Call Her Daddy – “Kristin Cavallari: So You Want to Date an Athlete?” (Throwback)

Host: Alex Cooper
Guest: Kristin Cavallari
Date: September 12, 2025
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Episode Overview

In this lively and candid episode, Alex Cooper welcomes reality TV icon and Uncommon James founder Kristin Cavallari. Diving deep into Kristin’s unconventional rise to fame, her approach to parenting, the reality of dating and marrying athletes (with some wild stories), and lessons she’s learned on relationships and personal growth, the conversation is filled with honest reflections, relatable confessions, and laugh-out-loud moments. Both women unpack the rewards and pitfalls of life in and out of the spotlight—making this a must-listen for anyone curious about the truth behind reality TV and the woman who became famous living it.

Key Discussion Points and Insights

1. Protecting Her Children’s Privacy

• [03:13 - 05:00]
  Kristin shares her decision to keep her kids off social media, expressing a desire for them to make their own choices about public exposure once they’re older.
  • “We wanted to give them the opportunity to make that decision…my kids may want no part of being known.” – Kristin (03:32)
  • She discusses online criticism and concern for how toxic social media impacts young people, aiming to shield her kids until they have “thick skin.”

2. Early Fame: Laguna Beach and Reality TV

• [07:48 - 13:55]
  Kristin recounts being cast on Laguna Beach as a high schooler, her parents’ reactions (her dad supported it, her mom had reservations), and how fame suddenly “fell in her lap.”
  • “College would have done nothing for me.” – Kristin (07:56)
  • Reality TV was still uncharted; no one knew how big the show would get or the impact on cast members’ lives.

3. Family and Personal Confidence

• [11:34 - 14:16] Kristin opens up about her complicated family background, frequent moves, and how insecurities masked by bravado shaped her TV persona.
  • “Confidence is quiet, insecurity is loud? Well, I was that… I was overcompensating.” – Kristin (13:07)
  • She reflects on the difference between her public image and her real high school self.

4. Reality TV Manipulation and Aftermath

• [16:28 - 23:55]
  The manipulation by producers and its effects on trust: Kristin reveals that grown-ups behind the scenes would stir up drama, mislead cast members, and even leak false narratives to tabloids.
  • “When you’re 17, 18, and you have adults taking advantage of you… that’ll rock your boat for sure.” – Kristin (16:28)
  • She discusses false storylines (like being painted as a “villain” and rumors of drug use) and the lasting mental toll:
    • “I was pretty wrecked for a while. I was so upset.” (19:10)

5. Media Backlash & Tabloid Culture

• [24:38 - 26:39] Kristin details the double-edged sword of fame—access to amazing experiences, but also relentless tabloid scrutiny and false headlines.
  • “Now I’m not so much in the tabloids…but what I don’t like now is every time I do an interview…they turn it into headlines for clickbait.” – Kristin (25:53)
  • She shares the struggle to set the record straight and maintain privacy.

6. Dating, Navigating Public Relationships, and Athlete Stereotypes

Dating in the Spotlight

• [29:52 - 41:36] Kristin outlines the challenges of dating amid fame, particularly men who get “hooked on” publicity or become insecure about her profile.
  • “They get a little taste of fame and they lose their mind…or it’s really threatening for a lot of guys.” – Kristin (30:33)
  • Anecdotes about breadcrumbing on social media and relationship red flags.

Dating and Marrying an Athlete: Jay Cutler & Beyond

• [31:30 - 36:45]
  Kristin’s story of meeting ex-husband Jay Cutler (Chicago Bears QB), moving quickly, and the reality behind the glitz of athlete relationships.
  • Pros: “Life was easy and fun with him.” (34:01) – like always getting dinner reservations, enjoying his status
  • Cons: Dealing with the physical toll of football, schedules, “road beef” and athlete infidelity stories.
  • On baseball players: “That’s why they have girlfriends in every city.” (35:42)
  • She appreciated that Jay’s schedule allowed for trust, but acknowledges “it’s a different world.”

Divorce, Motherhood, and Moving On

• [37:03 - 43:10]
  • Kristin discusses why she ended things with Jay—not “loss of love,” but refusing to stay in a “toxic” relationship.
  • The process of knowing when to leave: “It took me a few years to actually pull the trigger, to be honest.” (41:36)
  • Motivation: “I didn’t want my kids thinking that was normal…I wanted them to see me happy and with someone who really respects me.” (43:10)

7. Dating in the Social Media Era: Modern Rules & Red Flags

• [45:16 - 60:28]
  • Hilarious recent dating stories, including an actor who did stunts in a restaurant (47:01) and being “too nice” to ghost people.
  • On DMs: “I won’t make the first move on Instagram. I want to be pursued.” (52:14)
  • What turns her off: shirtless selfies, gym photos, fishing pics on men’s IGs, dating “trash buckets” (58:14–58:34), and lack of accountability or insecurity in partners.

8. Reflecting on Personal Growth and Future Goals

• [61:18 - 62:49]
  • The interplay between business and fame:
    • “If everything went away, I would be okay. But now that I’m a single woman… I have to keep my money coming in.” (61:18)
  • Kristin values her life outside LA, raising her kids in Nashville, and maintaining boundaries with the press.
  • She wants to set the record straight: “People would be surprised at what a normal life I live…I recharge by being quiet and having alone time.” (62:14–62:49)

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On producers manipulating teens:
  “When you’re dealing with children…that’s where it’s tough. We were kids, you know.” – Kristin (16:28)

• On being cast as ‘the villain’:
  “They really leaned in to try to make you that villain role?”
  “Oh yeah. And that’s why I’ve loved doing the Back to the Beach podcast…because we literally go through scene by scene and break it down. It’s been therapeutic for me.” – Kristin (18:31)

• On divorce and role modeling for her children:
  “I wanted them to see me happy and see me eventually…with someone who really respects me and treats me the way I need to be treated.” (43:10)

• On non-negotiables in dating:
  “A non-negotiable is someone who cannot take any accountability and who is insecure. I need someone so comfortable in their own skin.” (58:58)

• On her real self:
  “I think I’m way more normal than people probably think.” (62:49)

Timestamps to Key Segments

• 03:13 – Kristin on protecting her kids from social media
• 07:48 – How fame and reality TV changed her life
• 13:07 – Difference between public confidence and private insecurity
• 16:28 – Behind-the-scenes manipulation in reality TV
• 19:10 – Mental toll of being cast as a villain
• 24:38 – Navigating the perks and pressures of fame
• 29:52 – The challenge of dating in the spotlight
• 31:30 – Meeting and marrying Jay Cutler
• 35:42 – Athlete relationship stereotypes and “road beef”
• 37:03 – Divorce decisions and her kids
• 45:16 – Reuniting with ex-boyfriend Steven & fun dating anecdotes
• 52:14 – Why Kristin doesn’t DM men first
• 58:58 – Kristin’s relationship non-negotiables
• 61:18 – Real life in Nashville and balancing fame

Conclusion

This episode mixes nostalgia, wisdom, and plenty of truth bombs as Kristin Cavallari and Alex Cooper reflect on the good, the bad, and the hilarious sides of fame, dating, and growing up on reality TV. Whether discussing the pitfalls of being a teen in the public eye, learning to trust after betrayal, or navigating today’s dating world, Kristin offers refreshing candor and hard-earned advice for listeners at every stage of life.