Ariana Madix: The Vanderpump Affair (FBF)

Summary

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Call Her Daddy: Ariana Madix – The Vanderpump Affair

Podcast: Call Her Daddy
Host: Alex Cooper
Guest: Ariana Madix
Date: March 13, 2026
Episode Length: ~2 hours

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Episode Overview

This episode features an in-depth conversation between Alex Cooper and Ariana Madix, star of Vanderpump Rules, focusing on the explosive cheating scandal involving Ariana, her ex Tom Sandoval, and her former close friend Raquel Leviss. The discussion is raw, candid, and vulnerable — delving not only into the scandal’s details but also touching on themes of betrayal, emotional healing, self-worth, and public scrutiny. Ariana opens up for the first time in long-form about her experience, providing clarity, context, and emotional resonance for anyone who has suffered betrayal.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The Discovery: How Ariana Learned the Truth

[12:01–17:24]

• The Night Everything Changed:
  Ariana recounts the night she discovered Tom's affair with Raquel. At Tom’s concert, his phone falls out of his pocket; Ariana picks it up and, acting on a powerful intuition, checks it in the bathroom. She finds an explicit FaceTime screen recording in his camera roll.
  • "In that moment, I just had this thought, like this, like, go do it. This is like a time to do it. ... And then I opened up his camera roll. And then that's when I saw what I saw." (Ariana, [13:52])
• Immediate Aftermath:
  Confrontation ensues — Ariana confronts Tom, calls Raquel for answers, experiences a swirl of anger, shock, and betrayal.

2. Emotional Impact & Public Scrutiny

[07:45–09:08; throughout]

• Roller Coaster of Emotions:
  Ariana describes the difficult months following the discovery — swinging between dark lows and small bright spots.
  • "Truly, like the lowest lows, I think maybe ever ... and then ... some really amazing bright spots. It sometimes feels like ... a ping pong match in between those two extremes." (Ariana, [07:51])
• Online Judgment:
  The burden of public opinion was heavy, with some viewers criticizing Ariana’s healing process.
  • "People on the Internet will be like ... they're mad at me for, like, healing ... everyone's always going to have an opinion about how you should live." (Ariana, [08:18])

3. The Relationship’s Breakdown

[25:09–28:49; 31:12–32:15; 38:10–41:36]

• Ariana and Tom were together for nine years, shared a home, dogs, and plans for the future.
• Ariana describes initially being enamored by Tom’s enthusiasm, their inside jokes, and their “apocalypse buddy” bond.
• She delves into their declining emotional and physical connection, Tom’s absence, and the cycle of unmet needs.
  • "I can't teleport your dick into my vagina from the bar. Because if you're at the bar and I'm at home, like, I'm here—maybe I'm ready and you're just not there. So how do we do this?" (Ariana, [39:25])
• Therapy is discussed; Ariana had been working on self-esteem and perfectionism. She details her struggles to feel “enough” and how her past relationships influenced this.

4. Gaslighting, Blame, and Accountability

[21:24–23:48; 35:07–35:49; 55:08–59:39]

• Tom’s reactions included anger, deflection, and gaslighting—blaming the breakup on Ariana, weaponizing her mental health, and refusing to take real accountability.
  • "He was mad at me pretty much the entire time." (Ariana, [21:24])
  • "It was brutal. But it was also what he had been doing for that past 48 hours ... you start to really question your own sense of reality." (Ariana, [22:57])
• Tom’s claim he “tried to break up” with Ariana is dismantled as she recalls their clear ongoing intimacy and mixed signals.
  • "Tom really honed in being like I was really trying to break up with her... but you're like sleeping in my bed and buying me flowers and we' an anniversary dinner and like, yeah, going to couples therapy and all of that." (Alex, [56:10])

5. Trust, Red Flags, and “Turning a Blind Eye”

[32:15–36:08; 73:20–75:41]

• Reflecting, Ariana now recognizes potential early red flags in Tom’s behavior — his immaturity, need to party, and “not growing up.”
• She grapples with whether she turned a blind eye and describes being “given a lot of assistance” in overlooking suspect behavior.
  • "Should I be stalking my partner in order to—to know for sure, like, what they're doing?" (Ariana, [73:54])

6. The Betrayal’s Bizarre Layering: Raquel’s Role

[51:07–52:13; 81:41–84:25]

• The betrayal was compounded by the fact that Raquel, the “other woman,” was Ariana’s close friend and confidante.
• Ariana discusses specific moments from the show that now, in hindsight, feel like clear warning signs — including the infamous hot tub “throuple” scene.
  • "They had sex in my guest room while I was sleeping in my own bed ... Yes, I believe that." (Ariana, [82:44])
• Ariana says of Raquel after seeing the real her:
  • "Lost. Lost. I mean, I don't know her ... Some of the behavior has at times seemed sociopathic." (Ariana, [83:48])

7. After the Fallout: Apologies, Closure & Moving Forward

[88:08–104:05]

• Neither Tom nor Raquel offered Ariana meaningful apologies.
  • Raquel sent a brief “I just don’t know what to say except that I’m sorry” text, and nothing more. Tom's in-person apologies were riddled with blame and minimization.
  • "Hers was like a nothing. Hers was a text message that was very like, I just don't know what to say except that I'm sorry." (Ariana, [88:13])
• Going into and after the reunion, Ariana felt a sense of closure due to the unequivocal nature of the betrayal.
  • "You made it really easy for me to just not give a about you. ... when something like this happens, you're like, bye." (Ariana, [103:10])

8. Self-Worth, Boundaries, and Empowerment

[118:11–121:46; 128:35–131:16]

• Ariana credits her friends and her decision to go no-contact with Tom for helping her stay grounded.
  • "Keep that ... no contact. ... That's what I would have to do." (Ariana, [118:16])
• She reflects on her priorities going forward: independence, self-love, career, supportive friendships.
• She wants to empower listeners to know — you are not alone; boundaries are crucial; surround yourself with people who truly have your back.

9. Life After Heartbreak: New Beginnings

[123:21–127:46]

• Ariana is dating someone new (a long-distance relationship with a man she met at a wedding after the split).
  • "I'm really, really enjoying myself. I am seeing someone. They live across the country in New York... It's really, really great." (Ariana, [123:21])
• She shares advice for others about getting back out there, trusting oneself, and honoring one’s own timeline after betrayal.

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Notable Quotes & Moments

• On Intuition:
  "I don't know, that's why I say like it felt like some sort of divine intervention." (Ariana, [94:23])

• On Gaslighting:
  "Their natural response is lean in harder—try to gaslight you, trying to make you feel crazy somehow and, like, not take accountability..." (Alex, [21:24])

• On Clarity After Betrayal:
  "When something like this happens, you're like, bye. Like, there's literally nothing about that person. Even if I missed him... that's not who—that's not that person." (Ariana, [103:10])

• On Setting Boundaries:
  "You have to separate. You have to go no contact." (Ariana, [114:35])

• On Women’s Support
  "I love women, and I think we are the best. And I just think that when we team up, like, we are unstoppable." (Ariana, [130:20])

• On Self-Forgiveness:
  "All I can do is my best. And whether my best was good enough or not for anyone, that's what it was." (Ariana, [90:46])

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Timestamps for Important Segments

| Timestamp | Segment Description | |------------|----------------------------------------------------------------| | 07:45–09:08| Ariana reflects on months after the affair came out | | 12:01–17:24| Step-by-step discovery of Tom & Raquel's betrayal | | 25:09–28:49| Ariana describes nine-year relationship with Tom Sandoval | | 35:07–35:49| Tom’s history of lying and cheating | | 41:36–45:01| Therapy, childhood wounds, and perfectionism | | 51:07–52:13| The casualness and layering of Raquel’s betrayal | | 55:08–59:39| Tom’s claims about "trying to break up" chronologically refuted| | 73:20–75:41| Ariana on turning a blind eye, trust, and suspicion | | 81:41–84:25| Guest room suspicions: betrayal within the home | | 88:08–89:18| How Ariana received (non-)apologies from Tom and Raquel | | 103:10 | Ariana on her sense of closure and moving on | | 118:11–121:46| Importance of friends and going “no contact” afterward | | 123:21–127:46| Ariana’s new relationship, healing, and advice for others | | 128:35–131:16| Ariana’s hopes, new era—independence, career, self-worth |

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Final Thoughts & Closing

Ariana Madix’s appearance is more than a headline-grabbing spill of reality TV tea — it’s a deeply resonant account of betrayal, self-discovery, and personal growth. Through humor, honesty, and vulnerability, Ariana reframes her heartbreak as a catalyst for reclaiming her independence and self-respect. This conversation is as relatable for those outside the reality TV world as it is revelatory for Vanderpump fans, offering support and solidarity to anyone grappling with trust, heartbreak, or public judgment.

Memorable Closing: "I just want people to know ... I love women, and I think we are the best. And I just think that when we team up, like, we are unstoppable." (Ariana, [130:20])

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For those unfamiliar with the details, this episode offers not just the story behind the headlines but also an empowering blueprint for surviving betrayal with strength and dignity.

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[C]

Hi.

[B]

Hi. Ariana Maddox. Welcome to Call Her Daddy.

[C]

Hi. Thanks for having me.

[B]

How are you doing?

[C]

I'm okay.

[B]

Can you explain? Explain what the past few months have felt like to you?

[C]

A roller coaster. I mean, Truly, like the lowest lows, I think maybe ever maybe since my dad died, that I've experienced. And then I wouldn't say the highest highs, but I would definitely say that there's been, like, some really amazing bright spots and it sometimes feels like, I don't know, like a ping pong match in between those two extremes.

[B]

Right.

[C]

I have a tendency to, like, compartmentalize a little bit with emotions. It's the Virgo moon in me. But it's weird because also sometimes when I'm like, oh, my gosh, I'm doing, I'm feeling good, like, things are really positive, then people on the Internet will be like, why is she must have not cared. They're, like, mad at me for, like, healing, but then they, like, you know, but that's the thing is it's like everyone's always going to have an opinion about, like, how you should live.

[B]

Totally. Something I want to talk about is, like, I think so many people have had something to say for so long about this scandal and, like, we haven't really heard from you about, like, start to finish, in long form. Your thoughts, Everything that's gone down. So today I'm hoping we can, like, put it all into one. You're like, okay, let me just. Let's take a little rose. Cheers. Here we fucking go.

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Can you take me back to the night that you found out that Tom was cheating on you with your at the time, best friend Raquel? Like, I know you were at a concert of Tom's, his phone fell out of his pocket. Someone handed it to you to just take your boyfriend's phone and hold it. Take us from there.

[C]

So they had like one more song after that. And so I was holding like my phone and his phone just kind of as a stack and had no, like there's nothing weird about that. I mean we were together for nine years. Like me holding on to his phone, his, you know, his laptop, his, you know, whatever is not weird. So they had like one more song and then afterwards I got up to go over to him and tell him like good job and give him his phone back and he was talking to some other of the band members. So he's a little preoccupied, he's a little busy. And I was like, okay. And then literally I just. In that moment, I was standing in the back of Tom Tom, and I just was like. I don't know, I was just like. It felt like I like divine intervention or something. Because, you know, I've always been very hesitant to become like the snooper, because I always feel like anytime you snoop and anyone's stuff, even if they're not guilty of doing anything wrong, you always end up feeling finding something you don't want to find or seeing something you don't want to see. And I always feel like it's a slippery slope because once you look once, then you want to. It becomes an addiction. Because I've been like that in past relationships. So in this one, I was always like, I'm not going to do that. And if I ask about something, I will, you know, take their word, Tom's word at, you know, face value. Exactly. Like, I will be someone who trusts because I don't want to become that version of myself totally.

[A]

And.

[C]

And so. But in that moment, I just had this thought, like this, like, go do it. This is like a time to do it. And so I went into the bathroom at Tom Tom. I went into one of the stalls. He had not changed the passcode on his phone. So I knew. And that's the other thing is like, we knew each other's passcodes. We knew each other's. So it felt like if you were going to be the type of person who is going to have an affair or be cheating on or hiding things, you wouldn't also be so readily giving of your stuff like that. And so I looked in his messages. There was nothing weird in his messages. And I was like, okay, maybe you're being dumb, you know. And then I opened up his camera roll. And then that's when I saw what I saw. And I like, busted out of the stall and there were like some girls in there that were just kind of go to the bathroom. And I was like, oh, my God, I'm so sorry. And then because I didn't go to the bathroom and I thought, they're gonna think I'm leaving the bathroom and not washing my hands. I was like, I promise I didn't pee or anything. I just. And then I just ran out of the bathroom and went straight up to him and he was like, oh, hey, do you want to go smoke a cigarette or something? And I was like, yeah, I do actually. And it's funny because there's a photo of him that I've seen, like, used in articles and stuff. And it's from literally the moment I was walking up and his arms like this. And I see that photo and I'm like. That was literally like the moment before. And then we went. And then he was very. We went straight out to the back behind Tom. Tom. That's when I confronted him. What the Is this?

[B]

Okay, pause for two seconds.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

I feel like no one is saying specifically what the video is. Are you guys not legally allowed to be talking about what the video is? I don't know.

[C]

Actually, Can. I don't know.

[B]

Can I say what I'm speculating? Yeah, I can say. Oh, I think the speculation is in the camera roll. There was a screen recording that he. Screen recorded while they were on FaceTime of them having FaceTime sex. That. That's what I'm thinking and I think I know is what it was. But you don't have to confirm. But just to give people context that may have no idea about this drama yet. I don't know how you would. You live under a rock. But that. So you view something like that.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

Can you just take me back in the stall? It's. Bring me to the moment where you come across realizing he's cheated on you with Raquel. What were you thinking in the stall?

[C]

I was, like, shaking, like, full body. Like, just like. I don't know if it's anger, shock. Like, I think shock is a big part of it because, I mean, I've been cheated on in my life before and I've, you know, caught somebody before like, that and, like, way in my past. And I guess it's like that feeling I hadn't felt in, like, we're talking like, 15 years. And like, it's hard to describe, but it's literally like a combination of shock and anger and somehow disbelief that this is, like, truly what you're seeing. And. Yeah. And then, like, there's just. I don't know, it's. It's really like a huge mix of emotions.

[B]

It is. And like, did you think this was a one off or did you immediately think this has been a relationship?

[C]

I mean, there's no way that it could be a one off given the closeness of, like, all of our relationship to her. You know what I mean? So there's. There's no way. And also to feel so comfortable doing that on a FaceTime. You know, there's no. There's just no way of it being like, A one time. Oh, we just decided one day to FaceTime sex. Like, right?

[B]

Drunkenly, I'm like, who should I call? Well, I'm gonna call Raquel and just like, yeah, yeah, no.

[C]

Okay. Yeah.

[B]

So you start confronting him. What does he say?

[C]

He was very. He wanted us to get into a car. He wanted us to get into an Uber and leave immediately. He was starting to call a car, and then he took my phone, and then I was trying to get my phone back, and he ended up walking down Sante with my phone, and I was in, like, boots with a heel. So I was like. Like, freaking Usain Bolt being like, I need my phone back.

[B]

Like, why did he take your phone?

[C]

Because he thought. Because I was like, oh, I'm gonna tweet about this. I mean, obviously I'm not, but you know what I mean? Like, you say things like that in those moments. You're not like, of course I'm not calm about it. You know, I was freaking the out. And he was very concerned about people hearing us, because obviously we know all. We know a lot of people in West Hollywood. We know a lot of people at all the different bars, and we were in the back of all these bars, and he was very concerned about people finding out. And I was like, I don't care. Why would I care? Who am I protecting by doing that?

[B]

So do you both get in a car together? And where do you go? Home.

[C]

Home.

[B]

What happens in the car and when you get home?

[C]

So in the car, we were. So I called Rachel during all of this. After I got my phone back on San Vicente, I called her, and that's when I was like, if you ever gave a shit about any woman ever, about me, as your friend, about literally anything you need to tell me. Like, when this started, whatever. Like, tell me. I was hysterical. And she said. That's when she said the part about, like, after the girls trip. And I was like, you mean when my dog died? Like, when Charlotte passed away is what the girls trip was. Like, the fact that that is not even on your radar at all in describing this. And that's when Sheena came up, and that's when Sheena took her phone and then said, I'm gonna call you from my phone. I'm throwing her phone in the gutter. Sheena called me from her phone. I get in the car. Sheena's on the phone with me, and then he gets in the car, and now he's on the phone with her. So all four of us are on the phone together, and it's literally like, why are you caring? Like, why are you on the phone with her? Like, who gives a shit about her right now? And then that's when he was just very dismissive, very defiant, dismissive of Sheena's friendship to me and to him in that moment. Like, it was very much like, just. And the poor Uber driver.

[B]

We should get him in here.

[C]

I know. I remember at one point we stopped and got a pack of cigarettes because I was like, I want to just. I want to drink it on chainsaw. You know what I mean? Like, gets that you're. I'm like, one of those nights, like, please. And he went into the gas station, and I was just in the phone in the car with the Uber driver at that point, and I was just like, are you hearing this? And the Uber driver was like, yeah, man.

[B]

This Uber driver's like, whoa. But, like, give me five star, girl.

[C]

Yeah. Like, it was just.

[B]

So you get home, and this is the part I think I've seen the world be so fascinated because you guys live together, you own a home together. So you both go home that night, and is it just like a screaming war till, like, you fall asleep?

[C]

Essentially, yeah.

[B]

Do you sleep in the same room?

[C]

No, no, not at that point, no.

[B]

So you sleep in a different room and, like, when you're by yourself, like, what were you thinking?

[C]

Oh, I mean, well, I made sure to text close friends of mine and of his because I was like, I am not going to be in a position where. And luckily, because of the Sheena of it all, like, at least I was like, no, we're not keeping this a secret.

[B]

Other people knew.

[C]

Yeah. So I was making, like, texts were slowly trickling, like, what is. What is happening? Are you kidding me? I mean, I didn't sleep. I mean, I didn't lay down to sleep until maybe, like, 6:00am that was how long we were, like, going at it, I guess. And he was just mad at me pretty much the entire time.

[B]

That's also when I've been cheated on. It's like when someone that has been keeping a secret for so long gets called out. All they've been doing is lying. And so I feel like their natural response is lean in harder to, like, trying to gaslight you, trying to distort your reality, like, trying to make you feel crazy somehow and, like, not take accountability. And somehow you're like, how are we fighting? How are you yelling at me like, you fudge my best friend?

[C]

Yeah. And I'm, like, screaming, crying, throwing up in this moment, and you're just, like, annoyed at the whole thing.

[B]

So that night ends, and what we do know is, like, when this happened, you guys were not filming anymore.

[C]

No.

[B]

So how long after this happened did the cameras finally get in there?

[C]

So this was Wednesday night, and so it was Friday morning that cameras were at my house.

[B]

Because what I could notice, because we've all been through a breakup, like, that is, like, the conversation in the finale that we watched felt more like a breakup than, like, post morning. Like, literally, go fuck yourself. Like, fuck you.

[C]

Because there had been that little bit of that back and forth. Yeah.

[B]

The final conversation between you guys. And it was infuriating, I think, for the nation to watch, because he's blaming you, being like, I lost my mojo. We never had sex. Like, I wasn't myself. I wasn't happy. And he was quite literally taking no accountability whatsoever for his actions. What was it like sitting there listening to someone as you're hurt try to deflect all responsibility for what they had done?

[C]

It was awful. It was brutal. But it was also what he had been doing for that past 48 hours up until that moment. So I almost kind of, like, knew that that's where he was headed. But then listening to it in the moment, not knowing what other people around me are thinking when they hear it, I'm like, is this. Am I? You? Like, you start to really question your own sense of reality. And this whole thing had me, like, I did not at that point, like, that 48 hours, especially that night, that Wednesday night and that Thursday day, like, and going in that conversation without having any other, like, witnesses or. And also being in this position where it's like, my partner of nine years and one of my best friends, like, I. My sense of reality was gone. Like, I just did not know, like, what was up and what was down at that point.

[B]

Yeah. You were very vocal this season about defending Tom and Raquel. When people would come to you and you, like, had their backs. If someone would have come forward, and I know this is a hypothetical, but if someone would have come forward and told you about the fair, do you think you would have believed them, or do you think you had to, like, see it yourself to believe it?

[C]

I think I would have believed it if it was told to me off camera or if it was told to me. You know what I'm saying? Because I think to some degree, a lot of what I felt was rumors and rumblings was. Which has happened before, people being like, okay, I heard a little something about something, but I'm gonna Bring it up, because that's our job is, you know, we bring up everything that we hear about, and a lot of times it's nothing. And I was like, well, if it's nothing, I'm not gonna have, like, my friend and my boyfriend be, like, dragged through the mud.

[B]

I get what you're saying. It's almost like being on reality TV for so many years, you become almost more accustomed to. This is obviously for content. This is for the show. This is for the show. This is drama. This was like, you're not actually gonna believe that kind of shit. So if it was, it would have come off camera, right?

[C]

Or it would have come. Yeah, it would have been a friend who's like, I'm gonna end up bringing this up on camera.

[B]

But I need to tell you.

[C]

But I need to tell you first, because I think it's actually really real, and I think that that's something that, like, my close friends would have done. Okay, so I got it. Yeah.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

I do want to take a step back, because as much as we're talking about, like, in the weeds of, like, this affair, you were in a relationship for nine years with this man, and you guys were friends before you got into a relationship. What was it that first initially attracted you to Tom?

[C]

I just thought he was so earnest in everything that he did, and I found it really, like, endearing that he would be over the top in making a cocktail or over the top in just everyday parts of life. Like, I thought it very endearing and. And sweet almost. And I also thought he was a really good friend to the people close to him, and I thought that that was a really good quality.

[B]

Yeah. How would you have described your relationship with Tom to someone?

[C]

I would have described it as, like. We used to call each other, like, apocalypse buddies, you know, like the person that all goes to hell, and this is the person that you can rely on, that you want with you, who's going to continue to, like, make you laugh and get. Get through all of what life has to throw at you. And, like, honestly, even right up until me finding out about this affair, like, even during. While the affair was going on, we were still, like, laughing together, you know, having like, our little. We had so many, like, little inside jokes and things like that. And, I mean, if you were to go through, like, either of our camera rolls, you would see just, like, so many. Even during the affair, amazing, fun memories together.

[B]

What was your sex life like in the beginning and then, like, as your relationship progressed?

[C]

I mean, in the beginning, I was definitely Struggling with. I was very excited that someone was like, really, I thought, really into me because the relationship I was in previously, that sex life was fine, but the same time I was being, like, criticized very heavily about my body, my personality, just everything. And so I was like, oh, my gosh, this is somebody who's like, really into me. And so that was very exciting. And I think that our sex life waxed and waned at different points. I definitely think that, you know, got to a point sometimes where, you know, I just wanted that quality time so bad. And I just think that in my mind, I thought, well, if we get through opening this bar, if we get through all this stuff, like, then we'll be able to have all this time together. And I felt like he just was adding more and more things to his plate, and I just didn't. I don't know, I felt like I'm like, oh, well, he's just not into me.

[B]

Yeah, it's like you lose the connection almost. And I think that's something because there's so many things you just said. First is from your past relationship, going with someone that was very vocal about things they didn't like about you or your body or your personality. Like, that takes a toll on your self confidence. So then to meet this guy that's larger than life and funny and jokes and is so into you, it's like, I totally understand that allure. And like, you feel, like, alive and, like happy and good with yourself. In the season, I think probably one of the hardest scenes for women specifically to watch was that scene with you and Raquel where you open up to Raquel as your friend at the time, again, to people watching, Ariana did not know about the affair yet. And you voice that you feel insecure about your body and you say, you know, why would he want to have sex with me? And for. And watching her speak to you, knowing she was your partner, is so painful to watch. But I, when I watched that, I felt so bad for you because I'm like, did Tom not make you feel confident and make you feel good?

[C]

It felt like, you know, he would complain about frequency of sex. And it felt like he wanted to have sex. But I was like, but do you want to have sex with me? Is it about me or is it just about the act? And that's where I was like, okay, so, but what is it about? He wasn't really great with, like, the words of, you know, like descriptors. I would, like, be specific. Like, what do you like, you know,

[B]

like, like, what do you like about me?

[C]

Yeah, like, I need to know those. Like, I want to know those things. Or I would be like, okay, well, do you, like. You know, people have said that they think I have a nice ass. I don't know if I agree with that. But do you agree with that? Do you. And he would, like, be very turned by the idea of me, like, being like, can you. Do you, like, like that part of me? Or, like, what are the. You know.

[B]

Right.

[C]

And I think that it wasn't coming necessarily from a place of, like, he didn't like my body. I just don't think he knew how to express. Or maybe that's just a disconnect there. And, like, yeah, love languages or how to, like, click in that way.

[B]

Because I get what you're saying, but I also, to any guy listening to this, it's like when your partner is so clearly being like, I need some reassurance. I don't know the last time you've given me a compliment that's also like a, hey, wake up. Like, you want sex. Well, why would I have sex with someone that I don't know? The last time I felt, like, pretty

[C]

in front of me, like, can you objectify me maybe?

[B]

Like, call me hot.

[C]

Right. Or, like, he would say things like, oh, nice outfit when I was naked. Or changing, he'd be like, nice outfit. And I'm like, I get the joke. But, like, that's not.

[B]

It's not connect.

[C]

That's not gonna, like, no, really get me there.

[B]

Something that really pisses me off is when men try to justify their cheating by being like, but we weren't having sex. Like, I need to get my fix somewhere. And, like, it's so often that women are deemed as the problem. And of course, a guy went and cheated like, you weren't having sex. But it's like, but why weren't you having sex? And so was there ever a point where Tom or, like, the situation as you kept hearing it, like, we weren't connecting, we weren't physical. Was there ever a point where you were questioning, was that your fault?

[C]

I mean, I think in the past, I would have been inclined to do that, but because I was. Had been in therapy and for years at that point, I knew. And couples therapy with him, by the way. And the couples therapist literally sat across from both of us and said, this is a him problem. This isn't a you problem. You know, there's certain things I have to take accountability for in the relationship, but when it came to stuff like that, it's like, no, this is something that he's going through that he's dealing with. And don't take that on yourself. Like, just please don't. Because it is my inclination to be like, I'm not enough. You know, we all have that lie that whatever the big lie is that we all tell ourselves. Mine is the not enough lie. And the therapist was like, please don't do that.

[B]

Right. This actually has nothing to do with you. Yeah, I know. Hindsight is obviously 2020, and it's like, you can look back and try to. But, like, were there any signs of red flags in the beginning of the relationship that you now see?

[C]

I think in the beginning, it was like, you know, he likes to go out a lot. And I thought that that was just, like, the phase of life that we were in, and I would have thought that nine years later, we would be in a different phase. I think I'm in a different phase in my life. I still like to go out and have fun. I go to festivals. I party. I have a good time. But, like, as far as, like, going out during the week just for the hell of it, it's not anyone's birthday, so, you know, it's not like a dinner and drinks. It's just like a. That's just not where I'm at anymore. And I thought that we were in that phase together, and then we would come out of it, but I feel

[B]

like he never grew up.

[C]

He didn't really. Yeah.

[B]

When you look back, I know a huge conversation on the Internet is your relationship with Tom started by him cheating on his girlfriend Kristen. You guys kissed. He lied to you and was like, I'm not with her anymore. But then it turns out Kristen was like, we were full together, so. And people are like, oh, you lose them how you got him. Like, he cheated on Kristen. He cheated on you. Like, how do you feel looking back at how your relationship started and how people are now? Like, are you that surprised? Like, he did it to Kristen. He did it to you.

[C]

Well, to be very clear, I didn't lose him. He lost me. So that's right there. Sorry. But I think that I trusted in him so much, even, like, as a friend back then, and I trusted him so much, like, during our relationship that I trusted his perspective on things. And I think that I was caught up in whatever he told me. The. The whatever it was that he was telling me was what I was going with. Like, that's not to say, like, I'm a smart girl. Like, you know, I could have Dug deeper, but I didn't. Kristen and I are very close, and I love her so much. And their relationship, as she will tell you, it was very toxic. And there was a lot of cheating on both sides there. Whatever. I love her. She's amazing. She's a very strong, incredible woman. And she has become, like, just such a force. I think that it's something that just goes to show that that's kind of maybe just what he does is he says things like, I tried to end it, or I'm in. You know, things like that. Or, oh, we're broken up, or things like. Whatever it is, I would like to think that maybe this thing that's happening right now will prevent him from ever doing that again with any other person. Just because I think it's time to put that little tactic to bed.

[B]

But, yeah, when you look back, I'm just thinking, like, do you think he's a pathological liar?

[C]

I mean, it's hard to. I mean, clearly in the last seven months, he was a pathological liar.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

It's now hard for me to look back at nine years. And if I tell myself he's a pathological liar, then I means that the last nine years of my life were potentially a lie. But he did say stuff on that finale episode to Sheena, like, we weren't happy and we bought the house as a band aid. I'm like, a band aid to who? Because that wasn't where I was at at all. Or things like, there were a lot of things from his perspective that have been said in that episode. And otherwise that it's like, oh, okay, well, that's maybe how you were thinking, but that's nowhere near where I was.

[B]

Right. And also, we're in a relationship, so you should have shared that to me because I. I would have loved to known that because I probably wouldn't have bought a house with you if you were like, just to be clear, babe, this is a band aid. You'd been like the.

[C]

Like, wait, I mean, like, okay, well, maybe we should fix our relationship then now and do that.

[B]

Right.

[C]

Not do.

[B]

Yeah. Couple therapy. You and Tom got into couples therapy this past year and after he started

[C]

the affair, after every. Was full blown at that point. Point. I didn't know that, but.

[B]

So when you got into couples therapy, you had no idea about the affair. You go in and he claims he initiated it. Is that true?

[C]

Initiated couples?

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

Yes. But it had been brought up by one or both of us over the years of being together.

[B]

Yep. And it's. Since Been revealed that he got you both into couples therapy as part of his eventual plan to end the relationship. What explanation did he give you as to, like, why he was so gung ho, ready finally for couples therapy?

[C]

I mean, he was just. We got into an argument one day. Well, you saw on the show, we had that conversation on the couch. And it was that conversation. And then, like, one other one that we had where it was like, I think we should go to couples therapy. And I was like, absolutely. I would love that. We should do that. But it was those things in those conversations that led us to that.

[B]

Yep.

[C]

To going. And I remember specifically one session because we would do joint and we would do separate. And in my separate sessions, I was doing inner child work. I was sobbing with her. I was. I mean, I felt like I was making leaps and bounds. And he even said, oh, we went to couples therapy, and our relationship got so much better.

[A]

Right.

[C]

But, like, it's like, well, duh.

[B]

Right, Right. Like, it's almost like a little counterintuitive that if he actually had the intention of ending it with you, why the are you going to couples therapy?

[C]

I remember even saying. Saying after one of them, I was like, okay. So there was a session where it was. It got really intense. It felt like maybe we were ending. And at the end of the session, she was like, okay, so is this, you know, a breakup? Are you guys. And he was like, no. So that's where it's like, I. I don't. I don't know.

[A]

Can you.

[B]

Do you mind sharing, like, when. When you guys are fighting, like. Because obviously you're not fighting about the affair. What were your issues in the relationship?

[C]

My. That I felt like he was not choosing me over, like, random nights out or that he just wasn't coming home. Like, he would want to just be at Schwartz's for no reason. Well, now, you know, just, you know, having beers and whatever or coming home. And then, you know, I'd wake up and I'd be like, where are you? And I would, like, go down. He's just downstairs, like, having face, smoking cigarettes and probably. But, like, you know what I mean? It was just like the absentee boyfriend without. And the. I have to do this for work after. You know, it was just everything was coming before me and before the relationship, and I felt like. And I needed that connection and that stuff, that all that stuff in order to be physically intimate. And I knew that physical intimacy was something that he was saying he was lacking. So I'm like, I don't know. How I can meet you where you need to be when I'm not being met where I need to be. Like, how do we figure this out, right?

[B]

It's almost like you both couldn't. It was a circle. It's like, no, but come home earlier. He's like, no, but, like, I'm miserable because we don't have sex. And you're like, but we need to hang out in order to have sex. And it's just like, it.

[C]

Like what I said on the show, I was like, I can't teleport your dick into my vagina from the bar. Because if you're at the bar and I'm at home, like, I'm here, you know, maybe I'm ready and you're just not there. So how do we do this? Right?

[B]

Like, we can't actually physically do this if you're never.

[C]

What? Like, exactly. So. Yeah.

[B]

So Tom did mention on that Howie Mandel podcast, like, things did shift. You started to make an effort. Like, what did you. Making an effort in his mind, do you think?

[C]

Look, like, I think I just was doing my best to be present and going out with him more and trying to be more fun party time gal, you know, I was just trying to be, I don't know, like, fun and hot. I don't know, right, Dude.

[B]

And, like, how the fuck did you feel when you were doing that?

[C]

I mean, part of me was just like, I mean, this is fine. Because again, I was still doing, like, that inner child work. And it was, you know, I felt like that was really helping me just be like, I love myself and I'm, you know, doing. I mean, that, like, really changed the game for me.

[B]

When you say doing inner child work, like, obviously share what you're comfortable with, but, like, what was something that you were, like, really struggling with that was clearly like, you felt bleeding into your relationship that you were like, I'm gonna work on this shit. Because, like, I want to be whole and good with myself.

[C]

I think, like, this sense of perfectionism because, I mean, I love my dad, but my dad also, like, didn't come home after work and stuff. And I was always, like, straight A student, super overachiever. And I think, like, going back and looking at it, a lot of times I did those things. I mean, maybe because I wanted people to be like, I'll be there. So I thought, like, if I could be the perfect girlfriend or the perfect girl, that they'll come home, they'll want to be around me, and I'll be enough. I won't have to be me tap dancing, doing shrooms and hang gliding. I can just be me and that will be enough.

[B]

It's. Isn't it so fucked when you get into therapy also, you're like, oh, my God. Like, is it this obvious of like, I. I'm dating a version of my dad? Or like, I'm dating a. You're like, how did this happen? Like, my dad didn't come home. Tom's never home.

[C]

Like, my. Yeah, I mean, I. I hate to speak ill of my. I love my dad. He's a great person in so many ways, but he would, you know, sometimes just be like, okay, where there's a random dive bar down the street. I'd go do that instead of coming home and helping with homework.

[B]

But it also makes sense, Ariana, because weirdly, we are attracted to things that are familiar to us. So it's like, if that is what you were growing up with, weirdly, you're like, oh, I got this with Tom. Like, I know how to deal with this.

[C]

I know I can do it the right way. Like, oh, I can do it right this time. I can kind of replace. Do it all over again and be better and be.

[B]

And actually he'll come home, watch, like, all. And then it's like, actually, you deserve so much.

[C]

That's actually not on me. It's on.

[B]

No, no. You want someone that's actually wants to come home and you don't have to beg them to be like, come on. Like, show up, be there.

[C]

Right.

[B]

You said that you hadn't considered ending the relationship before all this came out. Were you truly happy in this relationship?

[C]

I don't know. I think I was a version of happy that I thought was. I don't know what I wanted. And I also felt like the bones of the relationship were good. And I felt as though the potential for the relationship to be just incredible was there. And I think it was the potential and the. Okay, if we can make it through this time, the Fred Again song we lost dancing, I literally, the night that Tom or that Schwartz and Sandy's had the like, their last, like, opening thing, I was driving Tom home and I was like, just listen to the words of this song. And in the song, when I think it's the Blessed Madonna says, if I can make it through this next six months, what comes next will be marvelous. And I literally was like, if you can get through this. If we can get through this opening of this bar and whatever, what comes next for us will be marvelous. And I. I just cannot believe that he had already been having at that point. He was already. I don't know. But it's.

[B]

It must be such a mind where you're like. Which I also want, because I know I've done it too, where, like, I remember when I was getting cheated on and I didn't know it at the time, and you're making such an effort, and you're like, feel so stupid. Like, how dare. And it's like, no, no, no, you're not stupid. You were trusting the person you were in love with. And so it's like, you also have to wrap your head around, like, this wasn't your fault. But it's, like, also crazy now that you remember these details of you putting in so much work and being like, we got this, Tom. My only question, though, is, like, nine years now, when you look back, because you're like, oh, my gosh. Like, I was like. You know, I was obsessed with, like, the potential. Like, I really wanted the potent. Nine years in, if you're still fantasizing about the potential of what a relationship could be, do you now have any ability to look and be like, hmm, if I didn't. You know what I mean? Like, or did you feel it in the first couple years and then it dropped off? Like, was it always like this?

[C]

I feel like things would kind of. They would. They would wax and wane. They would be ups and ebbs and flows, and I feel like we would have so many amazing times. So then if there was, like, a couple weeks that were, like, not great, or if I was, like, unsure about something, there was so much other stuff that was great, or I would be like, laugh. We would be laughing hysterically about something. Or that. It was almost like, I think, hard to say, oh, this person's not right for me. Because I also had never been in a relationship that long before, so it's hard to know, like, what is it supposed to be like, you know, because past. I think my. My. My longest adult relationship previous to that was, I think, like, three years or so. So it's, like, past that point. This is uncharted territory. And I'm thinking this is what it is. You know, when you're with someone for nine years, when you're with someone for maybe potentially 10, 20.

[B]

Right. Like a fucking decade.

[A]

Decade.

[C]

You know, things are gonna be hard sometimes.

[B]

I get that. I actually think that's, like, really relatable of, like, you try to see the good, because there is good.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

But when it's ebbing and flowing, you have to be like, we just have to stay strong through the hard times. Like, we just have to make.

[C]

Well, because people say that who have been together for 50 years, you have never cheated, and you have. Like, they're like, the greatest love story of all time. And you think, like, okay, yeah, they said that we had some hard times. Like, sometimes you have a year that's hard.

[B]

Right.

[C]

And I. You know, especially this past year, I went through a lot, and I felt like, okay. And he was going. I felt like we were both on our own going through these things. And so I thought, like, we'll get through this together, because, I mean, I'm committed to this man. And. But, you know, he.

[B]

He had a full other relationship going on.

[C]

Right.

[B]

This season. We found out a lot about your relationship there. You had talked about, like, how at times you would go through his phone and he was open with you and he would hand it to you. Or then we found out on Watch what happens Live, you were like, I had the iPad password, you idiot. Like, they're always so stupid. And Tom mentioned you guys were only having sex four times a year, and you were living pretty separate lives. Were you lonely?

[C]

Yeah, but no, because I had my best friend, so he would be so jealous of me hanging out with my best friend Logan. Right. And he would be like, I feel like a third wheel when I go out with you guys. And I'm like, well, because you. You go outside and you are on the phone or you're doing, you know, you.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

And so it's like, I don't want that for you. But so I filled that. I filled that absence of him not coming home and not wanting to do the same things that we wanted to do. I filled that absence with the most incredible people I know, which are my

[B]

friends, which is, like, such, like, also a beautiful thing that you had great friends, but also kind of like, clearly a deflector of, like, instead of being like, we. Why are we never hanging out? I'm just gonna hang out with my friends. Which is great. We love your friends.

[C]

Right. Because he was going and doing that, you know, and it was just like. Or. But honestly, though, the separate lives comment.

[A]

Yeah.

[C]

To me, is just so not true. I mean, to some degree, maybe.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

But when you're saying, like, I have to work, I'm trying to open this bar, and, oh, I have to go to dinner with Schwartz and Brett because we have to talk about the bar, and then, oh, I thought you were going to be home right after dinner. It's 12. Like, what are you Doing. Oh, we just went to get drinks next door at Birds. You know, like, things like that. And it's like, okay, well, but then if I. Again, my camera roll and his camera roll. Because I have it, right. If you look at it, it's. We're still. We're going to concerts. We're going on dinner dates. We're. We are. There is some. There is effort being made somewhere of, like, you know.

[A]

Right.

[C]

It just felt like it just wasn't enough.

[B]

Yeah, no, no, I get it. You obviously mentioned you went through a rough year. You lost your grandmother, you lost your dog. I'm so sorry. How were you mentally grieving during that time? And, like, what was your relationship with Tom when you were grieving? Because I know you've been open about, like, when you lost your dad, Tom was there. He was like, your rock. He was in it with you. He was like, the person for you. And this time around was very different. Were you concerned at all, or were you just, like, full grieving? You didn't even, like, give a. And pay attention?

[C]

Yeah, I was full grieving because my concern. Well, with Charlotte, my dog, he was there with me. He held her as we said goodbye. We literally said goodbye to her together. And then we went home, and I put on my comfort movie, which is love, actually, and we drank wine, and we laid on the couch together and just, like, mourned together. And I. So I thought we were, like, fully on the same page there. I also know that, like, when it comes to. It was the summer, we do have to, you know, we have to film. You have to go do stuff. We can't just. We can't stay at home forever. And so a lot of times it would be like, okay, well, I have to. I'm gonna go film this. I have. I have, you know, boys night or this or that. And I was like, go do it, because this is what we do. Yeah, it's a good career. I. Maybe I'm not ready for that yet, but you go do it. Exactly. And so I definitely had no idea that, you know, he would betray me during that time, because I thought he was also grieving. When it came to my grandma, I was so concerned with my mom. So I flew home to my mom, and then I flew back, filmed the rest of the season, which was, like, one week left, and then I flew back again to Florida and was there for, like, two weeks. It was during the hurricane Ian and everything. And I just. I just extended my stay beyond the service and everything. And I just. My concern was really just my family.

[B]

When you were grieving your grandmother, isn't that when Tom and Raquel apparently were, like, at your house or something, having sex? Potentially.

[C]

Potentially.

[B]

Potentially.

[C]

I mean, he has maintained that that's not the case, but I don't trust what he says. Of course they FaceTimed me, the three of them. They FaceTimed me that next morning, like, before any filming or whatever. So I was already aware that she had stayed the night because she. It was like, hey, good morning. Yeah, I stayed the night. Like, it. Like, it was just no big deal.

[B]

Is that one of the most painful things for you? Aside from the actual fact that they were having an affair? Like, the casualness of just like, hey, girl, we're gonna FaceTime you together. And they're your best friends, so you're like, hey, guys. And they, like, literally just.

[C]

It's the duplicitousness. It's like the. It's the backstabbiness. It's like, less about, like, an affair. You know what I'm saying?

[B]

Right?

[C]

It's so layered, and it's just really bizarre as well. Like, it's just like. I can't wrap my head around doing that.

[B]

It's really twisted and sick.

[C]

It is, actually.

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[B]

Tom claimed he tried to break up with you multiple times and your response would be I'm not going to let you leave. You're going to have to force me.

[C]

That it there was only one. Okay. So was tried.

[B]

Okay.

[C]

He's talking about those conversations that we filmed. So the one on the blue, the brown and white. And then I don't know if that looked like try an attempt to break up to you. It didn't look like it to me. And then there was another scene that didn't make it to air that was pretty much along the same lines and that was where we like decided we were actually gonna go to couples therapy or whatever. That doesn't. That's not an attempt. And then that was in September. So then we had literally all the way up until just Valentine's Day. Like January. No, Valentine's Day is in February.

[B]

Right. Okay.

[C]

So I'm like what day is Valentine's Day?

[B]

Where are we?

[C]

Valentine's Day. He got me flowers. We went to Schwartz and Sandy's. He pulled out a bottle of wine from our first trip we ever took together. So obviously also after we had celebrated our nine year anniversary at Musso and Frank on January 1st like full, you know, like we, we went out, we had our anniversary dinner. Happy anniversary, like great night.

[B]

Right.

[C]

Like, like we, we were having sex in January like multiple times.

[B]

So like so to also to confirm to everyone that's not following all this drama, it's like Tom really honed in being like I was really trying to break up with her.

[C]

Like but you're like sleeping in my bed and buying me flowers and we' an anniversary dinner and like yeah, going to couples therapy and all of that. So the, the Valentine's Day thing that he has referenced.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

Again got me flowers. We went to Schwartz and Sandy's for dinner, brought a super special bottle of wine that was special to us. I got dressed up. I put, like, little hearts on my face. He was like, you look so cute. We went out for drinks. Later, Rachel showed up, as did a few of our other friends. And then we went home, and we were. Started kissing, and he was like, I have to stop you. And then that's when he. We had this breakup conversation. Then at the end of that conversation, that was hours long. And the end of that conversation was, all right, well, let's continue this conversation. You know, when he was saying things in that conversation, like, I think I. I'm having a midlife crisis. Like. And I'm like, absolutely. And I said, if we break up, I'm probably going to quit the show. I will probably leave Los Angeles. I will probably deactivate my Instagram. And he found that to be, like, very offensive. He was saying, like, I. I don't know, like, I am was never saying that I was going to kill myself. I was saying that my life, this life will be over for me because I will go do something else. I've been fantasizing about moving to, like, the French countryside since I was child. And, like, honestly, to be fair, like, in the conversation, it's quite tearful. It was definitely not, like, a positive conversation.

[A]

Right?

[C]

But I'm not talking about physically harming myself. And given the fact that we had that conversation over many, many, many hours, he knows that that's not what I was saying. It's not just, like, one comment and then we stop talking. So the fact that I feel like so many things that I've said, not just in confidence, it's just me and him, like, we could sit here and war of words all we want. It's my word against his word. Right, okay, that's fair. But at the same time, it's like knowing me and knowing the conversation and knowing the conversations we had in the days after that, where you were still sleeping in my bed and we were still going to. We went to a concert on February 19, and there's videos that he has of me, like, dancing in the living room. And, you know, so it's like, okay, so why are you sleeping in the bed? Why are we continuing to hang out? Why do we have any sort of relationship? If to you now you're gonna go on a podcast and say, Ariana knew we were broken up? It's just like, in my opinion, I was like, you know what? I feel great about us having this open. I was Really a rough conversation. It ended with, let's keep talking about this. The next couple of days, we had more conversations. I said, you are going to have to. If you think this is over, you will have to be the one to end it, because I'm committed. I'm actually thinking that this is like, the potential for us to, like, be. Even to be great. Because we're talking about stuff now that we haven't talked about yet. Like, we've never really gotten this, this, this far down this road before. So, yes, if you want it to be, if this is over to you, like, you are gonna have to, like, you have to do this. You're gonna have to leave. Like, that's not crazy. It's like a. Like, not all. I don't. We don't have to mutually agree upon the breakup. You know what I'm saying?

[B]

Like, not only is it not crazy, Ariana, that was going to be my next question of, like, I think the whole world watching it. When Tomorrow looked at Sheena and was like, I can't break up with her because she's threatened to kill herself. First of all, my problem with that, even if you had said that, which I appreciate you clarifying, but again, you didn't need to because it's like, number one, that's a huge allegation to make about someone's mental health and to just casually say on a show when that's not the truth or it was the truth. Shut the.

[C]

I have dealt with suicidal ideation before and I have been in very, very deep, deep, dark places before. So to then be flippant about it as if that's also something about me that makes me, like, deserve to be treated poorly is. Is pretty awful, I think.

[B]

I couldn't agree more. I also am. Like, when you saw that clip, how. How did you feel?

[C]

I mean, it made me angry, obviously. And then what Sheena said was, like, such a great thing. Like, even if that was exactly word for word what I had said, which, no, but if it was, why did you do absolutely nothing to help it out at all? Like, why didn't you call my mom, my brother, my friends?

[B]

Right. Instead, you just. My best friend.

[C]

Right.

[B]

Tom knows you have shared that you have struggled with your mental health.

[C]

I have.

[B]

Yes, you have. He has clearly been next to you while you're going through things and purported

[C]

to be my supporter and my partner in that.

[B]

Why, if you were gonna break up, why do you think you would leave everything and move? Like, do you still. Well, now you did break up. You're not gonna do that, right? Are we going to the French countryside?

[C]

Like, where are we going?

[B]

Where are we going? Where are we going?

[C]

I'm down.

[B]

But like, when you said that to him, you really were like, I'm out.

[C]

Because I didn't want to do. I didn't want to do all of. Of this on my own or without him. And I didn't want to, like, just kind of like, be like, all right, I guess I'll move into an apartment in Studio City. And, you know, I just was like, that's not what I want. And I was like, if this is gonna change my life dramatically, not being in that relationship, then I want to change it dramatically.

[B]

I get what you're saying. It's like, I also appreciate. I think a lot of people can relate to this randomly. Sometimes when you have the worst fights of your life with your partner, it does feel like you can see the light at the end of the tunnel because you're like, we have never been this candid. We have not spoken in this way. So almost it allows for a dialogue where you're like, weirdly, we went backwards to kind of go forward.

[C]

We're having. That is literally where I was at. I was literally where I was at. Because I'm also thinking to myself, a nine year relationship is not a relationship that ends on a. With a drunken Valentine's Day. But by the way, we were wasted when we got home that night. So I'm like, that's. You don't just have one wasted conversation

[B]

and end a nine year relationship.

[C]

Right? So.

[B]

Right.

[C]

I. But to him, I. He was clearly. And obviously in that conversation, there was nothing brought up about him having an affair with anyone.

[B]

Right.

[C]

So it's almost like the whole thing, the whole thing was nonsense. And I remember asking, I was like, why did you get me flowers if you were like, I'm going to break up with her. And he was like, well, I really, I wanted to get you flowers. You just. I was like, oh, my God.

[B]

He really. It really feels like he really wanted to have both.

[C]

I think so. I think he was very committed to the double life.

[B]

I agree. Because do you actually believe he was going to end it before the reunion?

[C]

I don't know. Honestly, it's like hard to know. I do think that I've seen. I've seen some things. I've learned some things even after filming the radio.

[B]

Tell us, come on, give us the tea.

[C]

One of those things is a text message from Rachel to Tom saying, I just talked to a mutual friend. I won't name them. And they said that you should be honest with Ariana. Maybe not so much about all the details, like sleeping in the house together, but that she deserves to know about this. And then it's like, I love you. You got this.

[B]

Oh, so kind, just so, so generous.

[C]

So I think it was only in that last little bit there right before I found out that it was even the I. That it was being workshopped, right?

[B]

That's when, like, when I saw that they. They were like, we were gonna do it before the reunion because we could never sit in front of her and let her defend. I'm like, bro, that's what you've been doing. You've been sitting in front of her and letting her defend you and Raquel and everyone. It's like, why would the reunion be any different, right? Oh, my God, I. I hate this shit. Okay. Throughout this season, there were numerous comments from castmates about the dynamic of your guys relationship. Again, before the Affair came out in January, you had to set the record straight that you and Tom were not in an open relationship. Why do you now with all the information, why do you think that rumor started?

[C]

Honestly, I think it came from him. I think that. Which it's been denied, I'll say that. But I think that. So it came out that day that all. Everyone was at my house that you see on the show that. I mean, obviously these conversations that are two minutes on the show are like two hours plus. And sometimes there are things that are said that are way worse than what is on.

[B]

We're like, bravo. Give it to us. What the.

[C]

Like his and I, my. Our conversation. And there were things that were way worse. And then in that conversation with all my friends, I think it was. Sheena was like, so one of our friends. Back when this stuff started coming out and rumors were rumbling, it was apparently Rachel told a mutual friend that she thought me and Tom were in an open relationship because apparently he told her that at one point. And then when that got brought up, he was like, absolutely not. I never said that. And I was like, well, you should probably take that up with your little fucking girlfriend, because she's the one who told that to someone else. And I. And you know what she said to that someone else? She said, even if that she's like, I mean, I don't know if that's true, but I would way rather hook up with Ariana than Tom. And I think she said that because she was talking to a guy and she thought it was like, hot, hot to be like, to say that. And so when Tom was like, I never said that, but I'm like, well, don't ask me. I'm not the one. That's information that's being brought to me that she apparently said.

[B]

So weirdly, I do think in a strange way, that is helpful to know, because that narrative now, knowing what we know, it's like that didn't get put out into the world by no happen chant. Like, it's not like everyone's like, Sheena and Brock are in an open. And it's like, you know what I mean? It's like now knowing there's like, a

[C]

kernel of something that was planted somewhere that turned into something else.

[B]

Right. Like, someone knew it was an open relationship, but it was one side.

[C]

There's one person. Yeah. Because the other person's like, right. Absolutely not.

[B]

Like, I would have loved to have known. I would have been like, let me know so I can, like. Like, you would have loved to known, like, many times earlier. So you're like, oh, let me get on the same page. You're Raquel. Got it. I'm out.

[C]

Right.

[B]

He was operating, telling people that probably so that it wouldn't get back to you.

[C]

Because it's like, oh, Bill, then they must have some sort of, like, trust, some rule. And so I'm not going to bring it up to her. I mean, that sounds fairly likely to me.

[B]

Absolutely. Katie at one point said something along the lines of, ariana doesn't care. She just cares when people talk about it and she doesn't want to look dumb. Comments like that insinuating you and Tom had a different relationship and understanding off camera than on camera. And those comments were pretty heavy throughout the season of, like, they've got this thing on the side that no one talks about. I remember Lala went on a podcast and was like, they are the most different off camera. Like, how does that sit with you?

[C]

I mean, to be honest, and I do love Katie and I do love Lala, but those were people who were not really in our inner circle, like, whatsoever for the last many years.

[B]

Okay.

[C]

And I don't think anyone within our inner circle would ever say anything like that. If you were to interview Logan or Brad or even Sheena, they would not say that. And those are people that we spent, like, a lot of time together with, went on trips with, things like that. So, I mean, I get. But to them, maybe they think that that's fine, but they were not in our inner circle.

[B]

Prior to the scandal, there had been other rumors of Tom Cheating with other women. And it was disclosed in the Fine finale that you did know about one of them in Miami. You guys weren't official. You talked about that. Now, knowing who Tom really is, how many people do you think?

[C]

I don't know. There was one. Years and years ago that I got a DM that was like, Tom hooked up with my friend in San Diego, and I was like. And I brought it up over and over and over and over again because I was like, I'm drilling. I'm drilling. And I. And it was like, no, absolutely not. No, no, no. Like, you know what I mean? It was like, really just to know that. Now I'm like, no, I think that was a yes. And then there's specifically the one that he said. Oh, yeah, there was one other time. I'm like, 99.9. Sure. I know exactly who that is also.

[A]

Yeah.

[C]

But that being said, how many? Like, I. I don't know, because it's like, I don't know there, because I feel like he was so. I mean, there was stuff that he was getting away with that I learned out about, like, within the last month.

[B]

Like what?

[C]

Like bringing Rachel home to St. Louis.

[B]

When did he do that?

[C]

Apparently more than once.

[B]

While you were dating?

[C]

Yeah. Yeah.

[B]

So his family knew?

[C]

It's hard to say, like, what exactly they knew or when they knew. I think they. At one point, they knew, but they were, like, definitely not condoning. And he wasn't. He was, like, putting her up in, like, a hotel.

[B]

Like, how diabolical to bring your side chick to your home. Like, like. And were they not afraid to pop around? Like, what?

[C]

I guess. I mean, it's St. Louis. I don't know. I don't know. Like, do they. But you know what? That being said, there were some rumblings. Even before I knew if whether or not that was true, there were rumblings of that on the Internet. So definitely somebody had seen something.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

What do you think about the Billy Lee situation?

[C]

I do not think that anything happened there.

[B]

You don't?

[C]

I don't. And I. The reason I don't is because, I mean, Billy Lee. Okay, I understand that this sounds crazy, because Raquel was someone I loved and tried. You know what I'm saying?

[B]

Right. You're like. But.

[C]

But I do really, I trust that Billy Lee would not do that.

[B]

Have you asked?

[C]

She has. We've talked about it.

[B]

Okay. Okay.

[C]

Yeah. Based on people saying things online, she's been.

[B]

Yeah, right.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

Has anyone reached out to you since to be like, I also hooked up with him.

[C]

They have not.

[B]

Okay.

[C]

I haven't had anyone do that.

[B]

Okay, that's good for your mental health.

[C]

Or are they scared?

[B]

Are they scared you'll be like, on caller Daddy? Like, yup. Britney from Australia said that.

[C]

Like, no, dude, honestly, I would not. If a girl. If any women did do that.

[B]

Yeah, you're not.

[C]

I would not put them on blast. Because, honestly, at the end of the day, as much as I think that they suck for doing that because they knew we were together, it's the responsibility, in my opinion, of the person in a relationship.

[B]

I also think, weirdly now, knowing the drama of, like, the open relationship rumor, he may have been putting out what I've always said, like, men, when they want to put their penis in something, they will say, like, a married man will be like, no, we're in the middle of a divorce. Later, he goes home to his wife.

[C]

Like, she's. Sadly, she passed. Like, yeah, she passed away.

[B]

Like, literally, like, she's not here. Like, he. We don't even know how he's. It's already so diabolical how crazy it's gotten that it wouldn't be surprising if every room he walked into in order to get a girl, like, it was like, we're on a break. Or we're like, it just. It's.

[C]

It's.

[B]

I hate men. Okay. Does being completely honest with yourself, do you think you ever subconsciously turned a blind eye?

[C]

Yes. Yeah. But I think I was given a lot of assistance in doing that because I would bring things up and I would be shot down and. Or I. Again with the. Oh, let me see your phone. I think that I was given a lot of assistance in that. You know what I mean? Like, and he even said on the show, like, well, she didn't follow me. It's like, how much effort should I be putting forth in a relationship? Should I be stalking my partner in order to. To know for sure, like, what they're doing?

[B]

Like, I get what you're saying. And I think also to women listening, like, we talked about you going through his phone, and there are no texts. So it's like, at what point you have to just trust your partner? Because then you start to actually feel crazy of, like, am I being just, like, so untrusting?

[A]

Like, right?

[C]

And you're like, am I just, like, a. Because now I'm being, you know, that person that's just so. Like, so what am I their mom now? That's gonna be like, every time they come home, am I gonna be like, all right, let Me see your phone, you know, like that whole thing, and it's like.

[B]

And then you start to feel like the psycho, and they become the more normal one. That's like, you're so crazy. Like, well.

[C]

And then they get to use that against you later on. So it's like, you're either not psycho enough to, like, not figure it out, or you're so. You're too psycho. And they're like.

[B]

They know how to hide that.

[C]

Now I'm gonna break. Exactly.

[B]

So they're like, you're so crazy. Here's my phone.

[C]

Look.

[B]

And it's like, well, then open the iPad. If you didn't delete those messages, did. Were his messages connected to his iPad?

[C]

No.

[B]

Oh, you're.

[C]

Oh. And you know why? Because at one point they were, and it was just like, we just get so many, and it would just be dinging, ding, ding. So it was like, we gotta turn that off. This was years and years ago. It was just like, the amount of that. I know, but the Find My iPhone app, I, you know, could see where the devices all were located, and they were always located somewhere that they should be. The band rehearsal space or Schwartz's apartment.

[B]

How much of the affair do you think happened at Schwartz's house?

[C]

I think more than Schwartz is willing to let on because the recording was at Schwartz's, and he apparently felt real comfortable there.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

In that sad, sad apartment.

[B]

In that sad, sad location. Yeah. That's fucking gross.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

Do you think you kind of touched on this a little bit earlier? But do you think you were so quick to defend Tom? Not just about this. Like, through seasons, you've always had his back. You've always been ride or die. And I think so many people, including myself, respected you for always being like, I'm gonna stand by my partner. But do you think that you would be so quick to defend him so that people wouldn't think less of him or so that people wouldn't think less of you for being with him?

[C]

Both. Yeah, Definitely both. Because I didn't want people. I always saw a side of him that I felt like wasn't apparent on the show or on social media or whatever. I always felt like I saw a side of him that was like the home side. And so I always felt like it was. If people could just see that part of him, they would, like, they would get it, you know? And then in turn. Yeah. I mean, for people to think less of me, I mean, I don't. I don't want them to be like, oh, this girl Sucks at picking guys a date. Yeah. Although, I mean, no, we're.

[B]

We're leveling up, Ariana. Okay. Like, it's. It's getting better. I've seen. It's gotten a lot better. When you look back on your time together, are you able to see any good? Or has what he's done completely tainted him? And as the human he is, I

[C]

don't think I'm there yet. Although some of these edits on Tick Tock that come on my for you page that have like ceilings, that ceiling song is playing and it's like cute clips of like. Like, I can't because I feel like, Like, I mean, in that regard I'm like, oh, that's maybe almost getting me there. But I feel like, I mean, he even said, oh, because I've done this, then that. That negates everything else. And I was kind of like, I mean, it kind of does. I mean it does. I hate to say it, but when you have an affair, you. You cheat like that. I do think it does make it very hard for the any for me to look at their relationship with any level of like, nostalgia or maybe years from now.

[B]

But yeah, it's also again, like, the level of like, truly lying and actually having what seemingly no remorse almost between the two of them. You can't help but wonder. And I think the whole world was like, what else has this done over these nine years? It's like, this is the one we know about. And then, oh, there was one in Miami and then there was one in San Diego. It's like, what else? Because he's good at keeping it close to the chest. And he has no issue lying to your face.

[C]

No.

[B]

So what else was there? Like, I get what you're saying. It's like, that's. That's difficult. Yeah, that's difficult.

[C]

And it also makes it feel like you look back on. On the relationship and times that you did think that were good, that were happy memories and you think like, well, did they didn't really like me or respect me during those times. Right. Because I don't know, what do you

[B]

miss about the relationship?

[C]

I would say inside jokes.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

Being goofballs together. The fun. Funny. Just stupid stuff.

[B]

Yeah. That, like, comfortability of like, you have like the same language.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

Like we know each other. There's a deleted clip from Vanderpump of you, Tom and Raquel in a hot tub in Mexico. And you say, it looks like we're in a throuple that feels like a foreshadowing now, knowing what we know, what specific moments did you have to look back on or you look back on now that you're like, whoa, Something so shady was going on in that exact moment. And I. I didn't know. I didn't know that one in particular.

[C]

That's the big.

[B]

Right. He's like, fingering her in the hot tub.

[A]

And you're like, don't.

[C]

They're not like, this is hilarious, you guys. Like, I'm so drunk. I'm like, this is so funny. And by the way, his whole thing about, like, skinny dipping and hang gliding. I went hang gliding and I clearly went skinny dipping. Like, I don't know what the hell you're talking about. Anyways, there's that there were times where we would have, like, a bunch of people over in our house. House, and we have a guest bedroom. And that guest bedroom gets used a lot by a lot of our different friends and her being one of them. And we would be like. We would have friends who'd be like, bring over the dog. So, like, my brother would come and bring his dogs. And our friend Jesse Montana would come and bring Indio, which is like my dog's best friend. And Rachel would bring Graham over, who is honestly a terror. He bit me before.

[B]

Like, mother out there.

[C]

He's not a well trained dog. He's kind of a little jerk. But we would let it go because we're like, that's our friend's dog. Like, maybe he'll fig. And she would always purport it to be like, oh, it's because, like, maybe like, when her and James had him together, that maybe, like, it was the way he was raised as a puppy. And I'm almost like, clearly James was not the problem. Like, I try to, like, move the food bowl and he will try to bite me. Like, he's crazy. He's very cute. But it's not his fault, right? It's not his fault.

[B]

Right? The owner's fault. Train your dog.

[C]

Yeah. Anyways, we would have people that would come over, stay in the guest room, stay on our couches. Like, it was. It's a very normal thing. And sometimes I'd be like, all right, well, it's like two. I want to go to bed. Can we, like, turn the music off or can we? And my poor neighbor has so many times been like, like, hey, like. And I'm like, I'm. I'm not even down there anymore. I have to, like, go down there and be the person's like, can you please? And it. It just Was like so annoying. And there were times where I would like go up to bed or whatever because it's late and I have a life and a career and responsibilities and you know, 28 year old failed pageant queens don't. And so they'd be able to stay up super late and hang and have no reason to get up the next morning. And that's fine if you weren't my boyfriend also at the same time. And there were times like that where if I could go back and be like, why are like what's going on? You know?

[A]

Right.

[C]

Things like that.

[B]

Do you think they ever had sex while you were upstairs?

[C]

Yes, I do. I think they had sex in my guest room while I was sleeping in my own bed that he and I went to bed in together and then he left. Left the bed and went to the guest room and her. Yes, I believe that.

[B]

God bless you. God. God bless you. Ariana, that's like trust issues, like how like him. Because how do you even begin to like trust someone after like that level of like nine years with someone and they're that comfortable in the home that you co own.

[C]

Yeah. Oh yeah. And like when people say Tom's house, I'm like, excuse me, it's my house.

[B]

Huh.

[C]

We own that house equally. So I don't ever want to hear that.

[B]

In one episode you said Raquel is kind, sweet and loyal and has just been a delight since the day I met her. How would you describe her now?

[C]

Oh my God. Lost. Lost. I mean, I don't know her.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

I realize now I never knew her, but I certainly don't know her now. And we don't. I don't know anyone who does know her. And so it's hard to say, but based on what I've seen, lost and empty and just potential. I. I don't know.

[B]

Yeah, I think a lot of hard

[C]

to say because it's like I don't really know what's going on. Some of the behavior has at times seemed sociopathic.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

But at the same time I'm not really sure like what is the real deal.

[B]

Yeah. It just sucks that you were kind of in the middle of something that someone that has clearly no remorse was involved in the destruction of also your relationship.

[C]

Sure. And I at the time was like, I kept telling her like it's okay to be, to make mistakes. It's okay to like,

[B]

you were so nice to her. Ariana, do Raquel and Tom make sense together to you?

[C]

No. No. I mean unless he has changed everything that he has Ever said that he's looking for in someone then? No.

[B]

How did you feel watching them on screen together in Raquel's apartment? Like, that was the. The first time we all kind of see them able to romantically interact where they're like, oh, my gosh, this is so weird. We can't kiss on camera together. Like, how did it feel watching your partner of nine years just literally the day before? I think it was. Look at you being like, I'm going to her place. Yeah, I'm going, like, also just so shame.

[C]

Oh, and by the way, after he filmed that scene with her, he came back to. To my house, right? And it was essentially. I mean, you saw how many flowers were there. So I. There were probably like 15 people there. I still had not slept, still not eaten. My friend Janet came, got all kinds of. She was making French onion soup to, like, try, because that's my favorite. Yeah. So she's making French onion soup. Our friends and all brought over, like, wine, and we were just watching Drag Race and every. It was. It was essentially a funeral. Right. Because these were all also people who were friends with him and were friends with her, and they were like, we've lost these friends. Friends, because we cannot, like, in good conscience. There's no. There's nothing. They. We've lost them as well because we don't want to. There's no way I can imagine if he's willing to do that to me. Is he willing to do to you?

[B]

Exactly. Diabolical.

[C]

I can understand. And so he walked in the house after filming that scene, yelled at everybody. This is his house too. He. He referred to it as a party that I was having a party. I went to bed. It was like 9pm I. I finally fell asleep on the couch. He went upstairs. Kristen and our. Another one, our mutual friends. Courtney had to be like, you should probably go, like, why are you here? And then eventually he left, and there were paparazzi shots of him going back to her apartment after. So he came back to the house, yelled at everybody to, like, get out of his house and blah, blah, blah. And then we find out later on he was definitely, like, tuning into, like, the cameras in the house. Like, watch. Like, we were doing literally nothing.

[B]

We were. You called a party. We were having a funeral. Thank you.

[C]

Exactly.

[B]

You're done by.

[C]

But that scene was very cringe on so many levels. And I think it was that scene and that. That conversation that I watched that made me. When you asked me, like, do they make sense to you?

[B]

I was like, no, it Was awkward.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

The whole thing of her being like, I love you. And he was like, no, I said they love you, but I love you too. Like, how did you also feel knowing that they said to each other that they love each other?

[C]

I mean, I kind of knew that before watch. I mean, I knew that before watching it. That was like.

[B]

Like where they're at.

[C]

Yeah. But it was cringe.

[B]

Do you think Tom misses you?

[C]

Yeah, I do.

[B]

Do you know that, like, has anything been said? No, you just know.

[C]

I just feel like as someone that he would go to for advice on mostly everything up until like that moment or. I just think that there's no way that he. He doesn't. Because he's been making a lot of like, very questionable decisions over the last two months and he doesn't have that like, sounding board or that advisor anymore.

[B]

What is the extent of an apology that you've received from each of them at this point?

[C]

Hers was like a nothing. Hers was a text message that was very like, I just don't know what to say except that I'm sorry. Like, that was it. It. That was that day. It was March 3rd that I got that one. That was that night I went to a concert to see Tovlo. My friends were like, let's get you out of the house.

[B]

Right?

[C]

Go, just do something fun and then we'll go back and we'll heal.

[B]

But.

[C]

And then at the reunion, it was very sub par. It was like a rehearsal speech and I was just like, shut the up.

[B]

Right? It's like someone told you to say these exact lines. Like, nothing is inside here. Yeah.

[C]

Nothing had clicked. I didn't feel like it was genuine.

[B]

Also, that kind of text message, you're like, that is the kind of text messages you send when, like you were a. The night before because we were drunk and you said some things and you're like, I'm really sorry. I don't know what to say. I'm embarrassed. Like, you had a almost year affair with my boyfriend. Like, maybe you should send multiple pages of an explanation and like, okay, and what about Tom?

[C]

Well, obviously you saw how. Well, I told you how that night went the next day, not much better. And then that scene that you saw, which was two hours and there was a lot of like, way worse things that he said.

[B]

Like what? Like, what is he saying?

[C]

Like, at one point he was like, oh, well, I'll keep taking care of the house like I always do.

[B]

What is his obsession with like the batteries and the toilet paper? He's like, I Take care of this house.

[C]

Like, he has an assistant.

[B]

Like, right?

[C]

She goes and gets the. Like, he says, hey, we need this. And she goes and gets in. Like, it's not like.

[B]

I literally saw a TikTok of a girl being like, how did not get cheated on 101? And she's stocking the house with, like, batteries and toilet paper and be like, if only Ariana had stocked the toilet paper, maybe. Like, he acted as if, like, that was a huge point of contention and, like, why he cheated. He's like, she would never stalk the house. Like, Ariana didn't do these things. And you're like, bro, I noticed.

[C]

Yeah, like, over the last two months, I've noticed. Like, there was one day I was doing. I think I was shooting Spawn Con, like, downstairs at one point, and all of a sudden, he's like, asked his assistant, like, does she know where the ladder is? And it was by me, so she brought it. And he's like, I'm just gonna change the filter on the air conditioner. I'm like, what? You wouldn't do that now? Because you. It's like, now you have this thing you have to, like, uphold that you, like, do all these things.

[B]

I am the man of the house.

[A]

It's like, chill.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

So it's so cringe. Would you go back and change anything you did?

[C]

Honestly, I want to say no, because I feel like. Listen, I've seen people online be like, she wasn't perfect. Well, obviously, who is person? She's not innocent. Okay? I don't have to be. I was very much a committed partner in this relationship. False. What is it? Warts and all? I was very much committed, and I feel like I was doing my absolute best as a partner, but I don't think I would do anything differently just because I feel like all I can do is my best. And whether my best was good enough or not for anyone, that's what it was. And I feel like, like, yeah, I could have been less trusting. I could have been more paranoid, or I could have been. I could have followed or I could have bought pens and batteries or whatever. But ultimately, I think that if I go back and try to, like, change all the things that I woulda, coulda, shoulda. I mean, I would never stop.

[B]

So do you think that had you not caught him, do you think you guys would still be together there?

[C]

It's hard to say in this moment because, you know, there was this a. There was a plan still together. I almost think, no, given that I know about this plan.

[B]

Now, can you explain what the plan was to people?

[C]

The plan was, I think, to end the relationship under the guise of, like, that Valentine's Day conversation, for that to eventually stick. Eventually. That would be the. That was the end game. To break up with me without any mention of any sort of affair or cheating or anything, whether that was pre reunion or not or pre. Going to film Winter House or not, and then, you know, go about whatever, and then they would just start dating.

[B]

Yep.

[C]

But the narrative that he was the victim in our relationship or that I was just. I just suck so would have already been planted. I think that was part of, like, a. There was a master.

[B]

Right.

[C]

Plan.

[B]

Yeah. It's a little wild to see, like, how much he was working it towards the end there. Like, you guys weren't really in this season that much. And then to watch, like, halfway through, or even a little bit farther than halfway through, he just is coming out of the woodwork complaining to Tom. Oh, my gosh. We're not connecting. We don't have sex. I don't know. Like, it is pretty diabolical now that you watch it of, like, oh, this was a whole plan. Set the stage. I'm not happy. We don't have sex. We don't connect, and then end it. And then. And all he thought was gonna work perfectly, and thank God it didn't, because it's disgusting.

[C]

No. I'm actually, like, there was at one point. I think it's him or Schwartz had said to me at one point, like, I'm so sorry that you found out this way. And I was like, I'm so glad that I found out this way, because if I had found out the way that y' all had planned it are like, are you kidding? Like, it would have been. I would have been just a cog in the machine of. Of this whole narrative, this whole thing.

[B]

Do you ever think back to, like, that night with the phone, and you're like, thank God.

[C]

Yeah. And I also think what the. What was. Felt like like a beam. Like, I hate to say a lightning bolt. No, literally, but it really, truly felt like a lightning bolt of. Of do this right now. And it's like. I don't know. That's why I say, like, if felt like some sort of divine intervention because, like. And I'm. And I'm not. Like, I don't really believe in God. I don't know. Like, I don't. I'm not a religious person by any means. There was something that just went. Like, something went off, and it's so weird because I don't know how else to describe it because, like, so many other times I would have been. I could have. He even asked me that. He was like, why didn't you go through my phone, you know, when I was sleeping or whatever? And I'm like. Because I just didn't ever want to do that and be sneaky like that. Like, I don't want to be sneaky and that makes me feel sneaky.

[B]

But, yeah, thank God a woman's intuition is never wrong. What have you now uncovered that repulses you about this whole situation?

[C]

The flying her to different places? I know that she was that Watch what Happens live appearance where Schwartz was covering his mouth and acting all weird. Yeah, it's because she was in the hotel room. She was there in New York. I know for a fact he was. He was so. He was using, like other people's credit cards and things to like. Like, like, basically making them pay for things and then venmoing them later so that, like, it was just really messed. And. And you know what? Honestly, it makes me really upset because I feel like he put people in a position that they felt like they didn't know what to do. And I feel bad because I feel like it. That just. I can only imagine how heavy, like, how much that weight on him. Yeah.

[B]

Like, this was a whole operation that he started to get running where it's like the credit card here, have someone book her in the hood. Like, it was like, who knows how much farther it would have gone.

[C]

Sure. And having the band and the touring and stuff like that, I feel like was a very easy way to be. Like, well, I have to be out of town. And then she could then be flown to wherever that show was and I would have no idea because he's coming home exactly when he's supposed to come home.

[B]

Right.

[C]

Of course. He's out lays playing a show. Like, there's nothing about it. Like, he was very good with. With that.

[B]

It does start to make you wonder. Was the. Is this band just a whole cover for this affair? Because, like, objectively, I know you were in love, Ariana, but, like, it's not great. The band's not great.

[C]

I feel like it's gotten. Well, wait, has it gotten worse?

[B]

Or did you just open your eyes

[C]

or did I not?

[B]

Can you now just, like, unbiasedly look at it and be like that? Those were love goggles.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

And now we flicked them off and you're like, okay, yeah, don't need to watch that anymore. Do you know, if there was a night ever that you had sex with Tom, this the same day he had sex with Raquel?

[C]

I don't know that. That. I don't know that. Oh, that would be.

[B]

Yeah. Extra therapy sessions for that week.

[C]

Yeah, I would love to know.

[B]

Would you?

[C]

Well, well, I've already. I've already had my pan. I'm. I'm good.

[B]

Okay. Right. So now it would just be like, oh, of course. Like an LOL moment.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

Right. We've already gone through the worst now, like, just like the details just become like, oh, that's.

[C]

But then you see, like, sometimes it makes me laugh because at this point it's like it is. Is. So again you ask that question and I'm like, I don't think so. But seems like.

[B]

Right. Right.

[C]

I don't know.

[B]

The reunion airs this week. How did you feel going into the reunion and how did you feel walking out of it?

[C]

I felt going into it, like it had only been like, what was it? Okay, March 1st. We filmed the reunion March 23rd. It had already felt as though. Felt like there was like a. A wall, like a divider had built. Had been built somehow between the current, the past and the present. And that feels so weird. And maybe that is again, like a compartmentalizing coping mechanism, but it also felt as though going into it, we were all on the same page. Like, and that's never happened. So that I felt gave not just me, but Sheena, Lala, Katie, James, we all had this, like, vote of confidence amongst our. Each other. And we all knew that we were all on the same page with that. And so it felt. It felt like a boost of confidence in that way of just knowing, like, I don't have to sit here and question whether or not I'm right or not wrong or if Lala's right or wrong or if James or Sheena or Katie is right or wrong. We know and we feel that, like, deep in our gut and that. Right, that felt good. Yeah, it was weird. I mean, honestly, that. That three weeks was like, really weird. And so to go into a reunion and I'm a. Not sitting sitting next to him, but I'm also not. Like, he would say stuff and I'd be like. Because normally I'd be like, well, what he's trying to say, because he'd. He'd always almost like, needed a translator at times because he would have an opinion that we had. We had talked about things, you know, at home. And so I. I understood where he was coming from or like, what he was trying to get at, but, like, then he would voice it, and no one else could get it. So I would be like, okay, so what do you really. This is what we're winning. And so to be there and, like,

[B]

sink yourself, not my job. What was it like sitting and having to listen to Raquel?

[C]

Painful and not painful in the sense of, like, she hurt my feelings. Painful in the sense of, like, I really did not feel like she was connected to the moment or reality at all. I really feel like. Like, again then, March 23, that the two of them, both of them somehow, maybe it was like they were feeding it to each other, because I don't know who else would be. They thought, people are just mad. Yeah, I'm a little mad at you. And, like, we'll be fine. Like, I think that's, like, where both of their minds were at. And so the. The gravity of what they had done or were doing or whatever, it was just not hitting at all. He was still. I mean, look, I think she just. I don't know. And I told her. I was like. I mean, I don't know why you're sorry now. You thought you were hot when you were doing it, right? You thought, like, Are you kidding?

[B]

Huh.

[C]

So

[B]

how would you describe your emotions during the reunion?

[C]

I was angry at times. I was. Was sad. But I honestly think that the biggest thing that I felt, that there was, like, a question that was asked towards the end, that I was just, like, I was so grateful for my friends, both the friends that were there that day and otherwise. And I honestly. A lot of it felt numb in a way, because it felt like. Like as angry as I was, it was almost difficult to connect to. Once you go angry, it's very hard to, like, come back from that.

[B]

Totally.

[C]

And, yeah, that's where I was, I think.

[B]

Was there anything you went into the reunion with of, like, I'm making this up? Like, I'm not gonna look her in the eyes or I'm gonna make sure that I don't look him in the eyes?

[C]

No, literally, I was like, I'm not looking at either of them. I will communicate to Andy or to. To Lisa if I have to look in that way. Otherwise, I will speak to the. The wall. Emptiness. The sound stage.

[B]

Was that, like, your.

[C]

Literally. That was me. Like, I was like, I'm not looking at either of them. And then eventually, a couple times, I did. But, I mean, that was.

[B]

You were like. Was that your main thought going into it?

[C]

Yeah, I was just like, I will not speak to Them. I'll speak. Like, I will answer, right?

[B]

But I'm not even.

[C]

We're not gonna.

[B]

You don't deserve my. I. I get it. Did you feel like you were able to get closure from the reunion?

[C]

Yeah, I honestly felt like I had closure before that. Before the reunion and then at the reunion. I mean, I said what I felt like saying in the moment, but I honestly felt as though everything that happened. I think I even said it, but it didn't make it to air. But I was just like, you. This happening. I mean, you made it really easy for me to just not give a about you. Like, breakups are hard. You miss the person. You know, you think, what could I have done? What could they have done? Are we gonna get back together? You know, you have all these things, right. When you go through a breakup, but when something like this happens, you're like, bye. Like, there's literally nothing about that person.

[B]

Right.

[C]

Even if I missed him, like, in the first few days, like, even that feeling of missing him, that's not who. Whoever that is, is not that person.

[B]

So I feel like that's also a good bit of advice for people listening that maybe be going through something similar of like. Like, sometimes weirdly, the more that the person hurts you in terms of how they decide to betray you, you can find some type of hope of, like, that just made it so much easier to never look back. And that is even more hurtful to person that with you because it's like, it would have been like if I kind of. If you up a little bit and we had a fight and then we did, like, he closed that door. You didn't even have to push it.

[C]

Slam that door shut. And I almost think that that was why the. The elaborate plan was. What it was is because then I would. Then I would want to get back together. Right?

[B]

Of course.

[C]

Or I'd be sad or I would be, you know, struggling.

[B]

No, it's. Thank. But thank God. Thank God.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

Was there anything specific that was really hurtful that he said to you that you kind of can't shake still?

[C]

I think it was the. It was the way that he weaponized any struggle I've ever had with my mental health. That to me was like the most hurtful.

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[B]

daddy apparently there is something so wild.

[C]

Okay like what?

[B]

There's something so wild that's going to be revealed in the reunion that could potentially have you guys not want to sign back up to be on the show. Have you thought about. I know your group chat must be going off like.

[C]

No, we all are. Just. I. We haven't even. I like. And I'm very like. Because I've talked to, like, our showrunners and stuff, and I'm like, I think I know, like, what the deal is. Right. But I am, like, not entirely sure.

[B]

There's a couple. There's a couple things out there. Raquel's pregnant.

[C]

I. I don't think so.

[B]

Affair started during James and Raquel era, maybe. Right. But, like, then that's. Is that. That crazy?

[C]

Right? Because what difference really, would that.

[B]

Right? We all hate them.

[A]

We still hate them.

[B]

Okay. Lisa knew the whole time.

[C]

I don't think so. I. I don't. I don't think so.

[B]

I have.

[C]

She would have brought. Here's why she would have brought that. She would have brought that up.

[B]

Right? Like, I had very.

[C]

Because again, there's a lot of speculation of, like, things being staged and whatever, right? This all happening after filming just from a. Just from a logistic production standpoint. Not to mention the fact that, like, this is my real life and these are my real feelings, and this is something we're really going through.

[B]

Right.

[C]

But for those naysayers, just from a production standpoint, yeah. Something like this happening months and months afterward, not filming, and there's no cameras around, and they had to borrow a crew from Housewives of Beverly Hills. Even film after that is a nightmare for production and for our show because they want every. Everything that's gonna happen. It's like, you want that to happen in real time while we're filming, of course, because otherwise you lose it. It's gone. It's hearsay. Or it's this, you know, Right. Something happens off camera that's, like, not ideal.

[B]

Right?

[C]

So again, if Lisa knew, she. There's no way. That's right.

[B]

On the last one I've written down, which I think is. I mean, this would be awful. Raquel hooked up with Brian Rock.

[C]

Oh, no, no, I don't think so.

[B]

No.

[C]

No, there's no way.

[B]

What is something that could come out that would make you not want to go back to the show?

[C]

I mean, anything that, like, makes me feel unsafe or for my dog to be on, say, and something like that. It's like anything safety wise would be, I think, the only thing that would make any of us Be like, we're not coming back to film. But I mean, I can't see that.

[B]

Like, what the. I know.

[C]

I guess, I mean, I kind of have an idea.

[B]

Do you want to tell us your theory? I'm like, okay, you'll tell me off camera.

[C]

I'll be like, that I really won't come back to film.

[B]

Yeah. Then you're literally kicked the off and I get sued. So that'd be fun. Okay. But you think you have an idea?

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

Is it as bad as everyone speculating?

[C]

I don't think it's something like that crazy or that wild.

[B]

It's just like, more drama.

[C]

Yeah, I think so. But I don't know know because again, like, you could. I haven't seen it, so I don't.

[B]

I got it. Okay, let's get, like, happy for five seconds.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

Yeah. Okay. Because what I should.

[C]

We have more rose.

[B]

Yeah. Can we have a little bit? Yeah, let's. Let's pour more. What I appreciate in you being really open today is, like, I said to you when you walked in, this is sadly, really relatable. I remember sitting on the bed in New York City and being like. Like, he hasn't done anything. I just have the feeling the divine.

[C]

I need to.

[B]

And I looked him in the eyes, Ariana, and I said, I need you to open your iPad. And he's like, I'll give you my phone. I said, no, the iPad.

[C]

Oh, my God. So what was it on that. What was the.

[B]

Fully having a sexting nude with his nutritionist. He was a professional athlete, and he would show me his nutritionist all the time. Like, she recommended the bison, and I'm gonna eat the bison.

[C]

Because he's like, her advice is, like, so great. He was talking about her.

[B]

He would talk about her to me. And I remember when he opened it, she was not the first person I went to, because I was like, okay, okay. But you know what's crazy? I didn't even need him to open it. The minute I asked him, and I put it down in front of him, I pulled it out from my back. I said, open it. He went ghost white. I didn't even need it. Him to open it. I was like, oh. Like, I knew. And then I saw it, and I remember going into the bathroom throwing up. And I think we can talk about this a little bit, which is. I wouldn't say it's like embarrassment, but there's like a level of. For five seconds because this is also the person you love.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

Your love doesn't go away. The minute you see it, you hate that. Him.

[C]

But, like, right. Yeah.

[B]

Five seconds ago, I was in love with this person. You. There is a part of you that wants to be like, no. No.

[C]

No way. Yeah.

[A]

No.

[C]

Yeah. Like, it's not real. It's not real. But it is.

[B]

But it is.

[C]

And it's like that gut punch.

[B]

Yeah. And it's like, do you have any advice? And I'll think too, of, like, for someone sitting there that just found out that they were getting cheated on. Like, how do you mentally wrap your brain around being in love with someone that you trusted? And then the ultimate betrayal and trying to be like, like, I want to go have them hug me. Because they're usually the person that consoles me, but you also me. And, like, I would be like, look,

[C]

maybe have that moment right now. Give yourself an hour to have that moment or that night and then get away from them. Like, like, obviously, we're still in the same house, but we are most definitely in different rooms. We have, like, I know exactly, like, when he's coming back to the house, and I know to, like, I. We do not cross paths. That being said, like, as much as you can have that conversation, do what you need to do. Get your ducks in a row and then get away from them. And don't. Don't allow them to, like, come back into your life. Because again, if it's somebody who's willing, who is capable or talented enough, it's the. Of being able to create those lies and stuff, they'll be. They'll be able to create something to. To pull you back in at some point.

[B]

And then.

[C]

So you have to separate. You have to go. No contact.

[B]

You're so right. And then also, if you go back, they're just going to be smarter next time.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

And that is, I think, the worst of, like, there's going to be so many things that are said to you. But I also believe, like, there's one thing. If someone comes to you and tells you, and it's like, I did this. I feel disgusting. I'm sorry. When you find it, when they're apologizing, they're sorry. They got caught a lot.

[C]

Oh, yeah, people are gonna apologize. Because I've had a lot of women that I've spoken to online since all of this have said my ex was the same way. He was angry. He was yelling at me. He was pissed. And it's like, it's. Yeah, it's this. The house of cards has fallen, and they're angry about that. They're not so much like, remorseful or upset that it's not about how you feel. It's about the fact that all the effort that went into creating this, to building that little house of cards got blown over so fast. And now what?

[B]

And I love how much you talk about your friends, because I. And I also love how you talk about this distortion of reality. Like the great Esther Perel always talks about, like, when you get cheated on. On, Your reality becomes so distorted and you are, like, wobbling, essentially. You can't see straight because you're like, you are the person I actually loved most and trusted the most in my life, and you just ripped the rug out underneath me.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

You have to immediately surround yourself. And I know you're embarrassed. Part of you also sometimes doesn't want to tell anyone because you're like.

[C]

Because you're like, oh, my God, now I'm that person. Or, you know, and then if you

[B]

tell people, it's over.

[A]

Right.

[C]

Once it's out. Well, it's like they always say too, like, whenever. If you and your partner just get in, like, petty fights, like, don't tell your friends, because then you're. They always say that. Right. But it's like, in this. If it's this big of a thing,

[B]

you gotta do it.

[C]

You gotta do it. And you gotta surround yourself with your friends as quickly as possible. And then that way they can also hold you accountable and be like, absolutely not.

[B]

Yep.

[C]

You are not allowed. Like, this is not happening. And then also, if you are in a situation where you do have a gaslighter or manipulator and you have a friend over, you have someone sitting right there going, no, I heard what they said. I saw how they were. It's not just you. Because that was my big thing is it was like there was no one else there. And so I would question everything. Yeah. And then my friends that were, you know, at the house, like, again, like, when he came back and was like, are you guys here? It's like, well, thank God. See, I was like, so you guys saw that, right? Like, of course. Like, my anxiety is going through. If I'm like, oh, my God. Oh, my God. But see, that's what it's been like. And they're like, okay, yes. So now we see the reality, because otherwise, you know, and that's.

[B]

Again, I just think it's so important to talk through this, because when you're in. Almost becomes impossible to see straight.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

And you have to remember you're. You're too close, and there's no like, you have to act. Like we just keep saying. And I always say it back to myself when I have friends that go through it. Like, you loved this person 30 seconds before you just, oh, my God, found it.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

So that isn't gone immediately. The hurt, the anger, all of it. But you still love that person. So you need someone. You have to remember what your friends have. No ulterior motives other than making sure you're good. And so just catch yourself. If you're going against your friends in that moment, it's because you're trying to hold on to something and let them be the anchor to pull you the other way. Because they're actually just, like, looking out for you.

[C]

Yeah. And talk to them about it. Yeah. If you're sad, you miss them or you.

[B]

That's okay.

[C]

Talk about, like, good times and stuff like that. Talk to your friends about it, like, and then just. But keep that. That no contact. I'm telling you, that wasn't. I think that was the whole, like, in my life, blah, blah, blah. Because I knew, right. That I would go no contact.

[B]

I'm so proud of you.

[C]

I knew that's hard.

[B]

That's.

[C]

But I knew even. Even if it was just a breakup, I knew I was going to go no contact.

[B]

Wow. How did you know that?

[C]

I just felt it in my gut that that was, like, the way to go. And, like, in the past, I had not done that with other relationships.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

And then, like, I've been on Tik Tok a lot the last, like, three years, and I would see stuff about that, and I was like, okay. I think that that's, like, in this situation, that's what I would have to do. Yeah. And I think that that was, you know, part of what was like, oh, I don't know, the troubling to him or something.

[B]

What, that you wouldn't speak to him?

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

What did he expect, right?

[C]

That we would do the Schwartz and Katie, like, dog custody thing? Like, we're not doing that.

[B]

No. You're getting the dog.

[C]

Absolutely.

[B]

Oh, my. What is it, Jennifer?

[C]

Cool.

[B]

He's like, I'm getting the dog. I'm taking the damn dog. You see? You're like, I'm taking the dog.

[C]

Well, I paid for her adoption. My name is on her adoption paper. And she loves you pay your vet bills. I take. Took her for walks. I gave her baths. Like, things that I would do that he wasn't doing.

[B]

He gets the batteries. You take care of the dog, dude. No, but I get what you're saying. And that's another point when you are so strong to be like, I'm not speaking to you. This is a boundary. Oh, it's enrages them.

[C]

Yeah. I think the. The setting of boundaries has been, oh, you know. Well, and you saw him at Lisa's breaking. Like, I don't know if it was real or not. Honestly, I felt a little bit like a performance, to be honest. Well, but then also, of course, I'm gonna be jaded because I don't trust.

[B]

Right. And we have to.

[C]

And he had just yelled at me, and then the day after, he yelled at me again after the Rachel scene. Mean. So it. You know, it's hard to say, but that being said, the biggest thing that he was upset about in that moment was that he doesn't get to have another conversation with me because I said, you don't get another one.

[B]

It's done.

[C]

Like, say what you need to say now because we won't be doing this. And by the way, my friend Meredith and my other friends, like, they. She's the Capricorn queen of my dreams. She made a spreadsheet that was like, who's gonna be staying with me, what night? I did not stay alone for weeks. And even after I went, I had friends fly in from New York to make sure I got to the wedding in Mexico that I went to. And then even after I came back from Mexico, I still had friends that would stay with me every night, make sure I ate, make sure I said they were like, they had, like, their own group text. Now they've friends that didn't know each other before become friends that I've, like, always wanted them. Like, you guys love each other.

[B]

Now they're like, now they're bad.

[C]

It's like, honestly, like, the. The community that is our friends, like, on and off the show, is like, the most incredible group of girls, gays. And they, Like, I've never. Like, honestly, I could not, like, I don't know how I could write. Like, if I was a super talented writer, I couldn't have. Have created that in my mind. Like, yeah. Absolutely incredible.

[B]

And that's what I think, again, you kind of talk about, like, when you're going through it, let people actually help you guys. Because doing it alone is torture. You can't do it alone.

[A]

You can't.

[B]

Or you go back to the one person you love the most, which is the person that hurt you.

[C]

Or you. Yeah. Or you. Yeah. You think you can.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

And then you end up, you know, it's just not healthy. Or you end up self medicating or doing my. I. My classic way of coping is isolation or sleeping. And it's like he always.

[B]

He kept bringing that up. Like, she just sleeps all the time. Like, yeah, maybe you should look inward. That is your partner. Okay. Or depressed or like, what's going on?

[C]

Like, like, maybe her dog just died, right?

[B]

Like, be there for her. Get in bed.

[C]

Yeah, get in bed. Get in bed.

[B]

Get in bed. Like, what the.

[C]

We're like that. Isn't that where sex happens?

[A]

Right?

[B]

You want sex so bad. She's laying in bed all day.

[C]

I'm in the bed.

[B]

She's in bed naked, waiting. Go in, talk to her, emotionally connect with her and then maybe.

[C]

Right?

[B]

Men are so dumb. Like, what? Right?

[C]

Now that we say it sounds like.

[B]

So she's in bed all day and you're bitching about not getting. What? What. What are we missing here?

[C]

Talking. I'm not in the place where it happens, dude.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

Rumor on the street is you're not single. Is this like a situationship? Are we in a full relationship? Are we just. Are we having, like, what are we doing? What are we doing? Ariana, what's going on?

[C]

I'm really, really enjoying myself. I am seeing someone. They live across the country in New York. So obviously, you know, it's kind of. There's that whole aspect to it, right? But I would say it's like really, really great.

[B]

It's good. And you guys met where?

[C]

We met at a wedding.

[B]

When?

[C]

Like, literally 10 or 11 days after I found this out. Which People are like, what?

[B]

Like, are you okay?

[C]

I'm like, literally, I just met this person.

[B]

Right?

[C]

We did not start dating when I met them.

[B]

Right?

[C]

We just started talking, right? And then we were talking and talking and talking and it progressed. And it's.

[B]

Right. You had a moment to grieve. You're grieving still, but you can also go see people.

[C]

And also it's like really nice. Like, on, like, okay, so I met him at this wedding and all we did was talk. Like, we stayed up all night just talking. Like, that's it?

[A]

That's all you've wanted?

[C]

It's literally all I wanted. I was like, quality time. What is this? And then he flew to where he lives and I flew to where I am. And then we just FaceTimed and talked and talked and it was just like, oh, my gosh. Like, I'm getting to know this person. And the conversations we were having were like, so amazing. It's not like we were like, we met and we're Dating, you know, but, like, it was. Was really great. And now I've been able. I've been going to New York for work. And so when I go to New York for work, I've been getting to see him and it's like, so nice having fun.

[B]

That's what I think. Also, people don't understand is like, there's nothing wrong with any timeline post something that traumatic happens, you have to do what feels right. And so people that are like, oh, my God, it's so soon, Ariana. Like, well, then you do.

[C]

Like, if I was like, down on one knee proposing to this man, then

[B]

we'd be having intervention right now.

[C]

We need to, like, reel it in. But, like, you know, going. Luckily for New York, being able to go every couple of weeks. This last. This just this last month. Yeah. And just work, see my friends, see him and like, just really, like, love life. And honestly, like, having someone that literally will be like, we'll be on the phone and he'll be like, you know, we're working, we're doing stuff. And he's like, hey, can we just get like, five minutes where we're like, we just, like, have like, quality time on the phone. I'm like, are you kidding me?

[B]

My dream in the past nine years, literally.

[C]

So I'm like, okay, great. This is just great.

[B]

How. Okay, give all the ladies advice of, like, nine years is a long time. How do you not overthink it and allow yourself to be, what with someone that's not the person you've been with for nine years? It's like a little bit of a mind to be, like, open to getting

[C]

back out there, open into anything. I think, honestly, if you are overthinking it, be honest with yourself that you're overthinking it and just say, like, I'm overthinking this.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

Or this is where I'm at. Be honest. I think that honesty and vulnerability, it's two of the sexiest things, I think, in any person. Person. And even if you're just, like, going out on a bunch of, like, casual dates with multiple people, be honest with those people. And if that. If they're, like, not down for it, then they're not for you anyways.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

And honestly, just, like, being honest with yourself too and saying, like, this is where I'm at. This is what I'm ready for. This is what I'm not ready for. Because then the day that I met the sky, I literally said, this is what I can handle. I can handle us talking. I can Handle you telling me I'm pretty. I can maybe handle a smooch. But beyond that, that's. That's it. And he was very enthusiastically like, okay, great. That sounds great. I just want to hang out. Right. So I was like, okay, cool. Like, maybe, like, just be very clear about your boundaries and what you're okay.

[B]

Right. It's like, you don't have to go in and be like, so I have to be a fully. It's like, hey.

[C]

And honestly accepting. Like, take happiness and good things while you're healing. There's no, like, no nothing bad about that.

[B]

There is nothing. People that are judging are also just like, either you haven't been through it or like, you went through it and you did something different that didn't work for you, and you're trying to judge, like, let everyone do what they want. Right.

[C]

Because we're all different people and we all are in different situations. And again, like I said, someone does. We were saying that someone does some like this to you. That door is. Is slammed shut. It is way easier to grieve a relationship or that Is that cut and dry than it is. Is one that isn't.

[B]

I can't believe his. I just remembered you said his family didn't reach out to you. Has they. Have they still not reached out, Tom?

[C]

No. No.

[B]

It's kind of weird. No.

[C]

Yeah. I mean, I understand. Like, what would they say? I guess I would just think they'd be like, hey, this sucks.

[B]

Like, wishing you the best.

[C]

Just that period.

[B]

Just that, like, nine years. There was some respect.

[C]

The best.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Not great. Okay.

[B]

This is a fresh start.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

And the beginning of a new era for you. What do you want for yourself?

[C]

I want independence on, like, every level. I want to be able to be completely financially independent. Thank God I don't have, like, a ton of tied things, but I want to be, like, financially independent and successful. I want to open my sandwich shop with Katie and have that be a total hit, which I think it will be.

[B]

What street is it on?

[C]

Robertson.

[B]

Oh, I am there. Do you know how there's, like, no good sandwiches in la? And you guys were so right. The only ones are, like, male.

[C]

Like the fats. No. No offense to fat cells.

[B]

No. But it's like, it's only fat cells.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

Or like Uncle Paulie.

[C]

Exactly.

[B]

That's just so right.

[C]

Not the vibe that we're going for. And if it's not that, then what is it?

[B]

And I get it. I love it.

[A]

I love it.

[B]

So you guys are opening?

[C]

Yes.

[B]

Fabulous.

[A]

So you're not.

[B]

You're not letting it, like, go to the wayside. Like, this is still happening.

[C]

Oh, yeah.

[B]

Good for you.

[C]

Absolutely.

[B]

Good for you.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

Okay.

[C]

Very. I'm very excited about all of that. Yeah, I just want to be independent. Independent and successful. I mean, all the things that I always wanted previously, but now it's, like, really nice to be able to do it. And I want to be a solo homeowner. I want to own my own home with no one else on the deed.

[B]

God bless you, and you deserve it. Okay, last two questions.

[C]

Okay.

[B]

What do you want everyone to know about you outside of this scandal? You're like, I had too much Rose. Leave me alone.

[C]

Like, I love long walks on the beach.

[B]

I like Rose, and I want to move to the French countryside.

[C]

Beyonce. I'm like. I'm like, okay, look, I just want people to know that, like, I understand that reality TV is very over the top at times. And. Yes, of course. Course, we love the drama. I love the drama. I mean, I'm a love island Stan, as we know, but I just want people to know that, like, again, like, what you were saying, like, on the other side of it, we are real people. I'm, you know, kind of like a perpetually barefoot girl from Florida. Like, you know, and I. I love my girls and I love my friends, and I just think that something. I hope that all of this stuff. Stuff brings is that we all just kind of, like, join together. Because I just think that I love women, and I think we are the best. And I just think that when we team up, like, we are unstoppable.

[B]

Unstoppable. I am so happy you came today because I truly think, like, you are. You're so classy, and you have such a head on your shoulders. Even though in the midst of. Of quite literally one of the biggest, most painful moments of your life. I'm so sorry this happened to you, but I do weirdly think, thank God, Ariana. Thank God, because you would have potentially been with him and not known, and it's like, you deserve so much better. And you know what? Let him go do his thing. Let her go do her thing. Whatever she's going through, like, everyone is meant to not be in. Whatever it just was. Was. And you're amazing. And I can't wait to watch the reunion. Although it's like, do you have any fear of, like, people watching it? Like, is there anything you want to preface before we turn on our TVs?

[C]

I just hope I wasn't, like, too

[B]

cut through No, I don't know. We want the drop.

[C]

I think I go in. I don't know. I blacked out.

[B]

I think everyone was like, lala's gonna destroy. And we hope Ariana is right underneath being like a little bit, you know, getting in there. Yeah, I'm excited. Excited.

[C]

Cheers. Well, cheers. Thanks for having me.

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