Call Her Daddy - Episode: "I Called Off My Engagement" (ft. Laren)
Release Date: May 14, 2025
Hosts: Lauren and Matt
Guest: Laren
1. Introduction and Setting the Scene [02:01 - 05:57]
The episode kicks off with Lauren and Matt sharing a lighthearted anecdote about a past girls' weekend in Los Angeles. They reminisce about a humorous incident where their relaxed poolside gathering was mistaken for a wild party by Matt’s neighbor, leading to a noise complaint. This story sets a casual and relatable tone for the episode.
Notable Quote:
- Lauren: “It looks like there was like a fucking brothel back there.” [04:24]
2. Matt’s Breakup and Moving On [13:25 - 22:00]
The conversation shifts to Matt discussing his recent breakup, which occurred five months prior. He emphasizes the importance of maintaining no contact post-breakup, stating, “My best piece of advice? Truly, go no contact.” [13:42]. Lauren highlights Matt’s strength in handling the breakup maturely, praising his ability to focus on self-growth without relying on his ex.
Notable Quotes:
- Matt: “I have not talked to my ex once in any capacity since October, since we broke up.” [14:09]
- Lauren: “You're finding the answers within yourself.” [15:32]
3. The Seriousness of the Past Relationship [16:39 - 21:19]
Lauren delves into the depth of Matt’s previous relationship, revealing that they had been together for almost three years and were on the verge of engagement. She recounts how Matt’s ex had planned to propose during the holiday season, involving both Matt and their mutual friends in the surprise. Despite the relationship’s seriousness, Lauren and Matt recognized deep compatibility issues that necessitated the breakup.
Notable Quotes:
- Matt: “We were living together, and it got to the point where he had a full plan to propose.” [16:39]
- Lauren: “He wanted to surprise you, like how you guys did for me.” [17:01]
4. Reflection on Being Single and Personal Growth [22:36 - 35:35]
Matt shares his journey towards embracing singlehood, highlighting the newfound peace and confidence he feels. He discusses overcoming the societal and personal pressures of adhering to a timeline for relationships and children. Lauren applauds Matt’s self-awareness and his ability to prioritize his happiness without feeling the need to rush into another relationship.
Notable Quotes:
- Matt: “I have very deep, fulfilling friendships I can lean on if I need to.” [25:20]
- Lauren: “You have to look at yourself. Instead of trying so hard to force it.” [42:57]
- Matt: “I've never felt more Zen or peaceful in my entire life.” [34:39]
5. Importance of Compatibility Over Convenience [35:35 - 43:29]
Lauren and Matt discuss the critical difference between love and compatibility. They stress that while love is essential, it is equally important to have aligned values, goals, and life plans. This alignment ensures long-term relationship satisfaction and prevents issues from escalating post-marriage.
Notable Quotes:
- Lauren: “If you don't have an actual good relationship, money is great, but it's not great if you're getting cheated on or emotionally abused.” [40:19]
- Matt: “Having compatibility is more rare than love itself.” [29:58]
6. Overcoming Societal Pressures and Embracing Self-Worth [43:29 - 51:40]
The hosts address the societal expectations surrounding relationships and timelines, particularly the pressure women face to settle down by a certain age. Matt shares his struggle with the biological clock and his journey towards redefining his desires free from external pressures. Lauren emphasizes the importance of recognizing one’s own needs and not succumbing to the “marriage timeline” imposed by society.
Notable Quotes:
- Matt: “I need to have me time. It’s my time.” [48:13]
- Lauren: “You don’t have to do what our moms did.” [35:03]
7. Advice to the Daddy Gang [40:06 - 51:15]
Lauren offers heartfelt advice to listeners navigating similar relationship challenges. She encourages embracing singlehood, prioritizing self-discovery, and avoiding rushed decisions based on external timelines or pressures. Matt echoes this sentiment, highlighting the value of self-awareness and the importance of building a fulfilling life independently.
Notable Quotes:
- Lauren: “If you don’t know, that’s your first step—spend some more alone time with yourself.” [51:11]
- Matt: “I feel like, very Zen at this current moment and not pressured and not rushed.” [32:56]
8. Upcoming Plans and Conclusion [51:40 - 53:13]
The episode wraps up with Lauren and Matt sharing their excitement about upcoming summer plans, hinting at future announcements that will surprise their audience. They express gratitude for Matt’s openness and the uplifting nature of the episode, leaving listeners with a sense of hope and empowerment.
Notable Quote:
- Lauren: “So that's all. All good things are coming this summer.” [52:12]
Key Takeaways:
- No Contact Rule: Essential for healing post-breakup ([13:42]).
- Self-Growth Over Compliance: Prioritizing personal happiness and self-awareness ([25:20], [34:39]).
- Compatibility is Crucial: Beyond love, shared values and life goals determine relationship longevity ([29:58], [40:19]).
- Defying Societal Timelines: Embracing singlehood without succumbing to external pressures ([35:03], [48:13]).
- Support Systems: Leaning on deep friendships for emotional support ([25:20]).
- Honesty and Communication: Maintaining honest conversations to foster personal growth and relationship clarity ([20:33], [42:57]).
Conclusion
In this heartfelt episode of "Call Her Daddy," Lauren and Matt navigate the complexities of ending a significant relationship and the journey towards self-discovery and fulfillment in singlehood. Their candid discussions offer invaluable insights and relatable experiences, empowering listeners to prioritize their well-being and make informed relationship choices.