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Affirmations for Black Girls
Season 5: Do You Really Trust God? Releasing Fear & Control, Learning to Trust FULLY, and Entering your Alignment Era Because What God Has For You is Greater than your Plans.
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Sometimes we talk about healing like it's supposed to be quick or easy, but real mental health care takes intention. And honestly, y', all, in 2026, I'm doing all the things that I need to do to feel healthy, supported, and well, even when that means getting help that goes beyond what I'm used to. If you've ever been stuck on a long wait list for a psychiatrist or felt like therapy alone wasn't answering all of your questions, I want to share something with you that could really support you. Talkiatry is a 100 online psychiatry practice that provides comprehensive evaluations, diagnosis and ongoing medication management for things like anxiety, depression, ADHD, and more. And that distinction is important. This is psychiatry, not a therapy alone. App therapy is one kind of support, but Talkiatry connects you with a licensed psychiatrist, a medical provider who can diagnose mental health conditions and prescribe medication when it's appropriate. Psychiatry has over 600 clinicians, and they're in network with major insurers, so you can use your existing insurance instead of paying monthly subscriptions or out of network fees. You'll work with an experienced psychiatrist who takes the time to understand what's going on and builds a treatment plan that actually fits your life. Getting started only takes a few minutes. You complete a short online assessment, get matched with clinicians who fit your needs and can schedule your first visit in days, not months. And more than 300,000 patients have already found care through Talkiatry. If this is something that you've been considering for yourself, head to talkiatry.com affirmations and complete the short assessment to get matched with an in network psychiatrist in just a few minutes. That's talkiatry.com affirmations to get matched in minutes. So I've been paying a lot closer attention to my body lately. Not in a super dramatic way, but just listening a little more closely. And recently I did a blood panel and I got my results back, y'. All. One of the recommendations that well, first a lot of stuff was very, very good. We're in the green. But there was one recommendation that came up for me and it was iron supplementation along with a few other nutrients. And it was a reminder that sometimes what feels like stress or exhaustion actually deserves a little bit of a closer look. Because low iron doesn't always announce itself loudly, it can show up as fatigue that doesn't improve with rest, brain fog, headaches, and even brittle nails, things that are easy to normalize and move past. And for a lot of people, traditional IR iron supplements aren't the answer because they can be hard to absorb in the body or come with side effects like nausea or constipation. And who got time for that? And that's why I want to share Citarol from Pharma Nutra. 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The kind of tired that comes from overthinking every decision, bracing for the worst, and trying to outrun the unknown. For me, that moment came at the end of 2025. Not because something terrible happened, but because nothing extremely good or extremely bad did. And I was still anxious. I realized that I had been living with this low hum of worry in the background of my life because it wasn't panning out like I had intricately planned in my diary. Since I was 10 years old. I started to worry more and more about what's next, about running out of time, about finding love, about having kids, about feeling secure in my career, about whether I'm behind off track or missing something that everyone else seems to have all figured out. And the craziest part is, nothing was wrong. I'm healthy. I was working. I was creating. I was praying. Honestly, not as much as I should have, but I was. And I realized that I was also trying to control outcomes that God never asked me to manage. And I know that is a huge reason why I wouldn't go to God with some things. Not because I doubted his capacity, but because I wanted to be in control. We tend to keep things from God because surrender can feel like a loss sometimes and control gives the illusion of safety. If I hold it, I can manage it. If I manage it, I can prepare for it. If I prepare for it, maybe I won't be disappointed. Taking our worries to God requires us to admit that we don't have leverage. And that is uncomfortable for me. Sometimes we don't pray about things because prayer makes it real. Praying about it means saying I can't do this alone. Praying about it also means accepting that the outcome might not match the plan that we secretly rehearse in our head a thousand times. And sometimes we just aren't ready for peace. In whatever situation that is is, we tend to tell ourselves, let me just figure this part out first or I'll pray. When I have a little more clarity, or even this is one that I feel. Often I feel silly taking this to God. But I am learning every day that what we're really saying is if I give this to you, God, I can't micromanage it anymore. And I don't know if giving this to you is signing me up for the toughest soldier package or the easy road. And that is scary for me as a type A person. I really like to be in control. And I always have. I like plans, I like structure, I like knowing what's coming next. And for a long time I convinced myself that control meant responsibility. That if I had just planned hard enough, worked smart enough, stayed disciplined enough, I could guarantee the life that I wanted. And y', all, that plan worked all the way through college. I had tunnel vision and determination like no other for years. And I, I was proud of that. Maybe it was my type A tendencies, or maybe it was high functioning anxiety or achievement based security. Or maybe it's an old survival wiring that I learned early on that if I stay prepared, I'd stay safe. Whatever it was, it felt productive. And I thought I had life figured out. But your nervous system has a way of revealing the truth. Because the truth is nothing is actually in your control. Not timing, not people, not love, not seasons. And pretending otherwise doesn't make us prepared. It just makes us tired and burnt out in the long run. I wasn't anxious because I didn't trust myself. I was anxious because I wasn't fully trusting God. I was walking through life with faith in my prayers, but fear in my posture. Believing but still gripping on the wheel, asking God to guide me while I was quietly wishing and telling him how it needed to go. And then there were a couple of moments last year when my heart would just drop. Moments when a thought Would creep in and sit very heavy on my chest. What if this is all God has for me? What if the dreams I've carried since I was a little girl aren't actually meant to be? What if the family, the kids, the love, the success that I've envisioned isn't in his plan for me? Y', all, they would hit like a ton of bricks. And I would lay awake at night staring at the ceiling or sitting on my bathroom floor crying my eyes out, wondering if I was missing something. Wondering if I had taken a wrong turn somewhere. Wondering if I wasn't praying enough, doing enough, being enough, listening enough. Am I doing the things that I'm supposed to? Did I mishear God? Did I ignore Him? Did I wait too long? Did I move too fast and the spiral would start? But here's what I've come to understand. Those thoughts were never prophecy. They were just fear. Fear that if I don't control it, I'll lose it. Fear that if it hasn't happened yet, then it won't. Fear that silence means no. And fear is loud, but God is steady. I realize that God has never operated on my panic. He's never moved on my deadlines. And he has never asked me to secure a future that he already holds. And the more I sat with it, the more I realized that my anxiety wasn't about whether God is good. It was more about whether I trusted him to be good to me. And that's different. Because trusting him means believing that I deserve good things. That what he has for me is not smaller than my dreams. It's aligned with them. And even better. The Bible says that God is able to do exceeding, exceedingly, abundantly, above all we could ask or think. Not slightly above, not barely above. Exceedingly, abundantly above. So if my dreams feel big, why would I assume that his plans are smaller than that? Trusting God means believing that delay isn't denial. Trusting God means that quiet seasons aren't punishment. Trusting God means that unanswered timelines are not unanswered prayers. And maybe the question was never, is this all God has for me? Maybe the deeper question for me was, can I trust that what he has for me is enough? So in this season, I'm choosing alignment over control. Because alignment isn't about forcing life to make sense. It's about trusting that it already does, even when I can't see the full picture. Alignment is where your faith and your actions finally start to match up. When you stop negotiating with God and start trusting him, when you release the pressures of having everything figured out and allow yourself to be led, y'. All. I'm 31. I'm single and standing in a life that's still unfolding. And I'm learning that peace doesn't come from certainty. It comes from trust. From discernment, from surrender that doesn't weaken you you but grounds you. This isn't a season of passivity for me. I've had one too many of those. I think it's a season of obedience. Not performing, not forcing. Just flow with faith, clarity and deeper self belief. Because what's meant for me doesn't need to be controlled. It needs to be trusted. So this season, I am anchoring myself in that trust. I'm trusting God's timing. I'm trusting his plan over my anxiety. I'm trusting that alignment will always lead me exactly where I'm supposed to be. Because fear cannot live in this season, all I have room for in my heart is faith. This is affirmations for Black Girls. Season five My alignment era. Dinner time. It's where little moments are cherished. With blue cash preferred. Get 6% cash back at US supermarkets and bring everyone together. I did say everyone. Learn more at americanexpress. Com Explore BCP terms and cashback cap apply with blue cash preferred.