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Coparent Academy Podcast
Hosted by Linda VanValkenburg and Ron Gore · EN
Lifechanging Coparenting
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#149 - What is Your Internal Working Model?
Mar 3, 202500:15:39Tap to summarizeLet us hear from you!Have you ever reacted to your child in a way that surprised you? Do you sometimes feel frustrated with how you parent? The answer might lie in something deeply ingrained—your internal working model.In this video, we explore:🔹 What an internal working model is and how it’s formed🔹 How your childhood experiences influence your parenting style🔹 The difference between secure and insecure attachment🔹 How to recognize and reshape unhelpful parenting patternsOur early experiences shape how we see the world, relationships, and even ourselves. These unconscious scripts don’t just affect us—they influence how we raise our children. By understanding and adjusting them, we can build stronger, healthier connections with our kids. Watch now to learn how to break unhelpful cycles and parent with more awareness and confidence!Have you noticed your childhood affecting your parenting? Share your thoughts in the comments!
Transcribe →#148 - Unclassifiable - The Kids Who Changed Attachment Theory
Feb 24, 202500:15:04Tap to summarizeLet us hear from you!Have you ever wondered about kids whose behaviors don't neatly fit into traditional attachment theory categories? Those are the "unclassifiable" children first observed by Mary Ainsworth during her "Strange Situation" tests. This video looks at how these unclassifiable reactions led researcher Mary Main to identify a new attachment style known as "disorganized attachment."For more resources and in-depth courses visit www.coparentacademy.com.Have questions or comments? We’d love to hear from you! Send them to ron@coparentacademy.com.
Transcribe →#147 - How Your Child Sees You: The Hidden Blueprint for Their Future
Feb 17, 202500:15:04Tap to summarizeLet us hear from you!Have you ever wondered how your child truly sees you—not just on the surface, but deep down? The way you interact with them forms their inner working model—a blueprint that shapes their future relationships, self-worth, and emotional well-being.In this video, we break down:✅ How early experiences shape attachment and trust✅ The impact of secure vs. insecure attachment styles✅ Parenting habits that foster emotional security✅ Practical strategies to help your child build confidence and resilienceYour parenting choices today shape how your child sees the world tomorrow. Join us as we explore the power of connection and how small changes can make a big difference.For more resources and in-depth courses visit www.coparentacademy.com.Have questions or comments? We’d love to hear from you! Send them to ron@coparentacademy.com.
Transcribe →#146 - How to Tell If You Have a Secure Relationship With Your Child
Feb 10, 202500:16:49Tap to summarizeLet us hear from you!Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/YwBdKE9cSOUDo you ever worry about whether your child feels secure with you—or with your coparent? You're not alone. While there isn’t a simple questionnaire to measure a child's sense of security, attachment theory provides valuable insights into how children form relationships with their caregivers.In this episode, we discuss the Strange Situation—a groundbreaking assessment developed by Mary Ainsworth to evaluate a child's attachment style. We break down what different attachment styles reveal about the parent-child relationship and their long-term effects on emotional well-being.Key Takeaways:🔹 Secure Attachment: Indicates a responsive, emotionally available caregiver. Leads to healthy relationships and emotional regulation.🔹 Insecure-Avoidant Attachment: Suggests emotional distance from the caregiver. Can result in difficulty with intimacy and emotional expression.🔹 Insecure-Resistant/Ambivalent Attachment: Reflects inconsistency in caregiving, leading to anxiety and excessive clinginess.🔹 Disorganized Attachment: Often linked to fear, neglect, or trauma, creating confusion and emotional struggles in the child.For more resources and in-depth courses visit www.coparentacademy.com.Have questions or comments? We’d love to hear from you! Send them to ron@coparentacademy.com.
Transcribe →#145 - How Responsive Parenting Shapes a Child’s Attachment
Feb 4, 202500:16:11Tap to summarizeLet us hear from you!Attachment isn’t just about emotions—it’s a survival strategy wired into our DNA. From the moment we’re born, we rely on our caregivers to shape how we connect with the world. But how does this work? And what happens when those connections break down?* Watch this episode on YouTube (https://youtu.be/7ecu1EYplTU?si=Qvaw4zrCHd4xYpri) In this episode, we discuss: Why attachment is a survival mechanism, not just a bond.How parents shape their child’s emotional security.The Still Face Experiment—a powerful study on caregiver responsiveness.Understanding attachment helps us build stronger, healthier relationships—from childhood to adulthood. It's the science of connection.For more resources and in-depth courses visit www.coparentacademy.com.Have questions or comments? We’d love to hear from you! Send them to ron@coparentacademy.com.
Transcribe →#142 - Development of a Child's Emotional Brain
Jan 13, 2025Tap to summarizeLet us hear from you!This is Episode 1 of our Raising Emotionally Resilient Children series. In this episode we give an overview of how the emotional brain develops, based on the work of Dr. Allan Schore. Next week, we'll get into the details of how the brain develops and what brain scans of mothers and their infants interacting can teach us about attachment. This week we introduce our new series, Raising Emotionally Resilient Kids. This series is designed to help you better understand your child’s emotional development so you can support them in becoming resilient, emotionally intelligent, and secure.Dr. Allan Schore (Dr. Allan N. Schore) Known as a pioneer in affective neuroscience and attachment theory, Dr. Schore’s research on how early interactions shape the developing brain is foundational to this series. His book The Development of the Unconscious Mind is a major resource.Watch Dr. Allan Schore's podcast with Andrew Huberman Watch Dr. Schore give an academic lecture on this topic
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