Podcast
Create Your Fate
Hosted by Life Coach Meg Ellis · EN
You can create your Best Life Ever and Meg Ellis will teach you the ways. And guess what? It’s easier than you think.
Start with this: Stop thinking about what you don’t want. Start thinking about what you DO want.
Yes, it’s really that simple.
Meg Ellis is a Certified Conscious Life Coach who has helped thousands of people all over the world rewire their negative mindset into a positive one to create and live their absolute Best Life Ever.
She is a writer, a motivational speaker, and she uses the Enneagram and the Law of Attraction to break down self-limiting beliefs to replace self-doubt, guilt, and fear with confidence, fulfillment, and peace.
Create Your Fate is designed to show you where sneaky negative thoughts are manifesting in your life and how to direct your thoughts and energy in a positive direction instead so you can begin living your Best Life Ever.
Your mind has so much power when you intentionally direct it towards what you want. Create Your Fate will show you how.
Are you ready?
It’s time to create your fate.
To learn more about Meg, life coaching, the Enneagram, and the Law of Attraction, or to submit a topic or question, check out www.letscreateyourfate.com.
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EP244: How to Stop Absorbing Everyone Else's Energy
5d ago00:37:25Tap to summarize“You can care deeply about people without emotionally carrying them.” -- MegIn this episode:The difference between empathy and emotional responsibilityHow childhood conditioning creates emotional hypervigilanceWhy people pleasing leads to emotional exhaustionPractical tools to stop absorbing everyone else’s emotions and protect your peaceGet your free 7-day trial to the FateCreator life coaching app!If you constantly feel emotionally drained after conversations, anxious when other people are upset, or responsible for keeping everyone around you emotionally okay, this episode is for you. Today we unpack why so many people absorb other people’s emotions and how hypervigilance, people pleasing, and emotional monitoring can quietly disconnect you from yourself.We also talk about one of the most powerful mindset shifts for emotional freedom: “I am OK even if you are not OK.” This episode will help you understand the difference between compassion and emotional responsibility, how boundaries protect your nervous system, and how to stay connected to yourself without carrying the emotional weight of everyone around you.Connect with Meg:Free 7-day trial to unlimited coaching tools!Follow Meg on InstagramFollow The Create Your Fate Podcast on InstagramTake your FREE Enneagram TestSubscribe to Meg's newsletterDisclaimer
Transcribe →EP243: Why You Keep Getting the Opposite of What You Asked For
2w ago00:47:48Tap to summarize"What if the thing frustrating you right now is actually the opportunity you've been asking for?" -- MegIn this episode:Discover why asking for more often leads to discomfort instead of immediate resultsLearn how to recognize opportunities for growth when they show up disguised as setbacks, delays, and difficult decisionsUnderstand why the same patterns keep repeating in your life—and the one question that can help you finally break the cycleLearn how to stop settling for old versions of yourself and make choices that align with the life you're trying to createGet your free 7-day trial to the FateCreator life coaching app!This episode is Part 2 of last week's conversation about getting laid off from SoulCycle, but don't worry if you missed it—you can jump right in here. After sharing my story, I found myself asking a question that kept coming up: Did I accidentally manifest getting laid off? I had been asking for more freedom, more time, more impact, and more opportunities to create... so was this unexpected ending somehow connected to the things I'd been calling in?Then a friend asked me something that sent me down an entirely different rabbit hole: "Are we supposed to be careful what we ask for?" This was so interesting to me, I just had to share this with you! In this episode, we're exploring why life sometimes feels like it's giving us the exact opposite of what we want, why we may be tested before our manifestations take place, and why the thing frustrating you right now might actually be the opportunity you've been asking for all along.Connect with Meg:Free 7-day trial to unlimited coaching tools!Follow Meg on InstagramFollow The Create Your Fate Podcast on InstagramTake your FREE Enneagram TestSubscribe to Meg's newsletterDisclaimer
Transcribe →EP242: I Got Laid Off From SoulCycle (What I'm Learning About Big Feelings, Surrender, & Acceptance)
Jun 1100:44:26Tap to summarize"Life knows what to do better than we do. Our job is to simply let go and receive each moment with an open heart and then dance skillfully with it." -- MegIn this episode:Learn how to process disappointment without getting stuck in bitterness, blame, or resentmentDiscover how the Drama Triangle keeps us trapped as the victim, villain, or hero in our own storyUnderstand the difference between resisting what happened and surrendering to what isLearn how to find possibility, gratitude, and freedom when life doesn't go according to planGet your free 7-day trial to the FateCreator life coaching app!Recently, I was laid off from SoulCycle after seven years with the company. While this episode shares that story, this conversation isn't really about losing a job. It's for anyone who has recently been blindsided by life—whether that's a layoff, breakup, friendship ending, unexpected change, or simply finding yourself in a chapter you never planned for. If you've been asking yourself, "What is happening right now?" this episode is for you.Together, we'll talk about what to do when life hands you something you didn't choose. I'll share the emotions that came up for me, the lessons I learned about acceptance and surrender, and why staying stuck in blame keeps us disconnected from our power. Most importantly, we'll explore how to stop feeding fear, resentment, and self-pity—and start creating space for possibility, growth, and whatever comes next. This is Part 1 of a special two-part series.Resources Mentioned:The Drama Triangle episode on Apple and SpotifyThe Power of Maybe episode on Apple and SpotifyYamas & Niyamas book (surrender)Letting Go book (acceptance)Connect with Meg:Free 7-day trial to unlimited coaching tools!Follow Meg on InstagramFollow The Create Your Fate Podcast on InstagramTake your FREE Enneagram TestSubscribe to Meg's newsletterDisclaimer
Transcribe →EP241: The Science of Reinventing Yourself
May 2800:34:08Tap to summarize“Confidence is not what creates courage. Courage is what creates confidence.” -- MegIn this episode:Why your brain fights change even when you WANT itThe real reason confidence comes AFTER courageHow identity is built through tiny repeated actionsThe neuroscience behind reinventing yourself and becoming someone newGet your free 7-day trial to the FateCreator life coaching app!Reinvention isn’t about becoming a completely different person overnight. It’s about understanding how your brain, nervous system, and identity work together — and learning how to slowly build evidence for a new version of yourself. In this episode, I break down why change feels uncomfortable, why your brain clings to familiarity, and why discomfort does not automatically mean you’re failing.We also talk about the biggest misconception people have about confidence. Most people think confident people are naturally fearless, but the truth is confidence is built AFTER courageous action. If you’ve been waiting to feel ready before changing your life, this episode will completely shift the way you think about growth, fear, identity, and becoming the person you know you’re capable of being.Connect with Meg:Free 7-day trial to unlimited coaching tools!Follow Meg on InstagramFollow The Create Your Fate Podcast on InstagramTake your FREE Enneagram TestSubscribe to Meg's newsletterDisclaimer
Transcribe →EP240: Want to Change Your Life? Start Here. (Literally, the Smallest Thing You Can Do Right Now.)
May 2200:27:32Tap to summarize"Your brain is not always choosing what's best for you, and it's oftentimes just choosing what's most familiar." -- MegIn this episode:Why your brain is wired for autopilot and how unconscious patterns formThe simple neuroscience behind why change feels uncomfortableHow even healing and self-growth routines can become unconscious3 tiny ways to wake yourself up and become more present in your lifeGet your free 7-day trial to the FateCreator life coaching app!In this episode, we’re talking about the sneaky ways autopilot shows up in our lives — and why so many of us struggle to create change even when we desperately want to. I break down what “consciousness” actually means in simple terms, why the brain loves repetition, and how unconscious patterns quietly shape our emotions, habits, relationships, and identity. We also talk about why autopilot isn’t just scrolling on the couch or hating your life — you can even go on autopilot inside your healing and growth journey.I also share the surprising realization I had after moving to New York City and why changing my environment suddenly unlocked massive creativity and momentum in my book writing. This episode is your reminder that transformation doesn’t always begin with giant life changes — sometimes it begins with simply becoming aware.Connect with Meg:Free 7-day trial to unlimited coaching tools!Follow Meg on InstagramFollow The Create Your Fate Podcast on InstagramTake your FREE Enneagram TestSubscribe to Meg's newsletterDisclaimer
Transcribe →EP239: Rewire Your Brain: The Science Behind How Affirmations Actually Change Your Life
May 1200:27:13Tap to summarize"Your brain doesn’t care what’s true—it believes what you repeat." -- MegIn this episode:Why your brain prioritizes repetition over truth (and how that shapes your identity)The neuroscience behind affirmations and how they rewire your thinkingWhy affirmations feel fake at first—and how to make them feel authenticHow to use affirmations daily to build confidence and shift your internal voiceGet your free 7-day trial to the FateCreator life coaching app!I’ve been consistently practicing affirmations every morning, and while I didn’t fully believe them at first, I started noticing something subtle but powerful—my internal dialogue began to change. The way I spoke to myself softened. The automatic negative thoughts weren’t as loud or as constant. And it made me realize that affirmations aren’t about forcing yourself to believe something overnight—they’re about giving your brain a new pattern to follow.In this episode, I break down both the science and the manifestation side of affirmations so you can understand why they actually work. We talk about how your brain forms beliefs through repetition, how your thoughts shape your perception and behavior, and why feeling resistance at the beginning is completely normal. I also share how to use affirmations in a way that feels aligned and realistic—so you’re not trying to convince yourself of something that feels out of reach, but instead gradually building a new, supportive inner voice.If you’ve ever felt like affirmations don’t work or that they’re not for you, this episode will shift that perspective and show you how to use them in a way that actually creates change.Connect with Meg:Free 7-day trial to unlimited coaching tools!Follow Meg on InstagramFollow The Create Your Fate Podcast on InstagramTake your FREE Enneagram TestSubscribe to Meg's newsletterDisclaimer
Transcribe →EP238: How to Stop Shrinking and Start Taking Up Space in Your Life
May 500:26:56Tap to summarize"You’re not too much—you’ve just been trained to believe your presence requires permission." -- MegIn this episode:Why you feel like you’re taking up too much space (even when you’re not)The hidden conditioning that taught you to shrink, over-apologize, and stay “easy”The difference between assuming you belong vs. waiting for permissionHow to stop pre-editing yourself and start showing up without guiltGet your free 7-day trial to the FateCreator life coaching app!I had a moment recently on a plane that stopped me in my tracks—I caught myself wanting to apologize to the man next to me… for simply existing in the space I paid for. And it made me realize: this isn’t about the plane. This is a pattern. So many of us move through the world assuming we’re an inconvenience, adjusting ourselves in real time to make other people more comfortable.In this episode, I break down where that comes from, why it’s so common (especially for empathetic, self-aware people), and what I’ve learned about the difference between people who take up space and people who shrink. We talk about the subtle ways we ask for permission to exist—and how to shift into someone who assumes they belong, without becoming someone you’re not.If you’ve ever felt like you needed to be smaller to be accepted, this episode will help you see it—and start to change it.Connect with Meg:Free 7-day trial to unlimited coaching tools!Follow Meg on InstagramFollow The Create Your Fate Podcast on InstagramTake your FREE Enneagram TestSubscribe to Meg's newsletterDisclaimer
Transcribe →EP237: 10 Ridiculous Things I Do Every Day to Manifest Faster
Apr 2300:49:07Tap to summarize"Manifesting is not about getting lucky. It's about somebody who naturally creates better outcomes." -- MegIn this episode:Why manifesting has nothing to do with thinking something into existence — and what it actually requiresThe real reason your manifestations feel stuck (hint: it's not your mindset)10 surprisingly simple daily practices that shift your brain, body, and behavior all at onceHow to start small so this actually becomes something you do, not just something you knowGet your free 7-day trial to the FateCreator life coaching app!On today's episode, I'm giving you all of my secrets — the 10 things I do every single day that sound completely ridiculous and work completely anyway. I'm breaking down what manifesting actually is, why most people have it wrong, and how these small daily practices create real shifts in how you think, how you feel, and ultimately what you attract into your life. Some of these I've been doing for years, some are brand new, and honestly all of them are a little silly — which is exactly why they work.If you've ever felt like you're doing all the right things and still feel stuck, this episode is going to change how you look at that. We're going to the brain, the body, and the behavior — because when all three shift together, that's when your life actually starts to move.Connect with Meg:Free 7-day trial to unlimited coaching tools!Follow Meg on InstagramFollow The Create Your Fate Podcast on InstagramTake your FREE Enneagram TestSubscribe to Meg's newsletterDisclaimer
Transcribe →EP236: The Truth About Loneliness Nobody Is Talking About
Apr 1700:37:45Tap to summarize"Loneliness isn’t a life sentence—it’s a signal for deeper connection." -- MegIn this episode:Why you can feel completely alone even when your life looks full — and what it actually meansThe 3 types of loneliness and why identifying yours is the key to getting out of itThe sneaky way your body and mind work against you when it comes to connectionThe small, specific steps that actually move you out of loneliness (no life overhaul required)Get your free 7-day trial to the FateCreator life coaching app!On today's episode, I'm getting really honest about something I personally went through at the beginning of this year — something I sat in for two months before I finally understood what it was trying to tell me. We're talking about loneliness. Not in a surface-level way, but in a way that will completely change how you see it, because I truly believe this is one of the most universal human experiences that nobody is actually talking about.I'm walking you through what loneliness really is (it's probably not what you think), the three distinct types you might be experiencing right now, and why you have to address one of them before the other two can even budge. If you've ever felt disconnected even when everything on paper looks fine, this episode is for you — and I want you to know, you are not alone in this, not even close.Connect with Meg:Free 7-day trial to unlimited coaching tools!Follow Meg on InstagramFollow The Create Your Fate Podcast on InstagramTake your FREE Enneagram TestSubscribe to Meg's newsletterDisclaimer
Transcribe →EP235: How to Stop Self-Doubt and Build Real Confidence | Neil Rubenstein
Apr 801:08:54Tap to summarize“You could want something a 10 out of 10, but if you only believe you deserve it a 5 out of 10, that’s where you’re going to land.” -- NeilIn this episode:Understand what self-limiting beliefs actually are—and how they quietly shape your outcomesLearn how negative self-talk impacts your confidence, relationships, and ability to go after what you wantLearn how to use the #1 tool to reframe your negative thoughtsExplore why vulnerability is not weakness—and how it becomes your greatest strength in relationships and growthGet your free 7-day trial to the FateCreator life coaching app!In today’s episode, I sat down with Create Your Fate Coach, Neil, for a real, honest conversation about the internal patterns that hold so many people back—self-limiting beliefs and negative self-talk. We broke down what these thoughts actually sound like in real life, how they show up without you even realizing it, and why they don’t just affect how you feel… they directly impact what you create in your life. We also talked about what it actually looks like to shift those thoughts—not in a fluffy, “just think positive” way, but in a practical, grounded way that you can apply immediately. From redefining what you want, to building confidence through small steps, to understanding why vulnerability is the key to deeper connection and alignment—this episode is a powerful reminder that the work starts within. And when you change the way you speak to yourself, you change everything that follows.Connect with Meg:Free 7-day trial to unlimited coaching tools!Follow Meg on InstagramFollow The Create Your Fate Podcast on InstagramTake your FREE Enneagram TestSubscribe to Meg's newsletterDisclaimerConnect with Neil:Follow Neil on InstagramLearn more about coaching with Neil
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