Getting it all off your chest is supposed to be healing. But sometimes the venting that feels like relief is quietly feeding your resentment instead. In this episode, Dr. Greg sits down with Fr. Gregory Pine—author of Training the Tongue—to explore why the deepest purpose of speech is communion, and how to tell the difference between working through your pain and simply settling the score.

Key Topics:

Why the real purpose of speech isn't expressing yourself — it's communion
How to tell whether you're venting toward healing or just venting to settle the score
Why the friend who only ever agrees with you might be the one holding you back
What separates a listener who helps you grow from one who only feeds your anger
Why "getting it off your chest" can leave the wound exactly where it was
How custody of the tongue is good news, not one more rule to feel guilty about

Learn More:

Fr. Gregory Pine's book: Training the Tongue and Growing Beyond Sins of Speech
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