Podcast Summary: Decisions, Decisions – EP 448: "Bump Bump Bump" (feat. Ryan Mitchell)

Release Date: November 24, 2025
Hosts: Mandii B, WeezyWTF
Guest: Ryan Mitchell (The Slay God)

Overview

This Thanksgiving-themed episode brings together Mandii B and WeezyWTF with special guest Ryan Mitchell, also known as The Slay God—host, pop-culture commentator, and advocate for intersectional queer and trans narratives. Together, they push boundaries while discussing non-traditional relationships, queerness in sports and entertainment, sex positivity, and gratitude. Laced with signature humor and candor, the episode dives deep into personal journeys, gender identity, dating disasters, kinks, and holiday traditions, all while challenging mainstream social expectations.

1. Introducing Ryan Mitchell & Early Banter

(03:11–08:07)

• Ryan's Introduction:

  • Ryan is introduced as a versatile creator: podcast host (High Key), media journalist, entertainment consultant (GLAAD), and the NFL’s first LGBTQ+ brand ambassador.
  • Mandii and Weezy express excitement, emphasizing they've wanted Ryan on for years.

• OG Banter:

  • Playful debate over what makes someone an "OG."
  • Jokes about new-versus-old generations' "OGs" in streaming and pop culture (Kai Cenat, Keke Palmer).

Notable Quote:

"I'm thankful for knowing how to peg. That's all I'm gonna say."
— Mandy B (03:15)

2. Ryan’s Career and Queerness in the NFL

(07:18–11:50)

• Entertainment & Activism:

  • Ryan discusses dual work in broadcasting and curation, highlighting interviews with A-list celebrities.
  • Mentions pivotal role in the NFL as a bridge to queer audiences; conversations on inclusivity in sports.

• Queer Athletes & Football Culture:

  • Hosts discuss Michael Sam’s coming out, sports culture's slow-paced progress, locker room stigma, and the need for safe spaces for queer athletes.
  • Ryan shares experience launching "The Exchange"—a dinner/event connecting Black and queer trans folks with NFL execs.

Notable Quote:

"I love being told, like, historically that I don't belong in spaces, and then being like, bitch, actually, I'm going to be in this space..."
— Ryan Mitchell (09:16)

Timestamp: 09:16

3. Hot Takes: Queerness, Representation, & Social Ignorance

(11:50–16:59)

• Weezy’s Take on Out Players:

  • Expresses concern that only top-level athletes (big stars) have job security enough to come out safely.
  • Conversation on ignorance in everyday spaces about queer sports fans.

• Queer Leagues & Sports:

  • WNBA as a space for queer representation; recent incidents of fans throwing green dildos onto courts/fields are humorously dissected.
  • Discussions veer into prank/content culture and social stunts.

4. Truth or Dare: Dating Disasters & Sexual Comedy

(21:48–32:06)

• Truth:

  • Ryan shares ghosting a date because he wore a poncho and "brunch boots" to his birthday.
  • "You're in a poncho like you're Deanna Jones on my birthday...I'm done." (23:06)

• Dare:

  • Gives a true crime-style retelling of a date gone wrong—love-bombed by a Sagittarian who ghosted after not being let upstairs.
  • Reflection about the rush of whirlwind romances, love-bombing, and not settling for those who don't fully accept their authentic self.

5. Kink Courtroom: Sex Positivity on Trial

(33:28–43:59)

• Segment Format:
  • “Order in the Court!”—Cases presented, defended or prosecuted as hot/sex-positive or a "kink felony."

Case 1: Refusal to Sleep Over

• Ryan: Defends it. Enjoys personal space, especially in dating phases.
• All agree; snoring and sleep issues may make this preferable.

Case 2: Bringing Up Kinks Early

• Ryan: Defends talking kinks during first dates, but prefers it after some rapport and context.
• Discusses dating apps for queer communities (Grindr, Scruff, Jack’d, etc).

Case 3: Arriving With a Duffel Bag of Sex Toys

• Ryan: Prosecutes. Too forward, especially with extreme kinks or no prior discussion.
• Shares story of a first date ending with an unexpected attempt at fisting.

Notable Banter:

"Anybody who brings a duffel bag of sex toys means they are probably very kink...like full on fisting folks."
— Ryan Mitchell (42:36)

6. Polyamory, Pegging, and Relationship Structures

(43:59–48:26)

• Kirsten talks about having multiple boyfriends—her "polycule"—and how each relationship values transparency and communication about kink and play.
• Open discussion on non-monogamous structures, negotiating boundaries, and sharing pleasure.

7. Holiday Traditions: Food and Identity

(52:24–56:17)

• Friendly debate: Pumpkin vs. sweet potato pie, and how certain food preferences map to cultural identity.
• Humorous observations about biracial identity markers and stereotypes—"septum biracial" as a running joke.

Notable Quote:

"I think y’all represent the spectrum. Biracialists very well. Like, you’re like septum biracial, and you’re black, black, black biracial. So…it’s really beautiful to see the range."
— Ryan Mitchell (54:00)

8. New Attitudes Towards Sex & Gratitude

(59:19–72:57)

Gratitude in Dating

• Ryan: Grateful for a first, tumultuous real relationship that taught boundaries and self-worth.
• Hosts echo gratitude for experiences that fostered personal growth.

Gratitude in Relationships

• Weezy: Shares how her first loving relationship with a woman redefined her ideas on romantic love and allowed her to love more deeply, even with men.
• Kirsten: Discusses being bisexual but "hetero-romantic" and enjoying sexual but not romantic relationships with women; expresses desire for a bisexual male partner.

Gratitude in Sex

• Mandy B: Overcame religious shame about sex and now embraces sexual exploration—within boundaries of trust and hygiene.
• Kirsten: Thankful for exploring public sex in normalized, community-based environments.
• Weezy: Credits sleeping with women with increasing confidence in her own body and appreciation for diverse expressions of sexuality.

Memorable Closing Insight:

"The more women I slept with, the more comfortable I was with my own body."
— Weezy (71:42)

9. Memorable Quotes & Moments

• "Just because my voice is high in the octaves does not mean I won't break your back. So don't try me, period."
  — Ryan Mitchell (30:15)

• "If it's gotta be clean, it's gotta be Tide."
  — Mandy B (ad joke callback, various timestamps)

• "Let's throw the ponchos out. Throw 'em away. And I'm not gonna lie, fellas…I don't think I've heard of anyone that likes brunch boot."
  — Kirsten (73:00)

10. Recommendations & Plugs

• Ryan’s podcast: "High Key" (new episodes every Monday)
• Hosts' book: "No Holds Barred: A Dual Manifesto of Sexual Exploration and Power"
• “Horrible Decisions” podcast continues (new content on Patreon for $5/month)

11. Episode Takeaways

• Authentic Connection Matters: Find partners who embrace your true self—sexually, spiritually, and emotionally.
• Sex Positivity Looks Different for Everyone: Communication and context are key to comfort around kinks and boundaries.
• Gratitude in Growth: Disastrous or awkward moments may yield life’s best lessons and personal clarity.
• Taboo Topics Have Power: Open, vulnerable discussions chip away at stigma and foster deeper understanding.

This vibrant episode embodies "Decisions, Decisions" at its best: real talk, big laughs, and heartfelt sharing—all in the name of sex, love, and living authentically.

For specific segments, refer to these timestamps:

• Ryan’s career and queerness in sports: 07:18–11:50
• Truth or Dare / Dating Disasters: 21:48–32:06
• Kink Courtroom: 33:28–43:59
• Polyamory and relationship structures: 43:59–48:26
• Gratitude in dating, relationships, and sex: 59:19–72:57