When you lose your temper with your kid, it doesn’t feel great. But it IS totally normal.

Perfection is not possible, in parenting especially. All parents lose their temper and speak or act harshly towards their kids from time to time.

You’ll Learn:

Unhealthy ways parents often handle a rupture
10 benefits of repair conversations for kids
How to lead a repair conversation with your child (and what to expect when you do)

In this episode, I’m sharing what’s really going on when you lose your temper and what to do after the dust settles.

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When You Lose Your Temper

First, let’s get clear on one thing.

No one can make you angry. Not even your kid.

Anger is an emotion that comes from your thoughts about a situation or behavior.

And getting angry isn’t actually the problem.

What really matters is how you handle the moments when anger takes over and you lose your temper.

These moments are sometimes called “ruptures”, because they interrupt the connection between parent and child.

When you speak or act harshly towards your child, you create a negative impact and disconnection in your relationship.

Have A Repair Conversation

When you do lose your temper, it’s time to take responsibility for your actions and repair the rupture (in the same way we would guide our kids to take responsibility for the impacts of their behavior).

"Repair" is the conversation you have with your child in order to mend the disconnection between you.

These conversations teach your kids how to resolve conflict, empower them to make mistakes and repair them and create more emotional safety and connection in your home.

A repair conversation has three parts:

Acknowledge what happened
Recognize the impact your behavior had on them
Repair your mistake

And in between, you hold plenty of space for your child to process and respond.

I’ll walk you through these three parts in more detail and show you how to have a repair conversation with your kids that actually restores connection and strengthens your relationships.

There is no "right" outcome for these conversations. They can be awkward and don't always go smoothly. But, I promise, the benefits outweigh the discomfort.

Listen in to learn how so that you’ll be ready the next time you lose your cool.

Free Resources:

Get your copy of the Stop Yelling Cheat Sheet!

In this free guide you’ll discover:

✨ A simple tool to stop yelling once you’ve started (This one thing will get you calm.)

✨ 40 things to do instead of yelling. (You only need to pick one!)

✨ Exactly why you yell. (And how to stop yourself from starting.)

✨A script to say to your kids when you yell. (So they don't follow you around!)

Download the Stop Yelling Cheat Sheet here

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