An Abortion Story (FBF)

Summary

Call Her Daddy Podcast Episode Summary: "An Abortion Story (FBF)"

Host: Alex Cooper
Episode Title: An Abortion Story (FBF)
Description: In this poignant episode, Alex Cooper delves deep into the realities faced by women seeking abortions in the wake of the Supreme Court's decision to overturn Roe v. Wade. Through personal stories, expert insights, and firsthand accounts from women's health centers, the episode sheds light on the ongoing battle for reproductive rights in the United States.

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1. The Aftermath of Overturning Roe v. Wade

Timestamp: [01:20] - [07:06]

The episode kicks off with a stark portrayal of the immediate impact following the Supreme Court's decision to revoke Roe v. Wade. Hosts and guests discuss the surge in desperation among women seeking abortions, highlighting the emotional and logistical challenges introduced by the new legal landscape.

• Unknown Speaker [01:20]: "America ended a woman's constitutional right to an abortion."

• Christie Kelly [02:06]: "Roe puts every single one of us in danger."

Robin Marty elaborates on the regional disparities, pointing out that 14 states have already made abortion illegal, turning certain areas into "abortion deserts" where women must travel hundreds of miles to access legal services.

• Robin Marty [07:06]: "An abortion desert means that you have hundreds of miles that you have to go through in order to be able to access a legal clinic."

2. Challenges Faced by Women's Health Centers

Timestamp: [03:15] - [07:06]

Calla, the Executive Director of a preferred women's health center, shares her experiences dealing with increased patient distress and aggressive protests outside clinics.

• Calla [03:37]: "This is like an easy day... people are gonna get abortion. Abortion is still legal in North Carolina. We are still free."

Robin Marty discusses the operational challenges post-Roe, including the cessation of abortion services in certain states and the redefinition of their centers to focus solely on reproductive health care without the option of abortion.

• Robin Marty [06:27]: "At this point we have 14 states where there's no longer legal abortion."

3. The Nature of Anti-Abortion Protests

Timestamp: [02:42] - [22:23]

The podcast delves into the aggressive tactics employed by anti-abortion protesters. These individuals often use fear-mongering and misinformation to dissuade women from seeking abortions.

• Unknown Speaker [02:18]: "You don't want to have the murder of your innocent family."

• Christie Kelly [13:45]: "They try to say things that are not true, like, if you go in there, you will die. An abortion is not safe..."

Protesters often approach women at clinics, bombarding them with derogatory remarks and false claims about the dangers of abortion. Calla recounts harrowing encounters where women were verbally assaulted, leading to significant emotional trauma.

• Unknown Speaker [12:21]: "I was shaking. It's fucking terrifying... Did you choose life?"

4. Personal Stories and Emotional Impact

Timestamp: [23:13] - [35:42]

A series of heartfelt testimonies from women who have undergone abortions provide a deeply personal perspective on the issue.

• Alex Cooper [25:33]: "Having an abortion is probably one of the best things that's ever happened to me. It gave me freedom. It gave me a life."

Robin Marty shares her story of an abortion that saved her life, allowing her to pursue higher education and build a family on her own terms.

• Robin Marty [26:24]: "Having the right to an abortion, having my abortion, it saved my life."

Other guests detail the stigmatization and personal attacks they've faced, both from society and individuals vehemently opposed to abortion.

• Different Speakers [27:04] - [34:52]: "They know who you are? You're pregnant... You're not going to be able to escape death."

5. Religious Influence and Control Over Women's Bodies

Timestamp: [22:14] - [34:35]

The podcast examines how religious ideologies are intertwined with the anti-abortion movement, often using scripture to justify the suppression of women's reproductive rights.

• Robin Marty [22:23]: "Their religion doesn't like women. ... They like the idea of women as possessions."

Guests critique the manipulation of religious texts to foster a patriarchal control over women's bodies, emphasizing that the movement is less about protecting life and more about exerting power.

• Alex Cooper [34:01]: "Do not murder an innocent child."

6. Strategies for Advocacy and Change

Timestamp: [35:16] - [38:24]

In the face of mounting challenges, the podcast emphasizes the importance of activism and collective action in combating anti-abortion legislation. Guests advocate for proactive measures such as voting, participating in protests, and supporting organizations that defend reproductive rights.

• Robin Marty [35:16]: "If we all join together and we decide, no, we do deserve abortion. It's my fucking body."

• Robin Marty [36:37]: "At some point, you have to decide what you're willing to do in order to make change."

The conversation underscores the necessity of resilience and solidarity among women to ensure that reproductive rights are preserved and expanded.

7. Closing Reflections and Rallying Cry

Timestamp: [37:12] - [38:24]

As the episode concludes, the hosts and guests rally listeners to remain steadfast in the fight for bodily autonomy. They highlight the generational impact of the current battle, stressing that today's actions will shape the future landscape of women's rights.

• Robin Marty [37:12]: "Everything's about inequality... They think they deserve less, they don't deserve to have control over their bodies."

• Robin Marty [38:24]: "The idea of hell has no fury like a woman scorned... your audience is who is going to change everything."

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Notable Quotes with Timestamps

• Christie Kelly [02:06]: "Roe puts every single one of us in danger."

• Robin Marty [07:06]: "An abortion desert means that you have hundreds of miles that you have to go through in order to be able to access a legal clinic."

• Alex Cooper [25:33]: "Having an abortion is probably one of the best things that's ever happened to me. It gave me freedom. It gave me a life."

• Robin Marty [26:24]: "Having the right to an abortion, having my abortion, it saved my life."

• Christie Kelly [13:45]: "They try to say things that are not true, like, if you go in there, you will die. An abortion is not safe..."

• Robin Marty [35:16]: "If we all join together and we decide, no, we do deserve abortion. It's my fucking body."

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Conclusion

"An Abortion Story (FBF)" serves as a compelling exploration of the tumultuous landscape surrounding abortion rights in America today. Through emotional narratives and critical discussions, Alex Cooper and her guests illuminate the profound personal and societal impacts of restricting reproductive freedoms. The episode not only highlights the struggles faced by women seeking abortions but also calls for unwavering advocacy and unity in the fight to safeguard bodily autonomy.

For those seeking to understand the current state of reproductive rights and the resilience of women fighting for their choices, this episode offers invaluable insights and a rallying call to action.

Transcript

[Alex Cooper]

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[Unknown]

I am currently on my way to a preferred women's health center where women in Charlotte, North Carolina, get abortions. It's a Saturday, so the clinic is probably going to be pretty busy. Saturday also is probably when a lot of protesters will be here. If there's one episode of Call Her Daddy that people should watch and listen to, it's this one.

[Calla]

50 years worth of women's rights in.

[Unknown]

America ended a woman's constitutional right to an abortion.

[Christie Kelly]

Roe puts every single one of us.

[Robin Marty]

In danger.

[Unknown]

Has done nothing wrong to deserve the best sentence today, to deserve an end in the trash can. Did you choose life? If you made it, did you choose life? There's an ultrasound down there. Just go park there, okay? Go ahead. Go down there to the ultrasound. Keep driving. We're good. Call Mommy.

Keep driving.

Inside that building, you are not going to find hope. You are not going to find help. You're not going to find joy or peace or any of those things inside that building. Because none of those things can come from the murder of your innocent family. You don't have to go in there today. Don't follow the path of the wicked that are driving you, that are bringing you into this building, lying to you about the humanity of your child, leading you, like, deep into the.

Hi there.

I'm a volunteer with the clinic. That baby is precious in the spirit. God says the sixth commandment. God says, thou shall not murder.

I want to start off by having you introduce yourself.

[Calla]

I'm Callahs. I'm the executive director of a preferred women's health center, and this is my ninth year being here.

[Unknown]

So your parents started this clinic?

[Calla]

Yes.

[Unknown]

In what ways has your clinic been impacted by the overturn of Roe v. Wade?

[Calla]

This is easily the most desperate I've ever seen patients, which is very frustrating. However, like, we do focus on the fact that we are still helping patients live their best lives because, like, as.

[Unknown]

An outsider, just coming in and seeing the protesters, immediately I'm like, holy shit, this is hell.

[Calla]

And this is like an easy day. Once you get here and you're driving to the clinic, you're driving past these folks who are calling themselves pregnancy counselors, but they're not with the clinic. And they're specifically trying to stop patients to explain to them why they shouldn't have an abortion or what they can do. Instead, you're seeing these patients and their companions come in and you start hearing people yelling at you and being like, you're a murderer. You're a slut. Mama, don't kill your baby. They're so loud that you can hear it through the doors and through the walls, and it is traumatizing. One of the worst and most uncomfortable feelings to have is when a patient comes in and, like, is so distraught and so upset, and, you know, you ask them what's wrong, and they're like, am I gonna die? I'm like, honey, why did you come in if you thought you were gonna die? And she was like, well, I can't have this baby. But the guy outside tells me that, like, people die here all the time. And I'm like. The fact that you felt like you were submitting yourself to what you thought could be certain death is just so heartbreaking.

[Unknown]

Well, now that abortion laws can be.

[Calla]

Determined by each state, conservative America is tightening its grip.

[Alex Cooper]

So we knew that the United States Supreme Court was gonna overturn Roe v. Wade.

[Unknown]

Fuck.

[Alex Cooper]

And I mean this with all disrespect.

[Christie Kelly]

In my heart, you 26 states will ban abortion.

[Unknown]

You're talking about 36 million women of reproductive age.

I'm a 15 year old girl and.

[Alex Cooper]

My rights are being threatened.

[Unknown]

And I came here because I'm hoping.

To not allow these government officials who.

Think they have control over my body.

To do what they're doing and take us back 50 years of fighting.

[Robin Marty]

The day that the ruling came down, I had to immediately Call up my staff and tell them to stop seeing patients. Because in Alabama we had a law that said that all abortion was illegal and anyone who was involved could be put in jail. I'm Robin Marty. I am operations director for West Alabama Women's center. And until a few months ago, it provided about half of the abortions in the state of Alabama. Now it just does reproductive health care.

[Unknown]

As we sit here today, how many states have made abortion illegal?

[Robin Marty]

At this point we have 14 states where there's no longer legal abortion. Now that Roe v. Wade has been overturned, all of the states get to decide individually whether or not there will be legal abortion and they don't have to have it legal in their state at all. A lot of times people think, okay, that means I have to go to the next state over in order to get an abortion. Where I'm from in the south, in the Gulf coast, there's no legal abortion anywhere.

[Unknown]

So is that when people are referring to like an abortion desert?

[Robin Marty]

Yeah, an abortion desert means that you have hundreds of miles that you have to go through in order to be able to access a legal clinic.

[Unknown]

We go back. We won't go back. We won't go back. We won't go back. There have been bills in a number of states to ban common forms of birth control. Not abortion, birth control. I think every woman in America needs to know this.

Should women be nervous and worried that birth control and Plan B could potentially become illegal?

[Robin Marty]

Oh, God, yes. I'm so terrified of it. Specifically in Alabama, we think the next legislative session that emergency contraception is going to be banned. And we think this because right after the, right after the decision, there was a reporter who went through and asked all of the representatives whether they would consider banning emergency contraception next. And the worst part was most of them responded. I don't really know what that is, but yeah, that sounds like a good thing to ban. I don't know how it works, but yeah, we should ban it because that's what we're at. I don't know how it works, but yes, let's get rid of it.

[Alex Cooper]

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[Unknown]

Your baby's heart started beating in your womb just below your own heart. That child is created. If you can't name five parts of a woman's reproductive system, you don't deserve an opinion on women's reproductive health care. You're not pro life, you're pro force. Birth women are not your incubators. Your religion does not have a place in my doctor's office.

I drove up to the clinic while this protest is going on, and I was shaking. It's fucking terrifying. There's so much shame. As I was driving, a man just started screaming, murderer, Murderer. And a woman shoved her face at my car window. And it's like, did you choose life? Did you choose life? Did you choose life?

There's an ultrasound down there. Just go park there. Okay.

The shame that they're trying to inflict on these women, the confusion also of, like, how they make you feel. It's so overwhelming and it's. I can't. I cannot even imagine waking up in the morning to get an abortion and.

[Alex Cooper]

To have to deal with this.

[Robin Marty]

It is.

[Unknown]

It's insane.

[Christie Kelly]

I am Christie Kelly. My regular job is. I'm a corporate accountant and I have been volunteering in like some sphere of reproductive justice for off and on, 20 odd years.

[Unknown]

Your job is an escort and defender. Okay, so can you describe what those jobs do?

[Christie Kelly]

Sure. So escort's job is to, you know, once the patient's in the parking lot, you get them from their vehicle into the clinic door. And the whole point is just to shield them as much as possible, you know, to maintain their privacy and dignity and to try to shield them from, you know, a lot of the rhetoric and really nasty things.

[Unknown]

Do the protesters ever provide misinformation to the patients?

[Christie Kelly]

A better question would be, do they ever not provide misinformation? They try to say things that are not true, like, if you go in there, you will die. An abortion is not safe, and abortion is incredibly safe. It is safer. Have you ever had a root canal or gotten your wisdom teeth out? You were in way more danger.

[Unknown]

It's all scare tactics mostly.

[Christie Kelly]

Yeah. And shame. Yeah, shame and fear is the easiest thing to learn about, like the anti choice stuff and all of that. It's not about babies. It's never, ever, ever about babies. It's about control.

[Unknown]

We are having A conference here. And I'm trying to enlighten these nice folks.

Oh, Dan.

Of their slavery to sin and their need to repent. Concerned about yours as well.

Why do you think my soul is in jeopardy?

Because you're supporting the murder of children. You're in rebellion to God because children are being murdered inside of there.

What if I don't believe in God? How can I be in rebellion?

I mean, you can stand on an interstate and say, I don't believe in mack trucks, is one coming at you at 70 miles an hour.

So you are equating God with a Mack truck.

And you need to bow before me when you address.

Oh, I will never bow before me.

Because I identify as royalty. I've always felt royal ever since I was born.

Well, of course you felt royal. You're a white man.

Do you believe in equality of women and men?

I believe in equality of value, yes. I don't believe in equality of function. Like, literally. Men and women have different functions with their bodies and the way their bodies operate.

What is your goal when you show up this place?

My goal is to try to persuade people not to take the innocent lives of their children and offer them alternatives somehow.

Is it a man's issue?

I do think abortion is a man's issue, yes. If men didn't take advantage of women and have sex with them outside of marriage, then this wouldn't be a thing.

Do you think that it would be helpful if men all at a young age got vasectomies, and then when they were ready to financially be able to support a child, then they get it reversed?

Are you suggesting that the government institute that as a. As a government program?

At this point, we're regulating the uteruses. We could also regulate the penises, right? I mean, if we're forced to have the kids.

You believe that?

I'm just asking you, do you think that would help?

I don't know. I don't think it would be helpful for society.

I'm Shannon. I am the executive director of Charlotte for Choice, which is a nonprofit that helps defend and escort patients coming into the clinic.

What do you make of the term pro life?

I don't use it because these folks are. Pro life would be taking care of the children that are born, working with houseless population, helping others. They don't. They also believe that, you know, help yourself. We'll give you everything you need up to two years of life. That's what the antis tell the patients. We will give you a lavish baby shower for everything you need up to two years of life. There's a little bit more involved.

So let's talk about this rv, because this is.

[Alex Cooper]

This is crazy.

[Unknown]

This is evil. And you know, you know in your heart that this is the murder of your child.

What is happening in this rv? What is the purpose of the rv?

You can have a free ultrasound and see your precious baby. They allegedly have an ultrasound. They say they have a nurse that gives you ultrasound. They try to get patients to come on the rv. Young women, we have real help for you today. Yeah, perhaps they give ultrasounds, but while they're doing that, they're trying to convince them as to why they need to continue the pregnancy. Please do not do this. They also use this opportunity to hopefully get the patients to not make their appointment, miss their appointment time.

[Calla]

I can't actually remember a time where an ultrasound from that bus was accurate. I've had folks come in, say, well, they said they couldn't see anything. Like, I was too early to be seen. Or you tell them they're too far along to be seen to begin with. Like, there's. There's real manipulation here that really works to keep a patient from getting surfaces.

[Unknown]

Keep driving, keep driving, keep driving. We don't take money for what we. They don't want you to have any other choices but death, but we have many choices. Help for housing, food, a big baby shower for your child that covers close to two years of the baby's life.

[Christie Kelly]

If you're going to tell someone we have resources for you, be honest about what those resources are. If you take resources from them, they make them sign this, like, really elaborate contract. You have to give them access to going to medical appointments, to posting your image and your potentially future child's image on social media. They get to use you as a bargaining chick. Success story. That's pretty gross. That's really, really exploitative. And there's a huge element of, you know, white saviorism to it, too. That is extra gross.

[Unknown]

It does feel very manipulative.

[Christie Kelly]

Right, because they're going to say, we have resources. We can do this, this, this, this, and this for you. They don't. We've looked at those pamphlets. They're the number to the local social services. It's how to apply for Medicaid, how to apply for food stamps. How is that helping? Someone.

[Alex Cooper]

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[Unknown]

Inside that building, you are not going to find hope.

[Robin Marty]

We hear the religious rites say that it's okay to do those kind of lies because it's for a good cause. It's for God.

[Unknown]

God's word says the sixth commandment. God says thou shall not murder.

[Robin Marty]

And it just terrifies me because when you feel that every person who is for bodily autonomy is evil, they don't.

[Unknown]

Believe the lies and deception of this world.

[Robin Marty]

The wicked people, everything's justified. They believe that they are fighting the spiritual battle and we are the devil.

[Unknown]

Blessed art thou amongst women and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for our sinners. I don't care how many of y'all come out here. I don't care how many times you come out here, people are gonna get abortion. Abortion is still legal in North Carolina. We are still free. You uphold white supremacy. You uphold the legacy of slavery, forced childbirth.

How does religion play a part in the fight for women to have access to this type of healthcare?

Power now God heaven come down.

[Robin Marty]

Well, their religion doesn't like women. When you look at all of the language in the decision that overturned Roe v. Wade, it's all hearkening back to the 15 and 1600s, when women were possessions that were traded for cows and used to make alliances. But they weren't people. They didn't have any control over their lives. And that's what they like. They like the idea of women as possessions. They like the idea of women as something that they can move around and bend around and will do whatever it is that they want. And what better way to do that than to have her exhausted and constantly pregnant? Being able to control your own body gives you independence. And that's not something that they enjoy. That's not something they like. And apparently it's not something that is part of their Christianity. My name's Kristen Smith.

[Unknown]

My name is Ronna.

My name's Nick. I'm a non binary person.

[Alex Cooper]

My name is Jack. My pronouns are they, them.

[Unknown]

My name is Victoria Orejel. And I had an abortion. I had an abortion.

[Alex Cooper]

I had an abortion when I was 20 years old.

[Robin Marty]

I found out I was pregnant when I was in my early 20s.

[Unknown]

And I had an abortion in Texas in 2017.

[Alex Cooper]

The condom broke. I went and got a plan B. That did not help. And when I found myself in that position, you know, the partner I had.

[Calla]

At the time, we had a really tumultuous and complicated relationship that was not healthy.

[Unknown]

I was unemployed. I was just in a period of a lot of instability. I was living with a bunch of roommates. It was like the worst time to find out I was pregnant. I got pregnant just after my 40th birthday.

Like many people who have abortions, I.

Was already a mom at the time. I have three kids.

[Robin Marty]

And last year in May, I found.

[Unknown]

Out that we were pregnant with our fourth.

It was unexpected, but we quickly got excited. We found out it was a boy.

[Robin Marty]

And we named him Case.

[Unknown]

Everything was perfect up until my 20 week ultrasound.

I knew from the moment that I saw the positive pregnancy test that I did not want to continue the pregnancy. I felt my heart sink to like the bottom of my stomach. And I remember I was just crying. Crying because I was afraid. I knew in my soul that I.

Couldn'T watch Case be born. To struggle to breathe, to go through.

[Robin Marty]

Any type of pain, to just lay.

[Calla]

There and watch him die.

[Robin Marty]

I just. I couldn't imagine it. So I scheduled. I called the clinic in D.C. and I scheduled an appointment.

[Unknown]

For me, it was not a hard decision to have an abortion. I was already struggling to balance work and being a parent. I felt like my kids deserved 100% of my attention.

I did have to face protesters on that day and it made it really hard. You know, it honestly was just really humiliating to have to listen to people scream about me and, you know, tell me I'm a bad person for making a medical decision that has nothing to do with them.

[Alex Cooper]

Having an abortion is probably one of the best things that's ever happened to me. Having that access is one of the best things that has ever happened to me. It gave me freedom. It gave me a life.

[Calla]

I absolutely would not have been able to carry that to term.

[Alex Cooper]

There's no way I would have survived that. I would have made sure I didn't survive that.

[Unknown]

I do think about that pregnancy and think about what my life would have been like if I had added another child to our family at that point. And I'm very glad I made that decision. I felt so relieved that I could finally move on with my life. I could finally heal. I wanted to graduate. I wanted to study abroad. I wanted to do so many things. And because of my abortion, I'm now figuring those things out.

And it changed my life for the better.

[Robin Marty]

Having the right to an abortion, having my abortion, it saved my life. It allowed me to become a parent when I was good and ready. Over a full decade later, it meant that I could grow my family on my own terms, according to my own timeline, with a PhD degree in hand and pursuing a career I care about deeply. It meant that I could live my life in the way that I knew was best for me.

[Unknown]

They know who you are?

Yeah.

You're pregnant.

[Calla]

Yes.

[Unknown]

Like, is that almost to them, like, confusing? Like, oh, the woman that's helping give abortions is pregnant now. Like, how do they treat you?

[Calla]

Some of them, it really does radically fuck with their heads. Last time I was pregnant, I gave. I gave birth during COVID And after I gave birth, I had complications. My daughter had complications. And that information got out somehow. And that led to a lot of protesters being like, this is. This is punishment. Your daughter's going to die. Like, this is going to be punishment for all those babies you killed. This is your karma. This is your retribution. I used to take it really personally. I don't as much anymore. Just because of the fact that if you did, if you took it personally, like, it would eat you alive. I feel like that's what they want, though. They want to eat you alive. They want you to quit. They want you to just make their lives easier.

[Unknown]

You have been personally attacked because of the work you do. Do you mind sharing what happened to you in Raleigh?

[Calla]

So when I was still in Raleigh, I had just gotten out of grad school and moved back down. And like most people who are new to an area, you make friends, you go on dates, things like that. And I unfortunately went on a date with someone who I thought was normal and wasn't. Turned out to be a protester who knew me and knew my family and knew what I did and had a lot of feelings about it and in turn took that out on me and I was attacked and assaulted.

[Alex Cooper]

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[Robin Marty]

She needs a second. Oh, no.

[Calla]

She's seen me do this way too many times.

[Robin Marty]

I. I'm sad because I don't think people understand. It's very hard. It's hard to be an open book. It's difficult to live life really publicly, and it's. It's difficult when you know that there are people that want to cause you harm. And Calla is so unbelievably brave, and she just keeps coming back, and she does it over and over and over again. You good? Mm.

[Unknown]

Obviously, you're still working in this field. It's very close to you and your family. But to have something happen to you like that, like, how did you move on?

[Calla]

There's a certain level that you don't move on. I will say that it still comes up. It catches me off guard when it still comes up. But obviously, I was caught off guard in this conversation because you lock it. You just lock it down and you keep moving. It's like, that is a thing. It happened. And I have to now see patients who are in that exact situation, too. So if I can use that to help them and understand them. One of the things that I do try to be kind of open about is. And, like, I keep. Like Robin said, like, I keep coming back and I keep being this open book is because, quite honestly, people need that, and they need to know that they can Talk about it.

[Alex Cooper]

Don't murder an innocent child.

[Unknown]

You're not going to be able to escape death.

[Calla]

I grew up in the church.

[Unknown]

I know the Bible. I know the true love of Jesus Christ. These people, they don't know love. They spread hate. They take his name in vain and spread a message of hate and disgust and vile, scared little man, terrified little men here to tell us when women are not free. When women are not free. No one is free. We are out here because men have decided that they have sovereign power over our bodies, our voices.

[Alex Cooper]

They're not pro life, they're pro hypocrisy, pro birth, and pro control. All they really care about is controlling and suppressing women.

[Unknown]

We need to let them know that this is our bodies and we do what the fuck we want to do with our bodies.

This is not exclusively a healthcare issue. It has become. It is political. And in order to have autonomy over my own body, I need to get out there and vote. It's like, why do I have to vote to have control over my own body? How are we not progressed enough as a society where women have equal rights to men?

[Robin Marty]

That's a fabulous question. How long is your podcast? I mean, everything's about inequality, but also it's not just about women not being equal to men. It's about white, patriarchal men who are terrified of the idea of losing power. Because when they grew up, they've always been the ones in charge. They've always been the ones likely to be running the board meetings. They're the ones that get called on the most in class. They've always been in charge.

[Christie Kelly]

So much of it is about control. And that does take you back to the patriarchy. If you are not assigned male at birth, you have less power in this country. You just do.

[Robin Marty]

At some point, we're going to get to a place where people are going to have to challenge laws. And you challenge laws by breaking them. It's something that, quite frankly, I'm doing at this moment by saying it on a camera, because I could get charged with conspiracy in my home, home state of Alabama. But everybody should have access to an abortion. Everybody can get access to an abortion, and they can do that by accessing pills online. Every person can do that, regardless of their state, by going to aidaccess.org ordering pills and having them.

[Unknown]

Interesting, the concept of breaking laws. And let's see. Because if every single woman in America, if we all join together and we decide, no, we're actually, we do deserve abortion. It's my fucking body. I'm gonna do whatever the hell I want.

[Robin Marty]

There was this amazing protest where 100 women got together and took medication, abortion, out in the middle of the public square. Two of them were actually doing actual pills. The rest of them were taking Tylenol or something. Nobody knew who was who and what was what. No one was arrested. That's the kind of shit we need to be doing.

[Unknown]

What will happen when the government in Alabama sees this?

[Robin Marty]

That's an excellent question, and it's one that I'm ready for. At some point, you have to decide what you're willing to do in order to make change.

[Unknown]

I don't think a lot of people understand what's going on, which is essentially a war against women and our bodies. Coming here has opened my eyes and I feel so grateful because there's never been a greater moment that Daddy Gang can actually affect what's going on in the world. Like we genuinely can make a difference and change. And I hope this episode shows like this is us. This we are the women that could potentially also be going through this one day. And so if we don't fight for ourselves, who the fuck is going to? What would be your rally cry to people in America that are listening to this in their dorm rooms, at home, in their apartments, wherever they are listening, listening, what would you say to them?

First off is fight. When you fight, you start building strength. When you start getting up, when you start getting momentum, when you start moving, you're getting ready to battle. And that's something. I hate to use that terminology, but that's what's going on. This is very much a battle.

[Calla]

I know it's a broken system and that voting is such a hard thing in this country and so complicated. But it's a broken system we have. And to ignore it just means downfall faster.

[Robin Marty]

The idea of hell has no fury like a woman scorned. You just scorned a whole fucking nation of women and they are coming for you. That is the thing that gets me through every day, is the thought of the reckoning. I call it the reckoning in my head because of course I do. And it's going to be amazing. And I can't wait to watch it. And. And your audience is who is going to change everything, because they're the ones who are gonna be the most impacted by this. They are the first generation who is going to know what it's like to grow up without reproductive rights. That is going to have to face the idea that there are a bunch of men in power that think that they deserve less, that they don't deserve to have control over their bodies, that they don't deserve to have sex just for pleasure. Like, what good is a world without sex for pleasure? And they're gonna fight for.