Protecting Your Peace When Millions are on the Line

We talk a lot about protecting your peace in dating or family, but what about when your global brand is at stake? Karamo Brown recently made waves by pulling a “Mo’Nique” and sitting out press for the final season of Queer Eye.

Karamo revealed he has felt mentally and emotionally abused on set for years, with his therapist advising him to stay home to avoid bullying by his own castmates. As the only Black face in an overwhelmingly white-adjacent space, Karamo’s stand highlights a trauma many of us know too well: the exhaustion of being the token Black gay guy.

The Julian Taylor Controversy: Life After Loss

The conversation shifted to the internet-famous Julian Taylor, formerly of a prominent throuple. Julian joined Lamont White on Shoot Your Shot Wednesday to discuss his journey back to dating after the tragic loss of his partner.

Julian opened up about:

* Healing through loss: How he’s mending his heart a year and a half later.

* The Throuple Dynamic: Navigating a “closed throuple” and why that relationship eventually fell apart.

* Accountability: His transparency about past mistakes, including cheating and the “shadow work” required to grow.

Find Your Softness

Jai concludes with a powerful reminder for those seeking love in 2026: look for softness over status. Degrees and followers won’t hold you at night—find a man who is healed enough to be vulnerable.

What’s your take? Could you thrive in a “closed throuple,” or is three a crowd for you?

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