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My last relationship ended three times.

The first time was because I was insecure. The second time was because he was impatient. The third time was because I never invested myself back into the relationship after the first two attempts.

It takes a lot to see the dating process through to it’s hopeful end. Self-awareness is probably at the top of the list.

So tonight, I’m asking the DBGM family to pull on our self-awareness. Each of us has to ask ourselves, “are we the drama?”

Is dating actually hard, or do we make it that way?

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Chapters

Dating as a Queer Person (00:00:01)

The Problem with Dating (00:00:58)

Church Announcements: Single Season as a Superpower (00:02:43)

The Top Drought & Sexual Roles (00:10:20)

Masculinity, Femininity, and Nuance (00:15:13)

The Meaning of "Daddy" (00:46:14)

The Need for Better Language (01:13:11)

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