Philippians 2:5 In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as

Christ Jesus:

Touch has LIFE-GIVING power.

Song of Solomon 7:7-8 MSG “Your beauty, within and without, is absolute, dear lover, close companion. You are tall and supple, like the palm tree, and your full breasts are like sweet clusters of dates. I say, “I’m going to climb that palm tree! I’m going to caress its fruit!” Oh yes! Your breasts will be clusters of sweet fruit to me,

1. Sex is GOOD but God created it with BOUNDARIES for your benefit.

2. The BIOLOGY behind the theology of sex.

 DOPAMIN

 VASOPRESSIN

 OXYTOCIN

1 Corinthians 6:16–18 MSG There’s more to sex than mere skin on skin. Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, ‘The two become one.’ Since we want to become spiritually one with the Master, we must not pursue the kind of sex that avoids commitment and intimacy, leaving us more lonely than ever— the kind of sex that can never ‘become one.’ There is a sense in which sexual sins are different from all others. In sexual sin we violate the sacredness of our own bodies, these bodies that were made for God-given and God-modeled love…

3. The PRACTICAL theology of GREAT sex in marriage.

1 Corinthians 7:1–5 MSG Now, getting down to the questions you asked in your letter to me. First, you asked, ‘Is it a good thing to have sexual relations?’ Certainly — but only within a certain context. It’s good for a man to have a wife, and for a woman to have a husband. Sexual drives are strong, but marriage is strong enough to contain them and provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life in a world of sexual disorder.

The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality — the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband.

Marriage is not a place to stand up for your rights. Abstaining from sex is permissible for a period of time if you both agree, and if it is for the purposes of prayer and fasting—but only for such times. Then come back together again.

Satan has an ingenious way of tempting us when we least expect it.

1. Sex is only designed for the CONTEXT OF MARRIAGE.

2. Abstaining from sex in marriage is NOT GOOD.

#1 Conflict with sex is FREQUENCY.

3. Sex needs to be a place of MUTUALITY.

Men tend to be like MICROWAVES. Women tend to be like

CROCKPOTS.

Women need NON-SEXUAL affection to be turned on.

Men need to FEEL WANTED to be fulfilled emotionally and sexually.

4. Keep TALKING and GROWING to avoid temptation.

It takes a LOT MORE than sex to have a strong marriage. But it’s nearly IMPOSSIBLE to have a strong marriage WITHOUT IT.

SINGLES:

To have the best sex in marriage commit to abstain outside of it.

MARRIED:

“What are some things I can do that help you get in the mood?”

“What is your ideal frequency on a weekly basis?”

 Agree on a range.

 Get started Tonight.