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In today's episode, I am going to answer three important questions. Where have I been? How exactly did my life change one month ago? And how am I feeling about my future?
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Tyra (Host of Affirmations for Black Girls Podcast)
What is going on? Beautiful people. You are listening to the Affirmations for Black Girls podcast. I'm your host, Tyra, the creative actress, content creator and mental health enthusiast. Happy Black History Month. Happy New Year. Hey, how y' all doing? I'm so glad to be back. I quite honestly could say that I did not expect to take such a huge break at the top of the year. But we're here now and by the title of today's podcast episode, I know you're like, girl, does this how, how your life changed a month ago have anything to do with what's been going on? What is the deal? What's it is? Tell us what it is. I'm going to answer all of those questions. I wanted to do something a little different today versus an affirmation. You know, at the beginning of all of our podcast episodes, we always have an affirmation. But I, I don't even remember why I came across this, but I've been saying it for about a week now. Maybe it was an Instagram post, maybe it was something on YouTube, a sermon or something. But I have just been saying this small mantra. You can't even really. Well, you can consider it a prayer if you want. It doesn't really even matter. But this, this one sentence I've been saying to God every day for like the last week is, God, show me how good it can get. So instead of an affirmation, this is what we are going to be meditating on today. And I really hope you guys take this and it at the top of every morning, say it in your prayers. Anytime you talk to God, just say, God, show me how good it can get. So we're going to say that a couple more times together. God showed me how good it can get. God, show me how good it can get. God, show me how good it can get. I really wanted to leave you guys with something that you can say every single day to God. One to help you. If you're in a season where you're not really, you know, talking to God as much as you would like to, I think this is a great thing to say, a great little mantra to say to him, to start rekindling that back and forth connection, that dialogue between the two of you. And it has really been very soothing for me, especially in the season of life that I am in. So this episode will be a little different, and I think there's going to be a shift in the podcast, whether it's the. The format or, you know, how I present on the show. As you guys know, a lot of the stuff I do is heavily scripted, and I do that because I don't like to waste y' all time. I script my stuff out so that I can make sure that I am giving as much resources and important bits to you guys as often as possible versus rambling. Because I like to talk, I like to chitter chatter, I like to ramble. Okay. I go from point A to point B. X real quick. Okay. So I'm thinking in this new season of life and just how we were talking about in the. The trailer for this year, if you haven't listened to it, go listen to it. But this is my alignment area era. Anything that is not from God or not of God, I need to remove from my life. I need to be walking the straight and narrow. I need to just welcome in things that are aligned with where God wants me to be in this season and where God has me headed moving forward. And I think this mantra, God, show me how good it can get. Saying that at the top of my prayers or saying at the top of my day is just really setting the tone for the woman that I am trying to become. And I think one of the things that I have struggled with since the top of this year, there's a lot of things going on behind the scenes. But overall, as a creative and as the host of this show, one thing that I have been struggling with is coming to you guys super polished. And this sentiment is showing up in a lot of areas of my life. Tyra, you are too polished. Well, I shouldn't even say too. I'm so polished in the way that I show up in all of my content, all of the stuff that I put out on the Internet, that it can become paralyzing for Me as of lately. And I'm trying to show up more authentically as myself in a way where I am coming as I am. Whereas in the past, I would say, you know what? Which I have been doing. You know what? I'mma step back. I'mma just not do this because I don't feel like sitting down writing a script. I have stuff that I want to talk to y' all about, but I have not been feeling like scripting it out. And I know that's just something that I'm going to have to work through on my end, but I don't want to continue to go MIA on y'. All. Right. I love this community and I love what we have created here at Affirmations for Black Girls. And I have just been getting really paralyzed in my process of sharing what is in my brain with you guys, because I like to do that by way of paper and just to put it into perspective for y'. All. It takes me like three, four hours to script out a podcast episode completely from start to finish. That's a lot of brain power. Whereas if I am just going through the motions of talking as I go and maybe write down a couple of notes. Yes. To keep me on track. It'll just be a lot easier on my brain because of the output, because I am doing an episode every week, sometimes two episodes, if we're doing a pep talk Wednesday. So that's just what I mean by saying the format may change a little bit. It may be a little more raw, more often when I can script something out or if I'm really having the writing bug, because I do enjoy writing. It just takes a lot of brain power and I'll be needing a nap after. When I do have that time and energy. I will still do that. Especially if you really enjoy the more narrative episodes that are very clean cut and not not so raw, I guess. I don't know. I don't know. Let me know what you guys think. I just know the era of social media that I came up in. You are clean cut, you are polished. You get to the point in what you have to say, you give all of the valuable information, and you get out of there. Whereas now I know a lot of people leaning into that more authentic, less editing, more raw, real, regular type of content. And I'm trying to find my personal sweet spot. So that's what I mean by the format may change. It may just be a conversation. We may not have an affirmation at the top of every episode. I'm going to make sure. That overall, that does not change. Hold your horses. Don't get your panties in a while, y'. All. I'm going to make sure overall that does not change. But if I want to come on here and just talk to you guys on a Monday episode for 20 minutes versus our typical 40, I want to make sure that you guys are aware that that may happen. I am definitely in a transition period when it comes to the way that I create. So I'm taking you guys on a journey with me so that I don't, you know, not give you guys any content. But that's just what I mean. So I guess that kind of starts to answer my first question. Where have I been? I have just been. I've been living. I've been good. I have just been a little paralyzed in my output. And I think a lot of that has to do with me coming into a new routine. My life has changed as of one month ago. A big change, an everlasting change. If you do not follow me on social media, then, then you don't know this, but one month ago today, at the time of me recording this, I decided to get a new puppy. If you have not been listening for the long haul, I had a dog. Her name was Lexi and she was a teacup poodle. And I had her for 18 years. She passed away when I was 28 years old. I am now 31, turning 32 this year. So it's been about four years since Lexi passed, passed away. And I had the opportunity to get a new puppy. And I took that opportunity. And one of the main reasons why I decided to get a dog is because especially living out here in LA without my family, yes, I have friends and all of that stuff, I needed something new and fresh to be responsible for. That's the best way I can say it in this moment. I spend a lot of time in my apartment. Yes, I will go outside to. Well, I'll go to my gym to work out. I may go to run club on Sundays. But I needed something. I needed companionship, for one. And I also needed to get out of the house and get out of this monotonous routine of just going to the gym, coming home and, you know, sitting in front of a computer all day. So I decided to get another dog. And these four years, well, almost four years, has been the longest time I've gone in my life without having a dog. And I didn't think that I would be ready to get another dog so soon. But I absolutely love her. She. It's hard Y', all, I'm not even gonna lie. It's. It's definitely hard having basically an infant in my home that I am specifically responsible for. Like, I'm the only one responsible for her. So I have a new standard poodle. Her name is Okra. Okra. Everybody thinks I'm saying Oprah, like, open, win, free. No, her name is Okra, like, the vegetable. Y' all know I'm a Southern girl, so that is literally why I said. I said, I need something that's real Southern, something that is in the food realm. What could I do? What could I do? And one day, I had a dream, and the puppy's name was Oprah in my dream, and I said, oh, yeah, this is. This is her name. I didn't know what kind of dog I was getting at the time. And then I just sat in thought, and I was like, you know what? I loved having a poodle. I love the poodle breed as a whole. They're so smart, y'. All. They need a lot of attention, first and foremost, but they are so smart. And I think they are such cute dogs. And I've had the most experience with that breed because of Lexi. So the opportunity presented itself to get a chocolate standard poodle, and I bit the bullet, and I took. I took it on. I took on the responsibility. So I went to pick her up in Mississippi while I was home for the holidays. And the first couple of weeks were very, very rocky, so I. I got her. I've only had her for a month, so I got her in January. And I was like, okay, yeah, I'm about to get a dog. And then I was only supposed to be in Louisiana for, like, a few days. After I got her, I ended up having to stay longer. I was like, I cannot travel with this dog right now. She is too young. She is just. It's. It's taking some getting used to. It definitely is. So on top of my typical New Year hiatus, I ended up getting a dog and bit off. Well, not bit off more than I can chew, but it definitely took a little more getting used to than I thought it would. And I was like, I have to put pause on everything. I can't do anything while I'm doing this, because it's just like having an infant. I. She has to. She's up every two hours. She needs to go to the bathroom every 30 minutes. She's crying because she's in a new place. Like, it really shook up my routine. But in a way, I'm excited because now I have Something else to be responsible for. Now I have companionship, right, in a way that I don't have with friends or, you know, I don't have any romantic companionship at right now in my life. So. So at this point I am very excited about what's to come. And she's 13 weeks right now. I got her when she was eight weeks and some change and she is settling in nicely and it's just been good. So that's really where I've been. I was home for an extended stay. I came back to LA at the top of February. Happy Black History Month. I don't know if I said that, but I came back to LA at the top of the February and I had some live shows and you know, getting her acclimated with this new space has really been consuming all of my time in a good way. And yeah, that is really where I've been. Nothing crazy. My brother is about to get married. I mentioned that last year, but we're in the home stretch of him about to get married. So I was also, I was home for an extended time so I can, you know, help them out with the wedding. His fiance had her bachelorette party so I was there for that. We did a bachelorette weekend in New Orleans. So I have been trying to put more time and energy into my social life when it comes to my family, but also trying to create my own little family in the way that I can. And one of those ways has been to get a new dog. So I've had her for a month and yes, my life has definitely changed. She is definitely the priority and I make my schedule around, you know, having her and I want to, you know, explore this with you guys, like getting a dog. Because it literally like the first couple weeks I was like, can I take her back? Like can. Will they give me a refund on this dog? I know they wouldn't give me a refund. And I was, I wasn't seriously considering it, but I was like, what have I done? This is a lot to take on by myself as a 31 year old girl living in LA by herself trying to pursue her acting career. Like, this is a lie. But I'm glad I did it. I'm glad I bit the bullet because one thing that I was saying was, you know what? I'm not going to get a dog again until I'm married and have kids and the kids can take care of the dog and it's their childhood dog baby. I'm not nowhere near getting married or having kids and I I want to talk about this more in another episode, but I can't continue living my life that way. I'm about to be 32. I need to do things for Tyra while I still have just Tyra time. Okay, so let me tell you about the moment that my life truly changed forever. It was the moment that I started taking my sleep health seriously. I realized that my energy and my focus and even my mood were completely off and I hadn't even thought about how much my mattress could be of that. And I'll be even more honest with y', all, it wasn't a conscious shift at first. Avocado Green Mattress reached out to me and offered to send me a mattress. So I said of course. But little did I know how much of a game changer it would actually be. Almost immediately I started to wake up feeling restored, calm and ready for the day. And my mornings actually feel more productive instead of dragging along. Waking up on a mattress that truly supports your body is like giving yourself the daily reset that you are always needed. 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Tyra (Host of Affirmations for Black Girls Podcast)
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While I'm single, I need to do the things that I want to do and not just wait for a relationship or wait for kids to do those things, even if they're big life decisions like getting a dog. I plan to have okra at least for the next 10, 12 years. Hopefully she lasts as long as Lexi did. Lexi was 18, right? So I know that is a big decision and it's something that I'm now in for the long haul. But it's in my best interest to do the things that I desire to do right now and not wait for a could be or a possibility because I don't know what is to come. I don't know what God has in store for me. I know that he is going to show me how good it can get, but I don't know what that timeline looks like. I don't know what life milestones are placed at the 30 day mark, six month mark, one year, two, year, three. I don't know what life milestones are placed there. So it's in my best interest to do the things that have been on my mind. And I've been thinking about getting a dog. I was talking about that for the better half of a year with, especially with my friend Alexis. I was like, I think, I really think I want to get a dog. But I was terrified. I was like, what am I going to do with a dog? Just me having a dog. Because Lexi was my childhood dog. So I didn't make the decision to get Lexi. So it was scary to make such a life altering decision like that, especially living away from home. Now I have to worry about when I travel and how she's going to feel if I move around. Like I, I'm not as mobile and flexible as I once was. But that is okay because life is meant to be lived. I wanted to have a dog, so I got a dog. And it's honestly been great having somebody else in the house. It's been great companionship. She's again, she's still very young, but the companionship has been great. I wake up every morning with a little more pep in my step and I have more things to do. And I say this because y', all, y' all know I don't have a job, I work from home. I'm always at home by myself, hunched over at a computer. So it's just been a nice switch up to be like, oh, well, I have to take okra outside. Oh, I gotta, you know, walk her. I can't really walk her right now because she's still such a puppy. She just still has to get shots. But in a general sense, I now have to leave my house because like every single day because I have a dog. And I know some people may be like, girl, I don't want to do that. Whatever you are thinking about doing in your life that will alter your life in a way where you're like, ah, I don't know, if you feel like you should do it, then do it right. Don't just wait for something else to happen in your life to do the thing. That's all that I'm trying to say about that. But that is how my life changed a month ago. And honestly, even though it's hard, and I know this entire first year of having a puppy will be hard, I wouldn't trade it for the world. I honestly think it has been a healing experience because I spend so much time alone and sometimes I do get lonely, right? Like I'm 31, I'm living in LA, this big old city. But also I'm trying to make sure that I'm doing the things that I got to do. Sometimes you get a little lonely and having companionship in a pet has just been. It's been so refreshing for me. It truly, truly has. So I'm looking forward to that. So that's where I've been and that's how my life has changed. And for the future. What was the third question? Wasn't that third question, how do I feel about the future? I'm feeling open minded and I am feeling like God did not bring me this far to only bring me this far. I am really believing that he is going to show me soon just how good it can get. Because, yeah, I've been in LA for almost 10 years now. And I'm not gonna lie, lately, some days have been really hard. It's been really hard because around me, in my inner circle and in my family, a lot of people are having these big life milestones happen. Good. The good stuff, right? Like these celebratory things. And I'm having to celebrate a lot of things with the people around me. And I'm in the back of my head, I'm like, dang, okay, God, when you got something for me? And it's not bad to think that stuff, but I think I was listening to one of my favorite youtubers. His name is Ali Abdal and he talks about productivity a lot on YouTube. But he was talking about how we, in the society that we live in now, we don't really know how to sit in the liminal space. And the liminal space is the space between big things happening for you. I don't know the. I don't have the exact definition pulled up. Now, if I would have scripted out this episode, y' all know, I would have had that exact definition for y'. All. But it's basically the time in between big life moments or big celebratory things or things happening in your life. And it's not a bad place to be in. But the way that our society works, it has become a place that we don't typically enjoy. We feel like we're being unproductive, we feel like we're falling behind. We feel like we are unsuccessful. And that really spoke to me because, yes, I 100% feel like that And I am every day trying to learn how to live in this liminal space that I'm in right now. Because liminal space is not wasted time. It's just time for us to just be living in the moment. Because when you are thinking about your next life milestone, your next success, the climbing the ladder, you're not living in the present. And it's very important for us to be present. Because I'm a look up and be 40 and be like, dang, where did the time go? Where did my 30s go? Because I already feel like that about my 20s. I know where my 20s went. I was in LA for most of my 20s, right? So I don't want to keep feeling that way. And I do know that having a dog is one physical embodiment of being present in the moment. Because I constantly got to be watching her, I got to be on my toes. I can't be just scrolling on my phone all day. I can't just, just ride on the couch for 24 hours. I gotta get my ass up and take my dog outside. I gotta feed her, I have to play with her, I have to do all of these things. And it's just knocking me out of this trance state that I typically find myself in. Since I've gotten into this routine of being a stay at home creative. Like, I'm just trying to find different ways to knock me out of this routine that I have subconsciously created of just waking up, hopping on my computer, editing some videos, posting on social media, maybe going to the gym, and that's only an hour, two hours, and then coming back home. I cannot continue to do that. That makes me feel like I am wasting my life at this point. So I really said, okay, Tara, we gonna get a dog. We'll see how it goes. And it has been, honestly, it's been great for me. And being in this liminal period of life has been a little better. But yeah, I'm in a space where I am celebrating everybody around me. And I do feel like, God, okay, when is my turn for something? It don't have to be, you know, a hundred things at once, but something I want to be, you know, proud of or a life milestone I would love to hit. Obviously I want to be married, obviously I want to have kids, you know, all of those things. But the liminal space is not bad. And I am trying to embrace it more and more every day with open arms. But that's where I've been. That's how my life changed a month ago. And also about the future again. These podcast episodes, the. The timing may be a little different, but I really want to continue to show up for you guys. And in this season of life that I'm in now, it's going to possibly look like this a lot more. I'm not even gonna say possibly it's going to look like this a lot more. Me talking and just giving you an open letter. But the affirmations are not going anywhere. I'm always going to give you something now at the top of the episode. I am. I'm not going to leave you high and dry like that. We can't get rid of Affirmations. It's literally called Affirmations for Black Girls. But I hope I said something that resonated with you. This was very therapeutic for me. I hope you got something from this as well. And as always, you can leave us an email Affirmations for black girls, gmail.com I love reading through Yalls emails. If anything touched you or if you have any questions or something that you want me to talk about on the show, any of that stuff, you know, we can go ahead and talk about that. There will be no fun closing segment today. I just wanted to come on here because it's been a minute and saying I'm still here. I'm just trying to figure some things out behind the scenes. I'm trying to roll out the kinks that are happening behind the scenes. But thank you guys so much for listening. We our schedule will not change. Whenever I'm getting back into the groove of things, but the schedule will not change. I'm trying to just be transparent with y' all because y' all like to come in my DMS on Instagram, be like, girl, where you at? Stop playing. What's going on? So I'm trying to be transparent with you guys. But with that being said, thank you so much for listening. This is Affirmations for Black Girls.