Ep. 410: The “Fun Girl” Theory

Summary

Podcast Summary: Decisions, Decisions – Episode 410: The “Fun Girl” Theory

Introduction In Episode 410 of Decisions, Decisions, hosts Mandii V and WeezyWTF delve into the intriguing “Fun Girl” Theory, exploring the dynamics of non-traditional relationships and the underlying reasons why men, particularly those in long-term or high-profile relationships, might seek excitement outside their primary partnerships. The episode is a candid and insightful discussion that challenges societal norms and offers a fresh perspective on modern relationships.

Festival Announcements and Book Promotion The episode begins with Mandii and WeezyWTF promoting the third annual Black Effect Podcast Festival, scheduled for April 26th at the Pullman Yards in Atlanta, Georgia. They express excitement about attending and hosting the event, highlighting notable performers and networking opportunities. Additionally, they urge listeners to support their new book, No Holds Barred: A Dual Manifesto on Sexual Exploration and Power, emphasizing the importance of pre-orders to secure a spot on the New York Times bestseller list.

Mandii’s Relationship Journey Mandii shares her recent relationship developments with Ben, detailing how their connection solidified during a trip to Atlanta. She recounts the thoughtful gestures Ben made, such as sending her two dozen roses and making reservations at her favorite restaurant. Their experience at the aquarium becomes a pivotal moment, where Mandii confronts racial tensions after a white woman nearly causes a disturbance. This incident sparks a deeper conversation about racism and personal boundaries within relationships.

The "Fun Girl" Theory Explained The core of the episode revolves around the “Fun Girl” Theory. WeezyWTF articulates the idea that men in high-status or long-term relationships often seek out "fun girls" — partners who are perceived as exciting and carefree but may lack depth and stability. She posits that societal expectations compel men to maintain relationships with partners who fit a "safe" archetype, leading them to seek excitement elsewhere to fulfill unmet emotional or experiential needs.

Mandii’s Perspective on Partner Selection Mandii offers her take on the theory, emphasizing that both men and women often select partners based on societal standards of attractiveness and success rather than genuine compatibility or emotional support. She argues that men gravitate towards women who are vibrant and spontaneous but may not offer the depth required for a sustainable relationship. This leads to a superficial connection that lacks the foundation needed for long-term happiness, prompting men to seek fulfillment outside their primary relationships.

Impact of Social Media and Societal Perceptions Both hosts discuss the influence of social media in perpetuating the “Fun Girl” stereotype. They highlight how online platforms prioritize visual appeal over substantive qualities, making it harder for individuals to showcase their depth and personal achievements. This emphasis on appearance fosters a culture where attractiveness is paramount, often at the expense of meaningful connections.

Challenges in Maintaining Depth in Relationships Mandii and WeezyWTF explore the challenges of maintaining depth in modern relationships amidst the pressures of societal expectations and the allure of external excitement. They argue that the lack of genuine emotional connection and shared purpose in relationships contributes to dissatisfaction and the eventual search for fulfillment outside the partnership.

Concluding Insights and Listener Engagement The episode concludes with Mandii and WeezyWTF reinforcing the importance of intentionality and emotional honesty in relationships. They encourage listeners to reflect on their own relationship dynamics and consider whether societal pressures are influencing their partner choices. Additionally, they invite listeners to share their experiences and thoughts on the “Fun Girl” Theory, fostering an ongoing dialogue about the complexities of modern love and connection.

Notable Quotes

• WeezyWTF (03:05): "I am here for Usher being on more like long platforms."
• WeezyWTF (04:44): "He either really felt comfortable with Keith, wanted people to know, or just hasn't done long form with someone that he vibes with."
• WeezyWTF (07:11): "If you choose not to eat, like, what, it's Goya Starbucks. Like, all the things that, you know, not shop at Wafer, not shop at H&M, not do this, not do that, you'll drive yourself fucking crazy."
• WeezyWTF (44:28): "Accepted NFL players mid whites, do they? They don't be with no lit bitches."
• Mandii V (47:11): "I really do think today beauty is more what we're seeing online."

Conclusion Episode 410 of Decisions, Decisions offers a thought-provoking examination of the “Fun Girl” Theory, shedding light on the nuanced dynamics of modern relationships. Mandii V and WeezyWTF provide a platform for listeners to reconsider traditional narratives around love, dating, and fidelity, advocating for authenticity and depth in personal connections.

For more episodes and to engage with Mandii and WeezyWTF, tune in to Decisions, Decisions on your favorite podcast platform and join the conversation on navigating the complexities of love and relationships in today’s world.

Transcript

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[Mandy V]

Welcome to Decisions Decisions.

[Weezy]

I don't think you should say Decisions, decisions. It sounded like you was talking and cursing.

[Mandy V]

You definitely say the welcome.

[Weezy]

Welcome to the new podcast.

[Mandy V]

Oh, wait, you wanna say it together? Decisions, decisions.

[Weezy]

Hey, y'all, it's your girl, Mandy V. And I'm Weezy.

[Mandy V]

We're the Decisions Decisions Podcast.

[Weezy]

However, we are also the hosts of the third annual Block Effect Podcast Festival.

[Mandy V]

Third time's the charm.

[Weezy]

That's right. Taking place April 26th at the Pullman Yards in Atlanta, Georgia.

[Mandy V]

Mandy is so excited to be her hometown. Now I'm just excited to come back because it is my favorite festival. We're gonna be seeing Carrie Champion. Good Mom's Bad Choices. Sarah Jakes Roberts. We're gonna see Tank. Oh, sorry, R and B Money, but Tank and Trap Nerds.

[Weezy]

And as you know, the Black Effect Festival also has panels, ways to network and Things to learn. And things to learn.

[Mandy V]

And liquor. They got liquor there. They do.

[Weezy]

They got everything. They got everything. But they also have us, so we'll be hosting, keeping you entertained the entire time, Weezy. Where can they get tickets?

[Mandy V]

You can get your [e-mail] podcast festival.

[Weezy]

That's right. We can't wait to see you there. Welcome, everybody, to another episode of Da Sciziones d'sciziones. Y'all see how I did that? There we go. It's back. It's back. It's your girl, Mandy V. AKA I Got it, nigga.

[Mandy V]

Oh, my God, I'm so glad to be not the only caresha anymore. My man. My man.

[Weezy]

My man. My man. My man. Before we start this week's episode, we do want to let you guys know that we need your help to become a New York Times bestseller. Y'all know we are authors now, so no hoes barred. A dual manifesto on sexual exploration and Power is now available for free order. And y'all, we know motherfuckers is getting rid of the DEI and shit. So what we need y'all to do is look up your local independent, hopefully black owned and brown owned bookstores and and get your pre order. Now.

[Mandy V]

The pre orders are the only things that can get us on this list. We had no idea before. And that's why we're going to scream it to you every single week. You're going to be on patreon paying that $5, $10, $15 bitch. And you still finna hear it, bitch. You finna be at that motherfucking live tour with three bucks in your hand. We gonna say bitch and you didn't get four.

[Weezy]

Also, if you haven't known yet, we are the host of. I think it's the third or fourth.

[Mandy V]

Third, I don't know.

[Weezy]

We've been to all of the Black Effect Festival.

[Mandy V]

I think third.

[Weezy]

It's the third, right? We are the host this year. So whether you come at 12 o'clock, bitch, or leave at 8, baby, we are there the whole motherfucking time, nigga.

[Mandy V]

We gonna have to. Are we gonna do outfit changes?

[Weezy]

Oh, I want like how many, bitch, we're Beyonce's.

[Mandy V]

Cause I'm gonna be tired, bitch. I need to put on sneakers by the end.

[Weezy]

We need outfit changes the whole day.

[Mandy V]

And we have. Let's see, we can go through rundown with theirs. Trap Nerds, Good moms, bad choices. Naked sports with. Is it Kari or Carrie?

[Weezy]

Carrie Champion.

[Mandy V]

Carrie Champion.

[Weezy]

R and B money with Tank. And then y'all the good sister. What is it? Sarah Jakes Robertson. I was about to say Roberto and you love her. I know. I love Sarah. Jake Roberts.

[Mandy V]

But no, like there's such a great lineup. I know Trapped Nerds has never hit the stage. Good mom's bad choices never hit the stage.

[Weezy]

Neither does Tank. I'm ready to see R and B.

[Mandy V]

M. I think every single person is new.

[Weezy]

These are all new people.

[Mandy V]

We just only. Oh ho. They said we love them. Let's just let em host it.

[Weezy]

I'm really excited to see who R and B Money interviews.

[Mandy V]

I say we do the cucumber game for old times sake. Right before Sarah Jakes comes out.

[Weezy]

I'm just gonna say tank, you're in Atlanta. I need Usher on that stage. Okay. I think he gives great interviews. He just sat with the good sis, Keke Palmer and I am here for Usher being on more like long platforms.

[Mandy V]

Yeah, I really liked seeing that Keke interview and it's crazy. Cause like, when I was watching that clip, I was like, wow. That moment, you know, the moment about the kiss, his first kiss not being consensual. I was like, yo, that was such a. Like someone that doesn't have social. Like, what's the word I'm looking for?

[Weezy]

It was like awkwardness.

[Mandy V]

Yeah. Like to say that, like, well, I didn't want it or whatever he said. I was like, wow. I would have skipped around that. But Usher being Usher, media trained, all this, he must.

[Weezy]

I was like, I think he wanted that to be said. Yeah.

[Mandy V]

He either really felt comfortable with Keith, wanted people to know, or just hasn't done long form with someone that he.

[Weezy]

Vibes with, like he's comfortable with. I think. I think for me, that's something I'm looking forward to seeing more. Like, and here I go. About to sound. Oh, like my generation of the artists that I grew up watching. So, like, the Ja Rules, the Ashantis, the Ushers. Like, I'm really excited to see them in long form content. Because when we were growing up, it was like radio interviews, magazine interviews, and then bitch MTV Cribs and them n was just showing rooms from a rented house. Now we know. But like, I'm excited to see them, like, talk about that shit. Like. And I feel like an old bitch. Cause bitch All Star Weekend. I'm at Kenny Smith's party and I'm like, there's Sean Marion. There's like all these old haters.

[Mandy V]

Shawn Marion got the dreads, right?

[Weezy]

No, Shawn Marion is a light bright ass nigga.

[Mandy V]

Who got the dreads?

[Weezy]

Who got the dreads? Who you talking about dreads from old school days.

[Mandy V]

Wait, Sean Mary. Isn't that an athlete that has a podcast?

[Weezy]

Are you talking about Latrell Sprewell? That's the only nigga with dreads that I know from my era of growing up.

[Mandy V]

Sorry.

[Weezy]

N't have dreads like that. Is that the only one? Marion?

[Mandy V]

Sorry, no, I'm really lost.

[Weezy]

Yeah, you're. Yeah, he's old school. Like, old school. Old school, bruh. Who?

[Mandy V]

His sister's names. I'm just on Google and it shows.

[Weezy]

Oh, my God.

[Mandy V]

These are his siblings. Oh, I love niggas. Tremaine Marion, Shawnette and Quinisha Marion. And let me tell you something, you gonna know it when you see the motherfuckers. And I would love to see Quinnette. What was it? Shawnette Quinisha. I would love to see all of them being like, courtside. Yeah, my brother on the team.

[Weezy]

It's Crazy. Cause All Star weekend was so much fun. Like, watching, like, all the old heads. Come on.

[Mandy V]

Nobody cares. Mandy, talk about your boyfriend.

[Weezy]

No, I'm gonna get to my boyfriend.

[Mandy V]

We don't care.

[Weezy]

It was.

[Mandy V]

We don't like sports.

[Weezy]

Yellow team, first off. And this is why I will never get surprised.

[Mandy V]

Fashion nova.

[Weezy]

Can I try to get a surprise picks deal here?

[Mandy V]

We don't care.

[Weezy]

God damn it. Prize picks, DraftKings. A bitch wants some more money. So I'm gonna be like, yeah, I went to the All Star game. Slam dunk contest was so cool.

[Mandy V]

Did you get fucked there?

[Weezy]

You know what's crazy? I realize how much I don't know. First off, they all look like children. And I'm like, oh, my God, everyone looks so fucking young.

[Mandy V]

Who?

[Weezy]

Like all the. The. I don't want to call them the kids on the court, but I'm like, these players look so fucking young. When they brought out, like, KG and Tracy McGreen and all the old.

[Mandy V]

You ain't talking.

[Weezy]

Oh, my God. Vince Carter. I was like, my middle school self is loving this bitch. Bro, don't do this. I know I like young. N. But they loved all. Bro, they look young.

[Mandy V]

I almost want to quote you with about the draft.

[Weezy]

Don't do this. They look young.

[Mandy V]

Since when did you turn into an auntie? We need to get these out.

[Weezy]

We're not going to do this. They look young.

[Mandy V]

I want your hair to get wet. These finger waves taking you up in.

[Weezy]

A and B. I want a nigga to look young, okay? Like, they look young. They look like they balls just dropped. I don't want, like, someone that looks young. I don't mind you being young. I just need you to look a little older. Speaking of young, there's an eight year difference between me and my boyfriend. Yes. Maia. Mami. Mamia. So I am now a taken woman.

[Mandy V]

Now, you gave us some good tea on Patreon.

[Weezy]

So, yeah, if you guys want to hear, like, how this kind of came about, go to our Patreon. It's patreon.com. horrible decisions. Basically, I'm going to give you, like, a quick summary on what happened. So quick summary is y'all know I was entertaining multiple men because, bitch, that's what you do when you date. So it was entertaining multiple men. And of course, let all these N s know I'm entertaining multiple men. So. Because, duh, here we go.

[Mandy V]

You good? No. I'm so sorry. Men, you want to support Palestine, they need to figure out what Starbucks had in that goddamn matcha this is terrible.

[Weezy]

That is crazy.

[Mandy V]

Sorry. Fuck. You want to be a Zionist? But the coffee sucks. What the hell is this?

[Weezy]

That's what you get for going to a little. I don't know, something. I got my Starbucks. Oh, shit. And, bitch, you know, they. They got the little deal with Delta. Shout out to Delta because they keeping dei. No, no, no. Not only Miles. You ready? Bitch, one of the things that you could get in your benefits is 6,000 Starbucks stars. Bitch, I won't be paying for coffee for the next.

[Mandy V]

Hey, stop selling it.

[Weezy]

I'm sorry. I'm sorry. Well, I don't pay for it.

[Mandy V]

I have stars, so she goes that much. Okay, I want to know how. He asked you. Okay, wait, girl.

[Weezy]

Sorry. I'm branding here, okay?

[Mandy V]

See, we can't drink coffee on everything.

[Weezy]

No, you done cut me off because it was disgusting.

[Mandy V]

You asked me what was wrong. You shouldn't have been checking on me.

[Weezy]

I bet I won't. I won't care no more. Die. Choke ho. Shit. Yeah, keep choking. Keep choking. Any who. So let me. Let me, like, run down the really quick, like, synopsis. Basically, he came and saw me in Vegas on our last night. One of my other niggas FaceTimed me. He saw the nigga FaceTime, asked if I had talked to that nigga. I said and did. And he got on his feelings. And I ran down like, well, you shouldn't be in your feelings. Take that up with God. And then pretty much let him know, this is what I'm doing. And he said, fair. Gave him homework. Gave him. He came to me with homework. He booked his flight immediately after I gave him my answers. This whole story is elongated on the Patreon.

[Mandy V]

Now, you, question for you. You had plans for that nigga that FaceTimed you to come to Atlanta. Did you, A, say, fuck you? This other N, coming through. Say, b, sorry I made plans, or C, cut him off.

[Weezy]

Oh, you weren't listening on town hall, girl. So the universe, the stars and moons put me in this relationship because the nigga who was supposed to be coming to Atlanta had to work. So he canceled his flight. And then this nigga was coming. So it worked out perfect. I didn't have to. Like, there was no crisscross of the niggles. Okay? So he's on the phone with me at the very end of the call. He sends his flight. He's coming to spend the week of Valentine's Day with me.

[Mandy V]

Mm.

[Weezy]

Mind you, I let him know in Vegas how I want to be treated. I said, I like flowers. I like a man who's supportive of me and my career and everything I do with my entrepreneurial ventures because I felt like that was a little lacking in my last relationship. I said, I want intimacy, I want time with my partner, and I need them to be intentional. And if you feel as though you can't show up in any of this capacity, feel free to not show up at all. So he booked his flight, so he's leaving from Burbank to Atlanta. We're on the phone as he's headed to the airport and he's like, have you left your house today? And I was like, no, not yet. Like I'm just gonna be waiting for you today. So he was like, well, you should check your door. So I go to my door and he sends me two dozen roses. Oh, waiting at my door, mind you, while he's on his way there. So he scheduled it perfectly. So two dozen roses are at my door and literally on it says, I can't wait to see you tonight.

[Mandy V]

So thoughtful.

[Weezy]

So very intentional. And then he even signed it actor bae. Cause he's like, I know you like to post things on social media and I'm not gonna put my name so that you can post it.

[Mandy V]

So I was like, now he said you a ig.

[Weezy]

He literally bitch and is, um, so mind you, I look at the weather, I thought we were gonna end up doing the park. It's fucking pouring rain. So we end up planning to go to the aquarium. So he gets in that night, we end up just. I bring in dinner. His flight was delayed four hours and I felt so bad cuz he was in the airport all day. So anyways, he gets to Atlanta, we cuddle, we have a great night. Next day we have plans to go to the aquarium. We're adorable at the aquarium.

[Mandy V]

Wait, when did you have sex for the first time?

[Weezy]

The last night, bitch. Because he came and I was on my period. So I already let him know that I don't do the period at all. So I let him know you're gonna have to wait till it's off. Like I told him when he booked it, hey, I would've done it. I literally sent him the Flo app. I said, I will do mad nasty other shit, but I do not fuck on my period.

[Mandy V]

Did you see his dick before you fucked up?

[Weezy]

No, we've been see, bitch, I saw it the first week we was in each other's DMs. Like Ben seen the dick, understood, laid with him in baby.

[Mandy V]

That's what it's like. Ben seen the dick.

[Weezy]

So anyways, so we go to the aquarium, and when we come back, mind you, he had already made reservations, too, at my favorite restaurant in Atlanta. So that was nice. Before he even came, he was like, what's your favorite restaurant in Atlanta? He made the reservation for Valentine's Day night, so.

[Mandy V]

Oh, you spent Valentine's Day in Atlanta. Okay. For some reason, my brand was being an all star.

[Weezy]

No, I did. I left Valentine's Day. I left Atlanta All Star Day, but we brought in Valentine's Day together. So we go to the aquarium. We're walking around. We're looking at the fucking fish, the whales, all the things. It's cute. Actually, this is where I'd like to talk about white people, if you don't fucking mind, because something happened where I said, don't let that shit happen again.

[Mandy V]

Oh, because you went to the aquarium.

[Weezy]

Tell y'all what the fuck happened at this motherfucking aquarium before I get back and be cute. So we at the motherfucking aquarium, and he already telling me to calm down with my cursing because it's kids. And I'm like, bitch, I ain't have no kids. I'm a curse. Cause I'm a curse. Whatever. Y'all know how I am.

[Mandy V]

Whatever.

[Weezy]

So I'm like, okay.

[Mandy V]

Not a British jet.

[Weezy]

So anyways, so we're walking through the aquarium, and there's. There's the part where, you know, the fucking glass is over you. So it's like, bitch, you in the water, right? We on this moving sidewalk. You ready? We're on this moving sidewalk. He's behind me, arm wrapped around my waist. So cute. We're getting towards the end of the sidewalk. Bitch. This white woman, no lie. You ready? Dis my head. Diss him behind me. She almost sideswipes the fuck out of my head. And it's like, can you take a picture of us, please? First off, who the fuck even asks n for pictures from the back? Bitch went over me. Cause he's fucking taller. Bitch went over my head to hand her phone to him. And it was like, can you take a picture of us, please? And, bitch, when I tell you I look like this, he took the picture. And I said, if that bitch even thinks she. Oh, bitch, I went off. Cause I said, first off, she almost took my motherfucking head off. Secondly, bitches don't even ask men to take pictures of them. She was trying to hit on you in front of me. Like I wasn't right motherfucking there. So I said, if we see her Again. And she even thinks she finna come up to you. It's gonna be a motherfucking problem. And you don't know what a Florida bitch is, but I'mma tell you right now. Cause bitch this much closer, she would have hit me in the motherfucking head.

[Mandy V]

Quinisha, let me ask you something.

[Weezy]

Don't do that. I was so mad. Quanisha marrying.

[Mandy V]

Hold on.

[Weezy]

Because then I was like. And then you took the picture. And normally I don't act like this, but I was like, you should have said no.

[Mandy V]

Did he or no. That her hand was so close.

[Weezy]

Oh, no, no, no, no. Because it happened so quickly. We literally. He was like, did she hit you? Like, it was like, bro, she went above my head.

[Mandy V]

What was she doing when you was talking to me?

[Weezy]

She went above my. No, no, no. This is. As we walked away. And I looked at him like, you know she did that shit on purpose, right? You know that, right? Like, if we see her again, let her know you not taking no more pictures.

[Mandy V]

If we see her again.

[Weezy]

If we see her again.

[Mandy V]

Cause I'm gonna tell you right now, by the time we get to the Clownfish, it's the bitch over there.

[Weezy]

I was so mad, and I was like, don't let that shit happen again. He was like, it just happened so fast. I still don't know the fucking accent. And we talk every day. I'm terrible. Anyways, so he was like, what you want me to do, say no? I just wanted to take pictures. No. The bitch played in my face like she ain't see my motherfucking ass. White bitch. Mind you, he the only black guy, too. Surprisingly, it's Atlanta. We, like, the only black couple walking through this.

[Mandy V]

Surprising. At an aquarium.

[Weezy]

I mean, black people go to the aquarium. Okay, maybe not. It was a Wednesday afternoon.

[Unnamed Speaker]

Okay, just like a stereotype that black people don't go to.

[Weezy]

No, we like to eat catfish. We don't want to go see them niggas. You feel me? But it's cute. It's Atlanta. I just expected more of us there. But no. And this bitch had kids. Bitch, you walking around bitches. It's a field trip. You got kids and you want to have my nigga take a picture of you? Where's the other chaperone? Where is it at?

[Mandy V]

Well, maybe she wanted a picture with her and her kids.

[Unnamed Speaker]

She should have had.

[Weezy]

No, I don't know. If it was all her kids, it was too much. And if you pushed all them bitches out your coochie, you really got to get Away from her.

[Mandy V]

Well, maybe it was a field trip. Cause it was a Wednesday afternoon.

[Unnamed Speaker]

True.

[Weezy]

No, it could have been a daycare field trip, bitch. I used to be in daycare, bitch.

[Mandy V]

That's still a field trip to Aquarium.

[Weezy]

I think it was a field trip.

[Unnamed Speaker]

She should have had you do it because, like, the height and the kids and you and, like. Right.

[Weezy]

She should have had a woman take a picture. Because we know men don't know how to take pictures, bro.

[Unnamed Speaker]

What do you mean?

[Weezy]

Men do not know how to. Okay, okay. I know Dave is a male photographer, yo.

[Mandy V]

I'm not gonna lie to you.

[Weezy]

I'm talking about on an iPhone.

[Mandy V]

I had a very uncomfortable moment on this island. You know, I would say certain Asians, like Chinese people, they be loud, they'll talk.

[Unnamed Speaker]

Here we go.

[Mandy V]

Southeast Asian. They fuck with you. There's certain Asian. I'm not lying. Korean. I've noticed they kind of. Unless you in la, they be a little.

[Weezy]

Oh, yeah. No, they do be like, I saw.

[Mandy V]

A Korean couple at this resort we were at in Thailand. The boyfriend was taking a picture and they were bad. So I came over. I'm drunk. I was like, girl, let me get it.

[Weezy]

She's looking at me.

[Mandy V]

So I'm like, maybe they don't speak English. But I was like, whatever. So I took her. No, no, no. Because there's a lot of Chinese tourists, and I don't know where they from, if they speak English or not. I'm telling her boyfriend. Give me the phone. I got it. So they looking super scared. We're on a remote island, Mandy. You can only take a boat to get here. I said, hey, I'm not gonna rob you guys. I was just.

[Unnamed Speaker]

Why would you say that?

[Weezy]

Why would you say that?

[Mandy V]

Cause they was acting scared. The fuck you acting scared for, bitch?

[Weezy]

Yeah, bro, look at you. Fix your face. Fix my face, bitch. Bitch, look how you just twisted it. Calm down.

[Mandy V]

No, Vanessa, just calm down. Same shit happened.

[Weezy]

No, no, no, it's different.

[Mandy V]

Do you know the bitch went.

[Weezy]

You felt they were being racist? This bitch was trying to flirt with my nigga in front of me. Way different.

[Unnamed Speaker]

Are we sure about that, too? Like, I feel like that's a little.

[Mandy V]

I'm not going to lie.

[Weezy]

No.

[Mandy V]

If you'd be willing to share. Your nigga be a racist is worse.

[Weezy]

I'm not sharing my nigga with a white woman.

[Unnamed Speaker]

Being racist would be worse.

[Weezy]

That's worse. Sharing it with a white woman right after Black History Month leading into women. No. Fuck out of here.

[Unnamed Speaker]

Okay, so you made it Loud and clear that you're not going to rob them. And then.

[Weezy]

And then what?

[Mandy V]

It was just like this, right? She was super tense. I'm just trying to help you because for the picture. So then he said something to her and she was like, okay, whatever. I take the picture. I'm like okay. Cool was a language barrier, right? Get to breakfast. The next day, my nigga's sitting there by himself who's having a full on conversation saying yeah, we live mid city in Los Angeles.

[Weezy]

Oh, she's English bitch.

[Mandy V]

Yes, they're American. They're Korean by descent. Them bitches. That hoe knew exactly what I was saying. And you wanted to be funny. And you know why? Cuz she probably thought I was trying to flirt with her. N cuz I said let me get it, let me help you girl. Cuz it's. Women get weird.

[Weezy]

Okay, I see the tie. I see the tie. I didn't get weird. I let him take the picture and then cussed his ass out.

[Unnamed Speaker]

So you were the white women with the kids in this story?

[Mandy V]

No, I was.

[Weezy]

That's. You were.

[Mandy V]

I was the fine ass woman that had her fro out and a little bitty bikini and a little tongue.

[Weezy]

Yeah, that's crazy. Go on ahead, go on ahead.

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[Weezy]

Anyway, back to the story. So we go to the aquarium. It's cute. He brings me a gift to Atlanta. And I'm like, just wait till our Valentine's Day dinner for the gift. Da da da da da. He's like, no, I really want to give it to you now. I was like, okay, I'll take the gift. But I really wanted it for Valentine's Day. But it made sense why you wanted to give it to me. So he dresses very simple. He dresses like a la west coast nigga Dickies pants.

[Mandy V]

Essentials.

[Weezy]

Essentials. But not the, like, fear of God or whatever it is. Essentials.

[Mandy V]

Oh, that's what I meant.

[Weezy]

He wears, like, Uniqlo Essentials Basics. No logos. All, like, solids and chucks.

[Geico Voiceover]

Mm, nice.

[Weezy]

So he pulls out a box. He's like, because you don't have a pair. So that when we go out, we can look cute together. I got you these pairs. He bought me a pair of Chuck Taylors. Not only did he give me a pair of Chuck Taylors, so I opened the box. He embroidered selective ignorance on them in his handwriting.

[Mandy V]

Oh, that's so sweetie.

[Weezy]

And then did, like, a little scribble and was like, and I want to read y'all the message. This message came.

[Unnamed Speaker]

These are on the shoes.

[Weezy]

No. So it was no. N. Just selective ignorance was on the shoes. But you're a fucking dickhead ruining it.

[Unnamed Speaker]

I'm sorry, I thought the whole letter was on shoes.

[Weezy]

You're a dickhead. So it was like the week that I dropped my trailer. So before he had even come, he said, selective ignorance, dictionary phrase. The practice of intentionally choosing not to know about certain topics or things. He said, quote, mandy is using her selective ignorance to justify why she can't name five meek records. Because that came out the. True. That came out the week that we kind of started talking. So he said, it's release day. It makes me smile that I've been in your life long enough to see this idea go from inception to execution. I'm happy because this will let people see you. The you I know. The you that keeps me on the phone for five hours. The you that makes me giddy enough to laugh and safe enough to cry. The you that took me. That took the two minutes I gave you and somehow managed to captivate me enough to spin me into a whole ass relationship. It's the starring vehicle you deserve. Good morning. I'm so proud of you. Call me after your appointment.

[Mandy V]

Oh, what a sweetie.

[Weezy]

And I'm like, oh, my God. Oh, I just melt. So anyways, he gives me those shoes. We decide, because I'm like, fuck, pussy's still kind of bleeding. I was like, let's shower tonight. So we get in the shower that night, and I'm so excited because I was like, ooh, my shower is nice as fuck. So I'm like, ooh, we about to shower. Wipe each other down. This is gonna be so sexy. So I go to hand him my men's body wash that's in my shower. Because I like ouds. I like musky scents. I like men's shit. And I hand him it, and I'm like, here you go. Mind you, this much left. But I'm like, here you go. This is the men's body wash. I'll use the dove since we're both in here. And he looks at me and he's like, okay. So we get out the shower.

[Unnamed Speaker]

Fair reaction.

[Weezy]

We get out the shower, and I realize he's acting weird. And I'm like, you know what? Just come here. I bring him to the laundry room, and I show him that I have six bottles of this man wash. And he's like, oh, you picked up on that, didn't you? I. He was like. In my head, he was like, I done flew all the way to fucking Atlanta to be with this bitch. And she handed me another nigga body.

[Mandy V]

Wash. That's what I would have thought, 100%.

[Weezy]

And I'm like, you would have thought that too.

[Unnamed Speaker]

100%. If this is like. I mean, is this our first time showering together?

[Weezy]

In your.

[Unnamed Speaker]

In your.

[Weezy]

We showered around each other in Vegas.

[Unnamed Speaker]

No. But not in your establishment. Yes.

[Weezy]

So he comes. I understand what happened. And he's like, this low down, dirty bitch. Mind you, this was the second thing that happened, because before he traveled, I'm showing him me reorganizing my closet. Guess what's in the frame? Condoms.

[Unnamed Speaker]

Okay.

[Weezy]

So he was like, are those condoms just on your dresser in your closet? And I was like, yeah. My cleaner, like, must have put. So he just. This nigga must have came here thinking I had a nigga fucking me. A nigga taking a motherfucking shower.

[Mandy V]

I would've.

[Weezy]

And I'm like. So we had to talk through this. So then he comes, and I was like, no, let me show you. There's condoms in my kitchen. There's condoms in all of my luggage. I said, I. Oh, I stay with condoms everywhere.

[Unnamed Speaker]

Your kitchen.

[Weezy]

They're in my kitchen drawer. What if I'm on the couch?

[Unnamed Speaker]

By what, the knives?

[Mandy V]

You just moved in there.

[Weezy]

I don't give a fuck. Condoms will be everywhere. Listen, stay ready so you ain't gotta get ready, bitch. The laundry room. So it was a part of me setting up my house. Condoms here, condoms there. Condoms everywhere.

[Unnamed Speaker]

Under Bodhi's letterbox potpourri.

[Weezy]

No, don't do that. Don't do that potpourri.

[Mandy V]

I like you to see little shit.

[Weezy]

I like, oh, I have condoms by the bar. So I had to show him condoms by the bar.

[Unnamed Speaker]

That makes more sense to me, because.

[Weezy]

What if we drinking at the dining room table or eating eggs from the dinner can.

[Mandy V]

I have to ask you a question.

[Weezy]

What I'm gonna eat and ask in.

[Mandy V]

All of my fucking. Which I would say the last 16 years of fucking shit. Maybe 18. I just never, never was it too far of a stretch to get up and grab it from a drawer.

[Weezy]

You ready?

[Mandy V]

Never was.

[Weezy]

I. I have two stories now. Curl. I'm about to get a refrigerator.

[Unnamed Speaker]

Strong flex.

[Weezy]

Listen, I'm about to get a refrigerator to put in my room. Cause I be thirsty at night, but a bitch be lazy and don't want.

[Mandy V]

To go downstairs, to be honest with you.

[Weezy]

So it needs.

[Mandy V]

I feel that, bro.

[Weezy]

Bro. So I'm like, I'm gonna make sure the whole part of my house is comfortable for me to do what the fuck I wanna do.

[Mandy V]

I'm not gonna hold you. If it's not just water. That's some fat bitch shit. Bitch, you better get your ass downstairs to get that food.

[Weezy]

It's just water. It's just water. I'm not bringing food upstairs. Like, nah.

[Mandy V]

So, okay, how did he get to the boyfriend part? So this.

[Weezy]

Anyways, we go to dinner, we have sex. It's great. Y'all aren't gonna get many details of that. I'll tell you now. Cause he's a public person, so I'm just gonna be minimal here. But he adores me. I cooked for him breakfast, and it just felt good. I was like, this is our second time spending, like, three days around each other where we didn't annoy each other. Like, we, like, couldn't keep each other off of each other. So after we got done fucking, I go to the bathroom. He comes out and meets me in the hallway. And we pretty much are just like, this makes sense. And it doesn't make sense not to. So here we are. We're in a relationship just to get, like, same, literally. And we do this vault. He's, like, hugging me in the hallway or kissing. He gives me another forehead kiss, bitches. And we just look up, and it literally goes to where it's like, yeah. So I think this, like, solidifies that we're in a relationship, right? I was like, well, yeah, because it doesn't make sense not to be. And then here we are. So over the next, like. I mean, now we're just working on our boundaries, seeing each other, being intentional of making time for each other. So, like, he's gonna meet me in Denver. So he's meeting me in Denver Sunday. And then, as of right now, the end of the month, I'm supposed to be joining him in San Diego.

[Mandy V]

Nice. Have you been?

[Weezy]

I've never been to San Diego.

[Mandy V]

I just went for my first time for that wedding after we shot. Weren't we all together? Yes, yes. I think we were shooting the promo reel for Decision Decisions.

[Unnamed Speaker]

Yes.

[Mandy V]

I was in shock, nigga. That shit is fired. It's just like. It's not la, but it's just as beautiful as la, but more chill.

[Weezy]

You know what I just realized? San Francisco shout out to everyone that listens to us in the Bay, is now my favorite fucking city in America. I just went for All Star Weekend. It is New York. I didn't even know that it would make me feel. So it's New York, it's Malibu, it's la, and then it looks like parts of Europe. And I was like, yo, we went to some pier across the Golden Gate Bridge. And I was like, yo, I fucking love it here. Mind you. Didn't even get to go to Oakland.

[Mandy V]

What is. It's New York City.

[Weezy]

Didn't get to go to Sonoma. Didn't get to go to Napa. And I'm like, I'm going back. So literally, there's a part where they don't even call it downtown. You're in this area, mind you. They have Japantown, Chinatown, all this stuff.

[Unnamed Speaker]

Japantown, the buildings.

[Mandy V]

Yeah, they do have Japan.

[Weezy]

The buildings are high, the streets are narrow. You feel like you're in fucking New York. And Wolf is like shaking his head. I said, I had no idea that there was a part of San Francisco that made me feel like New York.

[Mandy V]

Mind you, I'm gonna be honest with you. I was born in New York. My mom lived there 15 years. I never heard her say that. I never heard anybody in my life say San Francisco gave them New York.

[Weezy]

I was there with my friend Keith. We went and we were like, yo, this feels like New York. All the parties that we were going to, like the hotels.

[Mandy V]

Yeah, but you're talking about a city during All Star.

[Weezy]

No, no, no. I'm talking about the buildings in high five.

[Mandy V]

Oh, the parties. I meant.

[Weezy]

No, I'm not talking about the parties at all. I'm talking about where we were, like, where we were driving. And Wolf is at least shaking his head. And the five people that I was with agreed had no clue that it would remind me of New York City. And I was like, yo, I fucking love it here. Was just as expensive. I said, ooh, yeah, more expensive rent, mind you. Did my white people shit and got into one of them cars with no driver way, Mom.

[Unnamed Speaker]

Oh, I saw That I saw that story. That's cool.

[Mandy V]

You know what's crazy? The other day, literally, I was saying, what happened to jaguars? And I realized they're Waymo.

[Weezy]

They're Waymo?

[Unnamed Speaker]

Yeah.

[Weezy]

Mm. It was crazy.

[Mandy V]

I didn't like it.

[Weezy]

Oh, I'm not gonna lie. I'm so shocked that they have it in Atlanta.

[Mandy V]

I said, they do.

[Weezy]

All they do is steal cars out here. I'm like, the Waymo's about to be getting robbed or something. They about to take the goddamn satellite shits off and take them Jags. I'm so shocked that they.

[Mandy V]

How did you feel when. Okay, when I got in and it made a turn, and then even when, like, someone else crossed over, I was like, what the. I didn't. I didn't like it.

[Weezy]

I ain't gonna hold you. That thing drove better than some humans.

[Mandy V]

It did, but I was scared.

[Unnamed Speaker]

The AI is real.

[Weezy]

Let's fuck with those guys. I was, like, scared, but also, like, it wouldn't even move until all of us put our seatbelts on.

[Unnamed Speaker]

Yeah.

[Weezy]

And if you take your seatbelt off, your account will be gone, so.

[Mandy V]

Wow.

[Weezy]

Yeah, I like that you're very serious with buckling up. But I was like, okay, this is kind of cool.

[Unnamed Speaker]

What was the cost for it?

[Weezy]

Kind of scary. Shout out to my friend Keith. He booked it. He said, you gotta try this before you take it.

[Mandy V]

I think it's dope. It's around an Uber cost.

[Unnamed Speaker]

Okay. Without the Uber driver.

[Mandy V]

I'm trying to think. I didn't take it. I only took mine 15 minutes.

[Weezy]

I was about to say, we did take it when we were only eight minutes. We went from Japantown to Chinatown. Still pretty.

[Mandy V]

I didn't want to take it for a long drive. Like, for some reason, I was like, yeah, I'm good on the airplane.

[Unnamed Speaker]

It didn't go on the highway.

[Weezy]

We didn't get on the highway. And it will take you to airports. Okay, maybe because that is so much that maybe too much, you know? But they won't take you to airports. But they're inner city, so they're in la, San Francisco, Atlanta. And I think they're introducing it to, I think, Arizona this year or something. And they'll be rolling it out in Atlanta more in June. And I was like, they already don't know how to drive in Atlanta, bro.

[Mandy V]

It's so crazy to think people like. You think Uber's a commodity that gave people jobs. No, bro. Like, these fucking corporations don't give a fuck.

[Weezy]

No, they don't.

[Mandy V]

About you. They don't give a fuck about how the economy corporate greed is insane. Like, wow.

[Weezy]

No facts. Hey guys, we're taking a break from this week's episode to let you know that your favorite podcast duo has a book coming out.

[Mandy V]

You probably heard us talk about it. No holds barred. A dual manifesto sexual exploration problem. What you don't know is that we are desperate. We need it so bad to get on this New York Times bestseller list.

[Weezy]

That's right. And you can help us get there. Let's show the world how strong and powerful the whore hive really is by literally pre ordering our book. And of course we want you guys to support independent black owned, brown owned and women owned bookstores in your local areas.

[Mandy V]

Type in no holes barred online and you'll find a place to buy it. Anywhere will get us on this list. But we really do want you to support your favorite indie bookseller. Check this description for this week's episode on where to Get It. So I was going to say the main thing that I could think about that happened during this trip. I'm going to do an episode about the history of brothels. Because I really want to talk about prostitution in Thailand and cost and how it went and how we went to the spot and got to see them literally on a rotator. It was crazy. But my nigga said to me one night, actually it was Valentine's Day, he was like, I know we like interested in vibe. Because he was like, I kind of just do miss just organic threesomes. Like, we gotta fuck a tourist, bitch. I'm like, I was thinking about it too. And he was like, yeah, let's just have fun tonight. I'm like, yeah, let's get fucked up. We're in the Phi Phi Islands, which is so fucking romantic for Valentine's Day. But at nighttime it's wild and it's a full moon party, which is every month obviously, but it's a big deal for Bali, Thailand, whatever. We're off the island. We're in like the little parties N he's going underneath a fucking fire limbo thing like Blade. I'm on a fucking bull ride, bruh. We're wiling out. And finally this girl comes up. Well, a lot of people were staring at him cause there weren't a lot of black people there. And this girl is just like, he's barely got his shirt on. And she was like, can I take a picture with him? And I was like, okay, sure. I have a video of her, I think. Cause I just thought it was so funny that she's just like, oh, my God. She had like a Mediterranean look. Oh, this was her way, is it? Yeah, this is her. So she's just like, oh, my God, I want to take a picture, please. But she was cute. Coochie out and everything. Little tiny bra. I'm like, great, well, fuck this bitch. So on the back of my arm, I have black in Hebrew because my father's from Israel. My mom is black. She sees it and starts talking to me in Hebrew. This is about after 20 minutes of flirting, us talking about, oh, my God, I want to kiss you first. Nasty shit. Getting drink shot. And I was like, oh, no. He's like, what's wrong? I'm like, yo, I really thought I was gonna eat this girl's pussy tonight. I ain't gonna eat this fucking anti Palestine pussy. I can't do it.

[Unnamed Speaker]

Ew.

[Mandy V]

You telling me the girl notices I'm Israeli now? She think we on the same team. Then she started speaking Hebrew to her other friend. Now they getting real excited. I'm like, oh, no, bitch.

[Weezy]

But wait, did you ask her?

[Mandy V]

No. So he goes, baby, it's fucking 4:00 in the morning. Like, why are you thinking about that right now? I'm like. He's like, don't even worry about it. I'm like, all right, all right, you right.

[Weezy]

But also, you're Israeli in free Palestine, so maybe she was. Did you ask her?

[Mandy V]

Well, I'm brown. From my experience, most Israelis, especially the ones living there and the ones that don't. I'm just being honest. It is a small amount of people that live in Israel that are pro Palestine.

[Unnamed Speaker]

Yeah.

[Mandy V]

So I'm just like, fuck, fuck, fuck. So we having fun. We dancing on each other and shit. She whining on me and I'm like, oh, God, bitch.

[Weezy]

It was like the enemy.

[Mandy V]

So I'm like, let me just say it.

[Unnamed Speaker]

Must resist it.

[Mandy V]

Let me just say it. And he looking at me like, yo, just chill. Cause beyond the fucking, he's like, that's gonna get you upset. You know what I'm saying?

[Unnamed Speaker]

That is true.

[Mandy V]

So I'm just like, after fucking, I smell like tequila. It's dripping on my tits. I have glow in the dark paint over my titties that says, I love you. We were wilding. I'm like, so what do you think about what's going on? And then I hear her say to her friend, halo na mashkara. And then I knew it. I said, ah, we gotta go. He looking at me like, yo, what did she say? She Just started talking to her friend once I said that, and they kind of gave me a side look. And I knew then that bitch was like, fuck that hoe. And let me tell you something, the entire trip, Mandy, I haven't really had my clothes off in a minute. There are a lot of Israeli tourists in Thailand. My dad told me this, too. I did not know that, bro. Almost every other day somebody was, like, trying to talk to me, and I was like, yo, I thought I left this social justice warrior shit in America, bitch. The only threesome we almost had was a girl that I couldn't fuck. Rightfully so I can't get this bitch. My nigga got good ass dick. I'm going to give you that and eat your pussy. Meanwhile, you online talking about Hamas did this. No, I was fucked up all night. It really almost ruined my night. And I swear to God, it took me back to when I was first dating and Trump was getting elected and I was on the apps and I felt like everything was an interview. And I remember when I was listening to Desus and Mero back in the day, Bodega boys around that time when they were on, and Jesus was like, nigga, I don't give a fuck about not asking who you vote. Who the fuck did you vote for? And, like, it really put me in this place of, like, have I spent enough time actually putting into motion the way I feel? Like, this stopped me from fucking a bitch, but am I taking the steps every day? Because it didn't really stop me from getting matcha lemonade at Starbucks. Like, how much of my life is hypocritical, so to speak. And, yeah, it fucked me up, bro. Like, a lot.

[Weezy]

We're all hypocrites.

[Mandy V]

It really ruined my night. Cause we was really that close.

[Weezy]

I mean, I think you would drive yourself crazy, though, figuring out how you're a hypocrite. Like, me and Antoinette just had this conversation on my other pod, and it's just like, bro, you will drive yourself crazy trying to move in the most moral, best way possible. Like, I think even, like, with all the DEI things and the boycotting of stuff, like, if you choose not to eat, like, what, it's Goya Starbucks. Like, all the things that, you know, not shop at Wafer, not shop at H and M, not do this, not do that, you'll drive yourself fucking crazy.

[Mandy V]

But then at the same time, don't we need to stand for something? Like, how could I fucking watch the H and M shit and walk in the door? And then at the same Time be someone that's like, I don't know. I just. I really don't think you can do both. So, like, I actually, like, after that moment, and it's crazy because it's literally about having a threesome. I was like, yeah, nah, I'm actually gonna really try to make an effort. Like, I really want to. And mind you, Palestine is not a life I'm living every day. I live black shit every day. Woman shit every day. Gay shit every day. Like, the queerness, the anti lgbtq. I need to stop chick fil A. Like, that should be number one. The anti revisionist camps. Like, there's a lot of shit in my life that I've just kind of been like, whatever to. And that really kind of showed me, like, yeah, no, I'm really not about it. I know we're taking a long time, but Mandy has a boyfriend. That's the episode. I talked about fucking Zionist pussy for five minutes.

[Weezy]

Okay. So clearly this episode. Sorry, I'm drinking. Sorry. After you just went on the goddamn rant on not fucking support if you want.

[Mandy V]

I don't think you're gonna stop.

[Weezy]

I'm not. I'm a hypocrite. I stand for a lot of things. And I'm not gonna stress myself about the things I can purchase and buy and where I can go and how I can live my fucking life in the world that I think is actually ran by the government and on some bullshit. Like, I think the aliens are up in the clouds or in the ocean laughing at us anyways. And we're currently on an episode where eggs are very expensive and all the planes are falling out of the sky. So this is like a new season that just started, and it's about eggs and planes. So wherever we're at in life, it's fucking laughable to me. And I just want to be peaceful. Atlanta has allowed me to slow down. Atlanta has allowed me to just woo. Like, I realized, like, New York is such a busy fast. I always got to be out, always got to do stuff city. Like yesterday I met Eden. What time I met you at like 10:00am yeah, basically. I got back home at 1. I was looking. I had. We recorded. I had. I met my friend, got drunk with her and her husband, by the way. I told him I was gonna do this shout out to you, Rob. I go to see my friend Britt. I'm TT Mandy. And they were so happy to see me. I'm one of the aunties that as soon as I go, I'm gonna bring you Candy, I'm gonna bring you ice cream. I'm gonna be the best friend so that you could go watch your cartoons when me and your parents is talking. So I go over there and I said, bob, first off, twins. We have the same hair because he's blonde and short. I say, rob, I never ask you for anything. And I need a huge favor, mind you. Brit is sitting on the couch like, now, bitch, what you need from my husband? I said, I would never ask you any other time for this, but I really need your help. He looks at me, he said, you need a durag, don't you?

[Mandy V]

That's cute.

[Weezy]

I said, oh, my God. How did you know, bitch? My homegirl fell to the floor and was like, not my nigga, no. You about to ask for a durag. I said, bitch, I gotta make this shit less the waves. I can't do it. And I said, I slept like this all night. I was sleeping on my motherfucking hand, cheek to hand. I said, I can't mess this up. So I just said, when I go into the studio, I'm gonna shout you out. So shout out to Rob for giving me a do rag. I ain't gonna judge you with the fact that it was.

[Mandy V]

Give us this reactionary bitch. What we reacting to?

[Weezy]

So this is clearly a fucking catch up episode. Decisions, decisions. We went completely off outline, but I do still have this. And I wanted to play it because in the realm that we both have boyfriends, I thought that this was an interesting conversation. So Beyonce's not Jay Z's dream girl.

[Mandy V]

But Beyonce fits the image of who?

[Geico Voiceover]

She goes on to say that she does not think Beyonce is Jay Z's dream girl, but instead, he recognizes that she is a dream girl for the majority of the population. And because of that, she is a suitable partner to have for someone of his level of stature in the music industry. Okay, we're not gonna talk about Beyonce and Jay Z. This is a Beyonce stand page. But we can learn a lot from the message in this video. If you are a woman who is beautiful, smart, well put together, charismatic, knows how to carry herself, can navigate any room full of people, okay? Dating is going to be very, very hard for you. Not because you're gonna have a shortage of men. Obviously, there's going to be a plethora of men that want to date you, but because you're gonna have to do an extra level of evaluation to make sure that these men actually like you. Men recognize women who other men like.

[Mandy V]

So I haven't used the R word in a long time. But to imply that Beyonce is not Jay Z's type from a. Oh, I really don't want to say this. Why not say it? That white bitch was not in shape that said that shit. And you talking about Beyonce. Beyonce, bitch. You look like Luther Vandross. That's what I was thinking of. You really had the audacity to get on the Internet and say, one of the most beautiful women in the world. And mind you, if you google the most beautiful woman in the world, I think Jennifer Aniston pops up, which is a gag bitch. Beyonce isn't Jay Z's type because she's that big. This is what she represents. I could understand that if Beyonce had no looks, no body, nothing else. What? No talent. That bitch is godly.

[Weezy]

I want to ask you about what was said in the video, though. Not Beyonce, because she literally said.

[Mandy V]

That's all I want to know.

[Weezy]

We're not gonna make this about Beyonce. I wanna know your thoughts on men picking women based on how society views.

[Mandy V]

Women do it too.

[Weezy]

No, I know. So I wanted to know your thoughts on that because I do actually think that this is why. And this is gonna be a hot take. I believe this is why. A lot of married men cheat on their wives. I think that they get with women, especially rich, successful, powerful men. I do feel like those men get with women who tick off the boxes, but not who make them happy. I think this is why they cheat with the fun whores, the fun girls, the bitches that maybe people deem are not wifey material, because those are actually the women they would like to see themselves with. However, because they're so pressed on how society views them and how they view whoever's standing next to them, they go for the safe woman. They go for the woman that inevitably they end up maybe resenting a bit, and it leads them to step out. So I do feel like this is true. I feel like this is a reason why.

[Mandy V]

Here's my take on that. I think that the fun girl theory goes two ways. Issue with fun girl. I have a lot of hot homegirls, a lot of IG baddie bitches. A lot of them lack a lot of depth that is required beyond the night when you're just sitting at home alone. A lot of my friends that haven't really had, quote unquote, real jobs or a certain educational background don't really have a lot more to offer and have had issues with men in relationships because they feel that energy too. Niggas don't want to fucking Turn up and smoke hookah all the time. So what happens when all of that's gone? What happens when the vacation life stops? Much like a long distance relationship, spending time at home just like you and your boyfriend did is really important. Not always going on vacation, but being in each other's home, shit like that. That's something that people always recommend. I really do think when you just have the fun girl and you're always out, you really don't know what that day to day life is like. How do these women motivate you? Are they even motivating themselves? So I don't think it's that men are choosing partners that society thinks is better. I think they're just not choosing well rounded women. We can't sit here and think one's boring and the other one's fun. I know a bad bitch that's fun can turn up, that works at the fucking desk. They listening, but it's not always looking like that. So I think people, women too choose people that are good on paper. But I think to say that men aren't choosing the fun girl actually is wrong. I think nowadays beauty is more what we're seeing online. Like you never really hear men gassing about how their girl does X, Y, Z or how they're proud of them online. You just see the photos of them. Like when we see rich and wealthy men, they're just with beautiful women. That's why Beyonce's such an anomaly.

[Weezy]

Accept NFL players mid whites, do they? They don't be with no lit bitches.

[Mandy V]

Cause Jalen hurts. Bitch, love you.

[Weezy]

Well no that I'm talking about the majority of NFL players. We talked about this on Patreon. Ain't talking about Jalen hurts. He's an anomaly and that's why everybody wanted the Eagles to win because he's actually a black quarterback with a black woman. So love that for him.

[Mandy V]

Chicken fries.

[Weezy]

But the majority.

[Mandy V]

That was a great clip.

[Weezy]

Eh, eh. I just don't know. I do think that the woman that society sees though for me, society doesn't have a good perception of the fun girl. Doesn't have a good perception of a woman who enjoys a good night out. Doesn't have a good perception of a woman who wants to stand on like.

[Mandy V]

You know who that girl is today? It's a bitch that go on solo vacations and trips with her home girl.

[Weezy]

You could want to stand on couches and then go home and read a book. There's duality there.

[Mandy V]

I really do think though that girl today in 2025 in the last five years. Even since COVID I see a lot of girls moving around that is that corporate girly or maybe small business independent girly that is out with her friends turning the fuck up on vacation and come home and get the business. That is what a fun girl is to me today. I believe I'm that girl. Bitch, I got shit to do. But if I'm on my Instagram story, I'm not the fucking vlogger who's showing you about all the contracts I gotta do. I'm gonna probably show you the club. So I think sometimes from what I feel like I'm seeing, I am seeing men with more of the fun girl or beautiful girl that doesn't have much else. You know, I just watched just right on the plane. Do you remember that movie with Queen.

[Weezy]

Latifah and Common, right?

[Mandy V]

And Paula Patton and so her friend or her God sister in the movie didn't do anything, but she was gorgeous. And Queen Latifah worked in medical and it's like I feel like that's the shit we see. We see women get looked over that have great jobs that are that quote unquote, normal girls. For the fun girl, I feel the opposite of what that girl said.

[Weezy]

Interesting.

[Mandy V]

I really do.

[Weezy]

Okay.

[Mandy V]

I just seldom am meeting the Jay Zs of the world. And no one, no, I'm not talking about a Jay Z, but rich men, famous men that are with dope women that got their own shit going. I really feel like their bitches be bad and boring. Not even bad and bougie. Because I know a bougie bitch that could buy her own shit.

[Weezy]

That's why I think, yeah, maybe. I mean, we definitely run in different worlds, different circles. A lot of the married men, we.

[Mandy V]

Run in the same circles too.

[Weezy]

A lot of the married men I know, different experience. I feel like a lot of the married men that I know that I'm friends with, their wives are safe. They're at home with the kids. And when they're outside, they're with the fun girls that they would never consider being with.

[Mandy V]

That I've seen being at home with their wives, no matter what circle, the ones that we know men in or not, those wives have probably been in longer term relationships or maybe they have older kids. My younger friends that are married and by younger I mean under 40, I've seen them with these types of girls or in relationships. My friends that kind of have wives at home have older kids, maybe their wives ain't trying to be out with them at every event. Like, which is understandable. Cause, like, yeah, sure, it's fun the first few years, but we gotta all be honest with ourselves. Like, if you have to keep up with your man, that needs to keep up with appearances, like, that's not sustainable either.

[Weezy]

Okay?

[Mandy V]

If you are, let's just say illegal, your man is in the sports industry and always gotta be out. You not about to chase behind this nigga every fucking event.

[Weezy]

No, you can't.

[Mandy V]

You got your own shit going. Like, I'm not running behind a nigga. I got too much to do. So if my man is at every conference and networking and doing shit, is it gonna make it look like, you know, like, I'm not doing enough or I'm not fun or I'm not out there? Like, I think just having women around in the club really doesn't mean anything. I think women flock to money and status, and I don't think a girl being next to you around really shows any value.

[Weezy]

I would love to know from our monogamous listeners if their man goes on work trips, if they're fine and comfortable with their man being out with friends and bitches being around being at the table.

[Mandy V]

Cause it's corporate.

[Weezy]

Think about that from the table back to the room.

[Mandy V]

No, no, no. But you know what I'm saying. That's where you see it.

[Weezy]

I want to know for our monogamous listeners what they like, if they're fine with their man just hanging out with the fun girls. Just hanging out.

[Mandy V]

You talking about monogamous? Are there men, Fun rich men?

[Weezy]

But that's what I'm saying.

[Mandy V]

It's not fun. Famous and rich men.

[Weezy]

No, I'm talking that they don't have to be. I'm talking about women who, like you just said, the lawyer dating the sports agent. These are corporate people who have to travel for work. When you're not around, are you fine with your man being outside with the fun girls that, you know, probably want to have some fun? And when I say fun, we've been there. We've been those girls that go from drinking at the fucking table to going to the after party to going to the hotel room. Like, fun girls like to have fun. They down with the casual sex. We were the fun girls. We've been those girls 26 to 32. Whatever the case, we weren't just always hanging out with guys. If your guy is attractive, your guy got money, and he hanging with the fun girls, chances are.

[Mandy V]

But the initial thing was, do men really want to be with the women they're choosing or would they rather be with the fun girl?

[Weezy]

No. And my thing is they like the fun girl and would probably be with them if they weren't so hell bent on how society views them and the woman next to them. And so I believe that, which is why there's one of the guys, like, we talked, like, even me and actor bae, it's like, okay, does what I do in a career align with your image? There's been men I talked about. I have a little government nigga who said he had his PR team look me up because I was like, oh, my God. Like, are you even allowed to be around me? Because, you know, like, you do a lot of things high up in government. And he was like, oh, I had my PR team look you up. And, you know, periods this women empowerment. You're for women's rights, abortion rights. He was like, so you aligned. It's cool, like, because of your messaging. But I've had athletes who are very hell bent on their brand image. We're just friends. And we don't let it be known that it's anything more.

[Mandy V]

Because, you know, it's so crazy to me. Cause it's like they could date a bitch that got three rapper baby daddies that fucking got someone that exposed them with nudes.

[Weezy]

I'm talking about the men who care about their brand image. No, no, no.

[Mandy V]

I'm saying you're talking about those men may be the same that would date that girl that's been passed around because she just has pictures up and isn't talking on her platform. Right. Like, it's kind of crazy because the picking and choosing of who you're gonna be with. I think niggas really be acting like.

[Weezy]

We know there's a difference between a man fucking you and a man wifing you.

[Mandy V]

I'm trying to, but men are always.

[Weezy]

Gonna fuck those women. But being publicly claimed by them, being brought around the family, being an item to the public, bringing you to my work events, that is different. And I think that men who actually care about how they look to society, to their jobs in their careers, they want a clean, safe woman next to them. And it kind of, you know, sucks for the women that are still going.

[Mandy V]

To be so dare you have short blonde hair, tattoos, and box braids at a messy bit now.

[Weezy]

All right, listen, listen. Anyways, guys, a whole fucking ketchup episode. If you liked how this went, we have our ketchup and mustard episodes over on Patreon. Patreon.com horribledecisions where you get a bonus episode every week, as well as the full video to our you Got Decision, our you Got Decisions segment that we air every Wednesday wherever you listen to podcasts. Before we get out of here, we want to remind you to help us become New York Times bestsellers.

[Mandy V]

Let me show you what I got.

[Weezy]

By pre ordering no Holds Barred, a dual manifesto on sexual exploration and power written by yours truly.

[Mandy V]

Open and closing like a coochie.

[Weezy]

We have a lot of content coming for you guys. Also, make sure if you want to see us host the Black Effect Festival, you pull up on us April 26th in Atlanta, Georgia. Who that was a lot. All right, y'all take a breath. Anyways, this has been another episode of Decisions Decision. Guys.

[Mandy V]

Don't order Starbucks.

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