"Offer it up." "I've forgiven them." "Everything happens for a reason." Every one of them is true—and every one can become a way to avoid the healing God is actually offering.

In this episode, Dr. Greg names spiritual bypassing: using prayer, devotion, and even good theology to step around grief, anger, and the wounds still waiting underneath. He explains why grace builds on nature, and why God heals only the humanity we're willing to bring into the light.

Key Topics:

Why the one escape nobody warns you about is the one everyone applauds: prayer, retreats, "offering it up"
How "I've already forgiven them" can be completely true and still leave the same wound bleeding for years
Why "I'm still discerning" is sometimes just stalling with a halo on it
How taking Mary or Joseph as your parent can heal a wound—or quietly become the reason you never grieve the one you actually had
Why the anger you keep spiritualizing away might be the exact thing you most need to listen to
Why you can pray for years, go to confession after confession, and still land in the same cycle—and what that finally reveals

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Previous episodes in this series on Avoidance:
- Ep. #286: A Mental Tug of War: Inside the Avoidant Mind and the Burden of Being Known
- Ep. #287: We Are Not Robots: Why Connection Is Not Optional for Human Flourishing
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- Ep. #281: Control or Be Controlled: The Devastating Wounds Behind Antisocial Behavioral Patterns
Start of the Being Human series on the Histrionic Defense Patterns:
- Ep. #274: To Be Loved Is to Perform: Inside the Histrionic Compulsion for Attention and Validation
Start of the Being Human series on the Borderline Defense Patterns:
- Ep. #269: BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation
Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Patterns:
- Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing
Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Patterns:
- Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary
Previous episodes on parts work (IFS):
- Ep. #34: A New Theory! w/ a Catholic Lens
- Ep. #35: Why Do I Feel Like I Have Conflicting Thoughts? w/ Dr. Peter Malinoski
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