Podcast Summary: Decisions, Decisions – Ep. 437: Spilled Tea & Ex-Flings (Feat. AlexxMedia)

Release Date: September 8, 2025
Hosts: Mandii B, WheezyWTF
Guest: AlexxMedia

Episode Overview

This episode dives headfirst into the complexities of non-traditional relationships, juggling multiple romantic connections, confronting the realities of open dating, and negotiating boundaries and expectations. The hosts, Mandii B and WheezyWTF, bring their signature blend of humor, raw honesty, and insight, along with guest AlexxMedia. Their conversation ranges from hilarious dating escapades to serious discussions about consent, honesty, sexual dynamics, and the pitfalls of new dating apps.

Main Themes and Purpose

• Exploring non-traditional relationship dynamics (polyamory, threesomes, open dating)
• De-stigmatizing candid conversations about sex, dating, and boundaries
• The art of juggling rosters, ex-flings, and “pull up” culture
• Discussing communication and respect when inviting thirds into relationships
• Navigating the gray areas of ghosting and what it means today
• Ethics, risks, and gossip around new safety-focused dating apps like “The Tea”
• The hazards and joys of being “overly sexual”
• Managing honesty, vulnerability, and personal standards in love and sex

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Mandii's LA Dating Escapades and Roster Management

[02:38–13:00]

• Mandii details her LA adventures: organizing a pool day and inviting “all the niggas I’m fucking, wanna fuck, talking to, just met on Raya, who knows?”

  “I invited all the niggas I’m fucking, wanna fuck, talking to, just met on Raya. Who knows?” — Mandii B [08:17]

• Two main candidates show up: her reliable ‘YN’ (young nigga, under 30) and a new prospect from Raya, each entertained separately at the cabana.
• The Raya guy impresses by paying for everyone at dinner, signaling maturity and wealth ("he can afford $20,000 a month in alimony…" [14:13]).
• Discussion on preferred age ranges: Mandii is only interested in under 30 or over 40 — “I don’t want nobody in their 30s” [11:09].

Memorable Moment:
Mandii’s friend Stacy goes full detective at dinner, grilling the prospect about his divorce, finances, and intent, demonstrating the value of artillery friends during early dating.

2. Roster Juggling & The Art of the “Pull Up”

[07:54–13:00, 27:57–32:09]

• The panel shares laughs and advice about inviting multiple partners to group events.
• Mandii relishes the thrill: “I think I’m gonna do it more often, invite my niggas to pull up and everybody gotta be cool. It was exciting.” [30:37]
• Wheezy jokes that it sounds like “the start of a gangbang” [30:54], underscoring the blurred lines and comedic chaos that comes with modern dating.
• Alex pokes fun at Mandii’s roster tactics—“Both y’all ain’t shit niggas. You ghosted bitches, she juggling them at the same party.” [30:29]

3. What Counts as Ghosting?

[17:26–27:57]

• Wheezy recounts ghosting a woman she and her partner previously slept with. On rekindling, the woman expresses hurt, calling out ghosting behavior:

  “This is my chance to ask why I was ghosted in the first place.” — Text from ex-fling, read by Wheezy [18:57]

• The hosts debate what constitutes ghosting in non-traditional dynamics—eight months with no contact after intimacy definitely qualifies.

  “If I fucked a nigga and he don’t hit me for eight months, I would feel ghosted.” — Mandii B [20:33]

• Discussion on how much communication is required when forming non-monogamous connections, emphasizing the need for clarity and honesty, especially with third partners.

4. Non-Traditional Relationships & Managing Thirds

[22:04–29:39]

• Both hosts share their experiences managing expectations when adding a “third” in their relationships.
• The consensus: clear communication is essential; being a third isn’t just “pull up and hook up.”

  “As a bitch who’s been a third – no, no, no, no. That is not how that shit works.” — Mandii B [24:49]

• Wheezy reflects on her own missteps: “If you as a person in a relationship want thirds … you might need to have just flings and go.” [27:57]
• Alex challenges, “Isn’t it the same way you do a threesome—it’s like you’re not into women, but you do a threesome?” [34:38]

5. Moments of Vulnerability, Lies, and Truth

[35:30–40:09]

• The Truth or Dare segment leads into admissions about lying by omission, negotiating aesthetic choices with a partner, and what is ‘acceptable deception.’

  “This is a premeditated lie … you can still go to jail for premeditated murder!” — Mindii & Alexx [39:53–40:06]

6. The Honesty Paradox: Can We Really Handle the Truth?

[43:16–48:57]

• Discussion featuring a viral clip questioning if women really want the truth from men, especially around loyalty and sexual boredom.

  “Bitch, you can’t handle the truth … you’d rather sit there for three years, get cheated on, be crying, than hear that he wants to fuck other bitches.” — Quoting Kat from Taz’s Angels [43:30]

• Mandii and Wheezy assert that everyone struggles with honesty in relationships and doubts if people truly desire total transparency.

  “I think specifically in romantic relationships … people don’t know how to do things and not be mean.” — Wheezy [46:52]

7. “Overly Sexual” People & Risky Behaviors

[55:54–61:57]

• The hosts examine the narrative that being “overly sexual” is inherently self-destructive, referencing discourse around celebrities and recent scandals.

  “Do you think that we’re going to come to a demise for being … overly sexual?” — Mindii [57:20] “I actually agree with that. Think about niggas that can’t stop fucking around.” — Wheezy [56:36]

• Mandii and Wheezy push back, defining healthy boundaries around communication, disclosure, and consent.

8. The Tea: Dating Apps, Safety, & Online Gossip

[64:05–70:47]

• Discussion on “The Tea” app: a controversial platform for women to review and warn each other about men, often anonymously.

  “You could say anything about a man … and there’s nothing to fact check if it’s true.” — Mindii [64:43]

• Pros: tool for accountability, potential for safety.
• Cons: potential for defamatory, unchecked claims, lack of transparency and possible abuse.

  “If you’re protecting other women, let us know that you was fucking with that ain’t shit nigga. Period.” — Wheezy [71:17]

9. Post-Flings Etiquette: Should You Congratulate Old Hookups?

[72:27–75:18]

• The group debates whether it’s appropriate to publicly congratulate ex-partners (or ex-flings) on social media after they settle down.

  “If I had a nigga’s dick in my mouth, I’m not congratulating him on his happiness on Instagram. … I don’t follow niggas that I moved on [from].” — Mindii [74:35]

• Wheezy argues it’s mature if things ended well, but Mandii feels it might be petty or inappropriate.

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• Roster Management:
  “I invited all the niggas I’m fucking, wanna fuck, talking to, just met on Raya…”
  — Mandii B [08:17]

• Paying for the Table:
  “He paid. And you know, that made my pussy thump.”
  — Mandii B [10:26]

• Ghosting Culture:
  “You texting somebody every week, and then all of a sudden you just...poof.”
  — Alexx [25:23]

• Honesty in Relationships:
  “Bitch, you can’t handle the truth…you’d rather sit there for three years, get cheated on…”
  — Quoting Kat/Taz’s Angels [43:30]

• Sex in Public Spaces:
  “We fucked at a museum yesterday. That was crazy.”
  — Wheezy [49:02]

• ‘Overly Sexual’ Stereotype:
  “Do people not have sex in public places? …No, no regular people, quote unquote, because we are not regular.”
  — Mindii [57:25]

• Safety Apps Critique:
  “You could say, here’s how it works… Anthony has herpes, is an abusive pedophile… How do you know he’s a pedophile? Is it a label?”
  — Wheezy & Alexx [65:41–66:07]

Timestamps for Important Segments

• Mandii’s pool/cabana “roster” tale: [02:54–13:00]
• Debate about “YN” (young nigga) age category: [07:56–08:10]
• Ghosting and expectations of thirds: [17:26–27:57]
• Truth or Dare / Lies in relationships: [35:30–40:09]
• Honesty and “can we handle the truth?”: [43:16–48:57]
• On being “overly sexual” and risk: [55:54–61:57]
• Tea App & online reputation/safety: [64:05–70:47]
• Should you congratulate an ex? Etiquette: [72:27–75:18]

Tone, Style & Takeaways

The episode is a candid, hilarious, and sometimes raucous exploration of modern adult relationships, particularly among people unafraid to challenge sexual and emotional norms. The hosts’ banter makes taboo topics feel approachable, while the inclusion of guest AlexxMedia provides an extra layer of humor and reflection. Conversations wander naturally, full of real anecdotes, self-deprecation, and moments of vulnerability.

Key Takeaways:

• Non-traditional dating is messy—but communicating expectations is paramount.
• Ghosting is still ghosting, even if unintentional or in group/third scenarios.
• Honesty is complex; most people want it but struggle when it stings.
• Apps designed to protect can easily become vectors for gossip or even defamation.
• Being “overly sexual” isn’t inherently risky, but lack of boundaries and honesty can be.
• Juggling multiple flings requires confidence, clarity, and a lot of humor.

Conclusion

Ep. 437 masterfully blends comedic storytelling and real talk about relationships, sex, and the landscapes of modern love. For anyone intrigued by open relationships, dating app drama, and the boundaries of contemporary intimacy, this episode is a wild, insightful ride—one that reminds you that communication, respect, and honesty remain timeless, even when the relationships themselves are anything but traditional.