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Coparent Academy Podcast
Hosted by Linda VanValkenburg and Ron Gore · EN
Lifechanging Coparenting
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#159 - 8 Discipline Mistakes That Can Land You in Court
May 12, 202500:16:39Summary readyLet us hear from you!Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/-miVOo1A5NwDiscipline done wrong can destroy your relationship with your child—and even land you in court. In this episode, we break down 8 common discipline mistakes that cost parents not only thousands in legal fees but also the trust of their children and coparents.Whether you're going through a custody battle, coparenting after separation, or just trying to raise emotionally healthy kids, this video gives you actionable insights to parent wisely—without risking your legal standing or your child’s emotional wellbeing.Thanks for listening! If you have questions, comments, or concerns, please email us at ron@coparentacademy.com. To learn more about becoming the best coparent you can be, visit coparentacademy.com.
Summary#158 - Do You Know Why You're Mad at Your Coparent?
May 5, 202500:11:38Summary readyLet us hear from you!Watch this episode on YoutubeStruggling with a high-conflict coparent?You’re not alone. But while conflict in coparenting might be unavoidable it doesn't have to be destructive — to you or your kids.In this episode, we’ll break down a powerful mindset shift to help you stay grounded during frustrating moments. Using the common (and infuriating) example of your coparent being late to a custody exchange, we’ll explore:Why your anger might not be about just being 10 minutes lateHow to use journaling to uncover and process emotional triggersA simple question to reframe the situation and regain controlHow your emotional response impacts your child — and your custody caseWhen and how to communicate your boundaries without looking reactiveYou’ll walk away with practical tools to protect your peace, show up better for your kids, and stop giving your coparent power over your mood.
Summary#157 - 8 Reasons Not to Mindread Your Coparent
Apr 28, 202500:11:59Tap to summarizeLet us hear from you!Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/wtOVdWh5RLQAre you tired of unnecessary conflicts and misunderstandings with your coparent? Mindreading can be a major relationship killer, including your coparenting relationship. In this episode, we talk about 8 key reasons why you should never try to mindread your coparent. From avoiding miscommunication to promoting a healthier coparenting dynamic, we discuss the benefits of not assuming what's on your coparent's mind. Watch until the end to learn how to improve your coparenting relationship and create a more positive environment for your child.For more resources and in-depth courses visit www.coparentacademy.com.Have questions or comments? We’d love to hear from you! Send them to ron@coparentacademy.com.
Transcribe →#156 - Is the Right of First Refusal Hurting Your Child?
Apr 21, 202500:15:57Tap to summarizeLet us hear from you!Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/u2y48WhgMdIIs the Right of First Refusal good for your parenting plan—or a source of unnecessary conflict?In this episode, we break down the controversial clause known as the Right of First Refusal in custody agreements.You'll learn:What the Right of First Refusal actually isWhen it works—and when it causes more harm than goodThe impact on children, parental conflict, and coparenting dynamicsWhy we usually recommend against including itWhat to consider if you do want to include it in your plan
Transcribe →#155 - Are You Overcommunicating with Your Coparent?
Apr 14, 202500:18:17Tap to summarizeLet us hear from you!Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/lqVKHHxQQaYUnnecessary communication is one of the worst unforced errors in coparenting. Learn what necessary coparenting communication actually looks like, how to avoid emotional traps, and how to stay focused on your child’s best interests.You’ll learn: ✅ The difference between helpful and necessary communication✅ How to respond to emotional or petty messages✅ What to say when your coparent keeps over-sharing✅ A journalistic method to keep messages clear and focused✅ Why strict boundaries lead to healthier coparenting🔑 Based on the first key from the "7 Keys to Better Communication" from Coparent Academy.🎓 Learn more at www.coparentacademy.com
Transcribe →#154 - Outside My Window of Tolerance
Apr 7, 202500:18:42Summary readyLet us hear from you!Watch this episode on YouTube This week a tornado hit our home. And I got COVID. I was reminded how fragile our window of tolerance can be when life throws everything at us all at once.This week I found myself way outside of my own window of tolerance. In this episode I talk about what that looked like and how I found my way back.In this episode, I talk about:The emotional and physical toll of back-to-back crisesHow trauma affects our ability to self-regulateThe importance of relationships in helping us return to balanceHow these lessons connect with coparentingWhether you're navigating your own personal storm or working to stay centered in a challenging coparenting situation, I hope this episode helps you feel seen—and maybe even a bit more prepared.
Summary#153 - How to Calm Your Upset Child
Mar 31, 202500:09:55Tap to summarizeLet us hear from you!Watch this episode on Youtube: https://youtu.be/qRtXCKc3qOIAre you struggling to connect with your child during emotional meltdowns?Feel like nothing you say helps them calm down or understand what went wrong?In this video, we break down the powerful 4 Rs method — Regulate, Relate, Reason, Restore — based on the work of Dr. Bruce Perry (3 Rs) and trauma-informed parenting techniques. This simple, science-backed approach helps you de-escalate emotional outbursts and guide your child with empathy, connection, and calm.✨ What You’ll Learn:How to stay calm when your child is dysregulatedWhy connection must come before correctionHow to build trust even after conflictThe exact steps to create a safe, emotionally supportive environment for your child.Chapters: 00:00 Introduction00:42 Regulate03:23 Relate05:55 Reason07:31 Restore
Transcribe →#152 - How to Understand Your Child's Window of Tolerance
Mar 24, 202500:11:58Tap to summarizeLet us hear from you!Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/XYotWpy3HW4Why do kids suddenly explode with emotion—or completely shut down? In this episode, we look at how Dr. Dan Siegel’s Window of Tolerance model helps us understand emotional regulation in children.Learn:- What causes kids to "flip their lid"- How to spot hyper- and hypo-arousal- Practical tools to bring your child back into their window of tolerance- How to expand your child's window of tolerancePerfect for coparents, guardians, educators, and anyone working with children.For more resources and in-depth courses visit www.coparentacademy.comHave questions or comments? We'd love to hear from you! Send them to ron@coparentacademy.com
Transcribe →#151 - How to Reconnect with your Child
Mar 17, 202500:19:28Tap to summarizeLet us hear from you!Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/QuwvHKor6L0?si=zvsuBaVrrZ86Q8GBAre you struggling to connect with your child after a divorce or separation? Do you feel like parenting issues may lead to problems in your coparenting relationship? In this episode, we discuss a powerful, trauma-informed approach to connection called PACE (Playfulness, Acceptance, Curiosity, and Empathy).Originally developed by Dr. Dan Hughes for children in the foster system, PACE can help strengthen your bond, rebuild trust, and support your child through emotional challenges—even in high-conflict situations.What You'll Learn in This Episode:How to create a safe emotional space for your child The 4 key elements of the PACE approach How to use playfulness to repair disconnection The difference between accepting feelings vs. behaviors How curiosity and empathy can help your child feel heardParenting through separation or divorce is tough, but with the right tools, you can build a stronger, healthier relationship with your child.
Transcribe →#150 - Hierarchy of Needs for Kids in Two Homes
Mar 10, 202500:11:53Tap to summarizeLet us hear from you!Coparenting is challenging, but what truly matters for your child's well-being? In this video, we break down Dr. Emery’s adaptation of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs for children in two homes. We’ll discuss what matters more than simply having two parents and how you can create the best possible environment for your child—even after separation or divorce.🔹 Learn why one good parent is more important than two conflicted ones🔹 Understand the biggest risk factors for children in co-parenting situations🔹 Discover how to minimize conflict and support your child's emotional healthFor more resources and in-depth courses visit www.coparentacademy.comHave questions or comments? We'd love to hear from you! Send them to ron@coparentacademy.com
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