EP 424: Personal Fulfillment, Strong Partners, & The History Of Contraception

Summary

Decisions, Decisions
Episode: EP 424: Personal Fulfillment, Strong Partners, & The History Of Contraception
Release Date: June 9, 2025
Hosts: Mandii B and WeezyWTF
Produced by: The Black Effect and iHeartPodcasts

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I. Introduction and Personal Anecdotes

The episode kicks off with the hosts, Mandii B and WeezyWTF, sharing casual, relatable anecdotes about their daily lives. Weezy recounts her early morning workout and a long-distance walk in New York City's sunshine, expressing her attraction to the vibrant city life and its sun-kissed residents.

WeezyWTF (02:32):

"It's summertime beach. It's NYC. I want to tell y' all I got up at 6am today for a workout... I wanted to fuck everybody."

Mandii B adds humor by recalling a personal incident involving a public masturbation joke, highlighting the candid and unfiltered nature of their conversations.

Mandii B (03:17):

"You were the same one who masturbated at Starbucks."

II. Navigating Anxiety and Modern Conveniences

The conversation transitions to the challenges of grocery shopping, with Mandii expressing her anxiety-driven aversion to physical stores. She shares her negative experiences with Amazon Fresh deliveries, where a delivery person stole her groceries, leading to frustration over lost items and delayed services.

Mandii B (04:25):

"The anxiety of grocery shopping has me like, I don't know how your adults feel because of the car... My heart starts racing, my hands start getting sweaty."

Weezy contrasts her experience by appreciating the quality of produce when she shops in person, despite the seasonal challenges.

III. Personal vs. Professional Fulfillment

A significant portion of the episode delves into the theme of personal versus professional fulfillment. The hosts pose a hypothetical question to their listeners:

WeezyWTF (25:00):

"Would you rather be very personally fulfilled or very professionally fulfilled?"

Mandii B shares her preference for professional fulfillment, emphasizing how her career provides her with financial stability and the ability to support her mother. She reflects on leaving a high-stress job at Ernst & Young to pursue her passion projects, which have since given her a sense of purpose and fulfillment.

Mandii B (26:39):

"Professionally fulfilled because I guess that means also my bank account is and so that is fulfilling for me... if you ask me this five years ago, when I was working 70 hours at EY... absolutely not. That wasn't fulfilling."

WeezyWTF discusses the complexity of achieving professional fulfillment without compromising personal well-being. She expresses concerns about the pursuit of money leading to personal dissatisfaction, drawing parallels with artist Basquiat's struggles between fame and personal happiness.

WeezyWTF (26:57):

"I haven't been so obsessed with hitting these professional marks that I stopped taking care of myself."

IV. Reaction to Relationship Dynamics Clip

The hosts react to a pre-recorded clip discussing whether women need partners who are "better" than them in various aspects such as intelligence, fitness, and success.

WeezyWTF (37:07):

"Maybe some women don't mind, but I mind. I need to be inspired by the guy. Otherwise, I'll eat them for breakfast."

Mandii B vehemently disagrees with the notion, advocating for equals in relationships regardless of traditional metrics of success.

Mandii B (38:08):

"I don't need a man to be richer than me or more successful than me... I don't need the alpha."

The discussion emphasizes the importance of mutual support and authenticity over hierarchical dynamics in relationships.

V. The History and Modern Perspectives on Contraception

The latter part of the episode dives deep into the history of contraception, blending historical facts with personal experiences. The hosts explore ancient methods, such as breastfeeding as a form of birth control and the use of natural substances like honey and cinnamon.

WeezyWTF (48:38):

"Women have a lot of language around it... list off as many as you can."

They list various modern contraceptive methods, including IUDs, pills, condoms, patches, implants, and emergency contraception, while sharing their personal preferences and experiences.

Mandii B (60:06):

"There's a non-hormonal one. I think that's the Copper IUD that Eden referenced."

WeezyWTF discusses the side effects of hormonal birth control, such as weight gain and mood swings, and her considerations for switching methods to manage these issues.

WeezyWTF (53:22):

"I'm getting this weird body dysmorphia and then the hormones are going crazy."

The hosts also touch upon the cultural and historical aspects of contraception, highlighting traditional methods and their implications.

WeezyWTF (56:34):

"They make a little mixture and stick it up there to block sperm... They didn't know back then, they just said, 'We don't want no baby.'"

VI. Closing Remarks and Announcements

The episode concludes with promotional segments, encouraging listeners to purchase tickets for their upcoming book tour and supporting their Patreon for more exclusive content. They also share their ongoing projects, including writing a feature film script and preparing for their book release.

Mandii B (63:12):

"If you buy tickets anywhere else in the venue, you can add the book as an add-on... Let's talk about the beautiful US Virgin Islands."

WeezyWTF signs off by inviting listeners to join their Patreon and upcoming book tour, reinforcing the community-driven aspect of their podcast.

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Notable Quotes

• WeezyWTF (02:32):
  "It's summertime beach. It's NYC... I wanted to fuck everybody."

• Mandii B (04:25):
  "The anxiety of grocery shopping has me like, I don't know how your adults feel because of the car..."

• Mandii B (26:39):
  "Professionally fulfilled because... when I was at EY... that wasn't fulfilling."

• Mandii B (38:08):
  "I don't need a man to be richer than me or more successful than me... I don't need the alpha."

• WeezyWTF (53:22):
  "I'm getting this weird body dysmorphia and then the hormones are going crazy."

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Key Takeaways

1. Balancing Personal and Professional Lives: The hosts emphasize the importance of finding a balance between professional success and personal well-being, advocating for careers that provide financial stability without sacrificing mental health.

2. Redefining Relationship Dynamics: Mandii and Weezy challenge traditional notions of partnership, promoting relationships based on mutual support and equality rather than hierarchical dominance.

3. In-Depth Contraception Education: The episode provides a comprehensive overview of contraception methods, blending historical practices with modern options, and discussing the personal impacts of different birth control methods.

4. Community and Authenticity: Throughout the episode, the hosts highlight the significance of authentic connections and community support, reinforcing the podcast's theme of challenging societal norms and fostering genuine relationships.

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Tune in to Decisions, Decisions every Monday for more candid conversations that push boundaries and explore the complexities of modern relationships, personal growth, and societal expectations.

Transcript

[Weezy]

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[Miles]

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[Weezy]

Welcome to Decisions Decisions.

[Mandy B]

I don't think you should say Decisions decisions. It sounded like you was talking in cursing.

[Weezy]

You definitely say to welcome.

[Mandy B]

Welcome to the new podcast.

[Weezy]

Oh wait, you want to say it together. Decision Decisions.

[Mandy B]

Welcome everybody to another episode of this is the Y' alls, this is the y' all. It's your girl Mandy B.

[Weezy]

It's your girl Weezy. Toes out. Get up. Bruck out. It's summertime beach. It's nyc. I want to tell y' all I got up at 6am today for a workout. I walked outside. I went on a long distance walk as Breonda calls them LDWs. The bitches is outside.

[Gabe]

L D W. And if you bitches.

[Weezy]

Thought anybody in the world could dress like these New York hoes, they don't. I was literally in sweatpants like, oh, you bitches are. They were waiting for 75 degrees. Oh yeah, looking gorgeous. Everybody just looks so fucking sun kissed. Even the men look better. I was just, ugh. I don't know if a sun makes me feel sexual, but I wanted to fuck everybody.

[Mandy B]

Everybody makes me sexual. I don't know. I don't know if sun makes me.

[Weezy]

Sexual, but you got me.

[Mandy B]

You were the same one who masturbated at Starbucks.

[Weezy]

It was in the car. Well, and don't bring up Starbucks now.

[Mandy B]

Did you buy here we go?

[Weezy]

Because I will not. I'm drinking culture espresso. Hopefully they're not culture vultures. I don't know who these people are, but.

[Gabe]

Oh really? Look at that.

[Mandy B]

Look at that. I mean I ain't going to hold you.

[Weezy]

I was having an ice shaking espresso.

[Mandy B]

Espresso with coconut milk this morning, but.

[Weezy]

I ain't going to drink it. But that shit is looking good. But I'm. Yeah, I want to remove one more company from my life. I really want to just like support shit. That's good. So maybe Starbucks will flip.

[Mandy B]

Well, Starbucks is good, bitch.

[Weezy]

Not for I be drinking people neither. Oh, I haven't been to Target in a minute, but that wasn't even a hard one actually.

[Mandy B]

Oh, I don't. I mean, even though I'm in Atlanta now, all of my groceries come to my door. Even though I got beef with Amazon right now and luckily I love them so much. Bitch, My fucking never happened a day in my life since I've been having my groceries be dropped the fuck off. My delivery person stole all my groceries.

[Weezy]

How do you know it's your delivery person?

[Mandy B]

Because they picked up all of my groceries. It's all been picked up. The only thing that wasn't in that they were able to find was my butter chicken sauce.

[Weezy]

How did you know it wasn't someone stealing from the front door?

[Mandy B]

It never got delivered, bitch. It said your thing is delayed and bitch, I kept seeing that her pin Was still in spawn of Sandy Springs. She never made it to my house. I got the alert that your groceries have been picked up. Then I got the alert that your groceries are running a little bit delayed. Okay, Bitch. She was parked at her house. And then Amazon, how they have it set up, you can go in and put from your order which items you didn't receive. There was no way for me to sit here and tell Amazon I never got my groceries at all. I'm still dealing with it five days later. And I'm pissed because it was $112 worth of groceries.

[Weezy]

I'm trying to figure out why you not going to put Publix. Because you got Publix in Atlanta.

[Mandy B]

First off, because you have Publix in Atlanta. Publix does not deliver. I know. I do everything from Amazon. I don't like grocery shopping. I don't know if I've told you guys here, I tried it. I went to whole Foods, I went to Kroger, I went to Publix. I don't know how y' all go into grocery stores. It is the most anxiety ridden task that I have ever experienced as an adult. And I was like, oh my God. First off, you don't even know what the total's gonna be until you get to the register.

[Gabe]

Yeah, Mandy, it's called shopping.

[Mandy B]

Hate it. I know what my cart total is as I'm dropping things in. And so I went. I mean, yeah, hold on. Literally, I went. The anxiety of grocery shopping has me like, I don't know how your adults.

[Weezy]

Feel because of the car.

[Mandy B]

No, no, it's not only the car. Let's be also very clear, because in.

[Weezy]

New York, I get it.

[Mandy B]

Well, no, let's be very clear too. Yes, I have to Uber to and from the grocery store. So before I even get there, there's 16 to $25 just to get in the club. No. So I don't really like to uber there and back, but I'm like. I go in there and it's like, oh. Like I am like literally. My heart starts racing, my hands start getting sweaty.

[Gabe]

Too many people.

[Mandy B]

I have to go down 20,000 aisles. And then here's the other thing. I go in there and I have my main things that I always get. I get my coffee, I get my green onions, I get all of my Asian ingredients. Cause I'm half Asian and you're half Asian. Uh huh. And then when I go to the grocery store, hear me out, bitch. I just start seeing other cool shit that I just start throwing in the Car.

[Weezy]

That's the point.

[Gabe]

That's the point.

[Mandy B]

Hate it. I picked up $13 truffle chili crunch.

[Weezy]

Was it good? It was all right.

[Mandy B]

It wasn't better than the honey one. I began.

[Weezy]

So. See, I actually think since I've been shopping at grocery stores more, because now that it's not winter, I'm not going crazy with ordering. But I realize I'm getting better produce. I'm getting better fruit, I'm getting better meat. Like, literally when that shit was coming to my door. Because they're giving you anything.

[Mandy B]

Yeah, they just nick it. Amazon fresh. Be fresh. And Whole Foods does deliver through Amazon. I don't know if y' all know.

[Gabe]

Like, yeah, they're all together.

[Mandy B]

So, like, I mean, to me, anytime I get produce, I'm only buying produce if I'm eating it that day or the next day.

[Gabe]

Oh.

[Mandy B]

Or I be real ghetto and just go ahead and get the ones that's already chopped up in the shit, which I know is bad quality anyways, but whatever. But no, I.

[Gabe]

And you're paying more.

[Mandy B]

The anxiety that I've had. I said ghetto. It's why we lost forever 21. It's why we've lost all these stores.

[Weezy]

We don't have groceries, everything.

[Mandy B]

No, no, no. What I'm saying is, though, everything is made so much more convenient online.

[Gabe]

You know, you mentioned this the other day, and I thought it was the funniest shit is the fact that she don't care about the whole egg shit.

[Mandy B]

Of course she don't, because she's fucking allergic.

[Gabe]

That's hilarious.

[Mandy B]

This is a real thing.

[Weezy]

And I said, no, but I know what's happening. I feel I've never heard you stress.

[Gabe]

Out about it, which makes sense now.

[Weezy]

Went to Whole Foods now that I know it's happening. Okay, can I be honest with you? This is gonna sound very bougie, but it's the truth.

[Gabe]

She just said she doesn't want to go grocery shopping.

[Mandy B]

That wasn't bougie. That was me talking about my mental health and anxiety.

[Weezy]

I used to find myself complaining about gas prices a lot when I was driving. But then I realized, like, you got to buy it anyway for food. That's the one thing where I'm like, fudge it if avocados is $3. But that's really a healthy choice I'm going to make, and I want to eat that. I'm not going to think about it. I treat food like spoiling myself, even in the grocery store. I love to get myself nice things in the grocery Store, like. But the grocery store is one of my favorite things.

[Mandy B]

Oh, I ain't even gonna hold you. I'll be on. I'll be on. I be on Amazon Fresh. I see the Amazon brand and another brand. $2. This giving Amazon I. And maybe this is because this is how my mama shop growing up. It's the same ingredients.

[Gabe]

It kind of is.

[Mandy B]

It's the same generic.

[Weezy]

It really is, like, literally for, like, condiments and shit. Yeah, I feel like, no.

[Mandy B]

A for.

[Weezy]

For the.

[Gabe]

For the veggies, like ear tips for Q tips. Like, if you just get the off brand, it's the same.

[Mandy B]

Hold on. That's not food, though.

[Weezy]

It don't matter.

[Mandy B]

Cause, like, let's be fair. I get the. I get the generic pharmaceuticals, like medicines and shit.

[Gabe]

Yeah.

[Mandy B]

Like ibuprofen, but for food and do the same. But yeah, that's. That's been my experience with being in the south, is that, yeah, I'm gonna keep my. My orders come into my door, and I hate that my groceries was just stolen.

[Weezy]

I went to Publix when we were. Before. We all met up for recording because I had extra time. I was so excited to shop. Georgia prices for food.

[Mandy B]

Oh, it's. It's not a day.

[Weezy]

I was like, strawberries for everybody. Pulled up right to the motherfucking rich crawl in Publix Bay.

[Mandy B]

Not in day 3.99.

[Weezy]

Um, speaking of food, so my mom just got in, so. By the way, I see where I get my Looney Tuni. She calls me on the phone after her flight, and she's like, did you tell Nina I'm coming? And I'm thinking to myself, for those of you who've never heard this show before, don't know who Nina is. She's my dog. I said, what do you mean, you know? Did you say, grandma's coming? So she knows? Did you tell her? I tell my dog when you guys are coming. I say, your sister's coming, and so is Nina. Like, yo, my mom nuts. Then Nina's losing her mind when my mom walks in the door. My mom's like, I knew you didn't tell her.

[Mandy B]

What the fuck did you think I did?

[Weezy]

Had a conversation with this motherfucker.

[Mandy B]

How would she know whether.

[Weezy]

But I will say this. Nina does know Grandma. She does. She'll. Her ears will perk up.

[Mandy B]

But anyway, yeah, my cat, the only.

[Weezy]

Thing now she say, daddy, she be.

[Mandy B]

Like, only thing my bode knows is wanna eat. He will beat my ass down the stairs. He will run like, yeah, bitch, feed Mijo wanna eat is the only thing he knows. He will run all the way down, stand at the door like he's like a dog.

[Weezy]

It's good though, when like dogs and cats, like, or animals period. Is no, like, like they know English. So, yeah, speaking of food, Jewel is gonna be coming with me to meet her African American side of the family. So my. Or not African, my bad. Her African side of the African American family. So basically my boyfriend's dad's birthday's coming and him and his brothers bought him a new car. Okay. So they're gonna do a little house thing. And he was like, yeah, it's a great time for our parents to meet. So my mom is so nervous. She's trying to act like she's not nervous, but she is nervous, girl. She's like, and what do I call them? Their name girl. They just like, they can call you. That's it. Okay, what will we be eating? Should I get ready to eat? What kind of food are we going to have? And I'm just like, yo, African. African food is real serious, you know what I'm saying? Like, I just don't want my mom to be like, I just have the rice. Like, I don't know how it's going to.

[Mandy B]

You gotta have the conversation with her going in.

[Weezy]

I am, I am.

[Mandy B]

Cause there's ways to like disrespect the family, especially about what's in the kitchen and the food. So like, there's not a, there's not a. Let me see how she act. Bitch. There needs to be a conversation.

[Weezy]

My mom's a grown ass woman. She's not disrespectful. But I'm just going to prep her on like, what the foods look like more. So like, my mom would never go to anybody's home and just be like, ew.

[Mandy B]

But not ew. But even not wanting to eat everything, I think there's. And I'm not calling her disrespectful at all, but knowing that there's ways in which different cultures are. And you're like, oh, maybe she won't like it because you know what your mom likes and doesn't. Like just letting her know, like, it's gonna be.

[Weezy]

No, no. I wanna like really like show her pictures.

[Mandy B]

Yeah. Like this is what you eat with your hand and you dip it into this soup. And this soup. The first time that I love okra soup. Oh my God, that's my favorite mom.

[Weezy]

His mom is a pepper soup girl. She do be fries her chicken though. So Jewel Gonna be fine. But I remember I was eating at a wedding, and I took a spoon.

[Mandy B]

To eat this soup, okay.

[Weezy]

And his aunt looked at me straight, watch. Why do you use that spoon? And then she started looking at him like, tita, uh, oh, what is. What is this? And I'm so embarrassed. Then she's sitting there getting a pound of yam out her bag as if they didn't have it already at the buffet to show me what to do. Mind you, I just recently learned some of the yam has egg mixed in it or some of the. The dough.

[Mandy B]

Oh.

[Weezy]

So, you know, it's just very embarrassing to say to anybody. I have an allergy. They're like, shut the fuck up, girl. Like, what you talking about? A lot of the dumplings that has egg in it.

[Gabe]

Damn, that sucks.

[Weezy]

Mind you, this thing is dope. It's to me, when I go somewhere else and the other family be like, here go this hole.

[Mandy B]

I be like, egg is something that. I mean, right now, it's dealing with the dairy shit. But for me, African food. And when I went to Nigeria with my best friends. My best friend's allergic to shellfish, bitch. They season their shit with, like, the dried shrimp.

[Gabe]

Oh, shit.

[Weezy]

Really?

[Mandy B]

She couldn't eat goddamn thing.

[Weezy]

Do you guys like African food?

[Gabe]

I do like African food.

[Mandy B]

Love African food.

[Weezy]

I like certain types of African food.

[Mandy B]

I like the poker soup, the egusi jollof rice. I ain't gonna hold y' all. Y' all could come fight me. I don't care.

[Weezy]

It.

[Mandy B]

Ghana had better food than Nigeria. To me.

[Gabe]

Yikes. You are trying to start problems.

[Weezy]

I would say I even enjoy Ghanaian food.

[Mandy B]

I really enjoy Ghanaian food.

[Weezy]

But I don't like fishy, fishy, fishy stuff.

[Mandy B]

And they.

[Weezy]

And I've been experiencing a lot of fishy, fishy, fishy, fishy, fishy, fish. Nigeria.

[Mandy B]

Yeah, it's cultural. Well, sometimes you didn't say it was bad. But also, like, they put different meats in the. In the soups. So sometimes it's beef or chicken. But they do do a lot of fish in the soups too. Yeah, that could be it. Yeah.

[Weezy]

Everything's been in.

[Mandy B]

Because I don't think they use fish sauce like Asia, baby. I would walk into some, order some, want some, and be like, this is chicken. Why it smell like fish?

[Weezy]

You know what I also learned, too, about just like. So when we went to his parents house to cook gumbo that one time, I was like, fuck. I didn't bring any seasonings, but I know your mama got it this African house. He was like, I don't think you know what you saying, bitch. My mama got African shit. What type of fucking spicy ass gumbo you trying to make?

[Mandy B]

Oh, not only that. The way they make their. The way they season their food is a lot of them making their own. Like, they put. Hello. Roasted peppers and this and that.

[Weezy]

They make, like their own water bottle. You know, Latinos do that too.

[Mandy B]

They own, like, sofrito. The sofrito.

[Weezy]

Yeah, it's.

[Mandy B]

It's gonna be cute.

[Weezy]

They have that in Nicaragua.

[Gabe]

Do you guys like sazon?

[Weezy]

I love sesame.

[Mandy B]

The orange powder. That thing. A little salty, though.

[Gabe]

Little heavy salty.

[Mandy B]

It's like.

[Gabe]

It's killing us.

[Weezy]

It's. It.

[Mandy B]

Oh, I ain't gonna hold you. My homegirl cooked for Easter. My arm. What? I turned into big arm. My arm. I ate them greens. I said, you need to dilute these bitches. She has some Puerto Rican adobo with. Adobo with. Because Crystal doesn't eat meat. So she's like, it's cool. I'll season it without meat. That bitch seasoned it with the whole cabinet. I said, uh, girl, I like everything. I can't touch these greens, baby.

[Weezy]

Yeah.

[Mandy B]

Love you. Taylor was not touching them greens. I was like, blood pressure high.

[Gabe]

I feel like you might have mentioned this before, but did you develop this egg allergy or you already had it since a child?

[Weezy]

No, I had it as a kid. I think they found out at a Ponderosa for one of my birthday parties when they threw a cake on me.

[Mandy B]

Oh, yeah, I found out.

[Gabe]

Oh, it takes you to that. To the touch.

[Mandy B]

Oh, no, no, no, nigga. I took her to a soul food restaurant. Forgot they put eggs and baked Mac and cheese. Not all of them, but this whole almost most of them. This whole almost died.

[Gabe]

It holds. It lets it.

[Mandy B]

It holds it in the bake.

[Gabe]

Yeah.

[Weezy]

If it ain't got egg and parachute. Not the rasta pastas.

[Mandy B]

No, no, no. I said baked Mac and cheese. Whole food style. Rasta pasta don't count as baked Mac and cheese. Both baked Mac and cheeses have the egg.

[Gabe]

Yeah.

[Weezy]

This is a debate that the community can have if they want.

[Mandy B]

Uh.

[Weezy]

Oh, do you put eggs in your motherfucking Mac and cheese? Thanksgiving coming around deep for the egg in it. Yes or no?

[Gabe]

A baked Mac and cheese.

[Mandy B]

And if they don't, they're probably Jamaican. And then it's macaroni pie.

[Gabe]

That's insane.

[Mandy B]

Cause that's dry. And they're my own people, so I could come and talk. Talk about it.

[Weezy]

Look at that we barely had curse words. Let's talk about sex. Well, guys, we've been playing a new game where it actually happened on accident. So Mandy and I, when we're doing our outlines, lately, up until pre order time for no hold marks, we talking about. We've been picking out excerpts and diving into them. But then we just discovered this new game where we're picking numbers and reading from the page. Pick a Number up to 296. 286.

[Mandy B]

Sorry, bit the boo. 45.

[Weezy]

47. Oh, it's actually my chapter about the Kinsley scale and it's the diagram of it because I was talking about how I was unsure about my sexuality when I was younger. And here's a few sentences. Apparently none of us are super straight or super gay. But for me, my gayness is on how hot you are at home. My porn searches got increasingly more raunchy as I grew in age. Girl on girl videos were always top of the list during my teenage years with strap ons, pussy licking, fingering, tripping, scissoring, and sometimes even breastfeeding.

[Gabe]

Let's do one. 23.

[Weezy]

Myles, you gotta get number two. Okay, hold on. 123. Oop. Not wheezy again. Oh. Oh, God.

[Gabe]

Go on.

[Weezy]

This is the Dom chapter.

[Gabe]

Oh, yeah, it is.

[Mandy B]

Shut up.

[Weezy]

Nate stood in front of me. I could smell him as he came up to me with my blindfold on. I. I heard his belt buckle unlatch the zip as he pulled the zipper down. When he said to me, open your fucking mouth.

[Gabe]

Oh, my heavens.

[Weezy]

I started to laugh because frankly, how am I supposed to do that if I can't find his dick to grab it? Miles, your turn.

[Mandy B]

40.

[Weezy]

Hope it's a Mandy chapter. Thank God it's a Mandy.

[Gabe]

Pause line, please.

[Weezy]

Chapter. Ooh. Okay. When shooting your shot, these are the things I remember so I can be very. Do you know you're number one?

[Mandy B]

Except no.

[Weezy]

The worst they could say is no. Yup.

[Mandy B]

Love it.

[Weezy]

Everyone is not for everyone. This is a cute one. It's fine to be corny sometimes. And embarrassment typically doesn't last very long. Yep, that's a good one.

[Gabe]

That's a really good one.

[Weezy]

That is a good one. There's a lot of sex in this book.

[Mandy B]

I think that's my thing with like shooting the shot. I think for me it's the two things. Rejection and embarrassment.

[Gabe]

100%.

[Mandy B]

It's as soon as you are mature enough to handle rejection and to know that embarrassment has more to do with your own ego. And most people don't give a fuck. And I probably actually learned that from living in New York so long. Everybody just be minding their own motherfucking business a hundred percent. Like, bitch, if you fall. No one's laughing. They're not gonna help you up. They don't care. They're not gonna remember you one minute from now. And it's literally just like a. As soon as you could get out of your head about thinking that, everyone's laughing at you. Embarrassment is done in 10 seconds.

[Gabe]

But, boy, will that replay in my brain 10 years from now. That happened to me. Does that not happen to y' all?

[Weezy]

Oh, oh. He's saying if he's the one who.

[Gabe]

Fell, if I'm the one, that some embarrassing shit happened to me.

[Mandy B]

Oh, I'm gonna. Wait, wait, wait. So I'm saying that embarrassment is something that you get over quickly. You're saying that if something embarrassing happened.

[Gabe]

To you, you get over it at that moment.

[Mandy B]

Wait, but you're saying that you relive it in the future?

[Gabe]

Hell yeah. That shit comes back to me. What I think about it, like, I'll be. It'll be like three in the morning, and then I'll be thinking about something I did that I was like, oh.

[Weezy]

Do you know what I like about recently? This was so embarrassing. Me and my man went out, we were partying crazy. And I was like, let's go to an after party. And I am cringing. This was only two weeks ago. Thinking about approaching the after party door. And they wouldn't let me in because I didn't have some type of idea. I don't remember what it was. And I literally was at the door like, I don't understand.

[Mandy B]

What is the problem?

[Weezy]

My friends are in there. And I was like, oh, my God, bro. It kept me up the other night. I was like, just sitting in the bed thinking about how fucking stupid I was at the River Bar.

[Mandy B]

You getting your id?

[Weezy]

No, just our approach. I guess it was something about how I went up to the door. I had a wristband on from earlier, but then I didn't show my id. And I was like, huh? I don't know what it was. I was so wasted, bitch. But I was really outside of that damn door with the door closed, talking to the little after party people, like.

[Mandy B]

Let me in, let me in.

[Weezy]

Then my boyfriend's like, I'm going to get the card. I was like, but we could still get in. Hey, then.

[Gabe]

See, that's a thought that plays at 3am that's crazy.

[Weezy]

What if someone knew me. Oh, What a bird.

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[Weezy]

So, hypothetical question. Would you rather be very personally fulfilled or very professionally fulfilled? And when you answer, what defines that? Some people define professionally fulfilled as being super wealthy.

[Mandy B]

It's so crazy because I I just talked about this with shit with my friends and it was just a recent conversation. I am fulfilled professionally. I think it's one of the things that I am most proud of. And so it is something that if you want to attack me, attack how I operate or run a business or how I show up with work or how I show up amongst like you know, in a work setting. Personally, there's so much I think things I'm working through and I'm grateful that I'm working through as an adult. But life and my growth and the change and all of that things comes in waves for me. I professionally fulfilled because I guess that means also my bank account is and so that is fulfilling for me. Like to be able to pay all of my bills, to be able to make sure my mom's life is easy in any way I can make it easy for her and just to be able to live and exist and do the things I want to do. So maybe my professional falls into my personal because I'm able to naturally travel and take breaks and do the things I like. But I'd rather be professionally fulfilled.

[Gabe]

I too would rather be professionally fulfilled. Cause it's like personally fulfilled. I've been. There's been situations in my life where I've been just personally fulfilled. But then I feel like it's momentary and then I get over it and then I want the next thing. But the way to get the next thing is to be professionally fulfilled and getting shit done and getting again financially supported.

[Mandy B]

That's something that I actually used to. That I had to work on in moments of solidarity or silence or just taking some time away. I would wake up and be miserable if by the end of the day, I didn't feel productive. So, like, there's. There's days where, okay, whole day, I'm not leaving the house, but I'm gonna send some emails out. I'm gonna work on my schedule. I'm a. I may, even if I have nothing really to do, say, it's a fucking Saturday, so I know no one's gonna email me on Sunday. They not gonna get to me till Monday. I'll literally wake up and start putting things into my calendar for the next week so I know what I'm doing, which I think sets me up professionally. Like, that's. That fulfills me to just be professionally ready and settled. What about you?

[Weezy]

I'm thinking about just. Yeah, like, personally fulfilled. Like, I don't know when I'm thinking personal, because when you mentioned vacation, I'm like, well, that's true. Like, I love being able to do what I want. But the thing that's detaching me from professional is I got a lot of rich, miserable people I know. And I measure professionally fulfilled as to money. I do. Unless you're creating art. Literally, I think paintbrush to paper. Like, I mean, it's no secret I love Basquiat. I have him tattooed all over my left side of my fucking body. Like, I've read so much about the money and the recognition from his paintings and where his brain was kind of like, he wanted more. I need my shit in museums. So people enjoy this every day. Then. Now all these millionaires come into my loft on Jones street and they're just like, you know, betting on each other how much it's going to be worth. And that's when he started throwing paint on shit. Or when you see faces of Basquiat crossing things out. He just wanted to devalue things because he knew he was so popular. I bring that up because professional is money. But personal, like, I don't know. I feel like sometimes in the heights of my life, with success, I've been. I've hated myself a little bit. For me, professionally, personally fulfilled is like, really waking up happy, loving everything about myself, loving everyone around me, which I feel right now, but also feeling like the productivity is my life. Like, did I have a good day? Was I healthy? Was I doing this? Was I making strides for myself? I kind of lose that. The busier and the more shit ramps up for work. I think my health dwindles. My beauty even dwindles. I start to get not enough sleep, and I realize, like, I'm feeding the wrong beast because I'm so obsessed with hitting these professional marks that I stopped taking care of myself.

[Mandy B]

And see, that's where I feel like what you said, bringing up Basquiat solidified what I said. What. What I do professionally is art. Yeah, There's. There's the management side of it, but having selective ignorance and figuring out what episodes and guests and that is creating art for me. I'm also working on scripts right now, which is so fulfilling. I'm working on a fucking feature film script, and it's like I'm creating life. Literally, I'm creating beings.

[Weezy]

What if millions of people listen to your show? Because this would dictate it, right? Let's just say you had the volume of Call Her Daddy listeners, but there was maybe, like, a red X on Mandy B. Because you did something wrong.

[Mandy B]

Bitch. There's a red X on me every week on that.

[Weezy]

You can't make money from. Advertisers won't work with you. Let's just say that, right? People are consuming this, and they love what you're talking about, but you're not seeing money from it.

[Mandy B]

I'm not seeing money from selective ignorance right now.

[Weezy]

I'm talking about, like, period.

[Mandy B]

Sis is a passion project that I feel like literally saved my best friend's life. I've created official box owner, made me great money during the pandemic, but I've had projects that I haven't seen money from. And so that's where.

[Weezy]

But is it professional fulfillment?

[Mandy B]

No. So it. So it is. Because it's what I do for a living. I do believe maybe eventually I can see money from all of it. Definitely selective ignorance coming soon. Got an announcement. But I don't do it with, like, I'm not gonna do it unless I make money. I have over 100 episodes of periods. This. I feel like it was transformative. I've said professionally. Right now, I'm living in my legacy professionally. Like this podcast, what we've done, how we've changed lives with even all my other platforms and things that I've created, my professional life has given me purpose. So because of that, like, I'm. I'm fulfilled by it, and I'm grateful, because if you asked me this five years ago, when I was working 70 hours at fucking Ernst & Young, fucking doing K1s for tax season, absolutely not. That wasn't fulfilling. And I Say it all the time. Like, I remember when I left ey and I got to talk to my partners because, bitch, I quit in the middle of K1 season. And they was like, can you give me two more weeks? And I'm a good person. I didn't have to, but I did. I gave them two more weeks after my two week notice because they really needed to get through the season. And so I literally was going on lunch with the partners and the senior managers and they were all telling me, like, I used to be in theater with my friends, I used to do this on the weekends. I missed going to softball. And literally I was expressing to them that we were literally, we sold out Caroline's. And they were like, wow, you're getting to create something that gives you money to where you're quitting a career to go do that. And they were also jealous because though they make all the money in this wonderful career, all the things that made them happy isn't what they were making money and surviving from. So professionally, I'm able to live the life I want to do, literally doing what I like. My teachers are probably gagging that I'm literally making money from talking because, bitch, I wouldn't shut up. Bitch, you don't know how to read. I'm going to read the script for you. And now I'm motherfucking writing a book. So everything professionally that I've been doing over the last five, six, seven, eight years has been fulfilling. And when I've gotten to a point where it wasn't fun for me anymore, I made pivots or like, even with the rebrand of this show, like, it was impacting my personal life so much that I was like, we fucking grew something so amazing. How can we pivot to where I love what I'm doing again? Because a part of it, like, kind of was debilitating me. And so even with the rebrand, having.

[Weezy]

Fun with that, writing the book right now, actually, I feel the opposite about the rebrand. I felt that, I feel really grateful that we can reach more people. But I also feel like so much of the conversation I have in the book, if I do an interview things I preach to people about authenticity, There's a small part of me, even though I know it's not true, that feels like I removed it a little bit. I know that the reality of keeping a brand alive, keeping people paid, has to come with changing, but it's not one that felt natural to me. There's not really another project I've made in my life. That felt as unnatural and it was very difficult. I mean, obviously, like, the whole discourse from people was tough, but more so. Just like, I think that as we're growing and aging, it's obvious, but I don't know if it connected to me as much maybe being with you. Our dynamic has been horrible for so long that this new part is weird now. It feels more normal. But I definitely was just like, what is going on? It's also this weird thing of that is professional growth is changing a brand, turning it around into something else. Everyone does rebrands, everyone changes things. Why am I so attached to this thing? And I'm not sure why? Maybe because Horrible Decisions doesn't feel like a company to me. It feels like something I'm making or a conversation. So when it shifted, it fucked me up a little bit. But.

[Mandy B]

But even though we didn't get rid of it, like, do you feel more excitement with our Patreon content? Like, because we're still talking sex and raunch and Keek over there. We just had on sex with Ashley and we have on people from the sex clubs and.

[Weezy]

Right, right, right.

[Mandy B]

So do you. Are you excited more with the Patreon concept that we're doing then?

[Weezy]

It's not even the excitement level. More than I know. Some people still don't know where Horrible Decisions is. Some people.

[Mandy B]

Sorry. That they don't know how to read or. Or listen because they say it every.

[Weezy]

Week or they're not frequently.

[Mandy B]

Patreon.com Horrible decisions.

[Weezy]

I think also the amount of people that listen on a regular feed versus Patreon is obviously different. There is a weird part of me that wouldn't have done it either way. Because making this book, if that was the way that it had to be done, duh. There's so many moments where I forget we made a book until it's in my hands.

[Mandy B]

Because it ain't really out yet, bitch. June 24th.

[Weezy]

Or until someone like one of my friends reads it or just has a call back to me about the book. My friend Gabby, I just gave her her copy and she's like, it's so weird reading about. I think she tagged you in it. Reading you and Mandy on pages, like, it's just weird. She's like, I've known you since the beginning of the show, but just seeing your name even at the top, it's so fucking mind fucking. I'm like, I know. I feel like I'm gonna have a real moment in a bookstore, but yeah, that type of stuff has, you know, made me Feel sticky. And as far as professional fulfillment, it's interesting. I think the biggest thing I feel fulfilled from isn't even myself. It's really just like other people. There's so many people, like, been behind on rent, people that have worked for us. One of our employees used to be homeless. I remember when I found that out, I was like, what? Like, it's shit like that that makes me feel like, damn. To be able to create something but also do all this for other people, that feels good. Look at what the fuck Ryan Coogler just did. Y' all know Sinner's my personality till the end of the year. Like, all Miles Canton who played Sammy in there. Like, all these people that are gonna have a new life because you had an idea in your head, that feels really, really good. So. But still, I feel like that's personal stuff because I'm a little.

[Gabe]

The professional fulfills the personal, though.

[Mandy B]

Thanks.

[Weezy]

Okay, let's get into a reactionary clip. So I. I want to know if you instantly agree or instantly disagree. You know, white women in new hotels with these look, clickbaity things. Women need someone better than them, smarter than them, fitter than them, bigger than them, more inspiring than them, more successful than them. Otherwise, where's the attraction? It's true.

[Eden]

I'm.

[Weezy]

I know.

[Mandy B]

I'm asking.

[Weezy]

Maybe some women don't mind, but I mind. I need to be inspired by the guy. Otherwise, I'll eat them for breakfast. I mean, I'll finish them off in 24 hours. I just. You know, I also need someone to handle me. And only an Alpha or a double alpha can do that. Do you need someone better than you?

[Mandy B]

Bitch, I f that clip. So goddamn stupid. She's so goddamn stupid.

[Weezy]

Do you need someone better than you?

[Mandy B]

First off, most men will be stronger than you. I don't need a man to be richer than me or more successful than me. And all of those things. I think I needed those when I knew I lacked. I don't think I need to be with a person who inspires me to be a better person, because that's work that I feel like I should be doing on my own.

[Weezy]

Really? I don't.

[Mandy B]

I absolutely don't.

[Weezy]

Wait, that really surprised me because I feel like that's such a thing we hear even, like, you think of wedding vow. Like, you inspire me to be better. You make me better. Like, yeah.

[Mandy B]

Like, I mean, that could be. That could be true. But I don't seek that in a partner. I don't need the alpha. I don't need A man to handle me. She even says, I need him to handle me. Bitch, are you a child? You need a handler. Are you at the zoo?

[Weezy]

Damn, girl. I know to me I think she sounds ridiculous. But then when I sat with myself, I was like, okay, yeah, no, I.

[Mandy B]

Have friendships spanning 10, 15 years. They don't inspire me. I enjoy them. They're their own people and we have fun together. We journey through and adventure through life together. But we both have our own.

[Weezy]

Like your friends don't push you forward, encourage you. They have to inspire you in some way.

[Mandy B]

That's supporting me. That's not inspiring.

[Gabe]

I think there's a difference of the two. Right. Even with. I like the friend conversation as well.

[Weezy]

I was thinking about friends too. Yeah.

[Gabe]

For what she's saying, I think it's lurking for or looking for someone for those things comparatively to when you get them naturally. Right. So like my friends, when I found my friends, I was like, I need someone who's supportive and et cetera and holds me down and blah blah, blah. But gracefully through our synergy, like it worked out. And they are supportive. They do inspire me because they naturally came to that with my relationship. Not that I go even for me looking for a partner with a woman. Right. To answer your initial thing, I would say no, I don't think a woman needs to have someone who's more powerful.

[Mandy B]

Especially in 2025, even more successful. Like to me, success is subjective. Like how we view success is different.

[Weezy]

It could be a money thing. I do agree though, because I agree that success could be subjective. I think in my relationships, almost all of them were better than me and something that I wanted and I needed them to be. So for example, all of my partners, better physique, better eating habits, better fitness, health all around knowledgeability. Every single one, not been with one lazy nigga. All of them are better than me at their like. And I wanted my fitness intact for a long time. Shit. It's why I lowkey built a gym by my career. But I think that those are things that are attractive to me because they do inspire me. Like when my man is in the middle of a hotel room doing calisthenics and fucking grabbing a band and finding a way to work out. But I'm in the bed, I'm like, oh yeah, I'm up for example. One kidding measure.

[Mandy B]

I think I go to the gym, I'm like, nap time.

[Weezy]

I can even measure up. One could argue that Vinny or I could be more successful than Vinny because I've done maybe More things professionally. However, Vinny inspires me a lot when it comes to how to show up and move forward for people, especially those in my face. Vinny really takes me to a place when I'm around him where I'm like, damn, am I that great of a friend? Like, Vinny will stop by someone's any anything, even if he's exhausted. He just really puts himself out there. He'll give a lot of himself. Every single one of them inspire me. My friends that are have more or less, I think as far as a partner, if you had nothing that was inspiring to me, I don't think it would work. I also think in terms of alpha, I think the language is very like, red pill, but oh, yeah, like, I'll act like a fucking baby bro if I can't. If I'm having a tough time with work, I need to know my nigga can pick this shit up. For example, fucking terrible week with book signing or not book signing, when we had like mad pages to do or whatever, he had to get my life. Inject baby. What's on the list? Show me your calendar. And he's fucking coming through for me.

[Mandy B]

I just love the support and community that I have. I don't look for people to be in my life, which is why this video was specific to partners. I personally can be with a partner that's less successful than me, that has less money than me, that isn't better than me, and we just form, I don't know, a fucking unit together and make each other better. Like, my ex was retired, so his life was completely like. He felt like he did all the things and ticked all the boxes and did all the accomplishments he had to. Was he inspiring? No. But we fucked with each other for fucking three years. So, like, to me, I love that we could sit here and I guess agree to disagree. You need someone that you're inspired by or that is better than you. For me, I'm saying I heard that clip. I was disgusted by it. I'm fine with more of a submissive man as well, though. I believe that submissive men or men who show up with acts of service or, you know, aren't the. The making everyone in the room know that they're there. I like more submissive guys, but it doesn't take away from their ability to be a man. Which again, might be my problem with this alpha term because to me, someone who shows up with emotional intelligence, who shows up with acts of service to make my life better and doesn't lead like the alpha in which I know it to be based on the patriarchy works for me.

[Weezy]

I think there's healthy masculinity too. We see, like, I have alpha energy, right? But I'm not like super toxic. I think that's another reason it's been difficult for me to date men that are a little too submissive because it tends to make me feel more, I guess, manly. Like, for example, there was a conversation we had once with like pulling out the card or the check and things like that. I'm so extroverted and have like that dominant leader energy already. I don't really like that dynamic sometimes in love because I tend to not enjoy or respect the relationship that much. I like to see those qualities, like in my everyday life. I have employees, I'm handling business, my parents are my kids. I can't also be the leader sometimes in love. There has to be one place where I think I take a step back. I think I feel a little too dominant in every situation. So for me, I feel a lot of my love from being able to be super femme. Like, I kind of enjoy almost taking like a step back a little. It's the way that I can feel almost like princess treatment type shit.

[Mandy B]

I guess we're tripping over words a bit. I don't take the masculinity away from any man I'm with if they're showing up with me in ways in which we don't normally associate to masculinity. Which is why I brought up acts of service being more of a domestic thing. Um, yeah, I just. Based on that video though, I would say I disagree. And I hate everything she said. You agreed. You guys can write in the comments. How do you feel? Do you need your partner to be stronger, more powerful?

[Weezy]

We all want them to be richer. Let's keep it a buck.

[Mandy B]

Do you need your partner to be that way with you or something else? Do you agree or disagree? Let us know in the comments.

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[Weezy]

So we had a YGD a few weeks ago where this guy said he was reverse stealthing his girlfriend because she was saying come at me, get me pregnant and he was putting spermicide on his dick in the middle of it. I think we started looking up spermicide or how it works and I was like, oh my God, we should talk about contraception. So contraception as we know it. Birth control. But it's any kind of method or device to prevent pregnancy So I feel.

[Mandy B]

Like doing the whole history of contraception.

[Weezy]

Uh huh. And a little bit of birthing practice because we got some time.

[Mandy B]

Not birthing practice.

[Weezy]

So family planning. In some cultures, even abortion is, you know, Abortion is a form of birth control.

[Mandy B]

Yep.

[Weezy]

Women have a lot of language around it. I want to ask the guys, can you tell me how many forms of birth control? You know, list off as many as you can, and then. Miles.

[Gabe]

Different forms of birth control. Like I could. Okay. All right, sure. The. So what is it? I was gonna say iud. Am I wrong with her?

[Weezy]

There you go.

[Gabe]

IUD the pill.

[Mandy B]

I've been poked.

[Gabe]

All right. I have, bruh. How you do the pill? Condoms.

[Weezy]

Okay.

[Gabe]

Female condoms. Can you do male?

[Weezy]

Female condoms.

[Gabe]

Spermicide, I'd say, is one.

[Weezy]

Okay, you have five.

[Gabe]

Does a new ring count?

[Weezy]

NuvaRing counts. It's on here.

[Gabe]

There's different types of the IUD, right? There's like a copper one and there's another one.

[Mandy B]

Oh, Nick, you what?

[Weezy]

How do you know all, bro?

[Mandy B]

You work at a Planned Parenthood?

[Gabe]

No, I just know I gotta protect myself.

[Mandy B]

He's like, I've been working with y' all for about seven years now. I take care some.

[Gabe]

Yeah, yeah. And then what else? The fucking. The patch.

[Weezy]

Whoa, dude. There's like, literally. What else are you missing?

[Gabe]

Well, patch or. But there's an insert, though, right?

[Weezy]

The arm?

[Gabe]

Yeah. Is that the same thing?

[Mandy B]

And then the shot, the Dep. Rivera was actually recently. Which. I'm so glad I was gonna get it. Do not get it. If you worried about. Wait, now. It's weight. It's mood swings. It's skin. That's why I know about the depot is one of. I think they just actually ended it because of some, like, lawsuit, bro. Let me look it up. Hold on. I do actually want. Bro. The depot. Do not. I'm telling you right now. I was off of my period for a whole year, bitch. When my period got back on you, I only took two shots, which is six months, because you take it every three months. This is when I was 18 years old. I didn't have a period.

[Weezy]

That was the last time I had it.

[Mandy B]

I didn't have a period for a year. When I got back on it, mind you, I thought I was pregnant. I was like, what the fuck is happening, bitch? I bled for two months straight. But during it, my skin, it was in the same spaces. It was from the shot. And I mean, at the time. I mean, y' all know I've always dealt with my weight. Easily 15 pounds and to this day, my friend blames the shot into her outburst is the reason why her and her relationship ended. Like it made her so, like, savage.

[Weezy]

Oh, well, I don't know what could make me worse. I'm a bitch. That nigga looked at me the other day and said, I'm gonna go walk the dog. And I'm like, you have some time. I was like, I don't know why you.

[Gabe]

That's the thing. It's like. So I don't know if I'm sure you guys have seen it before, but.

[Mandy B]

Bitch, it's class action.

[Gabe]

What does that mean?

[Mandy B]

Let me get some goddamn money. Hold on.

[Weezy]

I was on it, too.

[Mandy B]

Depo vera lawsuit.

[Weezy]

What? Years. I was on it.

[Mandy B]

I was on it. Yeah, 2009 as well. There's a lawsuit right now. The time is running out to file a claim. Um. Oh. But in order for you to be a part of this. Damn. And this is a 2025 lawsuit? It is if you suffer from meningioma or a brain tumor.

[Gabe]

Oh, damn.

[Mandy B]

Yeah, bitch, don't get on that shit. I'm talking about weight gain and bad skin, right? I don't even know what meningoma is. Meningioma. Let me see what meningioma is.

[Gabe]

Netflix had a whole thing about birth control and I just watched it was like the whole history of it.

[Weezy]

Oh, that's how they motherfucking know.

[Mandy B]

Meningioma is another. Is another tumor. That one is found in your spinal cord.

[Gabe]

Oh, hell no.

[Mandy B]

It was causing tumors in brain and spinal cord.

[Weezy]

Okay, so anyway, let's get to another.

[Mandy B]

Don't do the depo, y' all. And if you have a brain tumor, now there is a class action lawsuit happening. Not really. Said if you have a brain tumor.

[Gabe]

Bitch, no.

[Weezy]

46 minutes. What?

[Mandy B]

Bitch, I'm trying to help them get some money. Cause they gotta deal with the brain tumor shit.

[Weezy]

Okay, so oral pills now. Contraceptive patches, rings. The implants in the arm, the injections. Male condoms, female condoms, diaphragm, spermicide, hormonal ID, copper, IUDs. Here are permanent contraceptions. Sterilization, which is very difficult for women to get. They want you to have like three kids and shit before they even do it. Vasectomies, other methods, emergency shout out to anyone.

[Mandy B]

Vasectomies.

[Weezy]

Fertility awareness based tracking methods, ovulation with temperature, which I'm considering doing. I'm just freaking out about it. And breastfeeding as a contraceptive can provide temporary protection against pregnancy. This is also breastfeeding, Breastfeeding this is also something that goes into things they used to do back in the day. So the reason I am on birth control.

[Mandy B]

Wait, wait, no. What did they say about the breast cancer?

[Weezy]

There's the history of it. So the reason I wanted to have birth control conversations, obviously this spermicide thing. I'm also on birth control. You guys have heard me talk about in my story how I'm on a crazy journey to lose weight. I gained 20 pounds on birth control. I don't think I've ever weighed. Ooh, look at the little stomach hanging out. I don't think I ever weighed 155 pounds in my life. But I'm here. It is what it is. Thank God. It just went to my butt and a little bit in my stomach, but I feel like I'm starting to see it everywhere. I'm getting this weird body dysmorphia and then the hormones are going crazy. So, yeah, if I can't lose no weight, I'm getting off of it and doing the temperature thing. So. Breastfeeding was the first form of contraceptive evidence dating back to thousand of years. In ancient civilizations, ancient Mesopotamia, Babylon and Egypt, wet nursing women would hire wet nurses, which basically mean those women would breastfeed. Those particular women, they were seeing statistics of women that weren't breastfeeding, getting pregnant quicker. So in early medical texts, breastfeeding, although linked to religious beliefs, was a way that women were keeping from getting pregnant. The rates have increased in the United States with extended periods of more than they used to be. Used to only be eight months. Now it's going up to a year and a half. And those who are breastfeeding are staying not pregnant longer.

[Mandy B]

All I know is my mama put her little titty in my mouth and my sister came right after me. Three months. She was pregnant three months after having me.

[Weezy]

I mean, I'm the biggest.

[Mandy B]

Me and my sister are a year and 20 days apart.

[Weezy]

Now, here's the craziest part. Breastfeeding is a form of birth control. It's called lam lactation and menonora method. When a woman is exclusively breastfeeding her infant for the first six months postpartum and is not having a period, 98% effective.

[Mandy B]

Well, duh, she ain't having a period, she ain't ovulating.

[Weezy]

Well, the breastfeeding apparently is delaying it. So that's what they're saying, like you can delay it by breastfeeding longer.

[Mandy B]

Was this back before they had this is right now, but they believe this right now. This isn't like from the people packed.

[Weezy]

His lamb right now. Isn't that crazy? It wouldn't be enough for me. But y' all will figure out why I'm on birth control in no Hills Bar. It is a wild.

[Mandy B]

I know so many people that get pregnant right after they have a baby and they breastfeeding the one they got.

[Weezy]

Honestly, I think it has to do something probably with temperature. Like, it's probably way more detailed. But that was the first form. So after that, in the BCs and shit, they also use honey and leaves and lint to be placed into the vagina. So basically.

[Mandy B]

Oh, I ain't putting them shits in the vagina.

[Weezy]

They'd make a little mixture and stick it up there to block sperm.

[Mandy B]

Like Laundromat lint.

[Weezy]

I mean, they didn't have that in the before Christ times.

[Mandy B]

So then what is lint? What is lint?

[Weezy]

Could be coming from lint anywhere. This could be lint the cat. Like, just. Okay, okay. Other birth control methods. Gummy substances to cover the mouth of the womb. The mouth of the womb was the cervix. This is in medical text, honey. Sodium carbonate applied to the inside of the vagina and a sticking agent. Ready for this. Made from crocodile shit.

[Mandy B]

And they was putting it in they coochie. We already know we can't put human feces. We can't go from ass to coochie.

[Weezy]

They ain't know that back then. They just said, we ain't want no baby. I don't care if this pussy. We don't even have showers up in here. All of their crocodile pussy was off. Cool. Long as they know baby eating.

[Mandy B]

No, I'm not putting.

[Weezy]

No, I think there's a lot of the thing, though.

[Mandy B]

A lot of them had to have had kidney infections and died.

[Weezy]

You have to think all the things. The lifespan wasn't that long, right?

[Mandy B]

But it's because they was putting shit.

[Weezy]

Everything we do right now, we just think is normal. Don't we use some kind of, like, pig shit in, like, makeup? Like, there's so much animal products, like jelly. Yeah, like, there's literally all of that stuff now. So if it was crocodile shit going to Yokuchi, you probably wouldn't even think it was your mama do it. Everybody was doing it.

[Mandy B]

Well, no, I mean, I'm back in the south, niggas are still eating chitinlets, so.

[Weezy]

Oh, my God. I mean, the book of Genesis also, the pullout method was something that God wanted.

[Mandy B]

No, it is not a lie.

[Weezy]

This is the book of Genesis.

[Mandy B]

Hall is he lying on God right now.

[Weezy]

This is referencing withdrawal as a method of contraception. When Onan spills his speed ejaculating onto the ground as so not to father a child with his deceased brother's wife, Tamar, not the Braxton. In China and India in the 7th century BC, there was a Chinese physician that was documenting semen retention. So in India and China, and this is probably another Kama Sutra thing too, maybe, but just period retention as to preserve the man's yang from the yin and yang. So yin and yang can be thought of the opposite forces contracting with each other. Your peace and your aggression type shit. So basically they would say, hey, when you have sex, keep it. Cause you're boosting up the yang. Right. Also in the Tang Dynasty, there are documents that there is a thousand gold contraceptive women. And these are women they would seek out to who didn't want to bear children anymore. And basically they would induce sterility, basically making them no longer able to get pregnant. And so they'd put oil and heat together for one day, mix up a mixture, take it orally, and they couldn't get pregnant anymore. Ruin their.

[Mandy B]

I'm not gonna lie. I need to know what that is, girl. What? I take that. That's just a little ingestible.

[Weezy]

Now. This one don't sound that good to me. Cause it don't just feel. It don't feel like it's enough. Cinnamon has been used in ancient traditional Mexican medicine. Arriba. And was very efficient as a contraceptive. Nahua women use parts of the plants with plants in Mexico at the time with cinnamon, eat it, and then were fucked.

[Mandy B]

So see, it's some Mexican plants and cinnamon, not just cinnamon.

[Weezy]

I was like, is it ayahuasca?

[Mandy B]

It's something. But the cinnamon probably just give it some taste.

[Weezy]

That's probably like dunk it in some cinnamon. You gonna have some crocodile shit, put a little cinnamon on it.

[Mandy B]

No, no, no, no, no. That was going in their coochie. They wasn' what do you think is.

[Weezy]

So a birth control that I've been recommended because I'm gaining weight because it's hormonal. Is the iud. But then I've been hearing horror stories for the iud. People say it hurts more than childbirth. Also, not to mention the little. The way people feel it, I just don't want it to knock out of place. Like, I'm just. I'm gonna just take this pill and be like.

[Mandy B]

I mean, there's a non hormonal one. I think that's the Copper one that Eden referenced. For me, it's condominium. That's what I use. I choose. And I've gotten comfortable doing. Especially because I'm finally in a place where my skin is the best it's ever been. I'm finally at my goal weight. I feel great. I ain't having no hormones. Fuck me up. I'll just get condom dick and I enjoy condom dick and it's fine.

[Weezy]

Ooh, There is one thing I wanted to mention. The only thing birth control is doing that is crazy. I have no more period pain. It is completely gone.

[Mandy B]

Well, yeah. That's why a lot of times they suggest the pills for women with endometriosis and fibroids. Because it can be so painful. Because they exist, those often make the symptoms. But the crazy thing, the cramping loss.

[Weezy]

The estrogen grows the fibroid, right? And I have a fibroid about 7 inches. And it's been shrinking. It went down to 6. My partner was like, that's so fucking weird. Because when we went to the doctor last year, it was bigger and you weren't on birth control. Now it's smaller with the estrogen feeding it. I think it all has to do with the fact that just the hormones are balanced. Like I never have been on birth control in my adulthood. Just teenage or like, you know that 19 year old age condoms for me. I'm having sex almost every day, so I feel like it's just not as shower sex. Like I just want something that makes me feel safer. And especially when you guys get into the book, you'll be like, oh, so I just, I don't know the pill, I'm gonna have to make it work. I'm on the treadmill hunt. I'm going crazy. Carbs, goodbye. I literally walk a different direction so that I don't go to my favorite pizza place. That's how difficult it is. The craziest thing too is basically what's happened to me on birth control with food. I want to eat and it's very loud. I find myself sneaking meals in my own home. I'll like repackage something. Like I ain't eat it. Cause I feel that much guilt.

[Mandy B]

Oh, damn.

[Weezy]

Like I'm hungry, bitch hungry. And it sucks because it's like you have to pick the lesser of two evils. So I don't know. Either I'm gonna keep these wide hips, y' all gonna see em on tour, or I'm gonna get skinny mini, and you're gonna be like, did she do Ozempic? Which by the way can't do that because you'll get pregnant.

[Mandy B]

Oh yeah, we did talk about that. All right, well if you haven't yet, y' all whizzy just mentioned tour. Make sure you go check out get our tickets buy the book nhbtour.com with the meet and greets purchased you will get a book. And if you buy tickets anywhere else in the venue, you can add the book as a add on. Just so you know too on tour they are signed copies so it'll be nice.

[Weezy]

Cause even if you pre ordered you could show up to the venue and you got another one there. Help us get to New York Times bestseller. I don't know how many times we gotta beg you out.

[Mandy B]

That's right. And if you are a fan and looking for more of the sex and Raunch and Nast, go on over to patreon.com horrible decisions because horrible Decisions still exists, hun. So just go on over there. You also get the video to our Wednesday drop of youf Got Decisions as well. Um, I also want to add because y' all been complaining on the YouTube what they said and I know there's a lot of ads in the audio feed. Thank you Eden. For this week's upload, you can now get ad free bleep free video and audio on Patreon. So again, head on over to patreon.com horrible decisions. Go to NHB tour.com and thank you guys for tuning in to another episode of Decisions Decisions.

[Weezy]

See you on the Patreon. Peace.

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