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AuDHD and Then Some- Hosted by Ellie AuDHD
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Hey guys, it’s me, Ellie and this is my tiny part of the world a space that represents me and sometimes “us”🤍
Here I pride myself on being honest, down to earth, open, sometimes a bit sweary… but most importantly, unapologetically me. It’s taken me a long time to get here and I nearly at times didn’t , but I made it — just in time for perimenopause (joy 😭).
This is a safe, inclusive space for everyone — neurodivergent and non-neurodivergent people, ADHD, autistic and AuDHD minds, men, women, non-binary people, all ages, races, religions, identities, and backgrounds.
Whether you’re diagnosed, self-identifying, questioning, struggling, healing, or simply trying to understand yourself better… you are welcome here.
Because once upon a time, I needed a space like this — and I felt welcome nowhere. So let’s not recreate that.
After years of ADHD masking, autism masking, people pleasing, emotional burnout, and trying to fit into spaces that never fully fit me, I’m now on a journey to better understand myself, my AuDHD brain, and what it really means to live authentically as a neurodivergent woman — whilst training as a therapist, working as a mentor and coach, and occasionally doing motivational speaking.
If you’re navigating ADHD, autism, AuDHD, masking, burnout, executive dysfunction, rejection sensitivity, overwhelm, anxiety, emotional dysregulation, or the emotional reality of being neurodivergent in a world that doesn’t always understand you — you’re welcome here.
We also sometimes touch on trauma, healing, relationships, identity, mental health, and nervous system overwhelm… because a problem shared is a problem halved and all that and I’ve had an exciting life (ffs)
AuDHD and then some is a neurodivergent mental health podcast hosted by Ellie, exploring the real and often unspoken side of ADHD, autism, and late-diagnosed AuDHD.
Expect honest conversations, relatable reflections, and practical insights around:
• ADHD and autism (AuDHD)
• Neurodivergent identity and unmasking
• Executive dysfunction and autistic burnout
• Emotional regulation and nervous system overwhelm
• Rejection sensitivity and people pleasing
• ADHD in women and high-masking autism
• Late diagnosis grief and self-acceptance
This isn’t about fixing yourself.
It’s about understanding your brain, softening the noise, and feeling a little less alone.
✨ More resources, bonus content and community:
www.ellieaudhd.com
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Betrayal Trauma: Healing After Sexual Addiction, Infidelity & Broken Trust | With Roxanna Johnson
5d ago01:13:39Summary readyWhen betrayal shatters your world, where do you begin rebuilding?In this episode of AuDHD and Then Some, I sit down with author, speaker and betrayal trauma advocate Roxanna Johnson to explore the devastating impact of discovering a partner’s sexual addiction, pornography addiction or infidelity—and, most importantly, how healing is possible.Roxanna shares her own deeply personal story after discovering her husband’s secret sexual addiction after almost 24 years of marriage. Together we discuss betrayal trauma, trust, boundaries, forgiveness, detaching with love, people-pleasing, shame, rebuilding your identity, and what recovery can look like whether your partner chooses healing or not.We also explore whether neurodivergent people, including those with ADHD and autism, may experience betrayal, rejection and uncertainty differently, and how emotional regulation, rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD), hypervigilance and black-and-white thinking can influence the healing journey.Whether you’re recovering from betrayal, supporting someone who is, or simply want to understand the psychology of trust and trauma, this conversation offers compassion, practical insights and hope.In this episode we discuss:• What betrayal trauma is and why it hurts so deeply• Sexual addiction, pornography addiction and partner betrayal• Healthy boundaries vs trying to control someone else• Detaching with love• Forgiveness and rebuilding trust• People-pleasing and shame• Rebuilding your identity after betrayal• Betrayal trauma in ADHD and autistic adults• Finding hope after heartbreakConnect with Roxanna Johnson:https://forgottenspouse.comIf this episode helped you, please follow AuDHD and Then Some, leave a review, and share it with someone who may need to hear this conversation.
SummaryHealing Childhood Trauma: Simone Boyer on Recovery, Resilience & Finding Purpose
1w ago01:09:32Summary readyTrigger warning Can childhood trauma shape the person we become? Can healing rewrite the story we’ve spent a lifetime believing? In this powerful episode of AuDHD and Then Some, Ellie sits down with Simone Boyer, author of Chasing Light and founder of The Light Within Collective, for an honest conversation about trauma, addiction, survival, recovery, and finding hope after profound loss.Simone shares her remarkable journey from childhood trauma, addiction, and near-death experiences to discovering purpose, self-worth, and healing. Together, Ellie and Simone explore how trauma creates survival responses such as hypervigilance, people-pleasing, codependency, and perfectionism—and why understanding the language of survival is the first step towards lasting change.In this episode, you’ll discover:How childhood trauma influences adult relationships and behaviour.Why survival mechanisms aren’t personality flaws.The power of inner child work and reparenting.Breaking free from toxic family dynamics.Finding compassion for yourself after trauma.Hope, resilience, recovery, and rebuilding a meaningful life.Whether you’re healing from childhood trauma, navigating addiction recovery, living with neurodivergence, or supporting someone you love, this conversation offers practical insights, validation, and a powerful reminder that your past does not have to define your future.If you’ve ever wondered whether healing is possible, this episode is for you. Your story isn’t over yet—and neither is your light.
SummaryWhy We People Please: RSD, Boundaries & Rejection in AuDHD | With Tasha
2w ago01:03:24Summary readyWhy does rejection feel so overwhelming? Why do so many AuDHD people apologise constantly, struggle to say no, and put everyone else’s needs before their own?In this episode of AuDHD and Then Some, Ellie is joined by Tasha for an open and honest conversation about Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD), people pleasing, masking, and the emotional impact of growing up feeling misunderstood.Together, they explore why rejection can feel physically painful, how people pleasing often develops as a survival strategy, and why setting boundaries can be one of the hardest—but most important—things neurodivergent people learn to do.Whether you’re autistic, ADHD, AuDHD, or simply relate to the fear of letting people down, this episode will help you understand that you’re not “too sensitive”—your experiences make sense.In this episode, we discuss:• Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD)• People pleasing and trauma responses• ADHD, autism and AuDHD• Masking and self-abandonment• Boundaries without guilt• Fear of rejection• Emotional regulation• Self-worth and healingIf this conversation resonates with you, this month’s workbook in the Ellie AuDHD Subscribers Hub explores RSD and people pleasing in more depth, with practical exercises and gentle reflections to help you understand yourself with greater compassion.If you enjoyed this episode, please follow AuDHD and Then Some, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs the reminder that they were never “too much”—they were simply trying to survive in a world that didn’t always understand them.#AuDHD #ADHD #Autism #Neurodivergent #RSD #PeoplePleasing #Boundaries #Masking #MentalHealth #EmotionalRegulation
SummaryEarly Intervention Matters: Spotting ADHD & Autism with Dr. Inyang Takon
2w ago00:53:58Summary readyIf you’ve ever wondered whether your child’s behaviour is typical development or a sign of ADHD, autism or another neurodevelopmental difference, this episode is for you.In this episode of AuDHD and Then Some, I sit down with Dr. Inyang Takon, Consultant Neurodevelopmental Paediatrician with over 30 years of clinical experience, to discuss the early signs of ADHD and autism, why early intervention matters, and how parents can access the right support.Together, we explore:• The early signs of ADHD and autism in children• When parents should seek an assessment• What happens during the diagnostic process• ADHD medication and non-medication support• Practical strategies for families and schools• Common myths about neurodivergence• The impact of culture and stigma on diagnosis and support• How parents can move from confusion to clarityDr. Takon shares compassionate, evidence-based advice that empowers parents, carers and professionals to better understand and support neurodivergent children.Whether you’re raising a neurodivergent child, working in education, or simply want to learn more about ADHD, autism and early intervention, this conversation is packed with practical insights and reassurance.🔗 Find Dr. Inyang Takon:Website: https://www.drtakon.comIf you enjoyed this episode, please follow AuDHD and Then Some, leave a rating or review, and share this episode with someone who might find it helpful. Your support helps more people discover honest conversations about AuDHD, ADHD, autism and neurodiversity.
SummaryTrauma, Masking & Addiction in AuDHD | Susan Eileen on Healing, Identity & Unmasking
2w ago01:09:23Tap to summarize🎙️ Trauma, Masking & Addiction in AuDHD | Susan Eileen on Healing, Identity & UnmaskingWhat if the masks you’ve worn your whole life weren’t your personality, but survival strategies?In this thought-provoking episode of AuDHD and Then Some, Ellie is joined by author Susan Eileen to explore the complex relationship between trauma, ADHD, autism, AuDHD, masking, addiction and healing.Together, they discuss the differences between neurodivergent masking and trauma masking, why so many late-diagnosed adults struggle to know who they really are, and how unresolved trauma can shape our relationships, behaviours and sense of self.Susan also shares her perspective on addiction, explaining why she believes trauma often sits at the heart of addictive behaviours, and introduces the concept of survival masks such as the people pleaser, the martyr and the loner. The conversation also explores boundaries, self-compassion, generational wounds, and what healing can look like for neurodivergent adults.Whether you’re autistic, ADHD, AuDHD, a trauma survivor, or simply trying to understand yourself more deeply, this episode offers an honest, compassionate conversation that encourages reflection and curiosity.In this episode:• ADHD, autism and AuDHD• Trauma vs neurodivergent masking• Addiction and the neurodivergent brain• People pleasing and survival responses• Generational trauma and healing• Boundaries and self-compassion• Late diagnosis and identity• Unmasking your authentic selfIf this episode resonates with you, please follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who might need to hear this conversation today. 💜
Transcribe →Building a Life Around Your Neurodivergent Brain & Strengths | Danielle Sullivan
2w ago01:04:01Tap to summarizeWhat if the goal wasn’t to fit into a neurotypical world, but to build a life that actually works for your brain?In this episode of AuDHD and Then Some, I’m joined by neurodivergent coach, educator, and founder of Neurodiverging, Danielle Sullivan. We explore how autistic and ADHD people can stop fighting their brains and start building lives around their unique strengths, needs, and ways of thinking.We discuss:• Building a life around your strengths instead of your struggles• ADHD, autism and AuDHD• Burnout and why it happens• Reducing shame and embracing self-acceptance• Emotional regulation and practical strategies• Late diagnosis and understanding yourself• Danielle’s new book, Embracing Your ADHD BrainThis is a compassionate, practical conversation for anyone wanting to better understand their neurodivergent brain and create a life that feels sustainable, authentic, and fulfilling.#ADHD #Autism #AuDHD #Neurodiversity #Neurodivergent #ADHDPodcast #AutismPodcast #Burnout #ExecutiveFunction #SelfAcceptance
Transcribe →The painful nostalgia of Neurodivergence
3w ago00:08:32Tap to summarizeNobody talks about how painful nostalgia can be when you’re neurodivergent.Not because you miss the past more than anyone else—but because so much of your life was spent just trying to get through it.When your nervous system is constantly in survival mode, it’s hard to be fully present. Even in the moments you’ve waited for, dreamed about, or thought would finally make everything feel okay.Then years later, you find yourself desperately trying to remember them. Trying to hold onto moments that never had the chance to fully sink in because your brain was focused on surviving, not storing memories.That’s the heartbreak.It’s not just grieving the past.It’s grieving the version of you that never got to fully experience it.If this resonates with you, you’re not alone. ❤️
Transcribe →Breaking Relationship Patterns: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery and neurodivergence | Virginia McConnell
4w ago01:00:12Tap to summarizeWhy do so many of us find ourselves repeating the same relationship patterns? How do we recognise red flags, recover from narcissistic abuse, and learn to trust ourselves again?In this episode of AuDHD and Then Some, I’m joined by relationship pattern coach, dating coach, and narcissistic abuse recovery coach Virginia McConnell. We explore why unhealthy relationship dynamics can repeat, how manipulation affects our self-trust, the warning signs many people miss, and what healing can look like after a toxic relationship.We also discuss the possible crossover between neurodivergence and unhealthy relationship dynamics, including why some autistic and ADHD individuals may struggle with boundaries, people-pleasing, or recognising manipulation.Whether you’re recovering from a toxic relationship, interested in narcissistic abuse recovery, or simply want to build healthier relationships, this conversation is packed with practical insights and compassionate advice.You can learn more about Virginia, explore her coaching, and take her free relationship quizzes at breakthepatterns.net.If you enjoyed this episode, please follow AuDHD and Then Some, leave a review, and share it with someone who might find it helpful.#AuDHD #ADHD #Autism #Neurodivergent #NarcissisticAbuse #ToxicRelationships #RelationshipPatterns #MentalHealth #Healing #Boundaries #SelfTrust #Podcast
Transcribe →Harm Reduction, Addiction & Recovery (Part 1) | Dave Kopney & Man on Pause
Jul 900:45:22Tap to summarizeDue to internet signal issues during recording, this conversation had to be split into two parts. We kept getting cut off, but the discussion was far too important not to share, so we’ve released it as Part 1 and Part 2.In Part 1, I’m joined by Dave Kopney, alongside the brilliant Man on Pause, who asks some incredibly thoughtful and insightful questions throughout the conversation.Together we explore addiction, harm reduction, recovery, lived experience, and the realities behind substance use without judgement or stigma.Topics include:• Harm reduction• Addiction & recovery• Mental health• Trauma• Lived experience• Neurodivergence• Compassion over judgementFind out more about Dave’s work:🌐 ASAP Community: https://asapcommunity.org/
Transcribe →Harm Reduction, Addiction & Recovery (Part 2) | Continuing the Conversation with Dave Kopney
Jul 900:30:39Tap to summarizeWelcome to Part 2 of my conversation with Dave Kopney.Unfortunately, our recording kept being interrupted by poor internet signal, so we decided to split the interview into two parts rather than lose such an important discussion.In this episode, we continue talking about addiction, harm reduction, recovery, trauma, stigma, hope, and the lessons Dave has learned through his own lived experience.If you haven’t already, I’d recommend listening to Part 1 first, where Dave is joined by the fantastic Man on Pause, whose thoughtful questions helped shape the conversation.Find out more about Dave’s work:🌐 ASAP Community: https://asapcommunity.org/
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