Decisions, Decisions Ep. 436: "Babies, Breakups & Big Secrets" (ft. SK & Mylin)

Podcast: Decisions, Decisions
Hosts: Mandii B and WeezyWTF
Guests: SK & Mylin
Date: September 1, 2025

Episode Overview

In this candid and laughter-filled episode, Mandii B and WeezyWTF welcome dynamic couple and content creators SK and Mylin. Together, they explore the realities of queer family-building, non-traditional relationships, breakups and healing, and the navigation of identity, parenting, and community. The conversation gets deeply personal as all four women dissect issues around queer parenting, sperm donation, sexuality, and the impact of evolving identities within long-term relationships, all while maintaining Decisions, Decisions' trademark blend of raunch, raw honesty, and comedic banter.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Introducing SK & Mylin: Queer Family & Online Presence

• Background: SK and Mylin are celebrated online for their openness around their love story and raising three sons as a queer couple. Both women have carried children, an experience that sparks curiosity and conversation online.
• Visibility Matters: Guests note the uniqueness and importance of sharing their family’s journey, as representation is rare for two-mom families where both partners have carried children.

2. The Relationship Origin Story: From Hesitation to Reunion

• Getting Together Wasn’t Linear
  • There was a three-year gap between when they met and began dating.
  • "It was quick, but it wasn't that quick…We didn't get together for three years." — Myelin [08:50]
  • Both had relationships with other women and went through breakups before uniting.
• Breakups, Growth, and Reconciliation
  • A dramatic breakup involved blocking and distance, until SK reached out to Mylin on her birthday two years later, leading to their reconciliation.
  • "She was on my mind heavy. And it was two years later, and I was like, I'mma just do it. When something's really heavy on my heart, I'm just like, just go with it." — SK [10:47]
• Breakup Drama:
  • Mylin recounts discovering her then-girlfriend was cheating with a woman who attended her birthday party, resulting in a tumultuous ending and eventual support from SK.

3. Arguing, Making Up, and Emotional Growth

• Disagreements:
  • Their long-term arguments are usually mature, focused on disagreements rather than fights or derogatory language.
  • "We don't, like, cuss at each other or like…It's very emotionally mature, for sure." — SK [18:14]
• Sleeping Arrangements During Disputes:
  • Despite disagreements, they never sleep apart: "I didn't get married to sleep separate. I don't ever sleep separate." — Myelin [22:47]
  • Mandii and Weezy debate the merits of needing space in a relationship, showing varied perspectives on conflict resolution.

4. Hall Passes & Open Relationships: Navigating Desire

• Their Hall Passes:
  • SK’s crush: Shannon Thornton ("She fine as hell. It's like unruly." — Myelin [25:19]),
  • Mylin professes her love for Keke Palmer.
• Views on Non-Monogamy:
  • It’s not a “hard no;” as their relationship evolves, so do their conversations about monogamy and openness.
  • "We are not who we were when we got married…if you look back, back before, this ain't who I walked down the aisle to." — SK [27:47]

5. Evolving Identities & Relationships Over Time

• Transformation:

  • Both partners highlight the importance of recognizing and supporting personal growth in a long-term relationship, including name changes and shifts in presentation.

    • "So much so that she doesn't go by her birth name anymore…I can't believe you called me that. Like, it just like, it was just…that." — SK [30:22]

  • Discuss the necessity of couples therapy for ongoing evolution as individuals and as a couple.

6. History and Reality of Queer Family-Building

• Sperm Donation History:

  • Weezy offers a quirky history lesson, detailing how artificial insemination started in 1779 by an Italian priest on animals, and the first human insemination was non-consensual [42:12].
  • The guests and hosts demystify sperm survival "myths" (e.g., how long sperm lives outside the body).

• Their Family-Building Journey:

  • Both had children from previous relationships and then each carried one child within their relationship.
  • Financial barriers made IVF inaccessible, so they used a known donor with a legally detailed donor agreement—no sex involved, just at-home insemination.
  • "We have a known donor…He was very open, he was very honest with us…We put in a contract…He signed. We got it notarized." — Myelin [49:31]
  • They are both on their children's birth certificates but, due to legal limitations, still have to legally adopt their own children for full parental recognition.
    • "So the baby that I carried, I am on the birth certificate. She's also on the birth certificate, but it doesn't mean enough." — Myelin [53:53]

7. Parenting, Law, and Queer Realities

• Explaining Family Structure to Kids:
  • Children know they came from “mama’s stomach," and logic-driven questions are anticipated, especially as their oldest (on the autism spectrum) seeks understanding.
• Legal Hurdles:
  • Despite being listed on the birth certificate, laws in many places require same-sex parents to complete costly and invasive second-parent adoption procedures.

8. Breaking Stigmas: Boys, Fathers & Masculinity

• Challenging "Boys Need Dads":
  • The group laughs at the notion that only men can raise boys, highlighting both their own upbringings and the prevalence of women-led households—"How many boys are raised by women across the globe?" — Myelin [61:09]

9. Intersectionality: Queerness and Race

• Race & Family Acceptance:
  • The complexities of raising biracial children and interracial queer partnerships are unpacked, along with stories of familial bias against both queerness and interracial relationships.
• White women as hypothetical hall passes:
  • The group jokingly debates which white celebrities count as "acceptable" crushes, blending levity with cultural critique [72:39].

10. Sex Positivity, Platonic Sex & Queer Friendship Culture

• Sex With Friends:
  • Mandii shares her outlook that platonic sex among friends can be normal, recreational, and emotionally non-disruptive, prompting reflection from the group.
    • "Sex to me is fun. Yeah, Sex to me is like. Like, we went bowling the other day… all of those emotional ties, like, the exchange of…It's just fun." — Mandy V [88:32]
• Scissoring, Toys & Lesbian Sex Realness:
  • The hosts and guests get explicit about preferences and experiences (scissoring, toy use, etc.), closing the episode with laughs and transparency.

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On Breakups and Returning to Love:

  • "When something's really heavy on my heart, I'm just like, just go with it." — SK [10:47]

• On Emotional Maturity in Arguments:

  • "Our arguments are never fights, and they are disagreements." — SK [18:09]

• On the Limitations of Legal Parentage:

  • "The baby that I carried, I am on the birth certificate. She's also on the birth certificate, but it doesn't mean enough." — Myelin [53:53]
  • "So we could be gay, but we can't be gay parent." — SK [54:23]

• On Law, Love, and the Growth of Family:

  • "It should be like, women want to keep it a secret because everybody's going to be like, you're going to meet somebody. Whatever, whatever." — Weezy [46:45]

• On Evolving Through Love:

  • "We are not who we were when we got married." — SK [27:47]

• On Platonic Sex and Queer Friendship:

  • "Sex to me is fun... all of those emotional ties, like, the exchange of…It's just fun." — Mandy V [88:32]
  • "It's not uncommon. Yeah." — Myelin [89:22]

Important Segment Timestamps

• [02:03] – SK & Mylin discuss legal realities of queer parenthood
• [08:48] – The origin story: meeting and (eventually) dating
• [10:47] – SK admits why she reached out after their breakup
• [12:31] – Mylin recalls her ex cheating at her own birthday party
• [18:09] – Emotional maturity in disagreements
• [22:47] – Do they ever sleep apart during arguments?
• [25:10] – Hall pass picks—Shannon Thornton, Keke Palmer
• [27:47] – Not the same people they married; on growth and therapy
• [30:22] – Name changes and growing into identity within the couple
• [42:12] – History of sperm donation and artificial insemination
• [49:31] – How SK & Mylin navigated sperm donation and contracts
• [53:53] – Legal necessity for adopting one’s own biological child
• [61:09] – Challenging the “boys need a father” myth
• [72:39] – "Which white woman would you pick?" segment (humor)
• [88:32] – Mandii on sex as fun, not emotional, among friends

Final Note & Where to Find the Guests

• SK & Mylin’s Projects:
  • Hella Good Company podcast & event production (centered on Black queer women, trans-inclusive).
  • SK: Artist, works with foster kids through art therapy.
  • Mylin: Runs an interior design firm.
• Upcoming/Recent Event: Their first international Pride event in Tulum.

This episode of Decisions, Decisions delivers a refreshingly unfiltered take on queer parenting, sex, growth, and community—balancing humor, heartfelt moments, and invaluable social commentary for anyone questioning, loving, or navigating nontraditional families.