Call Her Daddy – Stassi Schroeder: A Proud Basic Btch (FBF)*

Date: November 28, 2025
Host: Alex Cooper
Guest: Stassi Schroeder

Episode Overview

In this throwback "Call Her Daddy" episode, Alex Cooper sits down with reality TV star, author, and podcast host Stassi Schroeder for a candid, unfiltered conversation. Together, they explore Stassi’s experience as a proud “basic bitch,” the realities of pregnancy, lessons from her 20s, the evolution of her career, and the highs and lows of reality TV fame. With humor and vulnerability, Stassi opens up about everything from body image while pregnant to her infamous “dark passenger” moments, misadventures in fashion, and how her personal life and relationships have changed with age.

Main Topics & Key Insights

1. Pregnancy, Body Image & Compliments (03:31–08:21)

• Stassi describes feeling better during her current (second) pregnancy, which is not under COVID restrictions like her first:
  “It feels like my first pregnancy because my first one was during COVID so I wasn’t allowed to leave my house. Now I’m able to live my life this time around.” (05:34)

• On dressing for the interview and body image:
  “When you’re pregnant and you feel like you look like a beast, it’s extra hard. …Pregnant women everywhere need to hear that…If you see a pregnant woman on the street, just be like, ‘You didn’t even look pregnant.’ That’s what we want to hear.” (04:49)

• Stassi appreciates compliments from other women more than from men or even her husband:
  “I need to hear I look beautiful from other women…There’s just something about a compliment from another woman that really is what, like, feeds my soul.” (06:30)

2. The Realities of Pregnancy & Sex (07:14–09:43)

• On sex drive and maintaining intimacy:
  “I literally have zero sex drive. But I will say that I am a champion, and I take one for the team in my household…sometimes you gotta just…It does bond us. Once we do it, I’m like, ‘Oh, so glad I did this. I should do this more.’” (08:43–09:17)

• Stassi’s alter ego during pregnancy:
  “When I’m pregnant, I feel like I’m Santa. I look in the mirror and I’m like, everything’s round and I’m just jolly.” (09:48–10:07)

3. Fashion Hits, Misses & The OOTD Holiday (10:21–15:12)

• Stassi shares the cringe and financial regret of buying the national “OOTD” (Outfit of the Day) holiday:
  “I bought a national holiday…It was like $40,000. And you only own it for a year!” (10:37–12:26)

• Reflection on past fashion:
  “Statement necklaces. I rode so hard for statement…If you look back on like Vanderpump Rules interviews, I’m like, how huge did I think that that…? That was the outfit.” (13:17–13:53)

• Praise for Gen Z’s approach to fashion:
  “Gen Z…have this like, anything goes mentality about fashion and clothing that I just really fucking love. I found what looks I like and whether they’re dated or not, I kind of don’t care. Gen Z gave me permission.” (14:10–14:39)

4. Pregnancy Real Talk: The Shaving Dilemma (16:30–17:36)

• The challenges of grooming while pregnant:
  “No, I can’t see. I go rogue…I literally feel around…At a certain point, you can’t see. You just have to feel for it.” (16:48–17:08)

5. Career: Writing, Imposter Syndrome, & Tour Life (18:06–22:33, 68:16–71:41)

• Stassi on being a two-time New York Times bestselling author and working on her third book:
  “We all suffer from imposter syndrome…I’m working on my third right now…it’s harder because...I have to be specific about, like, with one thesis…and I was struggling a little bit with what that was.” (18:12–19:12)

• She loves touring ("I love it. ...If I can do anything ever again, wow. Like, please let it be touring." 68:34) but admits it can be grueling—especially as a mom and pregnant:
  "I can't be gone, like, six days at a time. I miss Hartford too much…Next time, 3 days then home…" (70:14–70:44)

• Sobriety on tour:
  “Now I think I have the most energy out of everyone that I’m traveling with because I’m sober...sobriety really suits me, it's just not fun.” (70:47–71:36)

6. Basic vs. Cheugy: The Rules of “Basic” (22:33–23:45)

• Stassi’s definitions:
  “Cheugy is kind of cringe…anything that’s basic is just like leaning in so hard to something you really love and doing that unapologetically.” (22:41–23:22)

• Alex adds:
  “Basic, to me, is a timeless situation…a lot of people are doing it…there’s a reason those things are popular—they spark joy.” (23:22–23:31)

Game: "Basic or Not Basic?":

• Aperol Spritz:

  • Stassi: "That’s the most basic—no, it’s my favorite drink in the whole world...Worst part of pregnancy is not being able to have multiple Aperol spritzes all day, every day." (23:58–24:20)

• Get Ready With Me Videos (GRWM):

  • Stassi admits she thought it meant "grown woman" and did not understand the trend at first. (24:35–26:46)
  • "That’s because it works for me. …At least you’re not trying to pretend you’re in a generation you’re not." (25:29–25:41)

• TomTom Bar, Ozempic, Manifesting, and more:

  • Stassi openly admits curiosity about Ozempic, praises manifesting, and shares her own experience manifesting her dream Spanish-style house. (27:38–32:31)

7. Reality TV: Scandals, Growth, and Leaving the Scene (32:53–38:19, 43:16–44:40)

• Stassi on tuning back into Vanderpump Rules after “Scandoval” broke:
  “When it happened…you never forget where you were that day…that’s how I feel about fucking scandoval.” (33:27)

• On Tom Sandoval:
  “I mean, no [I didn’t like him]. And he never liked me. Not being on this last season…my talents were wasted because I could have really just, like, given it to him and been like, I always knew.” (35:20–35:37)

• Why she left reality TV and doesn’t want her family involved:
  “The success of a show is directly tied to how badly the cast hurts each other…and that feels weird. …I don’t think I’d want to put my family in a position…[where] success is tied to how much you can hurt each other. It’s not a healthy place.” (38:01–38:19)

8. Internet Hate & Cancel Culture (43:44–45:45)

• On Tom Sandoval’s backlash:
  “I don’t like where we’re at in society where…that’s how we punish people. It’s like emotionally beheading people…Who makes someone the authority on what’s enough hate?" (43:51–44:24)

• Alex agrees, noting the outsized toll public piling-on can take, especially compared to how actual infidelity is handled in real life. (44:56–45:41)

9. Personal Growth: The 20s vs. the 30s (46:40–54:31)

• Stassi reflects on her character from her Vanderpump days:
  “I was so incredibly selfish. Like, I still have selfish tendencies…But like, I really, truly thought the world revolved around me. …Now that I’m older, I think that’s such an overrated quality.” (46:46–47:32)

• What she misses about her 20s:
  “Being selfish. Leaning into it, and not knowing that it was wrong. …But I’m so much happier now, not living for myself.” (48:38–48:58)

• On her 30s:
  “I’ve learned…the power of saying no to things and not caring about, like, is someone gonna be mad at me…like, I prioritize my happiness and well-being.” (50:21–51:14)

• Difference between “hammered in your 20s” vs 30s: “I would fully black out in my 20s.… Now because I have a kid, I can’t… I feel like I’m kind of the same as I am right now, just having a better time.” (51:28–52:22)

10. The Infamous "Dark Passenger" (52:55–58:19)

• What is the "Dark Passenger"?
  “I would go absolutely psycho on [Bo]…breaking phones, texting him 73 times in a row, yelling, screaming, threatening things like violence…anger is the only emotion that overtakes me. I see red...That’s what the Dark Passenger used to be.” (55:03–56:03)

• Why she feels justified at times, given her relationship history and group drama:
  “Nothing good happens after hours…That’s when we put a name to the Dark Passenger…” (57:09–58:19)

11. Drama, Therapy, and Settling Down (60:23–67:38)

• Does she miss drama?
  “Yeah, sometimes…I know I say this to Bo a lot. Actually, we should get in a fight and I should dark passenger because it would just, like, make me feel so passionate. That would probably make me horny.” (60:23–60:33)

• On bringing trust issues into her relationship and going to couples therapy:
  “We started going to therapy really early on in our relationship because I had all of those freak out moments…he had never given me a reason, but we had to talk through it.” (61:47–62:51)

• Why her relationship with Bo works:
  “I could completely be myself…I never had to watch what I said…He would champion me, was so into my basic self…really accepting and a cheerleader.” (67:01–67:38)

• On moving from toxic relationships:
  “I think at some point…toxic became so boring to me…You have to also change your ways.” (66:09–66:58)

12. Motherhood, Boundaries, and New Projects (72:00–73:21)

• Stassi has a second child on the way, is working on her third book, on tour, and hosts two podcasts (one with Bo).
• She relishes the creative process:
  “I love the creative process of it…and meeting people from different places…touring is ridiculous how hard it is, but I love it.” (68:58–70:07)

Notable Quotes & Highlights

• Stassi (on body image & fashion):
  “I wish I was one of those women—Rihanna—that, you know, has her belly out and looks so good…But I feel best when I’m in bags.” (05:13)

• Stassi (on her “OOTD” holiday purchase):
  “It was so embarrassing. I think it was, like, $40,000. You own it for a year, and I didn’t know that. Next year they were like, you gotta pay for it again. …Now, technically my name isn’t even up there.” (10:51–12:26)

• Stassi (on Tom Sandoval):
  “Why does he keep getting away with being just this dude who just wants to, like, give people things and help people out, man? I’m like, that’s not what I’m seeing.” (35:44)

• Stassi (on cancel culture):
  “I don’t like where we’re at in society where that’s how we punish people. It’s like emotionally beheading people.” (43:51)

• Stassi (on relationships):
  “Toxic is boring. …You have to go through it once or twice, but once you’re fed up, you have to change your ways.” (66:20–66:58)

• Stassi (on motherhood and marriage):
  “You better really like that person [your coparent]. Because when you have a kid, y’all are in it 24/7…There are gonna be days that are kind of boring, and you better really just like being around that person while doing all the monotony.” (63:05–63:52)

Memorable Moments

• Stassi emotionally recalling how “Scandoval” felt like a 9/11 moment for Bravo fans:
  “You never forget where you were that day. That’s how I feel about fucking Scandoval.” (33:27)

• Stassi admits her first pregnancy “diet” was bone broth for six months—a detail she’s not eager to repeat. (28:42–29:09)

• Stassi’s “Santa” pregnancy persona and unapologetic honesty about embracing comfort and body changes.

Timestamps for Key Segments

• Pregnancy & Body Image: 03:31–08:21
• Sex & Relationship While Pregnant: 07:14–09:43
• Fashion & OOTD Holiday: 10:21–15:12
• Basic/Not Basic Game: 22:33–32:31
• Scandoval, Reality TV Reflections: 32:53–38:19, 43:16–44:40
• Personal Growth (20s vs. 30s): 46:40–54:31
• Dark Passenger Explained: 52:55–58:19
• Motherhood, Relationships, Therapy: 60:23–67:38
• Touring & Projects: 68:16–73:21

Tone & Style

The episode maintains a conversational, self-aware, and irreverently honest tone—peppered with laughter, real talk, and a sense of solidarity over shared struggles and cringe-worthy moments. Both Alex and Stassi are quick to roast themselves and openly question cultural trends, all while rooting for growing up, finding peace, and loving your “basic” self.

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