Podcast
Create Your Fate
Hosted by Life Coach Meg Ellis · EN
You can create your Best Life Ever and Meg Ellis will teach you the ways. And guess what? It’s easier than you think.
Start with this: Stop thinking about what you don’t want. Start thinking about what you DO want.
Yes, it’s really that simple.
Meg Ellis is a Certified Conscious Life Coach who has helped thousands of people all over the world rewire their negative mindset into a positive one to create and live their absolute Best Life Ever.
She is a writer, a motivational speaker, and she uses the Enneagram and the Law of Attraction to break down self-limiting beliefs to replace self-doubt, guilt, and fear with confidence, fulfillment, and peace.
Create Your Fate is designed to show you where sneaky negative thoughts are manifesting in your life and how to direct your thoughts and energy in a positive direction instead so you can begin living your Best Life Ever.
Your mind has so much power when you intentionally direct it towards what you want. Create Your Fate will show you how.
Are you ready?
It’s time to create your fate.
To learn more about Meg, life coaching, the Enneagram, and the Law of Attraction, or to submit a topic or question, check out www.letscreateyourfate.com.
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EP240: Want to Change Your Life? Start Here. (Literally, the Smallest Thing You Can Do Right Now.)
6d ago00:27:32Tap to summarize"Your brain is not always choosing what's best for you, and it's oftentimes just choosing what's most familiar." -- MegIn this episode:Why your brain is wired for autopilot and how unconscious patterns formThe simple neuroscience behind why change feels uncomfortableHow even healing and self-growth routines can become unconscious3 tiny ways to wake yourself up and become more present in your lifeGet your free 7-day trial to the FateCreator life coaching app!In this episode, we’re talking about the sneaky ways autopilot shows up in our lives — and why so many of us struggle to create change even when we desperately want to. I break down what “consciousness” actually means in simple terms, why the brain loves repetition, and how unconscious patterns quietly shape our emotions, habits, relationships, and identity. We also talk about why autopilot isn’t just scrolling on the couch or hating your life — you can even go on autopilot inside your healing and growth journey.I also share the surprising realization I had after moving to New York City and why changing my environment suddenly unlocked massive creativity and momentum in my book writing. This episode is your reminder that transformation doesn’t always begin with giant life changes — sometimes it begins with simply becoming aware.Connect with Meg:Free 7-day trial to unlimited coaching tools!Follow Meg on InstagramFollow The Create Your Fate Podcast on InstagramTake your FREE Enneagram TestSubscribe to Meg's newsletterDisclaimer
Transcribe →EP239: Rewire Your Brain: The Science Behind How Affirmations Actually Change Your Life
2w ago00:27:13Tap to summarize"Your brain doesn’t care what’s true—it believes what you repeat." -- MegIn this episode:Why your brain prioritizes repetition over truth (and how that shapes your identity)The neuroscience behind affirmations and how they rewire your thinkingWhy affirmations feel fake at first—and how to make them feel authenticHow to use affirmations daily to build confidence and shift your internal voiceGet your free 7-day trial to the FateCreator life coaching app!I’ve been consistently practicing affirmations every morning, and while I didn’t fully believe them at first, I started noticing something subtle but powerful—my internal dialogue began to change. The way I spoke to myself softened. The automatic negative thoughts weren’t as loud or as constant. And it made me realize that affirmations aren’t about forcing yourself to believe something overnight—they’re about giving your brain a new pattern to follow.In this episode, I break down both the science and the manifestation side of affirmations so you can understand why they actually work. We talk about how your brain forms beliefs through repetition, how your thoughts shape your perception and behavior, and why feeling resistance at the beginning is completely normal. I also share how to use affirmations in a way that feels aligned and realistic—so you’re not trying to convince yourself of something that feels out of reach, but instead gradually building a new, supportive inner voice.If you’ve ever felt like affirmations don’t work or that they’re not for you, this episode will shift that perspective and show you how to use them in a way that actually creates change.Connect with Meg:Free 7-day trial to unlimited coaching tools!Follow Meg on InstagramFollow The Create Your Fate Podcast on InstagramTake your FREE Enneagram TestSubscribe to Meg's newsletterDisclaimer
Transcribe →EP238: How to Stop Shrinking and Start Taking Up Space in Your Life
3w ago00:26:56Tap to summarize"You’re not too much—you’ve just been trained to believe your presence requires permission." -- MegIn this episode:Why you feel like you’re taking up too much space (even when you’re not)The hidden conditioning that taught you to shrink, over-apologize, and stay “easy”The difference between assuming you belong vs. waiting for permissionHow to stop pre-editing yourself and start showing up without guiltGet your free 7-day trial to the FateCreator life coaching app!I had a moment recently on a plane that stopped me in my tracks—I caught myself wanting to apologize to the man next to me… for simply existing in the space I paid for. And it made me realize: this isn’t about the plane. This is a pattern. So many of us move through the world assuming we’re an inconvenience, adjusting ourselves in real time to make other people more comfortable.In this episode, I break down where that comes from, why it’s so common (especially for empathetic, self-aware people), and what I’ve learned about the difference between people who take up space and people who shrink. We talk about the subtle ways we ask for permission to exist—and how to shift into someone who assumes they belong, without becoming someone you’re not.If you’ve ever felt like you needed to be smaller to be accepted, this episode will help you see it—and start to change it.Connect with Meg:Free 7-day trial to unlimited coaching tools!Follow Meg on InstagramFollow The Create Your Fate Podcast on InstagramTake your FREE Enneagram TestSubscribe to Meg's newsletterDisclaimer
Transcribe →EP237: 10 Ridiculous Things I Do Every Day to Manifest Faster
Apr 2300:49:07Tap to summarize"Manifesting is not about getting lucky. It's about somebody who naturally creates better outcomes." -- MegIn this episode:Why manifesting has nothing to do with thinking something into existence — and what it actually requiresThe real reason your manifestations feel stuck (hint: it's not your mindset)10 surprisingly simple daily practices that shift your brain, body, and behavior all at onceHow to start small so this actually becomes something you do, not just something you knowGet your free 7-day trial to the FateCreator life coaching app!On today's episode, I'm giving you all of my secrets — the 10 things I do every single day that sound completely ridiculous and work completely anyway. I'm breaking down what manifesting actually is, why most people have it wrong, and how these small daily practices create real shifts in how you think, how you feel, and ultimately what you attract into your life. Some of these I've been doing for years, some are brand new, and honestly all of them are a little silly — which is exactly why they work.If you've ever felt like you're doing all the right things and still feel stuck, this episode is going to change how you look at that. We're going to the brain, the body, and the behavior — because when all three shift together, that's when your life actually starts to move.Connect with Meg:Free 7-day trial to unlimited coaching tools!Follow Meg on InstagramFollow The Create Your Fate Podcast on InstagramTake your FREE Enneagram TestSubscribe to Meg's newsletterDisclaimer
Transcribe →EP236: The Truth About Loneliness Nobody Is Talking About
Apr 1700:37:45Tap to summarize"Loneliness isn’t a life sentence—it’s a signal for deeper connection." -- MegIn this episode:Why you can feel completely alone even when your life looks full — and what it actually meansThe 3 types of loneliness and why identifying yours is the key to getting out of itThe sneaky way your body and mind work against you when it comes to connectionThe small, specific steps that actually move you out of loneliness (no life overhaul required)Get your free 7-day trial to the FateCreator life coaching app!On today's episode, I'm getting really honest about something I personally went through at the beginning of this year — something I sat in for two months before I finally understood what it was trying to tell me. We're talking about loneliness. Not in a surface-level way, but in a way that will completely change how you see it, because I truly believe this is one of the most universal human experiences that nobody is actually talking about.I'm walking you through what loneliness really is (it's probably not what you think), the three distinct types you might be experiencing right now, and why you have to address one of them before the other two can even budge. If you've ever felt disconnected even when everything on paper looks fine, this episode is for you — and I want you to know, you are not alone in this, not even close.Connect with Meg:Free 7-day trial to unlimited coaching tools!Follow Meg on InstagramFollow The Create Your Fate Podcast on InstagramTake your FREE Enneagram TestSubscribe to Meg's newsletterDisclaimer
Transcribe →EP235: How to Stop Self-Doubt and Build Real Confidence | Neil Rubenstein
Apr 801:08:54Tap to summarize“You could want something a 10 out of 10, but if you only believe you deserve it a 5 out of 10, that’s where you’re going to land.” -- NeilIn this episode:Understand what self-limiting beliefs actually are—and how they quietly shape your outcomesLearn how negative self-talk impacts your confidence, relationships, and ability to go after what you wantLearn how to use the #1 tool to reframe your negative thoughtsExplore why vulnerability is not weakness—and how it becomes your greatest strength in relationships and growthGet your free 7-day trial to the FateCreator life coaching app!In today’s episode, I sat down with Create Your Fate Coach, Neil, for a real, honest conversation about the internal patterns that hold so many people back—self-limiting beliefs and negative self-talk. We broke down what these thoughts actually sound like in real life, how they show up without you even realizing it, and why they don’t just affect how you feel… they directly impact what you create in your life. We also talked about what it actually looks like to shift those thoughts—not in a fluffy, “just think positive” way, but in a practical, grounded way that you can apply immediately. From redefining what you want, to building confidence through small steps, to understanding why vulnerability is the key to deeper connection and alignment—this episode is a powerful reminder that the work starts within. And when you change the way you speak to yourself, you change everything that follows.Connect with Meg:Free 7-day trial to unlimited coaching tools!Follow Meg on InstagramFollow The Create Your Fate Podcast on InstagramTake your FREE Enneagram TestSubscribe to Meg's newsletterDisclaimerConnect with Neil:Follow Neil on InstagramLearn more about coaching with Neil
Transcribe →EP234: Why You Feel Guilty Resting (Even When You’re Exhausted)
Mar 2400:39:48Tap to summarize"Rest is not a reward. It's a requirement." -- MegIn this episode:Understand the subconscious beliefs that make rest feel wrong—even when you need it mostLearn how productivity can become a survival pattern, not just a personality traitRecognize why your body resists slowing down (and why that doesn’t mean something is wrong)Reframe rest from something you earn into something you operate fromGet your free 7-day trial to the FateCreator life coaching app!In today's episode, I’m breaking down something I see all the time—with my clients and in my own life—the guilt that shows up when we try to rest. I share a recent moment where I slept in and immediately felt like I had done something wrong, even though nothing actually was. From there, we unpack why rest can feel so uncomfortable, especially if you’re someone who is driven, ambitious, or used to always being “on.” This isn’t just about habits—it’s about the subconscious beliefs running underneath them.We also get into how productivity can quietly become a survival mode pattern, where being busy isn’t just something you do, it’s something your system relies on to feel safe. I explain what’s happening in your body when you slow down, why it can feel unfamiliar or even uncomfortable, and how to start shifting your relationship with rest so it no longer feels like something you have to earn. This episode will help you understand yourself on a deeper level—and start creating a new normal where rest actually feels safe.Connect with Meg:Free 7-day trial to unlimited coaching tools!Follow Meg on InstagramFollow The Create Your Fate Podcast on InstagramTake your FREE Enneagram TestSubscribe to Meg's newsletterDisclaimer
Transcribe →EP233: The Cost of Carrying Everything: Control, Men & Vulnerability | Jace Williams
Mar 1001:13:21Tap to summarize"If you’re thinking about the next step, you’re ready." -- Life Coach JaceIn this episode:Unpack the hidden link between control and vulnerability—and why letting go can feel terrifying (even when it’s healthy)Reframe “I don’t know” as strength, not failure—and use it to instantly de-pressurize your dayRecognize how perfectionism and hustle culture reinforce the “captain serious” identity (and how to soften it without losing drive)Understand why coaching works: not because your coach has “the answer,” but because you finally say the truth out loud—and hear yourselfGet your free 7-day trial to the FateCreator life coaching app!In today's episode, I sat down with Create Your Fate Coach, Jace, for a real conversation about growth, leadership, and the internal pressure so many men carry. We talked about control, responsibility, and the unspoken expectation to always have it together—at work, in relationships, and in life. This episode explores how those patterns form and what shifts when you start questioning whether carrying everything alone is actually helping. Ladies -- you are going to want to send this episode to any important man in your life!We also talk about vulnerability in a practical, grounded way. Not as an emotional performance, but as honesty, self-awareness, and the willingness to pause instead of pushing. This conversation is for anyone who feels stuck in “doing” mode, wants more clarity, and is ready to approach growth with less pressure and more intention.Connect with Meg:Free 7-day trial to unlimited coaching tools!Follow Meg on InstagramFollow The Create Your Fate Podcast on InstagramTake your FREE Enneagram TestSubscribe to Meg's newsletterDisclaimerConnect with Jace:Follow Jace on InstagramLearn more about coaching with Jace
Transcribe →EP232: PS. You're Allowed to Do Things Just for Fun (The Power of Joy Explained)
Mar 200:41:38Tap to summarize“If experience is the goal, then everything is considered a win.” -- MegIn this episode:Why joy is a performance advantage (not a weakness)How elevated emotions shift your energy and attract different resultsWhat gets in the way of joy — and how to practically return to itWhy doing something “just for fun” might be the most powerful move you makeGet your free 7-day trial to the FateCreator life coaching app!What if joy isn’t something you earn after you accomplish the thing… what if joy is the thing that unlocks it? In this episode, I’m breaking down the powerful lesson behind Olympic gold medalist Alysa Liu’s historic win and why the real secret to her success wasn’t pressure, perfection, or proving — it was joy. After walking away from figure skating due to burnout, she returned with a radically different intention: skate for fun. And that shift changed everything.I’m diving into the energetics of joy, the nervous system science behind performance, the Law of Attraction, and what some of my favorite spiritual guides teach about elevated emotions and alignment. We forget that we’re allowed to do things just because they feel good — not because they lead to a goal. This episode is your permission slip to reclaim joy as a strategy, as a frequency, and as a way of life.Connect with Meg:Free 7-day trial to unlimited coaching tools!Follow Meg on InstagramFollow The Create Your Fate Podcast on InstagramTake your FREE Enneagram TestSubscribe to Meg's newsletterDisclaimer
Transcribe →EP231: Stop Trying to Fix Yourself: The Real Power of Sound Healing | Beto Gonzales
Feb 1901:05:37Tap to summarize"The universe gives you what you are, not what you want.” — Beto GonzalesIn this episode:What sound healing really is—and how vibration supports nervous system regulationWhy trying to “fix” yourself can actually block transformationThe power of beginner’s mind and dropping expectationsHow trust and surrender allow your life (and healing) to unfold organicallyGet your free 7-day trial to the FateCreator life coaching app!In today's episode, I sit down with my friend Beto—sound healer, yoga teacher, and someone who deeply embodies what he teaches—to explore a radically different approach to healing. We talk about what sound healing actually is, how vibration works on the body and nervous system, and why so many of us unknowingly block our own growth by trying so hard to optimize, fix, and perfect ourselves. This conversation moves beyond the surface-level “wellness trends” and into something much deeper: trust, surrender, and allowing life to unfold without gripping so tightly to outcomes.If you’ve been doing all the work—therapy, coaching, yoga, breathwork—and still feel like you’re chasing healing instead of receiving it, this episode will land. We dive into the concept of beginner’s mind, how expectations can disconnect you from the experience you came for, and why darkness isn’t something to escape but something that can reveal your own inner light. This isn’t about becoming better. It’s about coming home to who you already are.Connect with Meg:Free 7-day trial to unlimited coaching tools!Follow Meg on InstagramFollow The Create Your Fate Podcast on InstagramTake your FREE Enneagram TestSubscribe to Meg's newsletterDisclaimerConnect with Beto:Follow Beto on InstagramRetreat with Meg and Beto in Bali July 2026
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