But I feel like, as always, there's always you'll try vibe. You just gotta find them. And so if you just keep looking, you'll find it. That's for me and you. We will. We will.
- [55:48]
Oh, y' all, it is time for our fun closing segment. And today, Shanika, we are going to be doing count your blessings. Blessings. So I want you to think about three things that you are grateful for right now. Three blessings in your life that can be whatever. Whatever you want.
- [56:09]
All right? All right. So three blessings. I want to say I am grateful for my family, so my husband and my son, for sure, I am grateful for. I'm actually surprisingly, now I can say I'm grateful for my life's journey. As difficult as it has been this year, I'm going to be 36, and, you know, I'm getting to that 40 where, like we were talking about before, all the milestones and all the things. But I think I'm grateful for the journey because I realized that it has given me wisdom and without, like you were saying, without a lot of the hardships, we wouldn't grow. And so while it's not fun and I don't want it, I'm grateful for it because it has. It has allowed me to grow in a lot of areas. And, I mean, I think I'm really grateful for the tribe that I'm creating, whether that's through my audience or with people like you just having people that really rocks with you, like, yeah, I think that has been. Been something I'm grateful for. It might not be the level at which I want it in the sense of, you know, more, like we were saying, like, more intimate connections, but having one is, you know, more than most. Right. Some people don't even have that. And so I think I'm really grateful for that.
- [57:41]
Tyler
I'm grateful for you, too.
- [57:43]
Shanika
Oh.
- [57:44]
Oh, my gosh, I'm about to cry.
- [57:46]
I know we don't talk a lot.
- [57:48]
But, you know, you already know. I know.
- [57:51]
Yeah.
- [57:52]
That's. Every time we text, that's what I say, girl. Yeah, I know. I get it.
- [57:57]
It's.
- [57:57]
It's A lot. We have a. It's a lot. It's just.
- [58:00]
Yeah, it's just a lot.
- [58:02]
I love those, though. Okay, my three. And also everyone listening, take a second to write down three blessings in your life. What are you grateful for at the moment? What's some things that you can just thank God for right now? It'll probably uplift your day. I hope it does. Does for me. I am grateful. Okay, let me think in this moment. And not just overarchingly grateful because I be doing it.
- [58:32]
Yeah.
- [58:34]
I am honestly grateful for the flexibility of my current lifestyle. I just posted on Instagram a video that was like, it's a trend. But it was like I'm such and such age. And I can admit I did that trend. And I was just. One of the things that I wrote was at the age that I'm at, that I am right now, I was about to turn at the age. Wait, what am I saying? When my mama. Oh, wait, are you raising your hand, Tyra, or is that me? Oh my God. Might be doing that thing where certain hand motions.
- [59:25]
Oh, it. Is that like what's going on? Yeah, it just kept happening.
- [59:32]
Oh my gosh. Okay, well, let me lower my hand. Jesus. Okay, okay, let me go back. When my mom was 30, which is the age I am right now, I was about to be 10 years old. She had a 10 year old and. Or almost 10 year old and an almost 9 year old because it's me and my brother. I could not imagine just the. How much sacrifice right now based on what I want out of my life, life, how much sacrifice I would have had to make. And of course, if it would have. If that would have been a scenario, I would have made those sacrifices. But I am grateful for the opportunity to be selfish in life at 30 years old and experience life in a way that I want to experience life without added pressures, responsibilities, and other people. I am grateful for that. Even though I. I do want kids and I'm like, I'm 30 at this point. It's gonna be a geriatric pregnancy. But I am still grateful for the flexibility of my life and being able to pick up and go when I want, because so many people cannot do that. I'm also grateful for. I'm grateful for the community that I've been built out here in la. It's still being built. But I have cultivated a group of people so far that show up for me. And I've always had trouble growing up with having friends that actually liked me. You know, I grew up in A small town, so population 3,000 for the whole town is not that many people to choose from to be friends with one school system, like, that's all you got. That's how it feels. And I'm just grateful for the people who choose me every day as a friend and pour into me in ways that I craved growing up. I'm super grateful for that. And the last thing that I'm grateful for as it relates to just doing it for this fun closing segment, because I'm grateful for a lot of things. God, okay, I am also grateful for. I don't even know how to put it into words, but basically I'm grateful.
- [61:59]
For.
- [62:02]
The creativity that God has instilled in me. Like, I'm grateful for everything that he has put inside of me to be able to do. I'm grateful for my talents. I'm grateful for my hands. Like, I create so much with my hands. I'm a chef, but I'm also, I build a lot of things. I garden, I'm a. I do pottery, like I love. And I'm grateful that I can do all of that with my hands. Like, I'm so grateful for the mind body connection that comes through my hands. I'm very grateful for that. And I've been thinking about that a lot lately because I've been having friends that say, how can you do all of these things? I'm like, it just, I just, I don't know.
- [62:45]
Yeah, just happens.
- [62:47]
It just happens. I'm, I'm very grateful for that because it feels like something that, oh, I just do it. But I'm noticing that a lot of people can't just do these things with their hands. And yeah, I am so grateful for that.
- [63:02]
When an online shopper places an order, how that package arrives matters.
- [63:07]
I'm Al Ko, the CEO of ShipStation.
- [63:10]
Our promise is to make that process.
- [63:12]
As easy as possible for you. ShipStation provides provides a robust platform to manage everything you sell, automate manual shipping tasks and get the lowest possible carrier rates.
- [63:23]
Keep your team and your customers happy. Go to shipstation.com to sign up for your free trial. That's shipstation.com.
- [63:43]
I absolutely love, loved every second of my conversation with Shanika. I learned that a lot of things that she has been through, I have also been through, or some things that she has been through, I am currently going through and vice versa. I absolutely, my heart is full because we do a lot of the same things in the spaces that we work in. As you guys know, we're both content creators and FOMO can have. You literally have your brain going a thousand miles an hour every second of every day if you let it. And it's just so important to embrace your own journey. So I want to thank you guys so much for tuning in to this special episode with Shanika. If you guys would like to see her on the podcast again, please let me know. I definitely enjoy talking to her and I would love to have her back. So let me know what y' all think. But with that being said, that is all that I have for you guys today. Thank you so much for listening. Make sure you give this video. If you're watching the video, make sure you give it a like. And make sure you subscribe to the Affirmations for Black Girls YouTube channel. And if you're listening on your favorite listening platform, make sure you rate the podcast. Ratings are super important and leave us a review. I love reading all your reviews. Thank you guys so much and I will see you guys again next week for a new episode. This is Affirmations for Black Girls.
- [65:52]
This is an ad by BetterHelp. BetterHelp recently surveyed over 16,000 people and found that while 75% of people believe it's wise to seek support, only 27% of Americans are in therapy and people stay silent to avoid being judged. BetterHelp has over 10 years of experience matching you with the right therapist because we're all better with help. Visit betterhelp.com stopthestigma for their first ever State of Stigma report, the latest in mental health research. Americans love using their credit cards, the most secure and hassle free way to pay. But D.C. politicians want to change that with the Durbin Marshall credit card bill. This bill lets corporate megastores pick how your credit card is processed, allowing them to use untested payment networks that jeopardize your data, security and rewards. Corporate megastores will make more money and you pay the price. Tell Congress to guard your card because Americans lose when politicians choose. Learn more@guardyourcard.com.