Are you attracting the right people or stuck in a cycle of people-pleasing? In this candid recap, Lesley Logan and Brad Crowell dig into the highlights from the recent interview with Barb Betts, a powerhouse keynote speaker and author of The Relationship Advantage. With over 20 years of expertise, Barb’s insights on choosing genuine connections over surface-level relationships will transform your perspective on your own identity. This episode explores the provocative idea that authenticity isn't about "doing" something new, but rather "undoing" the layers that aren't actually you.

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In this episode you will learn about:

Building a relationship with yourself before connecting with others.
Stop people-pleasing by undoing everything that is not you.
Replace envy with curiosity to escape the comparison trap.
Apply visibility, vulnerability, and relatability to build real trust.
Release relationships that require you to show up inauthentically.

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Episode Transcript:

Lesley Logan 0:00

If you're not clear on who you are, you actually fill in these gaps you people, please, and then you're wondering, like, why you have relationships that, like, don't represent you, or don't feel right or don't fit, it's because you didn't know who you were, and you you brought that on yourself.

Lesley Logan 0:14

Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started.

Lesley Logan 0:56

Welcome back to the Be It Till You See It interview recap where my co-host in life, Brad, and I are going to dig into the candid convo I had with Barb Betts in the last episode. If you haven't listened to that one, you didn't hear it, and you're not gonna understand what we're talking about, but.

Brad Crowell 1:09

Well that's true. If they didn't listen to it, then they didn't hear it.

Lesley Logan 1:11

Well, we're thrilled you're here. So if this you might, this might be the first, Be It hot episode.

Brad Crowell 1:17

We're so happy that you're here.

Lesley Logan 1:18

You know, it's taken 665 episodes. We didn't realize maybe this is the first one, and that's why you didn't listen to it. And I shouldn't say you fucking missed out, because, like, you're new. How would you know? So welcome. This is not what my voice normally sounds like. It doesn't normally sound like I'm on the brink of a sneeze, but I have a sinus stitch, and here we are. We are gonna while you're listening to this, we are in Europe, and we have to record these things early, and so we can't wait any longer. This is how it's gonna be. So stick around.

Brad Crowell 1:46

That's true.

Lesley Logan 1:46

It does get better than this. It's basically just it sounds less Lesley. Today is April 9th, and it's National Unicorn Day.

Brad Crowell 1:53

That's right.

Lesley Logan 1:54

You're fucking welcome.

Brad Crowell 1:54

You are very welcome. National Unicorn Day.

Lesley Logan 1:57

There are other days that we can celebrate. But, I mean, come on, hello. National Unicorn Day is a day to celebrate the most popular mythical creature ever. Why? Because if we don't take time to celebrate a beautiful horn, rainbow, printed mythical creature, then we're most definitely missing a trick. I don't think it's trick. You've been missing out.

Brad Crowell 2:17

You're missing out.

Lesley Logan 2:17

You're missing out. It's missing out. The unicorn is a symbol of happiness, fantasy and wonder. It's an icon of color, of childlike splendor and magic. They often make appearances on birthday cakes and children's clothing. And let's be honest, quite a lot of US adults still dig them, too. I mean, hello...

665. The Secret to Being Authentic Is Undoing Everything