Decisions, Decisions – EP. 439: Why You Need A Medium Ugly Man (Ft. Rosy)

Date: September 22, 2025
Hosts: Mandii B, WeezyWTF
Guest: Rosie (Say Less Podcast)

Episode Overview

This lively episode of Decisions, Decisions features Mandii B, WeezyWTF, and special guest Rosie from Say Less Podcast, diving into candid conversations about dating, relationship expectations, and why having a “medium ugly” man might be the move. The trio uses real-life humor, relatable stories, and bold honesty to dissect current dating culture, societal pressures, personal preferences, and the liberating power of defining your own standards in love and sex.

Key Discussion Points and Insights

1. Relationship Status & The Evolution of Standards

(06:21 – 08:30)

• Catching Up: The hosts start with personal updates, discussing dating statuses and the differing phases of being single and in relationships after 30.
• Changing Preferences: Mandii B reflects on moving from dating “bad boys” and those with a “felon aesthetic” to now appreciating emotionally available and reliable partners.

  "I was like, you know what? He's actually a really good guy. Like, why am I not?" – Mandii B (08:30)

• Physical vs. Emotional Attraction: Mandii B admits a past attraction to men that look “rough or hood,” but now values qualities like stability (“nerds”).

2. Modern Dating: Expectations vs. Reality

(08:01 – 10:45)

• Aging & Dating App Woes: The group discusses how dating in their 30s is affected by shifting expectations and the pressures of social media.
• Unrealistic Checklists: Mandii B points out the common trend of women showing up with an extensive checklist, which sometimes makes dating needlessly complicated.

3. Liberation in Emotional Unavailability

(11:08 – 17:00)

• Navigating Dating Without Commitment: Rosie shares her current phase of being “emotionally unavailable but fulfilled,” challenging patriarchal expectations that shame women for nontraditional dating.
• Patriarchal Standards and Public Judgment: Rosie addresses the criticism she faces online for not wanting traditional roles or pet names in dating:

  “There’s this, like, kind of fight right now where I'm just like, am I wrong for feeling liberated, for being emotionally unavailable for a relationship, but still navigating dating?” – Rosie (12:56)

• Honesty and Boundaries: All agree that open communication about intentions is crucial—no one is “wasting time” if boundaries and expectations are clear upfront.

4. Double Standards and Oversharing in Dating

(18:22 – 23:12)

• Oversharing vs. Omitting: Discussion about whether you should disclose everything to partners; Mandii admits to omitting details and likens it to what men do.
• Double Standard in Multi-Dating: The hosts highlight how women dating multiple people are judged differently than men:

  "I like being a lit, powerful, rich fuckboy right now. It feels great. It feels empowering." – Rosie (21:32)

5. Truth & Dare: Kinks and Fantasies

(25:55 – 29:37)

• Truth: Mandii B shares her curiosity about trying “real-life bondage,” noting the importance of doing it with someone experienced.
• Dare: The roundtable shares their filthiest, under-10-word dirty talk lines, resulting in much laughter and some NSFW creativity.

6. Dating “Medium Ugly” Men – Why You Should Consider It

(47:24 – 59:05)

• Defining “Medium Ugly”: The group discusses why “medium ugly” or unconventional-looking men often make better, more loyal partners.

  “I have a thing for schmedium ugly. I like them to be ugly, but they got like…they cool. And they have this little aura about them and they're funny. And so those are the little things I look [for].” – Mandii B (54:30)

• Relationship Satisfaction vs. Societal Standards: The story of a beautiful friend happily dating a “fat” man but feeling ashamed to introduce him due to societal expectations. The trio argues that happiness, not appearance, should take priority:

  “Maybe you were settling with the last fucking Lakers player when he wasn't treating you right and we were crying, like, you're happy and you're settling?” – Kaz Lowkey (51:11)

7. Judging and Being Judged: The Social Pressure of Appearances

(53:08 – 59:05)

• Friend Judgment: The conversation reflects on worrying about friends’ perceptions when introducing a less conventionally attractive partner.
• Role Reversal: Discussion on the double standard of men dating “hoes” vs. women dating “fat” or “ugly” men.
• Final Thoughts: The hosts advocate embracing your preferences and not letting external judgments dictate your happiness.

  “I want everyone to be happy. Whether you are dating multiple people and emotionally unavailable or whether you are in a flourishing relationship with the man of your dreams that might be fat, but that’s okay.” – Rosie (59:29)

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On Emotional Unavailability:
  “Even though I'm emotionally unavailable for partnership right now, I am really fulfilled in my dating life… I'm not lying to no niggas. Like, I'm very open and honest with everyone.” – Rosie (12:28)

• On Multi-Dating:
  “At any given moment, all of y’all may be in the same room at this point, because everybody can pull up. Let's all have a good time together.” – Mandii B (18:17)

• On Double Standards:
  “Why the fuck do these niggas come…? If these niggas talk together and be like, Are you fucking Mandy? Are you talking to Mandy? It's up to them whether they want to see or exactly…” – Rosie (21:16)

• Dirty Talk Challenge:
  “I want you… Wait, wait, wait. Come in my mouth and let me spit it back into your mouth.” – Mandy B (28:25)

• The Wisdom of the Medium Ugly Man:
  “Medium ugly people go together all the time.” – Rosie (48:24)
  “I think settling is only when you're unhappy. If you're enjoying your relationship, it's not settling.” – Kaz Lowkey (49:19)

Important Segment Timestamps

• [06:21] – Relationship status updates and the rough patch of single life
• [11:08] – Emotional unavailability, patriarchy, and being judged for dating style
• [18:22] – Oversharing and playing the dating “game” as women
• [25:55] – Truth or Dare: kinks and dirty talk challenge
• [42:34] – Reaction to the “Passport Bro” trend and relationships with power imbalances
• [47:24] – “Medium Ugly” men, friend judgment, and dating for happiness
• [53:08] – Judging partners by social standards and embracing actual happiness

Tone and Takeaways

With their trademark blend of rawness, irreverence, and humor, Mandii, Weezy, and Rosie dismantle dated assumptions about who and how women should date. They champion honesty, personal standards, and liberation from the outdated rulebook. Whether talking about emotional honesty, unusual kinks, or the politics of dating men who aren’t IG-model-ready, the hosts advocate choosing what works for you—even if that means a “medium ugly” happily-ever-after.

Takeaway:
Your relationship choices are yours alone. Standards, checklists, and societal judgments? Leave them at the door. The best love stories might just come from breaking the rules, being vulnerable, and keeping it real—especially with the “medium ugly” man.